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138. Man in the Mirror · Your Enriched Self

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It's so important to take time and step step away from the hustle, the
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bustle, and give yourself breathing room. I saw a post of a friend
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talking about her friend's experience. The image that she used when she talked about
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this was an image of a dozen match sticks, and they're all lined up,
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one next to the other, and the first six match sticks are burnt
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out completely. On the seventh match stick, it was pulled away from kind
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of the pack, and that left the seventh matchstick and all of the others
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not burnt out. They were still fresh match sticks. And this friend would
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go on to share the experience of her friend who embodied this image, this
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image of these burnt out match sticks, but then this one that pulled away
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so it wouldn't get into that continuous burnout pattern. And she explained how her
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friend had been rushing around and getting ready for this wedding and she had brought
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the cake and forgot all the other parts that required the serving of the cake,
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the napkins, the forks, the plates. On top of that,
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she had locked the cake in her car and the only spare key that was
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available was something her husband had and he was on the opposite side of town,
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and anyone else that she had access to that could help was nowhere near
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where she was at the time that she needed the help. And that is
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a moment. If you have had that moment, I think you understand the
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critical nature the importance of stepping away. Unfortunately, a lot of us won't
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make change changes until we are forced to make changes until we are absolutely required
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to make changes. And so changing before you have to says, before I
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burn myself all the way out, before I lose the little light I have
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left, the light that I want to let shine in this world, It's
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important for me to step away, step away, to go do something productive.
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Because again, in order to show up as your best self, to
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be enriched, it's going to take stepping away. It's going to take being
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intentional about the time you spend on yourself with yourself. Oh, my friends
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from all across the globe and welcome to the Your Enriched CEB podcast. I
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am your host, my le Noir. I am a mindset coach and your
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mindset advocate. And what that means is that we need to take moments like
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this to pause, to reflect, to be intentional. And so being enriched
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requires investment. And so each and every week I curate episodes so that we
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can make that investment. So that I can help make that investment, Your
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time and your intention is all that's needed to become more enriched. And that's
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what we do here on the podcast. We talk about mindset fusion topics,
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whether it's self care or soul care. Most definitely, it's the intentional thinking
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that we need to focus on because our thoughts then inspire our words, and
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those words inspire the action and activities that we participate in that we partake in
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each and every day. And I know if you're listening to this podcast,
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you want to become more of your enrich self, and so it's going to
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take all of that to get there. Now, if you are new to
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the podcast, I want to welcome you and thank you. I know that
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you are brought here on purpose for a purpose. And if you are a
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repeat listener, we are embarking on episode one hundred and thirty eight. That
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means for one hundred and thirty eight weeks, you have been rocking, you
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have been listening, you have been participating, you have been doing the work
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to become more enriched. And so we get to do more work this week.
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But I want to thank you as well, because if not for you,
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we wouldn't be here. So thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Now before we get started, if you know, you know, each
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and every week, I make a deposit into the bank of you, and
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I do so by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start
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your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is I face
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the day with energy and courage. I face the day with energy and courage.
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I face the day with energy and courage. Now let's get ready for
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this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Thirty six years ago,
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Michael Jackson released Man in the Mirror and I'm not gonna sing for you.
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I know you probably want me to, but I'm not going to talk about
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facing your day with energy and courage. He challenged us, He challenged all
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of you. For those who weren't around for the song. It was thirty
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six years ago. I get it, but it's still a message that is
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very clear and very important. And I'll read some of the lyrics to the
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song Man in the Mirror. It starts, I'm gonna make a change for
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once in my life, it's gonna feel real good, gonna make a difference,
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gonna make it right. And it goes on and he says, you've
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got to move. You've got to you've got to move. Come on,
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come on, you've got to stand up, stand up, stand up,
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stand up, and lift yourself now, gonna make that change. Come on.
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You know it, you know it, you know it, you know
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it. Change, make that change. It's a clear message of embracing self
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transformation. It is a call to action that spoke back in nineteen eighty eight
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but speaks to twenty twenty four and years beyond twenty twenty four. I think
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we are all faced with that man in themera every single day because we are
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all called to be the best version of ourselves. You are called to be
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a better version of yourself. And I believe, I believe with all that
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the fibers that are within me when you look in the mirror, you really
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are wanting, as Michael said, to make that change, to feel real
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good, to go make a difference, to make it right. And that's
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what this episode is all about. It's a journey of transformation. The journey
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of transformation doesn't stop at one stop. There's multiple stops. There are multiple
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stations that you are going to embark upon, and it's important to be aware
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of that and be flexible to make those stops. And those stops are going
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to require you to step and make a power move, and that power move
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is stepping away for your personal growth. There's enough hustle and bustle in today's
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world, in our society, and there's so much that you can get caught
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up in. You can be in a world win by Monday morning before eight
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o'clock. There are responsibilities, there are commitments, there are distractions all around.
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I don't care if it's a personal obligation, a personal relationship. You
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are pulled in multiple directions at any given time on any given day. So
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embracing this moment of self improvement, this point of introspection is very critical to
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you becoming enriched but living an enriched life. And it starts with again our
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thoughts, our words, our action, our activities. That's what it is.
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I can't help but think about the value in the self and movement journey.
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There's a lot of value there. And I'm gonna say this. I've
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talked about my twenty twenty three half marathon and how I really trained my mind
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to get me to cross that finish line. And that's admirable and that was
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a big move for me. And you might have some big moves like that
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where you just jumped into a thing and you were able to make miracles happen.
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Because I'll be honest with you, I worked in partnership with God,
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and I know that's how I was able to overcome. But there is an
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important piece when you are on a journey of self improvement, and there are
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valuable lessons that I did not get because I didn't do the stepping away.
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I went from doing my daily walks, my routine hikes in the summer to
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jumping into a half marathon run in the fall. And as I said then
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and i'll say it now, I don't recommend it. I would do it
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again. Let me rephrase, I would do it again going through the journey
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of picking up the lessons. For example, when you embark upon a run
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journey, I don't care if it's for a five K which is three point
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one miles, or a ten K which is six point two miles, or
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a half marathon which is thirteen point one miles, or the coveted marathon that
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is twenty six point two miles, or even if it's one mile, I
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don't care what it is that you're doing in order to go from couch to
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five k or couch to half marathon marathon. There is a journey, There
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is a plan, There is an intentional stepping away from every obligation that's out
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there that still is going to require you. But you are being very intentional
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about charging after this thing and picking up the lessons as you go along.
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I cheated myself when I did my half marathon because I did not have that
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journey. I don't have pages from that book the six weeks prior, the
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twelve weeks prior the two months prior to that journey to see where I started
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and how I ended up. I have the end results, but you got
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to show the work. I remember my second grade teacher being very intentional about
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showing the work. She would give us scratch paper or an extra sheet of
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paper that she would attach to our math test, simply for us to show
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her how did you get to that answer? You started the year connected to
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something for a particular outcome, whether it's in three months, six months,
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nine months, or end of year, and I want you to achieve that.
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And in order to achieve that, if you haven't done it yet,
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I'm going to encourage you to take and make a power move and step back,
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step away to get your personal growth. Now, I might as well
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call this podcast my mini series of six weeks. In this boot camp,
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I finally get the value in stepping away, stepping away from a lot of
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different things that normally would have distracted me, whether it's social media or TV
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or whatever, to be on this journey intentionally to get everything. Like I
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am a milk made out here squeezing all the milk, all the juice,
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if you will, out of this program. And if I'm being honest,
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this is the first time I've been in something like this, and I'm doing
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everything that's being asked of me. I am not leaving a stone unturned because
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the way I see it, what if I did what a lot of people
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say, take six months, take two weeks. In this case, I'm
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taking six weeks away from everything else that would normally be my distraction, that
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would normally pull me in multiple directions. And don't get me wrong, there's
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still distractions. Those things don't leave, but I'm being intentional about these six
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weeks, about doing what the plan asks of me, about showing up every
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morning at five at seven in the morning before I had to work, to
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do the work, the work that I was kind of doing on my own.
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But I didn't have that accountability, I didn't have that team environment.
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I didn't have the atmosphere that I now have to do and be and ultimately
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have what it is I've been chasing. I've wanted to be healthy, I've
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wanted to show up physically in a form that I haven't seen in a long
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time. And this program is pushing me to my limits. So my question
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to you is, what if you took six weeks and dedicated it to working
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on you your internal you're external, your educational, your financial. I don't
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know what it is that you're working on, your business, your idea,
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your project, whatever that thing is for you. Six weeks is forty two
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days. That's one thousand and eight hours. Yes, I did the math
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for you sixty four hundred and eighty minutes. And if you look at what
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percent of the year, it's taking eleven percent of your year, eleven percent
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small amount of your year to go do you for real fractions of hours?
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And days and minutes to go get your best, to give your best,
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to unearth your best, because I promise you're gonna have to do some deep
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diving, some deep digging to get to the thing that's underneath, the thing
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that you haven't seen for a while, the thing you didn't even know existed
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inside of you. Your greatness is within and it always has been. But
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with all the hustle, the bustle, the twists, the turns, the
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world wind of life, you don't get to experience that. Well, guys,
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friends from all across the globe, I now get to experience that.
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And that's why I say I cheated myself when I did my half marathon last
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year. I did not go through the journey of building myself and unearthing some
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of the things about myself, some of my weaknesses. I found out what
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my weaknesses were. I know what my strengths were, and it's hard to
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really look those weaknesses in the eyes. Just like Michael said, you got
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to make that change. The man in the mirror is starts right there.
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And I had to look myself in the face and recognize where I needed help,
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where I needed answers, where I needed information, and insight to begin
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to build, to rebuild myself, the inner workings of myself, because this
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is not just for the external look right, I want to make internal changes.
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I don't know if I mentioned on the podcast, but when I did
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my labs in twenty twenty three, you know the labs you do every year
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to see what you're cholesterol, some of my numbers were elevated. I've never
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had that before. I'm in a different season of my life. I recognize
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that I'm getting older, I'm getting wiser, I'm aging like fine wine,
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all of those things. But when you go through those stages of life,
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things start to change. You need to rethink what's possible for your life.
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Now I knew that I had to make a change. I am not willing
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to get to the end of the year when I redo those labs and not
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see any improvement. I want to see vast improvement. I want to see
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significant improvement. And because I want to see that, and I don't want
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a doctor to tell me you have to now be on this medication. You
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not have to now relegate yourself and cut this out of your life, out
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of your diet for the rest of your life. I don't want to change
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in that drastic way. I would rather for six weeks forty two days,
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dedicate it back to me. Invest in me. You are the greatest investment
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you will ever make in this world. Why not carve out eleven percent of
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your year to go do and be what you were destined to be, what
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you have in you to be stepping away from the noise and stepping into the
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things that you have had void in your life. It is unearthing and doing
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some journaling. Listen in this boot camp. I don't know if I've mentioned
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this, but we are required to do a food log. I am logging,
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and people are like, are you using an app? She has us
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physically writing down what we ate, calculating our calorie intake. Now I am
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using an app to pull that information in, but she wants to visibly see
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our food log. Imagine she's checking this for you know, a couple dozen
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people in one setting each and every morning, Like she is physically reading through
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your food log to see what you're eating, to see your calorie intake,
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in your protein and all of the things your water intake. It is unearthing
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this stuff. I know. It sounds elementary and it sounds basic but some
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of the times when we are trying to go after life, we try to
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run after the big things, the hard things. Well, we haven't even
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executed well on the basics. The basics is writing it down. The basics
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is knowing your numbers. The basics is keeping focus. And that's what the
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food log is. It's a paper your name, the day and what you
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intake. You know what foods would drink, you put in your body and
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what that's doing. It's leaving evidence. If I do well in this,
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and I will, I'm claiming it. Okay, if I do well in
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this or if I don't, right, I now have insight, I have
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information, I have evidence of what I did or did not do. And
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sometimes we sit back and we go, I'm not where I need to be,
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and we get so frustrated with ourselves when we have no trail, we
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have no idea, we have no information about what took place. We are
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simply lost. And then we find ourselves restarting, and you find yourself going
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through the circular motion of frustration because you don't know what happened, you don't
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know why you're still here, you don't know why you haven't you know propelled
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in a direction that you wanted to. Well, that's what this basic stuff
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is. That's what this manual food log is. I know we live in
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an ai world and there's technology all around, but like I said, some
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of the most basic things, if you're being honest with yourself, you have
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not executed on those well, and that's what this is all about. In
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fact, this is a nurturing journey. I am nurturing myself in a way.
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Again, going back to the food log, I am more mindful in
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not just my eating, but what I select at the grocery store. Friends,
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I'm reading labels at the grocery store, which means that I'm going to
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have to pull out my readers. Yes, in fact, so I'm that
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person in the grocery store that's whipping out the readers, pausing in the aisle,
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probably holding up some people to read the label, to understand the sugars
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that I'm getting ready to intake. How much protein is really in this right,
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not what's advertised, but what's really in it When you start looking at
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the nutritional labels, I'm that girl now. I was never that girl.
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I was like what's on sale? What can I get? Right now?
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My mindset is going from food to fuel. Because I'm doing such intense workouts,
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because I'm working out sometimes twice a day before work, and I'm exerting
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all that energy, I need to understand what type of fuel, how much
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fuel do I need? And yes, she has that for you. So
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you know on the days that you're not you're more sedentary because I do take
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Sunday off to allow my body to rest and repair. So on those days
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I eat differently. My intake is a lot different from a day where I
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am doing a double workout day. So fueling my body, not eating,
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not getting food, but getting fuel is the new language that I'm starting to
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understand what my body needs. And I remember when we started the process and
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she asked me, what are some of your goals? And I said to
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her, I said, I want to know what my body needs. I
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want to understand what this body needs to be running most efficiently. There are
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vehicles out there that run most efficiently with premium gas, and so I buy
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premium gas for my car because I want an efficient running vehicle. There are
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you know, years ago I learned from the guy that did my oil changes.
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He was explaining to me the viscosity of the oil, and how some
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of the thicker oils it takes a lot more work to go through the engine
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and all the different parts. And I can't explain all the things about you
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know, oil changes, but efficiency. There are certain oils that are a
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lot less clunky, a let's thick and can be used to make the vehicle
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run more efficiently, less clogs and less issues down the road. Right,
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so you get the cheap oil change for like nineteen ninety nine, where now
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I'm paying you know, twice or three times that amount to get a more
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efficient oil to go through the system of my vehicle. All of that is
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just to explain to you the nature of what it is that we need to
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do. I mean, here's the thing. I can tell you that it's
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important to change the oil in my car so many times a year, every
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so many months. I need to use this quality of oil. But do
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I know what my body needs and we don't take time to do that.
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I mean, think about it. When you first started to learn to eat,
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you ate what was served, what mama was cooking that day. You
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ate. You went to school, the cafeteria served x ate. You didn't
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know that that's what your body needed. Some of us just didn't eat it
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because we didn't feel like we needed to eat it, or we were some
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of us didn't need it because it wasn't our taste for the day. But
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did we ever learn what to eat for our particular bodies? And so that
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was one of my goals, learning to not just understand what I need,
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but understand how often I need to work it in. And so when I
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say I cheated myself by not walking through this journey right understanding what is needed
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and getting those valuable lessons of how to eat, when to eat, what
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I now can use for fuel, that type of thing. It is a
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full on cultivation exercise of starting to cultivate the best version of me from the
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inside out. And so that's what the man in the mirror is asking us
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to do today. Your man in the mirror is asking you to go make
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a change for once in your life, right, Go make the change for
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the next six weeks, the next forty two days, the next thousand and
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eight hours, Go make that change so you can start to feel real good.
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You're gonna make a difference, and you're gonna make it right. And
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I'm feeling real good. I'm feeling really good about what I'm experiencing. I
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will say this my coach mentor fitness expert, she advised not to look at
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the scale because there's so much more in balance when it comes to your body
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body mass, fat, mass, muscle, all of those things factor into
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weight, and so we're looking at the total body waste, circumference all of
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the things. So anyway, all that to say, it's so important to
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be intentional in this season, to be intentional about what you are doing,
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to use your power to step away for personal growth, and to use your
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power to step away for personal growth. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode
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