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- What Is Trust The Process? Beebop boop bop beep bop-a-loo-bop! Bee-bop-boop bop bool-ya-doo dot, hey!!! Welcome! Welcome! Welcome! Welcome! Welcome to another episode of WANZOLOGY!! I am your host, The Wanz, and I hope that this Wednesday finds you in a good state of mind. I hope it finds you healthy and in a good state, yah!! I know I'm a little psycho, but I can't help it. It's okay. We'll get over it. Today, uh, on this episode of WANZOLOGY, I want to talk about one of my favorite things. One of my favorite things is process. Anything that has a beginning and an end is a process. Like when you brush your teeth, there's a beginning, a middle, and an end. Or when you eat a meal, you start and sooner or later you end. It's like a day. Yeah. It starts, has a middle and it ends. Anything that has a beginning and an end is a process. What I've been told is one must always make sure they understand where they are in any given process. Now, why is this you may ask? Well, it's because if you know how far away you are from the beginning, you may have some idea how long it will take to get to the end or location of where the end is, and if you're closer to the end, you can turn and look to see where you started and how far you have come. There is a saying in, uh, many worlds, in many realms, ‘Trust The Process’ . When people say, trust the process, what do you think they mean? Do they mean, uh, the process of getting your teeth cleaned? Or do they mean the process of putting on your clothes? Trust the process is something that someone will say when they are ‘in process’, in the process of changing, because once you begin to change, how do you know where the end is? How do you know when you're gonna get to the end? How do you know what's gonna be waiting for you when you actually reach the end? All these are, they are questions that deserve answers, and those answers usually come from the actions that are derived from the decisions you make. Trusting the process means that you're gonna put one foot in front of the other on the path that you're on. Believing that it's going to get you to a desired destiny or outcome? Don't think so? Well, let's say there is a process of you going to the store to get milk. You figure that I need milk. Okay, I'm gonna go to the grocery store, not the convenience store, the grocery store. That means I'm gonna get in my car and I'm gonna like back outta the driveway and I'm gonna make sure it's safe and carry on and stop at red lights and stop signs and pull into the parking lot, park, lock the door, walk inside. Go to the dairy section, find what flavor, what size container of milk I'm going to buy, and then I go back up to the front and I go through the checkout process, pay for it, come back to the car, unlock the car, get in, start the car, and drive back to my abode and therein lies the process-overview of getting milk from the store. Now, what if you didn't know which store you were going to? Would that make it a little more challenging? What if you weren't sure what streets to take to get to said grocery store, do you think this would shorten or extend the length of your process? See, the whole thing of it is whenever you are endeavoring to do one thing or another, you are in process. When you hear the words, “Trust the process.”, that means you must believe that you are on the right path, heading towards the right goal and will reach your destination, period. Because if you have self-doubt, you're not sure if you're gonna reach your destination, it could create hesitancy, it could create a change in direction, velocity, power. Trust the process. You don't get halfway in the middle of going through the instructions of a cake mix and just put it in the oven while it's still in the bowl, do y? No, there is a process. You don't just serve pork that hasn't been cooked, do you? No, because there's a process. If you're not sure where you're headed, how will you know where you are in your process? Knowing where you are in any given process is vital, vital information. Remember, Pop's always said, “There are a lot of things in this world I can do without, information is not one of them.”, I mean, hell, half the reason I do this podcast is because I think I know a lot. I may be right, I may not be right, it depends greatly on your perception, your perspective, and where you are in whatever process you are traveling in. Trust is a very, very big word. You don't even think about it anymore when you walk upstairs, but you trust that each foot is gonna land exactly where it needs to to propel the rest of your body up the stairs. And what happens if you miss a step? You ever reach for the step and just your toe hits the edge of the step and slips off and you hit your knee on the step? It's not pleasant. It hurts a lot. Walking a flight of stairs, a process. Going to the store to get milk, a process. Now, let's say you are rebuilding your self-esteem. How do you do that? What do you do? Where do you start? How long is it gonna take? Do you take a class, read a book, audio book? Maybe you talk things out with a friend, maybe you talk things out with clergy, maybe you talk to those voices that you hear inside your head and try to come to a sustainable conclusion. But if you've decided that you want to reconstruct or rebuild, parts of yourself, trusting the process becomes different because there are known unknowns. Known unknowns, “When am I gonna be done?”, well, when you're a work in progress, you might never be done. It's like a house. A house always has something that can be done to it to improve it. A house is never done. We as human beings should never be done. We should constantly search and take steps to improve who we are and how we experience our lives. If you're not doing that, then what the hell are you doing? Trusting the process of reconstructing one's self-esteem is difficult because everyone on the inside of themselves has ‘that’ voice, the inner critic. For some reason, the inner critic has more power over our behaviors than almost anything. Everything that we are told from the inside we take to be true until proven false. I always go through these little bits where it's like, yeah, I can't be that good. I'm not that good a singer. So what? I have a Grammy, so what I have a Diamond Award, big deal, I've been doing music since I can remember, that does not make me any good. How do I measure how good I am? How do I learn to get better? How do I? How do I?uestions that are part of the process. Answers to those questions. The how do I questions lead me towards a path that I can walk that's filled with practice performance, promotion, practice performance promotion, and so on. But if I'm not practicing, do you think that I'd be improving? I don't think so. And if I don't perform, no one will see me hear me, and I will be at a loss as to whether I'm doing what I set out to do. When you're inside your head as much as some like me, the process of reconstruction is long. The reason that it's long is because confidence is not always sure that you're heading in the right direction, that you're taking the proper steps to reconstruct your self-esteem. Self-esteem, autonomy, confidence. I don't mean confidence that you're gonna succeed, confidence that you can execute whatever it is that you're trying to execute. Only after you try do you find whether you can do or do not. Sorry, Yoda, your logic is flawed. If there are no attempts, there are no failures or successes. Trusting the process to me means, that you have an idea of where you want to be and how to get there. Now the problem comes when you're not sure. So what do you do when you're not sure? Well, there are many things you can do, hope, pray, ignore, or trust. Rome wasn't built in a day, the journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step, there's a reason that the rear view mirror is smaller than the windshield. Those three things alone keep you in process. Well, how will you know when you're done? How will you know when you have completed rebuilding and reconstructing your self-esteem? I'll tell you when. You'll know that you've arrived when what anybody else thinks of you doesn't matter. You'll know that you have successfully reconstructed your self-esteem when you don't care what other people may or may not think about you and what you're doing. Where have you been, who you're with, why are you there? You're there because you wanna be, wherever there is for you, you're doing the things that you wanna do because you believe they will improve whatever it is you want improved. You are taking the action. You have made the decision, plotted the course, and have turned on the warp drive to get you where you're going. Well, how will you know when you get there? What if there's no there? What if you just keep ‘doing it’? Ah. Some of you have figured it out. That's right, life itself is a process. It has a beginning and it has an end. Everything in the middle. Well, there are different phases for that, right? Where are you in your process? What would you do if you knew your process of life ended tomorrow? You don't. What does that mean? That means, don't worry about it. Don't worry about what anything means, worry about doing the best that you can at any given moment. Let somebody else figure out what it means. If you accomplish whatever it is that you set out to do, isn't that enough? If you set out to get milk from the store and you come back with milk from the store, were you not a success? When it comes to yourself, when it comes to that four to six inches of slippery gray matter in between your ears, the process never stops, you're always in some kind of process. How do you trust it? Well, everybody does it different, but I'll tell you this, if no one trusted their own process, how would they get from back ‘there’ to right ‘here’ and from right ‘here’, out ‘there’, wherever that is? Make sure that you know what your destination is. Make sure that you understand how you're going to get to your destination. Make sure, that you have enough self-esteem on board to keep you moving in the right direction. Make sure that you have people in and around you supporting you, encouraging you to keep striving towards your destination. When everything is in place, walking the path through your process is invisible. You don't even think about it, you just do it! But it's only in those times when you doubt your own path. That's when things get weird. I'll leave you with this, my Pops used to say the funniest things. One of the things that he would say sometimes is, “I don't get lost, I just find new ways of getting places.” Now imagine applying that to your process. Imagine never really feeling like you're NOT heading towards your destination. What if all you know and believe is heading towards your destination? I think the odds are good that you'll reach it, don't you? And if not, why not? Questions you can only answer for yourself. Coming up with those answers is another process. Trust yourself, trust your abilities, trust your knowledge, and most of all, trust your experience because experience gets you ‘there’, wherever ‘there’ may be. All right, Man. All right Woman. Man, woman, all right, all right, all right! Take care of yourself, okay? Do your best, leave the rest, and for God's sakes, stop worrying about what people think. It's just not that important! I'm outta here!! Later!!