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Episode 602: Be Prepared For Your Ex To Beg & Chase You · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi. This is the cheer with the art
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  of love. I'm a dating and relationship.
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  Experts specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
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  over your ex this week. I want to talk about a topic
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  that I know you're going to be very interested in, and that is
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  about having your ex beg and chase you mastering the role
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  reversal technique? Yes, it is possible.
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  Isn't that what we all want, when we've been broken up with,
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  or maybe sometimes when we had to break up with someone because
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  they were taking us for granted, or they cheated, we want them to
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  come back. Back begging.
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  Well, it's possible. And in fact, I had this comment
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  here from this woman and she said, what do you do if they
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  won't go away three days? No contact nine missed calls
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  three. Voicemails Edible Arrangements
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  to my work placing. I'm sorry.
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  Please call, she's really taken to heart my suggestion that you
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  don't respond to an insignificant text and messages,
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  one text about. He'll leave me alone, and he
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  hopes have a blessed life. Sure.
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  Shut up. That's always a bluff.
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  Okay. When someone says fine.
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  Okay, I'll leave you alone. Have a blessed life.
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  They're just trying to get you to respond or to call them back.
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  They're not, they Ain't Goin Nowhere.
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  Okay. And then she goes and then he
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  popped up at my house. Yeah, this is a bit, excessive,
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  I don't know if we want all that.
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  I don't know. Maybe you do.
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  But as you can see, it is possible.
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  So that is what we're going to talk about today.
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  But of course, first I want to welcome back my beautiful, no
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  contact Army. As I've mentioned in previous
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  videos, I am almost at 100 thousand subscribers.
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  Going up. And the only way to know when I
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  the videos up because I'm not going to put up as a premier,
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  the lucky ones and if you two would like to join our no
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  And as I said, the Bell notification and to read our
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  manual, go to no contact. Dot-com, where you can read to
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  free chapters before purchasing the book, okay?
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  So how can you get your ex to beg you in the case, like the
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  woman in the comment? Or maybe not as much if it's a
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  bit too much for you or maybe it's not enough.
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  Who knows? Well it's all based on interest
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  level. As I've talked to many times
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  before, and I've learned about this through the wonderful late
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  doc love and he is the person I've learned about interest
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  level 4. Um, he has a great book that I
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  suggest you definitely check out if you want to know more about
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  it. And the link to that is
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  underneath every single video, the link to everything is
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  underneath every single video, in case you're wondering.
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  So, when someone has a high interest, they can't control
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  what they say and they can't control what they do.
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  So, think about what attracted you to them in the first place.
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  When people start dating, they often stop their previous
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  activities and they start to revolve your life around the
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  partner. Now, this has to happen to a
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  certain extent, but to totally intertwined, and to totally stop
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  your Hooves activities or really minimalize them, is rarely a
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  good idea. That's one of the things that
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  made you attractive in the first place.
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  In fact that you had your own life, and I'm always astounded
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  at how many people say that after a breakup, they started
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  working out again. Excuse me.
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  Why How would you ever stop working out in the first place?
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  That's like bait and switch, because you looked a certain way
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  when you first started dating, then you became lazy and you sat
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  around at home and just wanted to watch TV and chill and eat.
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  And then all of a sudden after the break up, now, you kick it
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  into high gear. It shouldn't take a break up for
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  you to continue, going to the gym and keeping up your look.
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  So, stop being so lazy. That way, if you are broken up
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  with, you don't have to worry about not having any options
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  because you are Yourself. Go if anything your ex is
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  actually going to worry because they know that you're a catch
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  but for whatever reason they need to break up with you
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  because you still look great and who doesn't want someone who
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  looks great. I mean, think about someone like
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  Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, let's say you were dating them.
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  Let's see, we were so lucky as to be able to date them.
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  So if they became needy and beta and annoying in a relationship,
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  a lot of people would probably break up with them, right?
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  But even as you were breaking up with them, you know, that
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  they're a great catch, you know, Brad Pitt is a great catch, you
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  know, Angelina is a great catch and you know, that some other
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  person is going to come along and snatch them up quickly,
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  right? So you always going to keep
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  yourself a great catch and if you're not a great catch, then
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  make yourself a great catch by leveling up.
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  Next, we have to talk about confidence.
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  It's the number one quality that both sexes look for in a partner
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  and Breakup, most people display behaviors that would show that
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  they're anything, but confident, it's not attractive and it
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  doesn't raise interest level and I know you don't feel confident
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  right now. So I want you to keep in mind
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  this war strategy that are about to tell you and it is this when
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  you are strong you must appear weak.
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  When you are weak, you must appear strong and this goes
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  actually to all aspects of life even in business.
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  Especially in business. So right now you're weak and
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  therefore, you must portray the opposite.
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  Which means you must seem as if you're strong, you have to look
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  as if you're accepting the breakup and you're moving on
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  with your life. So your attitude has to be.
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  I'm going to be stronger and I'm going to survive this and if you
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  focus on that it'll come through in your attitude and your
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  actions as opposed to, oh my God.
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  So the end of the world under a finding one just as good.
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  So, how do you become more confident?
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  Well, one is to focus on the activities as I mentioned before
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  in your life that were you were already doing that.
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  Made you feel confident, maybe it was working out, maybe it was
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  painting, maybe it was riding your motorcycle, whatever makes
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  you feel alive, is what you should be doing more of and that
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  goes for everyone in general, not just, after not just people
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  going through a breakup. So you want to focus on
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  activities that make you happy and minimize activities that
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  don't. And this is why I sometimes
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  suggest to my clients that are having a very hard hard time
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  with no contact to go on vacation and that often helps to
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  change their mindset because you're busy planning the trip
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  especially if it's to a place you've never been before.
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  Then once you get there, there's so much to explore that you have
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  less time to worry about your ex and whether you'll get back
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  together or not, the second thing that will increase your
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  confidence is time. As time goes by and you stay in
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  no contact, you become more confident.
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  And you're also able to have some perspective on the
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  relationship and on your ex's Behavior.
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  Right now you have them up on a pedestal and as time goes by,
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  you may be reminded of things. They did that.
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  Now turn you off but at the time you accepted it because your
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  interest level was so high. And when our interest level is
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  super high, we put up with more than we should.
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  So as time goes by you're able to gain more perspective on the
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  Of the relationship and with that comes more confidence
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  because you're being more realistic.
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  Now, at some point chances are that you will hear from your ex
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  and that will be the moment of truth.
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  How are you going to behave? Are you going to give in to your
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  fear that you'll never hear from them again, and therefore
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  respond to any bread crumb, they throw your way.
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  Or are you going to be the new confidence self and wait, for
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  something significant, your ex can't beg you to take them back
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  and chase you to get you back. If you respond to every little
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  message, they send that just tells them that they can have
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  you back anytime. I'm So there's no fear of loss,
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  there's no scarcity. They don't feel like time is
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  running out to get you back because you're available
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  whenever they reach out. That's why I've implored you in
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  so many videos to please not respond to breadcrumbs.
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  A lot of you have done it, congratulations.
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  And I'm very proud of you. And by the way, if you'd like
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  what you're here so far, please remember to like this video, so
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  that the YouTube algorithm will show it to more people and we
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  can help more people who are going through a breakup.
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  Thank you. Now most people cannot handle
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  silence in general. Not just science that comes with
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  no contact. And how do I know this?
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  Well, let me ask you this, are you able to stay home by
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  yourself with absolutely no radio on or TV?
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  I don't know if anyone should radio anymore, but you know what
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  I'm talking about satellite radio.
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  Most people are not able to do that, they have to have
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  something on the TV on in the background, even if they're not
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  Not watching it because they are uncomfortable with silence and
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  they are uncomfortable with their own thoughts.
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  That's why it's essential that you stick with no contact and
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  not responding to breadcrumbs, and Let The Sound of Silence
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  ring loudly in your ex's ears. And when you do eventually speak
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  to your ex if they're not trying to make plans to meet you, after
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  a little bit of chatting you politely end the chat.
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  I did a video on the topic of several my clients who totally
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  messed up by giving their ex hours and hours of their time
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  when they finally talked to them and I'll put that link in the
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  upper right corner. So they either asked to get
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  together or the conversation is over things.
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  Now have to be done on your terms not theirs.
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  And I told the story, one of my early videos about a breakup
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  that I went through many years ago, where I begged the guy now,
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  to break up with me, that was the first and last time I ever
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  did that, and he called me back a couple of nights later, just
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  to check up on me, since I met such a fuss, when he broke up
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  with me and luckily, but that time, I had smartened up, and I
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  was a totally different person. I kept the conversation short
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  and I said, yes, I'm doing great.
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  I was just a bit shocked by The Break-Up, but I'm good now.
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  Well, I have to get going, have a good night.
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  Well, guess who want to see me again?
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  Two weeks later. Huh, that was many years ago and
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  we're now Facebook friends. So, the power shifts.
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  When they see that, you're no longer desperate, you're not
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  begging, you're not crying, and you're not trying to get them
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  back, everyone wants a prize and you can't be a prize.
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  If you're doing all those things and if you're responding to
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  every little bread crumb and coming across as needy and
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  desperate to get them back, that's the total opposite of a
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  prize. So fake it till you make it as
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  they say. Head up, shoulders back and move
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  forward in confidence. Knowing that if you use the
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  strategies correctly, the chances of getting your ex back
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  are very, very high. So I'm going to hear from you.
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  What have you been doing or what will you be doing from now?
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  On to raise your confidence and go back to feeling like your old
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  self? Again, the confidence that you
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  had before you met your ex and in the meantime if you would
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  like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at the
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  art of love dotnet. The direct link is below and we
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  will send you the rates if you're listening to this as a
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