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Episode 619: Why You Should NEVER Respond To BREADCRUMBS From Your Ex · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing helping you
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  get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  And ladies and gentlemen of the No Contact Army, I have gathered
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  you here today because I want to once again talk about why you
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  should not respond to bread crumbs from your ex.
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  As you may or may not know, I am, as far as I know, the only X
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  back expert who says to not respond to just any old message
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  from your ex. If you want them back, you need
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  to wait for something significant and therefore don't
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  respond to bread crumbs. So I have a success story of one
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  of my clients who did just that. So I want to tell you all about
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  it so that you will be inspired to stick to no contact until you
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  hear something significant. But first, I want to welcome
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  back my beautiful no contact army.
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  army, all you have to do is hit the subscribe button and the
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  before you purchase the book. And of course the link for that
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  is also underneath every video and podcast.
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  Okay. So she contacted me, she needed
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  my help and basically what happened is she was dating this
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  guy and he seemed to the hurt his attention for her, seemed to
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  decline. They were fighting a lot.
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  And she just said he didn't seem as interested.
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  And so she said that she wanted space.
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  I don't recommend asking for space because when you're asking
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  for space, you don't really want space.
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  What you want is for the other person to react and go, no, no,
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  no. What do you mean, space?
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  No, please, no. What's wrong?
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  Let's fix it. But you know what?
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  9 times out of 10, they're not going to say that they're either
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  going to get annoyed and that you said that and they'll say,
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  fine, have your space, or they may do what this person did.
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  He called her bluff and he said, actually, you know what, let's
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  just break up instead. So luckily she immediately went
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  into no contact. And on day 22nd, guess who
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  popped up at night? As I say, you will probably hear
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  from your ex at night. That's when they miss you the
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  most when you're in no contact. And he said sorry for
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  everything, which is like a nothing apology.
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  Like what does that mean? Story for everything.
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  That means nothing. Don't ever accept that apology
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  story for everything. He's saying.
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  Absolutely nothing. And then he goes, I miss you.
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  And she didn't respond. And 20 minutes later, can I come
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  see you? She didn't respond.
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  Good. So then on day 26, four days
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  later, again in the evening, he's texting her, you know, Can
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  we talk? Please stop ignoring me.
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  And then again, she didn't respond, so he's like, okay.
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  Fine. I'll leave you alone.
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  Yeah, sure. Now he's trying to guilt trip
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  her. And whenever anyone says I'll
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  leave you alone, I'll never text you again.
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  I won't bother you again. You can be pretty sure 99 times
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  out of 100 they're going to bother you again, They're going
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  to contact you, They're going to text you again.
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  So don't ever be afraid when you hear that, because they're
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  trying to get you to react. She wasn't responding.
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  He was freaking out and he thought, okay, I'll tell her
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  I'll never text her again and she'll text me back.
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  But smart girl, she did not respond to that.
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  And that's when she contacted me.
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  See, she wasn't sure where to go from there, what to do.
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  And I looked at the situation and he called her bluff.
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  And since it's a poker game, it's like, OKI see your breakup
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  and I raised you. It's like we're staying in no
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  contact until you say something significant.
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  And then what do you know? Day 33, He left a significant
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  message about being sorry and can we talk, blah blah, blah,
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  blah. Because I didn't like his second
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  set of messages that he left, the fact that he said, oh, I
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  won't bother you again, it's like he still had an attitude.
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  It's like, oh, now you're acting like the victim.
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  You broke up with her. Oh, and now you're the victim.
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  So no, I said do not respond because he still has an
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  attitude. He needs to be more humble.
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  So finally he was more humble. And I said, yes, you can go
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  ahead and respond now. The important thing about not
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  responding to bread crumbs is that you show them, first of
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  all, that you respect yourself and you're not going to respond
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  to just any old message. You're not desperate to get them
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  back. You raised your interest level
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  because now you're rejecting them.
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  But most importantly, Okay, She got his respect.
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  And you cannot have love without respect.
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  Now she got his respect. Whereas before, when she said
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  she needed space, whatever was going on, he wasn't
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  communicating. He thought she would always be
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  there. But the fact that she now waited
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  until he said something insignificant showed that she
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  was not going to respond to the first message out of fear that
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  he may not respond again because or that he may not reach out
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  again because if he hadn't, then he really wasn't that
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  interested. But I think it was a, I mean, I
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  know on his part it was a fake breakup because he contacted her
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  fairly soon. The first time was what, 22 days
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  usually takes about two weeks. Okay, this guy took a little
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  longer because he thought she was going to reach out and it
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  was just a reaction to her saying she needs space and his
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  ego. With her, it's like space.
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  No, forget it. We're breaking up.
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  So now he knows that if he ever tries to break up with her
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  again, that she's not going to come looking for him.
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  And he better contact her in the right way because she's not
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  responding to any responding to any old message.
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  That's the main reason you don't respond to bread crumbs, to show
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  them that you're not going to be 1 back that easily.
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  It's like, oh, you had no problem breaking up with me and
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  you think now I'm just going to come back just because you left
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  one little message. That's the importance of not
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  responding to bread crumbs, their respect.
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  You cannot have love without respect.
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  Could she have gotten him back if she responds to the first set
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  of messages? Yes, probably.
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  But she would not have had his respect.
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  And that's what's most important.
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  So that next time if he even dreams of possibly breaking up
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  with her, he's going to remember the pain that he went through
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  and he's going to think twice and three times and maybe even
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  four times about ever breaking up with her again.
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  OK, So it's also to show them that they better not do this
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  again. Otherwise, this is what they're
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  going to have to go through. OK, so now I want to hear from
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  you. Have you responded to bread
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  crumbs and did you live to regret it?
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  Please comment below and tell me what the breadcrumb was or bread
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  crumbs. And in the meantime, if you
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  would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
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  theartoflove.net. The direct link is below every
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