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From Pause to Purpose: Healing, Clarity, And the Power Of “Get It, Got It, Girl” · Get It Got It Girl: Midlife Rebuild

• 0:05
  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: One more time.
• 0:13
  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: Now, last time we sat here in the emptiness.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: And for some of you, you may have just listened to that episode.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: So I understand if you're still sitting in the emptiness, you can pause this and listen to it when you're feeling like maybe you're done sitting in your emptiness or your pause.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's up to you.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: So I realized I sat with it for three hours.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: And then I started to get some more ideas.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I just wrote them down on the paper because I'm really trying to find a space for this and just keep it that way.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: It feels nice to have a calm day.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: And so I just honored it.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: I paused.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: And right now I'm filling it with not any sugars or anything, but I am finishing my bonus episode.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: And to me, that's okay.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: That's production, and that's what I want to do.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm in the podcast studio, and that's what I'm here for.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: And then, like after the emptiness, like, and you don't fill the space with noise but clarity.
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  SPEAKER_00: What did you feel?
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: Like, did something open up for you?
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I know I did it for you know three hours, and then I just something that opened up for me was I felt like, okay, I honored all of my healing.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: I honored where I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't try to fill it up with some performance, which normally that's what I would have done.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would have three hours ago did a podcast and was going to go with my episode that I was planning on doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, no, I'm not doing that because what do I feel right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna honor how I feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: And hopefully it will help somebody else.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: As I move on with my podcast and my healing, I've noticed I've paid more attention to myself, listen to my body, stop when I need to kind of put my hand over my heart.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: That's my main thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I put my hand on my heart and I just say, okay, what's wrong?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or how am I feeling?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's going on?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where am I getting overwhelmed?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where am I getting stressed?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's one of the practices I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now I'm just thinking about what does get it, got it, girl, mean?
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm saying it can be get it, got it guy, but the majority of my audience is probably women.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's why I went with the get it, got it girl.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_00: And like get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm thinking, okay, what does get it mean?
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: What am I getting?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I say it out loud and I claim it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I need to say what I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I want?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I own it, like got it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I got it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm owning it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I put it on paper, I put it in writing, I make a short video, anything, just to write it down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, girl, like move your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, that's what I'm doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Moving my body, get it, got it, girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll find that from time to time.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what I'll do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Play my favorite music and just dance.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: And it was so so it was so funny.
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  SPEAKER_00: Earlier today, I was at Walmart and I found myself, they didn't have the music on.
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  SPEAKER_00: They started turning it on, and I couldn't help but I started dancing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh, someone will look.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, I don't care.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my mom was probably like, what is she doing?
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, that was interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I I love dancing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Dancing, how can you dance and not feel good?
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: Put on your favorite music.
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  SPEAKER_00: Put on whatever gets you in the mood to be happy.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, how about that song?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't remember who sings it, but yeah, that's another good song.
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  SPEAKER_00: This lesson has taught me to just it's okay to just sit there and just be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even now I feel that calm.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a new feeling that I haven't experienced in a very long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just gonna enjoy that piece while I'm making the bonus episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what bonus do we got here?
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  SPEAKER_00: Emptiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not trying to fill it with addictions or food or tons of shows, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know sometimes I have binge watched a few shows.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're there, that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't shame yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want anybody to feel shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shame and guilt are not helpful.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: I found that out in healing and getting out of addictions, gambling addiction.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you just nope, I find different ways to cope, and now I'm having an easier time with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can all have different addictions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I don't feel like any addiction is worse than another.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to judge somebody in that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you have an addiction, don't ever give up on getting help.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's a very uh important thing in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, and I know sometimes you get stuck in shame or guilt.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if that's your truth, please reach out to anybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of places that are anonymous.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will put some of that information in this episode.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: And I know on the bottom of every episode I have suicide hotline, crisis, anything that domestic abuse.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like it's important.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: And there's no shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I called the domestic abuse line, I messaged them, and I was able to remove myself from the situation.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: I know that's not an easy thing for everybody to do, and I know everybody's like, well, just leave.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: Well, first of all, you're scared because it is one of the most dangerous times to leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to do it with a plan.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just you have to use your safety, and maybe some people can't leave due to resources.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I did make that available.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just be able to reach out and call somebody, text somebody.
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_00: I still text them on my break at work, and it really helped.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't alone.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't, I just got advice and steps to take and coping skills, and that really helped me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so once you get through your emptiness, what you're gonna feel?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I did momentarily feel that just a moment ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt like, okay, what do I want to do?
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, okay, I know what I want.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta rewrite it down.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: So I just wrote it down, but I didn't really think much of it after.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: And right now, I just want to finish my podcast because I'm in the studio right now, and I want to give you this bonus section because this is more of where I just kind of talk open and free.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: It's weird.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm still feeling the emptiness.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: That's actually it's calming, it's different, it's interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: So you're with me at this moment live.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like we are literally going through it together if you have that emptiness feeling.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: If you're ready to produce and figure out what you want, that's okay.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'll meet you wherever you're at.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: That's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not really competing with ourselves, with with other people.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_00: You're just just do better than you did the day before for yourself.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's another thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes things are hard to see.
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  SPEAKER_00: You won't see the production right away.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's almost like if you go work out at the gym.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know some of us had been there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're maybe going for about a month and you're like, I don't see anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not gonna see it right away.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: And then also, maybe the next day you're like, oh, wait, I walked up the steps and I didn't breathe heavy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or look, I have a little muscle right here, or I felt a little stronger.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not gonna see it right away.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then when you notice it, you're gonna be like, oh, there it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just keep going, keep being faithful to yourself, keep being truthful to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know it's hard, just keep going.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you need to pause, that's what the emptiness is a pause, but have a healthy pause.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, and I'm sure some of you have heard about meditation.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: It was a couple years back when I was meditating 90 days for one hour straight.
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  SPEAKER_00: I missed a couple days.
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  SPEAKER_00: But my whole point is I'm gonna commit to 30-day meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna try to work on a worksheet that will be available on my website so that you can for 30 days be able to write down what you went through with your meditation.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't want to do 30 days, commit to seven.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's up to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not like a homework that you have to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're never gonna be graded.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna be like, okay, send me your copy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is for you to help yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a tool that I'm offering.
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  SPEAKER_00: So starting next week, I will start on Monday with a 30-day meditation.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: And then I will also be doing the video on Get It Got It Girl at Gmail or on my Gmail, Google, YouTube.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: That's so funny because I am pretty good at social media.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm getting better.
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, okay, which one?
• 9:41
  SPEAKER_00: But it is on Google, it's Get It Got It Girl.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I will do the 30-day meditation results on there.
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: So what I do is I sit quietly and just whatever pops up, let it go, let it flow, think about it, let it just pass.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: But it gives you, gives you, or in in my case, it gave me ideas, clarity to just sit peacefully.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it also helps you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like the emptiness, like, okay, it's okay to pause.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to work on yourself.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to dedicate a little bit of time to your healing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I really do believe that, like, if you don't have anything from your cup to fill, you're not going to be able to help other people.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: So, or help, you know, maybe your family, maybe your children, maybe just working on yourself a little bit, doing the self-care, doing the meditation, listening to the podcast, listening to other audiobooks, whatever you need that you need to take time for yourself.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then you'll find you feel better, you're more productive, you're more there, like you're happy.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I did notice that, like lately, if I'm with somebody, I put my phone down and I'm with you.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: I've already taken care of what I need to take care of.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I really am trying to build better friendships and better family communication with that.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like being where I am.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: That just goes back to the truth.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like wherever you are, know your truth.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: Be where you're at.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: That's okay.
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to admit this to anybody else, whatever you want to admit to somebody, but you can work on yourself in private.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: Now, I will tell you, I'm not a therapist.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: I will tell you, I have noticed, you will notice differences in people that are around you.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes they get uncomfortable, or maybe I guess I should own some of my own things.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I'm less available.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm gonna own that, but that's okay.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm allowing myself to do that.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: I am really, really, really working very hard to heal.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: And the healing is happening.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_00: I just want to be a better person coming out on the other side.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: I want to help people.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: I want to do this for my life.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: I oh, I am so clear on what I want.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: And that is great for the first time in my life.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: I'm very clear at what I want.
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'm ready to go get it.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_00: I've taken care of my medical stuff.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: I had cancer removed out of my throat.
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_00: That's all good and healed.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_00: It's been a year.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: I had a little hand procedure for my finger.
• 12:12
  SPEAKER_00: I think I talked about it on one episode.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm ready, I'm ready to go.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, well, that's the end of this episode little bonus section.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_00: Let me just uh take you out with something.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_00: You are listening to Get It Got It Girl.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: Don't forget to get it, got it, girl.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: Get what you want, write what you want, make a plan, get it.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: And don't be afraid to pause.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: Take time for yourself.
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, guys, I'm Tina, your transformational coach, and I hope I am transforming your life to help you.
• 12:48
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 12:48
  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_00: Don't forget to turn on some music and dance.