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Body Language (3/7) How Winners Project Physical Presence. #WinItAllWednesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but I'm sure glad it's Wednesday and not just any Wednesday, my friends.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: It's Win it All Wednesday here on the Sweet Spot, where we've been doing a tremendous series on the power of body language.
• 0:21
  Speaker 1: And today, on Win it All Wednesday, we're going to say this Winning starts with how you carry yourself.
• 0:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's our theme for day three here on the sweet spot.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: I'm dr derek sweet.
• 0:34
  Speaker 1: I'm a board certified psychiatrist and I work with high performance.
• 0:38
  Speaker 1: But more than that, I love I just absolutely love helping folks just achieve the life that they are looking for for themselves.
• 0:49
  Speaker 1: They want to be at their best and you know what?
• 0:53
  Speaker 1: When people want to be at their best, we should try to help them.
• 0:56
  Speaker 1: I know you do that on a daily basis.
• 0:58
  Speaker 1: I do it as well, and that's why we're together here on the Sweet Spot.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: So look, beautiful souls, we are looking at body language.
• 1:07
  Speaker 1: On Monday, we looked at how owning the room happens.
• 1:10
  Speaker 1: Before you speak.
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  Speaker 1: It's about your posture, your presence and your eye contact.
• 1:15
  Speaker 1: Remember that.
• 1:15
  Speaker 1: Go back and review Monday.
• 1:17
  Speaker 1: Yesterday, we flipped the script.
• 1:20
  Speaker 1: We said let your body lead your mind with power, and not just with power, but using power poses and purposeful hand gestures, remember the whole idea of the open palm and pointing the finger for clarity, great.
• 1:35
  Speaker 1: Why do we talk about these things?
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  Speaker 1: Because our bodies are broadcast systems.
• 1:41
  Speaker 1: Whether you're aware of it or not, you're always transmitting something through your body and the question is, my friends, what story are you telling with your body Today?
• 1:54
  Speaker 1: We zoom in Because sometimes it's not the big moves, it's the small leaks.
• 2:01
  Speaker 1: And trained investigators and trained interviewers they look for these small leaks.
• 2:05
  Speaker 1: And trained investigators and trained interviewers they look for these small leaks.
• 2:08
  Speaker 1: And guess what?
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  Speaker 1: People who aren't even trained look for these small leaks.
• 2:14
  Speaker 1: So we have to be aware of when our body is saying something that our words are not confirming.
• 2:21
  Speaker 1: That's why it's important to pay attention and have awareness about our body language.
• 2:27
  Speaker 1: Let's start with the mouth.
• 2:28
  Speaker 1: A clenched jaw, tight lips these are signs of stress in most individuals and they can be quite contagious.
• 2:38
  Speaker 1: And they can often happen with us not even being aware that we've tightened our jaw.
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: They can often happen with us not even being aware that we've tightened our jaw.
• 2:49
  Speaker 1: Try this Soften your jaw today.
• 2:51
  Speaker 1: Try this Become aware of your tongue and where it's positioned in your mouth and rest your tongue for a second.
• 2:58
  Speaker 1: Give a slight smile, not a forced one, a slight smile.
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  Speaker 1: This is called a Duchenne smile, the kind that reaches your eyes and sort of releases this oxytocin, which is the trust hormone in the body.
• 3:17
  Speaker 1: So when you smile and your eyes are kind of squinting just a little, you know that kind of smile.
• 3:24
  Speaker 1: You can feel the goodness of that smile.
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: That's the kind of smile you want to give yourself here.
• 3:33
  Speaker 1: And then let's look at your walk.
• 3:34
  Speaker 1: How are you walking?
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  Speaker 1: Are you darting from place to place?
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  Speaker 1: Are you shuffling along?
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  Speaker 1: Or do you move with rhythm and calm, rhythm, rhythmic walking?
• 3:44
  Speaker 1: Are you using that kind of swagger, that rhythmic walk that activates the brain's motor timing systems?
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of like a metronome for your confidence, that the way you walk sends a message back to your brain that tells you you're confident.
• 4:02
  Speaker 1: Remember we talked about this that your body can literally tell your brain how to feel.
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  Speaker 1: You smile in the mirror.
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  Speaker 1: You tell yourself I love you.
• 4:13
  Speaker 1: In the morning, when you look in the mirror, you unclench your jaw.
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: Don't let your lips be so tight, don't let your shoulders be so tight.
• 4:22
  Speaker 1: Breathe All of that.
• 4:25
  Speaker 1: Your smooth gait, your smooth walk, your controlled steps that's how winners walk, even before the scoreboard says anything, and the ancient wisdom backs me up on this.
• 4:38
  Speaker 1: You know I love ancient wisdom.
• 4:40
  Speaker 1: I'm giving you a break on neuroscience, but we're never going to stop with the ancient wisdom, because there's a lot in there.
• 4:47
  Speaker 1: Everything I'm talking about is found in this one verb here.
• 4:51
  Speaker 1: Verse in Proverbs Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you, give careful thought to the paths for your feet.
• 5:01
  Speaker 1: Proverbs 4.25.
• 5:03
  Speaker 1: I'll say it again Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you, give careful thought to the paths for your feet.
• 5:16
  Speaker 1: That's not just spiritual, that's body language, that's somatic.
• 5:20
  Speaker 1: Your focus shows up in your stride, in your walk.
• 5:26
  Speaker 1: Your walk can either reflect your purpose or reveal your panic.
• 5:31
  Speaker 1: There's a way to walk so powerful and that's the idea here on Winner Door Wednesday that you want to notice your micro movements.
• 5:43
  Speaker 1: Soften your mouth, smooth your walk, square your shoulders, take a breath, relax, let your rhythm match your confidence, because winners don't just show up, they show up like it's already done.
• 5:58
  Speaker 1: You ever watch Michael Jordan?
• 6:00
  Speaker 1: You ever watch Kobe Bryant or Steph Curry or any one of these superstars, any one of them?
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  Speaker 1: When you see them walk and you see them carry themselves, they're acting like it's already done.
• 6:14
  Speaker 1: So that's your challenge Figure out how you're going to let go, relax and be the winner you already are by letting your body language communicate that All right now.
• 6:29
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Derek Speed.
• 6:30
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to Win it All Wednesday here on the Sweet Spot.
• 6:34
  Speaker 1: Tomorrow it's Trust Yourself Thursday, and we're flipping the lens inward tomorrow, learning how to read your own body cues and reset from the inside out.
• 6:46
  Speaker 1: I'll see you then right here on the Sweet Spot.
• 6:51
  Speaker 1: Until then, know that you're already a winner.
• 6:55
  Speaker 1: You are already a winner, my friend.
• 6:58
  Speaker 1: Let your body act like it.
• 7:02
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Sweet.
• 7:04
  Speaker 1: I'm out.