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Question Driven Living 1: Making Moves Monday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Welcome.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Making Moves Monday on the Sweet Spot.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: I'm your host.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: For those of you who don't know me, I'm a board-certified psychiatrist and I specialize in sports psychiatry and high performance.
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  Speaker 1: And again, it's my pleasure to meet you here at the sweet spot for yet another monday of insights, introspection, motivation, whatever you need to live a better life and to be a peak performer.
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: We're gonna get it done.
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  Speaker 1: So last week, we spent the entire week speaking about time, the whole concept of time, and that now is always the right time.
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  Speaker 1: So this week, we're going to talk about living a question-driven life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I have for you this week.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to spend this entire week thinking about questions.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm going to welcome you now to exploring this question-driven life journey with me.
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  Speaker 1: So when I say a question-driven life, what I'm saying is that it's a way of living that's less about chasing answers and more about embracing the art of asking the right questions.
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  Speaker 1: So you might be saying to yourself well, why does this matter?
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  Speaker 1: Well, let's start with the brain.
• 1:28
  Speaker 1: As you know, in this podcast, we spend a lot of time on the brain.
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  Speaker 1: After all, our slogan here is synthesizing science and soul.
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  Speaker 1: So look.
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  Speaker 1: The neuroscience tells us that asking questions, especially open-ended, curious ones, lights up the brain.
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  Speaker 1: It literally gets your brain excited when you have to ask questions.
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  Speaker 1: Remember the prefrontal cortex, the PFC, the part of the brain that I have been calling the CEO with you here, the one that's tied into your creativity, your problem solving, your decision making, even your empathy, when you ask questions, when we ask questions, it's like a workout for our mind and it builds new pathways in the brain.
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  Speaker 1: It builds new neural pathways that make us more adaptable, more awake, more alive and more curious.
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  Speaker 1: So compare that state of mind, this curious state of mind, this investigative state of mind, to just hunting the answer, which can lock us into rigidity.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes, when you're just hunting the answers and you're so driven on the answers, it can lock you into rigid thinking and it shuts down the possibility of exploration, of wanting to explore, and you don't even realize it.
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  Speaker 1: But if you only focus on the answer, you won't even think about exploring.
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  Speaker 1: You shut down the exploration before it can even begin.
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  Speaker 1: So questions, my friend, questions, is what keeps us fluid, because the answers can harden us.
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  Speaker 1: If we're only answer driven, we can be very hardened and very calcified and we don't want that.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, it's not just the brain that likes this whole idea of questioning, it's the mind and the psychology of the human being that loves it too, because, philosophically and spiritually, questions are like a rebellion against being complacent.
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  Speaker 1: Think of Socrates, who said an unexamined life isn't worth living.
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  Speaker 1: Think of the mystics who asked the question who am I?
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  Speaker 1: They weren't trying to solve it, but they were trying to dwell in the mystery of who we are.
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  Speaker 1: Think about God.
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  Speaker 1: God is a mystery.
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  Speaker 1: Who is God?
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  Speaker 1: When we ask, we open ourselves up to wonder, we open ourselves up to the divine, to something bigger than our assumptions.
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  Speaker 1: To ask a question is a bit of a humbling act, isn't it?
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  Speaker 1: Our spirit is stretched, our body relaxes, we relax into curiosity instead of just clenching and tightening around certainty of an answer.
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  Speaker 1: It's a special way of being to be question driven, way of being to be question driven.
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  Speaker 1: You ever notice how stress melts a little when you stop demanding solutions and start wondering and asking instead.
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  Speaker 1: So what's the payoff?
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  Speaker 1: Living a question driven life, my friend, empowers us.
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  Speaker 1: It turns us into seekers, not settlers.
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  Speaker 1: It makes us more likely to stumble into the right answer, ones that fit the moment, not just the ones that we're conditioned to grab, the ones that we have a presumption on that.
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  Speaker 1: This is the answer.
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  Speaker 1: You see, the questions are like keys they unlock doors.
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  Speaker 1: We didn't even see, because we're now questioning.
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  Speaker 1: Practically it's a game changer.
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  Speaker 1: Imagine okay, like imagine approaching a conflict, not with how do I win in this moment, how do I win this argument, but you approach with a question what's really going on here?
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  Speaker 1: Or what does this person really need in this moment?
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  Speaker 1: Suddenly, when you ask the questions, you're not just reacting to the moment, you're discovering and you put yourself in a really luxurious position to have more options.
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  Speaker 1: Here's a quick example.
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  Speaker 1: Say you're facing a career slump.
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  Speaker 1: Things aren't going well.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, sometimes an athlete's in a slump.
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  Speaker 1: The answer driven mind will say this I need a new job.
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  Speaker 1: I've got to figure out where to fix this.
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  Speaker 1: But a question-driven approach might be.
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  Speaker 1: What do I love here that I have forgotten about?
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  Speaker 1: Or how could this struggle be teaching me something?
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  Speaker 1: What am I not seeing?
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  Speaker 1: You see, one path, when you just run after, the answer narrows you.
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  Speaker 1: The other path, when you ask the questions, opens up possibilities that you'd never seen.
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  Speaker 1: Think about a doctor, right?
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  Speaker 1: So a doctor?
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  Speaker 1: What do they do when you go see them?
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  Speaker 1: They ask a lot of questions.
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  Speaker 1: Well, the good ones anyway.
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  Speaker 1: They don't just make assumptions, even though they may know the answers or they think they know the answers.
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  Speaker 1: They always ask questions, they take a history, they try to figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: And so that's my invitation today I want you to lean into questions, to let them guide us into a richer, more awake life, a different way of being, so that we can ask ourselves what's the question that I'm afraid to ask, what's the question that I'm not asking, what's the question that I need to ask if I have a move to make?
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  Speaker 1: After all, today is Making Move Monday, so you could say where's the next move I have to make?
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  Speaker 1: How am I going to make that move?
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  Speaker 1: You have options today.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask you this do this, say what's the best move for me?
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  Speaker 1: To me, just by asking that question, my friend, something will open up for you, and I'm not here to give you the answer to that question today.
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  Speaker 1: I just want you to ask you that question, to step into that question what's the best move that I can make today, on Making Moves Monday?
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  Speaker 1: And you'll be surprised that, if you meditate on this question.
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  Speaker 1: If you spend time with this question, how your mind will lead you to the right move that you have to make.
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  Speaker 1: And here's a pro tip Write it down.
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  Speaker 1: Neuroscience shows that when you write something down, you engage your reticular activating system and your brain stem and your brain starts working together with your prefrontal cortex and your limbic system and it all starts to light up when you bring it together and you will figure out what the right move is for you to make today.
• 9:11
  Speaker 1: Thank you for listening.
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  Speaker 1: This is Dr Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: I can't wait to meet with you tomorrow.
• 9:16
  Speaker 1: Tomorrow is Take Action Tuesday and we are going to keep moving forward with the right questions in mind.
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  Speaker 1: I look forward to seeing you on TikTok.
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  Speaker 1: Take care.