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Who Decided There Is One Right Way To Live · Get It Got It Girl: Midlife Rebuild

• 0:35
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, guys.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_01: I was literally getting my thoughts together about what I wanted this podcast to be, and I was speaking into the microphone without hitting record.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm like, oh my god, I gotta push record.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_01: And now that I push record, uh-oh.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_01: Is it gonna all fly out of my head?
• 0:56
  unknown: No.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_01: So tomorrow I leave for Wisconsin for five weeks, and I just had that thought hit me.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you know how you think that you have to choose like one life?
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_01: Now, two years ago, maybe even three, I didn't really go back to my hometown much.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_01: I would spend three, four years without going there or seeing people come to where I live now.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, this isn't working for me.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_01: I want both parts of my life.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_01: I miss my Wisconsin family, my sisters and my brothers and my dad.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_01: And the environment of being there, the the nature and this the lake, and yes, the snow.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_01: Don't I can't even believe I said that out loud.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_01: But I also love living in Las Vegas.
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  SPEAKER_01: All my grown children are there.
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  SPEAKER_01: My mother is there, my kids are there.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I was trying to choose one or the other, and I realized, why do I have to choose?
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_01: So I started going to Wisconsin, and yeah, it started out with a week or two.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_01: Last year I went there twice, but it was Vegas, it's so hot, and I had just gone through thyroid surgery.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_01: And wow, that hormone medicine, that's a whole other podcast.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_01: Was really, really, it did not help with the hot flashes and my temperature, I was on fire.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I went there more often because it's a little bit cooler.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_01: Also, and then when I think about living just in Vegas and not going back to my hometown, no, I want both parts of that.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_01: So I decided I could have both.
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  SPEAKER_01: Did I hear people say, What are you doing?
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_01: What are you thinking?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why are you going to both places?
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_01: What, what, what are you doing?
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you know how you make a decision and people will question you or say it's not like that's weird.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_01: How do you want to go there?
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_01: Well, it wasn't weird for me, it was actually a great solution.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_01: And I do hope that this is my ultimate goal.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_01: I will live in Las Vegas nine months out of the year and then go back for summer for three months in Wisconsin.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_01: Next year, I would like to try to stay on the lake where my niece lives.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_01: That would be so awesome.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my gosh, I can close my eyes and vision it.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_01: So I guess my whole point today is just saying, yes, we need we make decisions, but you can have two choices.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_01: You can have the opposite and still simultaneously, I probably said that wrong, make them make them work, make them work for you.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_01: And I hear that, you know, we hear don't let other people, let them let them, and sometimes it's not even them, it's my own brain, like, oh, that would be weird.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_01: And then I'm like, wait, who said that's gonna be weird?
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_01: So I just wanted to make this more of a different kind of episode.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_01: I'm here to help everybody, but I'm also here just to share some light.
• 4:14
  SPEAKER_00: It's not this or that, this place or that, that those people or these people.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't want that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I chose both.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: It didn't look like everyone else's life, but I found a way that works for me.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_01: Literally, as I'm packing unpacking this and talking to you, sometimes the pressure isn't even the situation, it's the belief that there's only one right way to live.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, who decided that?
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: Who said you can't build a life in two places?
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_01: Who said you have to choose one version of happiness?
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_01: There's so many other versions.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_01: Do what makes you happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who cares if it doesn't look like everybody else's plan?
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_01: That's the thing, it's not.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_01: I just know that I stopped choosing between things I love and I started to build a life that can hold both of them.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_01: Anyway, apparently this is today's episode, and I didn't even know this was gonna be an episode.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, if you could could have seen, if I had that on recording, you literally would have seen me writing in my book and thinking, okay, so what am I gonna do?
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_01: Well, my mouth was on the microphone talking without the button pushed.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_01: Just build one life that fits you.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to choose, you know, one life, but you just need to build one that fits you.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for listening.
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  SPEAKER_01: I hope this helps you live a little more in the moment.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_01: Don't worry about what others think.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_01: I know we hear that, I know it's human nature to worry about that, but it's also we hear ourselves think because it's maybe it's unconventional, maybe it's different.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_01: Well, that's okay if it's different.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_01: Who are we to say it's wrong?
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, well, let me get off my soapbox because then I start to talk to some other people.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_01: This is so weird.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, I swear I'm not crazy.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_01: I'm just hyped up and excited to go to Wisconsin.
• 6:23
  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait to see my family.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait to go on the boat.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_01: And okay, well, that's today's episode.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_01: Have a great week.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_01: Decide what you want to do.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_01: Something's not working, figure out a plan to do both.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just make sure it's a plan for you, not a plan for others.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_01: Have a great weekend.