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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Do You Remember When You Wanted What You Have Now? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily a baddie here. Yeah, listening to a
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday man. Admittedly, I'm recording this probably not
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  Speaker 1: all that long before you listen to it, which is
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  Speaker 1: a little out of character for me. But it's been
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  Speaker 1: a hectic week, and when I thought about what I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to talk about for five Minute Friday earlier in
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  Speaker 1: the week, I realized that I knew it would come
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  Speaker 1: to me after the day's events on Thursday. And that's
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  Speaker 1: because yesterday I had the opportunity to go to the
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  Speaker 1: espn W Summit. It's been something that's on It's been
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  Speaker 1: on my bucket list for a really long time. I
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  Speaker 1: just it was one of those events that when it
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  Speaker 1: would happen a year after year, I would make note
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  Speaker 1: of it, a mental note, and I would write it
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  Speaker 1: down and I would say, Okay, next year, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to figure out how to get myself into the espn
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  Speaker 1: W summit. Next year, I'm going to figure out how
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  Speaker 1: to make this happen. And finally, this year, as I
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  Speaker 1: was setting my goals, which is something I will talk
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  Speaker 1: about shortly answering the listener question, I made a note
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  Speaker 1: to check in when it was and figure out how
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  Speaker 1: to get myself in and so that's exactly what I did.
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  Speaker 1: And let me tell you what an inspiring day it is.
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  Speaker 1: So you know, as a solo entrepreneur, I feel like
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  Speaker 1: that's like a jazzy term, But I do a lot
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  Speaker 1: of this stuff on my own right, and it can
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  Speaker 1: feel really lonely. And I know that I'm not the
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  Speaker 1: only woman who wants to tell the stories of women
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  Speaker 1: in wellness and woman in sport and push for more
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  Speaker 1: coverage of women in sport. But sometimes when I'm at
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  Speaker 1: my desk and I'm doing this solo and I'm making
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  Speaker 1: this podcast, I can feel really alone in my mission.
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  Speaker 1: And today I was reminded that that is not the
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  Speaker 1: case at all. To be in a room surrounded by
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  Speaker 1: so many powerful, awesome women, it was just such a
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  Speaker 1: really beautiful, beautiful day to hear the stories of rock
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  Speaker 1: star athletes and women telling their stories and to just
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  Speaker 1: be surrounded with motivation and good vibes. I felt so
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  Speaker 1: grateful to be in that room. And I left the
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  Speaker 1: conference and I do this thing after moments, kind of
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  Speaker 1: bucket list moments for me, and I said that this
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  Speaker 1: was on my bucket list, and I always take myself
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  Speaker 1: out to reflect and I take myself on a date.
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  Speaker 1: And so I was sitting at a bar down the
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  Speaker 1: street after the summit, and I was writing in my
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  Speaker 1: journal and I feel like I should grab it right
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  Speaker 1: now because it really sums up what I was thinking. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I just plopped it on my desk. Okay, I wrote,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sitting here looking out the window at the sunset
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  Speaker 1: that's going down beyond the Brooklyn Bridge, and thinking to myself,
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  Speaker 1: when exactly did I get here? When did I get
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  Speaker 1: this seat at the table? And now I feel as
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  Speaker 1: though it is important to ask myself what is it
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  Speaker 1: that I will do with this seat. I dreamt of
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  Speaker 1: being in this position. And although I don't have everything
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  Speaker 1: that I've ever wanted, and I don't expect to just
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  Speaker 1: yet and maybe never will, I understand that what I
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  Speaker 1: want is within my reach, maybe now more than ever,
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  Speaker 1: and it is my opportunity and obligation to go after it. Wow, okay,
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  Speaker 1: am oka m I just felt it was so serendipitous,
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  Speaker 1: Like I was just sitting there and literally thinking of
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  Speaker 1: that quote that's on the little letter board that's sitting
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  Speaker 1: behind me in my office, and it says, remember when
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  Speaker 1: you wanted what you have now and there are so
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  Speaker 1: many more things that I want. But Emily, when she
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  Speaker 1: moved to New York back in god twenty and twelve,
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  Speaker 1: yes twenty twelve, never could have, in her wildest dreams
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  Speaker 1: thought that she'd be doing what she's doing. My dreams
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  Speaker 1: at that point, like they weren't even to where I am.
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  Speaker 1: And it's a reminder for me, and in turn now
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  Speaker 1: as I record this, or reminder for you, to not
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  Speaker 1: only dream big, but to remember when you want it
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  Speaker 1: exactly that what you have right now. And it can
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  Speaker 1: be both right. You can be grateful for where you've
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  Speaker 1: come from and grateful for all that you have, while
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  Speaker 1: also recognizing that there is more that you want, and
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  Speaker 1: that's okay, right. That's why we continue to set goals,
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  Speaker 1: we continue to go after the things that we want
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  Speaker 1: because we have that chance and we can always level up.
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  Speaker 1: Every day is a new opportunity. And yeah, that might
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  Speaker 1: sound a little cliche, but it is so dang true,
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  Speaker 1: and so a huge thank you to the folks at
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  Speaker 1: the espnW and I had such an amazing time today.
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  Speaker 1: It's a really really special moment for me, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: excited to dream big and think about how I can
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  Speaker 1: come back, maybe in a different capacity in the years
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  Speaker 1: to come. My problem for you this week, hit me
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  Speaker 1: with your goals. What's one thing that you are after
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  Speaker 1: and what's one thing that you have right now that
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  Speaker 1: you dreamt of years ago? What is one thing that
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  Speaker 1: you are after and what is one thing you have
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  Speaker 1: now that you dreamt of years ago? And now a
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  Speaker 1: listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Hamiy, Recently on your Instagram stories, you had posted
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  Speaker 2: that you were doing some Q two goal setting. I'd
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  Speaker 2: love to hear about your quarterly goal setting process, how
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  Speaker 2: you hold yourself accountable, and how you track your progress.
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  Speaker 1: All right, all right, I told you that we would
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  Speaker 1: be talking about goals, so here I am. I break
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  Speaker 1: down my goals every year into a myriad of category.
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  Speaker 1: We've got health, finance, working career, which yes, working career
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  Speaker 1: can be tied at times into finance, relationships, personal growth.
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  Speaker 2: And travel.
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  Speaker 1: I set goals for the entire year at the top
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  Speaker 1: of the year, and then I break them up into
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  Speaker 1: thirteen week increments. I use a journal, and I've talked
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  Speaker 1: about this on the show before, but it is the
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  Speaker 1: best self co journal. I use their thirteen week journal
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  Speaker 1: to really dive into this. I find it extremely helpful
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  Speaker 1: and I'll link it in the show notes. And as
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  Speaker 1: a part of this process, I roped in one of
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  Speaker 1: my dearest friends and not only did we both set goals,
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  Speaker 1: but then at the time she was visiting family in
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  Speaker 1: Arizona at the top of the year, we hopped on
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  Speaker 1: a zoom and we talked about our goals. And then
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  Speaker 1: at the a few weeks into Q two recently and
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  Speaker 1: this is the story that you're referencing from my instagram,
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  Speaker 1: we sat back down and we went over the progress
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  Speaker 1: of our goals. We reevaluated and got honest about where
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  Speaker 1: we are in the progress, and then if there was
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  Speaker 1: any pivoting that needs to happen, or perhaps a shift
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  Speaker 1: in priorities, we address that and set new goals. And
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  Speaker 1: I think that's my biggest tip when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: setting goals. Two tips. One break them into quarters. So
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  Speaker 1: I said, I have this thirteen week journal. It's so helpful.
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  Speaker 1: I literally just ordered my second installment of this journal.
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  Speaker 1: Because the journal itself only lasts you for thirteen weeks.
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  Speaker 1: I would say for thirty dollars. It is an amazing
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  Speaker 1: investment in myself. And the second tip, aside from breaking
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  Speaker 1: them up into quarters and revisiting them every quarter is
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  Speaker 1: to pull in a buddy. So I'm so lucky that
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  Speaker 1: I surround myself with a lot of outrageously awesome women
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  Speaker 1: who are driven and excited and motivated and make me
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  Speaker 1: feel seen by the way that I like to do
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  Speaker 1: my goal setting, including my friend Ashley calling you out,
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  Speaker 1: who is the one that I have been doing this
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  Speaker 1: exercise with for twenty twenty three So by pulling in
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  Speaker 1: a friend, it keeps me accountable. And then as the
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  Speaker 1: days go on and I feel like I may be
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  Speaker 1: struggling with my goals or I could really use a lifeline,
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  Speaker 1: so to speak, I know that my friend has got
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  Speaker 1: my back. So break it up into quarters, pull a
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  Speaker 1: friend into the mix for that extra level of accountability,
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  Speaker 1: and trust me, he won't reg at it. If you
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  Speaker 1: have any other questions about goal setting, tips, tricks, whatever
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  Speaker 1: I can help you with, I am here as well
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  Speaker 1: as all the other topics. My dms are open, and
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  Speaker 1: so is the hurdle voicemailed. Leave me a voice message
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  Speaker 1: and ask me a question to get answered on an
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  Speaker 1: upcoming episode of the show. You know how to reach me.
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  Speaker 1: The link is in the show notes another hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.