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Time to get out of a funk?! 😕 let's expand your tool box · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Apoday production.
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  Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the
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  Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects
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  Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect
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  Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara.
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  Speaker 4: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level
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  Speaker 4: up together.
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  Speaker 1: Let's go deep, let the emotions flow, and find the
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  Speaker 1: lessons to grow and glow. Nothing is off the table
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  Speaker 1: with Grow and Glow, and we're here to be your expander.
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  Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome back to the show. Look, we all
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  Speaker 1: get in funks sometimes we do. Everyone does. It's a
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  Speaker 1: normal part of living. But today this is gonna be
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  Speaker 1: your little high vibe pick me up pep talk of
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  Speaker 1: how you can get out of a funk. Yes, I've
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  Speaker 1: been a bit of a funk lately, so this is
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  Speaker 1: a really perfect timing episode for me to remind myself
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  Speaker 1: of all the things that I can do and I
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  Speaker 1: can choose to do to help myself get out of it. Yay,
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  Speaker 1: let's tr it into watch all. You're like number one
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  Speaker 1: thing that when you're in a funk that you automatically.
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  Speaker 4: Go to anything creative.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I think creativity is a great way for me
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  Speaker 3: to have like an outlet and connect with myself.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so what kind of creative things do you do?
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  Speaker 3: Painting your painting whenever, I'm like rock fucking bottom with
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  Speaker 3: my focus, It's like meditation for me. So all you
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  Speaker 3: can do is concentrate on staying inside the lines, so
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  Speaker 3: it really slows myself down. I feel like it's so
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  Speaker 3: great to just feel really grounded and so down my
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  Speaker 3: nervous system.
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  Speaker 4: I just love painting.
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  Speaker 1: You got me wine, But I feel like to do
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  Speaker 1: this kind of painting that you do because I want
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  Speaker 1: to get into it. But I just haven't liked any
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  Speaker 1: of the pictures I do. Either I want something that
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  Speaker 1: means something or that just I'm more drawn to. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I feel like everyone that I look at they're
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  Speaker 1: just ugly.
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  Speaker 4: They can be a bit hit me.
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  Speaker 3: I've done a couple of one and I've been like, okay,
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  Speaker 3: you guys can have it to the like, I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Want to paint ugly floral curtain, yeah you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean, or like a budgy you know, yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: know something cool that means something and that I would
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  Speaker 1: actually proudly put up on my wall.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but you know it's so much fun.
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  Speaker 3: I love it and it's just quality top with myself. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I can really get out of my
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  Speaker 3: head as well. Like say, if you're starting to overthink
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  Speaker 3: something and you're stressy, if there's tiny little bits and
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  Speaker 3: pieces on there, you need to focus to make sure
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  Speaker 3: you're not going to go outside that line.
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  Speaker 4: So yeah, it is my meditation.
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  Speaker 1: Very present. Yeah I'm very slow.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, so yeah, that's my number one.
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  Speaker 3: And then dancing, even creating content like sometimes it just
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  Speaker 3: gets into that giggly fun.
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  Speaker 1: Energy, just creative, just creative.
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  Speaker 4: How about you? What's your number one?
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  Speaker 1: Number one for like instant relief or instant mood shifter
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  Speaker 1: is exercise. Yeap, So it's probably the main thing I'll
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  Speaker 1: go to is a long nature walk. So I'll go
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  Speaker 1: out to Burly Headland and even when I'm feeling it,
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  Speaker 1: Steeves like, I get headphones and go to Burly Headland.
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  Speaker 1: It's like me and his favorite spot to go exercise
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  Speaker 1: because you're at nature. Are the oceans there, the rainforest
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  Speaker 1: is there. You can listen to something uplifting Whenever I'm
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  Speaker 1: like in a move to Steve's always like, hey, what
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  Speaker 1: do you want to feel because that's gonna determine the
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  Speaker 1: type of content you should take in. Yeah, He's like,
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  Speaker 1: if I'm feeling like I really need a pushion in business,
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  Speaker 1: or listen to something really entrepreneurial, if I'm feeling like
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  Speaker 1: I haven't been manifesting lately, or go back to Gabby Bernstein.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, choose your content wisely and go and move
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  Speaker 1: your body. And it's that's my instant go to and
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  Speaker 1: it always has been since I've been a little girl.
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  Speaker 1: But there's so many other things. If I want to
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  Speaker 1: go like more in depth, I pull out a healing journal, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because it's got the twelve chapters on the different topics.
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  Speaker 1: So whatever I'm feeling, there's something there to help me
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  Speaker 1: uncover and unpack it. And no matter how many times
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  Speaker 1: do the journal, I am packed something different because that's
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  Speaker 1: what life is. It's always never going to be the same.
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  Speaker 1: You're always going to have new challenges, new experiences, and
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  Speaker 1: new things you've got to navigate through. And it just
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  Speaker 1: helps me get to that next layer of like why
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  Speaker 1: I'm feeling like I'm feeling and also like kind of
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  Speaker 1: a plan of how to get out of.
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  Speaker 3: It, definitely, and also like the cool thing about the
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  Speaker 3: journal as well is like it has got creative tasks
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  Speaker 3: in there. My favorite thing actually that I've probably used
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  Speaker 3: the most in our journal, just so surprising, is the
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  Speaker 3: letter in the back. If I'm feeling really pissed off
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  Speaker 3: or angry, or like I can't voice and explain how
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  Speaker 3: I'm feeling. I've been loving the lettering system.
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  Speaker 1: That's so funny you say that because I was really
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  Speaker 1: upset about something with someone a couple of weeks ago,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, but I feel like I've
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  Speaker 1: had this conversation with this person before. And you were like,
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  Speaker 1: write the letter, babe, get your joner out and get
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  Speaker 1: a pa gets to the back, write the letter. And
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, but I'm not going to give
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  Speaker 1: it to this person. You were like, that's okay, rip
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  Speaker 1: it out, burn it, keep it, whatever you want to do,
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  Speaker 1: just get it out on paper. And I did it
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  Speaker 1: so healing, so good. I love that, And there's quite
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  Speaker 1: a few pages, so it's not like you don't get
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  Speaker 1: the journal and only have one opportunity to do that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's really really coret to get.
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  Speaker 3: If I'm trying to explain things, I don't know what
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  Speaker 3: it is, but sometimes when you write it down, I
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  Speaker 3: feel like I can articulate myself better, and I feel
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  Speaker 3: like the way that they're hearing the words certain things
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  Speaker 3: might like click bit better when communicate.
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  Speaker 1: If they're reading a letter, I don't at you. But
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  Speaker 1: if I read a letter, I'm slow and I'm present
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  Speaker 1: with the words, Whereas when it's in text, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I can be a bit more reactive and the
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  Speaker 1: tone I don't know, text is just so quick reactive result,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, Wow, they've taken the time to write this.
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  Speaker 1: You take the time to really take in and absorb
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  Speaker 1: how they're feeling. Yeah, yeah beautiful. So yeah, journaling something
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  Speaker 1: to go a bit deeper, but instantly it's exercise for me. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And leading on to exercise is sunshine Vitamin D. Like
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  Speaker 1: when the sun hits your skin, it just does something
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  Speaker 1: to you. It's so relaxing but so energizing. We all
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  Speaker 1: need vitamin D. Obviously, there's a fine balance of like
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  Speaker 1: cooking yourself on the sun, but we all should be
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  Speaker 1: getting vitamin D from the sun every single day. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that really helps like an instant, oh like feel more
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  Speaker 1: at peace.
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  Speaker 3: Definitely a really easy pick me up which is super
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  Speaker 3: simple to incorporate into our routine. If you do your
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  Speaker 3: makeup every day. If you do your makeup every day,
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  Speaker 3: Whenever I do this, I feel like I'm really fucking
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  Speaker 3: high vibes. And I go in and out of doing it.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I go through phases where I'm super
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  Speaker 3: consistent for ages and.
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  Speaker 4: Then I kind of drop off.
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  Speaker 3: But listen to a pick me up chat in the
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  Speaker 3: morning while you're doing your makeup, I go on YouTube
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  Speaker 3: and I just type in motivational talk or I will
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  Speaker 3: watch your YouTube video that I'm really like, a YouTube
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  Speaker 3: that I'm really liking that's just upl and it just puts.
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  Speaker 4: Me in good spirits, good vibes.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, if I do that in the morning, because
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  Speaker 3: I'm doing my makeup anyway, I'm just literally listening at
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  Speaker 3: the same time, so I'm multitasking. Yes, I feel like
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  Speaker 3: it really sets me up for the day because I
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  Speaker 3: do my makeup first thing in the morning.
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  Speaker 4: It's like before I even interact with the kids sometimes.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, And it's just a.
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  Speaker 4: Really beautiful way to start the day.
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  Speaker 1: Side because that's what I struggle with as Tarler wants
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  Speaker 1: to do makeup with me. So if I have a
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  Speaker 1: YouTube video going, she's either clicking my phone or she's like, eh,
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  Speaker 1: I can't absorb the information. But if I do it
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  Speaker 1: before they get up, then I'd be able to have
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  Speaker 1: that space because I love listening to like a pet
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  Speaker 1: me talk, that first.
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  Speaker 4: Thing in the morning talk.
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  Speaker 1: It's so good.
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  Speaker 4: And now Wednesday episode is really good for that. Yes,
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  Speaker 4: little quick pick me up it is.
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  Speaker 1: It starts your day off on the right for even
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  Speaker 1: the Friday episode. Yeah, so we now have I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if you guys know, but we now have a
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  Speaker 1: Friday episode. Now it's not a brand new episode, but
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  Speaker 1: it's our producer going back to older episodes and finding
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  Speaker 1: the best bits, little bite sized chunks. If you don't
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  Speaker 1: have time to listen to a half an hour or
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  Speaker 1: forty five minute episode, they're like anywhere from five to
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  Speaker 1: fifteen minutes, little bite sized chunks that you can walk
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  Speaker 1: away be like, wow, I've learned thing I'm inspired by
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  Speaker 1: that didn't know that. Okay, I can see that from
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  Speaker 1: a different perspective that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just all alone in this. Yeah, so many different
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  Speaker 4: things that we've gone through really the best bits.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, the highlight.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So if you haven't listened, if you're new here and
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  Speaker 1: you haven't listened to a lot about episodes, the Friday
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  Speaker 1: Mines are a really good, easy one to just go
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  Speaker 1: and click and listen to. And I love other podcasts
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  Speaker 1: there's listened to you the other day. His name is
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  Speaker 1: let Me get him un Actually he's got a business podcast.
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  Speaker 1: He's an entrepreneur. He's done so well. Steve got me
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  Speaker 1: onto him. His name it's just loading Alex Hormosy. While
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  Speaker 1: I'm probably saying that wrong, haarmo Zi. His podcast is
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  Speaker 1: called The Game, So he has a ton of episodes
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  Speaker 1: based around entrepreneurship, business, money. He's ups and downs, he's incredible.
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  Speaker 1: But he's got a lot of his episodes that are
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  Speaker 1: very similar to us twenty eight minutes. But then he's
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  Speaker 1: got these bite sized ones that are thirteen minutes, eleven minutes,
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  Speaker 1: five minutes. You know what, I've only listened to the
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  Speaker 1: bite sized chunk ones. Here you go, because I just
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  Speaker 1: find it's quick and easy to just get a good
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  Speaker 1: chunk of advice or wisdom.
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  Speaker 3: The first thing that I minutes you cant eferends in
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  Speaker 3: where you're making the breaky's for the kids or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Because think over a year, if you do that every day,
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  Speaker 1: how much more information you've taken in. So cool.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's a good one.
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  Speaker 1: Love that. One thing that I really love to do
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  Speaker 1: when I'm in a funk is book something that I'm
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  Speaker 1: really looking forward to that's not like whether it's a massage,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's a stay cay with Steve, whether it's booking
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  Speaker 1: flights my mum to come down, whether it's a girl's dinner,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's I don't know, just something I'm booking, something
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  Speaker 1: in that I can look forward to and get excited about.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's really important day to day and in
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  Speaker 1: life just have things to look forward to.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's beautiful.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, this is probably actually my number one thing.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what is.
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  Speaker 3: When I actually did my coaching session with Brad, we
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  Speaker 3: like unpacked a fair bit about like where my home
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  Speaker 3: is and where I feel safe and where my calling
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  Speaker 3: is and the place for me to go to when
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  Speaker 3: I'm feeling the feels. Actually he helped me make the
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  Speaker 3: decision to get married on the beach. Yeah, because the
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  Speaker 3: beach is my home and whenever I'm there, I feel
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  Speaker 3: so grounded.
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  Speaker 4: I feel so great.
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  Speaker 3: If I'm especially feeling emotional, not so much like frazzle
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  Speaker 3: all this all that, but if I'm feeling really emotional
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  Speaker 3: and like sadness for certain things going on, that's my
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  Speaker 3: go to head down the beach, watch the sun said sunrise,
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  Speaker 3: put my feet in the water, go for an ocean swim.
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  Speaker 3: It's just something that is simple and we take for granted,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I mean. Most of us have access
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  Speaker 3: to drive for ten minutes and be able to go
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  Speaker 3: to a beach. If you live where we live, like
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  Speaker 3: on the coast of Australia, holy fuck, it's so grounding. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it really really shifts my mood.
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  Speaker 1: There's something about the ocean and even having a shower
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  Speaker 1: about like energetically washing away the emotions. When you dive
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  Speaker 1: into the ocean, you feel like you can envision actually
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  Speaker 1: washing away those negative emotions or bad experiences. Even having
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  Speaker 1: a shower. If I feel like anxious raps are having
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  Speaker 1: a really long shower, I just imagine it just washing
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  Speaker 1: down the drain and just clearing it and it is
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  Speaker 1: really therapeutic. It's really nice and.
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  Speaker 3: Even we're speaking this morning about the shower, because actually
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  Speaker 3: I had these ideas and she's shouting out to.
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  Speaker 4: Washing the shower.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, hey, I don't want what even talking about it? And
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  Speaker 3: I was like, do all these ideas come to you
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  Speaker 3: in the.
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  Speaker 4: Shower, and she's like yes.
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  Speaker 3: So even if I've got a bit of brain fog
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  Speaker 3: going on, you can't think clearly, jumping in a shower
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  Speaker 3: is so good as well.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even shut the door in a shower, Na,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so comfortable that. Yeah, it was so funny. Classic
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  Speaker 1: one that me and you can agree on is dancing.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't mean just booking into a dance class.
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  Speaker 1: Literally dance around the home, dance in your room, dance
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  Speaker 1: outside in the sunshine wherever it is. Just popped the
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  Speaker 1: rain in the rain we did last night. It was
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  Speaker 1: so cute and fun. But like just moving your body
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  Speaker 1: in that way, popping on your favorite feel good song.
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  Speaker 1: It's so beautiful. But even popping on like if you're
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  Speaker 1: feeling sad, like a saddest song, and just like moving
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  Speaker 1: your body and letting it flow. It just feels really
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  Speaker 1: really nice. And you might feel like silly, but you
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  Speaker 1: know that old saying dance like nobody is watching. Lean
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  Speaker 1: into that. No one gives a fuck what you're doing.
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  Speaker 1: They're so focus on their own lives. Just do what
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  Speaker 1: feels good for your body and see and feel how
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  Speaker 1: healing that is.
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  Speaker 3: And even you saying, like, put on some sad music
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  Speaker 3: sometimes if you feel like you need to move through
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  Speaker 3: something but you're like not letting it out and you
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  Speaker 3: know it's there, be like I can't have a release.
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  Speaker 3: Put on a really sad t wats a really sad
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  Speaker 3: movie or something if you feel like you just like
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  Speaker 3: need to like get at least.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh so many Taylor Swift songs that I pop on.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like it helps move you out of it. It does.
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  Speaker 1: So good music. One of the top ones for me
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  Speaker 1: is just talking it out with someone that I trust
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  Speaker 1: and love, whether that is Steve, my mum or close girlfriends,
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  Speaker 1: having a good vent, a good rant, talking about the
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  Speaker 1: same situation. However many times I need you to move
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  Speaker 1: through it. But just having those people that you feel
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  Speaker 1: safe to and can hold the space for you so healing.
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  Speaker 1: It's something I never ever take for granted. So I
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  Speaker 1: really really believe in sisterhood and community and just support.
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  Speaker 4: That's all you always say.
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  Speaker 3: If you don't let it out and chat to someone
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  Speaker 3: about it, you store it. Yeah, like you've got to
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  Speaker 3: You've got to.
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  Speaker 1: Move a bit. It's energy, it's blocked energy. So however
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  Speaker 1: you need to move that with that's physically you're talking whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Got to have your toolbox and talking to me is
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  Speaker 1: a huge one. Do you ever talk to yourself?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, as in like have a whole conversation with myself.
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  Speaker 1: In the car. I fully talk to myself. If someone
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  Speaker 1: was looking in, they probably think I'm on the phone
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  Speaker 1: to someone, but.
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  Speaker 4: I actually actually talk out my head.
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  Speaker 1: No, I talk out loud in the car. It is
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  Speaker 1: good because I like play out situations or talk about
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  Speaker 1: I'll say something, say it's a really hard conversation, I'll
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  Speaker 1: say it out loud and be like, oh no, that
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  Speaker 1: could come across like this, Like I actually get to
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  Speaker 1: hear how it could come across. I'll think of a
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  Speaker 1: better way to articulate it or like change my tone.
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  Speaker 1: It really helps me. Yeah, just talking in general.
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  Speaker 3: I think I think about it all I do. I
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  Speaker 3: think about it in my head, but like actually role
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  Speaker 3: playing and doing it out loud.
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  Speaker 1: Around the car. Yeah, I'm going to really really helpful.
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  Speaker 1: Go let me know.
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  Speaker 3: I reial so something when I'm feeling anxious. It's funny
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  Speaker 3: how you got all these different things you go to
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  Speaker 3: when you're feeling different emotions toolbox babe. Yeah, like sadness,
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  Speaker 3: the beach, you know, frustrated painting.
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  Speaker 1: That's what we want everyone listening to this episode. We
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  Speaker 1: always have an attention for episodes, whether that's to make
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  Speaker 1: you laugh, learn more, expand your perspectives on different things.
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  Speaker 1: This one is to help you expand your toolbox. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: you haven't tried some of these things and you don't
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  Speaker 1: have a toolbox yet, Like build your imaginary toolbox. So
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  Speaker 1: no matter what emotion you're feeling, you've got that support
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  Speaker 1: system that you've built yourself that you can turn to
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  Speaker 1: and you utilize to help you navigate through the harder times.
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  Speaker 4: Definitely.
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  Speaker 3: So anxiety for me is reading because it just slows
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  Speaker 3: me down. There's no screen, there's no brightness, It's just
• 13:20
  Speaker 3: me and a book. I've got to go upstairs in
• 13:23
  Speaker 3: the quiet. I feel like it just really calms my
• 13:26
  Speaker 3: nervous system. It's really slow, you're laying down, you're sitting
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: it not you know, like the difference with paintings, you're
• 13:30
  Speaker 3: actually still moving right, whereas I feel like, I don't know,
• 13:33
  Speaker 3: I'm just like laying down so relaxed.
• 13:36
  Speaker 4: I just find it so calming.
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: So good. Reading really is if I'm really upset though,
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm reading the pages that I'm not
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: taking it in beause if you can'pset because I'm too
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: in my head. Yeah, okay, it's such a relaxing thing
• 13:47
  Speaker 1: to do.
• 13:48
  Speaker 3: I feel like reading you need to kind of do
• 13:50
  Speaker 3: it for a bit of a stint. I feel like
• 13:51
  Speaker 3: if you sit down, you're like, I'm going to read
• 13:52
  Speaker 3: for ten minutes. No, it takes like ten to twenty
• 13:55
  Speaker 3: minutes to like get into it.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: That's my problem.
• 13:57
  Speaker 4: It's like an hour to read.
• 13:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's my problem. And finding that hour to do
• 14:01
  Speaker 1: it I'm finding hard. But once I'm in it, I
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: love it. Yeah, so good. Another one which we've spoken
• 14:09
  Speaker 1: about so much, how much it's really helped us over
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: the years, is having a psychologist or a coach to
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: help you navigate different things. We were talking about this
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: the other day because I stopped seeing Taylor for a
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: little while now. He moved his clinic down to Kira,
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: which is just a little bit more of a drive
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: for me. And I've also been with him for years now,
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: and sometimes not that I've outgrown him, because I always
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: learned so much from him, but sometimes I feel like
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: I like to see different coaches for different reasons. And
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: then I started to seeing Megsie for my inner child healings,
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: and then she had Little Rambo, so we haven't picked
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: that back up again. But I love to talk to coaches.
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: I feel like they really expand my mind and help
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: me see things from a different perspective I might not
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: have ever heard even Katie Ford like her analogies crack
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: me up. Yeah, and the way if I go to
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: her with a problem, she'll literally say something so simple
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: and be like, oh, well, well but da da da,
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: and I'm just be like, WHOA, I never thought of
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: it that simply when she brings like comedy into our session,
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: so something I'm upset about, she'll make me laugh about it,
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: and then I'm like, that's actually nowhere near as bad
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: is what I thought it was.
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: It's so true, and she's funny, so good. She's so
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: good at just being like fuck what everyone else thinks. Yeah,
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: she's like just the pick me up gal.
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: We were talking because in the forum someone asked for
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: my recommendations on coaches and I listed Taylor, her, Megsie,
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: and Brad, but they were all for different reasons. Yeah,
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: and Katie is our pick me up confidence women empowerment,
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: like I didn't give a fuck, You've got this, you
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: can do anything, like really big confidence booster. I love
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: how she brings comedy into the sessions. Yeah, that really
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: lists me up and makes me think, Oh, is it
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: that serious? Does it have to feel that heavy? No,
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: I'm kind of making it heavy than what it needs
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: to be. And if I can bring light into the shadow,
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: which is the goal for it all, Yeah, cool, it
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: helps me just move through it a bit quicker. Yeah.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: So she's really good for that.
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: She is really good for that.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: Whereas Taylor's like he's very in depth and very logical,
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: but just the way he connects the mind, body and
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: spirit altogether, and just his wisdom and experience working with
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: so many different humans and is deeper understanding on so
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: many different topics. Yeah, it's really interesting. Like anything I
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: go to him with he will have answers to, but
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: the way he explains it and say, LEVI, he's another
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: layer on top of that. He does trauma coaching. Yeah,
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: and his sessions are not an hour, they're not two hours,
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: they're not three hours, they're four, five, six hour sessions because.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: He is going to book in with him and I
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: was like, I don't think I can commit to that
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: right now.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: He is getting to the depth of depth layers. And
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: I saw a post from him the other day saying
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: that like, if your therapist can't help you fix your
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: problems in that six month period, I was like, Oh,
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: I haven't heard anyone say that, But that's how confident
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: he is in his sessions that he can get to
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: the depth of what is causing it in that timeframe. Yeah,
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Whereas sometimes when you just chat things out, feels good
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: and fluffy or whatever, but you haven't actually got to
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: the root of where it's come from. Whereas I don't
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: know his technique. I've never been coached by him. I
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: would like to one day, but yeah, it's quite a
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: big commitment.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: When I spoke to him, he was so honest and
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: I really appreciated it. I was like, hey, like, this
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: is where I'm at, this is what I want to
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: work through, and he was like, Okay, well I need
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: you to be one hundred and ten percent committed. So
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: it's like, what do you have on right now? Because
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: he's like, if you've got ten different things going on
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: and you don't have the capacity you need to take
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: them on. No, he's like, you need to be all in.
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: So it's like how long are the coaching sessions for
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: and he's like, yeah, sometimes you might be there for
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: four hours. Sometimes I'm like, fuck, I'm not in this
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: season right now. And that's what I said to him,
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: like I'd love to do this one day, but right
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: now with where I'm at.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: And it's thousands of dollars, like it's an investment, which
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: I think, like is so worth it, but for some
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: people that's not in the position to be out of pay.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: Well even anxiety like trying to move finding where the
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: core of everything's come from.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd love to do it, and I will do
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: it with him. He's got a waiting list of like
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: eight people at the moment, but I would love to
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: do that with him. But I need to put myself
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: on waiting this. But I'd love to experience and see
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: the systems. He's actually going to be teaching people to
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: do what he does.
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: That's cool.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: Which is going to be really really cool, so he
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: can take on more people and have other people assist.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: But whatever he does, it will amazing. So yeah, every
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: coach and every therapist is going to have their different techniques.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: But that's what I love about life coaches is they've
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: figured out their own individual way and their own flair
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: to do it. Was I feel like pichologist has studied
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: and they've got the textbook way to do things. Because
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I feel like live coaches they've gone through their own
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: experience and coach so many people, they've got their own
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: way to do it. It's every coach I've seen this so
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: fucking different. Yeah, so individualized, and depending on what I'm
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: going through, I'll turn to a different one for a
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: different reason.
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: That's it.
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: And I think I always say this, but I think
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: the way that they did it initially was really really great.
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: How I saw a psychologist kind of unpack the shit
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: and you know what you need to work on, then
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: you take that to your coach. Like that's what I
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: love because I feel like the coaches they push you forward.
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: You have that progression of like okay, you dig all
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: the stuff up, and then you're like they help you
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: move through it, whereas I feel like psychologists you kin't
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: of keep revisiting.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Or a soundboard sometimes.
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, not saying they're all like that, but I didn't
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: find I had any progress. Yeah, I don't talk about
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: it anymore. I want to like move through this, like
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: help me find the tools.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she initially for me, helped me find out my shiitt.
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: So I feel like I had so much to learn
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: about myself that I was like, oh okay, So now
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: when I go to a coach, I can be like
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: I really need to work on this.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, good, yeah, and we always talk about it.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: It's like dating. Yeah, like which coach I go to?
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: I'm like, what's dating? You have to who I really
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: connect with you might fucking hate. You got to find
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: who you connect with and who you vibe with. And
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: there's different coaches like Megsie for example, specializes in nervous
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: system regulation, feminine energy, motherhood trauma like sisterhood wounds, and
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: in child wheeling. Yeah, like that's her specialty. That's what
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: she is really fucking good at, was say Katie, as
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: we said, she's good for her stuff. Yeah, yeah, every
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: coach is different for different reasons. So depending on what
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: I'm feeling, I'll booking with different particular people.
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like a lot of people don't know that.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: No, do you think? Yeah, that's why I want to
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: explain it. And I'm packing a bit more. Listening to
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: a good party, shameless plug, go and go, having.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: A podcast, whether it's to laugh, learn or level up, yes,
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: but honestly.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: On a Monday, Wednesday or a Friday.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: But having a podcast to throw on and sometimes if
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: I feel like I want to escape, have a giggle,
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: have a laugh, like holy fuck, that was the funniest
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: thing that made me laugh, like the most out of
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: my day today.
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: If you're having a real serious day, or.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: Put something on and be like wow, that's so cool,
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: Like I've just learned this new thing about myself. Or
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: to search something and start to understand why you're feeling
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: certain ways, and you know, help you to unpack yourself,
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: like on your own journey and just you know, discover
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: who you are and yeah, give.
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: You more tools for your toolbox.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Like even this podcast episode, Like if I was listening
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: to this and I was in a funk, I'm like, wow,
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: I've just got so many takeaways away.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: What I really love about podcasts is people are their
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: authentic selves. I'm very authentic on all of my social media,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: so you we've been on their for years. You would
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: not be able to do the job we do unless
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: you are being yourself. People would see straight through your bullshit.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: You would be exhausted from wearing a mask. It just
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: wouldn't work. You have to be yourself. A few want
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: to stay in this game long term. However, we have
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: this conversation often there is a different level of openness
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: on a podcast. Yeah, there's things we talk about on
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: here that we never talk about in any other platforms
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: and always don't feel safe to. I know there's something
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: about being in this space, and I.
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: Think having each other too.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but just connecting with the audience in a different realm,
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: and I feel like other podcasters that I listen to,
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: I feel and more connected to them on their po
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: and any other thing. Like even say Jay Shetty, like
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: love a lot of his episodes, but if I go
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: on to social media, I don't really get much out
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: of it. Same with the Diary of a CEO, Like
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I love his episodes with his guests, but I can't
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: say I'll look at his Instagram I'm like, oh, I
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: took something away from that.
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: So much more in depth.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and personal life. You can exactly see the topic
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: of what you're going to be learning about. Literally anything
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: you want to learn about. There is hundreds of thousands
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: of podcasters and podcasts episodes that you can listen to
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: just so free at the end of your fingertips.
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: So amazing.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: How cool is that all the stuff you get for
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: free on podcasts? So cool. Spending time with my family. Yeah, honestly,
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: as high energy as children are. When I'm just with
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: my kids with nothing else to do but be with them,
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: there is nothing more calming for me, Yeah, and fun
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: and enjoyable than just spending quality time with them. I
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: look forward to it every day when I finish work.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: I look forward to everyone on the weekend with them.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: I just love it.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah. We're just speaking this morning about like how much
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: we enjoy Sundays, just like have a slower day, being
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: your pj's, have extra custines.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: Are at a couple of birthday parties booked in.
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: One just case We're two on Sunday and then one
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: and I was like, I'm not gonna lie, I'm not
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: mad about it.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: Nuts whenever we get invites to kids' birthday parties, Steve's like,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: oh do we have to go? And like if your
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: kid loves that, kid like fun. But on a Sunday that's.
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: Two back to backs, like the whole day's gone. Whole days.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: Literally, you feel like you just s out if you
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: don't get that family day. It's such a recharging, slow, connecting,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: wholesome day.
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: Beautiful, and especially when we've been up here for a
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: couple of days of the potty, like you want to
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: just hang with your fan.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely, just any weekend though, I like, I just
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: love weekends. Yeah, and then the last one for me
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: would just be eating beautiful food and like looking after
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: my bodyishing, really nourishing it, because I think for most
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: of us, we can turn to take away or like
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: for meats, sugar, to comfort eat and to distract and
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: to numb out. Like I don't drink alcohol or take
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: any drugs or anything, but definitely sometimes use food, and
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: I'm super hyper aware of that I'm doing it, and
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: sometimes I just get in this like funk of continue
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: to eat it for the short term satisfaction and distraction,
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: but long term it's not going to make you feel good,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: it's actually gonna make you feel worse. You're gonna feel headache,
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: you gonna feel lower energy. It's just not a healthy
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: coping mechanism. No, to nourish your body, feed it with nutrients,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: lots of live foods, like lots of colors, things you enjoy.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: But that just helped your body feel more alive.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: And you pick up one or two of these things,
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: and we always say this, it's the role on effect
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: for the rest of the day. If you go for
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: a walk and you get a bit of sunshine and
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: you listen to a pick me up while you're doing
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: your makeup, you want to come home and you're gonna
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: want to make a yummy, healthy breakfast.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a roll on. It is like you just
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: said it on your walk. This three bang like that
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: done d day. Yeah so good. We really hope this
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: picked you up and we hope you can take a
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: lot of these tools and put them in into your toolbox.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us and we'll see you next week.
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: Bye bye.