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Note 37: Sunday Scaries Reset: Breathe, You’re Not Behind · Notes to Her

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  Hey,
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  and
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  welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Notes
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  to
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  Her,
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  the
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  daily
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  pep
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  talk.
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  I'm
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  Yaya,
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  your
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  confidence
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  and
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  mindset
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  coach,
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  and
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  today
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  I
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  want
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  you
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  to
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  slow
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  down
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  with
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  me
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  if
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  your
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  Sunday
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  afternoons
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  and
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  evenings
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  tend
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  to
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  come
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  with
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  a
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  tight
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  chest,
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  a
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  racing
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  mind,
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  or
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  a
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  quiet
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  panic
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  that
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  says,
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  I
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  should
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  be
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  further
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  along
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  by
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  now,
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  this
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  note
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  is
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  for
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  you.
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  Because
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  Sundays
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  have
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  a
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  way
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  of
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  doing
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  that.
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  They
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  give
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  you
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  just
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  enough
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  quiet
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  to
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  start
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  comparing,
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  just
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  enough
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  stillness
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  for
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  your
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  mind
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  to
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  scroll
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  through
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  everyone
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  else's
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  progress.
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  So
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  before
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  we
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  talk
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  about
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  tomorrow,
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  before
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  you
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  think
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  about
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  the
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  week
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  ahead,
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  I
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  want
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  you
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  to
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  know
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  behind.
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  Sunday
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  scaries
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  don't
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  always
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  show
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  up
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  as
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  anxiety.
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  Sometimes
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  they
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  show
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  up
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  as
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  comparison.
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  You
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  see
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  someone
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  else's
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  win,
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  someone
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  else's
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  promotion,
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  someone
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  else's
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  engagement,
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  someone
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  else's
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  glow
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  up.
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  And
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  suddenly
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  your
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  brain
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  starts
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  keeping
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  score.
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  They're
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  ahead.
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  I
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  should
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  be
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  doing
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  more.
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  I'm
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  late.
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  I'm
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  running
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  out
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  of
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  time.
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  But
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  let
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  me
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  tell
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  you
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  what
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  Sundays
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  really
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  do.
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  They
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  give
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  you
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  space
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  to
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  rest,
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  then
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  ask
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  you
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  to
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  perform
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  emotional
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  math
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  you
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  were
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  never
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  meant
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  to
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  do.
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  They
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  take
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  a
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  week
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  where
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  you
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  survive,
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  learn
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  story,
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  and
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  showed
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  up
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  and
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  reduced
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  it
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  to
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  one
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  single
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  question,
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  am
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  I
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  doing
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  enough?
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  And
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  that
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  question
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  alone
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  can
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  shake
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  your
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  confidence.
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  Here's
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  what's
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  really
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  happening
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  during
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  the
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  week.
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  You're
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  busy.
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  You're
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  moving.
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  You're
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  responding.
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  You're
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  doing.
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  But
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  the
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  weekend
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  slows
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  down
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  everything.
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  You
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  finally
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  get
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  time
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  to
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  think,
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  reflect,
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  rest,
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  scroll.
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  And
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  when
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  Sunday
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  night
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  hits
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  and
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  shift
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  gears,
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  you
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  start
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  preparing
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  to
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  be
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  seen
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  again,
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  to
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  perform,
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  to
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  show
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  up.
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  So
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  your
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  brain
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  scans
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  for
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  danger
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  and
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  ask,
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  am
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  I
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  safe
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  where
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  I
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  am?
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  Am
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  I
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  enough?
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  Yet
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  comparison
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  becomes
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  a
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  way
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  to
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  measure
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  safety,
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  not
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  truth.
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  And
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  the
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  lie
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  it
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  tells
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  you
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  is
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  this.
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  Everyone
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  else
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  is
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  ahead
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  and
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  you've
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  missed
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  your
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  moment.
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  But
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  that
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  lie
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  will
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  wreck
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  your
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  peace
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  if
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  you
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  let
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  it.
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  Let
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  me
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  ground
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  you
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  in
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  something
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  real.
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  There's
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  no
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  universal
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  timeline.
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  There's
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  no
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  behind.
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  There's
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  no
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  race.
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  You
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  have
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  agreed
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  to
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  run.
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  Your
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  pace
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  is
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  not
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  the
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  problem.
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  Your
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  season
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  is
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  not
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  a
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  mistake.
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  And
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  your
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  timing
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  is
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  not
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  wrong.
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  Growth
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  doesn't
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  happen
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  in
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  straight
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  lines.
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  Confidence
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  doesn't
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  arrive
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  all
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  at
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  once.
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  And
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  alignment
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  doesn't
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  look
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  loud
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  in
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  the
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  beginning.
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  You're
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  not
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  late.
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  You're
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  layered.
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  And
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  what's
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  building
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  in
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  you
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  right
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  now
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  cannot
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  be
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  rushed
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  without
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  being
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  ruined.
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  Let's
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  pause
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  together
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  for
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  a
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  moment.
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  Take
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  a
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  breath
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  in
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  through
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  your
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  nose,
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  slow
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  it
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  down
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  and
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  let
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  it
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  out
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  through
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  your
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  mouth.
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  Again.
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  Inhale.
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  And
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  now
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  exhale.
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  Now
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  say
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  this
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  quietly,
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  or
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  out
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  loud
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  if
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  you
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  need
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  to.
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  My
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  timing
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  is
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  mine.
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  Again.
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  My
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  timing
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  is
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  mine.
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  Bring
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  your
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  attention
• 3:37
  back
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  to
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  your
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  body.
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  Your
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  feet,
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  your
• 3:41
  breath.
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  This
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  moment
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  comparison
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  pulls
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  you
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  into
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  imaginary
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  timelines.
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  Grounding
• 3:50
  brings
• 3:50
  you
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  back
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  to
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  your
• 3:51
  own
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  life.
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  You
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  don't
• 3:53
  need
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  to
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  catch
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  up.
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  You
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  need
• 3:55
  to
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  stay
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  present.
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  Now.
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  Today
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  you
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  feel
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  smaller
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  than
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  feel.
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  If
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  you
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  feel
• 4:01
  unsure,
• 4:02
  if
• 4:02
  you
• 4:03
  feel
• 4:03
  like
• 4:03
  everyone
• 4:03
  else
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  has
• 4:04
  it
• 4:04
  figured
• 4:04
  out,
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  that
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  doesn't
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  mean
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  you're
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  behind.
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  It
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  means
• 4:07
  you're
• 4:07
  becoming
• 4:08
  more
• 4:08
  aware.
• 4:09
  Awareness
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  comes
• 4:10
  before
• 4:11
  confidence.
• 4:12
  Discomfort
• 4:13
  comes
• 4:13
  before
• 4:13
  growth.
• 4:14
  And
• 4:15
  questioning
• 4:16
  often
• 4:16
  shows
• 4:17
  up
• 4:17
  right
• 4:17
  before
• 4:18
  expansion.
• 4:19
  You're
• 4:20
  not
• 4:20
  losing
• 4:20
  momentum,
• 4:21
  you're.
• 4:21
  You're
• 4:22
  recalibrated.
• 4:24
  So
• 4:24
  before
• 4:24
  you
• 4:25
  go
• 4:25
  to
• 4:25
  bed
• 4:25
  tonight,
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  want
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  remember
• 4:26
  this.
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  You
• 4:27
  are
• 4:28
  not
• 4:28
  behind.
• 4:29
  You
• 4:30
  are
• 4:30
  not
• 4:30
  late.
• 4:31
  You
• 4:32
  are
• 4:32
  not
• 4:32
  failing.
• 4:33
  You
• 4:34
  are
• 4:34
  building
• 4:34
  something
• 4:35
  that
• 4:35
  requires
• 4:35
  patience,
• 4:37
  honesty
• 4:38
  and
• 4:38
  self
• 4:39
  trust.
• 4:40
  And
• 4:40
  if
• 4:41
  Sunday
• 4:41
  tends
• 4:41
  to
• 4:42
  send
• 4:42
  your
• 4:42
  mind
• 4:42
  spiraling,
• 4:44
  if
• 4:44
  comparison
• 4:45
  steals
• 4:45
  your
• 4:45
  peace,
• 4:47
  if
• 4:47
  you
• 4:47
  feel
• 4:47
  yourself
• 4:48
  shrinking
• 4:48
  when
• 4:48
  the
• 4:49
  week
• 4:49
  approaches,
• 4:50
  that's
• 4:51
  exactly
• 4:51
  why
• 4:51
  I
• 4:51
  created
• 4:52
  the
• 4:52
  Confidence
• 4:53
  Kit.
• 4:54
  It
• 4:54
  is
• 4:54
  designed
• 4:54
  for
• 4:55
  moments
• 4:55
  like
• 4:55
  this
• 4:56
  when
• 4:56
  your
• 4:56
  mind
• 4:57
  needs
• 4:57
  something
• 4:57
  solid
• 4:58
  to
• 4:58
  come
• 4:58
  back
• 4:58
  to.
• 5:00
  Inside
• 5:00
  the
• 5:00
  Confidence
• 5:01
  Kit
• 5:01
  you
• 5:01
  will
• 5:01
  find
• 5:02
  grounding
• 5:02
  exercises,
• 5:03
  self
• 5:04
  talk,
• 5:04
  resets,
• 5:05
  confidence
• 5:06
  anchors
• 5:06
  and
• 5:07
  tools
• 5:07
  to
• 5:08
  help
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  stop
• 5:08
  shrinking
• 5:09
  in
• 5:09
  real
• 5:09
  time.
• 5:10
  If
• 5:11
  tonight
• 5:11
  feels
• 5:12
  heavy,
• 5:12
  this
• 5:13
  is
• 5:13
  your
• 5:13
  support
• 5:13
  system.
• 5:14
  You
• 5:14
  can
• 5:15
  grab
• 5:15
  the
• 5:15
  Confidence
• 5:15
  Kit
• 5:16
  through
• 5:16
  the
• 5:16
  link
• 5:16
  in
• 5:16
  the
• 5:16
  show
• 5:17
  notes.
• 5:18
  And
• 5:18
  if
• 5:18
  this
• 5:18
  note
• 5:19
  help
• 5:19
  you
• 5:19
  breathe
• 5:19
  a
• 5:20
  little
• 5:20
  easier,
• 5:21
  share
• 5:21
  it
• 5:22
  with
• 5:22
  a
• 5:22
  woman
• 5:22
  who
• 5:22
  needs
• 5:23
  the
• 5:23
  same
• 5:23
  reminder
• 5:24
  that
• 5:24
  she's
• 5:24
  not
• 5:24
  behind
• 5:24
  either.
• 5:26
  And
• 5:26
  don't
• 5:26
  forget,
• 5:27
  you're
• 5:27
  not
• 5:28
  behind.
• 5:29
  You're
• 5:29
  becoming.
• 5:41
  Sam.