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How I Got My Life Back Before My Anxiety Symptoms Left · Bye Bye Panic

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  [SPEAKER_00]: If there is one thing, I am begging you to stop doing on your healing journey of overcoming chronic symptoms, panic and anxiety, is to stop treating yourself as broken.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your symptoms will try to convince you that you're broken and that there's nothing you can do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Doctors will say it's a chemical imbalance, therapists will say it's genetic, but after my own healing journey, I will tell you none of this is true.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And after helping thousands of people heal their symptoms, here's what I've actually found.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Healing comes from within.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, if you don't believe me, stick around, because I will share with you why everything you have tried has not worked, why you're not actually broken and what framework you need to help you heal these symptoms for good.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number one, the big lie you've been sold by the health industry.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first thing we need to understand is why are you even dealing with this and why is everything you have tried not worked?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When I was dealing with intense physical symptoms, the panic attacks, the anxiety, I was convinced that there was something medically wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But I went, and the doctors didn't really seem to do much.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your doctor might just say,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, there's nothing in here that's telling me that there's something wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Go ahead and give yourself some more time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so once I exhausted the medical model, I went to doctor after doctor trying to figure out what was going on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I went to alternative therapy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I went to functional medicine.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I tried diets.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I tried all these different alternative practitioners thinking, well, if the doctor doesn't have an answer, maybe these alternative practitioners do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was told by therapists that there was some hidden trauma and that I'm going to need therapy forever or that I just needed something external because inherently I was broken.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when I heard that, I just felt so defeated.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: On one hand, the doctor said there's not much you can do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They just gave me some meds saying this will kind of help.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I went to alternative medicine and they were like, hey, you need this external thing to fix you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and it was very easy for me to think that there was something internally wrong with me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I looked at all these things as a savior.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I would try supplement, it didn't work, so then I would go find the next thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And each time I would do it, thinking that this will be my savior, this will fix me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, if you're experiencing a similar story, I want you to know that these things not working wasn't because you're broken in some way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What's actually happening with conventional medicine, functional medicine, therapy supplements, just the wellness culture at large is that the vast majority of the approaches share
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  [SPEAKER_00]: one fundamental business assumption and that assumption is the only way to help you is to sell you something outside of yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So basically there's something wrong with you or you feel like you're broken or you need healing while healing comes from outside.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Many practitioners want to help you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But you have to understand that the system that they operate around is structure around a simple economic reality, which is the only way they can help you is by selling you something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If healing came from within, well then what's there to sell you?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If recovery comes from within you, well,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's not much that they can do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, these things that they sell you, whether it supplements or whether it's breathing exercise or whatever it is that they sell you, these things can help on the healing journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But what happens is that when we're dealing with intense symptoms, we feel like these are the things that are gonna save us, that are gonna fix us, that are gonna cure us.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Nobody has really taken the time to tell you that look, these things can help, but recovery does come from within.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is a missing piece.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I see in so many people's healing journey, because when they're desperately trying to find answers, they're looking for solutions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But you're almost ignoring the elephant of the room, which is your own active participation in the healing journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That your recovery journey actually comes from within.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: all of these external things can help you on the journey, but there's nothing inherently broken within you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, even understanding this, it's natural to think, yeah, Sean, but these symptoms are just too intense.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, this is definitely happening to me and I feel completely helpless in what's going on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so this leads me to point number two, which is the shift.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Specifically, I want to help you shift from this concept of this is happening to me, to healing is something I participate in.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: they feel like these things are happening to me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And we all felt like that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when we don't understand what's happening, it's very natural to feel that way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is where people develop what I call learned helplessness because you try to fix it and you feel like you have no control.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You just feel helpless.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the frame is to me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: which is this is happening to me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now what's interesting about this to me energy is when you think this way or where you feel this way, well, anxiety is a natural consequence, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because you're basically living life, bracing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, anxiety is going to be a natural emotion that comes with this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what I'm saying to you in this video is you don't need to fix yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so the framework I want you to look at what's going on is that I want you to shift from this linear perspective to a circular perspective.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Here's what I mean.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: People view healing or dealing with symptoms in a linear fashion.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So what this means is that you have a symptom.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say it's digestive issues.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say it's positive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say it's anxiety.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say it's panic.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It flares up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It shows up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It gets really intense.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What do you do?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, you pause your life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You go into panic mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You go into management mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to fix it mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to assurance-seeking mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what happens is that you have a symptom and you naturally react.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: From a time perspective, this is linear.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A symptom comes and you react.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Cause and effect.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so your response has nothing to do with the symptom.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The symptom is already here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is what we call a linear approach.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is what everybody that's stuck in the cycle does.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to change that approach from looking at it from a linear approach to what we call a circular approach.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Healing is actually a cyclical process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A symptom comes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's already here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's built up the inertia.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system is already become sensitized.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system is on protection mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So you're gonna be dealing with these intense symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what happens is that you react.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now there's two ways of reacting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can react in panic or you can respond.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can recognize what the symptom is, it's just your nervous system being sensitized and you can choose to let it be there without fixing it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is also a response.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So here's what happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Based on how you react, it goes back to the symptom.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So it becomes a cyclical process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your response influences the symptom coming back next time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So think about it this way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The symptom is coming.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of inertia at your nervous system is sensitized.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to take time for it to desensitize.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Think about it as you can press on the gas pedal, but there is no break.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can make your nervous system more sensitized, but in order to desensitize it, you can't press the break.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You just have to let go of the accelerator.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you let go of the accelerator, you're still moving forward.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so, the symptoms still showing up, even after you've let go of the accelerator, is still the inertia, it's still the moving forward.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what happens is that you have a symptom, if you choose to respond, let it be.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Practice the alarm method, teach yourself, teach your nervous system that there is no threat.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What happens is that that reinforces the symptom next time and it prevents the symptom from showing up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So what you do is that a symptom comes, you don't react, your nervous system gets the cue, that, hey, shons that reacting here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe this is a false alarm.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what your nervous system is gonna do is to try to do a few more times.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The symptom is gonna show up and you're gonna still respond.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And over time, the nervous system is gonna say, hey,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's nothing to fear, Sean doesn't react, and nothing bad happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe we're too much on high alert.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's go ahead and turn the volume knob down.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So let's reduce the nervous system sensitization.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's help the nervous system de-sensitize a bit.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So we're gonna turn the volume knob down.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What this does is that it helps the nervous system adjust on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what people do is that they look at healing as like this linear process, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A symptom comes, it's already here, there's nothing to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so you react, but if you can zoom out a bit and recognize that your reaction right now influences whether you move towards the healing journey or move away from the healing journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And another practical example you can utilize and you can see this for yourself is,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Imagine a time you were very, very, very angry.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You were very upset.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say you were mad at somebody.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you are mad and you're mad at somebody, don't you feel that if I could just show my rage and show my anger, I will feel better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Right, you have this pent up energy, you just want to react and you just want to lash at that person.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so you do lash at that person.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thinking it makes you feel better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I want to ask you what happens to that argument does the fight end up escalating or de-escalating?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You will notice, if you are in the heat of the moment,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and B, it always escalates the argument.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It always escalates the fight.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's because you're coming from an activated state.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the same thing with the anxiety, with the chronic symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If the symptoms are there and you feel like reacting and panic and fear and frustration helps, you will notice it actually fuels the cycle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It perpetuates it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I'm not saying bottle it up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's a process of feeling the anger, but not reacting to it, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can feel the anger and not lash at somebody, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can feel anger, but not punch somebody in the face, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so in the same way, you can feel the anxiety, you can feel the panic, you can feel the chronic symptoms,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and just choose to respond, continue to live your life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, why is this so important?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, the reason why I'm sharing this with you is because anytime you try to get external help,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We never go through this, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So like if you were trying to get a supplement or you're trying a reading a book or trying something like that will fix these symptoms, whatever it is, well, this part of the healing journey is never explained because, well, that's an internal process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so society doesn't teach you this internal process because again, where's the economics in that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And we're doing everything that we're told to do and we're not feeling better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and it's because there is an internal process too that hasn't been accounted for.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We don't learn how to respond in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even if we try to go to therapy a lot of times, this is such a specialized topic that sometimes therapists are
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  [SPEAKER_00]: a little bit more in the generalist world, not really addressing the response of what's happening right now, not helping you understand the mechanics of anxiety and these chronic symptoms and how your nervous system plays a factor in this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, as you begin to respond and do this, you're going to notice something very important and that leads me to number three in the most important point, which is taking responsibility over your recovery.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll naturally notice on this journey that you will focus on the things you don't have.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: People don't kind of focus on what they don't have.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll hear some people say, hey, you know, what about people my age?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know anybody that's healed from my age.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Or I feel like I can't heal because of XYZ.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I have an external circumstance that's preventing me from healing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so we look at it as like the things that we
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  [SPEAKER_00]: is about learning to take responsibility over your healing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And all these tools, whether it's breathing exercises, supplements, these are there to help you on the healing journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But it's not a replacement for your own responsibility.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: One word stuck in this to me energy, it's very natural for us to find a savior or find someone to fix us.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes it sounds like a nice narrative, but
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The reality is, is that, sure, there might be something that really does help you on the healing journey, but don't downplay the fact that when you do heal, it was thanks to you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You did the work.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So, a big part of the recovery journey is learning to understand what is in my control and what can I do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I call this taking responsibility over your healing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, people have a difficult time with the term responsibility because people equate responsibility to blame.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They say, oh, okay, if I'm responsible, that means it's my fault.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Responsibility just means, who has the keys to my recovery?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I am taking responsibility.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's what you want, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If someone was to say, do you want recovery to come from outside or inward?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You would say if I had a choice, it'd be inward.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well taking responsibility is the first step in healing internally.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Taking responsibility over things also helps you not just with these symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But in other situations in life as well, okay, well, what do I have power over?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What can I respond to?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Responsibility is just the ability to respond.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Can I respond in this moment?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do I have a choice?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you shift from looking from something external and start becoming an active participant and taking responsibility over your healing, that's where you'll find solutions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay to get help.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay to get guidance.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But even if you do get the guidance, even if you do find the thing that helps you on the healing journey, don't downplay the fact that you were the one that did the work.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so to remember that healing comes from within, we think the answer is the next diagnosis, the next protocol, the next treatment, and that you've genuinely lost touch with the question that actually matters.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: what is in my control right now?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What can I actually do?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is the most empowering feeling.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That makes you sovereign in the healing journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't make you subordinate to the symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You start recognizing that healing comes from within.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: An athlete will take full responsibility over their performance, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Nobody is going to run the race with them, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Nobody can do the training in their body.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The results are entirely theirs.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And yet, the best athletes in the world have coaches, guides, mentors that are helping them on the process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's what genuine support looks like in the recovery journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's having people guide you through the process, healing always came from within.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: No matter how out of control or helpless you might feel, recovery does come from within, and one day or another, you will recognize,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that recovery came from within and it was all thanks to you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for watching, thanks for watching and I'll see you in the next one.