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💪 Take your power back · Peace in a Pod

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  Hey, hey, soul tribe, welcome back to Peace in a pod.
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  I'm Loretta for those that are new here, welcome.
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  I hope that everyone has been having a wonderful start to
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  2026. And it had me thinking a little
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  bit about some of the curveballs that 2025 was dishing out and
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  not really knowing how to handle some of those situations and not
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  being prepared for those types of situations, but managing my
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  way through them and realizing that 2025, there was a lot of
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  things that I was not aware about myself that was coming to
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  the light. And one of those things was I
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  actually was losing myself, like me as Loretta, I did not know
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  who I was anymore. I was so like stuck in a world
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  where it was, I was kind of like being driven by work, to be
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  honest with you. And for my returning listeners,
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  you've heard from the beginning when I started the podcast about
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  some issues I was having at work with a certain supervisor, and I
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  haven't really spoke on that much.
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  I don't really talk about that stuff anymore.
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  I like to not bring up bad energies.
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  Not that I don't want to face them, but I've already dealt
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  with that part of my life and moved on.
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  And I don't really like want to just keep, I don't enjoy just
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  constantly talking about it, talking about it because that
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  doesn't get the same reaction that it used to.
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  It's already done and over with. So I just let it be.
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  But in that position that I was in, I, I was having this
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  supervisor that I was allowing things to get to the point where
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  I wasn't speaking up for myself. I wasn't really being me, the
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  person that I, I knew years ago, I kind of lost.
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  And in that role, I was just kind of like, well, you know, I
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  don't want to ruffle any feathers.
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  I'm just going to do what I need to do and, you know, make it
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  through the day type of thing. And it got to the point where I
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  pretty much given up all my power and I was lost, you know,
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  I was. And I got to a point where I had
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  to seek therapy in certain situations because it was like
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  trying to talk to friends and family.
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  You know, it can become a little bit exhausting when you're
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  constantly talking to the same people about something that and,
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  and, and you know, and it's like you don't want to overload them
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  or come off as just someone who's complaining about life,
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  complaining about their job all the time.
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  And you, you just don't want to be put in a light where just,
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  you can't seem to just be happy. So I started seeing the
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  therapist to kind of help me get through some areas that I was
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  going through emotionally and mentally.
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  And when I was able to talk about these to a neutral person,
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  these these experiences to a neutral person, it actually
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  helped me like think differently from the way that I was normally
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  approaching the experiences that I was going through.
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  And I started realizing that I was basically losing my power by
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  reacting the way that I was. And I didn't see that I am the
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  director of my life, not my environment, you know, not my
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  supervisor, not my friends and family, like I am the director
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  of my life. We all are are the directors of
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  our own life. And we have to like not allow
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  ourselves to, to get drained or allow situations or people to
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  drain us and make us feel weak or that we're less than.
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  Not allowing those, those people and situations to control us in
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  a way that makes, you know, like, feel like you don't have
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  any power, like you don't have any say.
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  So you don't have any control over anything.
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  You just kind of, you know, show up, get to work and whatever
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  they say, go type of thing. And it's like, no, you do have a
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  voice. You can speak up and, and, and
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  speak on things. And some people may not like
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  what you say or what you have to say.
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  And that's OK because we're not here to please people.
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  It's not our our job to run around and being yes men and yes
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  women. If there's something that you
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  don't agree with, you have the right to speak up on it.
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  And you know, I used to be the person that would speak up on
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  things. But the problem is I was in a
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  situation where I had someone who was not receptive to
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  information. They had a bit of an ego and a
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  narcissist personality to where they were like, I'm the boss.
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  I'm, you know, I've been a supervisor for this, this amount
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  of time, blah, blah, blah. And it's like no one wants your
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  job, lady. I'm just simply providing some
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  insight on how we can make things a little more efficient
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  and maybe get the turnover rate down to where people would want
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  to stay here longer. So for me, I had a, a voice of
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  sharing ideas on to improve processes to improve the, the
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  team. And it was not, it was not
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  received well. So I had a bit of a different
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  situation where I was speaking up on things that just the
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  person just didn't care. Like it just that's the only way
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  to explain it. She does not care.
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  But going through all of that, I realized I had given away like
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  almost all my power by the way I was responding, the way I was
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  reacting in those situations. And I had to stop.
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  I had to make some changes with me.
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  I couldn't change her. I gave up on like, let me try
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  this approach with her. Let me try that.
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  No, because it was something that I needed to do and I was
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  allowing certain I was allowing her to speak to me a certain
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  way, that it took everything in my soul not to let that Lady
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  have it. I'll be honest with you, I was
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  trying to remain professional, but it took everything in me not
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  to give her the business. But anyways, I was, I took the
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  High Road, I stayed professional.
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  But the problem is by me staying quiet, she just took that as
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  like, you know, she still had the control and she still
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  continued to speak to me a certain way.
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  So eventually I just cut conversation like completely
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  short and if she wasn't asking a direct work question or anything
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  like that, if it wasn't work related, she didn't get a
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  response from me. And I just kept it strictly
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  business. Like don't ask me about my
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  weekend, don't ask me about my trips or, or or you know, my
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  family. Don't ask me nothing that is not
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  work related. So I kept it very professional
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  and cut pretty much all communication that wasn't
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  specifically work related and that gave me quite a bit of my
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  power back. And then whenever she would
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  constantly hover and ask and, and trying to check on stuff,
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  instead of me reacting, getting angry, feeling all upset about
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  how she was, I just, you know, took a breath and I understood
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  that is that is how she is. I'm not going to allow her to
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  take my joy for the day. I have some work to do.
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  I'm going to get my work done and that's going to be the end
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  of it. So I didn't react the way that I
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  used to. I changed my response, my
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  reaction to her and by me not, you know, getting getting, you
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  know, irritated, annoyed and angry about her and how she was
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  and just accepting that that's just the type of person she is.
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  I was able to just get through the days and not feel as
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  stressed. But I will say my therapy did
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  help. Going to talk to someone
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  definitely help because when you hear someone else's advice on
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  the situation, especially when you're already like your brain's
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  already overwhelmed with so much going on you can't even think
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  straight yourself. So talking to someone else
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  definitely is is helpful. But for me, it, it opened my
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  eyes to see that I was basically just giving all my power away
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  and I was allowing that situation and that person to
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  drain me and take, take full control.
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  And, and I think, I think she knew exactly what she was doing.
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  I'll be honest with you, I'm pretty sure she knew exactly
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  what she was doing. And she felt like she had the
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  upper hand cuz she would play like real nicety.
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  And then like, as soon as I, I kind of feedback, you know, into
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  what behavior she was dishing out, then she'd go right back to
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  how she was the whole, there's this full blown narcissist vibes
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  right there. But anyways, I, I did learn a
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  lot about myself in 2025 because of those, those situations that
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  I went through and the types of people that I've, I've
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  experienced throughout the year that that actually helped me
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  understand that I had given away my power.
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  And it helped me understand that I need to get my power back and
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  reclaim the control over my own life, my thoughts and my
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  emotions and not, you know, feel diminished by people or the
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  situations. So once I was able to understand
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  what was going on with me and and why I always felt tired and
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  sick all the time. Once I, I, I understood what was
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  happening that I was literally just drained.
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  I was able to take my power back and I set some firm boundaries.
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  I focused on myself worth because I knew I was busting my
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  tail at work doing everything I could in that role and 0
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  appreciation. But for me, I had to understand,
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  I had to teach myself that the way that I would treat people is
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  not the same that they would treat me.
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  I can't expect them to reciprocate the same energy that
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  I'm putting out because we're all different.
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  We're all different people here. And I have the, I think I'm a
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  very caring, kind hearted, loving individual.
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  And I understand that not everyone in this world are very
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  kind, loving, caring people. And they're not going to treat
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  people the way that I think that people should be treated.
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  People are going to treat folks how they feel.
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  And if they feel like they can get something out of whatever
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  situation they're in, some kind of power, some kind of ego
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  stroke, money, whatever, they're going to do that.
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  If they're not the type of person who just wants to show
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  and care and and be kind to people.
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  And I understand that. So now I don't even like, I
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  don't approach people with any type of expectations of they
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  should and why can't people? How come they don't?
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  We're all different. We're all different.
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  People are driven in life by different things.
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  I choose to allow love and the kindness of my heart to drive me
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  with my decisions in life. I'm not going to be out here
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  just pooping all over folks trying to get to the top.
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  And some people, you know, they don't care that they want to
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  have the power, they want the control.
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  They allow their ego to drive them into their future and you
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  know, to what it is that they're seeking.
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  But once I was able to set those firm boundaries, I focused on
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  myself, worth and took responsibility for my own
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  reactions and stop relying on external validation.
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  I felt so relieved, so relieved that I was able to make some
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  clear headed decisions to move forth and focus on me and my
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  mental health and my physical health, my spiritual health, my
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  emotional health. And when I started focusing on
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  me, everything shifted. I stopped looking externally for
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  solutions and started looking internally because the answers
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  were already within me. But I was so frustrated at at
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  how everything was going. And it's like, why won't these
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  people listen? And you know, I have great ideas
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  and what's wrong with these people?
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  After a while, it just became, you know what, I'm exhausting
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  myself way too much, putting way too much energy and passion into
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  this. And I need to turn all of that
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  around and, and put all of that energy and passion into myself.
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  And it was probably the best decision I ever made for 2025.
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  I'll be honest with you. So if you find yourself feeling
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  like you're just exhausted, drained, you're not being heard,
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  you're not being valued, maybe take a look and see who's
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  controlling your power, who's directing your life?
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  What's directing your life? Is it your surroundings that's
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  directing your life? Or is it you that's directing
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  your life? Taking your power back is about
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  shifting from feeling like a victim to being an an empowered
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  individual, recognizing your inherent strength and choosing
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  how to respond to the world. Thank you all so much for tuning
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