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Working Toward Common Goals Strengthens Your Marriage · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for August 20, 2026 Working Towards Common Goals Strengthens
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  Your Marriage One good way to improve the two becoming one in your marriage
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  is to work on a shared vision.
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  When you're both working towards the same goal, things start to line up.
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  Rather than trying to align preferences, you're uniting on a purpose.
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  Sometimes life gives you a common goal. If you have children,
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  raising them to be functional, decent adults should be something you both want.
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  The potential issue with this is you may have different ideas about how to raise
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  your children The solution is to focus on the goal Who do you want your children to become?
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  What do you think is important for them to know or have? Things such as a good
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  work ethic or being able to think for themselves are pretty easy to agree on
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  Something like a love of reading is fine, but it may be more about wanting them to be like you,
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  Wanting them to be a football star or to love dance is trying to set their preferences,
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  which is never a good plan,
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  Be it your child, a ministry, or where you want to live, work on getting to the same goal.
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  This will require some give and take. Identify what is a strong desire and what
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  is a weak preference, and work to hit the strongest ones.
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  Also discuss how realistic each
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  thing is and what it would take to make it happen. And, of course, pray.
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  Once you have a common goal, then start discussing how to get from where you are to that goal.
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  This is where your thoughts about how to do something can clash.
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  See your spouse's way as different, not wrong.
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  Discuss the merits and potential difficulties.
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  Perhaps try one way, holding the other in reserve for the first attempt does not work well.
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  Even better, look for a third alternative that is better than either or acceptable to both of you.
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  Also, seek advice. When Lori and I decided to travel by RV, we sat with friends
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  who had done it and learned everything we could from them.
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  I'm a big fan of learning what to do and what not to do from those who have
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  been where I want to go and done what I want to do.
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  Exposing your plans and theories to experience and reality will result in good
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  changes, if you are open to that Do this early, before you set on a plan that
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  may not be the best option This is Paul, and a shared vision is doing marriage well.