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You Are Not Who You Used To Be | EP 317 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Let
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  me
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  tell
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  you
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  something
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  that
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  took
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  me
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  way
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  too
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  long
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  to
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  understand.
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  When
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  my
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  mom
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  made
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  her
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  transition
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  to
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  heaven,
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  I
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  thought
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  I
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  had
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  lost
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  myself
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  right
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  along
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  with
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  her.
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  I
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  was
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  out
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  here
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  looking
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  for
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  a
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  version
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  of
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  me
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  I
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  recognized,
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  like
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  I
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  had
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  misplaced
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  my
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  keys.
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  I
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  just
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  knew
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  I
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  had
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  left
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  her
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  right
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  here
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  on
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  the
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  counter,
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  okay?
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  But
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  friend,
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  what
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  I
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  thought
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  was
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  loss
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  turned
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  out
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  to
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  be
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  something
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  completely
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  different.
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  And
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  today
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  I
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  wanna
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  tell
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  you
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  exactly
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  what
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  that
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  was,
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  Because
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  it
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  just
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  might
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  change
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  everything
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  about
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  how
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  you
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  see
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  the
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  season
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  you're
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  in
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  right
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  now.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it
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  Ooh,
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  and
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  real
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  quick,
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  subscribed
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  to
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  Confident
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  and
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  Empowered
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  Women
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  podcast
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  yet,
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  what
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  are
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  we
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  even
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  doing?
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  We
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  are
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  here
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  every
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  single
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  Tuesday
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  and
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  Thursday,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  just
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  a
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  podcast.
• 1:00
  This
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  is
• 1:01
  a
• 1:01
  community
• 1:01
  of
• 1:02
  women
• 1:02
  who
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  are
• 1:02
  done
• 1:03
  shrinking,
• 1:04
  settling,
• 1:04
  performing,
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  and
• 1:05
  putting
• 1:06
  herself
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  last.
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  This
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  is
• 1:08
  where
• 1:08
  we
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  come
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  to
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  remember
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  who
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  we
• 1:10
  actually
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  are
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  and
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  build
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  the
• 1:12
  life
• 1:12
  that
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  reflects
• 1:13
  her.
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  We
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  are
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  becoming
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  together,
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  friend,
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  and
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  if
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  you're
• 1:16
  not
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  subscribed
• 1:17
  yet,
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  let
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  today
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  be
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  the
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  day.
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  Hit
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  that
• 1:20
  button
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  And
• 1:21
  let's
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  go
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey.
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  You
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  know
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  what
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  we
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  love
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  around
• 1:27
  here?
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  We
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  love
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  a
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  good
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  comeback
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  story.
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  We
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  love
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  the
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  before
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  and
• 1:33
  the
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  after.
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  We
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  just
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  wanna
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  skip
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  the
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  hard
• 1:35
  part
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  and
• 1:36
  go
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  straight
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  to
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  the
• 1:37
  victory
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  lap.
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  We
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  wanna
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  bypass
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  everything
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  in
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  between.
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  But
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  friend,
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  the
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  middle,
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  that
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  is
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  where
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  everything
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  is
• 1:47
  actually
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  happening.
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  That
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  is
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  where
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  you
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  are
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  really
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  meeting
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  yourself
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  for
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  the
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  first
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  time
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  When
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  my
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  mom
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  made
• 1:55
  her
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  transition
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  to
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  heaven,
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  I
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  felt
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  it
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  deeper
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  than
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  anything
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  I've
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  ever
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  felt
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  before.
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  Not
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  just
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  the
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  grief
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  of
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  it,
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  it
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  was
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  the
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  lostness
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  because
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  so
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  much
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  of
• 2:08
  who
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  I
• 2:08
  was
• 2:09
  had
• 2:09
  been
• 2:09
  shaped
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  by
• 2:10
  having
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  her
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  here.
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  She
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  was
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  my
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  person,
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  and
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  when
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  she
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  left,
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  I
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  stood
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  in
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  the
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  middle
• 2:16
  of
• 2:16
  my
• 2:16
  own
• 2:17
  life
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  and
• 2:18
  I
• 2:18
  didn't
• 2:18
  know
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  who
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  I
• 2:18
  was
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  anymore.
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  I
• 2:20
  kept
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  thinking
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  one
• 2:22
  thing,
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  "I've
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  lost
• 2:23
  myself."
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  Like
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  somewhere
• 2:25
  in
• 2:25
  the
• 2:25
  middle
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  of
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  the
• 2:26
  loss,
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  I
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  lost
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  me
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  too
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  And
• 2:29
  I
• 2:29
  want
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  you
• 2:29
  to
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  know
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  I
• 2:30
  tried
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  everything
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  to
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  find
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  her.
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  I
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  retraced
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  my
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  steps.
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  I
• 2:35
  looked
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  in
• 2:35
  all
• 2:35
  the
• 2:36
  usual
• 2:36
  places.
• 2:37
  I
• 2:37
  was
• 2:37
  out
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  here
• 2:38
  like,
• 2:38
  "Okay,
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  God,
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  but
• 2:39
  where
• 2:39
  did
• 2:39
  she
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  go?"
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  Did
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  I
• 2:42
  leave
• 2:42
  her
• 2:43
  in
• 2:43
  the
• 2:43
  grief?
• 2:43
  Did
• 2:44
  she
• 2:44
  get
• 2:44
  misplaced
• 2:45
  somewhere
• 2:45
  in
• 2:45
  transition?
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  Friend,
• 2:47
  I
• 2:47
  was
• 2:47
  serious
• 2:48
  about
• 2:48
  this
• 2:48
  search,
• 2:49
  okay?
• 2:51
  But
• 2:51
  here's
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  what
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  I
• 2:52
  finally
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  figured
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  out.
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  I
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  was
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  not
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  missing,
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  I
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  was
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  meeting,
• 2:57
  meeting
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  myself
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  in
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  a
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  new
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  season
• 2:59
  of
• 3:00
  life.
• 3:00
  You
• 3:01
  go
• 3:01
  through
• 3:01
  something
• 3:02
  big,
• 3:02
  a
• 3:02
  loss,
• 3:03
  a
• 3:03
  transition,
• 3:04
  a
• 3:04
  chapter
• 3:05
  closing
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  you
• 3:06
  didn't
• 3:06
  plan
• 3:06
  for,
• 3:07
  and
• 3:07
  on
• 3:07
  the
• 3:07
  other
• 3:08
  side
• 3:08
  you
• 3:08
  look
• 3:09
  up
• 3:09
  and
• 3:09
  you
• 3:09
  feel
• 3:10
  like
• 3:10
  a
• 3:10
  stranger
• 3:11
  in
• 3:11
  your
• 3:11
  own
• 3:12
  life.
• 3:13
  Somebody
• 3:13
  queue
• 3:14
  Tamia
• 3:14
  because
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  there's
• 3:15
  a
• 3:15
  stranger
• 3:15
  in
• 3:16
  my
• 3:16
  house.
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  And
• 3:19
  you
• 3:19
  call
• 3:19
  that
• 3:20
  lost.
• 3:21
  Friend,
• 3:21
  what
• 3:22
  you
• 3:22
  are
• 3:23
  calling
• 3:23
  lost
• 3:24
  is
• 3:24
  actually
• 3:25
  layers,
• 3:26
  and
• 3:26
  I
• 3:26
  need
• 3:27
  you
• 3:27
  to
• 3:27
  understand
• 3:28
  what
• 3:28
  those
• 3:28
  layers
• 3:29
  are
• 3:29
  because
• 3:29
  it
• 3:30
  shifts
• 3:30
  you
• 3:31
  in
• 3:31
  a
• 3:31
  major
• 3:31
  way
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  One
• 3:32
  of
• 3:32
  the
• 3:33
  most
• 3:33
  profound
• 3:34
  truths
• 3:34
  I
• 3:34
  had
• 3:35
  to
• 3:35
  sit
• 3:35
  with,
• 3:36
  my
• 3:36
  core
• 3:37
  never
• 3:37
  went
• 3:38
  anywhere.
• 3:39
  My
• 3:39
  values,
• 3:40
  my
• 3:40
  standards,
• 3:41
  those
• 3:41
  were
• 3:41
  still
• 3:41
  mine.
• 3:42
  My
• 3:43
  favorite
• 3:43
  color,
• 3:44
  my
• 3:44
  favorite
• 3:44
  song,
• 3:45
  all
• 3:46
  of
• 3:46
  the
• 3:46
  little
• 3:46
  things
• 3:47
  that
• 3:47
  make
• 3:47
  me,
• 3:48
  me,
• 3:49
  those
• 3:49
  never
• 3:49
  moved.
• 3:51
  They're
• 3:51
  still
• 3:51
  here,
• 3:51
  still
• 3:52
  reporting
• 3:53
  for
• 3:53
  duty,
• 3:53
  okay?
• 3:55
  But
• 3:55
  there
• 3:56
  were
• 3:56
  new
• 3:56
  layers
• 3:57
  rising
• 3:58
  to
• 3:58
  the
• 3:58
  surface,
• 3:59
  layers
• 4:00
  that
• 4:00
  had
• 4:01
  been
• 4:01
  shaped
• 4:02
  and
• 4:02
  molded
• 4:03
  by
• 4:03
  everything
• 4:04
  that
• 4:04
  I
• 4:04
  walked
• 4:05
  through,
• 4:05
  from
• 4:06
  the
• 4:06
  loss
• 4:06
  of
• 4:07
  my
• 4:07
  granny
• 4:07
  to
• 4:08
  the
• 4:08
  loss
• 4:08
  of
• 4:08
  my
• 4:08
  mom,
• 4:09
  and
• 4:10
  even
• 4:10
  everything
• 4:11
  up
• 4:11
  until
• 4:12
  those
• 4:13
  points
• 4:14
  There
• 4:14
  were
• 4:14
  parts
• 4:15
  of
• 4:15
  myself
• 4:15
  that
• 4:16
  I
• 4:16
  had
• 4:16
  never
• 4:16
  met
• 4:17
  before
• 4:18
  because
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  never
• 4:19
  needed
• 4:19
  them
• 4:20
  before.
• 4:21
  That
• 4:22
  is
• 4:22
  not
• 4:22
  a
• 4:23
  loss,
• 4:23
  friend.
• 4:24
  That's
• 4:24
  an
• 4:24
  invitation,
• 4:26
  an
• 4:26
  invitation
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  get
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  know
• 4:28
  yourself
• 4:29
  at
• 4:29
  a
• 4:29
  depth
• 4:30
  that
• 4:30
  your
• 4:31
  comfortable
• 4:31
  chapters
• 4:32
  never
• 4:33
  required
• 4:34
  to
• 4:34
  discover
• 4:35
  parts
• 4:35
  of
• 4:35
  yourself
• 4:36
  that
• 4:36
  you
• 4:37
  and
• 4:37
  your
• 4:37
  easy
• 4:38
  seasons
• 4:39
  never
• 4:39
  had
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  call
• 4:40
  forward
• 4:41
  Listen,
• 4:41
  when
• 4:42
  Serena
• 4:43
  Williams
• 4:43
  made
• 4:44
  her
• 4:44
  comeback
• 4:44
  to
• 4:45
  professional
• 4:45
  tennis
• 4:46
  after
• 4:46
  having
• 4:47
  her
• 4:47
  daughter,
• 4:48
  she
• 4:48
  had
• 4:48
  to
• 4:48
  figure
• 4:49
  out
• 4:49
  who
• 4:49
  she
• 4:49
  was
• 4:50
  as
• 4:50
  a
• 4:50
  competitor
• 4:51
  all
• 4:51
  over
• 4:52
  again.
• 4:53
  The
• 4:53
  Serena
• 4:53
  before
• 4:54
  And
• 4:54
  the
• 4:55
  woman
• 4:55
  she
• 4:55
  was
• 4:55
  becoming
• 4:56
  as
• 4:56
  a
• 4:57
  mother,
• 4:57
  she
• 4:58
  had
• 4:58
  to
• 4:58
  learn
• 4:59
  how
• 4:59
  those
• 4:59
  two
• 4:59
  versions
• 5:00
  of
• 5:00
  herself
• 5:01
  lived
• 5:02
  together.
• 5:03
  What
• 5:03
  came
• 5:03
  out
• 5:04
  of
• 5:04
  that
• 5:04
  discovery
• 5:05
  was
• 5:05
  not
• 5:06
  a
• 5:06
  lesser
• 5:06
  Serena,
• 5:07
  it
• 5:07
  was
• 5:08
  a
• 5:08
  fuller
• 5:08
  one
• 5:09
  And
• 5:09
  friend,
• 5:10
  that's
• 5:10
  you
• 5:10
  right
• 5:11
  now.
• 5:11
  You're
• 5:12
  not
• 5:12
  who
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  used
• 5:13
  to
• 5:13
  be,
• 5:13
  and
• 5:13
  that
• 5:14
  is
• 5:14
  not
• 5:14
  a
• 5:14
  problem.
• 5:15
  That's
• 5:16
  actually
• 5:16
  the
• 5:16
  whole
• 5:16
  point.
• 5:18
  So
• 5:18
  let
• 5:19
  me
• 5:19
  give
• 5:19
  you
• 5:19
  something
• 5:20
  real
• 5:20
  and
• 5:21
  practical
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  do
• 5:22
  with
• 5:22
  that
• 5:22
  because
• 5:23
  knowing
• 5:24
  is
• 5:24
  one
• 5:24
  thing,
• 5:24
  living
• 5:25
  it
• 5:25
  is
• 5:26
  another
• 5:27
  And
• 5:27
  hear
• 5:27
  me
• 5:28
  with
• 5:28
  your
• 5:28
  whole
• 5:28
  heart
• 5:29
  when
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  say
• 5:30
  this.
• 5:31
  Getting
• 5:31
  to
• 5:32
  know
• 5:32
  yourself
• 5:33
  is
• 5:33
  not
• 5:33
  a
• 5:33
  crisis,
• 5:34
  it's
• 5:34
  a
• 5:35
  practice,
• 5:36
  and
• 5:36
  most
• 5:36
  of
• 5:36
  us
• 5:37
  have
• 5:37
  never
• 5:37
  actually
• 5:38
  stopped
• 5:38
  long
• 5:39
  enough
• 5:39
  to
• 5:39
  do
• 5:39
  it.
• 5:40
  We
• 5:40
  get
• 5:41
  still
• 5:41
  for
• 5:42
  about
• 5:42
  four,
• 5:43
  five
• 5:43
  minutes,
• 5:45
  and
• 5:45
  then
• 5:46
  the
• 5:46
  group
• 5:46
  chat
• 5:47
  goes
• 5:47
  off
• 5:47
  and
• 5:48
  we're
• 5:48
  right
• 5:48
  back
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  being
• 5:49
  everybody
• 5:50
  else's
• 5:50
  person
• 5:51
  before
• 5:52
  we
• 5:52
  ever
• 5:52
  finish
• 5:53
  being
• 5:53
  our
• 5:53
  own.
• 5:54
  I
• 5:55
  see
• 5:55
  you.
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  have
• 5:56
  been
• 5:57
  you.
• 5:57
  Okay?
• 5:58
  So
• 5:59
  here
• 5:59
  is
• 5:59
  how
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  actually
• 6:01
  start
• 6:01
  You
• 6:02
  are
• 6:02
  being
• 6:03
  forced
• 6:03
  into
• 6:04
  discovery
• 6:04
  right
• 6:05
  now,
• 6:06
  and
• 6:06
  the
• 6:06
  version
• 6:06
  of
• 6:06
  yourself
• 6:07
  on
• 6:07
  the
• 6:07
  other
• 6:07
  side
• 6:08
  of
• 6:08
  it
• 6:08
  is
• 6:09
  worth
• 6:10
  every
• 6:10
  single
• 6:11
  bit
• 6:12
  of
• 6:12
  getting
• 6:13
  to
• 6:13
  know
• 6:13
  you.
• 6:14
  And
• 6:15
  friend,
• 6:15
  if
• 6:15
  you
• 6:15
  need
• 6:16
  something
• 6:16
  to
• 6:16
  help
• 6:16
  you
• 6:16
  get
• 6:17
  quiet
• 6:18
  and
• 6:18
  hear
• 6:18
  yourself
• 6:19
  during
• 6:19
  this
• 6:19
  season,
• 6:20
  The
• 6:20
  Main
• 6:20
  Character
• 6:21
  Energy
• 6:21
  journal
• 6:22
  prompts
• 6:22
  walk
• 6:23
  you
• 6:23
  through
• 6:23
  the
• 6:23
  questions
• 6:24
  that
• 6:24
  help
• 6:24
  you
• 6:25
  reintroduce
• 6:26
  yourself
• 6:26
  to
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  new
• 6:27
  version
• 6:28
  of
• 6:28
  you.
• 6:29
  And
• 6:29
  they're
• 6:29
  linked
• 6:30
  in
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  show
• 6:30
  notes.
• 6:30
  So
• 6:31
  friend,
• 6:32
  this
• 6:32
  is
• 6:32
  your
• 6:33
  chance
• 6:33
  to
• 6:34
  stop
• 6:34
  thinking
• 6:35
  about
• 6:35
  it
• 6:35
  and
• 6:36
  actually
• 6:37
  reconnect
• 6:38
  back
• 6:38
  to
• 6:38
  yourself
• 6:39
  this
• 6:40
  is
• 6:40
  how
• 6:40
  you
• 6:40
  get
• 6:40
  to
• 6:41
  know
• 6:41
  yourself
• 6:41
  in
• 6:42
  real
• 6:42
  time
• 6:44
  And
• 6:45
  now
• 6:45
  it's
• 6:45
  time
• 6:46
  for
• 6:46
  our
• 6:46
  favorite
• 6:47
  self-love
• 6:47
  two-step
• 6:48
  with
• 6:48
  the
• 6:49
  remix
• 6:49
  because
• 6:50
  you
• 6:50
  know
• 6:50
  we
• 6:51
  just
• 6:51
  don't
• 6:51
  talk
• 6:52
  about
• 6:52
  it,
• 6:52
  we
• 6:53
  be
• 6:53
  about
• 6:54
  it,
• 6:54
  okay?
• 6:57
  This
• 6:58
  is
• 6:58
  your
• 6:58
  new
• 6:59
  layers
• 7:00
  two-step
• 7:00
  remix.
• 7:01
  And
• 7:01
  listen,
• 7:02
  we
• 7:02
  love
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  good
• 7:03
  two-step
• 7:03
  around
• 7:04
  here
• 7:04
  Because
• 7:05
  it's
• 7:05
  always
• 7:05
  simple,
• 7:06
  everybody
• 7:06
  can
• 7:07
  do
• 7:07
  it,
• 7:07
  and
• 7:07
  it
• 7:08
  always
• 7:09
  gets
• 7:09
  the
• 7:09
  party
• 7:10
  started.
• 7:10
  All
• 7:10
  right,
• 7:11
  step
• 7:11
  one,
• 7:12
  name
• 7:13
  what
• 7:13
  stayed.
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  want
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  to
• 7:15
  grab
• 7:15
  your
• 7:15
  journal,
• 7:16
  your
• 7:16
  notes
• 7:16
  app,
• 7:17
  whatever
• 7:17
  it
• 7:17
  is
• 7:18
  that
• 7:18
  you're
• 7:18
  using
• 7:18
  to
• 7:19
  write
• 7:19
  things
• 7:19
  down.
• 7:20
  And
• 7:21
  just
• 7:21
  a
• 7:21
  note,
• 7:22
  friend,
• 7:22
  I
• 7:22
  know
• 7:22
  that
• 7:22
  you
• 7:23
  probably
• 7:23
  hear
• 7:23
  this
• 7:23
  all
• 7:24
  the
• 7:24
  time,
• 7:25
  but
• 7:25
  something
• 7:26
  about
• 7:26
  writing
• 7:27
  things
• 7:27
  down
• 7:28
  in
• 7:28
  your
• 7:29
  own
• 7:29
  handwriting
• 7:30
  is
• 7:31
  simply
• 7:32
  magical.
• 7:33
  So
• 7:33
  grab
• 7:34
  a
• 7:34
  journal,
• 7:35
  a
• 7:37
  notepad,
• 7:37
  your
• 7:37
  notebook,
• 7:37
  whatever,
• 7:38
  but
• 7:38
  write
• 7:39
  it
• 7:39
  down,
• 7:39
  okay?
• 7:40
  At
• 7:40
  least
• 7:41
  three
• 7:41
  things
• 7:42
  about
• 7:42
  you
• 7:43
  that
• 7:43
  have
• 7:44
  never
• 7:44
  changed
• 7:45
  no
• 7:45
  matter
• 7:45
  what
• 7:46
  season
• 7:46
  you've
• 7:47
  been
• 7:47
  in.
• 7:48
  Your
• 7:48
  core
• 7:48
  values,
• 7:49
  what
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  love,
• 7:50
  what
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  will
• 7:51
  not
• 7:51
  compromise,
• 7:53
  what
• 7:53
  makes
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  laugh
• 7:54
  even
• 7:54
  on
• 7:55
  a
• 7:55
  hard
• 7:55
  day
• 7:56
  what
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  will
• 7:56
  not
• 7:57
  accept,
• 7:57
  what
• 7:58
  you
• 7:58
  believe.
• 7:59
  And
• 7:59
  friend,
• 8:00
  I'm
• 8:00
  gonna
• 8:00
  need
• 8:00
  you
• 8:01
  to
• 8:01
  add
• 8:01
  your
• 8:01
  favorite
• 8:02
  color
• 8:02
  to
• 8:03
  that
• 8:03
  list,
• 8:03
  okay?
• 8:04
  Because
• 8:04
  listen,
• 8:05
  you
• 8:05
  still
• 8:05
  know
• 8:05
  that.
• 8:08
  And
• 8:08
  it's
• 8:08
  proof
• 8:09
  that
• 8:09
  you
• 8:10
  are
• 8:10
  still
• 8:11
  there.
• 8:12
  The
• 8:12
  foundation
• 8:13
  never
• 8:14
  left.
• 8:15
  There
• 8:15
  are
• 8:15
  plenty
• 8:16
  of
• 8:16
  things
• 8:16
  about
• 8:17
  you
• 8:18
  that
• 8:18
  have
• 8:18
  not
• 8:18
  changed,
• 8:20
  no
• 8:20
  matter
• 8:20
  what
• 8:21
  has
• 8:21
  gone
• 8:22
  on
• 8:22
  in
• 8:22
  your
• 8:22
  life,
• 8:23
  no
• 8:23
  matter
• 8:23
  what's
• 8:23
  happened
• 8:24
  to
• 8:24
  you,
• 8:25
  and
• 8:25
  no
• 8:25
  matter
• 8:25
  how
• 8:25
  much
• 8:25
  time
• 8:26
  has
• 8:26
  passed.
• 8:27
  Because
• 8:27
  when
• 8:28
  you
• 8:28
  can
• 8:28
  see
• 8:29
  what
• 8:29
  stayed,
• 8:30
  you
• 8:30
  realize
• 8:31
  you
• 8:31
  did
• 8:32
  not
• 8:32
  lose
• 8:32
  yourself.
• 8:33
  The
• 8:33
  foundation
• 8:35
  is
• 8:35
  still
• 8:35
  solid,
• 8:36
  and
• 8:37
  it's
• 8:37
  yours.
• 8:38
  So
• 8:38
  write
• 8:39
  it
• 8:39
  down
• 8:39
  and
• 8:40
  let
• 8:40
  yourself
• 8:41
  feel
• 8:41
  that
• 8:42
  Step
• 8:42
  two,
• 8:43
  name
• 8:44
  one
• 8:44
  layer.
• 8:45
  Now,
• 8:46
  I
• 8:46
  want
• 8:46
  you
• 8:46
  to
• 8:46
  name
• 8:47
  one
• 8:47
  thing
• 8:48
  that
• 8:49
  is
• 8:49
  new.
• 8:49
  It
• 8:49
  could
• 8:49
  be
• 8:50
  one
• 8:50
  thing
• 8:50
  that
• 8:50
  this
• 8:51
  season
• 8:51
  has
• 8:51
  revealed
• 8:52
  that's
• 8:52
  not
• 8:53
  on
• 8:53
  the
• 8:53
  surface,
• 8:54
  okay?
• 8:55
  A
• 8:55
  new
• 8:55
  way
• 8:56
  you
• 8:56
  love,
• 8:56
  a
• 8:57
  new
• 8:57
  limit
• 8:57
  you're
• 8:58
  holding,
• 8:58
  a
• 8:58
  new
• 8:59
  thing
• 8:59
  you
• 8:59
  care
• 8:59
  about,
• 9:00
  a
• 9:00
  new
• 9:01
  part
• 9:01
  of
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  that
• 9:02
  has
• 9:02
  been
• 9:02
  called
• 9:03
  forward.
• 9:03
  It
• 9:03
  can
• 9:04
  even
• 9:04
  be
• 9:04
  something
• 9:05
  that
• 9:05
  used
• 9:06
  to
• 9:06
  be
• 9:06
  true
• 9:06
  for
• 9:06
  you
• 9:07
  that
• 9:08
  you've
• 9:08
  now
• 9:08
  revised
• 9:10
  because
• 9:10
  listen,
• 9:11
  friend,
• 9:11
  you
• 9:12
  are
• 9:12
  allowed
• 9:12
  to
• 9:13
  change,
• 9:13
  to
• 9:13
  grow,
• 9:14
  to
• 9:14
  contradict
• 9:15
  yourself,
• 9:15
  okay?
• 9:17
  This
• 9:17
  is
• 9:18
  how
• 9:18
  you
• 9:18
  keep
• 9:19
  becoming
• 9:19
  who
• 9:20
  you
• 9:20
  were
• 9:20
  meant
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  be.
• 9:21
  You
• 9:21
  do
• 9:21
  not
• 9:22
  have
• 9:22
  to
• 9:22
  have
• 9:23
  a
• 9:23
  whole
• 9:23
  entire
• 9:24
  list.
• 9:24
  One
• 9:25
  is
• 9:25
  enough
• 9:26
  to
• 9:26
  start.
• 9:26
  Just
• 9:27
  name
• 9:27
  her,
• 9:28
  honor
• 9:28
  her.
• 9:29
  She
• 9:29
  showed
• 9:30
  up
• 9:30
  for
• 9:30
  you.
• 9:31
  So
• 9:31
  get
• 9:32
  curious
• 9:33
  about
• 9:33
  what's
• 9:33
  new
• 9:34
  You
• 9:35
  do
• 9:35
  not
• 9:35
  have
• 9:35
  to
• 9:35
  forever
• 9:36
  grieve
• 9:36
  the
• 9:37
  version
• 9:37
  of
• 9:37
  you
• 9:37
  that
• 9:37
  changed
• 9:39
  when
• 9:39
  you
• 9:39
  can
• 9:40
  get
• 9:40
  curious
• 9:40
  about
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  one
• 9:41
  that's
• 9:41
  showing
• 9:42
  up.
• 9:42
  What
• 9:43
  do
• 9:43
  you
• 9:43
  care
• 9:43
  about
• 9:44
  now
• 9:44
  that
• 9:44
  you
• 9:45
  did
• 9:45
  not
• 9:45
  before?
• 9:46
  What
• 9:47
  has
• 9:47
  this
• 9:47
  hard
• 9:48
  season
• 9:48
  built
• 9:49
  in
• 9:49
  you
• 9:50
  that
• 9:50
  was
• 9:50
  never
• 9:51
  there
• 9:51
  before?
• 9:52
  Those
• 9:52
  are
• 9:52
  not
• 9:53
  losses.
• 9:54
  Those
• 9:54
  are
• 9:54
  rooms
• 9:55
  in
• 9:55
  the
• 9:55
  house
• 9:56
  of
• 9:56
  who
• 9:56
  you
• 9:56
  are.
• 9:57
  You
• 9:57
  just
• 9:57
  haven't
• 9:58
  decorated
• 9:58
  them
• 9:58
  yet.
• 9:59
  You
• 9:59
  haven't
• 9:59
  even
• 10:00
  turned
• 10:00
  the
• 10:01
  lights
• 10:01
  on.
• 10:01
  But
• 10:02
  friend,
• 10:02
  they
• 10:02
  are
• 10:03
  yours,
• 10:03
  and
• 10:04
  we
• 10:04
  are
• 10:04
  about
• 10:05
  to
• 10:05
  go
• 10:05
  exploring
• 10:06
  And
• 10:07
  step
• 10:07
  three,
• 10:08
  the
• 10:08
  you
• 10:08
  step.
• 10:09
  You
• 10:09
  get
• 10:10
  still,
• 10:10
  you
• 10:11
  get
• 10:11
  quiet,
• 10:12
  and
• 10:12
  you
• 10:12
  ask
• 10:13
  yourself,
• 10:14
  "What
• 10:14
  is
• 10:14
  my
• 10:14
  heart
• 10:15
  telling
• 10:16
  me
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  do
• 10:16
  next?"
• 10:17
  Because
• 10:18
  whatever
• 10:18
  that
• 10:19
  is,
• 10:20
  that's
• 10:20
  your
• 10:21
  next
• 10:21
  right
• 10:21
  aligned
• 10:22
  step.
• 10:23
  You
• 10:23
  don't
• 10:23
  need
• 10:23
  the
• 10:24
  whole
• 10:24
  plan,
• 10:25
  just
• 10:25
  the
• 10:25
  next
• 10:25
  move.
• 10:26
  Trust
• 10:27
  her.
• 10:27
  She
• 10:28
  already
• 10:28
  knows
• 10:29
  Friend,
• 10:29
  you
• 10:30
  are
• 10:30
  not
• 10:30
  who
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  used
• 10:31
  to
• 10:31
  be,
• 10:32
  and
• 10:32
  that
• 10:33
  is
• 10:33
  not
• 10:33
  a
• 10:33
  sign
• 10:34
  that
• 10:34
  something
• 10:34
  went
• 10:35
  wrong.
• 10:36
  That's
• 10:36
  a
• 10:36
  sign
• 10:37
  that
• 10:37
  you've
• 10:38
  been
• 10:38
  living,
• 10:39
  okay?
• 10:39
  That
• 10:40
  is
• 10:40
  a
• 10:40
  sign
• 10:41
  of
• 10:41
  growth.
• 10:42
  proof
• 10:42
  that
• 10:43
  the
• 10:43
  seasons
• 10:43
  have
• 10:44
  been
• 10:44
  doing
• 10:44
  exactly
• 10:45
  what
• 10:46
  the
• 10:46
  seasons
• 10:46
  are
• 10:47
  designed
• 10:47
  to
• 10:47
  do,
• 10:48
  and
• 10:48
  that's
• 10:48
  building
• 10:49
  something
• 10:49
  in
• 10:50
  you
• 10:50
  that
• 10:51
  had
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  be
• 10:51
  built
• 10:52
  through
• 10:53
  the
• 10:53
  going,
• 10:54
  not
• 10:55
  around
• 10:55
  it.
• 10:56
  The
• 10:56
  woman
• 10:57
  that
• 10:57
  you're
• 10:57
  becoming
• 10:58
  has
• 10:58
  been
• 10:58
  shaped
• 10:58
  by
• 10:59
  everything
• 11:00
  you
• 11:01
  survived.
• 11:02
  She's
• 11:02
  not
• 11:02
  a
• 11:03
  lesser
• 11:03
  version.
• 11:04
  She's
• 11:04
  a
• 11:04
  more
• 11:05
  fuller,
• 11:06
  complete
• 11:07
  one,
• 11:07
  and
• 11:08
  it
• 11:08
  is
• 11:08
  time
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  reintroduce
• 11:10
  yourself,
• 11:11
  okay?
• 11:11
  It's
• 11:12
  very
• 11:12
  much
• 11:12
  giving
• 11:12
  Jay-Z.
• 11:17
  Now,
• 11:18
  let
• 11:18
  me
• 11:18
  pour
• 11:18
  into
• 11:19
  you
• 11:19
  real
• 11:19
  quick,
• 11:20
  okay?
• 11:20
  Listen,
• 11:21
  let
• 11:21
  me
• 11:22
  speak
• 11:22
  directly
• 11:24
  to
• 11:24
  your
• 11:24
  heart
• 11:24
  for
• 11:25
  a
• 11:25
  moment,
• 11:26
  especially
• 11:27
  if
• 11:27
  you're
• 11:27
  tired
• 11:28
  of
• 11:28
  feeling
• 11:28
  like
• 11:28
  you
• 11:29
  don't
• 11:29
  even
• 11:29
  recognize
• 11:30
  yourself
• 11:30
  anymore,
• 11:31
  especially
• 11:32
  if
• 11:32
  you've
• 11:32
  been
• 11:33
  in
• 11:33
  a
• 11:33
  season
• 11:33
  for
• 11:34
  so
• 11:34
  long
• 11:35
  that
• 11:36
  you've
• 11:36
  started
• 11:36
  to
• 11:36
  wonder
• 11:37
  if
• 11:37
  the
• 11:37
  real
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  is
• 11:39
  ever
• 11:39
  coming
• 11:40
  back
• 11:40
  And
• 11:40
  although
• 11:41
  she
• 11:41
  may
• 11:41
  not
• 11:42
  come
• 11:42
  back
• 11:42
  in
• 11:42
  the
• 11:43
  way
• 11:43
  that
• 11:43
  you've
• 11:43
  known
• 11:44
  her
• 11:44
  to,
• 11:45
  you
• 11:45
  will
• 11:45
  still
• 11:45
  see
• 11:46
  remnants,
• 11:47
  glimpses,
• 11:48
  moments
• 11:48
  of
• 11:49
  her
• 11:49
  because
• 11:50
  she's
• 11:50
  very
• 11:50
  much
• 11:51
  a
• 11:51
  part
• 11:51
  of
• 11:51
  you,
• 11:52
  and
• 11:52
  that
• 11:52
  is
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  most
• 11:53
  loving
• 11:54
  thing
• 11:55
  I
• 11:55
  know
• 11:55
  how
• 11:55
  to
• 11:55
  tell
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  right
• 11:56
  now.
• 11:57
  Because
• 11:57
  the
• 11:57
  version
• 11:58
  of
• 11:58
  you
• 11:58
  that
• 11:58
  existed
• 11:59
  before
• 12:00
  this
• 12:00
  season,
• 12:01
  she
• 12:01
  was
• 12:01
  never
• 12:02
  meant
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  be
• 12:03
  the
• 12:03
  final
• 12:03
  one.
• 12:04
  She
• 12:04
  was
• 12:05
  the
• 12:05
  one
• 12:05
  who
• 12:05
  got
• 12:06
  you
• 12:06
  here.
• 12:07
  And
• 12:07
  what
• 12:07
  is
• 12:07
  rising
• 12:08
  now,
• 12:09
  these
• 12:09
  new
• 12:09
  layers,
• 12:10
  the
• 12:10
  parts
• 12:11
  of
• 12:11
  you
• 12:12
  that
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  hard
• 12:12
  times
• 12:13
  called
• 12:13
  up,
• 12:14
  that
• 12:15
  is
• 12:15
  not
• 12:15
  a
• 12:15
  replacement.
• 12:16
  That
• 12:17
  is
• 12:17
  expansion.
• 12:19
  You
• 12:19
  don't
• 12:19
  lose
• 12:20
  yourself.
• 12:21
  You
• 12:21
  grew
• 12:21
  past
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  version
• 12:22
  of
• 12:23
  yourself
• 12:23
  that
• 12:23
  you
• 12:23
  knew
• 12:24
  and
• 12:25
  were
• 12:25
  comfortable
• 12:25
  with,
• 12:26
  And
• 12:26
  now
• 12:27
  you
• 12:27
  get
• 12:27
  to
• 12:27
  do
• 12:27
  something
• 12:28
  that
• 12:28
  most
• 12:28
  people
• 12:29
  never
• 12:30
  even
• 12:30
  stop
• 12:31
  long
• 12:32
  enough
• 12:32
  to
• 12:32
  do.
• 12:33
  You
• 12:33
  get
• 12:34
  to
• 12:34
  meet
• 12:34
  her.
• 12:35
  So
• 12:35
  go
• 12:36
  slow,
• 12:36
  friend.
• 12:37
  Ask
• 12:37
  the
• 12:37
  questions.
• 12:38
  Get
• 12:38
  curious
• 12:39
  about
• 12:39
  who
• 12:40
  you
• 12:40
  are
• 12:40
  becoming
• 12:41
  instead
• 12:41
  of
• 12:42
  mourning
• 12:42
  who
• 12:42
  you
• 12:43
  were.
• 12:43
  She
• 12:44
  is
• 12:44
  worth
• 12:44
  knowing,
• 12:45
  and
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  promise
• 12:46
  you,
• 12:46
  she's
• 12:47
  something
• 12:47
  else,
• 12:48
  okay?
• 12:52
  Friend,
• 12:53
  you
• 12:54
  deserve
• 12:55
  to
• 12:55
  fall
• 12:55
  in
• 12:55
  love
• 12:56
  with
• 12:56
  yourself,
• 12:56
  your
• 12:57
  days,
• 12:57
  and
• 12:57
  your
• 12:58
  life,
• 12:59
  not
• 12:59
  someday,
• 13:00
  but
• 13:01
  right
• 13:01
  now.
• 13:02
  This
• 13:02
  conversation,
• 13:03
  this
• 13:04
  work
• 13:04
  that
• 13:04
  you
• 13:04
  showed
• 13:05
  up
• 13:05
  for,
• 13:05
  this
• 13:06
  is
• 13:06
  how
• 13:06
  it
• 13:06
  happens,
• 13:07
  one
• 13:07
  layer
• 13:08
  at
• 13:08
  a
• 13:08
  time.
• 13:09
  And
• 13:10
  I'm
• 13:10
  gonna
• 13:10
  keep
• 13:11
  showing
• 13:11
  up
• 13:11
  in
• 13:11
  your
• 13:11
  earbuds
• 13:12
  every
• 13:13
  single
• 13:13
  week
• 13:14
  until
• 13:14
  you
• 13:15
  believe
• 13:15
  that,
• 13:15
  okay?
• 13:16
  And
• 13:16
  I
• 13:16
  mean
• 13:17
  every
• 13:17
  week.
• 13:19
  So
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  might
• 13:20
  as
• 13:20
  well
• 13:20
  subscribe
• 13:21
  and
• 13:22
  make
• 13:22
  sure
• 13:23
  that
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  drop
• 13:23
  a
• 13:24
  review,
• 13:24
  friend,
• 13:24
  because
• 13:25
  that
• 13:25
  is
• 13:26
  how
• 13:26
  we
• 13:27
  get
• 13:27
  this
• 13:27
  message
• 13:28
  to
• 13:28
  even
• 13:28
  more
• 13:29
  women
• 13:30
  who
• 13:30
  need
• 13:31
  to
• 13:31
  hear
• 13:31
  this
• 13:32
  right
• 13:32
  now.
• 13:33
  Friend,
• 13:33
  I
• 13:33
  am
• 13:34
  cheering
• 13:34
  for
• 13:34
  you
• 13:35
  loud
• 13:35
  and
• 13:35
  obnoxiously
• 13:36
  always.
• 13:37
  Yes,
• 13:38
  my
• 13:38
  family
• 13:39
  can
• 13:39
  confirm
• 13:40
  this
• 13:40
  is
• 13:40
  just
• 13:40
  how
• 13:40
  I
• 13:41
  am.
• 13:42
  And
• 13:42
  no
• 13:42
  matter
• 13:43
  what
• 13:43
  comes
• 13:43
  your
• 13:44
  way,
• 13:45
  together
• 13:45
  we
• 13:45
  can
• 13:46
  encourage
• 13:47
  over
• 13:47
  everything.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:48
  I
• 13:48
  will
• 13:49
  see
• 13:49
  you
• 13:50
  in
• 13:50
  the
• 13:50
  next
• 13:50
  episode