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What Does It Mean to Become a Radiant Woman? | 005 · Sacred She Reset: Awakening Your Radiant Wisdom in Midlife

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Cherie Ashana: You're listening to the Sacred She Reset podcast.
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If you're a woman in midlife who's done doing this alone and
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ready for real conversations, real wisdom, and real radiance,
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you're exactly where you need to be. I'm your host Sharia Shana.
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Your path to radiance starts here. Welcome back to the Sacred
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She Reset, awakening your radiant wisdom. I'm Sharia
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Shani, your host, and I am so excited to be with you again.
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Over the first four episodes, we're on our fifth now. I've
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been sharing about the journey that's brought me here.
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So, if you've been following along, I shared with you about
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the years where my body felt like it was being managed rather
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than understood, and then the turning point I reached where I
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had to start learning how to listen, and then I shared with
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you there about the framework that came out of that big
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journey of the turning point and all the surgeries and all the
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things that have been happening in my life, and the framework
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that came out of that-the four pillars of radiance-that helped
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me through and supported me through as I watched these
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patterns and what I learned, and we also dived deeper into when
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when we when we have this belief, this internal belief
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around saying I've tried everything and nothing works for
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me, and then also the external pressures that keep us saying
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that there's no room for me. So we dived into a little bit about
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time and and money there as well in the last episode, and so in
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all of those we've been shifting the narrative and just having
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this little journey with ourselves to unlock what might
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be sitting deeper deeper in there and what we can learn.
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But today I want to look forward. I want to look speaking
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to the woman waiting beyond survival, and she's not a
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perfect woman, and she's definitely not endlessly
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positive. She's not a she's not a woman that solved every
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problem and balanced every hormone and healed every wound
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and color coded her entire life before breakfast. There's none
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of that going on here today. I want to speak about the radiant
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woman and what it means to be radiant, and this is the woman
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who no longer is willing to disappear from herself. And so,
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what I want to just recap and reframe from and remember from
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the past episodes is from my story. I really would like you
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to remember your body is not the interruption. She is a part of
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the invitation. From the four pillars, I would love you to
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remember you are a whole woman. Your physical health, emotions,
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joy, relationships, voice, and sense of meaning are connected.
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And from our conversation around self trust, I'd love you to
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remember: you do not have to believe in the entire path. You
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need only remain in relationship with yourself as you take the
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next honest step, and then from our conversation about time and
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money, I'd love you to remember your needs are not the
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disposable part of your life. You are not selfish for
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requiring space. You are human. So let's push this out and look
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at look at a bigger vision here. Take a wider view, and so my
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vision is for women to stop reaching midlife believing their
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most vital years are behind them. I want us to really change
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that story and start looking at it through through a different
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lens, and for too long, we as women we have been taught to
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view aging primarily through loss, and so it's that loss of
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beauty, loss of youth, fidelity, energy, desirability. But then
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remember that midlife also brings discernment, clarity,
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courage, creativity, freedom, leadership, a deep relationship
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with truth, the willingness to stop negotiating with what no
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longer fits, and as I know, and as some of you know, a lot of
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you know depends where you are on your journey. Menopause can
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be physically and emotionally challenging, and it's different
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for all of us. It deserves appropriate support and honest
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conversation, and I dive into all of this in my my recently
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released book, Sacred She Reset. But it. Is not proof that women,
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that us as women, that our life force is disappearing. Like
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where's where's the data on that? Sometimes it is the moment
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when everything she has suppressed, postponed, or
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tolerated begins asking to be acknowledged. This is not a
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decline.
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This is an awakening. So who who is the radiant woman? The
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radiate the radiant woman is not a woman who never struggles.
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That's that's an impossible, unsustainable achievement. She
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is a woman who nong no longer abandons herself when struggle
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arrives. She knows how to pause. She notices when her body is
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whispering. She allows herself to ask for support. She does not
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measure strength only by how much she can endure. She speaks
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with great honesty. She's learning not to apologize for
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every need, boundary, opinion, or change of heart. She
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understands that a boundary is not a wall against love. It is
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often what allows it. It is often what allows love to remain
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honest. She makes decisions from self-trust rather than constant
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approval seeking, and she may still feel fear, but fear is no
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longer the only voice at the table.
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She allows joy to matter, not only once the work is finished,
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not only when everything else is happy, now she creates, she
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travels, she rests, leads, learns, loves, begins again. She
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also understands that menopause is not one universal experience.
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She listens to her own body rather than measuring herself
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against another woman's woman's timeline. She recognizes that
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her wisdom has been shaped by everything she has lived. Her
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experience is not baggage she must hide. It is Material,
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medicine, leadership, legacy. So let's dive into a little bit
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about relationships. The radiant woman begins changing how she
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participates in relationships. She no longer confuses love with
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self erasure. She does not automatically carry the entire
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emotional atmosphere. She becomes curious about where she
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has overfunctioned, where she has said yes while meaning no,
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where she has protected others from the consequences of their
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own choices. This does not mean she becomes cold. It means her
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love becomes more truthful. She learns that belonging should not
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require abandoning herself, and when it comes to work and
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purpose, she also reconsiders her relationship with work.
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Perhaps she still has enormous ambition.
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Perhaps she wants to build, create, contribute, and lead.
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Radiance is not asking her to become smaller. It is asking her
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to stop sacrificing herself to prove that she is powerful. She
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begins building success that includes her well-being. She
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questions the idea that rest makes her less committed. She
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recognizes that her work can emerge from rhythm rather than
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constant urgency. Midlife may ask her to change careers, begin
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a business, write a book, launch a podcast, return to art,
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travel, teach, mentor, or simply redefine what is meaningful.
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What a meaningful life looks like. There is no single correct
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expression of becoming. Creativity and voice. Many women
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arrive in midlife with a voice that has been carefully edited.
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They have learned how to speak in ways that keep the room
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comfortable, how to soften, qualify, apologize, avoid
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appearing too demanding, emotional, ambitious, or
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visible, the radiant woman begins reclaiming expression.
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She sings, she writes, speaks, shares her story, says what says
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what she means, allows herself to be witnessed, not because
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every. Things she says will be perfect because silence is no
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longer the price she is willing to pay for belonging. The
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movement behind sacred she reset.
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This podcast you're listening to today is a part of a much bigger
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vision, a vision where women in midlife do not have to navigate
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these changes alone. Where conversations about menopause
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include whole women, where health includes body wisdom,
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healing includes compassion, happiness includes joy and
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expression, heart includes boundaries, belonging, and
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sacred connection. I want sacred Shi reset to become a gathering
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place, a place where lived experience matters, where
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experts can share wisdom without replacing the listener's inner
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authority, where women hear stories that help them recognize
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themselves, where we can speak honestly about grief, desire,
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identity, aging, relationships, creativity, purpose in the body,
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and where no woman is asking to become a polished version of
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herself before she is allowed to belong. So, what's next? In the
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episodes ahead, we will explore why rest does not always create
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restoration. How capable women become trapped in chronic
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self-override. Menopause and the loss or recovery of identity.
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The nervous system and the body's need for safety.
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Boundaries without guilt. Voice and self-expression. Joy as a
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form of alignment. Joy, joy, joy. Relationships in
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midlife-that's a really good one. I can't wait for that.
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Creativity, purpose, and reinvention. Embodied and
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holistic practices to help women return to themselves.
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We will hear solo episodes from me, conversations with
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practitioners, teachers, and experts, and stories from women
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who are living through their own becoming. Some episodes will
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give you information, some will give you language, some will
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give you practices, and some may simply remind you that you are
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not the only woman asking these questions. So my invitation to
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you today: this podcast is not asking you to become someone
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else. It is inviting you to stop becoming less of yourself. You
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do not need to wait until you have more energy, more
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confidence, more clarity, more time. You begin where you are.
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Perhaps today, becoming looks like rest. Tomorrow it may look
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like speaking. Next month it may look like leaving something
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behind. There is no race. There is no perfect timeline. There is
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only the relationship you build with the woman you are now.
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So my reflection for you today, beautiful woman, I'd love you to
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ask yourself: Who am I becoming when I no longer organize my
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life around self-abandonment? How do you speak? How? What do
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you? What do you tolerate? What do you protect? What brings you
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alive? What do you know now that you could not have known 20
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years ago? Like that's a that's a big one. Like if I look back
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on where I was in my 20s, you do not just need to see her
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completely. Perhaps you only sense her. That is enough.
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Radiance is revealed before it is truly understood. And so
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today, ladies, this is a shout out to join me in the community
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in the sacred sea reset circle, and I'd love you to continue
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following this journey with the. I've got some amazing interviews
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lined up, some beautiful people coming in that you are just
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going to love and enjoy so much. And I would love it if you just
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share in the comments or in the circle, if you're feeling brave,
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come along and join us this summer. Chair, I will put
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everything in the show notes as always. And just remember, it is
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not too late. You are not disappearing. You are standing
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at the threshold of a life that asks you to belong to yourself
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more fully. Yet you are not falling apart. You are becoming,
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and your radiance starts here. Bye for now.