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Hypnosis to Break the Pattern of Drinking Wine Using Mind Trickery · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi. It's Adam here.
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And you're about to listen to a alcohol reduction hypnosis
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session. Now it's linked to wine, but it
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doesn't have to be wine. It just happened to be the case
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with this particular client who had got into a habit of drinking
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several times during the week and quite often would drink a
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bottle of wine during weekday, and they wanted to change that.
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Now, they weren't addicted, they weren't an alcoholic, they just
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wanted to have a better relationship with alcohol than
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what they had been currently experiencing.
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This uses what's called a pattern interrupt.
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A pattern interrupt is when you introduce something new or
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surprising to what is normally an autopilot decision.
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And now for a lot of people that drink, they know exactly what
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they drink, where the drink is, they know how they pour the
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drink into a glass, and they can do all of that on autopilot
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without really thinking. So if you introduce a few things
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that then create surprises or inconsistencies, that becomes a
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patent interrupt to develop new habits and changes.
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Now, this particular client's favorite wine was Chardonnay.
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She would quite often drink a bottle on a weeknight, but she
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absolutely could not stand a different variety of white wine
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called Pinot Grigio. She couldn't stand it, didn't
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connect with her taste buds, she didn't like it.
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And what we do in the session and then she followed up and did
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this in real life, was to buy 2 bottles of wine in her local
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supermarket, a Chardonnay that she would normally have, and
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then the Pinot Grigio that she couldn't stand.
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That even if she was given it as a gift, she would not drink it.
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Now that was important. What you'll hear in the session
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and then what she did in reality is pour the Chardonnay away.
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That's a surprising thing. It creates the brain to think,
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why am I doing this? Because normally I would drink
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this. So it sets a new relationship
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that they can take. It or leave?
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It and then pours the Pinot Grigio into the Chardonnay
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bottle and puts it in the exact location that it would normally
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be. Now here's the interesting
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thing. When the client then goes back
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to that wine on autopilot, it will take a second or so and
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then she'll realize this looks like the Chardonnay but it
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contains the wine that she doesn't want.
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And each time that thought followed by oh I don't want that
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takes place, it's interrupting the pattern.
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Now this is a self enforced boundary.
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Of course she could just go to the supermarket and get a
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different new bottle of Chardonnay, but that isn't the
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point. The point is that she knows it's
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a self created boundary and that she is choosing to stick to this
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boundary to have a better relationship with wine.
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But it's easier to do that if the friction is well, you've got
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to go to the store and buy a new one.
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It's it that would take 15 minutes or so.
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Now that friction is enough to break out of any, let's say,
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compulsions or cravings or instant urges.
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If you've got that friction, if you don't have that friction
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there, then before they know it, they've already had a sip and
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then it feels like it's too late.
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So by creating a patent interrupt where the perception
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collides with reality, it then gives them a window.
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Now what they really wanted is to have the occasional drink in
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social situations on Friday or Saturday and you'll hear those
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suggestions. At the core, this is a hypnosis
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session all about renegotiating a relationship with alcohol
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based on what they actually want rather than what they just have
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been doing. So if you can connect to that
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idea, you might get some value from this session.
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But there might be certain things that don't quite fit you.
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It might be that you love Pinot Grigio and don't really like
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Chardonnay. Or it might be that you don't
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drink wine at all and you drink beer or a spirit.
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At its core, it's about changing the relationship, so feel free
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to replace anything with things that are more relevant for you,
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or just ignore any suggestions that don't quite resonate.
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But if you do like the idea of having a bespoke session created
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specifically for you, there will be a link in the description
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where you can schedule a free consultation call.
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We'll have a chat over Zoom, and who knows, we might end up
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working together rather than you just listening to a recording.
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For now, though, you might really get some value from this
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session, even though it was created for someone else.
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So find a quiet, comfortable place where you're not going to
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be distracted or disturbed. Relax and.
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Enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a
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wonderful feeling of release, as if any tension, stress, worries,
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they're starting to leave your body.
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Every time you breathe out, feel your eyelids getting heavier and
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more relaxed and allow yourself to position your body in such a
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way that makes it easy to get more and more comfortably
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relaxed. Now in fact, think of a colour
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that represents pure relaxation, maybe a bright colour like
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sunshine, and imagine breathing in that colour of sunshine, a
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wonderful feeling of relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
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anything to be released that would be useful to release any
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tension, any stress, any worries.
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Just imagine it leaving your body like shadows in your
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outward breath. Breathing in relaxation,
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exhaling tension. Each breath takes you deeper and
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deeper. Relaxed.
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In fact, the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel and
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the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens and I want
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you to imagine a wall of memories.
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You remember those old pin boards?
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Just imagine something like that in your imagination but filled
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with memories of view beside water, walks by a river or a
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stream, looking out on a lake and see memories of view on the
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beautiful beaches. Allow one memory to start to
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become more prominent. You on a beach looking very
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relaxed. As you focus on that memory,
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imagine floating up and going inside that memory.
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Feel what it would feel like to be on that beach, wearing
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whatever clothing is appropriate to be on that beach.
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Imagine feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin, hear the
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gentle breaking of waves on the shore.
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And because it's your memory, just imagine no one else is
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around a private beach just for you.
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And perhaps you could imagine a lounger, a blanket, perhaps a
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cabana, a kind of place on that beach where you could deeply
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relax now. And I want you to assess there
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in that moment of relaxation that you don't need alcohol to
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feel relaxed. There is a combination lock of
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relaxation that exists for you, a certain amount of muscle
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tension or relaxation, a certain way of breathing, a certain pace
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of inner dialogue that enables you to relax with or without
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alcohol. And I want you to notice how
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throughout your life you've created unconscious rules as to
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what you drink, when you drink, and how much you drink.
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I want you to get a sense that throughout your life, drinking
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in the daytime has been the exception and never the rule.
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There is something about daytime that means the same alcohol
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loses its desire. It just isn't appealing for you.
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And I want you to connect to that feeling that alcohol exists
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and you have no desire for it. And when you can connect to that
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feeling, let me know about nodding your head.
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That's it. I want you to get a feeling that
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alcohol was never an addiction, never a compulsion, never
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something you would dependent on.
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In fact, for most of your life, it isn't.
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Even take. It or leave it.
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It's just leave it and want you to get a sense that only a tiny
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part of your life had a. Place for.
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Alcohol to exist. And even then, it wasn't all
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alcohol. As I countdown from 5 to 1, I
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want you to imagine drifting off into a dreamlike sleep and
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imagine that you're back in your own home. 5 eyelids getting
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heavier, 4 jaw getting looser, 3 just feeling relaxed in your
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neck and your shoulders. 2 arms and legs feel limp, loose and
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heavier. And then one drifting off on
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that beach into a dreamlike sleep where you could imagine
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being in your own home on a weekday night.
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And I want you to imagine that even if it's the evening, you
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have no desire for spirits, you have no desire for a cocktail,
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there is no desire for certain types of white wine like Pinot
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Grigio. All.
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Of this is evidence that you are already discerning about what
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you drink and when you drink and how much you drink.
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You can't recall a weekday evening when you had three
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bottles of wine. And I want you to get a feeling
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that there is just one final frontier, one final update to
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your own internal boundaries. I want you to get a sense that
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for a while you've been believing a false belief.
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You've believed on a weekday that somehow you needed you
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needed a glass of wine to help you relax on a weekday evening.
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And that was never true. Because when someone needs
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something, they can't live without it.
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What is true is that there was a period of time where you wanted
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it, but you didn't even want it that badly.
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So let's go on a thought experiment.
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I want you to imagine what it would feel like to go into your
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regular supermarket and to buy your favorite type of wine.
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Maybe a Chardonnay or something else.
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And then perhaps a wine that you feel a sense of revulsion or
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disgust, The kind of wine that makes you not want it at all.
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And maybe that's a bottle of Pinot Grigio.
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I want you to imagine buying both.
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And when you return, let's do a ritual.
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I want you to imagine opening the bottle of Chardonnay and
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intentionally pouring it down the sink, linking it to the idea
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that this now creates a line in the sand where something has
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changed. And once you've imagined pouring
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it down the sink, the bottle is now empty.
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Let me know by nodding your head.
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That's it. Now imagine opening the bottle
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of Pinot Grigio and pouring that wine, maybe with a funnel, into
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the bottle of Chardonnay. So now the bottle of Chardonnay
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contains a wine that you do not like.
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And I want you to imagine closing the bottle, maybe
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screwing it shut, maybe putting a bottle top on it and putting
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it back exactly where it would have been kept if it was that
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bottle of Chardonnay. Maybe the fridge, maybe
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somewhere else. And I want you to imagine
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looking at it in that location, seeing it as Chardonnay, but
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knowing it's the Pinot Grigio inside.
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And I want you to see what thoughts come up.
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Thoughts like I don't want that. I would never drink that.
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But I want you to give yourself permission that during a weekday
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you have full permission to go to the supermarket to buy
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whatever wine you want to pour it, to drink it.
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But the price of admission is to drink the wine you don't like
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first. Not to punish you, but as a way
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of you assessing how important or not it is to drink wine.
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And you might be surprised that every now and then you open that
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refrigerator on autopilot. You see the wine and then you
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recall it contains the wine you don't like, and so the fridge
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door closes and you will feel a sense of temporary confusion or
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uncertainty. Which is wonderful because this
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is where new neural pathways are formed when new habits are
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built. And I don't know if you will
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pour yourself a refreshing glass of water, or have a hot drink,
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or even a juice, or perhaps feel no desire to drink anything at
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all and just do something else instead.
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Not because you have to, but because you're choosing to.
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Because if the price of admission is to simply drink
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wine you don't like, and you're not willing to do that, it means
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that you were never that bothered about drinking wine
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anyway. And I want you to imagine maybe
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it will be days or weeks until you stop even looking in the
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refrigerator. Before you build new habits.
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Before it just doesn't matter anymore.
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And now switch your attention to the weekends.
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In the same way you had a false belief that you needed wine to
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relax, you're also carrying a belief that you need wine to
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enjoy the weekends as a reward. And I want you to imagine just
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for the next few weeks, just to see how easy it is to find
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alternatives like alcohol free drinks, refreshing soft drinks
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or just water. So if it's a weekend evening,
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instead of a bottle, it's a glass.
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The price of admission to have a glass of what you do want is a
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glass of what you don't want. And if you're not willing to pay
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that price of admission, it means that wine is not that
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necessary for you. If your unconscious agrees, let
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me know by nodding your head. And I want you to imagine being
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in the kind of place you might be on a weekend, maybe a
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restaurant, maybe a bar, maybe a guest in someone else's home.
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And just remember that it is you giving yourself this rule simply
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as a way to change neural pathways that have been repeated
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hundreds, if not thousands of times.
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And sometimes all it takes to break a pattern is to do
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something different. I want you to think back perhaps
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14 or 15 years ago. There was a time when you were a
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smoker, and then there was a time that you weren't.
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And notice how quickly your brain went from doing certain
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things to doing other things. There was a point in time where
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you wanted something badly and then didn't want it anymore.
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It would have been a time that you would have bought cigarettes
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and then a time when you didn't. There would have been a time
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when you have been offered and then accepted, and then a time
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when you were offered and you declined.
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I want you to think about how subtle those differences are,
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and yet those tiny differences made all the difference at its
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core. Something you did want, you no
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longer wanted, not because the thing changed, but because of
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how you thought about that thing.
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I want you to get the sense that wine is not relaxation wine.
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Wine is a depressant. It can feel like relaxation, but
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if alcohol was so good at relaxing, people would sleep
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better after alcohol and they sleep worse.
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And if alcohol was crucial to fun and enjoyment, why is it
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that so many arguments, conflicts, aggression sometimes
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are linked to those times when people are drinking?
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I want you to update your own thoughts on what alcohol truly
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means for you now and the kind of relationship you want with
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alcohol. And imagine yourself in the next
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few days and weeks. Notice what you're doing
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differently, what you're doing on an average weeknight That
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means. You can.
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Dial down those thoughts of work without needing a glass of wine.
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I want you to imagine yourself on a weekend, enjoying perhaps
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an alcohol free beer or a nice soft drink, and still having
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just as much fun, just as much connection.
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And every time you think of drinking on a weekday or a
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weekend, and every time you think if that's what it takes to
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drink, I just don't want it, you will feel a sense of liberation
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and pride that you are already changing your neural pathways so
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that in the future, drinking feels not like a habit or a
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necessity, purely an option. And one of those options is not
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to drink at all. And I want you to get a sense
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that this, this makes wine, if you do drink, more enjoyable,
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knowing that you don't need it if you choose to drink it.
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Once those updated thoughts, ideas, stories and beliefs have
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changed and you're ready to step into a new identity, an identity
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of discernment and freedom, let me know by nodding your head.
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And then drift back onto that beach and just imagine someone
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offers you a glass of wine and think how easy it would be to
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say no. And then imagine yourself on an
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evening and a thought pops into your head somewhere in the
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world. It's 9:00 in the morning and I
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don't drink wine at 9:00 in the morning.
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And as you hold that thought, you realise you are closer than
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ever before to a new relationship with alcohol, a
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relationship on your terms that aligns with your priorities,
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that takes your life in the direction that you desire.
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And as you hold that thought, it's time to drift back through
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that memory on the wall, back into your body.
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And very soon I will count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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But for now, take a deep breath in through your nose and out
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through your nose. Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle
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your toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I
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now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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Starting to count 123 waking up 456.
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More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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