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Tune into Pussy: Pleasure, Shame and Finding Your Inner Power · Libido Lounge

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  I wanna reintroduce you to a couple of my besties that you got to meet on last Girlfriend
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  Edition.
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  And on this particular show, we're going by the nicknames that we use in our friend group.
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  So here is Ruby.
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  Hello.
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  And here is Sapphire.
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  Hi, everyone.
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  And so just to remind you, Ruby is a bodyworker.
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  She does a lot with working with people, but getting into their own bodies through radical
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  embodiment and a lot of other hands on and, deep rooted practices to get inside your own
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  body and feel feel everything, really.
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  And you can check out her other episode where we go more into
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  all of her work.
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  And then we have Sapphire who does a lot with both social justice as well as conflict
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  resolution.
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  And so these are a couple of my friends, like I said.
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  Today's episode is about tuning in.
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  We're gonna talk about tuning into pleasure, and we're gonna talk about tuning into pussy.
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  And I know some of you guys are hearing that word and thinking, like, what did she say?
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  As the reason for choosing that word is a few different reasons.
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  One, to get out of the medical, you know, to get out of the medical and into the pleasure,
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  and also to reclaim this word because innately, this word is talking about our female anatomy.
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  Right?
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  It's talking about this place of pleasure and power and joy and so many different wonderful
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  things.
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  And to have this word that has this connotation about some part of our female body that is
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  fabulous, that is pleasure, that is sacred is really, really needs to be reclaimed.
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  If you have any sort of reaction to that word, you might consider going and reading a great
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  book by mama Gina called Pasea, a Reclamation.
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  And it goes deep into some of the reasoning for really sinking into that word and owning that
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  word and what that really means.
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  And without further ado, we're gonna talk about it.
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  So welcome to girlfriend edition.
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  Yay.
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  Alright, ladies.
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  So let's start with just the question of pleasure.
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  Tell me about, like, pleasure practices, how you tune into pleasure.
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  Let's just open up the conversation to pleasure.
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  Yeah.
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  I'll start actually on this one.
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  What I what first comes up for me you saying that is, at least in my experience and
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  especially some of the clients I work with, pleasure can seem, it's a it can be a little
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  bit of a charge of triggering worry.
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  It can seem so out of reach.
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  Or when we're thinking of pleasure.
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  Of course, this is the libido doc podcast.
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  So we are talking sex and sexuality and pleasure is so much more than that.
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  Pleasure is something that can act it be very innocent in nature as well.
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  And I think starting to also recognize that individually, if it is something that
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  somebody's feeling triggered around or like it feels wrong or there's old shame, Think of a
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  baby.
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  You know, think of a toddler in different times when they're just in their pleasure.
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  Right?
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  I think of you got my dog, Tula Rose.
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  Right?
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  She's so in her pleasure, and it's so innocent.
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  They're just go orienting around what do they need, what makes them feel good.
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  And something as simple as one of my favorite times a day is my morning coffee and wish you
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  know, when I have it, it's a very pleasurable experience for me.
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  I mean, I love my I love coffee, and I like to just sit and to the best of my ability,
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  depending on the day.
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  But more days than not, I don't do anything.
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  I just sit and I sip and I breathe, and I'm just present with the taste, with my
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  environment.
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  And that's such a pleasurable experience for me.
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  It's such a great way to start my day to just tune in with how am I today?
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  What is my intention for today?
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  What do I wanna focus on today?
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  Right.
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  And tune into what is this, you know, beverage I'm drinking?
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  What does it taste like?
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  How is the texture?
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  So I think pleasure is such a broad.
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  It can mean, you know, it's so much.
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  And it's, I think, especially for us women, it's it's our such a gift and and essential for
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  us to be in pleasurable experiences, the nonsexual and the sexual.
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  So that's what I'll just, yeah, start with.
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  Yeah.
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  And it is it's such an important thing.
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  Right?
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  Because I think so many times when we're thinking of pleasure, we're thinking of just,
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  like, sexual pleasure.
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  And I think it's so easy to forget that pleasure actually can come from a point of just
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  the coffee.
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  Just all those little things that we actually do because pleasure is so oftentimes, I think,
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  taught to us as like, but I don't have time for that.
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  Yeah.
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  Or that's not a priority.
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  It's indulgent.
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  It's an indulgent.
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  Right?
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  It's selfish.
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  Yeah.
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  Right?
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  And I think the more we can actually tune in to like like like, what you're saying is like, oh,
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  but you're enjoying it.
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  You're breathing.
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  You're getting into that moment.
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  Like, setting yourself up for the day is presencing.
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  Right.
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  I think.
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  Right.
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  When we're connecting into our pleasure, we're presencing.
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  Right.
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  Yeah.
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  Like, I think a lot with that too about, like, the giving and receiving.
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  Right?
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  And, like, giving and receiving of life is something I've really been reflecting on a lot.
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  I just read this book, doctor Rosalyn, I believe, is the the woman's name, called the
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  DPS.
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  Mhmm.
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  And it's just really all about all these areas in life Mhmm.
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  That, like, that we receive in and that that so many times we don't take that moment to, like,
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  deeply receive.
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  And when we do, like, we, like, push back on that receiving, then it's a lot harder to give.
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  Because if I'm, like so, like, giving yourself that time in the morning, it is about the
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  pleasure.
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  It is about the joy, but it's also about filling you up Yeah.
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  So that you can go into your day, right, with, like, being like your cup is full and
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  you can fully show up to your work and your life.
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  Yeah.
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  Right?
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  Totally.
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  Totally.
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  Totally.
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  Yeah.
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  Versus, like, chugging it, and I'm doing this.
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  I'm doing this.
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  Or, you know, I can drink a cup of coffee in five minutes, seven minutes.
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  You know, it doesn't have it it it doesn't yeah.
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  And and how it sets me up and also then not just going into scroll mentality, not going to
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  be you know, it just
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  I think it allows me to
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  be more efficient even.
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  Right?
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  If we are thinking of it's an indulgence, I don't have the time.
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  It doesn't have to be coffee.
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  Right?
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  There's so many other ways to be But free and pleasure.
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  But Right.
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  Yeah.
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  I I am always trying to for myself or anyone I work with of how can we implement or bring some
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  of these practices in that's not just another to do, which also I think when we're checking
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  to dos off, it feels less pleasurable.
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  It's just, okay.
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  I did that thing.
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  I touched my pussy today because I'm in a
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  pussy course than I'm supposed to, or, you know, or whatever it may be.
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  So at least for me, I don't I might be alone in this, but sometimes those things can just
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  become another to do if that's.
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  And so how can it just me wanting to feel more pleasure, me wanting to just be more with
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  myself, tune in more with myself?
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  How can I weave that into what I'm already doing?
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  Yeah.
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  Mhmm.
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  That's beautiful.
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  Yeah.
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  That's beautiful.
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  How about you?
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  What have you found with pleasure?
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  Yeah.
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  Something I've been thinking as I've been listening to Emily is, this quote that, someone
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  actually shared to me shared with me years ago when I was writing my thesis.
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  So not exactly a pleasurable experience.
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  But he said energy flows where attention goes.
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  Yeah.
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  You know?
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  So where you place your attention, more energy goes there.
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  And I think with pleasure, it's something that really needs to be cultivated.
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  So finding at any anywhere without or anywhere throughout my day.
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  If I'm drinking my coffee, if I step outside and I notice how the air feels, You know, I'm
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  taking a walk and notice how good it feels to just be in my body, allowing myself to notice
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  the pleasure in that.
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  And I think for, especially for women, like Emily is saying, there's this pressure to to do
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  a lot, to be there for others to, multitask.
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  Mhmm.
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  And that sometimes is a requirement.
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  Right?
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  Sometimes we just have to go there.
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  And what can we do to try to push up against that expectation or that conditioning in our
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  inner world, you know, to find the sourcing of pleasure within our own system, that's
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  available to us all the time through presence, really, like Emily saying, you know, if I can
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  just kind of sink in with my coffee versus looking at Instagram while I drink my coffee,
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  it allows a little bit more space and availability to access pleasure.
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  So there's really, I think, something that could be, it could be quite difficult in that
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  it's sort of countercultural and maybe against our routine and, and the habits that we're in.
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  And yet it's also quite simple because it's there for us if we can place our attention in
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  the ways that we really want to cultivate more.
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  Yes.
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  So may I ask you both this?
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  Have either of you ever had an orgasm while thinking about something else?
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  Like, I'm a grocery.
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  Like, we're still here.
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  This question.
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  I was going, like, aren't you shopping?
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  Or you know?
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  Point being, like, is it possible to have an orgasm and not be present in your body?
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  For me, it's not.
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  For yeah.
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  Like, nothing's coming today.
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  I'm really, Lincoln.
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  No.
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  No.
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  I appreciate you.
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  Like, the easy people, you have much Nick, Derek, answer me.
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  Yeah.
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  Especially because in orgasm, my my body needs to be relaxed.
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  Yeah.
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  You know, present and relaxed, and there's something inherent in if I'm thinking about my
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  to do list or my problem at work or, you know, a family issue, My body's not relaxed.
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  Yeah.
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  You know, it's the absolute opposite.
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  It's tight in addition to being in my head and being distracted and being somewhere else.
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  So makes sense to me that presence in pleasure is required for something like a climax or an
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  orgasmic experience.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Absolutely.
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  And so in my mind and the rest of the day, it's like the, like our day to day activity as well
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  as our sensual activity is all just one big presence practice.
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  Right?
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  Mhmm.
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  Just like tuning into the body, to the sensuality, and all of that.
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  And, yeah, and and and
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  I think what I think feels important with that Yeah.
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  Especially in our modern, like, culture and world that is, you know, at least in
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  The US, like, pretty, a lot of high level of worth on productivity, a lot of high level
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  of worth on there's just a lot of distractions and bombardments, whether or not, like, family,
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  like, requirements, obligations, but then also screen notifications constantly, all of that.
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  And so just finding ways to set up reminders
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  Mhmm.
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  To help tune in.
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  You know, what is it that, like, can help trigger that ex you know, trigger it meaning,
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  like, just help bring you back into you to remind myself, oh, right.
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  Okay.
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  Could I experience a little pleasure here?
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  Is there even a little bit of space?
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  I'm feeling really agitated.
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  I'm feeling really overwhelmed.
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  Whatever is okay.
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  That's fine.
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  We we talked about in our girlfriend episode that in a little air before this, but Sapphire
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  mentioned the, noticing with approval.
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  So noticing that with approval first.
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  And then from there, I don't need to change it, but could I just have a is there a little space
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  on the scale for me to just slow that down
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  Yeah.
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  Mhmm.
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  A little bit, which I think invites a little little more pleasure, a little more ease.
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  Mhmm.
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  But just finding, you know, whether it be maybe it is a reminder on your phone.
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  Maybe it's a, you know, a every time you go to your mirror in the bathroom, you see a little
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  sticky.
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  But something to just help.
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  For me, I'm, again, very essential.
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  So I have texture.
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  So when I feel texture of when I walk my dog, I usually always feel bark on a tree because that
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  just helps ground me.
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  It helps me feel the nature, feel the earth.
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  It's simple.
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  Right.
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  But it's a rich it's, you know, it's I think because you could call it a ritual.
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  Yeah.
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  It's not.
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  It's simple, but I just I always will touch at least one tree every morning with her.
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  Mhmm.
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  Yeah.
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  So just finding ways to help remind us Yeah.
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  When we're not invited most of our life,
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  most of our day.
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  Yeah.
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  And I'd love to build on that for tuning into pussy.
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  That's is going next.
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  So let's go there.
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  Yeah.
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  Our favorite talk.
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  That's right here on the logon doc.
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  I've just really benefited so much from what you're talking about in terms of building
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  routine and ritual where I am placing my attention, bringing that attention to my pussy,
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  to that place, the actual physical place, to my vulva, to that that whole sex center throughout
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  the day.
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  So before I get out of bed in the morning, noticing just how is my pussy?
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  What's how am I feeling?
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  You know, sometimes like, is there any information there?
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  Is there something, you know, is there discomfort?
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  Is there pleasure?
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  Is there tightness?
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  Just, and again, noticing with approval, coming back in the middle of the day.
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  Oh, what's happening with my pussy?
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  And just, just checking in.
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  And what I've learned over time is that the more my attention is going there, the more I'm
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  actually feeling.
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  So if anybody's interested in trying this, I would recommend don't give up.
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  If you start this practice and aren't feeling much because it's new and and because of many
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  aspects of our history, we might experience numbness or even sort of fear or repulsion.
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  Right?
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  We're we're taught in many cultures that this is some dirty part of our body to be ashamed
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  of.
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  And so it's natural to have a lot of resistance to something like actually tuning into your
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  pussy.
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  And I would encourage people to stay with it and to just be present with no judgment to
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  whatever comes up because it seems like our pussies are there ready to be attended to,
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  ready to be in relationship with us, and it can take some time.
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  Yeah.
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  I love that.
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  Yeah.
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  One of the things that our friend who goes by Lotus Aphrodite and I do when she and I ski and
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  snowboard, We will sometimes run experiments where we're like, well, we'll ski, snowboard
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  down the mountain, and then we'll say, okay.
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  Well, what do we do this time?
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  We're gonna lead from our pussy.
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  And we'll, like, drop into, like, that feeling and actually, like like, ride down the mountain
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  with, like, great attunement to that part and, you know, just combining, like, pleasure of
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  snowboarding with pleasure of pussy.
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  It's a really bloom.
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  Practice.
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  Okay.
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  Womb.
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  Because womb from them one of my practices is coming home, coming into womb.
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  And so I opt in.
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  We'll orient around my womb and checking in and going home.
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  But, yeah, skiing from my womb.
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  Yeah.
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  I always feel confident, secure, grounded.
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  Right.
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  Yeah.
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  It's a really different experience.
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  So, like, in day to day life, you know, I think it's so easy for people to just be like, okay.
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  Well, what if I take a walk and just, like, really tune into this part of myself?
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  Like, you did such a good job with talking about integration and of, like, pleasure into
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  your daily life.
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  And so we can integrate, you know, pussy, like you're saying, into our daily life to just
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  bring more awareness there.
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  And just that awareness, like, where the mind goes, like like, the body will follow.
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  Right?
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  And so bringing that awareness there is one mechanism for really helping with that
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  numbness.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  And I think about it.
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  Pussy is not only about pleasure.
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  Right?
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  Pussy is about it's our creative Center.
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  Yeah.
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  So Yeah.
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  Center of life force.
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  Mhmm.
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  And are we relating to it, tuning into it in that way most of the time?
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  I would
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  say most women are not.
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  Probably not, I guess.
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  Not that.
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  So we need our girlfriends to do things like, yeah, how are we gonna ski down the mountain?
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  I love that.
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  Well, yeah.
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  Sad.
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  Really.
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  And I like how you said too there's a readiness there that she's ready.
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  Right.
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  Yeah.
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  Right?
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  It might take time.
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  Totally.
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  Anytime we're checking out the body, if it's something that isn't typical for us, numbness
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  can almost likely be expected.
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  Right?
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  So just having grace with that.
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  Mhmm.
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  But that doesn't mean, oh, it's not working for me.
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  It just means great.
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  Pause.
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  Tomorrow, check back at Yeah.
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  Tomorrow, and it will come, and she will.
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  Yeah.
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  That that she's there's so many messages there.
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  Yeah.
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  There is, like, this readiness.
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  Every time I check-in, especially with my pussy, it's like,
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  oh, hey.
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  She just feels so eager.
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  Us.
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  Told
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  Like, there's an yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Mhmm.
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  Well, and another thing that you said that is, like, kind of combining something that you told
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  me a while ago, Ruby, which is so you mentioned, Sapphire, about, like, shame and
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  about, like, oh, we carry almost this lineage, I feel like, of women of so many years where it
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  was there's all this shame and there was this hysteria movement and all of this, like, kind
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  of movement of, like, disconnecting to this part of our physical body, our spiritual body
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  in many ways.
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  And then, Ruby, you were the one that that brought to my awareness the root of the word
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  pudendal.
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  The iudendal nerve, which is the nerve that innervates the pelvic floor.
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  Right.
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  So it's the nerve that carries that conduction to the pelvic floor.
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  And and I've talked about this on this podcast once before, inspired by you.
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  But I think because you mentioned that and just to bring that whole piece together around where
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  this comes from around, like, that gentleness.
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  Right?
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  Because like you said, like, go slow, be gentle, and I think some of that is because of
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  that we carry a lot of this shame.
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  And so the nerve, if you wanna share
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  well, has these roots.
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  And so I learned this from Gil Headley who is if anyone's interested in the body,
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  understanding the body, definitely go to GilHeadley.com.
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  I have to put a plug.
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  He's incredible.
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  He's been doing dissections for over thirty years and holds, like, the deepest level of
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  reference for the human body.
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  And, so he's who I learned this from, but he the pudendal nerve, the background, the Latin
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  root is around shame.
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  It means to shame.
• 19:34
  And so how curious is it, right, that the naming of our an anatomical parts of the nerve
• 19:42
  itself that is innervating, that's giving this, I don't wanna say life force, but right the
• 19:46
  inner like, this part of our body, our pelvic floor from a very puritanical standpoint is
• 19:53
  literally shame isn't that's the root of the name.
• 19:56
  Wow.
• 19:57
  Right.
• 19:57
  And so I forget what he's he's him and a several other in the Rolfin community and the
• 20:02
  fascial community have been working to rename officially this nerve, and I forget what
• 20:07
  they're calling it.
• 20:07
  Yeah.
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  I forget what you told me.
• 20:09
  Yeah.
• 20:09
  I I don't remember it right now off the top of my head.
• 20:11
  But that there is in the in that world, there is work and momentum to try to actually get
• 20:17
  this nerve renamed.
• 20:18
  Yeah.
• 20:18
  Wow.
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  Yeah.
• 20:19
  That's nerve.
• 20:20
  Yeah.
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  Watch out.
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  Right.
• 20:22
  Yeah.
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  Steve.
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  Power.
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  Plus.
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  So we'll
• 20:29
  have to
• 20:29
  look that up and put that in the show notes.
• 20:31
  What are their what name they're moving working to move forward with and and then within their
• 20:36
  my community, what we're just referring to it with ourselves Yeah.
• 20:39
  Until it's officially, hopefully, renamed.
• 20:41
  Yeah.
• 20:41
  And the takeaway point for me is just like like what you're saying.
• 20:44
  It's like just that, oh, yeah.
• 20:45
  We have this history.
• 20:46
  Like, that's it's in the name.
• 20:48
  So you're feeling numbness, if you're feeling, like, shame, you're feeling any of these
• 20:52
  things, like, it's no surprise.
• 20:54
  Right?
• 20:55
  We're repatterning how we are approaching this part of our pleasure body.
• 21:00
  Yeah.
• 21:00
  And there's a lot of history to repattern down to how we've been looking at this part of our
• 21:06
  body medically.
• 21:07
  Yeah.
• 21:08
  Yeah.
• 21:08
  Yeah.
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  It's a revolution.
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  It is.
• 21:10
  That's it.
• 21:10
  It's a reclamation.
• 21:11
  Oh, sorry.
• 21:12
  Your reclamation.
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  Yeah.
• 21:13
  Yeah.
• 21:14
  Read that book for sure.
• 21:15
  Yeah.
• 21:15
  Is there anything else you
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  guys want to leave us with in
• 21:18
  this episode today?
• 21:19
  You feel anything was not said.
• 21:22
  I I wanted to add just to what you just said that something that happens for me when I'm
• 21:26
  doing this practice of tuning in with my pussy is sometimes it can be very emotional and
• 21:31
  scary.
• 21:31
  Sometimes I feel grief.
• 21:33
  Sometimes I feel desperation.
• 21:37
  I feel any type of sadness or embarrassment, and that it's I also find that to be an
• 21:45
  invitation just to be Yeah.
• 21:47
  What is.
• 21:48
  Right?
• 21:48
  So I don't go to that place and and feel grief and say, like, hey.
• 21:52
  No.
• 21:53
  You're supposed to be pleasure.
• 21:55
  Right?
• 21:55
  Like, that is also not what the the energy of pussy is about.
• 22:00
  Yeah.
• 22:01
  Yeah.
• 22:01
  There's actually an authentic truth there that I realize I may not be allowing myself to sense
• 22:10
  into because I'm busy and thinking about many things in my day, etcetera.
• 22:16
  But there's there's this sort of rootedness of something that needs to be experienced in my
• 22:22
  system.
• 22:23
  And so my my now, however imperfectly, my practice is to attend to what's there and not
• 22:32
  try to make it something different.
• 22:33
  Yeah.
• 22:34
  It's good to name that.
• 22:35
  Yeah.
• 22:35
  It is good to name that.
• 22:36
  I also
• 22:36
  I have a similar experience, I think, but, like, it in womb or which literally be center
• 22:43
  point of of pelvis or pussy.
• 22:44
  There's there's there's a different energy between the two, but, yeah, just a broad
• 22:50
  spectrum of emotion.
• 22:51
  It's not just, oh, I tune in there and then, yes, with time, I'll feel pleasure.
• 22:54
  It's and maybe, you know, I don't know your ex point, but sometimes it'd be like, oh, there's
• 22:57
  grief and there's pleasure.
• 22:58
  There's maybe there's a sense for me of when I'm tuning in from that point, if there's grief
• 23:02
  or sadness or anger, there's some sense at least for me also that it feels good, though.
• 23:07
  Yeah.
• 23:07
  And I think that has to do because we're in resonance and in truth with ourself.
• 23:10
  Right.
• 23:11
  Yeah.
• 23:11
  Versus deny.
• 23:12
  Yeah.
• 23:13
  Yep.
• 23:13
  So Yeah.
• 23:15
  Resonance and truth with ourselves.
• 23:16
  Right.
• 23:17
  Mhmm.
• 23:17
  Mhmm.
• 23:18
  That's a good place to end.
• 23:19
  A castle teacher.
• 23:22
  Oh, thank you, ladies.
• 23:23
  Thank you so
• 23:23
  much for being here on the to us.
• 23:26
  It's your flesh.
• 23:27
  Yeah.
• 23:27
  What is a fleshy?
• 23:28
  Yes.
• 23:28
  It is a fleshy.
• 23:30
  Yes.
• 23:30
  Literally.
• 23:31
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