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Ep. 272. The Secrets Divorced Moms Carry: Nervous System Costs of Knowing Too Much & Saying Nothing · Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: Divorced moms keep secrets that no one talks about.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: The things their ex did behind closed doors, the moments with their kids they can't admit out loud, not because they're weak, but because protecting their children comes before calling out the truth.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: And in this episode, we are cracking open those hidden stories and asking, what if freedom isn't about finally being believed about those secrets, but about finding peace without anyone else's validation?
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: How do you do that?
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: Hi, love.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, today's episode is intense.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: We are going to talk about his secrets that you're keeping.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not, it's the secrets that you carry, you hide what really happened, and people who would be shocked if the truth slipped out, right?
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: There's these things that you don't know if or when or how to say them to your kids, and you often want to blurt them out, but you just, you know, are invested in protecting your kiddos.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: So first we're gonna talk about his secrets.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then we're gonna talk about your secrets and your own shame, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we all have our own secrets, the things that we are terrified if other people saw us or knew we did this thing or that thing, that they would be for sure that we are a bad mom.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: And those secrets feel really, really heavy, and we carry those as well.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_00: And then we're gonna talk about the secret about secrets, because that is really the key to unlocking all of this, right?
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: The part that no one tells you is the secret itself is rarely the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rarely.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Every now and then, but not typically.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's actually the shame welded to it, and the shame shame in general is the one thing that you cannot heal in the dark.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: Let's dig in.
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• 3:07
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