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Don't Partner with Dread: How to Handle Busy Seasons without being stressed · The Habit Lab

• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: We all have areas in our life we might feel stuck or overwhelmed.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: So join me, Jenna Zint, habit coach, teacher, and follower of Jesus, as we go after little bits of better by building offensively small habits that create big impact.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: This is the Habit Lab Podcast.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Habit Lab.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: This is Jenna Zint.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: And today we're gonna talk about.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: I was trying to think, I was like, I should have actually thought through the title of this one first.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: Who knows?
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's a it's a gamble.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: No, kidding.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: I have notes.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: I just hadn't thought through the title until that very moment when I was like, should have waited a second to press record.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but let me let me give you the backstory first.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: Is we this our fall and our spring end up being really full.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: We usually have like a two-month period in the spring and the fall that are just nuts, bananas, because we teach a ton.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: We teach a ton of things personally in our, you know, like I do courses and then we teach a good chunk of stuff at our church too.
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: And they end up kind of falling together.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: And now one of the things I've I've come to think about those seasons as like semesters, like professors.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: So then instead of feeling dread or overwhelm, or even shame or guilt when they pop up, knowing that they're very seasonal, and that then I can trust myself, and we have done this long enough to recalibrate when um it shifts that it's not forever.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so it's I've been able to like, man, even a few years ago when they would pop up, I'd be like, I would literally get like panic in my chest.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, and then I'd feel it was funny because I'd feel overwhelmed and stress and then dread about the the the pace or all of it, the season.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: And then I would um what was I gonna say?
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'd start to feel shame and guilt, which is so funny because I would be like, I should know better.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: We're we're just like everybody else in the culture, you know, the secular culture, um, of being overwhelmed and too busy and overworked and out of touch of our core values and just reacting to the urgency of life, and we're not controlling, we're not driving our lives, we're just you know, consumers to the busy.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: We there's this phrase, we're we're um enslaved to the tyranny of the urgency.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's Stephen Covey that says something like that.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I would just go shame myself.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I'd feel dreaded and overwhelmed, and then I'd shame myself, and I'm like, oh my gosh, I feel shame about my shame.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: And it would just spiral.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: It was just negative.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: So finally, as I was assessing, because I I seasonally have this little habit where I look at my seasons, so literally fall, winter, spring, summer, and I assess, like I sit with the Lord and ask, like, what's the purpose of my season?
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: And then I like recalibrate my habits to match so that I'm not like winging it.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm actually living out of purpose and alignment with what I feel like the Lord's doing.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like my life is submitted.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not just building or doing my own thing that sounds fun.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: I actually am like hearing from the Lord, adjusting my life to be obedient with what he's doing, um, which has actually been really sweet.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: Doesn't feel like this obedient control thing.
• 4:14
  SPEAKER_00: It actually feels like this tender, um, oh I feel a little tender.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I actually want to be doing what you're doing because your ideas are so much better than my ideas.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: Not like a I'm afraid of being out of alignment with the Lord or He'll punish me.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like that, like juvenile mindset.
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_00: Praise the Lord, I've outgrown that and like experience his kindness in his direction that his plans are always better than my plans, you know?
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: They're different, they're surprise twists, but he has enough of a track, I like have uh he has enough of a track record that I'm like, oh, I can trust you, even if they're so left turn.
• 4:44
  SPEAKER_00: And uh this season we were, I mean, there's most of my seasons, actually, at least annually.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: There's one or two seasons that when I sit down, the word is so left turn of what I would have thought.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but then it's been beautiful, and I'm actually in a season of reaping the fruit of some left turns from a couple like three years ago that now our whole church is doing it.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh my gosh, if I hadn't sat and heard the Lord's yes, I would have missed this invitation.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_00: And now I'm like part of the like I was a forerunner, but not because of my own two cents, just because I was like, hey, Holy Spirit, what do you want us to do?
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: So that has been huge for me.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: So that being said, going back to these two busy little chunks of our lives, um, one of the things I realized is that I don't need to feel shame because they're per they're they align with the yeses.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe in a future year, you know, like it won't be what we're meant to do.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: But for now, when I get a yes from the Lord, then feeling shame or guilt about what we're doing literally doesn't make sense.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, okay, there's gotta be.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: So then I shift to there has to be a grace for it.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: So I just wouldn't know what to do with the dread and overwhelm.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: So if I I lost the guilt, I grew out of it.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: I remember reminded myself that I'm actually following the Lord's will.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not, you know, I so there's goodness here, and there's has to be a grace for how I'm experiencing.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: So the things that have really shifted, and I noticed, you know, when you um, you know, when you were a little kid and you'd go to your grandma's house and they'd you'd butt, you know, like you'd inch your way back up to the wall with your back to the wall so your grandma could draw on the wall where your head was, so you and then you'd walk away and you'd see how much you'd grown since the last time she traced your height, you know.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: Rosie, Rose, my kids took, they're such little leaders, they took it upon themselves to start doing that in Rosie's room on the back of her door.
• 6:21
  SPEAKER_00: So uh, oh, and then on a bookshelf.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: I think they know they weren't allowed to write on their walls, but this felt like legal.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: So they've I think Audrey's the only one that well, she and Rosie shared a room, so I think they both did that.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: So they both have taken it upon themselves to track their height by drawing on the walls because it was the loophole for what's legal.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just giggling as I'm thinking through this.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but anyways, so that analogy why brings me to this episode of we just had we're in the thick of that season for us, like teaching, I can't I think we're teaching three times live a week, plus all my normal life coaching, plus I'm um hosting my kids' talent show at their school, which was way more work than I thought.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: But um this weekend we had three events.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: We were hosting a small group or a home group of like 15 people, then we were hosting a family, two families that are friends who have large families, so it was like, man, they have five kids and four kids, and then yeah, so just between the three of our families, it was like 20 burgers or something like that.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: And then the next day, I was hosting Rosie's little girls discipleship group.
• 7:26
  SPEAKER_00: Rosie's joined one, and I was it's pretty elaborate.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: It's like a two-hour lesson with a Bible plan and all the things.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_00: So it was a lot.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: It was Friday, Saturday, Sunday in the middle of us having no extra time.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: And it what was so cool is watching my growth from years past when I'd be overwhelmed or dreading.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: And then usually the fruit of that, when I would get stressed out from our life, dread and overwhelmed are kind of like the combo of what I think of as stress.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: I would break connection, I would rage clean, I'd be unkind, I'd look for all the evidence of how Aaron wasn't helping me.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: I would start to see my kids as like entitled and like they expect, and you know, like they're not helping me and um kind of not helping me, but like don't know how to pitch in.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't taught them worth work ethic, all those things would pop out out of stress.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_00: And then I'd break connection and it would be so counterintuitive being like, I'm doing things for these for us, but because I haven't managed to learn how to manage my own stress, dread, and overwhelm, it's disconnecting.
• 8:22
  SPEAKER_00: This I think this is actually taking from us because mom can't figure out how to manage herself in a way that it doesn't break connections.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: This is actually a catch 22.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I just want to point out that uh it took me a bit, but I own that it was a me thing where sometimes I hear women just point the finger about blame of well, my husband wasn't helping.
• 8:42
  SPEAKER_00: Well, my kids are entitled.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, hey, hey, hey, that might be true, but you actually won't find your own breakthrough until you own your trigger and like your own when this happens, this is how I behave.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: Versus, of course, like justifying it by people's own other people.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like, hey, just own you, own you.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: That's actually we're gonna find a ton of breakthrough.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so anyways, was like, okay, I gotta figure this out because when mom stressed, I did not want to break mow down anyone's in my path for connection because we're doing this for the family.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm laughing because I know you can relate.
• 9:14
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, so, anyways, the testimony is that this weekend I did it all while in the middle of teaching all the courses and like so many extra things and the talent show emails and whatever, and I was not stressed, I was not overwhelmed, and I did not dread it.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I realized I was just gonna break it down a little bit.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: I have one of my first steps when I'm looking at my calendar and it's a full week, or we have a lot coming up, or it's gonna require a lot of work.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: My very first step is that like I'll actually notice anxiousness, like kind of stress coming into my body.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I think the point isn't that they're not gonna pop up.
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: It's just that's my cue that I need to start like activating.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: I was like uh thinking of a superhero.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_00: Activate go-go gadget arms.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: Does any any 90s children remember that cartoon?
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, that clue, the physical response in my body, or when I start, that's the physical that's one thing that I notice.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: My other tell when overwhelm and dread and and stress is starting to creep up um and like flood my nervous system, is when I with my words.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe if I don't catch my physical cue, if I start noticing how everybody else is not helping me, and the story I'm telling myself is I'm alone in my efforts, I'm like, oh, oh, oh, oh, we're getting flooded with stress and dread and and overwhelm.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, oh, oh.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: So those two cues are my first tells, I would say.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: But then my really simple, I think of it almost like an anti-habit, is I think I I literally loop on the thought, oh, dread's trying to creep in when I look at my schedule, oh, it's gonna be a big week.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, like this dread.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I just simply remind myself, we don't partner with dread.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_00: Remember?
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: We don't, we just do not partner with dread.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: And what that doesn't do, y'all, is magically be like, poof, no more dread, no more stress.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_00: You're right.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: Who knows how it's gonna happen?
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: All the groceries and burger patties are gonna get made, but we don't partner with dread.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: No, that's not what happens.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: It just stops, it's like the e-break to stopping the car going 10,000 miles an hour.
• 11:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, whoa, whoa, whoa.
• 11:11
  SPEAKER_00: We have to manage us, is kind of like what it cues in my brain when I feel overwhelmed or stressed, or when I start thinking thoughts that I realize these are my cues that you're overwhelmed and stressed.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: Stop pointing the finger, start getting curious about your own triggers.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then, anyways, this is why I'm talking to myself.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not trying to sound sassy to y'all.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: Uh then when I like when I say, okay, we don't partner with dread.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: Well, my I'm gonna be honest, my internal world is like, why not?
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: This week is dreadful.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, ooh, okay.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: Even the tone of the voice means we probably shouldn't be listening to that source.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: That sounds like a lot of fear.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: That does not sound like the kingdom is behind that voice actor.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: I would doubt, I'd bet that voice actor is coming from another kingdom than the one we're, you know, trying to serve.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, anyways, but then the next thought that I have is like when we don't partner with dread, I remind myself why.
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's not a bad, bad Jenna, bad Jenna, don't go to fear.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: It's like a, oh no, remember the reason we don't partner with dread is I think of dread like if everything I have to do this week, like on my calendar is in a bucket.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: Dread is like poking holes in my bucket.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: I have to do the stuff on my calendar.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, at this point, it's like, you know, non-negotiable things, but if I do it while partnering with dread, I am the only one who loses.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm just losing valuable energy.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: So then I remind myself, hey, it's not because you're a terrible human for feeling stressed at a full calendar.
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_00: It's just dread's a liar.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: Dread tries to blow out dread really actually just like blows up the cost and it for it like leaves out, it conveniently leaves out the fruit of the event.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like very lopsided in its perspective.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna have to cook so much, you're gonna have to, you don't even have time.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: When's the 30 minutes?
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna chunk out cleaning your house between all the things you have to do.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like we were teaching courses at night and then coming back and I was doing slideshows to 1 a.m.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, And Dred was like, I'm like, oh yeah, wait a minute, wait a minute, like that's just a bit of the cost.
• 13:11
  SPEAKER_00: The other reality is like we have been dreaming about, I have to remind myself about the fruit because Dredd wants to narrow my vision down just to the cost.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, why do you remember why these things are on your calendar?
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: And then I'll actually make the habit of going through and reminding myself of the purpose and why I said yes to everything because it's like this, it's like not allowing the lopsidedness perspective to win.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I like forcefully recalibrate.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: You've actually been dreaming about having um being able to have like a ministry moment or connection with a bunch of the young married people in your church for years because you love that you know them through the premarried dating phase in your ministry for a decade.
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_00: So now being able to invest in their young marriages, like, well, this is actually a dream come true for you.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: Dred's trying to tell you that is just cost and bad, but this is actually a really significant special dream come true.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes, there is a cost, but the cost is not the full picture, sweet girl.
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_00: And then the next one was the people coming over for dinner, and I'm gonna have to make a ton of hamburger patties, and it's gonna be chaotic.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: So Dredd's like, uh, and then the next day you're working in the morning doing coaching, and then you have a birthday party, and then you have these people coming over, and then Dred's like, the hamburger patties, the hamburger patties, and then I remind myself of the fruit.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Yeah, that's true.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_00: And also, these are really funny, hilarious people that you've been wanting to connect with for a year, and you are really excited about seeing them.
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I bet if you don't have all the hamburger patties, because I I listen to what Dred's like clueing in on and I actually address those things, I bet they would help you form some of the hamburger patties.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_00: I bet because they have so many kids that if your house isn't as clean as a normal place would be, like your normal expectations, I bet if anybody would understand, it would be them.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: I bet you're gonna have a ton of fun and actually laugh a ton, and then your kids are gonna have a blast.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I just slowly recalibrate the whole picture for me, where you know, like dread just tries to zoom in on the cost.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I did that for the girls' group too.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it was just stunning where slowly it dissipates.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't try to strong arm myself into terrible Christian, dread's popping up.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: I just remind myself of the full picture, and it's so helpful.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: And then um, then overwhelm is the other thing I have to address.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm like, okay, I won't dread my calendar because they're actually fun things, but then I'm overwhelmed.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, how am I gonna pull this off?
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_00: Now I'm overwhelmed at the cost.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how, how?
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: And uh imagine how chaotic and late night and stress it's gonna be.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then I'm like, oh, oh, oh, oh, overwhelm does that.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: And then overwhelm freezes.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: And then ironically, when you're I freeze and overwhelm because I'm just listening to stress paint a very chaotic picture.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: I miss windows that I could actually plan and chunk these things out to make them so doable.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: So then I have to, my after I don't partner with Dread, I and then look at overwhelm.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, hey, actually, you've got some habits and time management, and you're actually strategic and you're looking at this on Sunday.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: I bet you could chunk out a bunch of the things you're thinking about and do it so that you're not overwhelmed day of.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: I bet it doesn't have to be last minute.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_00: I bet it doesn't have to be as stressful.
• 16:15
  SPEAKER_00: You for you're forgetting how you have learned to plan.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: I also am in the middle of my time management course, so feel more aware of that, but you have some really legit skills that could help this not feel overwhelming.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: So instead of freeze or letting fear paint the picture, why don't you get some of your toolboxes out and start practically plugging away at this so that you can experience like some of that peace.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to just imagine the peace, you can actually experience some of the peace when you plan ahead that prevents the chaos.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: Huh.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like it sounds like you're you're rehearsing the worst case scenarios versus looking at their objections, like dread and overwhelms objections, and then giving like real life, hey, I hear you, but here are here's what we do about those.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: So what what was the testimony is that this this what do you call it semester of our busy, and then specifically this weekend of then adding three back-to-back things hosting in the middle of the busy, I did not partner with dread.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: I did not partner with stress.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: It does not mean they don't pop up, like again, clarifying, or that I was a perfect mom and was never curt or rude to Aaron.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: Like I had to advocate for him on in my behalf.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: I had to manage myself.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I did.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: But the testimony was like, oh my gosh, dread, I've now have enough anti-habits included into the cues in my body and in my thoughts when dread and overwhelm are trying to steal from me, and then purposely remind myself, like, hey, overwhelm, like, there's actually strategies we have.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, dread, you're not helpful.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: We don't partner with you.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: Here else, here is what else is true.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: So just little tips for when you notice stress, stress kind trying to come in, not partnering, like literal strategies on how to not partner with dread and overwhelm, so that you can.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: It's almost like the beautiful parts of our what's on our life in our calendar get stolen from us.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like we're gonna still do it, but now there's holes, it's harder because there's holes in our buckets when we dread.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: And then um, we're usually not as present when we are overwhelmed or frozen to enjoy them versus like, oh, I can be so present when I plan ahead because I'm not chaotic.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope that helps with your anti-habits of how to not partner with some dread and stress.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I did write, I did write a cute little thing.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um dread forgets the purpose because it kind of, like I said, remember, it blows out the cost and how makes me forget the fruit.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: And then stress forgets my own agency, which what I would mean is like, hey, it doesn't actually have to be stressful.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: You have planning habits, you have time management habits and tools that you can like chunk this out into elephant, you know, bite-sized bits where you grocery shop all at once, where you did your floors Friday morning, and then you did laundry Saturday morning, and you swept just briefly after Friday night, and it was still clean enough for Saturday.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: You know, like it's like goes back to the agency of you can do something about this.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_00: You're not overwhelmed.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: You actually have enough time to plan ahead.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: And there's so much peace when we do that.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_00: So sometimes it just makes the things that we're doing that are productive and with purpose.
• 19:17
  SPEAKER_00: We just have to pause long enough to do the thought work to not let our thoughts run away with us as our bodies are full of action, if that makes sense.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_00: Just a little bit of intentionality around the thought work there.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I hope you guys have the best week.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope it is something if there's busyness in your life and dread and overwhelm try to pop up, you would just try practicing, remembering the purpose and the fruit, not just the cost.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: And then you'd also remind yourself there's so much peace you can find when you can choose how you're gonna, with your time management habits, how you can actually tackle what's on your calendar versus just being frozen and overwhelmed.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: Have the best week.