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Note 32: The Glow-Up Starts When You Stop Lying to Yourself · Notes to Her

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  Hey,
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  girl.
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  Hey.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Notes
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  to
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  her
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  the
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  daily
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  pep
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  talk.
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  I'm
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  Yaya
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  your
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  confidence
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  and
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  mindset
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  coach,
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  here
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  stop
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  talking
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  yourself
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  out
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  of
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  the
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  life
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  you
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  want
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  and
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  and
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  start
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  walking
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  like
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  the
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  woman
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  that
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  you're
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  becoming.
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  And
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  since
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  we're
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  officially
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  in
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  a
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  new
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  year,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  say
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  this
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  out
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  loud
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  because
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  I
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  know
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  there
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  is
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  so
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  much
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  pressure
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  to
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  become
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  a
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  brand
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  new
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  version
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  of
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  yourself
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  overnight.
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  New
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  year,
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  new
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  goals,
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  new
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  routines,
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  new
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  personality.
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  But
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  if
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  you
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  listen
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  to
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  the
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  last
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  note,
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  then
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  you
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  already
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  know
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  this
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  truth.
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  You
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  don't
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  need
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  to
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  start
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  perfect.
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  You
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  don't
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  need
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  a
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  flawless
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  plan.
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  You
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  don't
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  need
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  to
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  have
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  it
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  all
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  figured
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  out.
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  But
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  today,
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  today
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  does
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  need
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  to
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  happen
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  if
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  glow
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  up
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  this
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  year.
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  Because
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  this
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  glow
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  up
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  doesn't
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  start
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  with
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  doing
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  more.
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  It
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  actually
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  starts
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  when
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  you
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  stop
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  lying
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  to
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  yourself.
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  Now,
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  most
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  women
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  say
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  they
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  want
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  confidence.
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  They
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  say
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  they
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  want
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  growth.
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  They
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  that
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  girl
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  unapologetically.
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  But
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  what
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  they
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  hesitate
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  to
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  do
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  is
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  to
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  get
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  honest
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  about
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  the
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  ways
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  that
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  they
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  have
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  been
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  holding
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  themselves
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  back.
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  So
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  instead,
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  they
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  lie
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  to
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  themselves.
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  And
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  times
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  they
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  don't
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  even
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  realize
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  that
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  they're
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  doing
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  it.
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  They
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  might
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  say
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  things
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  like,
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  I'm
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  just
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  not
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  ready
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  yet.
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  I
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  just
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  need
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  to
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  learn
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  more
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  first.
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  You
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  know,
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  it's
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  probably
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  just
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  bad
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  timing.
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  That's
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  just
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  not
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  my
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  personality.
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  Or
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  I'll
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  do
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  it
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  when
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  I
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  feel
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  more
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  comfortable.
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  But
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  if
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  we're
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  being
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  real,
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  those
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  aren't
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  facts.
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  Those
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  are
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  excuses
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  I
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  like
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  to
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  call
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  fear.
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  Sentences
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  dressed
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  up
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  as
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  logic.
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  And
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  the
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  glow
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  up
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  cannot
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  begin
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  while
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  you're
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  still
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  protecting
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  the
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  line.
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  So
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  there
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  was
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  a
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  season
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  in
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  my
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  life
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  where
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  I
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  wanted
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  everything,
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  like
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  the
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  new
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  career,
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  the
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  business,
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  the
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  confidence,
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  the
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  stability,
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  the
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  glow
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  up
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  I
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  had
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  the
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  vision
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  board,
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  the
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  affirmations,
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  the
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  passion,
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  the
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  desire.
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  But
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  every
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  time
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  it
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  was
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  time
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  to
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  act,
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  I
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  found
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  a
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  reason
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  to
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  wait.
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  I'll
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  start
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  next
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  month.
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  Things
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  are
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  busy.
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  I'll
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  do
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  it
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  after
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  I
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  save
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  more
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  money
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  or
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  I'll
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  stop
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  posting.
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  Once
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  I'm
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  more
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  consistent,
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  I'll
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  launch
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  after
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  X,
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  Y
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  and
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  Z
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  changes.
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  And
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  the
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  wild
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  part
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  is
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  I
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  believed
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  every
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  single
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  excuse
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  that
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  I
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  told
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  myself.
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  I
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  thought
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  I
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  was
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  being
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  practical,
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  responsible,
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  wise.
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  But
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  here's
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  the
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  truth
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  that
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  I
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  didn't
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  want
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  to
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  admit.
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  I
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  wasn't
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  scared
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  of
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  the
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  work
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  and
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  I
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  wasn't
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  scared
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  of
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  the
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  dream.
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  But
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  I
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  was
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  scared
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  of
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  the
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  result
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  not
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  matching
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  the
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  vision.
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  Because
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  if
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  I
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  never
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  tried,
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  I
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  never
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  had
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  to
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  face
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  the
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  possibility
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  that
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  maybe
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  it
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  wouldn't
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  work.
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  And
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  girl,
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  that
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  lie
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  was
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  comfortable.
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  Because
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  later
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  doesn't
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  challenge
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  you
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  later.
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  Doesn't
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  stretch
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  you
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  later.
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  Doesn't
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  expose
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  you
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  later.
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  Lets
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  you
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  hide.
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  And
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  then
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  there
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  was
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  one
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  day.
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  I
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  was
• 2:56
  journaling.
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  I
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  was
• 2:57
  flipping
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  back
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  through
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  old
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  pages,
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  and
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  I
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  realized
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  I
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  had
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  written
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  the
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  same
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  dream
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  every
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  month
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  for
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  almost
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  a
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  year.
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  Same
• 3:05
  goal,
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  same
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  desire,
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  same
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  wording,
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  just
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  rewritten,
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  not
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  lived
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  out.
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  And
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  it
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  hit
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  me
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  so
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  hard
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  that
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  I
• 3:13
  had
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  to
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  close
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  the
• 3:13
  journal.
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  It
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  wasn't
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  light
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  holding
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  me
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  back.
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  It
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  wasn't
• 3:17
  timing
• 3:18
  holding
• 3:18
  me
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  back.
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  It
• 3:19
  wasn't
• 3:19
  lack
• 3:20
  of
• 3:20
  confidence.
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  It
• 3:21
  was
• 3:21
  a
• 3:21
  lie
• 3:22
  that
• 3:22
  I
• 3:22
  kept
• 3:22
  telling
• 3:23
  myself.
• 3:24
  I'll
• 3:24
  start
• 3:24
  once
• 3:24
  I'm
• 3:25
  ready.
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  When
• 3:26
  the
• 3:26
  truth
• 3:26
  was,
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  I
• 3:27
  wasn't
• 3:27
  waiting
• 3:27
  on
• 3:28
  readiness.
• 3:28
  I
• 3:29
  was
• 3:29
  waiting
• 3:29
  on
• 3:29
  certainty.
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  And
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  that
• 3:31
  day,
• 3:31
  I
• 3:31
  had
• 3:31
  to
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  sit
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  with
• 3:32
  a
• 3:32
  question
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  that
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  really
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  changed
• 3:34
  everything.
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  I
• 3:35
  asked
• 3:35
  myself,
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  what
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  if
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  the
• 3:37
  only
• 3:37
  thing
• 3:38
  standing
• 3:38
  in
• 3:39
  between
• 3:39
  me
• 3:39
  and
• 3:39
  my
• 3:40
  glow
• 3:40
  up
• 3:41
  is
• 3:41
  a
• 3:41
  lie
• 3:41
  that
• 3:42
  I
• 3:42
  keep
• 3:42
  using
• 3:43
  to
• 3:43
  protect
• 3:43
  my
• 3:44
  fear?
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  Now,
• 3:47
  let's
• 3:47
  talk
• 3:47
  about
• 3:47
  imposter
• 3:48
  syndrome
• 3:48
  for
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  second,
• 3:49
  because
• 3:49
  this
• 3:49
  is
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  where
• 3:50
  a
• 3:50
  whole
• 3:50
  lot
• 3:50
  of
• 3:51
  the
• 3:51
  lines
• 3:51
  start.
• 3:52
  Imposter
• 3:53
  syndrome
• 3:54
  usually
• 3:54
  shows
• 3:54
  up
• 3:54
  when
• 3:55
  you're
• 3:55
  stepping
• 3:55
  into
• 3:55
  something
• 3:56
  new,
• 3:57
  when
• 3:57
  you're
• 3:57
  raising
• 3:57
  your
• 3:57
  standards,
• 3:58
  when
• 3:59
  you're
• 3:59
  being
• 3:59
  seen
• 3:59
  in
• 4:00
  a
• 4:00
  bigger
• 4:00
  way,
• 4:01
  or
• 4:01
  when
• 4:01
  you're
• 4:01
  no
• 4:01
  longer
• 4:02
  hiding
• 4:02
  behind
• 4:03
  what's
• 4:03
  familiar.
• 4:04
  And
• 4:05
  here's
• 4:05
  a
• 4:05
  part
• 4:05
  that
• 4:05
  a
• 4:05
  lot
• 4:06
  of
• 4:06
  women
• 4:06
  don't
• 4:06
  understand.
• 4:07
  Imposter
• 4:08
  syndrome
• 4:08
  isn't
• 4:08
  a
• 4:08
  sign
• 4:08
  that
• 4:09
  you're
• 4:09
  incapable.
• 4:10
  It's
• 4:10
  your
• 4:10
  nervous
• 4:11
  system's
• 4:11
  response
• 4:12
  to
• 4:12
  growth.
• 4:13
  So
• 4:13
  your
• 4:13
  brain
• 4:13
  is
• 4:13
  trying
• 4:14
  to
• 4:14
  keep
• 4:14
  you
• 4:14
  safe
• 4:14
  by
• 4:15
  pulling
• 4:15
  you
• 4:15
  back
• 4:15
  to
• 4:16
  what's
• 4:16
  familiar,
• 4:17
  even
• 4:17
  if
• 4:17
  what's
• 4:18
  familiar
• 4:18
  isn't
• 4:19
  aligned
• 4:19
  anymore.
• 4:20
  So
• 4:20
  imposter
• 4:21
  syndrome
• 4:21
  doesn't
• 4:21
  scream.
• 4:22
  It
• 4:22
  sounds
• 4:23
  reasonable.
• 4:24
  It
• 4:25
  says,
• 4:25
  who
• 4:26
  do
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  think
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  are?
• 4:27
  Other
• 4:28
  people
• 4:28
  are
• 4:28
  better
• 4:28
  than
• 4:28
  you.
• 4:29
  You're
• 4:30
  just
• 4:30
  going
• 4:30
  to
• 4:30
  embarrass
• 4:30
  yourself.
• 4:32
  They're
• 4:32
  going
• 4:32
  to
• 4:33
  find
• 4:33
  out.
• 4:34
  And
• 4:34
  instead
• 4:35
  of
• 4:35
  questioning
• 4:35
  that
• 4:36
  voice,
• 4:36
  a
• 4:36
  lot
• 4:36
  of
• 4:37
  women
• 4:37
  just
• 4:37
  start
• 4:37
  obeying
• 4:38
  it.
• 4:38
  They
• 4:38
  dim
• 4:38
  their
• 4:39
  ideas,
• 4:39
  they
• 4:40
  downplay
• 4:40
  their
• 4:40
  wins,
• 4:41
  and
• 4:41
  they
• 4:41
  wait
• 4:41
  for
• 4:42
  permission
• 4:42
  that
• 4:42
  never
• 4:43
  comes.
• 4:44
  And
• 4:44
  here's
• 4:44
  something
• 4:44
  that
• 4:45
  a
• 4:45
  lot
• 4:45
  of
• 4:45
  people
• 4:45
  are
• 4:45
  not
• 4:45
  going
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  tell
• 4:46
  you,
• 4:46
  but
• 4:46
  I
• 4:47
  will.
• 4:48
  Imposter
• 4:49
  syndrome
• 4:49
  isn't
• 4:49
  proof
• 4:50
  that
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  are
• 4:50
  unqualified.
• 4:51
  It's
• 4:52
  proof
• 4:52
  that
• 4:52
  you
• 4:52
  are
• 4:52
  stepping
• 4:53
  into
• 4:53
  something
• 4:53
  that
• 4:54
  matters.
• 4:55
  The
• 4:55
  lie
• 4:56
  isn't,
• 4:56
  I'm
• 4:57
  not
• 4:57
  good
• 4:57
  enough.
• 4:58
  The
• 4:58
  lie
• 4:58
  is
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  need
• 4:59
  to
• 4:59
  feel
• 5:00
  confident
• 5:00
  before
• 5:01
  I
• 5:01
  act.
• 5:02
  And
• 5:02
  confidence
• 5:03
  is
• 5:03
  built
• 5:04
  after
• 5:04
  honesty,
• 5:05
  not
• 5:06
  before.
• 5:08
  Now
• 5:08
  let's
• 5:08
  talk
• 5:08
  about
• 5:08
  the
• 5:09
  voice
• 5:09
  that's
• 5:09
  behind
• 5:09
  the
• 5:10
  lie.
• 5:10
  That's
• 5:11
  your
• 5:11
  inner
• 5:11
  critic.
• 5:12
  And
• 5:12
  I
• 5:12
  like
• 5:12
  to
• 5:13
  call
• 5:13
  her
• 5:13
  your
• 5:13
  inner
• 5:14
  mean
• 5:14
  girl.
• 5:15
  You
• 5:15
  know
• 5:15
  her?
• 5:16
  She's
• 5:16
  not
• 5:16
  screaming,
• 5:17
  she's
• 5:17
  whispering.
• 5:18
  She
• 5:19
  sounds
• 5:19
  like
• 5:19
  don't
• 5:20
  try
• 5:20
  too
• 5:20
  hard.
• 5:21
  Who
• 5:22
  are
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  to
• 5:22
  want
• 5:22
  more?
• 5:24
  Stay
• 5:25
  where
• 5:25
  it's
• 5:25
  safe.
• 5:26
  Let
• 5:26
  someone
• 5:27
  else
• 5:27
  go
• 5:27
  first.
• 5:28
  And
• 5:29
  a
• 5:29
  lot
• 5:29
  of
• 5:29
  women
• 5:29
  don't
• 5:30
  realize
• 5:31
  that
• 5:31
  your
• 5:31
  inner
• 5:32
  mean
• 5:32
  girl
• 5:32
  is
• 5:33
  protecting
• 5:33
  you
• 5:34
  from
• 5:34
  rejection,
• 5:35
  from
• 5:35
  judgment,
• 5:37
  from
• 5:37
  being
• 5:37
  seen,
• 5:38
  from
• 5:38
  failing
• 5:39
  publicly.
• 5:41
  But
• 5:41
  protection
• 5:41
  that
• 5:41
  keeps
• 5:42
  you
• 5:42
  small
• 5:42
  is
• 5:43
  not
• 5:43
  protection.
• 5:44
  It's
• 5:45
  sabotage.
• 5:46
  She
• 5:46
  thrives
• 5:47
  on
• 5:47
  dishonesty
• 5:48
  because
• 5:48
  as
• 5:48
  long
• 5:48
  as
• 5:49
  you
• 5:49
  keep
• 5:49
  lying
• 5:49
  about
• 5:50
  what
• 5:50
  you
• 5:50
  want,
• 5:51
  she
• 5:51
  doesn't
• 5:51
  have
• 5:51
  to
• 5:52
  let
• 5:52
  you
• 5:52
  go
• 5:52
  after
• 5:52
  it.
• 5:54
  Some
• 5:54
  of
• 5:55
  the
• 5:55
  lies
• 5:55
  that
• 5:56
  block
• 5:56
  the
• 5:56
  glow
• 5:57
  up
• 5:57
  sound
• 5:57
  like
• 5:58
  I
• 5:58
  don't
• 5:59
  really
• 5:59
  care
• 5:59
  that
• 5:59
  much.
• 6:00
  I'm
• 6:00
  fine
• 6:01
  where
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  am.
• 6:02
  I'm
• 6:03
  really
• 6:03
  not
• 6:03
  that
• 6:03
  ambitious.
• 6:05
  I.
• 6:05
  I
• 6:06
  don't
• 6:06
  want
• 6:06
  to
• 6:06
  be
• 6:06
  seen
• 6:06
  anyway.
• 6:07
  I
• 6:07
  like
• 6:07
  to
• 6:07
  be
• 6:07
  in
• 6:07
  the
• 6:07
  background.
• 6:09
  But
• 6:09
  if
• 6:10
  we
• 6:10
  strip
• 6:10
  that
• 6:10
  down,
• 6:11
  what
• 6:11
  you're
• 6:11
  really
• 6:12
  saying
• 6:12
  is,
• 6:13
  I'm
• 6:13
  scared
• 6:13
  of
• 6:13
  wanting
• 6:14
  something
• 6:15
  that
• 6:15
  I
• 6:15
  might
• 6:15
  not
• 6:16
  get.
• 6:17
  The
• 6:17
  glow
• 6:18
  up
• 6:18
  starts
• 6:18
  when
• 6:18
  you
• 6:18
  admit,
• 6:19
  I
• 6:19
  want
• 6:20
  more.
• 6:21
  I'm
• 6:21
  tired
• 6:21
  of
• 6:21
  hiding.
• 6:22
  I
• 6:23
  don't
• 6:23
  want
• 6:23
  to
• 6:23
  keep
• 6:23
  playing
• 6:24
  safe.
• 6:25
  And
• 6:25
  I'm
• 6:26
  done
• 6:26
  lying
• 6:26
  about
• 6:27
  what
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  desire.
• 6:29
  Honesty
• 6:30
  looks
• 6:30
  like
• 6:31
  same.
• 6:33
  I've
• 6:33
  been
• 6:33
  self
• 6:34
  sabotaging.
• 6:35
  I've
• 6:36
  been
• 6:36
  waiting
• 6:36
  for
• 6:36
  confidence
• 6:37
  instead
• 6:37
  of
• 6:37
  building
• 6:37
  it.
• 6:39
  And
• 6:39
  I've
• 6:39
  been
• 6:39
  shrinking
• 6:40
  because
• 6:40
  it
• 6:40
  felt
• 6:40
  safer.
• 6:42
  And
• 6:42
  instead
• 6:43
  of
• 6:43
  judging
• 6:43
  yourself,
• 6:44
  you
• 6:44
  choose
• 6:44
  differently.
• 6:46
  Because
• 6:46
  the
• 6:47
  version
• 6:47
  of
• 6:47
  you
• 6:47
  that
• 6:47
  you're
• 6:48
  trying
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  become,
• 6:48
  she's
• 6:49
  already
• 6:49
  in
• 6:49
  the
• 6:50
  room.
• 6:50
  She
• 6:50
  just
• 6:51
  needs
• 6:51
  you
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  stop
• 6:51
  lying
• 6:52
  to
• 6:52
  yourself
• 6:52
  about
• 6:52
  what
• 6:53
  you
• 6:53
  can
• 6:53
  and
• 6:54
  cannot
• 6:54
  do.
• 6:55
  Because
• 6:56
  honesty
• 6:56
  isn't
• 6:56
  harsh.
• 6:57
  It's
• 6:57
  freeing.
• 6:58
  Because
• 6:58
  the
• 6:59
  moment
• 6:59
  that
• 6:59
  you
• 6:59
  stop
• 6:59
  lying,
• 7:00
  your
• 7:00
  energy
• 7:00
  shifts,
• 7:01
  your
• 7:01
  decisions
• 7:02
  change,
• 7:03
  your
• 7:03
  confidence
• 7:03
  starts
• 7:04
  to
• 7:04
  grow,
• 7:04
  your
• 7:05
  momentum
• 7:05
  changes,
• 7:06
  but
• 7:06
  not
• 7:07
  overnight,
• 7:08
  intentionally.
• 7:09
  And
• 7:10
  life
• 7:10
  starts
• 7:10
  rising
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  meet
• 7:11
  the
• 7:11
  woman
• 7:11
  who
• 7:12
  was
• 7:12
  finally
• 7:12
  stopped
• 7:12
  hiding
• 7:13
  from
• 7:13
  herself.
• 7:15
  So
• 7:15
  here's
• 7:15
  your
• 7:15
  reminder.
• 7:16
  Today,
• 7:16
  you
• 7:17
  don't
• 7:17
  need
• 7:17
  to
• 7:17
  start
• 7:17
  perfect,
• 7:18
  but
• 7:19
  you
• 7:19
  do
• 7:19
  need
• 7:19
  to
• 7:19
  start
• 7:19
  honest.
• 7:20
  Honest
• 7:21
  about
• 7:21
  what
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  want,
• 7:22
  honest
• 7:23
  about
• 7:23
  where
• 7:23
  you're
• 7:24
  holding
• 7:24
  back,
• 7:25
  Honest
• 7:26
  about
• 7:26
  the
• 7:26
  voice
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  you've
• 7:27
  been
• 7:27
  letting
• 7:27
  run
• 7:27
  the
• 7:28
  show.
• 7:29
  Because
• 7:29
  the
• 7:29
  globe
• 7:29
  isn't
• 7:30
  about
• 7:30
  becoming
• 7:30
  somebody
• 7:31
  new.
• 7:31
  It's
• 7:31
  about
• 7:32
  finally
• 7:32
  telling
• 7:32
  yourself
• 7:33
  the
• 7:33
  truth.
• 7:34
  And
• 7:34
  if
• 7:35
  this
• 7:35
  note
• 7:35
  hit
• 7:35
  you,
• 7:36
  if
• 7:36
  something
• 7:36
  whispered,
• 7:37
  she's
• 7:37
  talking
• 7:37
  to
• 7:38
  me,
• 7:38
  that's
• 7:39
  not
• 7:39
  a
• 7:39
  coincidence.
• 7:40
  That's
• 7:40
  clarity.
• 7:41
  And
• 7:41
  clarity
• 7:41
  is
• 7:42
  the
• 7:42
  first
• 7:42
  step
• 7:42
  towards
• 7:43
  confidence.
• 7:44
  Now,
• 7:44
  if
• 7:44
  this
• 7:44
  note
• 7:44
  made
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  feel
• 7:45
  uncomfortable,
• 7:46
  good.
• 7:46
  That
• 7:47
  means
• 7:47
  something
• 7:48
  honest
• 7:48
  just
• 7:48
  surfaced.
• 7:50
  So
• 7:50
  save
• 7:50
  this
• 7:50
  episode
• 7:51
  so
• 7:51
  that
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  can
• 7:51
  come
• 7:51
  back
• 7:52
  to
• 7:52
  it.
• 7:52
  Share
• 7:53
  with
• 7:53
  a
• 7:53
  woman
• 7:53
  who's
• 7:53
  been
• 7:53
  playing
• 7:54
  small
• 7:54
  and
• 7:54
  calling
• 7:55
  it
• 7:55
  being
• 7:55
  realistic.
• 7:56
  And
• 7:57
  make
• 7:57
  sure
• 7:57
  you
• 7:57
  listen
• 7:57
  to
• 7:57
  the
• 7:58
  next
• 7:58
  note,
• 7:58
  because
• 7:58
  honesty
• 7:59
  is
• 7:59
  the
• 7:59
  first
• 8:00
  step,
• 8:00
  but
• 8:00
  staying
• 8:01
  consistent
• 8:02
  is
• 8:02
  where
• 8:02
  the
• 8:03
  real
• 8:03
  confidence
• 8:03
  is
• 8:04
  built.
• 8:04
  So
• 8:05
  I'll
• 8:05
  see
• 8:05
  you
• 8:05
  in
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  next
• 8:05
  one.