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Is Your Marriage Missing This Vital Connection? · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for August 10th, 2026 Is your marriage missing one of these vital connections?
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  Sometimes when I look at a marriage, I see a man who is either emotionally unavailable
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  or not as emotionally available as his wife needs him to be.
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  I also sometimes see a woman who is either sexually unavailable or not as sexually
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  available as her husband needs her to be.
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  And yes, both happen when the sex is reversed.
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  I'd like to suggest that these two things are very similar in many ways.
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  Among other things, that means if you have ever been hurt by one of these,
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  you can understand how your spouse feels if you are doing the other to them.
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  I realize it's a scary concept. Because if you accept it, then you either have
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  to deal with the ramifications of that, or accept you are failing your spouse.
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  This could cause you to reject the premise out of hand. Please try to engage
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  the idea and give it a fair hearing in your heart.
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  Let me start by stating that both sexual and emotional connection are necessary for a good marriage.
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  This is how God made marriage, and you cannot have the kind of marriage God
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  intended if either of them is absent or significantly limited.
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  If your spouse is limiting one of these things, it hurts. It feels like they
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  don't care about you, and after a while, their reasons or excuses stop mattering.
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  They have something you need from them, and they are not giving it in sufficient
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  quantity or quality for you to feel loved and connected.
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  Can you accept my premise that these two things are very similar and not having
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  enough of either is a significant marriage problem?
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  If your spouse is limiting one of these, ask yourself if you limit the other.
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  Can you accept that doing that
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  may hurt them every bit as much as their limiting the other hurts you?
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  Believing all this could be the start of a profound change in your marriage.
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  Pray about it. This is Paul, and Empathy Helps Us Do Marriage Well.