Polyamory Inside a 16-Year Marriage: Jealousy, Freedom & Honesty

The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over. · Oct 2, 2025 · 50m

I talk with Mike Messeroff, a personal freedom coach who has been married for 16 years and polyamorous with his wife for the last seven. His wife brought up the idea over breakfast one morning, his initial reaction was no, and now he says it's the best thing that ever happened to their relationship.

We get into what polyamory actually is versus what people assume it is — it's not swinging, it's not an excuse to cheat, and for Mike, it's not even primarily about sex. He talks about how he and his wife were codependent for years, how opening their marriage forced him to confront jealousy…