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You Tolerated So Much You Forgot What You Deserve | EP 314 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Friend,
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  if
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  you've
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  ever
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  found
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  yourself
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  making
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  excuses
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  for
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  people
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  in
• 0:09
  situations
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  that
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  had
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  absolutely
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  no
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  business
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  getting
• 0:14
  that
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  level
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  of
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  grace
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  from
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  you,
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  in
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  fact,
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  you
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  done
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  messed
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  around
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  and
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  tolerated
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  so
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  much
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  you
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  forgot
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  what
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  you
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  deserve.
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  There's
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  a
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  part
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  of
• 0:23
  you
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  that
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  knows
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  it
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  too,
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  and
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  that's
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  why
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  this
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  episode
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  hits
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  different.
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  We're
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  taking
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  inventory
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  in
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  the
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  areas
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  where
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  tolerating
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  shows
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  up
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  the
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  most
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  and
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  doing
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  something
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  about
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  it
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  because
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  it's
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  time
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  you
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  remember
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  what
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  you
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  deserve
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  and
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  put
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  yourself
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  in
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  position
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  to
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  receive
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  it,
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  And
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  we're
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  doing
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  it
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  with
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  love,
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  laughter,
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  and
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  zero
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  shame
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  because
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  you
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  cannot
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  shift
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  what
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  willing
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  to
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  see.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it
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  And
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  friend,
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  welcome
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  to
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  the
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  group
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  chat
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  you
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  actually
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  wanna
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  be
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  a
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  part
• 0:55
  of.
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  I'm
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  Letitia,
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  your
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  new
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  favorite
• 0:59
  podcast
• 0:59
  bestie,
• 1:01
  and
• 1:01
  this
• 1:01
  is
• 1:01
  Confident
• 1:02
  and
• 1:02
  Empowered
• 1:02
  Women,
• 1:03
  where
• 1:04
  we
• 1:04
  have
• 1:04
  the
• 1:04
  real
• 1:05
  kind
• 1:05
  of
• 1:05
  conversations
• 1:06
  that
• 1:06
  will
• 1:06
  have
• 1:07
  you
• 1:07
  fixing
• 1:08
  your
• 1:08
  crown
• 1:09
  and
• 1:09
  collecting
• 1:09
  your
• 1:09
  pearls
• 1:10
  in
• 1:10
  the
• 1:10
  best
• 1:10
  way.
• 1:12
  So
• 1:12
  if
• 1:13
  you've
• 1:13
  been
• 1:13
  looking
• 1:14
  for
• 1:14
  your
• 1:14
  people,
• 1:14
  hey,
• 1:15
  we
• 1:15
  right
• 1:16
  over
• 1:16
  here.
• 1:18
  Hit
• 1:18
  that
• 1:18
  subscribe
• 1:19
  button
• 1:19
  so
• 1:19
  you
• 1:20
  never
• 1:20
  miss
• 1:20
  a
• 1:20
  chance
• 1:21
  to
• 1:21
  level
• 1:21
  up
• 1:21
  in
• 1:22
  real
• 1:22
  time.
• 1:22
  Okay?
• 1:23
  Okay.
• 1:25
  Now
• 1:25
  let's
• 1:26
  really
• 1:26
  get
• 1:26
  into
• 1:27
  it
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  Hey,
• 1:30
  hey,
• 1:30
  hey
• 1:30
  friend.
• 1:31
  So
• 1:32
  when
• 1:32
  I
• 1:32
  tell
• 1:32
  you
• 1:33
  this
• 1:33
  topic
• 1:33
  right
• 1:34
  here
• 1:34
  had
• 1:35
  me
• 1:35
  all
• 1:35
  the
• 1:35
  way
• 1:36
  in
• 1:36
  my
• 1:36
  feelings
• 1:36
  when
• 1:37
  I
• 1:37
  was
• 1:37
  preparing
• 1:37
  it,
• 1:38
  I
• 1:38
  mean
• 1:39
  that.
• 1:42
  We
• 1:42
  are
• 1:42
  going
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  so
• 1:43
  much
• 1:43
  deeper
• 1:44
  than
• 1:44
  just
• 1:44
  a
• 1:44
  boundary
• 1:45
  conversation
• 1:46
  Or
• 1:46
  a
• 1:46
  clean
• 1:47
  up
• 1:47
  your
• 1:47
  schedule
• 1:47
  pep
• 1:48
  talk.
• 1:48
  What
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  you
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  keep
• 1:49
  accepting
• 1:50
  is
• 1:51
  a
• 1:51
  direct
• 1:52
  reflection
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  of
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  what
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  you
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  believe
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  you
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  deserve,
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  and
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  that
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  right
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  there
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  is
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  an
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  identity
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  conversation.
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  This
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  is
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  beyond
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  what
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  you've
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  been
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  tolerating
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  But
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  what
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  all
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  the
• 2:03
  tolerations
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  and
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  hateration
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  has
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  been
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  quietly
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  saying
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  about
• 2:07
  who
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  you
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  have
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  decided
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  you
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  are.
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  Listen,
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  like
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  Fantasia
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  says,
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  truth
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  is,
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  you've
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  been
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  way
• 2:15
  too
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  gracious
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  with
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  all
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  of
• 2:18
  the
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  wrong
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  things,
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  friend.
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  So
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  we
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  are
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  lovingly
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  calling
• 2:22
  it
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  out.
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  No
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  shade,
• 2:24
  no
• 2:24
  shame,
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  and
• 2:25
  no
• 2:25
  judgment.
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  Just
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  radical
• 2:27
  honesty
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  with
• 2:28
  a
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  whole
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  lot
• 2:29
  of
• 2:29
  grace
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  and
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  a
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  few
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  laughs
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  along
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  the
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  way
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  Because
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  you
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  know
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  that's
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  the
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  only
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  way
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  it
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  actually
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  sticks
• 2:35
  around
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  here.
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  Okay,
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  friend,
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  story
• 2:39
  time.
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  This
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  takes
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  me
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  all
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  the
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  way
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  back
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  to
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  what
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  I
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  lovingly
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  and
• 2:44
  slightly
• 2:45
  embarrassingly
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  call
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  my
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  dating
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  desperately
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  season.
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  If
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  you've
• 2:52
  been
• 2:52
  here
• 2:53
  from
• 2:53
  the
• 2:53
  beginning,
• 2:53
  you
• 2:54
  know
• 2:54
  I
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  talk
• 2:55
  about
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  this
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  season
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  a
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  lot
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  because
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  it
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  has
• 2:58
  taught
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  me
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  so
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  much.
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  And
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  any
• 3:02
  time
• 3:02
  you've
• 3:02
  gone
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  through
• 3:03
  a
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  long
• 3:04
  season,
• 3:06
  you
• 3:06
  best
• 3:06
  believe
• 3:07
  there's
• 3:07
  a
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  lot
• 3:08
  to
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  be
• 3:08
  learned,
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  especially
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  about
• 3:10
  yourself
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  Now
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  listen,
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  once
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  upon
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  a
• 3:13
  time,
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  I
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  wanted
• 3:15
  to
• 3:15
  be
• 3:15
  in
• 3:15
  a
• 3:15
  relationship
• 3:16
  that
• 3:16
  led
• 3:17
  to
• 3:17
  marriage
• 3:17
  so
• 3:18
  bad
• 3:19
  that
• 3:19
  I
• 3:19
  was
• 3:19
  willing
• 3:20
  to
• 3:20
  tolerate
• 3:21
  things
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  had
• 3:22
  absolutely
• 3:22
  no
• 3:23
  business
• 3:24
  tolerating.
• 3:27
  And
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  know
• 3:28
  you
• 3:28
  know
• 3:29
  exactly
• 3:30
  what
• 3:30
  I'm
• 3:30
  talking
• 3:31
  about
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  because
• 3:32
  I
• 3:32
  cannot
• 3:33
  be
• 3:33
  out
• 3:33
  here
• 3:33
  by
• 3:34
  myself
• 3:34
  on
• 3:34
  this
• 3:35
  one,
• 3:35
  so
• 3:35
  please
• 3:36
  don't
• 3:36
  leave
• 3:36
  me
• 3:36
  hanging.
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  was
• 3:39
  tolerating
• 3:40
  those
• 3:40
  simple
• 3:41
  text
• 3:41
  message
• 3:42
  conversations.
• 3:43
  You
• 3:43
  know,
• 3:43
  the
• 3:43
  ones
• 3:44
  that
• 3:44
  never
• 3:44
  lead
• 3:44
  to
• 3:45
  anything
• 3:45
  significant.
• 3:46
  If
• 3:47
  you've
• 3:47
  ever
• 3:47
  snapped
• 3:48
  on
• 3:48
  somebody
• 3:49
  who
• 3:49
  text
• 3:49
  you
• 3:50
  just,
• 3:50
  "Good
• 3:50
  morning,"
• 3:51
  or,
• 3:52
  "How
• 3:52
  was
• 3:52
  your
• 3:53
  day?"
• 3:53
  You
• 3:53
  know
• 3:54
  exactly
• 3:54
  what
• 3:55
  I'm
• 3:55
  talking
• 3:55
  about.
• 3:58
  I
• 3:59
  was
• 3:59
  tolerating
• 4:00
  the
• 4:00
  breadcrumbs,
• 4:01
  the
• 4:01
  bare
• 4:02
  minimum
• 4:02
  energy.
• 4:03
  And
• 4:03
  friend,
• 4:04
  I
• 4:05
  was
• 4:05
  for
• 4:05
  sure
• 4:06
  trying
• 4:07
  to
• 4:07
  make
• 4:07
  a
• 4:07
  whole
• 4:08
  five-course
• 4:09
  meal
• 4:09
  out
• 4:09
  of
• 4:09
  them
• 4:09
  breadcrumbs,
• 4:10
  okay?
• 4:11
  I'm
• 4:11
  talking
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  appetizer,
• 4:13
  the
• 4:13
  entrees,
• 4:14
  dessert,
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  whole
• 4:15
  thing,
• 4:15
  all
• 4:16
  from
• 4:16
  breadcrumbs.
• 4:19
  when
• 4:20
  there
• 4:20
  was
• 4:21
  barely
• 4:21
  a
• 4:21
  connection,
• 4:22
  I
• 4:23
  was
• 4:23
  trying
• 4:24
  to
• 4:24
  make
• 4:24
  it
• 4:24
  enough.
• 4:27
  But
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  worst
• 4:29
  was
• 4:29
  when
• 4:30
  things
• 4:30
  would
• 4:30
  start
• 4:30
  out
• 4:31
  strong,
• 4:31
  everything
• 4:32
  was
• 4:32
  great,
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  vibes
• 4:33
  were
• 4:34
  immaculate,
• 4:35
  and
• 4:35
  then
• 4:36
  slowly
• 4:37
  died
• 4:37
  down
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  little
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  nothing.
• 4:39
  And
• 4:39
  instead
• 4:40
  of
• 4:40
  gathering
• 4:41
  myself
• 4:41
  and
• 4:42
  my
• 4:42
  things,
• 4:44
  and
• 4:44
  exiting
• 4:45
  stage
• 4:45
  left
• 4:46
  even,
• 4:47
  I
• 4:47
  would
• 4:47
  spend
• 4:47
  so
• 4:48
  much
• 4:48
  of
• 4:48
  my
• 4:49
  own
• 4:49
  special
• 4:49
  brew
• 4:50
  of
• 4:50
  tea,
• 4:51
  my
• 4:51
  time,
• 4:52
  energy,
• 4:53
  and
• 4:53
  effort
• 4:54
  Trying
• 4:55
  to
• 4:55
  figure
• 4:55
  out
• 4:55
  what
• 4:56
  happened
• 4:57
  Did
• 4:57
  I
• 4:57
  come
• 4:57
  on
• 4:57
  too
• 4:58
  strong?
• 4:58
  Was
• 4:58
  I
• 4:59
  not
• 4:59
  strong
• 4:59
  enough?
• 5:00
  Did
• 5:00
  I
• 5:01
  do
• 5:01
  enough
• 5:01
  to
• 5:02
  prove
• 5:03
  I
• 5:03
  was
• 5:03
  wifey
• 5:04
  material
• 5:05
  Because
• 5:05
  low-key,
• 5:06
  sometimes
• 5:07
  we
• 5:07
  are
• 5:07
  out
• 5:07
  here
• 5:08
  trying
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  prove
• 5:08
  we
• 5:08
  are
• 5:09
  wifey
• 5:09
  material
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  somebody
• 5:11
  who
• 5:11
  can
• 5:11
  barely
• 5:11
  hold
• 5:12
  the
• 5:12
  title
• 5:12
  of
• 5:12
  pen
• 5:12
  pal,
• 5:13
  okay?
• 5:17
  And
• 5:17
  then
• 5:17
  when
• 5:18
  that
• 5:18
  barely
• 5:18
  there
• 5:19
  anymore
• 5:19
  connection
• 5:20
  eventually
• 5:21
  turned
• 5:21
  into
• 5:22
  ghostville,
• 5:23
  I
• 5:23
  was
• 5:23
  out
• 5:24
  here
• 5:24
  trying
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  negotiate
• 5:25
  with
• 5:25
  Casper
• 5:26
  the
• 5:26
  Friendly
• 5:26
  Ghost,
• 5:27
  trying
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  get
• 5:27
  that
• 5:27
  connection
• 5:28
  back.
• 5:31
  Trying
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  breathe
• 5:32
  life
• 5:33
  into
• 5:33
  something
• 5:34
  that
• 5:34
  was
• 5:34
  already
• 5:35
  dead
• 5:35
  and
• 5:35
  gone
• 5:36
  and
• 5:36
  had
• 5:36
  been
• 5:37
  gone,
• 5:37
  okay?
• 5:40
  And
• 5:41
  we
• 5:41
  will
• 5:41
  make
• 5:42
  every
• 5:43
  kind
• 5:43
  of
• 5:43
  excuse
• 5:44
  for
• 5:44
  this
• 5:44
  behavior.
• 5:45
  Oh,
• 5:46
  they
• 5:46
  had
• 5:46
  a
• 5:46
  rough
• 5:46
  childhood.
• 5:48
  Work
• 5:48
  is
• 5:48
  crazy
• 5:49
  right
• 5:49
  now.
• 5:50
  They
• 5:50
  got
• 5:50
  a
• 5:50
  lot
• 5:51
  going
• 5:51
  on.
• 5:52
  We
• 5:52
  sound
• 5:52
  like
• 5:52
  old
• 5:53
  girl
• 5:53
  and
• 5:53
  white
• 5:54
  chicks
• 5:54
  When
• 5:55
  she
• 5:55
  was
• 5:55
  like,
• 5:55
  "You
• 5:56
  know
• 5:56
  his
• 5:56
  aunt
• 5:56
  just
• 5:57
  died
• 5:57
  six
• 5:57
  years
• 5:58
  ago."
• 6:00
  And
• 6:00
  he's
• 6:00
  still
• 6:01
  going
• 6:01
  through
• 6:01
  a
• 6:01
  lot
• 6:01
  right
• 6:01
  now.
• 6:05
  Now
• 6:05
  listen,
• 6:05
  I
• 6:06
  know
• 6:06
  I'm
• 6:06
  making
• 6:07
  light
• 6:07
  of
• 6:07
  it
• 6:07
  and
• 6:08
  I
• 6:08
  can
• 6:08
  laugh
• 6:08
  about
• 6:09
  it
• 6:09
  now,
• 6:09
  but
• 6:09
  at
• 6:10
  the
• 6:10
  time,
• 6:10
  this
• 6:11
  was
• 6:11
  not
• 6:11
  funny
• 6:12
  at
• 6:12
  all,
• 6:13
  okay?
• 6:13
  Because
• 6:14
  what
• 6:14
  I
• 6:14
  did
• 6:14
  not
• 6:15
  realize
• 6:16
  then
• 6:16
  was
• 6:16
  that
• 6:17
  every
• 6:17
  single
• 6:18
  thing
• 6:19
  I
• 6:19
  was
• 6:19
  tolerating
• 6:20
  was
• 6:21
  quietly
• 6:21
  writing
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  story
• 6:23
  about
• 6:23
  what
• 6:23
  I
• 6:23
  believed
• 6:24
  I
• 6:24
  deserved,
• 6:25
  and
• 6:26
  that
• 6:26
  story
• 6:27
  was
• 6:27
  lying
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  me
• 6:29
  the
• 6:29
  whole
• 6:29
  entire
• 6:29
  time
• 6:30
  Someone
• 6:31
  paid
• 6:31
  me
• 6:31
  attention,
• 6:32
  showed
• 6:33
  signs
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  looked
• 6:34
  promising,
• 6:35
  like
• 6:35
  he
• 6:35
  could
• 6:35
  be
• 6:35
  the
• 6:36
  one,
• 6:36
  and
• 6:36
  suddenly
• 6:37
  I
• 6:38
  forgot
• 6:39
  what
• 6:39
  I
• 6:39
  deserved.
• 6:41
  So
• 6:41
  let's
• 6:41
  go
• 6:42
  even
• 6:42
  deeper
• 6:43
  now
• 6:43
  And
• 6:43
  lean
• 6:43
  in
• 6:44
  friend,
• 6:44
  because
• 6:44
  we
• 6:45
  are
• 6:45
  shifting
• 6:46
  as
• 6:46
  we
• 6:46
  speak.
• 6:48
  Tolerating
• 6:48
  is
• 6:49
  not
• 6:49
  a
• 6:49
  passive
• 6:50
  act.
• 6:50
  I
• 6:50
  know
• 6:51
  it
• 6:51
  feels
• 6:51
  passive.
• 6:52
  It
• 6:53
  feels
• 6:53
  like
• 6:53
  you're
• 6:53
  just
• 6:54
  going
• 6:54
  along
• 6:54
  to
• 6:55
  get
• 6:55
  along.
• 6:55
  It
• 6:55
  feels
• 6:56
  like
• 6:56
  you're
• 6:56
  giving
• 6:56
  someone
• 6:57
  a
• 6:57
  chance
• 6:58
  or
• 6:59
  chances,
• 7:00
  friend,
• 7:00
  Heavy
• 7:01
  on
• 7:01
  the
• 7:01
  S
• 7:01
  on
• 7:02
  them
• 7:02
  chances,
• 7:02
  friend.
• 7:05
  It
• 7:05
  looks
• 7:06
  like
• 7:06
  Seeing
• 7:07
  the
• 7:07
  best
• 7:08
  in
• 7:08
  them
• 7:08
  despite
• 7:09
  what
• 7:09
  their
• 7:09
  behavior
• 7:10
  is
• 7:10
  saying
• 7:10
  right
• 7:11
  now,
• 7:11
  being
• 7:12
  understanding,
• 7:13
  flexible,
• 7:14
  or
• 7:14
  just
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  giving
• 7:15
  your
• 7:16
  absolute
• 7:17
  best
• 7:18
  because
• 7:18
  you
• 7:18
  only
• 7:19
  know
• 7:19
  excellence
• 7:20
  and
• 7:20
  anything
• 7:21
  else
• 7:21
  is
• 7:21
  peasant
• 7:22
  behavior.
• 7:26
  But
• 7:26
  every
• 7:27
  single
• 7:27
  time
• 7:28
  you
• 7:28
  accept
• 7:29
  something
• 7:30
  that
• 7:30
  does
• 7:30
  not
• 7:30
  match
• 7:31
  who
• 7:31
  you
• 7:31
  are
• 7:32
  becoming,
• 7:33
  you're
• 7:33
  making
• 7:33
  an
• 7:33
  active
• 7:34
  decision.
• 7:35
  You
• 7:35
  are
• 7:35
  casting
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  vote
• 7:37
  for
• 7:37
  the
• 7:37
  old
• 7:38
  identity.
• 7:39
  Every
• 7:39
  yes
• 7:40
  you
• 7:40
  did
• 7:40
  not
• 7:40
  mean,
• 7:41
  every
• 7:42
  standard
• 7:42
  you
• 7:42
  let
• 7:43
  slide,
• 7:44
  every
• 7:44
  boundary
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  talked
• 7:45
  yourself
• 7:46
  right
• 7:46
  out
• 7:46
  of,
• 7:47
  none
• 7:48
  of
• 7:48
  it
• 7:48
  is
• 7:48
  neutral.
• 7:49
  Every
• 7:50
  toleration
• 7:51
  is
• 7:51
  a
• 7:51
  quiet
• 7:52
  declaration.
• 7:53
  This
• 7:54
  is
• 7:54
  what
• 7:54
  I
• 7:54
  believe
• 7:55
  I
• 7:55
  deserve
• 7:56
  And
• 7:57
  that
• 7:57
  declaration
• 7:58
  has
• 7:58
  been
• 7:58
  running
• 7:59
  your
• 7:59
  life
• 7:59
  louder
• 8:00
  than
• 8:00
  anything
• 8:01
  you
• 8:02
  have
• 8:02
  said
• 8:02
  out
• 8:02
  loud.
• 8:03
  It's
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  belief
• 8:04
  below
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  surface
• 8:06
  that's
• 8:06
  screaming
• 8:07
  volumes
• 8:08
  on
• 8:08
  your
• 8:08
  behalf.
• 8:09
  Here
• 8:10
  is
• 8:10
  what
• 8:10
  I
• 8:10
  finally
• 8:11
  had
• 8:11
  to
• 8:11
  get
• 8:12
  honest
• 8:12
  about
• 8:13
  during
• 8:13
  my
• 8:13
  dating
• 8:14
  desperately
• 8:15
  era.
• 8:15
  It
• 8:16
  was
• 8:16
  not
• 8:16
  only
• 8:17
  about
• 8:17
  the
• 8:18
  men
• 8:18
  or
• 8:19
  the
• 8:19
  city
• 8:19
  I
• 8:19
  was
• 8:19
  dating
• 8:20
  in
• 8:20
  It
• 8:21
  was
• 8:21
  highlighting
• 8:21
  what
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  believed
• 8:22
  about
• 8:23
  myself
• 8:23
  underneath
• 8:24
  all
• 8:25
  of
• 8:25
  it.
• 8:25
  I
• 8:25
  was
• 8:26
  tolerating
• 8:26
  less
• 8:27
  than
• 8:27
  I
• 8:27
  deserved
• 8:28
  because
• 8:28
  somewhere
• 8:29
  deep
• 8:29
  down,
• 8:30
  I
• 8:30
  wasn't
• 8:30
  fully
• 8:31
  convinced
• 8:32
  I
• 8:32
  deserved
• 8:33
  more
• 8:34
  That
• 8:34
  underlying
• 8:35
  belief
• 8:36
  that
• 8:36
  although
• 8:37
  a
• 8:37
  small
• 8:38
  part
• 8:38
  of
• 8:38
  you
• 8:39
  knows
• 8:40
  you
• 8:40
  deserve
• 8:40
  more,
• 8:41
  you're
• 8:41
  afraid
• 8:42
  you
• 8:42
  won't
• 8:42
  get
• 8:43
  it
• 8:43
  Because
• 8:43
  you
• 8:43
  haven't
• 8:44
  gotten
• 8:44
  it
• 8:44
  yet,
• 8:45
  so
• 8:45
  why
• 8:45
  would
• 8:46
  now
• 8:46
  be
• 8:46
  any
• 8:46
  different?
• 8:47
  It's
• 8:47
  possible
• 8:48
  for
• 8:49
  other
• 8:49
  people,
• 8:50
  but
• 8:50
  not
• 8:51
  you.
• 8:52
  You're
• 8:52
  afraid
• 8:53
  you'll
• 8:53
  self-sabotage
• 8:54
  it
• 8:54
  away,
• 8:55
  or
• 8:55
  you
• 8:56
  don't
• 8:56
  think
• 8:56
  that
• 8:56
  you're
• 8:57
  valuable
• 8:57
  enough,
• 8:58
  so
• 8:58
  why
• 8:59
  would
• 8:59
  anyone
• 8:59
  else?
• 9:00
  Listen,
• 9:01
  I
• 9:01
  know
• 9:01
  because
• 9:02
  I
• 9:02
  was
• 9:02
  out
• 9:02
  there
• 9:03
  performing
• 9:03
  the
• 9:04
  confidence
• 9:04
  while
• 9:05
  privately
• 9:06
  accepting
• 9:07
  the
• 9:07
  crumbs,
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  those
• 9:08
  two
• 9:09
  things
• 9:09
  cannot
• 9:10
  coexist
• 9:11
  forever.
• 9:12
  Eventually,
• 9:13
  the
• 9:14
  tolerations
• 9:15
  always
• 9:15
  tell
• 9:16
  the
• 9:16
  truth
• 9:17
  It's
• 9:17
  the
• 9:17
  contradiction
• 9:18
  we
• 9:18
  refuse
• 9:19
  or
• 9:19
  fail
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  see.
• 9:21
  You
• 9:21
  say
• 9:21
  you
• 9:22
  want
• 9:22
  a
• 9:22
  happy,
• 9:23
  healthy,
• 9:23
  committed
• 9:24
  relationship,
• 9:25
  but
• 9:25
  you're
• 9:26
  out
• 9:26
  here
• 9:26
  tolerating
• 9:27
  chaos,
• 9:28
  an
• 9:28
  unhealthy
• 9:29
  connection
• 9:30
  that
• 9:30
  lacks
• 9:31
  commitment.
• 9:32
  What
• 9:32
  you
• 9:32
  tolerate
• 9:33
  reveals
• 9:34
  what
• 9:34
  you
• 9:34
  think
• 9:34
  you
• 9:35
  deserve.
• 9:36
  There
• 9:36
  is
• 9:36
  also
• 9:37
  a
• 9:37
  part
• 9:38
  of
• 9:38
  you
• 9:38
  right
• 9:38
  now,
• 9:38
  and
• 9:39
  it
• 9:39
  may
• 9:39
  sound
• 9:39
  far
• 9:40
  away
• 9:41
  like
• 9:41
  a
• 9:41
  faint
• 9:42
  whisper.
• 9:43
  It's
• 9:43
  saying
• 9:44
  to
• 9:44
  you,
• 9:45
  "You
• 9:45
  deserve
• 9:46
  more."
• 9:47
  And
• 9:47
  you
• 9:47
  know
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  deserve
• 9:49
  to
• 9:49
  be
• 9:49
  in
• 9:49
  a
• 9:49
  relationship
• 9:50
  with
• 9:50
  someone
• 9:50
  who
• 9:51
  adores
• 9:51
  you
• 9:52
  sees
• 9:52
  the
• 9:53
  best
• 9:53
  in
• 9:53
  you,
• 9:54
  inspires
• 9:55
  the
• 9:55
  best
• 9:55
  in
• 9:55
  you,
• 9:56
  only
• 9:56
  wants
• 9:57
  the
• 9:58
  best
• 9:58
  for
• 9:58
  you.
• 9:59
  They
• 9:59
  wanna
• 9:59
  make
• 9:59
  your
• 10:00
  life
• 10:00
  easier,
• 10:01
  and
• 10:01
  they
• 10:01
  wanna
• 10:01
  build
• 10:02
  a
• 10:02
  beautiful
• 10:03
  life
• 10:03
  with
• 10:03
  you.
• 10:04
  The
• 10:04
  desire
• 10:05
  for
• 10:05
  more
• 10:05
  is
• 10:06
  there
• 10:07
  But
• 10:07
  what
• 10:07
  you're
• 10:08
  tolerating
• 10:08
  is
• 10:08
  canceling
• 10:09
  it
• 10:09
  out.
• 10:10
  Every
• 10:10
  time
• 10:11
  you
• 10:11
  accept
• 10:12
  the
• 10:12
  breadcrumbs,
• 10:13
  the
• 10:13
  one
• 10:14
  glazing
• 10:15
  over
• 10:15
  your
• 10:15
  feelings
• 10:16
  or
• 10:16
  what's
• 10:17
  going
• 10:17
  on
• 10:17
  with
• 10:17
  you,
• 10:18
  but
• 10:18
  you're
• 10:18
  always
• 10:19
  there
• 10:19
  to
• 10:19
  listen
• 10:20
  and
• 10:20
  hold
• 10:20
  them
• 10:20
  down.
• 10:21
  Who
• 10:21
  says
• 10:22
  they
• 10:22
  care
• 10:22
  for
• 10:23
  you
• 10:23
  and
• 10:23
  love
• 10:23
  you,
• 10:24
  but
• 10:24
  their
• 10:24
  actions
• 10:25
  show
• 10:25
  they're
• 10:25
  disinterested,
• 10:27
  checked
• 10:27
  out,
• 10:28
  or
• 10:28
  nonexistent.
• 10:30
  The
• 10:30
  inconsistencies
• 10:31
  With
• 10:32
  weak
• 10:32
  explanations,
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  love
• 10:34
  bombs
• 10:35
  followed
• 10:36
  by
• 10:36
  much
• 10:37
  longer
• 10:37
  spells
• 10:38
  of
• 10:38
  complete
• 10:39
  radio
• 10:39
  silence
• 10:41
  listen,
• 10:41
  the
• 10:41
  life
• 10:42
  you
• 10:42
  want
• 10:43
  cannot
• 10:44
  coexist
• 10:46
  with
• 10:46
  what
• 10:46
  you
• 10:46
  tolerate.
• 10:47
  So
• 10:48
  this
• 10:48
  is
• 10:48
  the
• 10:49
  moment,
• 10:49
  not
• 10:49
  the
• 10:50
  spiral
• 10:50
  into
• 10:51
  shame
• 10:51
  about
• 10:51
  how
• 10:52
  long
• 10:52
  you've
• 10:52
  been
• 10:52
  here,
• 10:53
  not
• 10:53
  to
• 10:53
  beat
• 10:54
  yourself
• 10:54
  up
• 10:55
  about
• 10:55
  any
• 10:56
  of
• 10:56
  it.
• 10:56
  Let's
• 10:57
  just
• 10:57
  skip
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  part
• 10:58
  where
• 10:58
  you
• 10:58
  put
• 10:58
  yourself
• 10:59
  down
• 10:59
  and
• 11:00
  use
• 11:00
  all
• 11:01
  of
• 11:01
  that
• 11:01
  energy
• 11:02
  in
• 11:02
  a
• 11:02
  more
• 11:02
  productive
• 11:03
  way
• 11:04
  that
• 11:04
  actually
• 11:05
  supports
• 11:05
  you
• 11:06
  and
• 11:06
  all
• 11:07
  the
• 11:07
  desires
• 11:08
  of
• 11:08
  your
• 11:08
  heart.
• 11:09
  And
• 11:09
  really
• 11:09
  hear
• 11:10
  me
• 11:10
  when
• 11:10
  I
• 11:10
  say
• 11:11
  this.
• 11:12
  You
• 11:12
  were
• 11:12
  doing
• 11:13
  the
• 11:13
  best
• 11:13
  you
• 11:14
  could
• 11:14
  with
• 11:14
  what
• 11:14
  you
• 11:15
  knew,
• 11:15
  but
• 11:16
  now
• 11:17
  you
• 11:17
  know
• 11:17
  more.
• 11:18
  And
• 11:18
  awareness
• 11:19
  is
• 11:19
  always,
• 11:20
  always
• 11:21
  the
• 11:21
  first
• 11:22
  step
• 11:23
  of
• 11:23
  the
• 11:23
  shift.
• 11:24
  The
• 11:24
  life
• 11:25
  you
• 11:25
  want
• 11:25
  does
• 11:25
  not
• 11:26
  include
• 11:26
  everything
• 11:27
  you've
• 11:27
  been
• 11:27
  tolerating.
• 11:29
  The
• 11:29
  future
• 11:29
  version
• 11:30
  of
• 11:30
  yourself
• 11:30
  knows
• 11:31
  this,
• 11:31
  and
• 11:32
  that's
• 11:32
  why
• 11:32
  she's
• 11:33
  calling
• 11:33
  you
• 11:33
  forward.
• 11:35
  It's
• 11:35
  time
• 11:35
  to
• 11:36
  turn
• 11:36
  up
• 11:36
  the
• 11:36
  volume
• 11:37
  on
• 11:38
  what
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  deserve.
• 11:39
  So
• 11:39
  let's
• 11:40
  get
• 11:40
  closer
• 11:41
  so
• 11:41
  you
• 11:41
  can
• 11:41
  hear
• 11:41
  it
• 11:42
  loud
• 11:42
  and
• 11:42
  clear.
• 11:44
  Now
• 11:44
  let's
• 11:44
  take
• 11:45
  this
• 11:45
  inventory.
• 11:46
  Three
• 11:46
  areas
• 11:47
  lovingly,
• 11:48
  honestly,
• 11:49
  and
• 11:49
  with
• 11:50
  enough
• 11:50
  humor
• 11:50
  to
• 11:51
  make
• 11:51
  it
• 11:51
  survivable.
• 11:55
  Area
• 11:55
  one,
• 11:56
  your
• 11:56
  relationships.
• 11:58
  Okay,
• 11:58
  so
• 11:59
  we
• 11:59
  are
• 11:59
  starting
• 12:00
  here
• 12:00
  because
• 12:00
  I
• 12:01
  clearly
• 12:02
  have
• 12:02
  a
• 12:02
  testimony
• 12:02
  in
• 12:03
  this
• 12:03
  department.
• 12:05
  But
• 12:06
  friend,
• 12:06
  this
• 12:06
  is
• 12:06
  not
• 12:07
  just
• 12:07
  your
• 12:08
  romantic
• 12:09
  relationships.
• 12:10
  This
• 12:10
  is
• 12:11
  your
• 12:11
  friendships,
• 12:12
  your
• 12:12
  family,
• 12:13
  anyone
• 12:14
  you
• 12:14
  are
• 12:15
  in
• 12:15
  relationship
• 12:16
  with.
• 12:16
  Take
• 12:17
  a
• 12:17
  real
• 12:17
  honest
• 12:18
  look.
• 12:19
  Are
• 12:19
  there
• 12:19
  relationships
• 12:20
  where
• 12:20
  you
• 12:21
  are
• 12:21
  consistently
• 12:22
  making
• 12:22
  more
• 12:23
  deposits
• 12:24
  than
• 12:24
  you
• 12:25
  are
• 12:25
  withdrawing?
• 12:26
  Are
• 12:26
  there
• 12:27
  people
• 12:27
  in
• 12:27
  your
• 12:27
  life
• 12:28
  who
• 12:28
  are
• 12:28
  draining
• 12:29
  the
• 12:29
  very
• 12:30
  thing
• 12:31
  you
• 12:31
  need
• 12:31
  for
• 12:31
  yourself?
• 12:32
  You
• 12:33
  know
• 12:33
  the
• 12:33
  ones.
• 12:34
  you
• 12:34
  see
• 12:34
  that
• 12:35
  notification
• 12:36
  come
• 12:36
  through
• 12:36
  and
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  don't
• 12:37
  even
• 12:37
  wanna
• 12:37
  open
• 12:38
  it.
• 12:40
  Phone
• 12:40
  rings
• 12:41
  and
• 12:41
  you
• 12:41
  don't
• 12:41
  even
• 12:41
  wanna
• 12:42
  send
• 12:42
  it
• 12:42
  to
• 12:42
  voicemail
• 12:43
  because
• 12:43
  you
• 12:43
  know
• 12:44
  instantly
• 12:45
  it's
• 12:45
  gonna
• 12:45
  be
• 12:45
  a
• 12:45
  situation.
• 12:50
  Now
• 12:50
  look,
• 12:50
  if
• 12:51
  you
• 12:51
  are
• 12:51
  exhausted
• 12:52
  just
• 12:52
  from
• 12:53
  the
• 12:53
  notification,
• 12:54
  friend,
• 12:55
  that
• 12:55
  is
• 12:55
  a
• 12:55
  sign
• 12:56
  and
• 12:56
  not
• 12:57
  a
• 12:57
  subtle
• 12:57
  one.
• 13:01
  And
• 13:01
  what
• 13:02
  about
• 13:02
  your
• 13:02
  standards
• 13:03
  you
• 13:03
  keep
• 13:03
  lowering
• 13:04
  just
• 13:04
  to
• 13:05
  keep
• 13:05
  the
• 13:05
  peace?
• 13:06
  Because
• 13:07
  that
• 13:07
  right
• 13:07
  there
• 13:08
  is
• 13:08
  not
• 13:08
  flexibility,
• 13:09
  maturity,
• 13:10
  or
• 13:10
  even
• 13:11
  being
• 13:11
  the
• 13:11
  bigger
• 13:11
  person.
• 13:12
  That
• 13:13
  is
• 13:13
  self-abandonment
• 13:15
  with
• 13:15
  a
• 13:15
  smile
• 13:16
  on
• 13:16
  it
• 13:16
  and
• 13:16
  a
• 13:16
  cute
• 13:17
  outfit
• 13:17
  And
• 13:17
  we
• 13:18
  all
• 13:18
  know
• 13:19
  relationships
• 13:20
  ebb
• 13:20
  and
• 13:21
  flow.
• 13:22
  There
• 13:22
  will
• 13:22
  be
• 13:22
  seasons
• 13:23
  where
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  give
• 13:23
  more,
• 13:24
  seasons
• 13:25
  where
• 13:25
  they
• 13:25
  give
• 13:25
  more.
• 13:26
  That
• 13:27
  is
• 13:27
  natural
• 13:28
  and
• 13:28
  healthy,
• 13:29
  but
• 13:29
  it
• 13:29
  should
• 13:30
  feel
• 13:30
  mutual,
• 13:31
  not
• 13:32
  like
• 13:32
  you
• 13:32
  are
• 13:32
  single-handedly
• 13:34
  holding
• 13:35
  the
• 13:35
  whole
• 13:35
  relationship
• 13:36
  together
• 13:36
  with
• 13:37
  your
• 13:37
  bare
• 13:37
  hands
• 13:38
  and
• 13:38
  a
• 13:38
  prayer.
• 13:41
  So
• 13:41
  check
• 13:42
  in,
• 13:42
  have
• 13:43
  the
• 13:43
  conversation,
• 13:44
  and
• 13:45
  if
• 13:45
  after
• 13:45
  all
• 13:46
  of
• 13:46
  that
• 13:46
  it
• 13:46
  is
• 13:46
  still
• 13:47
  consistently
• 13:48
  draining
• 13:49
  you,
• 13:49
  that
• 13:50
  is
• 13:50
  valuable
• 13:51
  information,
• 13:52
  friend.
• 13:52
  Use
• 13:53
  it
• 13:53
  Area
• 13:54
  two
• 13:54
  is
• 13:55
  your
• 13:56
  work,
• 13:56
  work,
• 13:56
  work,
• 13:57
  work,
• 13:57
  work,
• 13:57
  work.
• 14:00
  Come
• 14:01
  through,
• 14:03
  Rihanna.
• 14:04
  Okay,
• 14:04
  because
• 14:04
  this
• 14:05
  one
• 14:05
  right
• 14:05
  here,
• 14:06
  this
• 14:06
  is
• 14:07
  the
• 14:07
  one.
• 14:08
  Now
• 14:08
  listen,
• 14:09
  I
• 14:09
  say
• 14:09
  this
• 14:10
  with
• 14:10
  so
• 14:10
  much
• 14:11
  love.
• 14:12
  You
• 14:12
  are
• 14:12
  the
• 14:12
  one
• 14:13
  who
• 14:13
  said
• 14:13
  yes
• 14:14
  to
• 14:14
  the
• 14:14
  extra
• 14:14
  project
• 14:15
  nobody
• 14:15
  asked
• 14:16
  you
• 14:16
  to
• 14:16
  take.
• 14:17
  You
• 14:17
  are
• 14:17
  the
• 14:17
  one
• 14:18
  sitting
• 14:18
  in
• 14:18
  the
• 14:18
  meeting
• 14:19
  that
• 14:19
  was
• 14:19
  absolutely
• 14:20
  an
• 14:21
  email.
• 14:23
  You
• 14:23
  are
• 14:23
  the
• 14:24
  one
• 14:24
  who
• 14:24
  has
• 14:24
  quietly
• 14:25
  outgrown
• 14:26
  your
• 14:27
  role,
• 14:28
  but
• 14:28
  has
• 14:28
  not
• 14:29
  admitted
• 14:29
  it
• 14:29
  yet
• 14:30
  because
• 14:31
  admitting
• 14:31
  it
• 14:31
  means
• 14:32
  doing
• 14:33
  something
• 14:33
  about
• 14:34
  it.
• 14:34
  What
• 14:35
  you
• 14:35
  are
• 14:35
  tolerating
• 14:36
  at
• 14:36
  work
• 14:36
  does
• 14:37
  not
• 14:37
  belong
• 14:38
  in
• 14:38
  the
• 14:38
  career
• 14:39
  of
• 14:39
  the
• 14:40
  woman
• 14:40
  you're
• 14:40
  becoming.
• 14:41
  Are
• 14:42
  you
• 14:42
  accepting
• 14:42
  less
• 14:43
  credit
• 14:43
  than
• 14:43
  you
• 14:44
  deserve?
• 14:44
  Less
• 14:45
  compensation
• 14:46
  than
• 14:46
  your
• 14:47
  work
• 14:47
  requires?
• 14:48
  Less
• 14:49
  respect
• 14:50
  than
• 14:50
  your
• 14:50
  talent
• 14:51
  has
• 14:51
  earned?
• 14:52
  Are
• 14:52
  you
• 14:52
  staying
• 14:53
  somewhere
• 14:53
  safe
• 14:54
  when
• 14:54
  you
• 14:55
  know
• 14:55
  good
• 14:55
  and
• 14:56
  well
• 14:56
  you
• 14:57
  were
• 14:57
  built
• 14:58
  for
• 14:58
  something
• 14:59
  bigger?
• 15:00
  Because
• 15:00
  here's
• 15:00
  the
• 15:01
  thing
• 15:01
  about
• 15:01
  high-achieving
• 15:02
  women,
• 15:03
  okay?
• 15:04
  We
• 15:04
  are
• 15:04
  so
• 15:05
  good
• 15:05
  at
• 15:05
  making
• 15:06
  it
• 15:06
  work
• 15:07
  that
• 15:07
  we
• 15:08
  will
• 15:08
  make
• 15:08
  something
• 15:09
  that
• 15:09
  is
• 15:09
  not
• 15:10
  working
• 15:10
  look
• 15:11
  like
• 15:12
  it
• 15:12
  is
• 15:12
  working,
• 15:12
  and
• 15:13
  for
• 15:13
  a
• 15:13
  very
• 15:14
  impressive
• 15:14
  long
• 15:15
  amount
• 15:15
  of
• 15:15
  time.
• 15:20
  We
• 15:20
  will
• 15:20
  optimize,
• 15:22
  adjust,
• 15:23
  over-deliver,
• 15:24
  smile
• 15:24
  through
• 15:25
  it
• 15:25
  until
• 15:26
  we
• 15:26
  are
• 15:26
  completely
• 15:27
  depleted
• 15:28
  and
• 15:29
  wondering
• 15:29
  why
• 15:30
  we
• 15:30
  feel
• 15:30
  so
• 15:31
  unfulfilled.
• 15:32
  It's
• 15:33
  not
• 15:33
  a
• 15:33
  question
• 15:34
  of
• 15:34
  whether
• 15:35
  you
• 15:35
  are
• 15:35
  successful
• 15:36
  at
• 15:36
  work.
• 15:37
  The
• 15:37
  question
• 15:38
  is
• 15:38
  whether
• 15:38
  the
• 15:38
  work
• 15:39
  you're
• 15:39
  tolerating
• 15:40
  is
• 15:40
  actually
• 15:41
  aligned
• 15:42
  with
• 15:42
  who
• 15:43
  you
• 15:43
  are
• 15:43
  becoming,
• 15:44
  Because
• 15:44
  you
• 15:44
  can
• 15:45
  be
• 15:45
  very
• 15:45
  busy
• 15:46
  and
• 15:46
  very
• 15:47
  successful
• 15:48
  and
• 15:48
  still
• 15:48
  be
• 15:49
  tolerating
• 15:49
  your
• 15:50
  way
• 15:51
  out
• 15:51
  of
• 15:51
  your
• 15:52
  purpose,
• 15:53
  and
• 15:53
  we're
• 15:54
  not
• 15:54
  doing
• 15:54
  that,
• 15:54
  okay?
• 15:55
  Not
• 15:55
  today,
• 15:56
  not
• 15:56
  on
• 15:56
  this
• 15:56
  podcast,
• 15:57
  okay?
• 15:58
  Not
• 15:58
  on
• 15:58
  duty.
• 15:59
  Not
• 15:59
  on
• 16:00
  duty.
• 16:05
  Okay,
• 16:05
  friend,
• 16:05
  your
• 16:06
  boundaries
• 16:07
  with
• 16:07
  yourself.
• 16:08
  now
• 16:09
  this
• 16:09
  is
• 16:10
  where
• 16:10
  I
• 16:10
  get
• 16:10
  all
• 16:11
  up
• 16:11
  in
• 16:11
  your
• 16:11
  business.
• 16:13
  And
• 16:14
  it
• 16:14
  might
• 16:14
  be
• 16:15
  the
• 16:15
  most
• 16:16
  important
• 16:16
  one
• 16:17
  on
• 16:17
  the
• 16:17
  list.
• 16:18
  We
• 16:19
  talk
• 16:19
  about
• 16:19
  boundaries
• 16:20
  with
• 16:20
  people
• 16:20
  all
• 16:21
  day
• 16:21
  long,
• 16:22
  but
• 16:23
  what
• 16:24
  about
• 16:24
  the
• 16:25
  commitments
• 16:26
  you
• 16:26
  keep
• 16:26
  making
• 16:27
  to
• 16:27
  yourself
• 16:28
  that
• 16:28
  you
• 16:29
  keep
• 16:29
  quietly
• 16:30
  breaking?
• 16:31
  The
• 16:31
  workout
• 16:32
  you
• 16:32
  promised
• 16:33
  yourself
• 16:33
  three
• 16:34
  Mondays
• 16:34
  in
• 16:34
  a
• 16:34
  row
• 16:35
  and
• 16:35
  counting.
• 16:37
  the
• 16:37
  rest
• 16:37
  you
• 16:38
  said
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  were
• 16:38
  gonna
• 16:38
  take
• 16:39
  that
• 16:39
  turned
• 16:40
  into
• 16:41
  working
• 16:41
  anyway,
• 16:42
  the
• 16:42
  thing
• 16:43
  you
• 16:43
  said
• 16:43
  you
• 16:43
  were
• 16:43
  gonna
• 16:44
  stop
• 16:44
  doing
• 16:44
  that
• 16:45
  you
• 16:45
  still
• 16:45
  doing.
• 16:48
  This
• 16:48
  is
• 16:48
  where
• 16:49
  I'd
• 16:49
  love
• 16:49
  to
• 16:49
  insert
• 16:50
  that
• 16:50
  meme
• 16:51
  that's
• 16:51
  like,
• 16:52
  "And
• 16:52
  I
• 16:52
  oop."
• 16:57
  Yep,
• 16:58
  called
• 16:58
  it
• 16:59
  out.
• 16:59
  But
• 16:59
  really,
• 17:00
  I'm
• 17:00
  calling
• 17:01
  you
• 17:01
  up,
• 17:01
  friend.
• 17:04
  Now
• 17:04
  you
• 17:05
  know
• 17:05
  I
• 17:05
  play
• 17:05
  too
• 17:05
  much,
• 17:05
  but
• 17:06
  hear
• 17:07
  this
• 17:07
  with
• 17:07
  your
• 17:08
  whole
• 17:08
  heart
• 17:09
  when
• 17:09
  I
• 17:09
  say
• 17:10
  The
• 17:10
  way
• 17:11
  you
• 17:11
  treat
• 17:11
  your
• 17:11
  own
• 17:12
  commitments
• 17:12
  to
• 17:13
  yourself
• 17:14
  is
• 17:14
  telling
• 17:15
  you
• 17:15
  exactly
• 17:16
  what
• 17:16
  you
• 17:17
  believe
• 17:17
  about
• 17:18
  your
• 17:18
  own
• 17:18
  worth.
• 17:19
  When
• 17:19
  you
• 17:20
  keep
• 17:20
  breaking
• 17:20
  promises
• 17:21
  to
• 17:21
  yourself,
• 17:22
  you're
• 17:22
  training
• 17:23
  your
• 17:23
  own
• 17:23
  nervous
• 17:24
  system
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  believe
• 17:25
  that
• 17:25
  you
• 17:25
  don't
• 17:26
  follow
• 17:26
  through,
• 17:27
  that
• 17:27
  you
• 17:28
  cannot
• 17:28
  be
• 17:29
  trusted,
• 17:30
  that
• 17:30
  your
• 17:30
  needs
• 17:31
  are
• 17:31
  negotiable.
• 17:32
  And
• 17:33
  then
• 17:33
  you
• 17:33
  wonder
• 17:33
  why
• 17:34
  it
• 17:34
  feels
• 17:34
  so
• 17:34
  hard
• 17:35
  to
• 17:35
  hold
• 17:35
  standards
• 17:36
  with
• 17:36
  other
• 17:36
  people.
• 17:37
  Friend,
• 17:38
  it's
• 17:38
  because
• 17:39
  the
• 17:39
  standard
• 17:40
  starts
• 17:40
  with
• 17:41
  you
• 17:41
  the
• 17:41
  next
• 17:42
  version
• 17:42
  of
• 17:42
  you
• 17:43
  keeps
• 17:43
  her
• 17:43
  word
• 17:44
  to
• 17:44
  herself,
• 17:45
  not
• 17:45
  perfectly,
• 17:47
  but
• 17:47
  consistently
• 17:48
  because
• 17:49
  she
• 17:49
  knows
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  most
• 17:50
  important
• 17:50
  relationship
• 17:51
  she
• 17:52
  has
• 17:52
  is
• 17:53
  the
• 17:53
  one
• 17:53
  she
• 17:53
  has
• 17:54
  with
• 17:54
  herself,
• 17:55
  and
• 17:55
  she's
• 17:55
  not
• 17:56
  out
• 17:56
  here
• 17:56
  tolerating
• 17:57
  herself
• 17:57
  breaking
• 17:58
  her
• 17:58
  own
• 17:58
  promises
• 17:59
  anymore.
• 18:00
  And
• 18:00
  there
• 18:00
  are
• 18:00
  so
• 18:01
  many
• 18:01
  areas
• 18:02
  that
• 18:02
  we
• 18:02
  could
• 18:02
  go
• 18:02
  through
• 18:03
  together,
• 18:03
  friend,
• 18:04
  okay?
• 18:04
  But
• 18:05
  I
• 18:05
  want
• 18:05
  you
• 18:05
  to
• 18:05
  go
• 18:06
  check
• 18:06
  out
• 18:06
  the
• 18:06
  YouTube
• 18:07
  video
• 18:07
  that's
• 18:08
  linked
• 18:08
  in
• 18:08
  the
• 18:08
  show
• 18:08
  notes
• 18:09
  because
• 18:10
  I
• 18:10
  go
• 18:10
  through
• 18:10
  some
• 18:11
  more
• 18:11
  areas
• 18:11
  over
• 18:12
  there,
• 18:12
  and
• 18:12
  we
• 18:13
  really
• 18:13
  have
• 18:13
  a
• 18:13
  good
• 18:13
  time
• 18:14
  with
• 18:14
  it.
• 18:14
  So
• 18:14
  go
• 18:14
  watch
• 18:15
  it
• 18:15
  after
• 18:15
  this,
• 18:16
  okay?
• 18:16
  Okay.
• 18:17
  now
• 18:18
  grace
• 18:19
  is
• 18:19
  a
• 18:20
  whole
• 18:20
  strategy
• 18:21
  within
• 18:22
  itself.
• 18:23
  This
• 18:23
  inventory
• 18:24
  is
• 18:24
  not
• 18:25
  a
• 18:25
  beat
• 18:25
  down
• 18:25
  session.
• 18:26
  You
• 18:27
  do
• 18:27
  not
• 18:27
  get
• 18:27
  to
• 18:27
  use
• 18:28
  your
• 18:28
  awareness
• 18:29
  as
• 18:29
  a
• 18:29
  weapon
• 18:30
  against
• 18:31
  yourself
• 18:32
  That's
• 18:32
  not
• 18:32
  accountability,
• 18:33
  friend.
• 18:34
  That
• 18:34
  is
• 18:34
  just
• 18:35
  self-abandonment
• 18:36
  wearing
• 18:37
  a
• 18:37
  productivity
• 18:37
  costume
• 18:38
  with
• 18:39
  a
• 18:39
  clipboard
• 18:39
  in
• 18:39
  hand.
• 18:40
  Now
• 18:40
  we
• 18:41
  done
• 18:41
  already
• 18:41
  established
• 18:42
  we
• 18:42
  not
• 18:42
  tolerating
• 18:43
  things
• 18:43
  that
• 18:43
  don't
• 18:44
  belong,
• 18:44
  okay?
• 18:46
  Radical
• 18:47
  honesty
• 18:48
  and
• 18:48
  radical
• 18:49
  grace
• 18:50
  can
• 18:50
  absolutely
• 18:51
  live
• 18:52
  in
• 18:52
  the
• 18:52
  same
• 18:52
  place.
• 18:53
  You
• 18:53
  can
• 18:54
  look
• 18:54
  at
• 18:54
  all
• 18:55
  three
• 18:55
  of
• 18:55
  these
• 18:55
  areas
• 18:56
  with
• 18:56
  completely
• 18:57
  clear
• 18:57
  eyes
• 18:58
  and
• 18:59
  still
• 19:00
  be
• 19:00
  loving
• 19:01
  and
• 19:01
  kind
• 19:01
  to
• 19:02
  yourself
• 19:02
  in
• 19:02
  the
• 19:02
  process.
• 19:03
  If
• 19:04
  the
• 19:04
  tough
• 19:04
  love
• 19:05
  starts
• 19:05
  tearing
• 19:05
  you
• 19:06
  down,
• 19:06
  it's
• 19:07
  too
• 19:07
  tough.
• 19:08
  Okay,
• 19:08
  friend?
• 19:12
  Let's
• 19:12
  go
• 19:13
  light
• 19:13
  on
• 19:13
  that,
• 19:14
  okay?
• 19:14
  Go
• 19:15
  heavy
• 19:15
  on
• 19:16
  the
• 19:16
  acceptance,
• 19:17
  the
• 19:17
  acknowledgement,
• 19:18
  and
• 19:18
  accountability.
• 19:19
  If
• 19:19
  you
• 19:20
  are
• 19:20
  in
• 19:20
  a
• 19:20
  season
• 19:21
  right
• 19:21
  now
• 19:21
  where
• 19:22
  you
• 19:22
  feel
• 19:22
  like
• 19:23
  it's
• 19:23
  taking
• 19:23
  too
• 19:24
  long
• 19:25
  or
• 19:26
  you're
• 19:26
  being
• 19:26
  overlooked,
• 19:28
  remember,
• 19:29
  God
• 19:29
  will
• 19:30
  keep
• 19:30
  your
• 19:30
  value
• 19:31
  hidden
• 19:32
  from
• 19:32
  anyone
• 19:33
  who
• 19:33
  is
• 19:33
  not
• 19:34
  meant
• 19:34
  to
• 19:34
  see
• 19:34
  it
• 19:35
  And
• 19:35
  if
• 19:35
  God
• 19:36
  is
• 19:36
  not
• 19:36
  your
• 19:36
  jam,
• 19:37
  then
• 19:37
  feel
• 19:37
  free
• 19:38
  to
• 19:38
  insert
• 19:38
  the
• 19:39
  source,
• 19:39
  universe,
• 19:40
  or
• 19:40
  whom
• 19:40
  you
• 19:40
  believe
• 19:41
  in.
• 19:42
  And
• 19:42
  just
• 19:42
  know
• 19:43
  if
• 19:43
  someone
• 19:44
  cannot
• 19:44
  see
• 19:45
  just
• 19:45
  how
• 19:46
  amazing
• 19:47
  you
• 19:47
  are,
• 19:48
  that
• 19:49
  is
• 19:49
  your
• 19:49
  sign.
• 19:50
  That
• 19:50
  is
• 19:50
  your
• 19:51
  cue.
• 19:51
  Those
• 19:52
  are
• 19:52
  not
• 19:53
  your
• 19:53
  people,
• 19:54
  and
• 19:54
  that
• 19:54
  applies
• 19:55
  to
• 19:55
  places,
• 19:56
  things,
• 19:57
  situations,
• 19:58
  and
• 19:58
  opportunities
• 19:59
  too.
• 19:59
  What
• 20:00
  is
• 20:00
  for
• 20:00
  you
• 20:01
  will
• 20:02
  never
• 20:02
  require
• 20:03
  you
• 20:04
  to
• 20:04
  abandon
• 20:05
  yourself
• 20:05
  to
• 20:06
  get
• 20:06
  it.
• 20:06
  The
• 20:07
  people
• 20:07
  who
• 20:07
  are
• 20:07
  for
• 20:08
  you,
• 20:09
  they
• 20:09
  will
• 20:09
  see
• 20:10
  your
• 20:10
  value
• 20:11
  even
• 20:11
  when
• 20:11
  you
• 20:11
  can't
• 20:12
  see
• 20:12
  it
• 20:12
  in
• 20:12
  yourself.
• 20:14
  They
• 20:14
  will
• 20:14
  celebrate
• 20:15
  what
• 20:15
  makes
• 20:16
  you
• 20:16
  uniquely
• 20:17
  you,
• 20:18
  and
• 20:18
  they
• 20:18
  will
• 20:19
  remind
• 20:19
  you
• 20:19
  of
• 20:20
  it
• 20:20
  when
• 20:20
  you
• 20:20
  forget.
• 20:21
  So
• 20:22
  be
• 20:22
  nice
• 20:23
  to
• 20:23
  yourself,
• 20:23
  friend.
• 20:24
  You
• 20:24
  deserve
• 20:25
  that
• 20:25
  level
• 20:26
  of
• 20:26
  grace,
• 20:27
  especially
• 20:28
  right
• 20:28
  now,
• 20:28
  Especially
• 20:30
  in
• 20:30
  this
• 20:30
  moment
• 20:31
  of
• 20:31
  inventory,
• 20:32
  because
• 20:32
  your
• 20:32
  relationship
• 20:33
  with
• 20:33
  yourself
• 20:34
  sets
• 20:35
  the
• 20:35
  tone
• 20:36
  for
• 20:36
  every
• 20:37
  single
• 20:37
  relationship
• 20:38
  and
• 20:38
  every
• 20:39
  single
• 20:39
  area
• 20:40
  of
• 20:41
  your
• 20:41
  life
• 20:44
  And
• 20:45
  friend,
• 20:45
  if
• 20:45
  you
• 20:46
  wanna
• 20:46
  take
• 20:46
  everything
• 20:47
  we
• 20:47
  just
• 20:48
  talked
• 20:48
  about
• 20:48
  and
• 20:49
  actually
• 20:49
  set
• 20:50
  it
• 20:50
  on
• 20:50
  paper,
• 20:51
  the
• 20:51
  main
• 20:52
  character
• 20:52
  energy
• 20:52
  journal
• 20:53
  prompts
• 20:53
  were
• 20:53
  made
• 20:54
  for
• 20:54
  this
• 20:54
  exact
• 20:55
  moment.
• 20:56
  These
• 20:56
  are
• 20:56
  not
• 20:57
  your
• 20:57
  average
• 20:58
  think
• 20:58
  positive
• 20:59
  and
• 20:59
  write
• 20:59
  it
• 20:59
  down
• 21:00
  prompts,
• 21:00
  okay?
• 21:01
  These
• 21:02
  are
• 21:02
  designed
• 21:03
  to
• 21:03
  help
• 21:03
  you
• 21:03
  get
• 21:03
  radically
• 21:04
  honest
• 21:05
  about
• 21:05
  who
• 21:06
  you
• 21:06
  are,
• 21:07
  what
• 21:07
  you
• 21:07
  have
• 21:07
  been
• 21:08
  accepting,
• 21:08
  and
• 21:09
  who
• 21:09
  you're
• 21:09
  becoming.
• 21:10
  They
• 21:11
  are
• 21:11
  going
• 21:12
  to
• 21:12
  walk
• 21:12
  you
• 21:12
  right
• 21:13
  into
• 21:14
  the
• 21:14
  identity
• 21:15
  shift
• 21:15
  work
• 21:15
  we
• 21:16
  just
• 21:16
  did
• 21:16
  here
• 21:16
  today,
• 21:17
  but
• 21:17
  deeper
• 21:18
  and
• 21:19
  on
• 21:19
  your
• 21:19
  terms,
• 21:20
  at
• 21:20
  your
• 21:20
  pace.
• 21:21
  They
• 21:22
  are
• 21:22
  linked
• 21:22
  in
• 21:22
  the
• 21:22
  show
• 21:23
  notes
• 21:23
  right
• 21:23
  now.
• 21:24
  No
• 21:24
  more
• 21:25
  waiting
• 21:25
  for
• 21:25
  things
• 21:26
  to
• 21:26
  change.
• 21:27
  This
• 21:27
  is
• 21:27
  you
• 21:28
  being
• 21:28
  the
• 21:29
  change
• 21:30
  by
• 21:30
  taking
• 21:31
  this
• 21:31
  next
• 21:31
  step
• 21:35
  Okay,
• 21:35
  friend,
• 21:36
  it
• 21:36
  is
• 21:36
  time
• 21:37
  for
• 21:37
  the
• 21:37
  self-love
• 21:38
  two-step
• 21:39
  with
• 21:39
  the
• 21:40
  remix.
• 21:41
  This
• 21:42
  is
• 21:42
  where
• 21:43
  we
• 21:43
  take
• 21:43
  what
• 21:43
  we've
• 21:43
  talked
• 21:44
  about
• 21:44
  and
• 21:45
  we
• 21:45
  turn
• 21:45
  it
• 21:45
  into
• 21:46
  something
• 21:46
  you
• 21:46
  can
• 21:47
  actually
• 21:48
  do,
• 21:49
  because
• 21:49
  information
• 21:50
  without
• 21:50
  application
• 21:52
  is
• 21:52
  just
• 21:52
  a
• 21:52
  really
• 21:53
  good
• 21:53
  conversation,
• 21:54
  and
• 21:54
  we
• 21:55
  came
• 21:55
  here
• 21:55
  to
• 21:55
  shift,
• 21:56
  so
• 21:57
  let's
• 21:57
  go.
• 22:00
  Step
• 22:00
  one,
• 22:01
  pick
• 22:02
  one
• 22:02
  area
• 22:03
  from
• 22:03
  today's
• 22:03
  inventory.
• 22:05
  It
• 22:05
  can
• 22:05
  be
• 22:05
  a
• 22:06
  relationship,
• 22:07
  your
• 22:07
  work,
• 22:08
  or
• 22:08
  boundaries
• 22:09
  with
• 22:09
  yourself.
• 22:10
  Just
• 22:10
  pick
• 22:11
  one
• 22:11
  and
• 22:11
  write
• 22:12
  down
• 22:12
  one
• 22:13
  specific
• 22:13
  thing
• 22:14
  you
• 22:14
  have
• 22:14
  been
• 22:15
  accepting
• 22:16
  that
• 22:16
  does
• 22:16
  not
• 22:17
  belong
• 22:17
  in
• 22:18
  the
• 22:18
  life
• 22:18
  you're
• 22:18
  building.
• 22:19
  Be
• 22:20
  specific,
• 22:21
  okay?
• 22:22
  No
• 22:22
  vague
• 22:22
  answers
• 22:23
  here.
• 22:23
  Call
• 22:24
  it
• 22:24
  by
• 22:25
  name.
• 22:25
  Step
• 22:26
  two,
• 22:26
  write
• 22:27
  the
• 22:27
  identity
• 22:28
  statement
• 22:28
  of
• 22:29
  the
• 22:29
  woman
• 22:29
  who
• 22:30
  would
• 22:30
  never
• 22:31
  accept
• 22:31
  that.
• 22:32
  Not
• 22:32
  what
• 22:33
  she
• 22:33
  would
• 22:33
  do,
• 22:34
  okay?
• 22:35
  Who
• 22:35
  she
• 22:35
  would
• 22:36
  be.
• 22:37
  Start
• 22:37
  with
• 22:37
  these
• 22:38
  exact
• 22:39
  words,
• 22:40
  "I
• 22:40
  am
• 22:40
  a
• 22:41
  woman
• 22:41
  who..."
• 22:43
  And
• 22:43
  let
• 22:43
  her
• 22:44
  finish
• 22:44
  the
• 22:45
  sentence
• 22:45
  for
• 22:45
  you,
• 22:46
  because
• 22:46
  that
• 22:47
  statement
• 22:48
  is
• 22:48
  your
• 22:48
  new
• 22:49
  standard.
• 22:50
  And
• 22:50
  every
• 22:51
  single
• 22:51
  time
• 22:52
  you
• 22:52
  are
• 22:52
  tempted,
• 22:53
  honey,
• 22:53
  because
• 22:53
  you
• 22:53
  will
• 22:54
  be,
• 22:54
  to
• 22:54
  go
• 22:54
  back
• 22:55
  to
• 22:55
  the
• 22:55
  old
• 22:56
  toleration
• 22:56
  hateration,
• 23:00
  Read
• 23:01
  it
• 23:01
  out
• 23:01
  loud,
• 23:02
  friend.
• 23:03
  Yes,
• 23:03
  out
• 23:03
  loud.
• 23:04
  She
• 23:04
  needs
• 23:05
  to
• 23:05
  hear
• 23:05
  it,
• 23:06
  and
• 23:06
  so
• 23:07
  do
• 23:07
  you
• 23:08
  And
• 23:08
  step
• 23:08
  three
• 23:09
  is
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  you
• 23:10
  step.
• 23:11
  This
• 23:11
  is
• 23:12
  our
• 23:12
  foundation
• 23:13
  step
• 23:13
  of
• 23:13
  everything
• 23:14
  that
• 23:14
  we
• 23:14
  do
• 23:15
  here.
• 23:15
  But
• 23:15
  today
• 23:16
  we're
• 23:16
  gonna
• 23:16
  do
• 23:16
  it
• 23:16
  just
• 23:17
  a
• 23:17
  little
• 23:17
  bit
• 23:17
  different,
• 23:18
  okay?
• 23:19
  This
• 23:19
  time
• 23:20
  we're
• 23:20
  gonna
• 23:20
  do
• 23:20
  a
• 23:21
  little
• 23:21
  mirror
• 23:21
  work.
• 23:22
  So
• 23:22
  yes,
• 23:22
  this
• 23:23
  is
• 23:23
  gonna
• 23:23
  require
• 23:24
  you
• 23:24
  to
• 23:25
  look
• 23:25
  at
• 23:25
  yourself
• 23:26
  in
• 23:26
  the
• 23:26
  mirror.
• 23:27
  And
• 23:27
  you
• 23:28
  can
• 23:28
  even
• 23:28
  do
• 23:29
  this
• 23:29
  on
• 23:30
  your
• 23:30
  phone.
• 23:30
  You
• 23:30
  can
• 23:31
  take
• 23:31
  a
• 23:31
  video
• 23:31
  of
• 23:31
  yourself
• 23:32
  doing
• 23:32
  this.
• 23:32
  That's
• 23:33
  powerful
• 23:33
  as
• 23:34
  well
• 23:34
  Look
• 23:35
  at
• 23:35
  yourself
• 23:35
  directly
• 23:36
  in
• 23:37
  the
• 23:37
  eyes
• 23:37
  and
• 23:38
  say,
• 23:39
  "I
• 23:39
  love
• 23:39
  you."
• 23:40
  That's
• 23:40
  it.
• 23:41
  Those
• 23:42
  three
• 23:42
  words.
• 23:43
  That
• 23:44
  is
• 23:44
  the
• 23:44
  whole
• 23:44
  step.
• 23:45
  And
• 23:45
  if
• 23:45
  you
• 23:46
  really
• 23:46
  want
• 23:47
  to
• 23:47
  shift,
• 23:48
  say
• 23:49
  it
• 23:49
  until
• 23:49
  you
• 23:50
  feel
• 23:51
  it.
• 23:52
  Because
• 23:52
  everything
• 23:53
  we
• 23:53
  talked
• 23:54
  about
• 23:54
  today,
• 23:55
  every
• 23:55
  inventory,
• 23:56
  every
• 23:57
  standard,
• 23:57
  every
• 23:58
  identity
• 23:59
  declaration,
• 24:00
  it
• 24:01
  all
• 24:01
  starts
• 24:02
  right
• 24:02
  here.
• 24:03
  You
• 24:03
  cannot
• 24:04
  raise
• 24:04
  the
• 24:04
  standard
• 24:05
  for
• 24:05
  how
• 24:05
  others
• 24:06
  treat
• 24:06
  you
• 24:07
  until
• 24:07
  you
• 24:08
  raise
• 24:08
  the
• 24:08
  standard
• 24:09
  for
• 24:09
  how
• 24:09
  you
• 24:10
  treat
• 24:10
  you.
• 24:11
  So
• 24:12
  look
• 24:12
  in
• 24:12
  the
• 24:12
  mirror,
• 24:13
  friend,
• 24:14
  and
• 24:14
  mean
• 24:15
  every
• 24:15
  single
• 24:16
  word
• 24:16
  of
• 24:16
  it
• 24:17
  Now
• 24:18
  let
• 24:18
  me
• 24:18
  pour
• 24:19
  into
• 24:19
  you
• 24:19
  right
• 24:19
  quick.
• 24:20
  Friend,
• 24:21
  let's
• 24:21
  acknowledge
• 24:22
  something
• 24:22
  that
• 24:23
  is
• 24:23
  really
• 24:24
  important
• 24:24
  here.
• 24:25
  You
• 24:26
  just
• 24:26
  did
• 24:26
  something
• 24:27
  that
• 24:27
  most
• 24:28
  people
• 24:29
  will
• 24:29
  never
• 24:30
  do
• 24:31
  You
• 24:31
  looked
• 24:31
  at
• 24:32
  your
• 24:32
  relationships,
• 24:33
  your
• 24:33
  work,
• 24:34
  and
• 24:34
  the
• 24:34
  promises
• 24:35
  you
• 24:35
  keep
• 24:36
  making
• 24:36
  to
• 24:36
  yourself,
• 24:37
  and
• 24:37
  you
• 24:38
  told
• 24:38
  the
• 24:38
  truth
• 24:39
  about
• 24:39
  what
• 24:39
  you
• 24:39
  saw
• 24:40
  without
• 24:41
  tearing
• 24:41
  yourself
• 24:42
  down
• 24:42
  in
• 24:42
  the
• 24:42
  process.
• 24:43
  That's
• 24:44
  not
• 24:44
  easy,
• 24:45
  and
• 24:45
  it
• 24:45
  is
• 24:46
  not
• 24:46
  small
• 24:47
  at
• 24:47
  all.
• 24:48
  That
• 24:48
  faint
• 24:49
  whisper
• 24:50
  you
• 24:50
  heard
• 24:50
  today,
• 24:51
  the
• 24:52
  one
• 24:52
  saying
• 24:52
  you
• 24:52
  deserve
• 24:53
  more,
• 24:54
  that
• 24:54
  is
• 24:54
  not
• 24:54
  wishful
• 24:55
  thinking.
• 24:56
  That
• 24:56
  is
• 24:56
  the
• 24:57
  future
• 24:57
  version
• 24:57
  of
• 24:58
  you
• 24:58
  calling
• 24:59
  you
• 24:59
  forward.
• 25:00
  And
• 25:00
  the
• 25:00
  fact
• 25:01
  that
• 25:01
  you
• 25:01
  can
• 25:01
  hear
• 25:02
  her
• 25:02
  right
• 25:02
  now,
• 25:03
  even
• 25:03
  if
• 25:04
  it's
• 25:04
  just
• 25:04
  barely,
• 25:05
  means
• 25:06
  you
• 25:06
  are
• 25:06
  already
• 25:07
  getting
• 25:07
  closer
• 25:08
  to
• 25:08
  her.
• 25:09
  You
• 25:10
  did
• 25:10
  not
• 25:10
  end
• 25:10
  up
• 25:10
  here
• 25:11
  by
• 25:11
  accident,
• 25:11
  friend.
• 25:12
  You
• 25:13
  tolerated
• 25:13
  your
• 25:14
  way
• 25:14
  here,
• 25:14
  and
• 25:15
  now
• 25:15
  you
• 25:16
  are
• 25:16
  aware
• 25:17
  enough
• 25:18
  to
• 25:18
  tolerate
• 25:19
  your
• 25:19
  way
• 25:19
  right
• 25:20
  on
• 25:20
  back
• 25:22
  and
• 25:22
  into
• 25:22
  the
• 25:22
  life
• 25:23
  you
• 25:23
  know
• 25:24
  you
• 25:25
  deserve,
• 25:26
  one
• 25:27
  standard
• 25:27
  at
• 25:28
  a
• 25:28
  time,
• 25:29
  one
• 25:29
  identity
• 25:30
  declaration
• 25:31
  at
• 25:32
  a
• 25:32
  time,
• 25:33
  one
• 25:33
  mirror
• 25:34
  moment
• 25:35
  at
• 25:35
  a
• 25:35
  time.
• 25:36
  The
• 25:36
  life
• 25:37
  you
• 25:37
  want
• 25:37
  is
• 25:38
  not
• 25:38
  out
• 25:38
  of
• 25:39
  reach.
• 25:39
  It
• 25:40
  just
• 25:40
  cannot
• 25:41
  coexist
• 25:42
  with
• 25:43
  what
• 25:43
  you
• 25:43
  have
• 25:44
  been
• 25:44
  accepting.
• 25:45
  And
• 25:46
  today,
• 25:46
  you
• 25:47
  took
• 25:47
  this
• 25:47
  step
• 25:48
  forward,
• 25:49
  closing
• 25:49
  that
• 25:50
  gap.
• 25:51
  And
• 25:51
  I
• 25:51
  could
• 25:51
  not
• 25:52
  be
• 25:52
  more
• 25:53
  proud
• 25:53
  of
• 25:53
  you,
• 25:54
  friend,
• 25:54
  for
• 25:54
  being
• 25:55
  here.
• 25:56
  The
• 25:56
  woman
• 25:56
  you
• 25:57
  are
• 25:57
  becoming
• 25:58
  has
• 25:58
  always
• 25:58
  been
• 25:59
  in
• 25:59
  there
• 26:00
  She
• 26:00
  has
• 26:01
  just
• 26:01
  been
• 26:01
  waiting
• 26:02
  on
• 26:02
  you
• 26:03
  to
• 26:03
  remember
• 26:04
  what
• 26:05
  you
• 26:05
  deserve.
• 26:06
  So
• 26:06
  keep
• 26:07
  going.
• 26:08
  The
• 26:08
  future
• 26:09
  version
• 26:09
  of
• 26:09
  you
• 26:10
  is
• 26:10
  worth
• 26:11
  it,
• 26:11
  and
• 26:11
  so
• 26:12
  are
• 26:12
  you
• 26:13
  right
• 26:14
  now
• 26:17
  Ooh,
• 26:17
  friend.
• 26:18
  Yes.
• 26:19
  This
• 26:20
  is
• 26:20
  very
• 26:21
  much
• 26:21
  giving
• 26:22
  main
• 26:22
  character
• 26:23
  energy.
• 26:24
  That
• 26:24
  is
• 26:25
  you,
• 26:26
  and
• 26:26
  this
• 26:27
  is
• 26:27
  your
• 26:28
  main
• 26:28
  character
• 26:29
  era.
• 26:30
  It
• 26:30
  has
• 26:30
  arrived
• 26:32
  and
• 26:32
  I
• 26:32
  could
• 26:32
  not
• 26:33
  be
• 26:33
  more
• 26:33
  excited
• 26:34
  for
• 26:34
  you.
• 26:34
  Ooh,
• 26:35
  ooh,
• 26:35
  ooh,
• 26:36
  so
• 26:36
  good.
• 26:37
  To
• 26:37
  support
• 26:38
  the
• 26:38
  show,
• 26:39
  leave
• 26:39
  a
• 26:39
  review
• 26:40
  and
• 26:40
  tell
• 26:41
  me
• 26:41
  what
• 26:41
  has
• 26:42
  shifted
• 26:42
  for
• 26:42
  you.
• 26:43
  It's
• 26:44
  the
• 26:44
  best
• 26:44
  way
• 26:45
  to
• 26:46
  say
• 26:46
  thank
• 26:47
  you
• 26:47
  and
• 26:47
  spread
• 26:48
  positive
• 26:48
  messages
• 26:49
  just
• 26:50
  like
• 26:50
  this
• 26:50
  far
• 26:51
  and
• 26:51
  wide
• 26:52
  because
• 26:52
  we
• 26:53
  need
• 26:53
  it
• 26:53
  now
• 26:54
  more
• 26:54
  than
• 26:54
  ever.
• 26:57
  And
• 26:57
  great
• 26:57
  job
• 26:58
  today
• 26:59
  doing
• 26:59
  your
• 27:00
  work.
• 27:01
  Friend,
• 27:01
  I
• 27:02
  am
• 27:02
  cheering
• 27:02
  for
• 27:03
  you
• 27:03
  loud
• 27:04
  and
• 27:04
  obnoxiously
• 27:05
  always.
• 27:06
  Crown
• 27:06
  on,
• 27:07
  queen,
• 27:08
  all
• 27:08
  because
• 27:09
  together
• 27:09
  we
• 27:09
  can
• 27:10
  encourage
• 27:11
  over
• 27:11
  everything