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How to Maximize Your Energy 5/7: Drive with Purpose — Finish Lines Are for the Intentional #FinishStrongFriday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Greetings and welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: You did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You got to Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, you didn't just get to Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what you did.
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  SPEAKER_00: You got to finish Strong Friday here on the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because around these parts, we don't just say TGIF.
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  SPEAKER_00: We say Finish Strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, my friends, I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, you're in the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, you're gonna have the best Friday ever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we are in an amazing series here where we're unpacking a wonderful book, an amazing book, an extraordinary book, a book that we've been calling the Energy Bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, written by John Gordon.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we've been unpacking it here where science, soul, and success come together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here on the sweet spot, we say science fuels the finish.
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  SPEAKER_00: Soul finds the purpose, and success belongs to those who don't stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: I made that up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I made that up for this particular episode because this episode, sweet spotters, is the day five of our series on the energy bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been unpacking John Gordon's classic book, One Rule at a Time, One Day at a Time here, and we've been saying that seven days, in seven days, we're gonna change how we drive because we have been on the energy bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh yes, we have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today, Friday, we arrive at the rule because we've been looking at rules now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, this whole thing started on Monday with this dude George that gets on this bus because his life is a mess, his car breaks down, he gets on this bus, he meets this woman, her name just happens to be guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Joy, even though he's having a horrible time, and she gives him these rules, these 10 rules that are gonna change how he looks at life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we have been co-drivers on this bus, really taking in the rules to help ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're at rule nine today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you believe it?
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  SPEAKER_00: We are at rule nine, sweet builders.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rule nine is drive with purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Monday, you took the wheel, you realized that hey, hey, get out of that wheel.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm the driver of my bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are the driver, choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Tuesday, you fill the tank.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember?
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  SPEAKER_00: Desire, vision, focus, direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Wednesday, went all Wednesday, you packed the bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Enthusiasm, we said, was contagious.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about attraction.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Thursday, you protected the bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not everybody gets a ticket.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not everybody gets a seat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not everybody gets a ride.
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  SPEAKER_00: Protection.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that was choice on Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Direction on Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Attraction.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's coming on?
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  SPEAKER_00: On Wednesday?
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  SPEAKER_00: Protection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's getting off on Thursday?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, four days.
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  SPEAKER_00: Four core words.
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  SPEAKER_00: Eight rules covered.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have done work this week, sweet builder.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Friday asks the deepest question of the entire week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you driving?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you driving?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, if this is your first time on the bus, welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's where we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're the driver.
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  SPEAKER_00: Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Desire, vision, focus, fill the tank.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pack the bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Enthusiasm is contagious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not everybody gets a seat Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why am I repeating that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because those are your rules.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rule one, you're the driver.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rules two and three, desire, vision, focus, fill the tank.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rules four and seven, pack the bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Enthusiasm is contagious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rules five and six, not everybody gets a seat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you driving though?
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  SPEAKER_00: Those eight rules covered everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: But why are you driving?
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  SPEAKER_00: Rule 9 says this: the purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose is the ultimate fuel for our journey through life.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we drive with purpose, we don't get tired or bored, and our engines don't burn out.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a great message for Finish Strong Friday, isn't it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose is the ultimate fuel for our journey through life.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we drive with purpose, we don't get tired or bored, and our engines don't burn out.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we drive with purpose, sweet builder, we don't get tired.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't get bored.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our engines don't burn out.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, the author here is talking about motivation.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's talking about motivation that is anchored in something that is so powerful that you can just kick the motivation out of the room because it's the engine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that engine under the motivation is purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh yes, indeed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose is the engine underneath motivation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the author makes a really powerful distinction that every performer, every one of us needs to hear.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't get burned out from what you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get burned out because you forgot why you're doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you don't burn out from the work, you burn out from losing the why.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is rule nine here.
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  SPEAKER_00: And on finish strong Friday, when the week has been long and the tank feels low, rule nine is not optional.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is the only thing that gets you across the finish line, is that purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in the in sports psychiatry, in the literature, in the clinical literature, I want you to know that the journals I read, such as the Psychological Science Journal or the Journal of Research and Personality, you know what they say about people with purpose?
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  SPEAKER_00: I read them, so you don't have to read them.
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  SPEAKER_00: These journals say that people with purpose have a strong sense of finishing.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have lower cortisol reactivity to stress, they have better sleep quality, faster cognitive recovery after a setback, and they have significantly lower rates of depression and anxiety.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sweet spotter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose activates the brain's reward circuitry.
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  SPEAKER_00: The same dopamine pathways we've talked about before, the same dopaminergic, the dopaminergic pathways that have been engaged by like things like an achievement, but it has one critical difference.
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  SPEAKER_00: Achievement can spike and fade.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose, it sustains.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose lasts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose lasts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Victor Frankel wrote a book called Man's Search for Meaning.
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  SPEAKER_00: A book we're gonna cover eventually here on the uh sweet spot because I love that book.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh Victor Frankel is a psychiatrist like myself, but he's the big difference is he's huge and famous, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Victor Frankel is a psychiatrist, he's a Holocaust survivor.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he wrote this incredible book called Man's Search for Meaning.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is what he documented in this book.
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  SPEAKER_00: Under the most extreme conditions available or imaginable, he observed that prisoners, the ones most likely to survive the Nazi concentration camps, were not the strongest or the youngest.
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  SPEAKER_00: They were the ones who had a reason.
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  SPEAKER_00: A reason to survive.
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  SPEAKER_00: He wrote from the Man Search to Meaning, one of the most verified texts in the history of psychology.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those who have a why to live can bear almost anyhow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those who have a why can bear almost anyhow.
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  SPEAKER_00: He was describing concentration camps.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our author from The Energy Bus is describing a Friday afternoon.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: The biology has some similarities.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose is the fuel, that's the message.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're not the same, clearly not the same circumstances.
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  SPEAKER_00: Clearly.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the purpose in there can be distilled out, and we can learn from those who endured even more than we could ever dream of bearing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose is the fuel that outlasts everything else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure you have your purpose intact.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure you know your purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: How becomes easier.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, that's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know I love him, I always keep quoting him.
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  SPEAKER_00: He wrote, confine yourself to the present.
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  SPEAKER_00: He ruled an empire, he fought wars, he buried children, he governed through a play, and every morning he returned to the same question: What is the purpose of this day?
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I here to do right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: He didn't wait for the perfect moment to drive with purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: He drove with purpose through imperfect days.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that is the only kind of day that exists.
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  SPEAKER_00: What did they say in the army, whatever, in the military, the only good day was yesterday?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, 100%.
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  SPEAKER_00: So definitely know your purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is your purpose?
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you making it work for you today?
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  SPEAKER_00: How is it going to help you finish strong?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you need to realign with your purpose?
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: How does purpose keep your bus moving today?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're running on fumes?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not lazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not that you don't care.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, you didn't even choose the wrong destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_00: The work is there, the schedule's there, everything is still there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fuel is what you need, and that fuel is purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna tell you to try harder, I'm not gonna tell you to go deeper, I'm not gonna tell you that this is an effort issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: The effort that's not it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to know your why again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find your why again, not someone else's why, not the why you inherited, or nothing you're gonna perform for anybody else.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your why.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do you do it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you get back into that, that becomes your fuel, that becomes your purpose, and that is rule number nine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not love portion number nine, rule number nine, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and it's enough for you to finish the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, maybe love potion number nine is important, but this is finished strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you're gonna use rule number nine, and maybe you throw a little love potion number nine in there, but it's rule number nine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Know your purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Know your why.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't burn out from the work, you burn out from losing the why.
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  SPEAKER_00: The problem is not your effort.
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  SPEAKER_00: Effort without without purpose is just motion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you were not built just for motion, you were built for direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find your why again.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is your fuel, that is your energy, that's what's gonna get you re-energized.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna clarify things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it'll tell you you're not in the right bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, maybe it'll tell you grab the wheel, whatever it's gonna do, know your purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Know your purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because listen, the ancient wisdom was very clear on what the divine purpose for us is.
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  SPEAKER_00: For I know the plans I have for you, says God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Declares God, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and to not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, that's purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, God does not put a bus driver behind the wheel without a destination in mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your purpose is not something you manufacture, it is something you discover and you drive towards it with everything you have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, in my view, Rule 9 of the ancient wisdom, Jeremiah 29.11, they're saying the same thing from different directions.
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  SPEAKER_00: The road is never random.
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  SPEAKER_00: The why is not yours to invent, it is yours to find, beloved, it is yours to trust, and you've got to drive.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Finish Strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the fuel.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this registered with you, share it with someone who might benefit from it today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you haven't subscribed yet, make it your purpose to do so right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is completely free.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love and blessings to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your plans have already been chosen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Know your purpose and go forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow's self-care Saturday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna take it down a notch.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna look at uh another one or two of these rules and see where we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love and blessings to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you tomorrow.