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The Journal Farrah Abraham Should Start · Shawna and LaLa: Life Beyond The Mic

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  Speaker 1: From the heart of the city, where the beat beats
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  Speaker 1: the rhythm of your day. It's Shawna.
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  Speaker 2: What's up? You're listening to Shauna and Lalla. Check us
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  Speaker 2: out at Shauna and Lala dot com on all social
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  Speaker 2: media platforms at Shauna and Lala. You can follow me
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  Speaker 2: on Instagram at the Real Shawna May check.
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  Speaker 3: Me out at Bella Underscore Lalla one two five.
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  Speaker 2: It has been quite the week. This weather is insane.
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  Speaker 2: It is almost eighty degrees the past two days and
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  Speaker 2: it's going to drop down again the end of the
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  Speaker 2: week into next week.
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  Speaker 3: I know, I don't even care at this point. I'm
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  Speaker 3: just like, it's been nice. I'm just gonna soak it up,
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  Speaker 3: or try to soak it up, and wait for the
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  Speaker 3: real spring to hit, the full spring.
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  Speaker 2: Well, hopefully with the sun and spring being here, our
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  Speaker 2: winter depression will be over.
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  Speaker 3: I'm hoping.
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  Speaker 2: I started a new therapy that actually has been out
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  Speaker 2: for quite a while, I think since two thousand and eight,
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  Speaker 2: but I just heard of it about a month ago.
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  Speaker 2: It's called TMS and it's for people that suffer from
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  Speaker 2: depression anxiety PTSD. It also helps with migraines and ocd
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  Speaker 2: as well, but what it is is they put these
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  Speaker 2: this like magnetic thing on your head. They map out
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  Speaker 2: your head first, and then put this thing on your
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  Speaker 2: head and it vibrates and taps your head and it
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  Speaker 2: kind of like somehow remaps your head your brain, like
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  Speaker 2: the way that your brain thinks.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so I watched the process. They put like a
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  Speaker 3: cap on her head. They map out where her brain.
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  Speaker 3: There's certain parts of your brain that control like depression
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  Speaker 3: and all that stuff, and they figure out where it
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  Speaker 3: is based on doing these little tests, and then they
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  Speaker 3: shoot like a magnet thing like vibe into her head
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  Speaker 3: and then if her arm twitches or something twitches, they
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  Speaker 3: know they got the right spot. So once it's mapped
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  Speaker 3: out on that little cap, then they know where to
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  Speaker 3: put the machine every single day. And it makes a
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  Speaker 3: clicking noise, but it's a really strong magnet. And you
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  Speaker 3: know magnets and the body and humans and the brain electricity,
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  Speaker 3: because your brain it is kind of like electric in
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  Speaker 3: its own way, you know, like pathways. So the magnet
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  Speaker 3: works by like she said, rewiring or re reconfiguring the
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  Speaker 3: way you feel and think and how the brain works.
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  Speaker 3: So it's very holistic, gentle, it's not anything crazy like
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  Speaker 3: you know, you don't. It's not going to mess you
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  Speaker 3: up or totally change the person you are. You know,
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  Speaker 3: they're not rewiring you, but it's kind of changing how
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  Speaker 3: you deal with things or your brain fails with things.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's it was really really cool. It did work.
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  Speaker 2: It was working, and then I stopped going. I didn't
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  Speaker 2: go this weekend for it. They didn't have any openings,
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  Speaker 2: and that really just screwed me up. It put me
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  Speaker 2: back in a rut. And I just now have to
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  Speaker 2: get out of that rut. And I'm praying that with
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  Speaker 2: it being warm and sunny out that it just it helps.
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  Speaker 2: I need the vitamin d.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, linden orphans and from the sun. I'm just feeling
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  Speaker 3: happy when it's out, you know, in the weather, the wind,
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  Speaker 3: it's like a warm breeze out there, and that always
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  Speaker 3: makes me happy. When you don't walk outside and you're freezing,
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  Speaker 3: it's just now you might sweat, but I'd prefer that
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  Speaker 3: over freezing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely so.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if you saw it.
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  Speaker 2: I was.
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  Speaker 3: I've been off since two thirty if so, excuse me
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  Speaker 3: if I sound miserable. I am miserable, but I am tired,
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  Speaker 3: and I was up at two thirty in the morning
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  Speaker 3: and I saw so many people sharing that a post
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  Speaker 3: about Farah Farah Abrams. I think that's how you seen
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  Speaker 3: her last name. She's from teen mom. She's that crazy,
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  Speaker 3: the crazy one like porn star.
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  Speaker 2: Oh. Yes, her daughter is what sixteen seventeen And she
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  Speaker 2: looks like a ghost.
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  Speaker 3: She looks like the Kiss, the band Kiss. Yeah, she
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  Speaker 3: does her makeup like that. I just don't white face,
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  Speaker 3: it's black.
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  Speaker 2: I don't eyeshadow makeup. She looks like a freak.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm sorry, I just don't. I it's I
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  Speaker 3: know this expression is one thing. I'll let them express themselves.
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  Speaker 3: But it's like when you're at a certain age enough,
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  Speaker 3: grow up, get into the real world. This is not
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  Speaker 3: a clown show. It's not I don't know. I just
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  Speaker 3: don't get it. And I know why the girl. Usually
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  Speaker 3: you can correlate that kind of look to trauma, mental
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  Speaker 3: emotional traum.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, definitely.
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  Speaker 3: And her mother and her grandparents have poor grandmother have
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  Speaker 3: put her through emotional and mental trauma rightly.
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  Speaker 2: She lost her father mm hmm before I think she
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  Speaker 2: was born.
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  Speaker 3: And her mother is a lunatic exactly, and I mean
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  Speaker 3: the grandma. I know she was crazy, but Pharah, Pharah
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  Speaker 3: caused a lot of it, you know, so it's just toxic.
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  Speaker 3: So you could directly like when I see kids dress
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  Speaker 3: like that or in other ways or dressed like furries,
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  Speaker 3: I'm like some sort of trauma in their life, some
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  Speaker 3: sort of emotional issue, some sort of mental issue, and
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  Speaker 3: it's fine, that's fine, but we can't look at as
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  Speaker 3: a mother, I would not be telling my daughter that's
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  Speaker 3: normal and that's okay. It's like, let's go to therapy
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  Speaker 3: and let's figure out the root cause of you wanting
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  Speaker 3: to express yourself like this, because it's not it's not normal,
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  Speaker 3: you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she needs therapy.
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  Speaker 3: She needs therapy because of her mother. So anyway, the
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  Speaker 3: whole story was that Pharah went to a hair stylist
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  Speaker 3: for her for Sophia, the daughter's prom, and she had
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  Speaker 3: all these major service done, makeup, hair extensions. Now, hair
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  Speaker 3: extensions are thousands of dollars, they're expensive. She had them in,
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  Speaker 3: her hair was madded. It looks like, oh she was homeless. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: she had had them removed. Then her hair bleach, which
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  Speaker 3: is a lot on dark hair. And now my hair alone,
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  Speaker 3: when I have it bleached or highlights put in. It's
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  Speaker 3: about three hundred, four hundred dollars. Her hair was with
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  Speaker 3: the extensions and the makeup, she was in the thousands,
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  Speaker 3: you know. And then her daughter had her hair dyed,
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  Speaker 3: makeup don hair done.
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  Speaker 2: Which I don't understand why you need your hair done
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  Speaker 2: and your makeup don for your daughter's prom.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's fair. She's a narcissist. It's everything is about her.
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  Speaker 3: Every situation is made about her. So her daughter's prom, oh,
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  Speaker 3: you know, for sure, she's gonna make it about herself
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  Speaker 3: and make herself the center of attention. She wore a
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  Speaker 3: prom dress, a white yep, a white prom dress. She
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  Speaker 3: had all her makeup done for her daughter's prom and
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  Speaker 3: and was there with her showed up. I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: People online said that Sofia doesn't go to school, so
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  Speaker 3: that it was basically Farah making a fake prom with
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  Speaker 3: her friends, and then Farah was a part of it.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know the truth behind that.
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  Speaker 3: But she did dress up to put a prom dress on,
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  Speaker 3: and the prom ver that she bought for Sophia this black.
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  Speaker 3: It was the black dress was beautiful. I didn't even
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  Speaker 3: see it Sophia didn't even wear it. She spent all
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  Speaker 3: this money on it and wanted it so bad, and
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  Speaker 3: Sofia didn't wear it. She wore like spikes and leather,
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  Speaker 3: you know, like it was a cool outfit. But it's like,
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  Speaker 3: you just must again as a parent. If my daughter
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  Speaker 3: made me buy an expensive ass dress for her prom
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  Speaker 3: she wanted, you're wearing it. You're wearing it. You made
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  Speaker 3: me buy that, you loved it, You're wearing it. So
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  Speaker 3: I just again, with parenting, we always talk about it.
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  Speaker 3: It's like you're not your kid's friend. They have to
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  Speaker 3: learn respect, they can't take advantage, and they got to
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  Speaker 3: learn the rules. But again, back to the story, I
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  Speaker 3: keep getting sidetracked. Here she went and for all the service,
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  Speaker 3: and she didn't pay. She only paid one hundred and
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  Speaker 3: seventy dollars for the hair because you have to buy
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  Speaker 3: the hair for the hair extensions prior. She paid that
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  Speaker 3: and then walked down on the bill. Now, this hairstylist
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  Speaker 3: is going online and it went viral, of course because
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  Speaker 3: it's about Pharah saying, hey, she stiffed me. She had
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  Speaker 3: all this work done, it was in the thousands, and
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  Speaker 3: she didn't pay me and is not paying me, And
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  Speaker 3: then that went viral and Pharaoh found out and said
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  Speaker 3: I paid her one hundred and seventy dollars and we
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  Speaker 3: had an agreement, you know, but everyone's collaboration, the collaboration.
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  Speaker 3: But there's so many hairdressers on there coming on and
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  Speaker 3: saying she did the same thing to me. She did
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  Speaker 3: the same thing to me, So I cannot see a
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  Speaker 3: hairstylist giving away that much free stuff. They might have said, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: we'll do your makeup for free, but that hair is
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  Speaker 3: thousands and or maybe we'll do Sofia for free, or
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  Speaker 3: your hair and not Sofia. I don't know for that
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  Speaker 3: many girls. They showed video the hairstyles put a video
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  Speaker 3: of how many girls were working on them. I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: It's hard, but.
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  Speaker 2: And they said it was. She was in the chair
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  Speaker 2: for twelve hours.
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  Speaker 3: Twelve hours, yeah, because her hair was madded between them.
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  Speaker 3: So I can't see a hairstylist giving away that much time,
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  Speaker 3: twelve hours of her time and her employees time for free.
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  Speaker 3: I don't care about how much I do collapse with people.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not a celebrity, but I don't care who you
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  Speaker 3: are that's there still has to be some sort of
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  Speaker 3: compensation for that.
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  Speaker 2: So, and when we do a collaboration, everything is in writing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so whether I mean there's times where we have contracts
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  Speaker 2: and we have to sign it, and then there's other
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  Speaker 2: times where it's more lenient where everything is typed out
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  Speaker 2: in an email.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, cover bye, line number by number.
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  Speaker 2: Of what is expected and if we don't follow through,
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  Speaker 2: they could sue us.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you always have to cya like cover your ass.
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  Speaker 3: And so, I mean we don't know all the details
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  Speaker 3: like that. Hairstell says she has text messages to show
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  Speaker 3: what the conditions were, and Farah's putting out a cease
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  Speaker 3: and desist letter. Farah's causing a lot of problems with this,
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  Speaker 3: you know, going after anyone who says bad. So hopefully
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  Speaker 3: she doesn't come after us, but whatever. Yeah, she's just
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  Speaker 3: nuts And that's what's in right now. That's going viral everywhere.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone's talking about it, and Farah is just lashing out
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  Speaker 3: left and right. The other teen mom, Caitlin and Tyler
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  Speaker 3: that they were like, I love them, they're so cute.
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  Speaker 3: But Tyler, he commented on the post, Yeah, he gave
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  Speaker 3: her money, the Hairstyle's money to repay her. He paid
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  Speaker 3: her a lot of money because the hairstyle said, he
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  Speaker 3: gave me more. He gave me way too much. But
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  Speaker 3: she didn't have to do that, no, and he wrote
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  Speaker 3: a nice message like I'm sorry that Sarah did this
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  Speaker 3: to you. So when Farah saw that, she lashed out
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  Speaker 3: at them and she called CPS on them and sent
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  Speaker 3: cps to their house, and she was just trashing their
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  Speaker 3: name online. And it's like she and she just saying
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  Speaker 3: everyone had mental illness. She's like, you're mentally Unwow, they're
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  Speaker 3: they're mentally ill, They're mentally I saw the.
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  Speaker 2: Messages that she was I didn't see all of them,
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  Speaker 2: but I saw like snapshots of from US Weekly they
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  Speaker 2: had posted it and some of the comments. And when
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  Speaker 2: you are like that, she's manic and you're clearly you
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  Speaker 2: clearly have the problem.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she she is has a lot of problems and
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  Speaker 3: she cannot clearly see it. And I feel for her daughter,
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  Speaker 3: but obviously you can tell there's a lot of issues there.
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  Speaker 3: And the daughter like constantly is writing like, oh, I
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  Speaker 3: have the best mom in the world, because the mom
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  Speaker 3: lets her do whatever she wants. Every video that she
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  Speaker 3: says that on is her mom letting her get a
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  Speaker 3: piercing like on her butt cheek, and a piercing in
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  Speaker 3: her eyebrow and appiercing on her eyelash, you know, like
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  Speaker 3: or tattoos all over her body. Yeah, at a young age.
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  Speaker 3: And every time she makes a suppose, my mom's the
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  Speaker 3: best mom in the world. Yeah, of course she's gonna
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  Speaker 3: say that because her mom's letting her do this stuff
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  Speaker 3: at our young age, and she's excited in that moment.
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  Speaker 3: But it's still not taking away the trauma and the
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  Speaker 3: pain that this woman has inflicted on this child over
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  Speaker 3: these years. The mental you know, abuse, abuse, and the toxicity.
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  Speaker 3: It's just toxic. So ugh, I don't know. I guess
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  Speaker 3: it's still going on and we'll see how it pans out.
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  Speaker 3: Because uh, Farah has said that she's gonna sue the
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  Speaker 3: hairstylist for all this defamation. I feel like the hairstylist
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  Speaker 3: hopefully has all the text that she claims and that
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  Speaker 3: a lawyer or I mean or a judge would be like, yeah, like, no,
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  Speaker 3: you scammed her. You scammed her, Farah, and you are
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  Speaker 3: a scam artist.
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  Speaker 2: And on the show today we have Katie Wood. She
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  Speaker 2: is the author and founder of A Simple Seed. She
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  Speaker 2: has an amazing story and she's definitely trying to bring
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  Speaker 2: more positivity two parenting and two children's lives, which Farah
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  Speaker 2: could benefit from.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Pharah needs to buy that book and do it
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  Speaker 3: with her daughter and have her daughter fill it out
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  Speaker 3: because they need some healing there. And the daughter needs
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  Speaker 3: healing and Pharah needs healing because I know the way
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  Speaker 3: she access from trauma to from what went on in
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  Speaker 3: her youth and being in the limelight too at a
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  Speaker 3: young age and losing a boyfriend that young and the
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  Speaker 3: father of your child, so trauma's right there out in
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  Speaker 3: the open. You could see it in everything that she does.
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  Speaker 3: And unfortunately, trauma is like black mold and it spreads
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  Speaker 3: and it spreads, so they need they both need the help,
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  Speaker 3: I think to stop that from spreading.
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  Speaker 2: On the show today we have Katie wood A. She
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  Speaker 2: is the author of A Simple Seed, a five minute
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  Speaker 2: journal for growth, gratitude and goodness, and I thought she
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  Speaker 2: was perfect for the show because she went through a
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  Speaker 2: lot like my mom did with me in the hospital,
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  Speaker 2: her daughter was in the hospital, and I think it's
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  Speaker 2: just something that parents could really use, you know, like
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  Speaker 2: your mom when you were younger.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, having a sick child and having to go through that,
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  Speaker 3: that's it's a whole different world that you don't understand.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I haven't had to go through it, but
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  Speaker 3: I watched my mom go through it, and I watched
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  Speaker 3: her mom go through it. So I think we thought
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  Speaker 3: it was a good fit. And then me as a mom,
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  Speaker 3: I love the idea of the journal to connect with
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  Speaker 3: my children, So it was it was a perfect fit.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: So you went through an incredibly intense, scary time with
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  Speaker 2: your daughter's brain surgery. So what was going through your
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  Speaker 2: mind at that time and those moments and the uncertainty
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  Speaker 2: and what made you decide that you weren't going to
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  Speaker 2: let that situation define you and you wanted to do
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  Speaker 2: something about it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So, yeah, she was eight years ago.
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  Speaker 4: She was two at the time, and it was something
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  Speaker 4: called craniocinistosis, and it's when the sutures of your skull
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  Speaker 4: they fuse prematurely, not allowing your brain to grow. So
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  Speaker 4: it's a seven hour surgery ear to ear.
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  Speaker 1: Total reconstruction, bring you to the floor.
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  Speaker 4: And so from the time she was diagnosed to the
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  Speaker 4: times she had the surgery, I went to a very
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  Speaker 4: dark place, like my mind spiraled out of control, and
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  Speaker 4: I somewhat upon the power of a morning routine and
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  Speaker 4: how really started learning about the brain and how we
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  Speaker 4: hold this power and this ability to center yourself and
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  Speaker 4: set the tone for the day. So I started reading
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  Speaker 4: something positive, practicing gratitude, self talk, doing these science based
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  Speaker 4: tools that have been known to completely shift the way
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  Speaker 4: you think. And after doing that for about a month,
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  Speaker 4: it's not that that my dark, scary thoughts disappeared. The
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  Speaker 4: brain doesn't work that way. They're still there, but I
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  Speaker 4: had a heightened awareness and ability, do you know, turn
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  Speaker 4: the volume down and flip the script. And that's when
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  Speaker 4: I realized the power our minds hold and how you know,
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  Speaker 4: you have this opportunity to send yourself first thing in
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  Speaker 4: the day to set the tone, and it's pretty it's
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  Speaker 4: a pretty incredible tool.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, So that is so that at that point, that's
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  Speaker 3: when you're like, I want to have like a daily journal.
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  Speaker 3: Is that what inspired you to create a simple seed
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  Speaker 3: and to share it with others?
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  Speaker 1: Not quite then.
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  Speaker 4: So I had done the journal for about two years
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  Speaker 4: and then COVID hit and now here I am homeschooling
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  Speaker 4: three kids, uh, fifth grade and younger, and I'm nursing
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  Speaker 4: a newborn, just had a baby, and my husband's a paramedic,
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  Speaker 4: so he's like out in the COVID mess. And I
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  Speaker 4: was doing my morning routine early and my second daughter
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  Speaker 4: came down and whispered in my ear, like early one morning,
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  Speaker 4: and she's like, can you teach us how to do this?
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  Speaker 4: And that's when something went through me. I was like,
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  Speaker 4: how have I not taught you this power? So it's
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  Speaker 4: I'm a very big believer that life, so much of
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  Speaker 4: life is like this much ten percent. How you respond
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  Speaker 4: is everything, and if you can really teach your kids
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  Speaker 4: that they'll be able to handle whatever life throws at you.
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  Speaker 1: So we were already in a mass during.
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  Speaker 4: COVID, so I decided to spend two years of COVID
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  Speaker 4: creating this journal and gathered a thousand mom, dads and
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  Speaker 4: women's and asked, you know, mom, dad, parents, coaches, teachers,
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  Speaker 4: and I asked a question, if tomorrow's your last day,
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  Speaker 4: God forbid, what's the one thing you want your kid
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: to know? And that's how we came up with these
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: one hundred really powerful life lessons.
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  Speaker 3: That's amusing, Yeah, that is. And I come. My mom
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: passed away when I was seventeen years old, and I
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: think a journal like this would have been great for
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: just to get some of her knowledge and her feelings
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: and life lessons. And I think it's very important that
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: children learn, like what you said, to have gratitude for
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: things in life, life and to how to accept when
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: things go wrong. And that is not taught very well.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: It's kind of like from our generation, it was suck
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: it up right, suck it up right. Yeah, but to
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: feel the feelings and not let it affect you. Yeah,
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: I totally agree. And I think this is an amazing,
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: amazing idea.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: And what's one simple practice from the journal that can
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: truly shift a child's mindset? Yes?
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: So the journal encompasses.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: One hundred life lessons that I talked about, and then
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: there's a section for gratitude, so kids are writing down
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: three things they're grateful for. There's an i AM statement
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: where I really try to teach kids what follows, Your
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: i ams will come back and follow you, So you
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: really need that positive self talk. And then a little joke,
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: a reminder and whose day can I make better? But
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: I think what are the biggest things is gratitude. I
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: think giving your kids the gift of understanding gratitude, which
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: just simply a perspective shift. At the end of the day,
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: it's the strongest of all human emotions, and our brains
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: are wired for us to survive, not thrive. Right, it's
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: constantly scanning the world for what's wrong. It heightens, you know,
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: it magnifies negativity. It's negativity bias to keep us safe
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: and comfortable. So that's how we're actually created.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: And if we don't.
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: Understand that concept by default, you will always be noticing
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: the negatives. And when you practice gratitude and get in
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: the habit, you're simply telling your brain stop looking for
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: what's wrong and let me start seeing what's right. Because
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: right and wrong are both available. Without the work, your
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: default system is always going.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: To go to what's wrong.
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: And when kids are practicing gratitude, writing it down three
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: things every day, not only does it humble them, does it,
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: you know, allow them to see all the good in
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: their life but not take things for granted. And I
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: think I think gratitude is one of the best gifts
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: you can give your kids, is a habit to really
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: start understanding it and practicing it, I.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: Think it would lead to a happier future for them, right, definitely.
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: It's a struggle in my own home. On the very
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: I had a lot of gratitude for life. Just I
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: think it's people who've been through a lot I've noticed, correct,
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: you know, and I'm not going to call them out.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: But my husband came from a different lifestyle, didn't really
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: have a lot of anything go wrong, so when the
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: smallest thing goes wrong, it's a big deal. And to me, sure,
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: I've been through worse. So that's the constant battle in
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: my house is trying to teach my kids to be
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: grateful and not look at how Daddy's reacting to this
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: small situation. And it's just it's hard.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: It's hard. It's hard.
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: So you know what, there's an entry in here called
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: pick your heart, and I say this term all the
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: time in our life, Like studying is hard, but showing
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: up to your exam not prepared is hard. You know,
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: trying out for the play, it takes a lot of courage.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: That's hard.
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: Okay, Well, sitting watching that play wondering if you could
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: have been in is also hard.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: It's it's all hard.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: So a simple seed is titled a simple Seed because
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: it's simple to do, but it's simple to not do.
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: And if you don't do the hard things now with
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: your kids, I believe you're going to deal with the
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: hard things later. So it's it's just a matter of
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: when do you to me? It makes sense as when
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: they're young and their minds are open and they're like
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: a sponge and you are their number one influence from
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: zero to ten, and then it's shifts, there's a major shift.
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: So why not spend that time doing the work teaching
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: them this pouring into them so that these habits, because
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: we're simply a some of our habits stick with you
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: for the rest of your life.
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: Yet I wish, I wish it was easy, but I
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: mean it is easy. It's I wish that you can
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: have the support like I could have the support to
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: do that for my children. I'm hoping that I'm doing
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: enough and maybe this is the book I need to
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: help them learn to be more grateful in life. And yeah,
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: small stuff.
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I think as parents, we all want
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: the best for our kids. Right, It's probably the one
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: thing we all have in common is that we all
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: want the best.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: I just think we live in a world that's so busy,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: so quick.
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: We're always moving, We're always on to the next thing
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: that we're rarely pausing. We kind of parent in reactive
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: mode where this journal is created as a roadmap to
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: help teach all those lessons, practice, gratitude, all the habits.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: Really the science to happiness.
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: It's what it is to do that proactively, as opposed
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: to I mean, how many adults are in therapy. I'm
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: learning so many.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is so.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we could get not get to that point. Stop
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: it before we get to that point.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: Build positive habits, give them strong roots, festible, and I agree,
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: easier said than done, it's.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: Not it's it's it's.
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: Again simple to do, but it's also simple to not do. Life,
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: Mike is crazy, Life is busy. It's just making it
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: a priority.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, So I mean beating off of that as
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: a busy mom and a business owner right now, basically,
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: what's something that you still personally struggle with when it
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: comes to mindset and how do you work through that?
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: So I will say I do understand the brain very
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: well based on ten years of studying it, working on it,
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: living through the ups and downs. But that doesn't mean
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: I don't have hard days and hard moments one hundred percent.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: You're human, right, It's part of life.
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: I think the biggest thing is getting for me that
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: I struggle with. I get very overwhelmed trying to balance
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: it all of four kids that are very busy and
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: active in sports. My husband's a firemen and paramedic. He's
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: his schedules all over the place. There's just no certainty.
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: You're an entrepreneur, some months are this, some months are there.
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: You're an author, you're a speaker, like it's it's like
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: you're wearing one hundred different hats. And I think the
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: hardest part is really trying to balance it all. And yes,
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: I definitely get overwhelmed, but I thankfully do no.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: Tools of gratitude.
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: And pause and breathe that can bring me back before
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: I spiral.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: We don't know that.
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: You have your moments, and yeah.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: It's a lot we need to take less.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: I mean, we're all human. Listen, I snap, and we
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: do this journal.
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: My kids have done it a couple of times. We
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: have really a strong focus on it. And there's still
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: days that mornings are bad and I'm snapping and so
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: and so's being fresh and inappropriate.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: And it's again, I think it's not perfect parenting. I
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: think it's intentional parenting.
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: Right, And you don't want your kids to grow up
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: thinking mom is perfect, because then all of a sudden
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: their moms right, and they're thinking, how do my mom
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: always keep it together?
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: When I feel like snapping? Right? Like, you're human?
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: Everything's in the response, right, like you lose your mind or.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Well, then what do you do after to repair?
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: What do you do to kind of be like, all right,
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: mom's human? I lost my emotions, you know, I lost
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: my cool. Here's my apologies? Is what we do next time?
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: And for families going through chaos, stress and medical challenges,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: what is the very first step they can take today
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: to start creating a more calm and stable environment for
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: their home?
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah? I love that question. I mean I would.
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: I would say it's really understanding and knowing your morals,
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: your values.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: I look at so I look at.
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: Parenting like a business plan in a way where you
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: know you have your ideas, you have your kids, and
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: then you have to think, well, what's the end goal?
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: Right when they're eighteen and they go to college, I mean,
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: you're always a parent, but that is the moment where
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: you're like, gosh, I hope I did a good job, right,
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: You're on your own now, like I'm no longer, You're
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: not on my roof anymore.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: It's a big moment in parenting.
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: And so I always think of that moment of what
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: do I want to feel like when I'm sending them off?
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: And and do I want to feel like I gave
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: it my all, I did my best. Here are your wings,
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: time to fly. I hope you have the strong foundation
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: and roots. And then I work backwards like I know
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: what I want to end it like where I send
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: them off and then working backwards. So if that's what
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: I want, what are the steps I'm taking toward that?
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: And for me, the journal it is the roadmap to
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: doing that. It's lessons from you know self, talk to
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: it's always sunny above the clouds, Tomorrow's a new day.
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: The way you speak to yourself matters, don't quit on
• 27:07
  Speaker 4: a bad day, no respect, the power of yet, your thoughts, happiness,
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: like all the things we want to teach our kids.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: This book encompasses.
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: And I think it's doing it and then having those conversations.
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: I think I think that's lost today. Probably the most
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: is like we're all craving connection, and the journal has
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: questions of parent perspective where the parent gets to chime
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: in and share their perspective their stories. And I think
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: it's just teaching the strong roots and morals.
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think and simple little changes. And I'm
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: actually giving my husband credit for this. Recently he saw
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: something online about how kids and parents aren't talking anymore
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: at the dinner table or they're on a tablet or something.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: So every night at dinner for the past i'd say
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: two months, he asked my son and my daughter, what
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: was the best part of your day? Yeah, the worst
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: part of your day? What was the funniest part of
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: your day? And my four year olds she's finally get
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: in it, and you know, now she has good answers,
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: you know. But I love it. And I think it's
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: it's opening that conversation and it's showing them like what
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: what part of the day that they loved and what
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: was what was hard for them so that we could
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: talk about it. And I think that parents need to
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: bring back that the conversations and talking to them.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: You don't allow tablets or phones.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: No, no, but I feel like during the day when
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: you're when your kids are home, a lot of times
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: the kids are in the room on a gaming system
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: or they're on their tablet and you're not really having
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: that one on one talking with them, you know. So
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: this has been really great and I love doing it
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: every night with the kids. So I think these small
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: steps like that could just lead to more and more.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: And you know what, yeah, I couldn't agree.
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: I couldn't even like this is a you know, created
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: like thinking mornings, setting kids up for the day. It
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: doesn't have to be done the morning. This you could
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: do one entry at dinner and and.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: You know story, I always go back to that. I love.
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: I think the questions you ask repeatedly are very important
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: because they and I love that you do that because
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: they kind of exemplify what you value, right Like so
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: Sarah Blakely, the creator of Spanks, It's one of my
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: favorite stories. Every night her dad asked one question at
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: dinner to her sister or to her and her brother,
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: and the one question was, tell me how you failed today.
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: Tell me how you failed today, Tell me how you
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: failed today. And every day they had to go out
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: and do something hard and if they failed, they would
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: they'd share that story at dinner, and it really programmed
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: her brain that failure is just data. It's just a
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: way to figure things out and keep going. So she
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: didn't fear it. Sure enough, fast forward to creating spanks
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: and one of the biggest businesses in the world. You
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: don't do that unless your mindset is I'm not afraid
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: of failure, it's data. How do I keep going? Because
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: most people want to quit at failure again, because the
• 30:08
  Speaker 4: brain is wired to keep you safe, comfortable, and alive,
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: and when you fail, it'll it's like alert, Alert, stop
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: what you're doing.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: And so though that I love that you're doing that.
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: Those simple questions, they they matter and there they make
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: a difference.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: I got chills when you said that because it really
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: resonated and that that's you don't think of that like
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: where I thought you'd think it would be a negative question,
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: but it's not.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: It's reframing it.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's great because then it's showing that everyone
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: fails and happens every day in the littlest way it
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: could happen. So that that's what I'm gonna I'm gonna
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: use that. Thank you for that story.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, Sarah Blakely.
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: It's her story and I love that she if you
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: look it up, she'll share it and it's it led
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: her to where she is today, which is a mindset shift.
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: So much of life is mental and unless you know,
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: you're actually working on the mind. Again, the default setting
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: is negativity bias, and that's created that way, so it
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: keeps the brain's functions to keep us alive and safe.
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: But you don't get very far in that mode.
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: No, no, So where can our listeners find your book
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: or get your book?
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: So the journal is available under our website, Growthgodness dot
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: Com or Amazon, Target, Walmart. Penguin actually acquired it and
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: we actually have a couple of versions. So Penguin acquired
• 31:32
  Speaker 4: this one. This is for schools, so a simple seed
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: for schools. We're in about three hundred schools helping kids
• 31:41
  Speaker 4: shift the way they start their day instead of what's
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: the weather and the word of the day, which is
• 31:45
  Speaker 4: probably how we grew up. I mean that's how I
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: grew up. And I'm like, I'm already dressed. Why were
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: we talking about the weather. It always confused me, Like
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: taking those five minutes to pour into your minds and
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: sending yourself and be more, you know, improve your cognitive
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: function because your brain's in the right place. So that's
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: the school edition. And then my sister and I just
• 32:05
  Speaker 4: finished it's called bet on You.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: This is for higher level athletes of really learning the
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: mental game.
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: We've worked with a lot of colleges tm USA players
• 32:15
  Speaker 4: of the mind as an athlete, which is pressure at
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: its finest.
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: That's amazing. Well, we love talking with you and this
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: has been I've taken a lot from this, so I'm
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: going to bring that home and utilize it and get
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: the book and all.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, You're welcome.
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: This is amazing and you were placed on this earth
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: for a reason and that's to get this message out.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: And that's the show for this week. Thank you so
• 32:43
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