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EP 246. The Power Ask — How to Get a Yes Without Feeling Pushy or Out of Alignment · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:00
  Okay,
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  friend,
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  something
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  we
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  all
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  need
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  to
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  do,
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  but
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  secretly
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  dread
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  asking
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  for
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  what
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  we
• 0:07
  want,
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  whether
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  it's
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  asking
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  your
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  partner
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  to
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  step
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  up,
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  pitching
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  your
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  dream
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  client,
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  or
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  even
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  just
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  asking
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  for
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  a
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  little
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  more
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  time
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  for
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  yourself.
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  It
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  can
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  feel
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  like
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  walking
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  a
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  tightrope
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  above
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  alligator
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  infested
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  waters.
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  You
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  don't
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  wanna
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  come
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  across
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  as
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  pushy,
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  but
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  you
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  also
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  don't
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  wanna
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  shrink
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  yourself
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  into
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  silence.
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  Let's
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  call
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  out
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  the
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  fear.
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  Asking
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  doesn't
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  have
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  to
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  feel
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  awkward
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  or
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  scary
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  when
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  you
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  know
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  how
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  to
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  make
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  aligned
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  confident
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  request.
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  You
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  are
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  not
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  just
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  advocating
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  for
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  yourself.
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  You
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  are
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  creating
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  opportunities
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  for
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  deeper
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  connection,
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  collaboration,
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  and
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  support.
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  And
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  the
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  best
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  part,
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  you
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  can
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  do
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  it
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  in
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  a
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  way
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  that
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  feels
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  totally
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  authentic
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  to
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  who
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  you
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  are.
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  No
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  pushiness,
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  no
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  guilt,
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  no
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  shrinking,
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  just
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  you.
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  Standing
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  in
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  your
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  power.
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  This
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  episode
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  is
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  for
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  the
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  high
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  achieving
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  woman
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  who's
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  mastered
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  saying
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  no.
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  Shout
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  out
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  to
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  episode
• 1:00
  2
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  45,
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  but
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  still
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  struggles
• 1:02
  with
• 1:02
  the
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  next
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  step.
• 1:04
  Asking
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  for
• 1:04
  what
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  you
• 1:05
  want,
• 1:05
  whether
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  it's
• 1:06
  in
• 1:06
  your
• 1:06
  relationships,
• 1:07
  your
• 1:07
  business,
• 1:08
  or
• 1:08
  your
• 1:08
  everyday
• 1:08
  life.
• 1:09
  Today
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  we
• 1:09
  are
• 1:09
  diving
• 1:10
  into
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  how
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  to
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  make
• 1:11
  it
• 1:11
  clear.
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  Kind
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  and
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  aligned,
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  ask
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  powerfully
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  that
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  actually
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  gets
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  yeses
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  without
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  feeling
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  like
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  you
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  are
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  begging
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  or
• 1:20
  bending
• 1:21
  over
• 1:21
  backwards.
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  By
• 1:22
  the
• 1:22
  end
• 1:22
  of
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  this
• 1:23
  episode,
• 1:23
  you'll
• 1:23
  have
• 1:24
  a
• 1:24
  simple
• 1:24
  step-by-step
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  framework
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  for
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  making
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  powerful,
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  ask
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  real
• 1:28
  life
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  examples
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  to
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  inspire
• 1:29
  you
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  and
• 1:30
  the
• 1:30
  confidence
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  to
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  handle
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  any
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  response
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  with
• 1:33
  grace.
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  Let's
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  get
• 1:34
  into
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  it.
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  Friend.
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  Let's
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  talk
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  about
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  the
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  power
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  of
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  saying
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  no
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  because
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  your
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  boundaries,
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  they
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  are
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  sacred.
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  That's
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  why
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  I
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  created
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  the
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  Sacred
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  No
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  Script
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  Pack
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  your
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  ultimate
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  guide
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  to
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  saying
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  No
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  with
• 1:50
  confidence,
• 1:50
  clarity,
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  and
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  zero
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  guilt.
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  Whether
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  it's
• 1:53
  turning
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  down
• 1:54
  an
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  invite,
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  setting
• 1:55
  boundaries
• 1:55
  at
• 1:55
  work,
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  or
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  protecting
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  your
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  me
• 1:57
  time.
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  No
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  more
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  overthinking,
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  no
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  more
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  people
• 2:00
  pleasing.
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  Just
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  clear
• 2:02
  align
• 2:02
  communication
• 2:03
  that
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  protects
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  your
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  peace
• 2:04
  and
• 2:05
  energy.
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  So
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  ready
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  to.
• 2:07
  Stop
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  saying
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  yes
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  out
• 2:09
  of
• 2:09
  obligation
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  and
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  start
• 2:11
  saying
• 2:11
  no.
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  With
• 2:12
  main
• 2:12
  character
• 2:12
  energy.
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  Grab
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  the
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  sacred
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  no
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  script
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  pack.
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  Now.
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  Your
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  energy,
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  your
• 2:18
  time,
• 2:18
  your
• 2:19
  life,
• 2:20
  it's
• 2:20
  worth
• 2:21
  it.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey
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  friend.
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  If
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  you
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  are
• 2:25
  new
• 2:25
  here,
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  I'm
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  Letitia
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  Hopkins.
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  You
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  are
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  a
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  life
• 2:29
  love
• 2:29
  and
• 2:29
  empowerment
• 2:30
  coach
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  helping
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  you
• 2:31
  to
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  step
• 2:31
  into
• 2:31
  your
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  main
• 2:32
  character
• 2:32
  energy
• 2:33
  so
• 2:33
  you
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  can
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  be
• 2:34
  the
• 2:34
  confident
• 2:35
  and
• 2:35
  empowered
• 2:36
  woman
• 2:36
  who
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  lives
• 2:37
  the
• 2:37
  aligned
• 2:38
  and
• 2:38
  fulfilled
• 2:39
  life
• 2:39
  you
• 2:40
  crave.
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  Now
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  as
• 2:41
  your
• 2:41
  coach,
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  I
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  love
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  to
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  start
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  with
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  the
• 2:43
  elephant
• 2:44
  in
• 2:44
  the
• 2:44
  room.
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  Why
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  is
• 2:46
  asking
• 2:46
  for
• 2:46
  what
• 2:47
  we
• 2:47
  need
• 2:47
  so
• 2:48
  freaking
• 2:48
  hard?
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  For
• 2:49
  some
• 2:50
  of
• 2:50
  us,
• 2:50
  especially
• 2:51
  as
• 2:51
  women,
• 2:52
  there's
• 2:52
  this
• 2:53
  unspoken
• 2:53
  rule
• 2:54
  that
• 2:54
  we're
• 2:54
  supposed
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  to
• 2:54
  have
• 2:55
  it
• 2:55
  all
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  together.
• 2:56
  We
• 2:56
  are
• 2:57
  supposed
• 2:57
  to
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  be
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  a
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  one
• 2:58
  woman
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  show
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  doing
• 2:59
  all
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  the
• 3:00
  things.
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  All
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  on
• 3:01
  our
• 3:01
  own.
• 3:02
  We
• 3:02
  don't
• 3:03
  want
• 3:03
  to
• 3:03
  inconvenience
• 3:04
  anyone.
• 3:05
  Come
• 3:05
  across
• 3:05
  as
• 3:06
  demanding,
• 3:07
  appear
• 3:07
  as
• 3:07
  if
• 3:07
  we
• 3:07
  can't
• 3:08
  handle
• 3:08
  everything
• 3:09
  or
• 3:10
  risk
• 3:10
  hearing
• 3:11
  a
• 3:11
  no.
• 3:12
  So
• 3:12
  instead
• 3:13
  we
• 3:13
  just
• 3:13
  don't
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  ask.
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  Sound
• 3:15
  familiar.
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  Maybe
• 3:16
  you've
• 3:17
  thought
• 3:17
  if
• 3:18
  they
• 3:18
  really
• 3:18
  care,
• 3:18
  they
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  just
• 3:19
  know
• 3:20
  what
• 3:20
  I
• 3:20
  need
• 3:21
  or
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  don't
• 3:22
  wanna
• 3:22
  seem
• 3:22
  ungrateful
• 3:23
  or
• 3:24
  what
• 3:24
  if
• 3:24
  they
• 3:24
  say
• 3:25
  no?
• 3:25
  I'll
• 3:26
  feel
• 3:26
  so
• 3:26
  embarrassed.
• 3:28
  These
• 3:28
  thoughts
• 3:28
  right
• 3:29
  here,
• 3:29
  they'll
• 3:30
  keep
• 3:30
  you
• 3:30
  stuck
• 3:31
  in
• 3:31
  a
• 3:31
  cycle
• 3:32
  of
• 3:32
  overgiving
• 3:33
  and
• 3:33
  under
• 3:34
  asking.
• 3:34
  And
• 3:35
  let
• 3:35
  me
• 3:35
  tell
• 3:35
  you,
• 3:35
  friend,
• 3:36
  that
• 3:36
  cycle
• 3:37
  is
• 3:37
  not
• 3:37
  cute
• 3:38
  and
• 3:39
  it's
• 3:39
  definitely
• 3:40
  not
• 3:40
  sustainable.
• 3:42
  And
• 3:42
  this
• 3:42
  fear
• 3:43
  of
• 3:43
  asking
• 3:43
  often
• 3:44
  comes
• 3:44
  from
• 3:45
  two
• 3:45
  places.
• 3:46
  One
• 3:47
  is
• 3:47
  conditioning.
• 3:48
  We've
• 3:48
  been
• 3:48
  taught
• 3:49
  to
• 3:49
  prioritize
• 3:50
  being
• 3:50
  liked
• 3:51
  over,
• 3:52
  being
• 3:52
  clear
• 3:53
  growing
• 3:53
  up.
• 3:54
  Many
• 3:54
  of
• 3:54
  us
• 3:54
  learn
• 3:55
  that
• 3:55
  asking
• 3:55
  for
• 3:56
  what
• 3:56
  we
• 3:56
  need
• 3:57
  might
• 3:57
  make
• 3:57
  us
• 3:57
  seem
• 3:57
  selfish
• 3:58
  or
• 3:58
  ungrateful.
• 3:59
  And
• 4:00
  then
• 4:00
  there's
• 4:00
  the
• 4:00
  fear
• 4:01
  of
• 4:01
  rejection.
• 4:02
  A
• 4:03
  no
• 4:03
  can
• 4:03
  feel
• 4:04
  personal,
• 4:05
  like
• 4:05
  it's
• 4:05
  a
• 4:05
  reflection
• 4:06
  of
• 4:06
  our
• 4:06
  worth.
• 4:07
  But
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  truth
• 4:08
  is
• 4:08
  a
• 4:08
  no
• 4:09
  isn't
• 4:09
  about
• 4:10
  you.
• 4:11
  It's
• 4:11
  just
• 4:12
  information.
• 4:14
  So
• 4:14
  let's
• 4:15
  reframe
• 4:15
  the
• 4:16
  no.
• 4:16
  here's
• 4:16
  the
• 4:16
  reframe.
• 4:17
  Asking
• 4:18
  isn't
• 4:19
  selfish.
• 4:20
  It's
• 4:20
  an
• 4:20
  act
• 4:21
  of
• 4:21
  clarity,
• 4:21
  connection,
• 4:22
  and
• 4:23
  self-respect.
• 4:24
  And
• 4:24
  when
• 4:24
  you
• 4:24
  ask
• 4:25
  from
• 4:25
  a
• 4:25
  place
• 4:25
  of
• 4:25
  alignment,
• 4:26
  it's
• 4:26
  not
• 4:27
  about
• 4:28
  taking,
• 4:29
  it's
• 4:29
  about
• 4:29
  creating
• 4:30
  opportunities
• 4:31
  for
• 4:31
  mutual
• 4:32
  benefit.
• 4:33
  Yes,
• 4:34
  I'm
• 4:34
  talking
• 4:35
  win-win
• 4:35
  situations,
• 4:36
  friend.
• 4:37
  Let
• 4:37
  me
• 4:37
  share
• 4:37
  a
• 4:37
  quick
• 4:38
  story.
• 4:38
  I
• 4:39
  spent
• 4:39
  many
• 4:40
  years
• 4:40
  as
• 4:41
  a
• 4:41
  single
• 4:41
  mom
• 4:42
  and
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  didn't
• 4:43
  really
• 4:43
  like
• 4:43
  to
• 4:43
  ask
• 4:44
  for
• 4:44
  help
• 4:44
  outside
• 4:45
  of
• 4:45
  my
• 4:45
  immediate
• 4:46
  family.
• 4:46
  At
• 4:46
  that
• 4:47
  time,
• 4:47
  I
• 4:47
  thought
• 4:48
  it
• 4:48
  made
• 4:48
  me
• 4:49
  look
• 4:49
  weak,
• 4:50
  but
• 4:50
  when
• 4:50
  my
• 4:51
  granny
• 4:51
  and
• 4:51
  my
• 4:52
  mom
• 4:52
  made
• 4:52
  their
• 4:52
  transition
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  heaven,
• 4:54
  I
• 4:54
  wasn't
• 4:55
  left
• 4:55
  with
• 4:55
  much
• 4:56
  choice
• 4:56
  but
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  get
• 4:57
  more
• 4:57
  comfortable
• 4:58
  with
• 4:58
  it.
• 4:58
  So
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  did
• 5:00
  get
• 5:00
  better
• 5:00
  about
• 5:01
  asking,
• 5:02
  but
• 5:02
  I
• 5:02
  really
• 5:02
  learned
• 5:03
  this
• 5:03
  lesson
• 5:04
  with
• 5:04
  my
• 5:04
  husband,
• 5:05
  even
• 5:06
  before
• 5:06
  he
• 5:06
  was
• 5:06
  my
• 5:07
  husband.
• 5:07
  He
• 5:07
  would
• 5:07
  say
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  me,
• 5:09
  you
• 5:09
  know,
• 5:09
  you
• 5:09
  don't
• 5:10
  have
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  do
• 5:10
  everything
• 5:10
  by
• 5:11
  yourself.
• 5:12
  Oof.
• 5:13
  It
• 5:13
  still
• 5:13
  gets
• 5:14
  me
• 5:14
  still
• 5:15
  to
• 5:15
  this
• 5:15
  day.
• 5:16
  And
• 5:16
  needless
• 5:16
  to
• 5:16
  say,
• 5:17
  I've
• 5:17
  gotten
• 5:18
  a
• 5:18
  lot
• 5:18
  of
• 5:18
  practice
• 5:19
  in
• 5:19
  asking
• 5:20
  for
• 5:20
  his
• 5:20
  help.
• 5:21
  Not
• 5:21
  only
• 5:22
  does
• 5:22
  he
• 5:22
  say
• 5:23
  yes,
• 5:23
  but
• 5:24
  he
• 5:24
  told
• 5:24
  me
• 5:25
  he
• 5:25
  likes
• 5:26
  helping
• 5:26
  me.
• 5:27
  That
• 5:27
  moment
• 5:28
  taught
• 5:28
  me
• 5:28
  something
• 5:29
  huge.
• 5:30
  People
• 5:31
  want
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  support
• 5:32
  you.
• 5:32
  They
• 5:33
  just
• 5:33
  need
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  know
• 5:34
  how.
• 5:35
  So
• 5:35
  let's
• 5:36
  really
• 5:36
  get
• 5:36
  into
• 5:36
  the
• 5:37
  good
• 5:37
  stuff.
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  call
• 5:38
  this
• 5:38
  the
• 5:38
  aligned
• 5:39
  Ask
• 5:40
  framework.
• 5:41
  It's
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  simple
• 5:42
  four
• 5:42
  step
• 5:42
  process
• 5:43
  to
• 5:43
  help
• 5:43
  you
• 5:43
  make
• 5:44
  clear,
• 5:44
  confident
• 5:45
  requests
• 5:45
  that
• 5:46
  feel
• 5:46
  good
• 5:46
  for
• 5:46
  both
• 5:47
  you
• 5:47
  and
• 5:48
  the
• 5:48
  person
• 5:48
  you're
• 5:48
  asking.
• 5:49
  Here's
• 5:49
  how
• 5:50
  it
• 5:50
  works.
• 5:51
  Step
• 5:52
  one,
• 5:52
  get
• 5:53
  clear
• 5:53
  on
• 5:53
  what
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  need.
• 5:55
  Before
• 5:55
  you
• 5:55
  ask,
• 5:56
  you
• 5:56
  need
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  know
• 5:57
  exactly
• 5:58
  what
• 5:58
  it
• 5:58
  is
• 5:58
  that
• 5:59
  you're
• 5:59
  asking
• 5:59
  for.
• 6:00
  Vague
• 6:00
  requests
• 6:01
  will
• 6:01
  definitely
• 6:02
  lead
• 6:02
  to
• 6:03
  vague
• 6:03
  results,
• 6:04
  so
• 6:04
  ask
• 6:05
  yourself,
• 6:05
  what
• 6:06
  do
• 6:06
  I
• 6:06
  need
• 6:07
  right
• 6:07
  now?
• 6:08
  Why
• 6:09
  is
• 6:09
  this
• 6:09
  important
• 6:09
  to
• 6:10
  me
• 6:10
  and
• 6:10
  how
• 6:11
  will
• 6:11
  this
• 6:11
  benefit
• 6:12
  both
• 6:12
  me
• 6:12
  and
• 6:13
  the
• 6:13
  person
• 6:13
  I'm
• 6:13
  asking?
• 6:14
  For
• 6:15
  example,
• 6:16
  instead
• 6:16
  of
• 6:16
  saying,
• 6:17
  I
• 6:17
  need
• 6:17
  help
• 6:18
  around
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  house,
• 6:19
  try,
• 6:20
  can
• 6:20
  you
• 6:20
  take
• 6:20
  over
• 6:21
  cooking
• 6:21
  dinner
• 6:22
  on
• 6:22
  Tuesdays
• 6:23
  and
• 6:23
  Thursdays
• 6:24
  so
• 6:24
  I
• 6:24
  can
• 6:24
  have
• 6:24
  more
• 6:24
  time
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  focus
• 6:25
  on
• 6:26
  my
• 6:26
  work?
• 6:27
  See
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  difference
• 6:27
  there?
• 6:28
  Clarity
• 6:29
  is
• 6:29
  queen.
• 6:31
  Step
• 6:31
  two,
• 6:31
  check
• 6:32
  your
• 6:32
  energy.
• 6:33
  Your
• 6:34
  energy
• 6:34
  when
• 6:35
  you
• 6:35
  ask
• 6:35
  is
• 6:36
  just
• 6:36
  as
• 6:36
  important
• 6:37
  as
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  words
• 6:38
  you
• 6:38
  use.
• 6:39
  Are
• 6:39
  you
• 6:39
  asking
• 6:40
  from
• 6:40
  a
• 6:40
  place
• 6:41
  of
• 6:41
  desperation
• 6:42
  or
• 6:43
  alignment?
• 6:44
  Before
• 6:44
  you
• 6:44
  make
• 6:44
  your
• 6:45
  request,
• 6:45
  just
• 6:45
  take
• 6:46
  a
• 6:46
  moment
• 6:46
  to
• 6:46
  ground
• 6:47
  yourself.
• 6:48
  Breathe
• 6:49
  and
• 6:49
  remind
• 6:50
  yourself
• 6:50
  of
• 6:51
  your
• 6:51
  worth
• 6:52
  and
• 6:52
  approach
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  conversation
• 6:53
  with
• 6:53
  calm
• 6:54
  confidence.
• 6:55
  Remember,
• 6:55
  you're
• 6:55
  not
• 6:56
  begging,
• 6:56
  you
• 6:56
  are
• 6:57
  inviting
• 6:58
  Step
• 6:58
  three,
• 6:59
  make
• 6:59
  the
• 6:59
  ask
• 7:00
  clear
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  kind
• 7:02
  when
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  are
• 7:02
  ready
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  ask.
• 7:04
  Be
• 7:04
  direct
• 7:05
  but
• 7:05
  kind.
• 7:06
  Use
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  statements
• 7:07
  to
• 7:07
  take
• 7:07
  ownership
• 7:08
  of
• 7:08
  your
• 7:08
  needs
• 7:09
  and
• 7:09
  frame
• 7:10
  your
• 7:10
  request
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  a
• 7:10
  way
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  highlights
• 7:11
  mutual
• 7:12
  benefit.
• 7:13
  For
• 7:13
  example,
• 7:14
  instead
• 7:14
  of
• 7:15
  saying,
• 7:15
  you
• 7:16
  never
• 7:16
  helped
• 7:16
  me
• 7:16
  with
• 7:17
  anything.
• 7:17
  Okay,
• 7:18
  listen,
• 7:19
  I
• 7:19
  can
• 7:19
  just
• 7:19
  hear
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  neck
• 7:20
  rolling,
• 7:21
  honey.
• 7:21
  I
• 7:21
  can
• 7:21
  hear
• 7:22
  it.
• 7:22
  Try,
• 7:23
  I'd
• 7:23
  love
• 7:24
  your
• 7:24
  support
• 7:25
  with
• 7:25
  this.
• 7:25
  It
• 7:26
  would
• 7:26
  mean
• 7:26
  a
• 7:26
  lot
• 7:26
  to
• 7:27
  me
• 7:27
  and
• 7:27
  help
• 7:27
  us
• 7:28
  both
• 7:28
  feel
• 7:28
  less
• 7:29
  stressed.
• 7:29
  Notice
• 7:30
  how
• 7:30
  the
• 7:30
  second
• 7:30
  version
• 7:31
  feels
• 7:31
  more
• 7:31
  collaborative
• 7:32
  and
• 7:33
  less
• 7:33
  accusatory.
• 7:35
  We
• 7:35
  are
• 7:35
  definitely
• 7:35
  going
• 7:36
  for
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  collaboration
• 7:37
  here,
• 7:37
  friend.
• 7:38
  And
• 7:38
  then
• 7:38
  step
• 7:39
  four,
• 7:39
  this
• 7:40
  might
• 7:40
  actually
• 7:40
  be
• 7:41
  the
• 7:41
  hardest
• 7:41
  part.
• 7:42
  Detach
• 7:43
  from
• 7:44
  the
• 7:44
  outcome.
• 7:45
  Yes,
• 7:45
  friend.
• 7:46
  Okay.
• 7:47
  This
• 7:48
  listen.
• 7:48
  While
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  recognize
• 7:50
  this
• 7:50
  might
• 7:50
  be
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  hardest
• 7:51
  part,
• 7:51
  it's
• 7:51
  also
• 7:52
  the
• 7:52
  most
• 7:53
  freeing.
• 7:54
  Once
• 7:54
  you've
• 7:54
  made
• 7:55
  your
• 7:55
  ask
• 7:56
  let
• 7:57
  go
• 7:58
  of
• 7:58
  the
• 7:58
  need
• 7:59
  for
• 7:59
  a
• 7:59
  specific
• 8:01
  outcome,
• 8:02
  whether
• 8:02
  the
• 8:02
  answer
• 8:03
  is
• 8:03
  yes,
• 8:04
  no,
• 8:04
  or
• 8:04
  maybe
• 8:05
  trust
• 8:06
  that
• 8:06
  you've
• 8:06
  done
• 8:07
  your
• 8:07
  part
• 8:08
  by
• 8:08
  communicating
• 8:09
  clearly
• 8:10
  and
• 8:10
  respectfully
• 8:11
  and
• 8:12
  remember,
• 8:12
  a
• 8:13
  no
• 8:13
  is
• 8:13
  not
• 8:14
  a
• 8:14
  reflection
• 8:15
  of
• 8:15
  your
• 8:15
  worth.
• 8:16
  It's
• 8:17
  just
• 8:17
  information.
• 8:24
  Hey
• 8:24
  friend.
• 8:24
  Quick
• 8:25
  question.
• 8:25
  Are
• 8:25
  you
• 8:26
  ready
• 8:26
  to
• 8:26
  step
• 8:26
  into
• 8:27
  your
• 8:27
  main
• 8:27
  character
• 8:27
  energy?
• 8:28
  Because
• 8:29
  if
• 8:29
  you
• 8:29
  are
• 8:29
  feeling
• 8:30
  stuck,
• 8:30
  doubting
• 8:31
  yourself
• 8:31
  or
• 8:32
  just
• 8:33
  know
• 8:33
  you
• 8:33
  are
• 8:33
  meant
• 8:33
  for
• 8:34
  more,
• 8:34
  I've
• 8:35
  got
• 8:35
  something
• 8:35
  for
• 8:35
  you.
• 8:36
  The
• 8:36
  Ignite
• 8:37
  your
• 8:37
  main
• 8:37
  character
• 8:38
  energy
• 8:38
  journal
• 8:39
  prompts
• 8:39
  are
• 8:39
  here
• 8:39
  to
• 8:40
  help
• 8:40
  you.
• 8:41
  Rewrite
• 8:41
  your
• 8:41
  story
• 8:42
  and
• 8:42
  start
• 8:42
  showing
• 8:43
  up
• 8:44
  as
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  most
• 8:44
  confident
• 8:45
  aligned
• 8:46
  version
• 8:47
  of
• 8:47
  yourself.
• 8:47
  Inside,
• 8:48
  you'll
• 8:48
  get
• 8:49
  over
• 8:49
  50
• 8:49
  transformational
• 8:50
  prompts
• 8:51
  that
• 8:51
  guide
• 8:51
  you
• 8:52
  through
• 8:52
  letting
• 8:53
  go
• 8:53
  of
• 8:53
  self-doubt
• 8:54
  and
• 8:54
  stepping
• 8:54
  into
• 8:54
  your
• 8:55
  power,
• 8:55
  getting
• 8:56
  crystal
• 8:56
  clear
• 8:57
  on
• 8:57
  your
• 8:57
  goals
• 8:58
  and
• 8:58
  desires.
• 8:59
  And
• 8:59
  embodying
• 9:00
  the
• 9:00
  magnetic
• 9:01
  energy
• 9:01
  that
• 9:01
  attracts
• 9:02
  everything
• 9:03
  you
• 9:03
  want.
• 9:04
  This
• 9:04
  isn't
• 9:04
  just
• 9:05
  journaling.
• 9:05
  It's
• 9:06
  a
• 9:06
  glow
• 9:06
  up
• 9:06
  for
• 9:07
  your
• 9:07
  mindset,
• 9:07
  confidence,
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  your
• 9:09
  life.
• 9:09
  So
• 9:10
  if
• 9:10
  you're
• 9:10
  ready
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  stop
• 9:11
  playing
• 9:11
  small
• 9:11
  and
• 9:12
  start
• 9:12
  living
• 9:12
  like
• 9:12
  the
• 9:13
  main
• 9:13
  character
• 9:13
  you
• 9:14
  are,
• 9:14
  grab
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  Ignite
• 9:16
  Your
• 9:16
  main
• 9:16
  character
• 9:16
  Energy
• 9:17
  journal
• 9:17
  prompts.
• 9:18
  Now,
• 9:18
  your
• 9:19
  next
• 9:19
  chapter
• 9:20
  hits
• 9:20
  about
• 9:20
  to
• 9:21
  be
• 9:21
  iconic.
• 9:22
  The
• 9:22
  link
• 9:22
  is
• 9:22
  in
• 9:23
  the
• 9:23
  show
• 9:23
  notes
• 9:23
  or
• 9:23
  you
• 9:24
  can
• 9:24
  snag
• 9:24
  it
• 9:24
  on
• 9:25
  the
• 9:25
  website.
• 9:25
  Encourage
• 9:26
  over
• 9:26
  everything.
• 9:27
  Dot
• 9:27
  com.
• 9:27
  Go
• 9:28
  check
• 9:28
  it
• 9:28
  out.
• 9:31
  Okay,
• 9:31
  friend,
• 9:32
  now
• 9:32
  let's
• 9:33
  talk
• 9:33
  about
• 9:33
  dating,
• 9:34
  because
• 9:34
  asking
• 9:35
  for
• 9:35
  what
• 9:35
  you
• 9:36
  need
• 9:36
  in
• 9:36
  that
• 9:37
  space,
• 9:37
  woo.
• 9:38
  It
• 9:38
  can
• 9:39
  feel
• 9:39
  like
• 9:40
  a
• 9:40
  whole
• 9:40
  different
• 9:41
  ball
• 9:41
  game,
• 9:42
  but
• 9:42
  it
• 9:42
  doesn't
• 9:43
  have
• 9:43
  to
• 9:43
  be.
• 9:44
  Here's
• 9:44
  a
• 9:44
  real
• 9:45
  life
• 9:45
  example
• 9:46
  to
• 9:46
  show
• 9:46
  you
• 9:47
  how
• 9:47
  powerful
• 9:48
  an
• 9:48
  aligned
• 9:49
  ask
• 9:50
  can
• 9:50
  be.
• 9:50
  When
• 9:51
  it
• 9:51
  comes
• 9:51
  to
• 9:51
  dating,
• 9:52
  let's
• 9:52
  say
• 9:53
  you're
• 9:53
  dating
• 9:53
  someone
• 9:54
  new
• 9:54
  and
• 9:54
  you're
• 9:54
  starting
• 9:55
  to
• 9:55
  feel
• 9:55
  like
• 9:55
  the
• 9:55
  communication
• 9:56
  isn't
• 9:56
  where
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  need
• 9:57
  it
• 9:57
  to
• 9:57
  be.
• 9:58
  Maybe
• 9:58
  they're
• 9:58
  not
• 9:58
  texting
• 9:59
  you
• 9:59
  as
• 9:59
  often
• 10:00
  as
• 10:00
  you
• 10:00
  like,
• 10:01
  or
• 10:01
  they're
• 10:01
  not
• 10:02
  making
• 10:02
  plans
• 10:03
  in
• 10:03
  advance,
• 10:03
  and
• 10:03
  it's
• 10:03
  leaving
• 10:04
  you
• 10:04
  feeling
• 10:04
  unsure
• 10:05
  about
• 10:06
  where
• 10:06
  you
• 10:06
  stand,
• 10:07
  instead
• 10:07
  of
• 10:08
  stewing
• 10:08
  in
• 10:08
  frustration
• 10:09
  or
• 10:10
  pulling
• 10:10
  back
• 10:10
  to
• 10:10
  protect
• 10:11
  yourself.
• 10:12
  Listen,
• 10:12
  friend,
• 10:12
  okay,
• 10:13
  I've
• 10:13
  been
• 10:13
  there,
• 10:14
  done
• 10:14
  that
• 10:14
  so
• 10:15
  many
• 10:15
  times,
• 10:16
  don't
• 10:16
  start
• 10:16
  blowing
• 10:17
  it
• 10:17
  up
• 10:17
  or
• 10:17
  letting
• 10:18
  old
• 10:18
  conditioning,
• 10:19
  or
• 10:19
  even
• 10:20
  negative
• 10:20
  self-talk,
• 10:21
  take
• 10:21
  over.
• 10:21
  Don't
• 10:22
  start
• 10:22
  spiraling
• 10:23
  on
• 10:23
  me
• 10:23
  now,
• 10:23
  friend.
• 10:24
  You
• 10:24
  can
• 10:24
  make
• 10:25
  an
• 10:25
  aligned
• 10:25
  ask
• 10:26
  that
• 10:27
  sets
• 10:27
  the
• 10:27
  tone
• 10:28
  for
• 10:28
  the
• 10:28
  kind
• 10:28
  of
• 10:28
  relationship
• 10:29
  you
• 10:30
  truly
• 10:30
  want.
• 10:31
  Instead
• 10:32
  of
• 10:32
  saying,
• 10:32
  why
• 10:33
  don't
• 10:33
  you
• 10:33
  ever
• 10:33
  text
• 10:34
  me
• 10:34
  first?
• 10:35
  Or,
• 10:35
  you
• 10:35
  are
• 10:35
  so
• 10:36
  bad
• 10:36
  at
• 10:36
  making
• 10:36
  plans.
• 10:37
  Instead
• 10:38
  try.
• 10:39
  I
• 10:39
  really
• 10:40
  value
• 10:40
  clear
• 10:41
  communication
• 10:42
  and
• 10:42
  consistency.
• 10:43
  When
• 10:44
  I'm
• 10:44
  getting
• 10:44
  to
• 10:44
  know
• 10:44
  someone,
• 10:46
  it
• 10:46
  helps
• 10:46
  me
• 10:47
  feel
• 10:47
  connected
• 10:48
  and
• 10:48
  excited
• 10:49
  about
• 10:50
  where
• 10:50
  things
• 10:50
  are
• 10:50
  going.
• 10:51
  Would
• 10:51
  you
• 10:51
  be
• 10:52
  open
• 10:52
  to
• 10:52
  texting
• 10:53
  me
• 10:53
  more
• 10:53
  regularly
• 10:54
  or
• 10:54
  making
• 10:55
  plans
• 10:55
  a
• 10:55
  little
• 10:56
  in
• 10:56
  advance?
• 10:56
  It
• 10:57
  would
• 10:57
  really
• 10:57
  mean
• 10:57
  a
• 10:57
  lot
• 10:58
  to
• 10:58
  me.
• 10:58
  See
• 10:58
  how
• 10:59
  that
• 10:59
  feels.
• 11:00
  It's
• 11:00
  clear,
• 11:01
  kind,
• 11:01
  and
• 11:02
  rooted
• 11:02
  in
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  values.
• 11:04
  You
• 11:04
  are
• 11:04
  not
• 11:05
  blaming
• 11:05
  or
• 11:06
  shaming
• 11:06
  them.
• 11:07
  You're
• 11:07
  simply
• 11:07
  expressing
• 11:08
  what
• 11:08
  you
• 11:09
  need
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  feel
• 11:10
  good
• 11:10
  in
• 11:10
  the
• 11:10
  relationship.
• 11:12
  We've
• 11:12
  been
• 11:12
  so
• 11:13
  conditioned
• 11:13
  to
• 11:14
  think
• 11:14
  that
• 11:14
  given
• 11:15
  everybody
• 11:15
  the
• 11:15
  top
• 11:15
  flight
• 11:16
  business,
• 11:16
  AKA,
• 11:18
  giving
• 11:18
  them
• 11:18
  a
• 11:18
  piece
• 11:18
  of
• 11:18
  your
• 11:19
  mind
• 11:19
  is
• 11:20
  the
• 11:20
  way
• 11:20
  to
• 11:21
  get
• 11:21
  results,
• 11:22
  and
• 11:22
  then
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  wonder
• 11:23
  why
• 11:24
  you're
• 11:24
  not
• 11:24
  experiencing
• 11:25
  the
• 11:25
  level
• 11:26
  of
• 11:26
  connection
• 11:27
  or
• 11:27
  commitment
• 11:28
  you
• 11:28
  truly
• 11:29
  want
• 11:29
  in
• 11:29
  a
• 11:29
  relationship.
• 11:30
  So
• 11:31
  let's
• 11:31
  normalize
• 11:32
  speaking
• 11:33
  to
• 11:33
  the
• 11:33
  king
• 11:34
  or
• 11:34
  queen
• 11:34
  in
• 11:35
  them,
• 11:35
  not
• 11:36
  the
• 11:36
  person
• 11:36
  that
• 11:36
  isn't
• 11:37
  on
• 11:37
  your
• 11:37
  level
• 11:38
  or
• 11:38
  behaving
• 11:39
  or
• 11:39
  showing
• 11:39
  up
• 11:39
  in
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  way
• 11:40
  that
• 11:40
  you
• 11:40
  want.
• 11:41
  Instead,
• 11:42
  let's
• 11:42
  normalize
• 11:43
  mature,
• 11:44
  nurturing
• 11:45
  relationships
• 11:46
  that
• 11:46
  include
• 11:47
  respect
• 11:48
  and
• 11:48
  positive
• 11:49
  communication
• 11:50
  and
• 11:50
  not
• 11:50
  chastising
• 11:51
  partners
• 11:52
  like
• 11:52
  children,
• 11:53
  but
• 11:53
  actually
• 11:53
  calling
• 11:54
  them
• 11:54
  up
• 11:55
  to
• 11:55
  be
• 11:55
  the
• 11:55
  king
• 11:56
  or
• 11:56
  queen
• 11:57
  They
• 11:57
  truly
• 11:58
  are,
• 11:58
  and
• 11:58
  here's
• 11:59
  the
• 11:59
  magic.
• 11:59
  If
• 12:00
  they
• 12:00
  are
• 12:00
  the
• 12:00
  right
• 12:01
  person
• 12:01
  for
• 12:01
  you,
• 12:02
  they're
• 12:02
  gonna
• 12:02
  step
• 12:03
  it
• 12:03
  up.
• 12:03
  And
• 12:03
  if
• 12:04
  they're
• 12:04
  not,
• 12:04
  you've
• 12:05
  just
• 12:05
  saved
• 12:05
  yourself
• 12:06
  time
• 12:07
  and
• 12:07
  energy
• 12:08
  by
• 12:08
  getting
• 12:08
  clarity
• 12:09
  early
• 12:09
  on.
• 12:10
  Dating
• 12:11
  is
• 12:11
  all
• 12:12
  about
• 12:12
  alignment,
• 12:13
  friend.
• 12:13
  When
• 12:14
  you
• 12:14
  ask
• 12:14
  for
• 12:14
  what
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  need
• 12:15
  with
• 12:15
  confidence
• 12:16
  and
• 12:16
  grace,
• 12:17
  you
• 12:17
  are
• 12:17
  not
• 12:18
  just
• 12:18
  advocating
• 12:19
  for
• 12:19
  yourself.
• 12:20
  Setting
• 12:20
  the
• 12:20
  standard
• 12:21
  for
• 12:21
  the
• 12:21
  kind
• 12:22
  of
• 12:22
  relationship
• 12:23
  that
• 12:23
  you
• 12:23
  deserve.
• 12:23
  And
• 12:24
  trust
• 12:24
  me,
• 12:25
  the
• 12:25
  right
• 12:26
  person
• 12:26
  will
• 12:27
  happily,
• 12:27
  I'm
• 12:28
  talking
• 12:28
  gladly
• 12:29
  meet
• 12:30
  you
• 12:30
  there.
• 12:30
  Let's
• 12:31
  say
• 12:31
  you're
• 12:31
  already
• 12:32
  in
• 12:32
  a
• 12:32
  relationship
• 12:33
  and
• 12:33
  you're
• 12:33
  feeling
• 12:34
  overwhelmed.
• 12:35
  Maybe
• 12:35
  you're
• 12:35
  carrying
• 12:36
  the
• 12:36
  mental
• 12:36
  load
• 12:37
  of
• 12:37
  the
• 12:37
  household,
• 12:37
  you
• 12:38
  know,
• 12:38
  juggling
• 12:38
  work,
• 12:39
  kids,
• 12:39
  and
• 12:40
  everything
• 12:40
  in
• 12:40
  between,
• 12:41
  and
• 12:42
  you
• 12:42
  just
• 12:42
  need
• 12:42
  your
• 12:42
  partner
• 12:43
  to
• 12:43
  step
• 12:43
  up.
• 12:44
  Now
• 12:44
  when
• 12:44
  you're
• 12:45
  overwhelmed,
• 12:46
  it's
• 12:46
  easy
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  let
• 12:47
  frustration
• 12:48
  take
• 12:48
  the
• 12:49
  wheel.
• 12:49
  You
• 12:49
  might
• 12:49
  find
• 12:50
  yourself
• 12:50
  snapping
• 12:51
  and
• 12:51
  saying
• 12:51
  things
• 12:51
  like,
• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  never
• 12:52
  help
• 12:53
  me,
• 12:53
  or
• 12:53
  Why
• 12:54
  do
• 12:54
  I
• 12:54
  have
• 12:54
  to
• 12:54
  do
• 12:54
  everything
• 12:54
  around
• 12:55
  here?
• 12:55
  And
• 12:56
  while
• 12:56
  those
• 12:57
  feelings
• 12:57
  are
• 12:57
  valid,
• 12:58
  because
• 12:58
  friend,
• 12:59
  you're
• 12:59
  human.
• 13:00
  And
• 13:00
  that
• 13:00
  approach
• 13:01
  usually
• 13:02
  puts
• 13:02
  your
• 13:02
  partner
• 13:03
  on
• 13:03
  the
• 13:03
  defensive
• 13:04
  instead,
• 13:05
  try
• 13:05
  this.
• 13:06
  I've
• 13:06
  been
• 13:06
  feeling
• 13:07
  really
• 13:07
  overwhelmed
• 13:08
  lately.
• 13:09
  Would
• 13:09
  you
• 13:09
  be
• 13:09
  open
• 13:10
  to
• 13:10
  taking
• 13:10
  over
• 13:10
  bedtime
• 13:11
  with
• 13:11
  the
• 13:11
  kids
• 13:12
  on
• 13:12
  Mondays
• 13:12
  and
• 13:12
  Wednesdays?
• 13:13
  It
• 13:13
  would
• 13:13
  mean
• 13:14
  so
• 13:14
  much
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  me.
• 13:15
  This
• 13:15
  approach
• 13:16
  is
• 13:16
  clear,
• 13:17
  kind,
• 13:17
  and
• 13:18
  specific.
• 13:19
  You're
• 13:19
  not
• 13:19
  blaming
• 13:20
  or
• 13:20
  shaming.
• 13:21
  You're
• 13:21
  simply
• 13:22
  expressing
• 13:23
  what
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  need
• 13:24
  in
• 13:24
  a
• 13:24
  way
• 13:24
  that
• 13:25
  makes
• 13:25
  it
• 13:25
  easier
• 13:26
  for
• 13:26
  your
• 13:26
  partner
• 13:26
  to
• 13:27
  say
• 13:27
  yes.
• 13:27
  But
• 13:28
  let's
• 13:28
  pause
• 13:29
  for
• 13:29
  a
• 13:29
  second
• 13:30
  because
• 13:30
  maybe
• 13:31
  you've
• 13:31
  already
• 13:31
  tried
• 13:32
  this
• 13:32
  approach.
• 13:33
  Maybe
• 13:33
  you've
• 13:33
  asked
• 13:34
  respectfully
• 13:35
  and
• 13:35
  you
• 13:35
  didn't
• 13:35
  get
• 13:36
  a
• 13:36
  response
• 13:36
  or
• 13:37
  a
• 13:37
  reaction
• 13:37
  that
• 13:38
  you
• 13:38
  were
• 13:38
  hoping
• 13:38
  for,
• 13:39
  and
• 13:39
  now
• 13:40
  your
• 13:40
  frustration
• 13:41
  is
• 13:41
  at
• 13:41
  an
• 13:41
  all
• 13:42
  time
• 13:42
  high
• 13:43
  because
• 13:43
  you
• 13:43
  feel
• 13:44
  like
• 13:45
  you're
• 13:45
  not
• 13:45
  being
• 13:45
  heard
• 13:46
  or
• 13:46
  your.
• 13:47
  Are
• 13:47
  not
• 13:47
  being
• 13:48
  taken
• 13:48
  seriously.
• 13:49
  First
• 13:49
  of
• 13:50
  all,
• 13:50
  friend,
• 13:51
  I
• 13:51
  see
• 13:51
  you,
• 13:52
  that
• 13:52
  feeling
• 13:53
  of
• 13:53
  asking
• 13:54
  for
• 13:54
  help
• 13:54
  and
• 13:55
  not
• 13:55
  getting
• 13:55
  it,
• 13:56
  it's
• 13:56
  exhausting,
• 13:58
  but
• 13:58
  this
• 13:58
  is
• 13:59
  where
• 13:59
  your
• 13:59
  emotional
• 14:00
  intelligence
• 14:01
  comes
• 14:01
  in
• 14:01
  at.
• 14:02
  Instead
• 14:02
  of
• 14:02
  letting
• 14:03
  frustration
• 14:03
  take
• 14:04
  over,
• 14:05
  let's
• 14:05
  recalibrate
• 14:06
  and
• 14:06
  approach
• 14:06
  the
• 14:07
  conversation
• 14:07
  from
• 14:08
  a
• 14:08
  place
• 14:08
  of
• 14:08
  clarity
• 14:09
  and
• 14:09
  calm.
• 14:10
  Here's
• 14:10
  what
• 14:10
  you
• 14:11
  can
• 14:11
  say.
• 14:11
  Hey,
• 14:12
  I
• 14:12
  wanna
• 14:12
  revisit
• 14:13
  something
• 14:13
  we
• 14:13
  talked
• 14:14
  about
• 14:14
  before.
• 14:15
  I've
• 14:15
  been
• 14:15
  feeling
• 14:16
  really
• 14:16
  overwhelmed,
• 14:17
  and
• 14:18
  I
• 14:18
  know
• 14:18
  I've
• 14:19
  mentioned
• 14:19
  needing
• 14:19
  support
• 14:20
  with
• 14:20
  bedtime.
• 14:21
  I
• 14:21
  noticed
• 14:22
  it
• 14:22
  hasn't
• 14:23
  been
• 14:23
  happening
• 14:23
  and
• 14:24
  I
• 14:24
  wanna
• 14:24
  understand
• 14:25
  what's
• 14:25
  going
• 14:26
  on.
• 14:26
  Is
• 14:27
  there
• 14:27
  something
• 14:27
  about
• 14:28
  this
• 14:28
  that
• 14:28
  feels
• 14:29
  hard
• 14:29
  for
• 14:29
  you
• 14:30
  or
• 14:30
  is
• 14:30
  there
• 14:31
  another
• 14:31
  way
• 14:32
  that
• 14:32
  we
• 14:32
  can
• 14:32
  make
• 14:32
  this
• 14:33
  work?
• 14:33
  Friend,
• 14:34
  this
• 14:34
  is
• 14:34
  you
• 14:35
  leading
• 14:36
  with
• 14:36
  curiosity,
• 14:37
  not
• 14:37
  criticism.
• 14:38
  Instead
• 14:39
  of
• 14:39
  assuming
• 14:40
  your
• 14:40
  partner
• 14:41
  doesn't
• 14:41
  care,
• 14:42
  you're
• 14:42
  opening
• 14:42
  the
• 14:43
  door
• 14:43
  for
• 14:43
  an
• 14:44
  honest
• 14:44
  conversation.
• 14:45
  Maybe
• 14:45
  they
• 14:46
  forgot,
• 14:46
  maybe
• 14:46
  they're
• 14:47
  overwhelmed
• 14:47
  too,
• 14:48
  or
• 14:48
  maybe
• 14:48
  they
• 14:49
  didn't
• 14:49
  realize
• 14:50
  how
• 14:50
  important
• 14:51
  this
• 14:51
  was
• 14:51
  to
• 14:51
  you
• 14:52
  by
• 14:52
  asking,
• 14:54
  is
• 14:54
  there
• 14:54
  something
• 14:55
  about
• 14:55
  this
• 14:55
  that
• 14:56
  feels
• 14:56
  hard
• 14:56
  for
• 14:57
  you?
• 14:57
  You
• 14:57
  are
• 14:58
  showing
• 14:58
  empathy
• 14:59
  and
• 14:59
  creating
• 15:00
  as.
• 15:00
  Space
• 15:01
  for
• 15:01
  them
• 15:01
  to
• 15:01
  share
• 15:02
  their
• 15:02
  perspective.
• 15:03
  You
• 15:04
  are
• 15:04
  reaffirming
• 15:05
  your
• 15:05
  needs
• 15:06
  as
• 15:06
  well.
• 15:07
  You're
• 15:07
  not
• 15:07
  letting
• 15:08
  the
• 15:08
  issue
• 15:08
  slide
• 15:09
  or
• 15:09
  pretending
• 15:10
  that
• 15:10
  it
• 15:10
  doesn't
• 15:10
  matter.
• 15:11
  You
• 15:12
  are
• 15:12
  calmly
• 15:12
  and
• 15:13
  confidently
• 15:14
  restating
• 15:14
  what
• 15:14
  you
• 15:15
  need,
• 15:15
  which
• 15:16
  reinforces
• 15:17
  that
• 15:17
  this
• 15:17
  is
• 15:18
  important
• 15:19
  to
• 15:19
  you.
• 15:19
  You're
• 15:20
  also
• 15:20
  inviting
• 15:21
  collaboration
• 15:22
  by
• 15:23
  asking,
• 15:23
  is
• 15:24
  there
• 15:24
  another
• 15:24
  way
• 15:25
  we
• 15:25
  can
• 15:25
  make
• 15:25
  this
• 15:25
  work?
• 15:26
  You
• 15:26
  are
• 15:26
  shifting
• 15:27
  the
• 15:27
  focus
• 15:28
  from
• 15:28
  blame
• 15:28
  to
• 15:28
  solutions.
• 15:30
  This
• 15:30
  makes
• 15:30
  it
• 15:31
  easier
• 15:31
  for
• 15:31
  your
• 15:31
  partner
• 15:32
  to
• 15:32
  engage
• 15:33
  without
• 15:34
  feeling
• 15:34
  attacked.
• 15:35
  Now,
• 15:36
  let's
• 15:36
  say
• 15:37
  you've
• 15:37
  had
• 15:37
  this
• 15:37
  conversation
• 15:38
  several
• 15:39
  times
• 15:40
  and
• 15:40
  your
• 15:40
  partner
• 15:41
  still
• 15:41
  isn't
• 15:42
  stepping
• 15:42
  up.
• 15:42
  This
• 15:43
  is
• 15:43
  where
• 15:43
  you
• 15:43
  need
• 15:44
  to
• 15:44
  get
• 15:44
  really
• 15:45
  honest
• 15:45
  with
• 15:45
  yourself
• 15:46
  about
• 15:47
  what's
• 15:47
  happening.
• 15:48
  Ask
• 15:48
  yourself,
• 15:49
  have
• 15:49
  I
• 15:49
  been
• 15:50
  clear
• 15:50
  about
• 15:51
  what
• 15:51
  I
• 15:51
  need?
• 15:52
  Now,
• 15:52
  this
• 15:53
  might
• 15:53
  seem
• 15:53
  silly,
• 15:54
  but
• 15:54
  sometimes
• 15:55
  we
• 15:55
  think
• 15:56
  we've
• 15:56
  communicated
• 15:57
  clearly,
• 15:58
  but
• 15:59
  our
• 15:59
  partner
• 15:59
  might
• 16:00
  not
• 16:00
  fully
• 16:00
  understand
• 16:01
  the
• 16:01
  weight
• 16:02
  of
• 16:02
  what
• 16:02
  we're
• 16:02
  carrying.
• 16:03
  So
• 16:04
  ask,
• 16:04
  is
• 16:04
  my
• 16:04
  partner
• 16:05
  capable
• 16:06
  of
• 16:06
  meeting
• 16:06
  this
• 16:07
  need?
• 16:07
  Because
• 16:08
  honestly,
• 16:08
  not
• 16:09
  everyone
• 16:09
  has
• 16:10
  the
• 16:10
  same
• 16:10
  capacity,
• 16:11
  and
• 16:11
  that's
• 16:12
  okay,
• 16:12
  but
• 16:13
  if
• 16:13
  they're
• 16:13
  unwilling
• 16:14
  to
• 16:14
  even
• 16:15
  try,
• 16:15
  that's
• 16:16
  a
• 16:16
  deeper
• 16:16
  issue.
• 16:17
  And
• 16:17
  even
• 16:17
  ask,
• 16:18
  am
• 16:18
  I
• 16:19
  enabling
• 16:19
  this
• 16:20
  behavior?
• 16:21
  Because
• 16:21
  if
• 16:21
  you're
• 16:21
  constantly
• 16:22
  picking
• 16:22
  up
• 16:23
  the
• 16:23
  slack
• 16:23
  without
• 16:24
  holding
• 16:24
  them
• 16:24
  accountable,
• 16:25
  they
• 16:25
  might
• 16:26
  not
• 16:26
  feel
• 16:26
  the
• 16:26
  urgency
• 16:27
  to
• 16:27
  change.
• 16:28
  If
• 16:28
  you've
• 16:29
  done
• 16:29
  all
• 16:29
  the
• 16:30
  above
• 16:30
  and
• 16:30
  nothing
• 16:31
  is
• 16:31
  shifting,
• 16:31
  it
• 16:32
  might
• 16:32
  be
• 16:32
  time
• 16:32
  to
• 16:33
  set
• 16:33
  a
• 16:33
  boundary.
• 16:34
  For
• 16:34
  example,
• 16:35
  you
• 16:35
  could
• 16:35
  say
• 16:36
  something
• 16:36
  like,
• 16:37
  I've
• 16:37
  been
• 16:37
  really
• 16:38
  clear
• 16:38
  about
• 16:39
  needing
• 16:39
  more
• 16:39
  support
• 16:40
  with
• 16:40
  bedtime,
• 16:41
  and
• 16:41
  it's
• 16:41
  not
• 16:42
  happening.
• 16:43
  I
• 16:43
  can't
• 16:43
  keep
• 16:44
  doing
• 16:44
  this
• 16:44
  on
• 16:45
  my
• 16:45
  own.
• 16:46
  So
• 16:46
  I'm
• 16:46
  going
• 16:47
  to
• 16:47
  need
• 16:47
  us
• 16:48
  to
• 16:48
  come
• 16:48
  up
• 16:48
  with
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  plan
• 16:50
  that
• 16:50
  works
• 16:50
  for
• 16:50
  the
• 16:50
  both
• 16:51
  of
• 16:51
  us.
• 16:51
  If
• 16:51
  we
• 16:51
  can't
• 16:52
  figure
• 16:52
  this
• 16:52
  out
• 16:52
  together,
• 16:53
  I
• 16:53
  might
• 16:53
  need
• 16:54
  to
• 16:54
  take
• 16:54
  a
• 16:54
  step
• 16:54
  back
• 16:55
  from
• 16:56
  some
• 16:56
  of
• 16:56
  my
• 16:56
  other
• 16:56
  responsibilities
• 16:57
  to
• 16:57
  make
• 16:58
  space
• 16:58
  for
• 16:59
  what
• 16:59
  I
• 16:59
  can
• 16:59
  handle.
• 17:00
  Now
• 17:00
  friend,
• 17:01
  this
• 17:01
  is
• 17:01
  so
• 17:02
  important.
• 17:02
  This
• 17:03
  isn't
• 17:03
  about
• 17:04
  issuing
• 17:04
  ultimatums.
• 17:06
  It's
• 17:06
  about
• 17:06
  honoring
• 17:07
  your
• 17:07
  capacity
• 17:08
  and
• 17:08
  making
• 17:09
  it
• 17:09
  clear
• 17:10
  that
• 17:10
  the
• 17:10
  current
• 17:11
  dynamic
• 17:12
  isn't
• 17:12
  sustainable.
• 17:13
  Remember,
• 17:14
  friend
• 17:14
  relationships
• 17:15
  are
• 17:15
  a
• 17:16
  two
• 17:16
  way
• 17:17
  street.
• 17:18
  Asking
• 17:18
  for
• 17:18
  support
• 17:19
  isn't
• 17:19
  being
• 17:20
  demanding.
• 17:20
  It's
• 17:21
  about
• 17:21
  creating
• 17:21
  a
• 17:22
  partnership
• 17:23
  where
• 17:23
  both
• 17:23
  people
• 17:24
  feel
• 17:24
  seen,
• 17:25
  valued,
• 17:25
  and
• 17:26
  supported.
• 17:27
  If
• 17:27
  your
• 17:27
  partner
• 17:28
  isn't
• 17:28
  meeting
• 17:28
  you
• 17:29
  halfway.
• 17:30
  That's
• 17:30
  not
• 17:31
  a
• 17:31
  reflection
• 17:31
  of
• 17:32
  your
• 17:32
  worth.
• 17:33
  It's
• 17:33
  just
• 17:34
  information
• 17:36
  about
• 17:36
  where
• 17:36
  the
• 17:36
  relationship
• 17:37
  stands
• 17:38
  and
• 17:38
  what
• 17:38
  might
• 17:38
  need
• 17:39
  to
• 17:39
  shift.
• 17:40
  You
• 17:40
  deserve
• 17:41
  to
• 17:41
  feel
• 17:41
  supported.
• 17:43
  You
• 17:43
  deserve
• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  have
• 17:44
  your
• 17:44
  needs
• 17:44
  met,
• 17:44
  and
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  deserve
• 17:45
  a
• 17:45
  partner
• 17:46
  who's
• 17:46
  willing
• 17:47
  to
• 17:47
  show
• 17:47
  up
• 17:47
  for
• 17:47
  you,
• 17:48
  not
• 17:48
  just
• 17:48
  when
• 17:49
  it's
• 17:49
  easy,
• 17:50
  but
• 17:50
  when
• 17:50
  it's
• 17:50
  hard
• 17:50
  too.
• 17:51
  So
• 17:52
  take
• 17:52
  a
• 17:52
  deep
• 17:52
  breath,
• 17:53
  friend.
• 17:53
  Ground
• 17:54
  yourself
• 17:54
  and
• 17:55
  have
• 17:55
  the
• 17:55
  conversation.
• 17:56
  Trust
• 17:57
  me,
• 17:57
  you
• 17:57
  got
• 17:58
  this
• 17:58
  and
• 17:58
  I'm
• 17:59
  here
• 17:59
  cheering
• 17:59
  you
• 18:00
  on
• 18:00
  every
• 18:00
  step
• 18:01
  of
• 18:01
  the
• 18:01
  way.
• 18:02
  Now
• 18:02
  let's
• 18:03
  get
• 18:03
  into
• 18:03
  career
• 18:04
  and
• 18:04
  business.
• 18:05
  Imagine
• 18:06
  you're
• 18:06
  pitching
• 18:07
  a
• 18:07
  big
• 18:07
  idea
• 18:07
  to
• 18:07
  your
• 18:08
  boss
• 18:08
  or
• 18:08
  a
• 18:09
  potential
• 18:09
  client.
• 18:10
  Instead
• 18:10
  of
• 18:10
  saying,
• 18:11
  I
• 18:11
  think
• 18:12
  this
• 18:12
  could
• 18:12
  work.
• 18:13
  Try,
• 18:14
  I
• 18:14
  believe
• 18:14
  this
• 18:15
  strategy
• 18:15
  could
• 18:15
  increase
• 18:16
  our
• 18:16
  revenue
• 18:16
  by
• 18:17
  20%
• 18:17
  over
• 18:18
  the
• 18:18
  next
• 18:18
  quarter.
• 18:19
  Here's
• 18:19
  how
• 18:20
  I'd
• 18:20
  like
• 18:20
  to
• 18:20
  move
• 18:20
  forward.
• 18:21
  Are
• 18:21
  you
• 18:21
  open
• 18:22
  to
• 18:22
  discussing
• 18:22
  it
• 18:22
  further?
• 18:23
  Now,
• 18:24
  this
• 18:25
  frames
• 18:25
  the
• 18:25
  ask
• 18:26
  as
• 18:26
  a
• 18:26
  collaborative
• 18:27
  opportunity
• 18:28
  rather
• 18:29
  than
• 18:29
  a
• 18:29
  demand.
• 18:30
  Come
• 18:30
  through
• 18:30
  with
• 18:30
  your
• 18:30
  facts
• 18:32
  and
• 18:32
  say
• 18:32
  it
• 18:33
  with
• 18:33
  confidence.
• 18:33
  Yes,
• 18:34
  friend.
• 18:35
  This
• 18:35
  is
• 18:35
  main
• 18:35
  character
• 18:36
  energy.
• 18:37
  Now,
• 18:37
  let's
• 18:38
  say
• 18:38
  you're
• 18:38
  in
• 18:38
  a
• 18:39
  meeting
• 18:39
  with
• 18:39
  your
• 18:40
  team
• 18:40
  or
• 18:40
  pitching
• 18:41
  a
• 18:41
  potential
• 18:42
  collaborator
• 18:43
  and
• 18:43
  you've
• 18:44
  got
• 18:44
  an
• 18:44
  amazing
• 18:45
  idea
• 18:46
  that
• 18:46
  you
• 18:46
  know
• 18:46
  would
• 18:46
  be
• 18:47
  a
• 18:47
  game
• 18:47
  changer,
• 18:48
  but
• 18:48
  instead
• 18:49
  of
• 18:49
  owning
• 18:49
  it,
• 18:50
  you
• 18:50
  find
• 18:50
  yourself
• 18:51
  saying
• 18:51
  something
• 18:52
  like,
• 18:52
  I
• 18:52
  was
• 18:53
  just
• 18:53
  thinking
• 18:53
  maybe
• 18:54
  we
• 18:54
  could
• 18:54
  try
• 18:54
  this,
• 18:55
  or,
• 18:56
  I'm
• 18:56
  not
• 18:57
  so
• 18:57
  sure
• 18:57
  if
• 18:57
  this
• 18:58
  is
• 18:58
  a
• 18:58
  good
• 18:58
  idea,
• 18:59
  but
• 18:59
  girl,
• 19:00
  no.
• 19:01
  Mm-hmm.
• 19:01
  That's
• 19:01
  not
• 19:02
  the
• 19:02
  energy
• 19:03
  that
• 19:03
  we
• 19:03
  are
• 19:03
  bringing
• 19:03
  to
• 19:04
  the
• 19:04
  table.
• 19:04
  Here's
• 19:05
  how
• 19:05
  you
• 19:06
  can
• 19:06
  reframe
• 19:06
  it.
• 19:07
  Based
• 19:07
  on
• 19:08
  the
• 19:08
  data
• 19:08
  we've
• 19:08
  seen,
• 19:09
  I
• 19:09
  believe
• 19:09
  implementing
• 19:10
  this
• 19:10
  idea.
• 19:11
  Could
• 19:11
  increase
• 19:12
  engagement
• 19:13
  by
• 19:13
  30%
• 19:14
  over
• 19:14
  the
• 19:14
  next
• 19:14
  month.
• 19:15
  I've
• 19:15
  mapped
• 19:15
  out
• 19:15
  a
• 19:16
  plan
• 19:16
  to
• 19:16
  make
• 19:16
  it
• 19:17
  happen,
• 19:17
  and
• 19:18
  I'd
• 19:18
  love
• 19:18
  to
• 19:19
  walk
• 19:19
  you
• 19:19
  through
• 19:19
  it.
• 19:20
  Are
• 19:20
  you
• 19:20
  open
• 19:20
  to
• 19:21
  exploring
• 19:21
  this
• 19:21
  together?
• 19:22
  See
• 19:23
  the
• 19:23
  difference
• 19:23
  here?
• 19:24
  You
• 19:24
  are
• 19:24
  not
• 19:24
  just
• 19:25
  pitching
• 19:25
  an
• 19:25
  idea,
• 19:26
  you
• 19:26
  are
• 19:26
  presenting
• 19:27
  a
• 19:27
  solution.
• 19:28
  You
• 19:29
  are
• 19:29
  showing
• 19:29
  that
• 19:29
  you've
• 19:30
  done
• 19:30
  your
• 19:30
  homework,
• 19:31
  you
• 19:31
  are
• 19:31
  confident
• 19:31
  in
• 19:32
  your
• 19:32
  vision,
• 19:33
  and
• 19:33
  you're
• 19:33
  inviting
• 19:34
  collaboration
• 19:35
  instead
• 19:35
  of
• 19:35
  waiting
• 19:36
  for
• 19:36
  permission.
• 19:37
  That
• 19:37
  my
• 19:38
  friend
• 19:38
  is
• 19:38
  main
• 19:39
  character
• 19:39
  energy
• 19:40
  in
• 19:40
  action.
• 19:41
  Even
• 19:42
  if
• 19:42
  they
• 19:42
  don't
• 19:42
  immediately
• 19:43
  jump
• 19:44
  on
• 19:44
  board,
• 19:45
  you've
• 19:45
  planted
• 19:45
  a
• 19:46
  seed.
• 19:46
  You've
• 19:47
  positioned
• 19:47
  yourself
• 19:48
  as
• 19:48
  someone
• 19:48
  who
• 19:49
  thinks
• 19:49
  strategically,
• 19:50
  takes
• 19:50
  initiative
• 19:51
  and
• 19:51
  isn't
• 19:51
  afraid
• 19:52
  to
• 19:52
  speak
• 19:52
  up.
• 19:53
  That's
• 19:53
  the
• 19:53
  kind
• 19:54
  of
• 19:54
  energy
• 19:54
  that
• 19:54
  gets
• 19:55
  noticed,
• 19:55
  respected,
• 19:56
  and
• 19:56
  ultimately
• 19:57
  rewarded.
• 19:58
  So
• 19:58
  the
• 19:59
  next
• 19:59
  time
• 19:59
  you're
• 19:59
  pitching
• 20:00
  an
• 20:00
  idea,
• 20:01
  just
• 20:01
  remember,
• 20:02
  you
• 20:02
  are
• 20:03
  not
• 20:03
  offering
• 20:04
  a
• 20:04
  suggestion.
• 20:05
  You're
• 20:05
  offering
• 20:06
  a
• 20:06
  solution.
• 20:07
  Own
• 20:07
  it
• 20:07
  friend.
• 20:08
  Okay.
• 20:09
  Yes,
• 20:09
  friend.
• 20:10
  You
• 20:10
  got
• 20:10
  it.
• 20:11
  Now
• 20:12
  let's
• 20:12
  think
• 20:12
  about
• 20:13
  some
• 20:13
  me
• 20:13
  time
• 20:14
  because.
• 20:14
  This
• 20:15
  can
• 20:15
  be
• 20:15
  one
• 20:16
  of
• 20:16
  the
• 20:16
  hardest
• 20:16
  things
• 20:17
  to
• 20:17
  ask
• 20:17
  for
• 20:17
  because
• 20:18
  a
• 20:18
  lot
• 20:18
  of
• 20:18
  times
• 20:19
  you
• 20:19
  just
• 20:19
  feel
• 20:19
  guilty
• 20:20
  for
• 20:20
  asking
• 20:21
  for
• 20:21
  it,
• 20:21
  but
• 20:22
  instead
• 20:22
  of
• 20:22
  saying,
• 20:23
  I
• 20:23
  just
• 20:23
  need
• 20:24
  a
• 20:24
  break,
• 20:24
  try,
• 20:26
  I've
• 20:26
  been
• 20:26
  feeling
• 20:27
  really
• 20:27
  drained
• 20:27
  lately.
• 20:28
  Would
• 20:28
  you
• 20:28
  mind
• 20:29
  watching
• 20:29
  the
• 20:29
  kids
• 20:30
  for
• 20:30
  a
• 20:30
  few
• 20:30
  hours
• 20:30
  on
• 20:31
  Saturday
• 20:31
  so
• 20:31
  I
• 20:31
  can
• 20:32
  recharge?
• 20:33
  I'll
• 20:33
  feel
• 20:34
  so
• 20:34
  much
• 20:34
  more
• 20:34
  present
• 20:35
  afterward.
• 20:36
  This
• 20:37
  makes
• 20:37
  your
• 20:38
  need
• 20:38
  clear
• 20:39
  while
• 20:39
  also
• 20:40
  showing
• 20:40
  how
• 20:41
  it
• 20:41
  benefits
• 20:41
  everyone
• 20:42
  involved.
• 20:43
  Because
• 20:43
  who
• 20:44
  doesn't
• 20:44
  want
• 20:44
  a
• 20:44
  more
• 20:45
  present
• 20:45
  version
• 20:45
  of
• 20:46
  you?
• 20:46
  One
• 20:46
  more
• 20:47
  area
• 20:47
  I
• 20:47
  wanna
• 20:48
  touch
• 20:48
  on
• 20:48
  is
• 20:48
  friendships,
• 20:49
  because
• 20:50
  asking
• 20:50
  for
• 20:50
  what
• 20:51
  you
• 20:51
  need
• 20:52
  can
• 20:52
  feel
• 20:52
  tricky
• 20:53
  because
• 20:53
  you
• 20:53
  don't
• 20:53
  wanna
• 20:54
  come
• 20:54
  across
• 20:54
  as
• 20:54
  needy
• 20:56
  or
• 20:56
  like
• 20:57
  you're
• 20:57
  putting
• 20:57
  too
• 20:57
  much
• 20:57
  on
• 20:58
  someone
• 20:58
  else.
• 20:58
  But
• 20:59
  babe,
• 20:59
  real
• 21:00
  friendships
• 21:00
  thrive
• 21:01
  on
• 21:01
  honesty
• 21:02
  and
• 21:02
  mutual
• 21:03
  support.
• 21:03
  So
• 21:04
  let's
• 21:04
  lean
• 21:05
  into
• 21:05
  that.
• 21:06
  Let's
• 21:06
  say
• 21:06
  you've
• 21:06
  been
• 21:07
  feeling
• 21:07
  overwhelmed
• 21:08
  and
• 21:08
  you
• 21:08
  could
• 21:08
  really
• 21:08
  use
• 21:09
  some
• 21:09
  emotional
• 21:09
  support,
• 21:10
  but
• 21:10
  you
• 21:10
  are
• 21:11
  hesitant
• 21:11
  to
• 21:11
  ask
• 21:12
  because
• 21:13
  you
• 21:13
  don't
• 21:13
  wanna
• 21:13
  burden
• 21:14
  your
• 21:14
  friend
• 21:15
  OMG.
• 21:15
  Side
• 21:16
  note,
• 21:16
  you
• 21:16
  are
• 21:16
  not
• 21:17
  a
• 21:17
  burden.
• 21:17
  Okay?
• 21:18
  Carrying
• 21:18
  on.
• 21:19
  Instead
• 21:19
  of
• 21:19
  saying
• 21:20
  something
• 21:20
  vague
• 21:21
  like,
• 21:21
  I'm
• 21:21
  fine,
• 21:22
  just
• 21:22
  busy
• 21:23
  or
• 21:23
  bottling
• 21:24
  it
• 21:24
  up
• 21:24
  entirely.
• 21:25
  Try
• 21:25
  this.
• 21:26
  You
• 21:26
  can
• 21:26
  say
• 21:26
  something
• 21:27
  like,
• 21:27
  Hey,
• 21:27
  I've
• 21:28
  been
• 21:28
  feeling
• 21:28
  a
• 21:28
  little
• 21:29
  off
• 21:29
  lately
• 21:30
  and
• 21:30
  could
• 21:30
  really
• 21:31
  use
• 21:31
  someone
• 21:31
  to
• 21:32
  talk
• 21:32
  to.
• 21:32
  Would
• 21:32
  you
• 21:32
  be
• 21:32
  open
• 21:33
  to
• 21:33
  grabbing
• 21:33
  coffee
• 21:34
  this
• 21:34
  week?
• 21:34
  It
• 21:35
  will
• 21:35
  really
• 21:35
  mean
• 21:35
  so
• 21:35
  much
• 21:36
  to
• 21:36
  me.
• 21:36
  This
• 21:36
  approach
• 21:37
  is
• 21:37
  clear,
• 21:38
  heartfelt,
• 21:39
  and
• 21:39
  gives
• 21:39
  your
• 21:39
  friend
• 21:40
  the
• 21:40
  opportunity
• 21:40
  to
• 21:41
  show
• 21:41
  up
• 21:41
  for
• 21:41
  you.
• 21:42
  You're
• 21:42
  not
• 21:42
  demanding
• 21:43
  their
• 21:43
  time.
• 21:43
  You're
• 21:44
  inviting
• 21:44
  them
• 21:44
  into
• 21:45
  your
• 21:45
  world
• 21:45
  in
• 21:46
  a
• 21:46
  way
• 21:46
  that
• 21:46
  feels
• 21:46
  meaningful
• 21:47
  and
• 21:47
  intentional.
• 21:48
  Now,
• 21:49
  if
• 21:49
  you've
• 21:49
  already
• 21:50
  asked
• 21:50
  for
• 21:50
  their
• 21:51
  support
• 21:51
  and
• 21:52
  didn't
• 21:52
  get
• 21:52
  the
• 21:52
  response
• 21:53
  that
• 21:53
  you
• 21:53
  hope
• 21:53
  for.
• 21:54
  It's
• 21:54
  okay
• 21:55
  to
• 21:55
  revisit
• 21:55
  the
• 21:55
  conversation.
• 21:57
  Maybe
• 21:57
  your
• 21:57
  friend
• 21:57
  didn't
• 21:58
  realize
• 21:58
  how
• 21:58
  much
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  needed
• 21:59
  them,
• 21:59
  or
• 22:00
  maybe
• 22:00
  they're
• 22:00
  just
• 22:01
  going
• 22:01
  through
• 22:01
  their
• 22:02
  own
• 22:02
  stuff
• 22:02
  themselves.
• 22:04
  So
• 22:04
  here's
• 22:04
  how
• 22:05
  you
• 22:05
  can
• 22:05
  approach
• 22:05
  it.
• 22:05
  You
• 22:06
  can
• 22:06
  say
• 22:06
  something
• 22:06
  like,
• 22:07
  Hey,
• 22:07
  I
• 22:08
  know
• 22:08
  I
• 22:08
  mentioned
• 22:09
  needing
• 22:09
  some
• 22:10
  support
• 22:10
  recently
• 22:11
  and
• 22:11
  I
• 22:11
  didn't
• 22:12
  feel
• 22:12
  like
• 22:12
  we
• 22:12
  really
• 22:13
  connected
• 22:13
  on
• 22:13
  it.
• 22:14
  I
• 22:14
  just
• 22:14
  wanna
• 22:14
  be
• 22:15
  honest,
• 22:15
  I've
• 22:15
  been
• 22:16
  feeling
• 22:16
  a
• 22:16
  little
• 22:16
  overwhelmed
• 22:17
  and
• 22:17
  I
• 22:17
  could
• 22:18
  really
• 22:18
  use
• 22:18
  some
• 22:18
  time
• 22:19
  to
• 22:19
  talk.
• 22:20
  Is
• 22:20
  there
• 22:20
  any
• 22:20
  way
• 22:20
  that
• 22:20
  we
• 22:21
  can
• 22:21
  carve
• 22:21
  out
• 22:21
  some
• 22:21
  time
• 22:22
  together
• 22:22
  soon?
• 22:23
  This
• 22:23
  keeps
• 22:24
  the
• 22:24
  door
• 22:24
  open
• 22:25
  for
• 22:25
  connection
• 22:26
  while
• 22:26
  also
• 22:27
  giving
• 22:27
  them
• 22:27
  a
• 22:27
  chance
• 22:28
  to
• 22:28
  step
• 22:28
  through
• 22:28
  the
• 22:29
  door
• 22:29
  if
• 22:30
  they're
• 22:30
  not
• 22:30
  able
• 22:31
  to
• 22:31
  meet
• 22:31
  you
• 22:31
  where
• 22:32
  you
• 22:32
  are.
• 22:33
  That's
• 22:33
  just
• 22:33
  valuable
• 22:34
  information
• 22:35
  too.
• 22:36
  It
• 22:36
  doesn't
• 22:36
  mean
• 22:37
  you're
• 22:37
  asking
• 22:37
  too
• 22:37
  much.
• 22:38
  It
• 22:38
  also
• 22:39
  doesn't
• 22:39
  mean
• 22:39
  that
• 22:39
  they're
• 22:40
  not
• 22:40
  your
• 22:40
  friend
• 22:40
  anymore.
• 22:41
  Again,
• 22:42
  they
• 22:42
  could
• 22:42
  be
• 22:43
  going
• 22:43
  through
• 22:43
  their
• 22:44
  own
• 22:44
  stuff.
• 22:45
  It
• 22:45
  just
• 22:46
  means
• 22:47
  you
• 22:47
  might
• 22:47
  need
• 22:47
  to
• 22:47
  lean
• 22:48
  in
• 22:48
  on
• 22:48
  someone
• 22:49
  else.
• 22:49
  During
• 22:49
  this
• 22:50
  season,
• 22:50
  friendship
• 22:51
  is
• 22:52
  all
• 22:52
  about
• 22:52
  give
• 22:53
  and
• 22:53
  take
• 22:53
  babe.
• 22:54
  Asking
• 22:54
  for
• 22:54
  what
• 22:55
  you
• 22:55
  need
• 22:55
  isn't
• 22:56
  selfish.
• 22:56
  It's
• 22:57
  a
• 22:57
  way
• 22:57
  of
• 22:58
  deepening
• 22:58
  the
• 22:58
  connection
• 22:59
  and
• 23:00
  showing
• 23:00
  that
• 23:00
  you
• 23:01
  trust
• 23:01
  them
• 23:01
  enough
• 23:01
  to
• 23:02
  be
• 23:02
  vulnerable.
• 23:03
  And
• 23:03
  the
• 23:03
  right
• 23:03
  friends,
• 23:04
  they'll
• 23:05
  be
• 23:05
  right
• 23:05
  there,
• 23:06
  coffee
• 23:06
  in
• 23:06
  hand,
• 23:07
  ready
• 23:07
  to
• 23:07
  listen.
• 23:08
  Now
• 23:08
  let's
• 23:09
  talk
• 23:09
  about
• 23:09
  something
• 23:10
  that
• 23:10
  doesn't
• 23:10
  get
• 23:10
  enough
• 23:11
  airtime,
• 23:12
  and
• 23:12
  that
• 23:12
  is
• 23:12
  the
• 23:13
  fear
• 23:13
  of
• 23:13
  being
• 23:14
  let
• 23:14
  down
• 23:15
  when
• 23:15
  you
• 23:15
  ask
• 23:16
  for
• 23:16
  help.
• 23:17
  The
• 23:17
  fear
• 23:17
  of
• 23:18
  being
• 23:18
  let
• 23:18
  down
• 23:18
  can
• 23:19
  feel
• 23:19
  super
• 23:20
  heavy.
• 23:21
  It's
• 23:21
  like,
• 23:21
  why
• 23:22
  even
• 23:22
  bother
• 23:22
  asking
• 23:23
  if
• 23:23
  there's
• 23:23
  a
• 23:23
  chance
• 23:24
  that
• 23:24
  they're
• 23:24
  gonna
• 23:24
  flake
• 23:25
  or
• 23:26
  under
• 23:26
  deliver,
• 23:27
  or
• 23:27
  just
• 23:27
  not
• 23:27
  show
• 23:28
  up
• 23:28
  in
• 23:28
  a
• 23:28
  way
• 23:28
  that
• 23:28
  you
• 23:29
  need
• 23:29
  them
• 23:29
  to?
• 23:30
  But
• 23:30
  here's
• 23:30
  what
• 23:31
  it
• 23:31
  comes
• 23:31
  down
• 23:31
  to,
• 23:32
  avoiding
• 23:33
  the
• 23:33
  ask.
• 23:34
  Because
• 23:34
  of
• 23:34
  that,
• 23:35
  fear
• 23:36
  only
• 23:36
  guarantees
• 23:37
  one
• 23:37
  thing.
• 23:38
  You'll
• 23:38
  keep
• 23:39
  carrying
• 23:39
  the
• 23:40
  weight.
• 23:40
  Alone
• 23:41
  and
• 23:41
  friend,
• 23:42
  you
• 23:43
  deserve
• 23:43
  better
• 23:44
  than
• 23:44
  that.
• 23:44
  Maybe
• 23:45
  you've
• 23:46
  been
• 23:46
  burned
• 23:46
  before.
• 23:47
  Someone
• 23:48
  said
• 23:48
  yes,
• 23:48
  but
• 23:49
  didn't
• 23:49
  follow
• 23:49
  through,
• 23:50
  or
• 23:50
  they
• 23:50
  just,
• 23:51
  you
• 23:51
  know,
• 23:51
  halfway
• 23:52
  showed
• 23:52
  up
• 23:52
  and
• 23:53
  you
• 23:53
  ended
• 23:53
  up
• 23:54
  doing
• 23:54
  it
• 23:54
  yourself
• 23:55
  anyway.
• 23:55
  Or
• 23:56
  maybe
• 23:56
  you've
• 23:56
  just
• 23:56
  convinced
• 23:57
  yourself
• 23:58
  that
• 23:58
  no
• 23:58
  one
• 23:58
  can
• 23:58
  do
• 23:59
  it
• 23:59
  as
• 23:59
  well
• 23:59
  as
• 23:59
  you
• 24:00
  can.
• 24:00
  So
• 24:01
  why
• 24:01
  even
• 24:01
  bother?
• 24:02
  Trust,
• 24:03
  I
• 24:03
  get
• 24:04
  it.
• 24:04
  Asking
• 24:05
  for
• 24:05
  help
• 24:05
  can
• 24:05
  feel
• 24:06
  like
• 24:06
  opening
• 24:06
  yourself
• 24:07
  up
• 24:07
  to
• 24:07
  disappointment.
• 24:08
  But
• 24:09
  let's
• 24:09
  get
• 24:09
  real.
• 24:10
  When
• 24:10
  you
• 24:11
  let
• 24:11
  that
• 24:12
  fear
• 24:12
  hold
• 24:12
  you
• 24:13
  back,
• 24:13
  you
• 24:14
  are
• 24:14
  just
• 24:14
  protecting
• 24:14
  yourself
• 24:15
  from
• 24:15
  being
• 24:15
  let
• 24:16
  down.
• 24:16
  You're
• 24:17
  also
• 24:17
  blocking
• 24:18
  yourself
• 24:19
  from
• 24:19
  receiving
• 24:20
  the
• 24:20
  support
• 24:21
  that
• 24:21
  you
• 24:21
  deserve.
• 24:22
  And
• 24:22
  friend,
• 24:23
  you
• 24:23
  deserve
• 24:23
  to
• 24:23
  be
• 24:24
  supported.
• 24:25
  Here's
• 24:25
  a
• 24:25
  reframe
• 24:26
  that
• 24:26
  changed
• 24:26
  everything
• 24:27
  for
• 24:27
  me.
• 24:28
  Asking
• 24:29
  for
• 24:29
  help
• 24:29
  isn't
• 24:30
  about
• 24:30
  guaranteeing
• 24:31
  a
• 24:31
  perfect
• 24:32
  outcome.
• 24:33
  It's
• 24:33
  about
• 24:33
  creating
• 24:34
  an
• 24:34
  opportunity
• 24:35
  for
• 24:35
  connection,
• 24:36
  collaboration,
• 24:37
  and
• 24:37
  growth.
• 24:38
  So
• 24:38
  there's
• 24:39
  always
• 24:39
  a
• 24:39
  chance.
• 24:40
  That
• 24:40
  someone
• 24:41
  might
• 24:41
  not
• 24:41
  show
• 24:42
  up
• 24:42
  the
• 24:42
  way
• 24:42
  that
• 24:42
  you
• 24:42
  hoped,
• 24:43
  but
• 24:43
  there's
• 24:44
  also
• 24:44
  a
• 24:44
  chance
• 24:45
  that
• 24:46
  they'll
• 24:46
  surprise
• 24:47
  you,
• 24:47
  step
• 24:48
  up
• 24:48
  and
• 24:48
  lighten
• 24:49
  your
• 24:49
  load
• 24:49
  in
• 24:49
  ways
• 24:50
  you
• 24:50
  didn't
• 24:50
  even
• 24:50
  think
• 24:50
  were
• 24:51
  possible.
• 24:52
  And
• 24:52
  even
• 24:52
  if
• 24:52
  they
• 24:53
  don't,
• 24:54
  you've
• 24:54
  still
• 24:55
  gained
• 24:56
  clarity.
• 24:57
  You've
• 24:57
  learned
• 24:57
  who
• 24:58
  you
• 24:58
  can
• 24:58
  count
• 24:59
  on,
• 24:59
  who
• 24:59
  might
• 25:00
  need
• 25:00
  clearer
• 25:01
  instructions,
• 25:02
  and
• 25:03
  who
• 25:03
  might
• 25:03
  not
• 25:03
  be
• 25:04
  the
• 25:04
  right
• 25:04
  person
• 25:04
  for
• 25:05
  the
• 25:05
  job.
• 25:06
  That's
• 25:06
  all
• 25:07
  valuable
• 25:07
  information
• 25:08
  and
• 25:08
  it
• 25:08
  helps
• 25:09
  you
• 25:09
  build
• 25:09
  a
• 25:09
  stronger
• 25:10
  support
• 25:10
  system
• 25:11
  over
• 25:12
  time.
• 25:12
  A
• 25:12
  few
• 25:12
  years
• 25:13
  ago,
• 25:13
  things
• 25:14
  had
• 25:14
  gotten
• 25:14
  super
• 25:14
  busy
• 25:15
  and
• 25:16
  it
• 25:16
  was
• 25:16
  getting
• 25:16
  harder
• 25:16
  and
• 25:17
  harder
• 25:17
  to
• 25:17
  take
• 25:18
  care
• 25:18
  of
• 25:18
  some
• 25:18
  stuff
• 25:18
  around
• 25:19
  the
• 25:19
  house.
• 25:20
  And
• 25:20
  I'm
• 25:20
  not
• 25:21
  gonna
• 25:21
  lie,
• 25:22
  I
• 25:22
  am
• 25:22
  particular
• 25:24
  about
• 25:25
  the
• 25:25
  way
• 25:25
  that
• 25:25
  I
• 25:25
  like
• 25:26
  things
• 25:26
  to
• 25:26
  be
• 25:27
  around
• 25:27
  the
• 25:27
  house.
• 25:28
  And
• 25:28
  I
• 25:28
  was
• 25:29
  terrified
• 25:30
  that
• 25:30
  if
• 25:30
  I
• 25:30
  actually
• 25:31
  had
• 25:31
  somebody
• 25:32
  else
• 25:32
  do
• 25:32
  it
• 25:32
  for
• 25:33
  me,
• 25:33
  then
• 25:34
  I
• 25:34
  was
• 25:34
  gonna
• 25:34
  have
• 25:34
  to
• 25:34
  come
• 25:35
  back
• 25:35
  and
• 25:35
  redo
• 25:36
  it.
• 25:37
  But
• 25:37
  instead
• 25:38
  of
• 25:38
  letting
• 25:38
  that
• 25:39
  fear
• 25:39
  of
• 25:40
  that
• 25:40
  outcome
• 25:41
  take
• 25:41
  over.
• 25:42
  I
• 25:42
  had
• 25:43
  to
• 25:43
  just
• 25:43
  say,
• 25:44
  done
• 25:44
  is
• 25:45
  better
• 25:45
  than
• 25:46
  perfect
• 25:47
  and
• 25:47
  this,
• 25:48
  it
• 25:48
  would
• 25:48
  just
• 25:49
  be
• 25:49
  a
• 25:49
  teaching
• 25:49
  moment.
• 25:50
  So
• 25:51
  over
• 25:51
  time,
• 25:53
  the
• 25:53
  things
• 25:53
  that
• 25:53
  I
• 25:53
  wanted
• 25:54
  to
• 25:54
  see
• 25:54
  done
• 25:55
  started
• 25:55
  to
• 25:55
  get
• 25:55
  done,
• 25:56
  and
• 25:56
  it
• 25:56
  freed
• 25:57
  up
• 25:57
  a
• 25:57
  lot
• 25:57
  more
• 25:58
  time
• 25:58
  for
• 25:58
  me
• 25:58
  to
• 25:58
  handle
• 25:59
  other
• 25:59
  responsibilities
• 26:00
  that
• 26:01
  were
• 26:01
  going
• 26:01
  on
• 26:01
  at
• 26:01
  that
• 26:02
  time,
• 26:02
  and
• 26:02
  if
• 26:03
  I
• 26:03
  had
• 26:03
  let
• 26:03
  my
• 26:04
  fear
• 26:04
  of
• 26:04
  being
• 26:05
  let
• 26:05
  down
• 26:06
  stop
• 26:06
  me
• 26:06
  from
• 26:06
  asking
• 26:07
  or
• 26:08
  being
• 26:09
  okay
• 26:09
  with
• 26:10
  utilizing
• 26:11
  those
• 26:11
  teachable
• 26:11
  moments,
• 26:12
  I
• 26:12
  would've
• 26:13
  been
• 26:13
  stuck
• 26:13
  in
• 26:14
  that
• 26:14
  cycle
• 26:14
  of
• 26:15
  overworking
• 26:16
  and
• 26:16
  micromanaging,
• 26:17
  which
• 26:18
  ain't
• 26:18
  nobody
• 26:18
  got
• 26:18
  time
• 26:19
  for
• 26:19
  that.
• 26:19
  So
• 26:19
  here's
• 26:20
  how
• 26:20
  you
• 26:20
  can
• 26:20
  make
• 26:21
  the
• 26:21
  powerful
• 26:22
  ask.
• 26:22
  While
• 26:23
  managing
• 26:24
  that
• 26:24
  fear
• 26:25
  of
• 26:25
  being
• 26:25
  let
• 26:25
  down.
• 26:26
  First,
• 26:27
  you
• 26:27
  have
• 26:27
  to
• 26:27
  be
• 26:27
  clear
• 26:28
  about
• 26:28
  what
• 26:29
  you
• 26:29
  need.
• 26:30
  The
• 26:30
  more
• 26:30
  clear
• 26:31
  you
• 26:31
  are,
• 26:31
  the
• 26:31
  easier
• 26:32
  it
• 26:32
  is
• 26:32
  for
• 26:32
  someone
• 26:33
  to
• 26:33
  meet
• 26:33
  your
• 26:33
  expectations.
• 26:35
  So
• 26:35
  instead
• 26:36
  of
• 26:36
  just.
• 26:36
  Asking
• 26:37
  for
• 26:38
  vague
• 26:38
  help
• 26:38
  by
• 26:39
  saying
• 26:39
  like,
• 26:39
  can
• 26:39
  you
• 26:39
  help
• 26:40
  me
• 26:40
  with
• 26:40
  this?
• 26:40
  Instead
• 26:41
  ask,
• 26:42
  can
• 26:42
  you
• 26:43
  handle
• 26:43
  the
• 26:44
  specific
• 26:44
  thing
• 26:45
  that
• 26:45
  you
• 26:45
  need
• 26:46
  and
• 26:46
  exactly
• 26:47
  what
• 26:47
  does
• 26:47
  that
• 26:47
  look
• 26:48
  like?
• 26:48
  If
• 26:49
  you
• 26:49
  want
• 26:49
  the
• 26:49
  kitchen
• 26:49
  cleaned,
• 26:50
  and
• 26:50
  I
• 26:51
  know
• 26:51
  that
• 26:51
  it
• 26:51
  might
• 26:51
  seem
• 26:52
  silly,
• 26:52
  but
• 26:52
  that
• 26:53
  also
• 26:53
  includes
• 26:54
  letting
• 26:54
  them
• 26:55
  know
• 26:55
  to
• 26:56
  wipe
• 26:56
  down
• 26:56
  the
• 26:56
  counters,
• 26:57
  wipe
• 26:57
  off
• 26:58
  the
• 26:58
  stove,
• 26:58
  like
• 26:59
  those
• 26:59
  details
• 27:00
  that
• 27:00
  you're
• 27:01
  looking
• 27:01
  for,
• 27:02
  even
• 27:02
  if
• 27:02
  it
• 27:02
  seems
• 27:03
  like
• 27:03
  common
• 27:03
  knowledge,
• 27:04
  definitely
• 27:05
  be
• 27:05
  sure
• 27:05
  to
• 27:05
  share
• 27:06
  those
• 27:06
  details
• 27:07
  because.
• 27:07
  Your
• 27:08
  version
• 27:08
  of
• 27:08
  Clean
• 27:08
  the
• 27:09
  Kitchen
• 27:09
  can
• 27:09
  be
• 27:09
  very,
• 27:10
  very
• 27:10
  different
• 27:11
  than
• 27:11
  someone
• 27:11
  else's
• 27:11
  version
• 27:12
  of
• 27:12
  Clean
• 27:13
  the
• 27:13
  Kitchen.
• 27:13
  Also,
• 27:14
  make
• 27:14
  sure
• 27:14
  that
• 27:15
  you
• 27:15
  choose
• 27:15
  the
• 27:16
  right
• 27:16
  person
• 27:16
  because
• 27:17
  not
• 27:17
  everyone
• 27:18
  is
• 27:18
  equipped
• 27:18
  to
• 27:18
  support
• 27:19
  you
• 27:20
  in
• 27:20
  the
• 27:20
  way
• 27:20
  that
• 27:20
  you
• 27:21
  need,
• 27:21
  and
• 27:21
  that's
• 27:22
  okay.
• 27:23
  Just
• 27:23
  be
• 27:23
  intentional
• 27:24
  about
• 27:25
  who
• 27:25
  you're
• 27:25
  asking
• 27:26
  and
• 27:26
  why.
• 27:27
  This
• 27:27
  is
• 27:27
  so
• 27:28
  important,
• 27:28
  friend,
• 27:29
  detach
• 27:30
  from
• 27:31
  perfection.
• 27:32
  Remember,
• 27:33
  support
• 27:33
  doesn't
• 27:34
  have
• 27:34
  to
• 27:34
  look
• 27:35
  exactly
• 27:36
  the
• 27:36
  way
• 27:36
  you'd
• 27:37
  like
• 27:37
  to
• 27:37
  do
• 27:38
  it.
• 27:38
  Focus
• 27:39
  on
• 27:39
  the
• 27:39
  outcome
• 27:40
  and
• 27:40
  not
• 27:40
  the
• 27:41
  process.
• 27:42
  You
• 27:42
  will
• 27:42
  save
• 27:43
  your
• 27:43
  nerves.
• 27:44
  So
• 27:44
  much
• 27:45
  stress
• 27:45
  just
• 27:46
  from
• 27:46
  detaching,
• 27:47
  from
• 27:48
  perfection.
• 27:49
  It
• 27:49
  may
• 27:49
  not
• 27:50
  look
• 27:50
  exactly
• 27:51
  like
• 27:51
  the
• 27:52
  way
• 27:52
  that
• 27:52
  you
• 27:52
  would
• 27:52
  do
• 27:52
  it.
• 27:53
  And
• 27:53
  guess
• 27:53
  what?
• 27:54
  That
• 27:54
  is
• 27:55
  the
• 27:55
  price
• 27:55
  for
• 27:56
  not
• 27:56
  doing
• 27:56
  it
• 27:57
  yourself.
• 27:57
  Allow
• 27:58
  other
• 27:58
  people
• 27:59
  to
• 27:59
  have
• 27:59
  their
• 28:00
  way
• 28:00
  and
• 28:00
  relax
• 28:01
  into
• 28:02
  allowing
• 28:03
  people
• 28:03
  to
• 28:04
  do
• 28:04
  it
• 28:04
  their
• 28:05
  way
• 28:05
  while
• 28:06
  supporting
• 28:07
  you
• 28:07
  and
• 28:08
  be
• 28:08
  willing
• 28:08
  to
• 28:08
  give
• 28:08
  feedback.
• 28:09
  If
• 28:09
  someone
• 28:10
  doesn't
• 28:10
  get
• 28:10
  it
• 28:10
  right
• 28:11
  the
• 28:11
  first
• 28:11
  time,
• 28:12
  don't
• 28:12
  just
• 28:12
  write
• 28:13
  them
• 28:13
  off.
• 28:14
  You
• 28:14
  can
• 28:14
  use
• 28:14
  it
• 28:14
  as
• 28:15
  an
• 28:15
  opportunity
• 28:16
  to
• 28:16
  communicate
• 28:16
  and
• 28:17
  grow
• 28:17
  together.
• 28:18
  So.
• 28:19
  More
• 28:19
  than
• 28:19
  anything,
• 28:20
  just
• 28:20
  remind
• 28:21
  yourself
• 28:21
  that
• 28:22
  asking
• 28:22
  for
• 28:22
  help
• 28:23
  is
• 28:23
  a
• 28:23
  strength,
• 28:24
  not
• 28:25
  a
• 28:25
  weakness.
• 28:26
  It's
• 28:26
  a
• 28:26
  sign
• 28:26
  that
• 28:27
  you
• 28:27
  value
• 28:27
  yourself
• 28:28
  and
• 28:28
  your
• 28:28
  time
• 28:29
  enough
• 28:30
  to
• 28:30
  invite
• 28:31
  others
• 28:31
  into
• 28:32
  your
• 28:32
  journey.
• 28:33
  I
• 28:33
  know
• 28:33
  it
• 28:33
  can
• 28:33
  be
• 28:34
  super
• 28:34
  scary
• 28:35
  to
• 28:35
  open
• 28:35
  yourself
• 28:36
  up
• 28:36
  to
• 28:36
  the
• 28:36
  possibility
• 28:37
  of
• 28:37
  being
• 28:37
  let
• 28:37
  down,
• 28:38
  but
• 28:39
  the
• 28:39
  alternative
• 28:40
  is
• 28:40
  carrying
• 28:41
  everything
• 28:41
  on
• 28:42
  your
• 28:42
  own,
• 28:43
  which
• 28:43
  is
• 28:43
  so
• 28:44
  much
• 28:44
  heavier.
• 28:45
  You
• 28:45
  don't
• 28:46
  have
• 28:46
  to
• 28:46
  do
• 28:46
  it
• 28:46
  all.
• 28:47
  You
• 28:47
  are
• 28:48
  allowed
• 28:48
  to
• 28:48
  ask
• 28:49
  for
• 28:49
  help,
• 28:49
  and
• 28:50
  you're
• 28:50
  allowed
• 28:50
  to
• 28:50
  trust
• 28:51
  that
• 28:51
  the
• 28:51
  right
• 28:51
  people
• 28:52
  will
• 28:52
  rise
• 28:53
  to
• 28:53
  meet
• 28:53
  you.
• 28:54
  And
• 28:54
  if
• 28:54
  they
• 28:54
  don't.
• 28:55
  Again,
• 28:56
  that's
• 28:56
  not
• 28:57
  a
• 28:57
  reflection
• 28:58
  of
• 28:58
  your
• 28:58
  worth.
• 28:59
  It's
• 28:59
  just
• 29:00
  information
• 29:01
  to
• 29:01
  help
• 29:02
  you
• 29:02
  move
• 29:02
  forward.
• 29:03
  All
• 29:03
  right.
• 29:03
  Now,
• 29:03
  friend,
• 29:04
  let
• 29:04
  me
• 29:04
  pour
• 29:04
  into
• 29:05
  you
• 29:05
  real
• 29:05
  quick
• 29:05
  because
• 29:06
  I
• 29:06
  need
• 29:07
  you
• 29:07
  to
• 29:07
  hear
• 29:07
  this
• 29:07
  with
• 29:08
  your
• 29:08
  whole
• 29:08
  heart.
• 29:09
  You
• 29:10
  are
• 29:11
  worthy
• 29:11
  of
• 29:12
  asking.
• 29:13
  For
• 29:13
  what
• 29:13
  you
• 29:13
  need,
• 29:14
  not
• 29:14
  because
• 29:15
  you
• 29:15
  earned
• 29:15
  it,
• 29:15
  not
• 29:16
  because
• 29:16
  you
• 29:16
  checked
• 29:16
  all
• 29:17
  the
• 29:17
  boxes,
• 29:18
  but
• 29:18
  simply
• 29:19
  because
• 29:19
  you
• 29:20
  exist.
• 29:21
  Your
• 29:22
  needs
• 29:22
  are
• 29:22
  valid.
• 29:23
  Your
• 29:24
  voice
• 29:24
  matters.
• 29:25
  And
• 29:25
  the
• 29:26
  right
• 29:26
  people,
• 29:27
  the
• 29:27
  ones
• 29:27
  who
• 29:28
  truly
• 29:28
  see
• 29:29
  you.
• 29:29
  They
• 29:30
  want
• 29:30
  to
• 29:30
  support
• 29:31
  you.
• 29:31
  When
• 29:32
  you
• 29:32
  make
• 29:32
  an
• 29:32
  aligned
• 29:33
  ask,
• 29:34
  you
• 29:34
  are
• 29:34
  not
• 29:35
  just
• 29:35
  asking
• 29:35
  for
• 29:36
  help.
• 29:36
  You
• 29:37
  are
• 29:37
  stepping
• 29:37
  into
• 29:37
  your
• 29:38
  power.
• 29:39
  You
• 29:39
  are
• 29:39
  saying,
• 29:40
  I
• 29:40
  trust
• 29:40
  myself
• 29:41
  enough
• 29:41
  to
• 29:42
  know
• 29:42
  what
• 29:42
  I
• 29:42
  need,
• 29:43
  and
• 29:43
  I
• 29:43
  trust
• 29:44
  the
• 29:44
  universe
• 29:45
  enough
• 29:45
  to
• 29:45
  believe
• 29:46
  it's
• 29:46
  possible
• 29:47
  because
• 29:48
  friend,
• 29:48
  it
• 29:49
  is
• 29:49
  possible.
• 29:50
  Sometimes
• 29:51
  you'll
• 29:51
  get
• 29:52
  a
• 29:52
  yes
• 29:52
  and
• 29:52
  it'll
• 29:53
  feel
• 29:53
  like
• 29:53
  magic.
• 29:54
  Other
• 29:54
  times
• 29:55
  you
• 29:55
  might
• 29:55
  get
• 29:56
  a
• 29:56
  no,
• 29:56
  and
• 29:56
  that's
• 29:57
  okay
• 29:57
  too,
• 29:58
  here's
• 29:58
  what
• 29:58
  I
• 29:58
  know
• 29:59
  to
• 29:59
  be
• 29:59
  true.
• 30:00
  Things
• 30:01
  always
• 30:02
  work
• 30:02
  out
• 30:03
  for
• 30:03
  you.
• 30:04
  Heavy
• 30:05
  on
• 30:05
  the
• 30:05
  always,
• 30:06
  even
• 30:06
  when
• 30:07
  it
• 30:07
  doesn't
• 30:07
  look
• 30:07
  like
• 30:08
  it
• 30:08
  in
• 30:08
  the
• 30:08
  moment,
• 30:09
  even
• 30:10
  when
• 30:10
  the
• 30:10
  path
• 30:10
  feels
• 30:11
  messy
• 30:11
  or
• 30:12
  uncertain,
• 30:13
  the
• 30:13
  universe
• 30:14
  is
• 30:14
  always
• 30:15
  conspiring
• 30:16
  in
• 30:17
  your
• 30:17
  favor.
• 30:18
  A
• 30:18
  no
• 30:19
  isn't
• 30:19
  the
• 30:20
  end
• 30:20
  of
• 30:20
  the
• 30:20
  story.
• 30:21
  It's
• 30:21
  just
• 30:21
  a
• 30:21
  redirection.
• 30:23
  It's
• 30:23
  the
• 30:23
  universe
• 30:24
  saying,
• 30:24
  not
• 30:25
  this
• 30:25
  way,
• 30:25
  babe,
• 30:26
  but
• 30:26
  something.
• 30:27
  Better.
• 30:28
  So
• 30:28
  trust
• 30:29
  that.
• 30:30
  Trust
• 30:30
  that
• 30:30
  every
• 30:31
  ask,
• 30:31
  every
• 30:32
  yes,
• 30:32
  every
• 30:33
  no,
• 30:34
  and
• 30:34
  every
• 30:34
  maybe
• 30:35
  is
• 30:35
  leading
• 30:36
  you
• 30:36
  exactly
• 30:37
  where
• 30:38
  you
• 30:38
  are
• 30:38
  meant
• 30:38
  to
• 30:38
  go.
• 30:39
  And
• 30:39
  if
• 30:39
  the
• 30:39
  answer
• 30:40
  isn't
• 30:40
  what
• 30:41
  you
• 30:41
  hoped
• 30:41
  for.
• 30:42
  You
• 30:42
  are
• 30:43
  still
• 30:43
  whole
• 30:44
  and
• 30:44
  complete.
• 30:45
  You
• 30:45
  are
• 30:45
  still
• 30:46
  worthy.
• 30:47
  You
• 30:47
  are
• 30:47
  still
• 30:48
  the
• 30:48
  kind
• 30:48
  of
• 30:48
  woman
• 30:49
  who
• 30:49
  gets
• 30:50
  back
• 30:50
  up,
• 30:51
  explores
• 30:52
  her
• 30:52
  options
• 30:53
  and
• 30:53
  keeps
• 30:53
  moving
• 30:54
  forward
• 30:54
  with
• 30:54
  grace
• 30:55
  and
• 30:55
  grit
• 30:56
  because
• 30:57
  that's
• 30:57
  who
• 30:57
  you
• 30:57
  are.
• 30:58
  So
• 30:58
  go
• 30:59
  ahead,
• 30:59
  make
• 31:00
  the
• 31:00
  powerful
• 31:01
  aligned,
• 31:02
  ask.
• 31:03
  Be
• 31:03
  bold,
• 31:04
  be
• 31:04
  clear,
• 31:05
  and
• 31:05
  be
• 31:05
  open
• 31:06
  to
• 31:06
  the
• 31:06
  magic
• 31:07
  that's
• 31:07
  waiting
• 31:08
  for
• 31:08
  you
• 31:08
  on
• 31:08
  the
• 31:08
  other
• 31:09
  side.
• 31:09
  Trust
• 31:10
  me,
• 31:10
  you've
• 31:10
  got
• 31:11
  this
• 31:11
  and
• 31:11
  I'm
• 31:11
  always
• 31:12
  cheering
• 31:12
  for
• 31:12
  you
• 31:13
  every
• 31:14
  step
• 31:14
  of
• 31:14
  the
• 31:14
  way.
• 31:14
  Okay,
• 31:15
  so
• 31:15
  let's
• 31:15
  recap.
• 31:16
  Today
• 31:17
  we
• 31:17
  talked
• 31:17
  about
• 31:17
  why
• 31:18
  asking
• 31:18
  for
• 31:19
  what
• 31:19
  you
• 31:19
  need
• 31:19
  can
• 31:20
  feel
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  hard,
• 31:21
  and
• 31:21
  I
• 31:21
  shared
• 31:22
  my
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  four
• 31:22
  step
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  aligned
• 31:23
  Ask
• 31:24
  framework
• 31:24
  to
• 31:25
  help
• 31:25
  you
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  make
• 31:25
  clear,
• 31:26
  kind,
• 31:26
  and
• 31:27
  confident
• 31:27
  requests
• 31:28
  that
• 31:28
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• 31:28
  yeses.
• 31:29
  We
• 31:30
  also
• 31:30
  covered
• 31:31
  real
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  life
• 31:31
  examples
• 31:32
  and
• 31:32
  how
• 31:33
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• 31:33
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• 31:33
  any
• 31:34
  response
• 31:35
  with
• 31:35
  Grace.
• 31:36
  Friend,
• 31:36
  you
• 31:37
  are
• 31:37
  worthy.
• 31:38
  Asking
• 31:39
  for
• 31:39
  whatever
• 31:39
  you
• 31:40
  need.
• 31:40
  And
• 31:41
  when
• 31:41
  you
• 31:41
  do
• 31:41
  it
• 31:42
  with
• 31:42
  clarity,
• 31:42
  kindness,
• 31:43
  and
• 31:43
  confidence,
• 31:44
  you
• 31:44
  are
• 31:45
  not
• 31:45
  just
• 31:45
  getting
• 31:46
  what
• 31:46
  you
• 31:46
  want,
• 31:47
  you
• 31:47
  are
• 31:48
  stepping
• 31:48
  into
• 31:48
  your
• 31:49
  power.
• 31:50
  So
• 31:50
  go
• 31:50
  out
• 31:51
  there
• 31:51
  and
• 31:52
  make
• 31:52
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• 31:52
  powerful
• 31:53
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• 31:53
  Crown
• 31:54
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• 31:54
  Queen.
• 31:59
  All
• 31:59
  right,
• 31:59
  friend,
• 32:00
  before
• 32:00
  you
• 32:00
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• 32:01
  let's
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  make
• 32:02
  it
• 32:02
  official.
• 32:03
  If
• 32:03
  you
• 32:03
  loved
• 32:04
  this
• 32:04
  episode
• 32:05
  and
• 32:05
  you
• 32:05
  are
• 32:05
  feeling
• 32:06
  that
• 32:06
  main
• 32:06
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• 32:07
  energy
• 32:07
  bubbling
• 32:08
  up,
• 32:08
  here's
• 32:09
  what
• 32:09
  I
• 32:09
  need
• 32:09
  you
• 32:09
  to
• 32:09
  do
• 32:10
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• 32:11
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• 32:14
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• 32:15
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  we
• 32:16
  are
• 32:16
  getting
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  started
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  and
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  the
• 32:17
  glow
• 32:18
  up
• 32:18
  vibes
• 32:18
  are
• 32:18
  only
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• 32:20
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• 32:20
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• 32:21
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• 32:22
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• 32:28
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• 32:28
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• 32:29
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• 32:29
  power.
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• 32:30
  spread
• 32:31
  this
• 32:31
  energy
• 32:32
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• 32:32
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• 32:33
  because
• 32:33
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• 32:34
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• 32:34
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• 32:35
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• 32:37
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• 32:38
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• 32:38
  finally,
• 32:39
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• 32:39
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• 32:40
  are
• 32:40
  feeling
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  extra
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  generous,
• 32:41
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  only
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  my
• 32:44
  day
• 32:45
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  I
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  read
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  one,
• 32:47
  but
• 32:47
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• 32:47
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• 32:48
  the
• 32:48
  podcast
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  reach
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  more
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  women
• 32:50
  who
• 32:50
  are
• 32:50
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• 32:51
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• 32:51
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• 32:52
  their
• 32:52
  story,
• 32:52
  plus,
• 32:53
  who
• 32:53
  doesn't
• 32:54
  love
• 32:54
  a
• 32:54
  little
• 32:54
  good
• 32:55
  karma.
• 32:55
  Okay.
• 32:56
  All
• 32:56
  right.
• 32:57
  That's
• 32:57
  it
• 32:57
  for
• 32:58
  today.
• 32:58
  Go
• 32:59
  out
• 32:59
  there,
• 32:59
  claim
• 32:59
  your
• 33:00
  crown,
• 33:00
  and
• 33:00
  I'll
• 33:00
  see
• 33:01
  you
• 33:01
  in
• 33:01
  the
• 33:01
  next
• 33:01
  episode.
• 33:02
  Love
• 33:02
  you
• 33:03
  friend.