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You can’t redesign a life you haven’t diagnosed · The Daily Reset Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Hi everyone and welcome to today's masterclass session which is all about
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  understanding yourself before we get into this process of
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  recalibration and
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  hopefully you have managed to watch the launch session and day
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  one where we got
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  SPEAKER_00: into the hidden cost of drift and what drift can actually look like
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  and why successful people end up drifting even after many years
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  of not really
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  SPEAKER_00: understanding how you can fall into the tolerance trap and also living on
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  SPEAKER_00: autopilot.
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  So today we're going to start understanding a bit more about
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  ourselves and look at our
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  Balance Archetypes and Flow Scores and for those of you that
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  haven't had a chance
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  to get your archetype and flow score if you go to balance.ai
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  forward slash quiz I
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  had been giving everyone the wrong link so that was completely
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  unhelpful but if you
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  SPEAKER_00: go to balance.ai forward slash quiz you will be able to get your
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  SPEAKER_00: flow score and balance archetype.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you haven't already done so,
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  you can also reply to one of the emails that you've received
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  and let me know your
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  SPEAKER_00: place of birth and your time of birth.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can get your design report over to you too.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what are we covering today?
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  SPEAKER_00: We're actually just going to do
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  SPEAKER_00: a bit of a look at where we are all at today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm going to do a balance reset as well.
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  And then we're going to use that information to assess where
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  are the biggest gaps.
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  So yesterday I mentioned we looked at the tolerance trap and
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  the autopilot effect.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today we're going to be looking at
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  what should you start to change and also who are you really
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  built to be and why so
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  much advice never fits and I guess it's that constant pushing
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  against the tide that
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  we're kind of going to be looking out for today what have we
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  been doing on repeat
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  or autopilot that hasn't been working and where do we start so
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  like I mentioned if
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  SPEAKER_00: you haven't done so
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  Get a view of where you are by taking the balance reset at
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  balance.ai forward slash quiz.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just takes a few minutes,
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  SPEAKER_00: a couple of minutes,
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  SPEAKER_00: multiple choice questions,
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  SPEAKER_00: looking at your mind,
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  SPEAKER_00: body relationships and purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at the end of that,
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  you'll get a diagnostic on where you are from a holistic
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  well-being across those
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  SPEAKER_00: pillars.
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  SPEAKER_00: and then we will be match marrying that with human design as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your floor score is not a grade.
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  It's basically built from the four pillars that I mentioned,
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  and it's a starting point.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you do want to get access to balance OS in the future,
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  your reset is your sort of floor it's basically where you start
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  from and the
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  actions that you take climb on top of that so you might start
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  off as an explorer
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  and just be kind of what I would say here is that you're
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  restless and curious and
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  dissatisfied and really have recognised that something needs to
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  change and that
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  SPEAKER_00: stage is really important because you know
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  that's the stage of awareness I would say that always comes
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  before the intention
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  and then you might also be a seeker where you've started to be
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  asking deeper
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  questions you know what matters is the life that you're
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  building aligned with who
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  you want to become are you moving forward are you just staying
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  busy and that's a
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  real sort of stage of reflection it can feel really uncertain
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  but also it's
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  SPEAKER_00: powerful because
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  Once you begin questioning your direction,
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  you can actually begin redesigning it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might be a clarifier.
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  SPEAKER_00: So clarifiers have begun deciding what truly matters.
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  They've started to identify their values,
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  their priorities,
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  their deeper motivations.
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  SPEAKER_00: And instead of reacting to life, they are beginning to direct it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that clarity really does change everything.
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  When you know what matters,
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  your decision making becomes dramatically easier.
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  You might be a builder who's already turning some of that
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  clarity into action and
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  SPEAKER_00: they begin shaping their life intentionally through habits,
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  SPEAKER_00: boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: priorities and systems.
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  So instead of drifting,
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  they have really begun building and the process becomes
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  visible.
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  Or you could already be an architect who is designing their
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  life deliberately.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're taking daily actions, reflecting on their deeper priorities.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're protecting their energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: investing in their relationships and pursuing meaningful goals and making
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  SPEAKER_00: intentional decisions.
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  and actually when life is no longer reactive it becomes
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  designed and regardless of
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  where you are on this many capable and intelligent people are
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  stuck between stages
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  and it's not because you lack ambition it's just because you've
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  lacked a diagnosis
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  SPEAKER_00: and where we're at now is that you can't reset or recalibrate
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  Unless you're understanding that starting point and I always
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  say it's kind of like
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  just like a business review and You know before making any
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  strategic changes in
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  your business you would look at the data and your life requires
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  that same and That
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  same discipline really so and getting the diagnosis and the
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  insight and then making
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  SPEAKER_00: the change so and
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah,
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  SPEAKER_00: so you might have,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: a really strong mind,
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  SPEAKER_00: body,
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  but your purpose might be lacking and your relationships might
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  be suffering,
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  SPEAKER_00: for example.
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  SPEAKER_00: The balance reset will show you that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It will show you where your lowest pillar is,
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  SPEAKER_00: so where your life's aligned,
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  SPEAKER_00: where it isn't,
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  SPEAKER_00: and where it needs attention first,
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  SPEAKER_00: because
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you see the pattern, you can change it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the lowest pillar isn't your failure.
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  It's just if you strengthen the weakest one,
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  the other ones start to lift.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why we don't try and fix everything at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: We start where the ripple is the biggest.
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  I guess what we're looking at here is what loops are running
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  quietly underneath so
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  say for example that you are highly focused on your work or
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  individual tasks you
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  assign the meaning that your relationships await and you
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  basically end up with
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  SPEAKER_00: isolation or surface level connection so that energy
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  SPEAKER_00: continues to flow and your relationships end up waiting,
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  SPEAKER_00: which,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: that starts to then leak into the others.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the consequence of being more isolated,
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  SPEAKER_00: for example,
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  SPEAKER_00: in this particular instance,
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  SPEAKER_00: if we're looking at relationships,
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  starts to then feed into being more inward or kind of taking
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  less care of ourselves
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  SPEAKER_00: or
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  being more selfish or overworking or all the things that we end
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  up in repeat patterns.
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  So I think what we're also looking at here is the good advice
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  that we're constantly getting.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there is so much pressure to stay busy, keep moving.
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  SPEAKER_00: We spoke briefly in the reset about the different
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  organizational systems that have been sort of running our lives
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  which is work hard
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  do more and be constantly on constantly on social media being
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  told that we can do
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  all of these things and we're mistaking that busyness for for
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  progress and we're
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  not looking at how we are built and and that's kind of why I
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  want to go a little
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  SPEAKER_00: bit deeper on the
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  the human human design aspect of of this and how we integrate
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  that and it's not
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  that you're not trying hard enough it's that looking at someone
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  else's map is not
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  going to guide you to where you need to go you need to look at
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  yourself and I spoke
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  yesterday in yesterday's session about comparison being
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  extremely crippling and
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  SPEAKER_00: When we look at other people's maps,
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  SPEAKER_00: we lose sight of our own and where we are and what we need to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So really moving away from that into looking at our own operating style.
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  If we look at the human design and how it links into the
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  balance archetype and your
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  SPEAKER_00: flow score,
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  SPEAKER_00: your design tells you how you're wired and
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  SPEAKER_00: This is not telling you what you're going to do or what you should do.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just tells you some of those things that you've been naturally,
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  that you're more naturally adept at flowing with and some of
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  the things that you
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  SPEAKER_00: might have been forcing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it just shows you where some of those blocks might be.
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  So,
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  for example,
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  just to give you an idea,
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  I'm a generator or builder,
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  as they call it.
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  I would be really if I'm forcing things and rather than feeling
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  things I'm really
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  drained so um that can be if I am engaged in a project that I
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  just know it is not
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  SPEAKER_00: filling me up then I am just so so drained I'm
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  SPEAKER_00: If you've received the human reports,
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  SPEAKER_00: I've kind of looked at the career aspect of your report,
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  but we would drill much more into all the aspects and how it
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  relates across your
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  SPEAKER_00: life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So,
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  SPEAKER_00: in the other example,
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  SPEAKER_00: this person might be a projector as their type in human design and they
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  when they push they're only creating more resistance so when
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  they stop hustling and
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  SPEAKER_00: wait for the right invitation things start happening so it's kind of just
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  understanding the overall picture and then all the nuances
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  under that so there is a
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  lot that goes into it and you will have your type and you
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  basically will then have
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  SPEAKER_00: a clearer path of what is your
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  SPEAKER_00: Best Move and What Is Your Worst Move?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, for example, I talked about the generator.
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  When I am doing stuff that makes me feel super fulfilled,
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  it just fills me up.
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  When I'm doing stuff that I feel so pushed and heavy by doing,
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  it's not going to work for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I talked about the reflector, if they keep forcing
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  and Chasing and Hustling that's not going to work for them they
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  need to have the
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  recognition and the invitation to move but this is very very
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  high level and your
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  report has got more information but we'll go much more deeper
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  into that so I guess
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  looking at your balance quiz or your balance reset and your
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  flow score and your
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  SPEAKER_00: archetype I want you to pause and reflect for a moment and
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  and also your Human Design Report if you've had a chance to
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  look at that over the
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  past five days then I want you to kind of consider what advice
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  have you been
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  following that doesn't actually fit you and where are you
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  forcing rather than
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  SPEAKER_00: flowing and what strengths have you been overlooking because
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  SPEAKER_00: We can easily get into the position where we are being self-critical.
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  Yesterday in the masterclass I talked a lot about negative
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  self-talk and we all
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  have our own unique strengths so really drilling into what are
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  some of those
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  limiting beliefs that you've been putting on yourself that you
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  have basically put
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  SPEAKER_00: yourself in some sort of box or
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  you have basically classified yourself in a certain way that is
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  just no longer true
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  and what evidence do you have to back any of that up so we're
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  going to be starting
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  to break down some of that so we can get into into action and I
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  mentioned yesterday
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  SPEAKER_00: as well that the two fears that are in
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  Keeping you stuck is that fear of change but that really keeps
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  you in discomfort
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  and the fear of staying the same which keeps you restless and I
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  know from my
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  experience that living between them is exhausting and that's
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  why you need to
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  SPEAKER_00: understand some of those patterns because awareness has to come first.
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  SPEAKER_00: So how do we get out of these limiting beliefs and these fears?
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  Well your design will show you where particular fears tend to
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  sit and what is
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  waiting on the other side of it but action has to fit how
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  you're built so the right
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  action walks you through the fear and the wrong one just
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  confirms it so we'll be
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  starting to look at the different actions we can take but I
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  just want you to kind
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  SPEAKER_00: of have a second to reflect on
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  what fear is louder for you right now the fear of changing or
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  the fear of staying
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  exactly as you are and one of the questions that we have in the
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  balance reset is
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  how would it feel if your life was to remain exactly the same
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  as this for the next
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  SPEAKER_00: five years and when I asked myself that question last year
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  you know it was not a good place so I have done everything that
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  I can to move away
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  from where I was to actually get to where I am today and just
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  kind of looking at
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  things in perspective and taking that next right step it's not
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  about changing
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  everything like I said it's about focusing on the highest
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  priority weakened pillar
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  SPEAKER_00: and then
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  Looking at the ripple effect that that creates when we start to
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  take daily action
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  So what is the one small shift that you're going to take this
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  week aimed at your
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  weakest pillar taken in the way your design actually moves and
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  it's not an overhaul
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  we're not talking about redesigning your whole life we're just
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  talking about
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  a realignment of focus and looking at how those small daily
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  habits can create
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  SPEAKER_00: massive compounding results.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want you to go away and think about that.
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  And tomorrow we are going to be looking at AI and the
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  opportunities that presents
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  SPEAKER_00: to us,
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  SPEAKER_00: how that could
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  Simplify how we could use technology to simplify and what
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  skills and qualities will
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  SPEAKER_00: matter most in the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I am really excited to do that session tomorrow as well.
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  So do your balance.ai quiz and message me to get your human
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  design profile and
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  start thinking about some of these reflection questions and
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  what you want to focus
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  SPEAKER_00: on this week.
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  your flow score is the baseline like I mentioned and everything
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  that this week will
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  build on it and tomorrow we'll be simplifying we'll be looking
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  at AI what could be
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  your tech stack and what needs to stay uniquely human so happy
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  Tuesday everyone and
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  SPEAKER_00: have a great day and I'll see you on day three tomorrow