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Healing Hypnosis for Shame and Trauma – Build Resilience and Pride · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam Smith in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  You might be. Surprised to learn just how many
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  people are carrying around. The shame of something traumatic
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  that happened in their past. And this is quite a surprising
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  thing for a lot of people, because if someone experiences
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  trauma and someone else was a perpetrator or instigator, then
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  really the shame should belong to the person that caused it.
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  But more often than not it doesn't work that way and
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  actually the person that was the victim or on the receiving end
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  of something that was not correct, wrong, even abusive,
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  ends up carrying the shame. And they can.
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  Carry that shame throughout their whole life and this
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  session is all about. Really.
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  Releasing some of the shame of the past, particularly if it's
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  related to something traumatic, could be from childhood or it
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  could be something more recent. So if you can connect to the
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  idea of any shame within you, connected to something whether
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  it was traumatic or not, then I think you're going to get some
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  value from this hypnosis session.
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  Just be aware it was a session recorded for a very specific
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  individual and some of the references that might relate to
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  their past might not be at all relevant for you, so just
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  disregard any suggestions. That aren't quite right for you?
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  But really listen to those suggestions that might be
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  useful, particularly about releasing shame.
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  And for many people, the opposite of shame isn't, you
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  know, kind of this feeling of being completely unshakable or
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  unbothered. But it can really be pride and
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  it can really be self-confidence.
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  So if you're proud about who you are, then actually that ends up
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  being a more useful resource than being ashamed, embarrassed
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  and playing small. So if you can connect to this
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  idea, then I would encourage you to find a quiet, comfortable
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  place where you're not going to be disturbed, Relax and enjoy
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  the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a sense
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  of release, as if any stress and tension is slowly leaving your
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  body in your outward breath. As you continue to breathe in
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  that resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation and feel that
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  wonderful feeling of release. And maybe you can scan your body
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  for any clues of stress or tension.
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  Sometimes it's around your forehead, your jaw, your neck,
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  or your shoulders. And just feel that you're
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  breathing in so much resourcefulness and so much
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  relaxation that that stress and tension is just melting away,
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  giving you that feeling of drifting deeper and deeper down.
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  And I want you to think of a place in nature, a place where
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  you felt at your most calm and relaxed.
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  And maybe on a beach staring into the waves, or perhaps in a
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  forest hearing the breeze through the trees.
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  But just allow your imagination to take you to a place that
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  helps you to feel more and more relaxed.
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  And I want you to imagine the most comfortable bed in that
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  place in nature. Imagine a comfortable bed, a
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  soft pillow. Just imagine placing yourself in
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  a comfortable position there on that bed in nature.
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  Then breathe in, and as you exhale, feel your body letting
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  go. That's right, with every breath,
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  allow the muscles in your shoulders to release, your jaw
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  to unclench, and your mind to begin drifting, breathing in
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  calm and breathing out any tension you don't need.
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  And you can imagine that with each breath you are drifting
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  deeper into a place of peace, where every inhale is bringing
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  clarity at every exhale, taking you further and further down,
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  deeper down into pure relaxation.
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  And they're on that bed in that place in nature.
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  You may begin to notice that your arms and legs may feel
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  heavier or more relaxed or looser, or maybe the opposite,
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  lighter, a floaty sensation or sinking deep into the mattress.
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  And you don't need to make that happen.
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  Just breathe in and breathe out and be open to different
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  sensations. And any changes are simply the
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  sign that you're beginning to enter this in a world where
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  changes can happen faster and happen naturally.
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  And very soon I'm going to countdown from 5 to 1.
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  And I want you to imagine that you're drifting off into a
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  dreamlike sleep on that bed, in that place in nature.
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  And with each descending number, feel a sense of letting go. 5
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  Releasing the tension in the face. 4 Anything connected to
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  breath feels effortless. 3 Your arms and legs feel limp, loose
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  and heavy like the limbs of a puppet with no strings.
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  And two, your internal organs start to relax.
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  And one, just allow everything connected to your sympathetic
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  nervous system to just dial down and calm as you imagine entering
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  that dream like sleep. And in that dream, I want you to
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  imagine standing in front of a large, heavy bag.
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  And I want you to imagine that everything in this particular
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  bag are all the difficult things that you've gone through, any
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  shaming, any judgement, any bullying, any things that you
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  regret. But if you could go back in
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  time, you would do something different, but particularly the
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  shame. And I want you to imagine trying
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  to lift this heavy bag up and just feeling the weight of it
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  all. And here in your imagination,
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  you're not carrying it because you've carried it long enough.
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  And what if now is the time to let it go?
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  That you can retain the wisdom, the knowledge and the
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  experiences so that any shame, any guilt is now useful to shift
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  your future choices. But I want you to feel that the
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  actual moments are your past. The historical shame is not
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  directed at who you are now, it's directed at who you were.
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  So attempt to pick up that big heavy bag again and just notice
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  how cumbersome, how draining, how much effort it feels.
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  Every oz, kilo, pound and gram of shame, every memory of being
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  treated unfairly, every voice of criticism or self blame,
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  including yourself. And notice now that the version
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  of you who carried that bag for all of these years is no longer
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  who you are today, that version of you who survived.
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  Because not everyone goes through what you've gone through
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  and survives. Which means you are not a
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  victim. You are a survivor, and as a
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  survivor you get to release all of the baggage of your past.
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  And I want you to imagine a clifftop, and I want you to
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  imagine that you have just enough strength to carry that
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  big heavy bag and to drop it over the edge of that Cliff.
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  And at the bottom on the beach below is a great cleansing fire.
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  And as you bring that heavy bag to the edge of that Cliff,
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  notice how ready you are to be free.
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  You can drop that bag over the edge into the fire and just
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  watch as it burns away. And now do that.
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  Now release it. See it fall into the flames, and
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  notice the shame dissolving. The pain dissolves, the burden
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  dissolves, and all that remains is the wisdom you've gained.
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  And one of the clues of wisdom is that when you think back to
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  the memory, you don't feel like you're re experiencing it.
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  You feel like you're observing it.
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  Because as an observer, the emotions aren't yours, just the
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  lessons and the wisdom. And as the smoke rises into the
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  sky, know this truth. The shame belonged to who you
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  were, not who you are now, and certainly not who you are
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  becoming. So imagine feeling your
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  shoulders become lighter and looser, feel your body freer,
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  and feel your heart more open. And in the space where shame
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  once lived, I want you to notice a new energy forming.
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  The energy of resilience, the glow of clarity.
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  The strength of personal pride. Pride in being a survivor.
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  Pride in recovering again and again.
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  Pride in becoming stronger, wiser, and more resourceful.
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  And with every breath, the light expands through your body.
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  Feel that you're replacing shame with strength, replacing regret
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  with motivation, and replacing heaviness with freedom.
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  And then high up above where the Cliff edge was, I want you to
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  imagine seeing a large cinema screen.
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  And you can still hear the bag burning in the fire below there
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  on the beach, there at the bottom of the Cliff face and
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  above that is this cinema screen.
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  And I wonder if you could imagine yourself in your future.
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  That could be days or weeks or even months ahead.
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  But I want you to notice what you look like without the shame.
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  If anyone ever brings up anything of your past, you can
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  own it because you know that you were changed by it.
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  You get to keep the wisdom and let go of the shame and
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  therefore it can't be used to hurt you.
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  And I want you to see yourself facing life's challenges with
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  resilience. See yourself clear minded and
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  strong and motivated to do what needs to be done.
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  But most of all, see yourself free from all that baggage of
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  the past and enlightened and empowered to live fully in the
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  present. And see that version of you
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  staring into a full length mirror.
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  And see that version of you looking in the mirror with
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  pride, because that version of you knows that you are not
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  defined by what happened to you, but by how you rose beyond it,
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  how you evolved through it. And then step into that version
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  of you, that future version of you, where the shame is in your
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  past and the pride is in the present and feel that pride now.
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  You are a survivor, you are wise, you are capable, and
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  everything that you've gone through did not break you.
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  It made you stronger to feel that resourcefulness now as you
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  look at yourself in the mirror, that freedom now, and get a
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  sense that this is your new identity, the empowered
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  survivor, not the version of you that was broken and ashamed.
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  That's your past, and you are not your past.
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  So imagine being back in that bed, in that place in nature.
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  But float yourself back on that same bed all the way to where
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  you are right now as you start to connect and calibrate into
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  the here and the now. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes as you connect
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  and calibrate into the here and the now.
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  But as I count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you, you will
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  recall that the shame is now in your past and the wisdom,
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  clarity and pride is in your present.
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  Starting to count. 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes. 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank.
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