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High Standards Are Not High Maintenance — Your Desires Are Directions | EP 270 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Let
• 0:05
  me
• 0:05
  reframe
• 0:06
  something
• 0:06
  that
• 0:06
  might
• 0:07
  completely
• 0:08
  change
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  how
• 0:08
  you
• 0:09
  see
• 0:09
  yourself.
• 0:10
  What
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  if
• 0:10
  your
• 0:11
  standards
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  aren't
• 0:12
  too
• 0:12
  high?
• 0:13
  What
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  if
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  they
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  are
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  just
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  your
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  desires
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  trying
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  to
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  guide
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  you?
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  So
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  many
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  women
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  aren't
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  actually
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  struggling
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  with
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  being
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  high
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  maintenance.
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  Contrary
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  to
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  popular
• 0:22
  belief,
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  they
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  are
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  struggling
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  with
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  trusting
• 0:25
  what
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  they
• 0:26
  want.
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  So
• 0:27
  if
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  you've
• 0:28
  been
• 0:28
  asking
• 0:28
  chat
• 0:29
  gpt,
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  am
• 0:30
  I
• 0:30
  asking
• 0:30
  for
• 0:31
  too
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  much?
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  How
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  do
• 0:32
  I
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  set
• 0:32
  standards
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  without
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  guilt?
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  Why
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  do
• 0:34
  I
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  feel
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  bad
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  for
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  wanting
• 0:36
  more?
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  This
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  episode
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  is
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  your
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  permission
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  slip
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  to
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  stop
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  questioning
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  yourself
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  and
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  start
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  listening
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  because
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  desires
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  aren't
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  demands.
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  They
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  are
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  directions.
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  Hey,
• 0:50
  hey,
• 0:50
  hey.
• 0:50
  Welcome
• 0:51
  back
• 0:51
  to
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  Confident
• 0:52
  and
• 0:52
  Empowered
• 0:53
  Women.
• 0:54
  The
• 0:54
  place
• 0:55
  where
• 0:55
  we
• 0:55
  stop
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  moralizing
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  our
• 0:57
  needs.
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  And
• 0:58
  start
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  honoring
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  our
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  truth.
• 0:59
  I'm
• 1:00
  Letitia,
• 1:00
  and
• 1:01
  today's
• 1:01
  episode
• 1:02
  is
• 1:02
  for
• 1:02
  the
• 1:03
  woman
• 1:03
  who
• 1:03
  has
• 1:03
  been
• 1:04
  shrinking
• 1:04
  what
• 1:05
  she
• 1:05
  wants
• 1:06
  to
• 1:06
  stay
• 1:07
  likable,
• 1:08
  explaining
• 1:08
  her
• 1:09
  needs
• 1:09
  so
• 1:10
  she
• 1:10
  doesn't
• 1:10
  sound
• 1:11
  too
• 1:11
  intense,
• 1:12
  watering
• 1:12
  herself
• 1:13
  down
• 1:13
  and
• 1:14
  calling
• 1:14
  it
• 1:15
  being
• 1:15
  easygoing.
• 1:16
  We
• 1:17
  are
• 1:17
  not
• 1:17
  doing
• 1:17
  that
• 1:18
  anymore.
• 1:18
  Today.
• 1:19
  We
• 1:19
  are
• 1:19
  reclaiming
• 1:20
  desire
• 1:21
  as
• 1:21
  wisdom,
• 1:22
  not
• 1:23
  as
• 1:23
  weakness,
• 1:23
  and
• 1:24
  letting
• 1:24
  standards
• 1:25
  come
• 1:25
  from
• 1:25
  your
• 1:25
  self-respect,
• 1:27
  not
• 1:28
  self-protection.
• 1:29
  and
• 1:29
  if
• 1:29
  this
• 1:30
  podcast
• 1:30
  supports
• 1:31
  you,
• 1:31
  make
• 1:32
  sure
• 1:32
  you're
• 1:32
  subscribed.
• 1:33
  So
• 1:33
  these
• 1:33
  conversations
• 1:34
  can
• 1:34
  meet
• 1:34
  you
• 1:35
  each
• 1:35
  week.
• 1:36
  Now
• 1:36
  let's
• 1:37
  talk
• 1:37
  about
• 1:37
  the
• 1:38
  narrative.
• 1:38
  We
• 1:39
  keep
• 1:39
  hearing.
• 1:40
  If
• 1:40
  your
• 1:40
  standards
• 1:41
  are
• 1:41
  too
• 1:41
  high,
• 1:42
  no
• 1:42
  one
• 1:42
  will
• 1:42
  ever
• 1:42
  meet
• 1:43
  them.
• 1:43
  You're
• 1:43
  gonna
• 1:44
  end
• 1:44
  up
• 1:44
  alone.
• 1:45
  You're
• 1:45
  asking
• 1:46
  for
• 1:46
  more
• 1:46
  than
• 1:47
  you
• 1:47
  can
• 1:47
  give.
• 1:47
  You
• 1:48
  don't
• 1:48
  even
• 1:48
  meet
• 1:48
  your
• 1:48
  own
• 1:49
  standards.
• 1:52
  Now,
• 1:52
  if
• 1:52
  you've
• 1:53
  heard
• 1:53
  any
• 1:53
  of
• 1:53
  these
• 1:54
  things,
• 1:54
  here's
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  the
• 1:55
  problem
• 1:56
  with
• 1:56
  that
• 1:56
  framing.
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  Aside
• 1:57
  from
• 1:57
  it
• 1:57
  being
• 1:58
  extremely
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  offensive.
• 2:02
  It
• 2:02
  treats
• 2:03
  standards
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  like
• 2:04
  performance
• 2:05
  metrics
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  instead
• 2:06
  of
• 2:07
  personal
• 2:07
  alignment
• 2:08
  markers,
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  and
• 2:10
  those
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  are
• 2:11
  two
• 2:11
  very
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  different
• 2:13
  things.
• 2:14
  Here's
• 2:14
  what
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  no
• 2:14
  one
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  taught
• 2:15
  us.
• 2:15
  Desire
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  is
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  data.
• 2:18
  It
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  tells
• 2:18
  you
• 2:19
  what
• 2:19
  environment
• 2:20
  you
• 2:20
  thrive
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  in,
• 2:21
  what
• 2:21
  drains
• 2:22
  you,
• 2:22
  what
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  aligns
• 2:23
  with
• 2:24
  who
• 2:24
  you're
• 2:24
  becoming.
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  But
• 2:25
  somewhere
• 2:26
  along
• 2:26
  the
• 2:26
  way,
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  women
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  learn
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  to
• 2:28
  treat
• 2:28
  desire
• 2:29
  like
• 2:29
  a
• 2:29
  problem
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  to
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  be.
• 2:30
  Solved
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  instead
• 2:32
  of
• 2:32
  a
• 2:32
  signal
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  to
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  honor.
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  So
• 2:34
  instead
• 2:35
  of
• 2:35
  asking,
• 2:36
  why
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  do
• 2:36
  I
• 2:36
  want
• 2:37
  this,
• 2:37
  we
• 2:38
  started
• 2:38
  asking,
• 2:39
  how
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  do
• 2:39
  I
• 2:39
  stop
• 2:40
  wanting
• 2:41
  this?
• 2:41
  That's
• 2:42
  not
• 2:42
  growth.
• 2:43
  That's
• 2:43
  self
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  abandonment
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  and
• 2:44
  dress
• 2:45
  up
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  as
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  maturity.
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  Your
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  desires
• 2:47
  didn't
• 2:47
  come
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  to
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  make
• 2:48
  you
• 2:49
  difficult.
• 2:50
  They
• 2:50
  came
• 2:50
  to
• 2:50
  direct
• 2:51
  you
• 2:52
  toward
• 2:52
  alignment.
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  Standards
• 2:55
  are
• 2:55
  really
• 2:55
  just
• 2:56
  desires
• 2:57
  you
• 2:57
  are
• 2:57
  willing
• 2:57
  to
• 2:57
  stand
• 2:58
  behind.
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  A
• 2:59
  standard
• 2:59
  is
• 3:00
  simply
• 3:00
  a
• 3:00
  desire
• 3:01
  that
• 3:01
  you
• 3:02
  no
• 3:02
  longer
• 3:02
  negotiate
• 3:03
  away.
• 3:04
  That's
• 3:04
  it.
• 3:05
  Not
• 3:05
  a
• 3:05
  rule,
• 3:06
  not
• 3:06
  a
• 3:06
  demand,
• 3:07
  not
• 3:07
  a
• 3:07
  test.
• 3:08
  Standards
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  are
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  not
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  finish
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  lines.
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  They're
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  filters.
• 3:11
  Standards
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  aren't
• 3:12
  just
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  a
• 3:13
  checklist
• 3:13
  that
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  someone
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  has
• 3:14
  to
• 3:14
  pass.
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  They
• 3:16
  are
• 3:16
  a
• 3:16
  filter
• 3:16
  for
• 3:17
  the
• 3:17
  life
• 3:17
  you
• 3:18
  are
• 3:18
  building.
• 3:19
  So
• 3:19
  when
• 3:19
  you
• 3:20
  say,
• 3:20
  I
• 3:20
  value
• 3:21
  emotional
• 3:22
  availability,
• 3:23
  I
• 3:23
  desire
• 3:24
  peace
• 3:24
  in
• 3:24
  my
• 3:25
  nervousness.
• 3:26
  I
• 3:26
  want
• 3:26
  consistency,
• 3:27
  integrity,
• 3:28
  and
• 3:28
  depth.
• 3:29
  You
• 3:29
  are
• 3:29
  not
• 3:30
  demanding
• 3:30
  perfection.
• 3:32
  You
• 3:32
  are
• 3:32
  describing
• 3:33
  the
• 3:33
  environment
• 3:34
  where
• 3:34
  you
• 3:34
  thrive.
• 3:36
  That's
• 3:36
  not
• 3:36
  entitlement,
• 3:38
  that's
• 3:38
  self-awareness.
• 3:40
  So
• 3:40
  if
• 3:40
  you
• 3:41
  are
• 3:41
  saying,
• 3:41
  this
• 3:42
  matters
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  me,
• 3:43
  I
• 3:43
  move
• 3:43
  best
• 3:44
  in
• 3:44
  this
• 3:45
  energy,
• 3:45
  or
• 3:46
  I
• 3:46
  don't
• 3:46
  thrive
• 3:47
  without
• 3:47
  this,
• 3:48
  it's
• 3:49
  like
• 3:49
  saying.
• 3:50
  I
• 3:50
  can't
• 3:50
  start
• 3:50
  my
• 3:51
  day
• 3:51
  without
• 3:52
  a
• 3:52
  cup
• 3:52
  of
• 3:52
  coffee,
• 3:52
  and
• 3:52
  you
• 3:53
  wouldn't
• 3:53
  want
• 3:53
  me
• 3:53
  to
• 3:53
  either.
• 3:58
  When
• 3:58
  you
• 3:59
  frame
• 3:59
  standards
• 4:00
  this
• 4:00
  way,
• 4:01
  guilt
• 4:01
  dissolves
• 4:02
  because
• 4:02
  you
• 4:02
  are
• 4:03
  not
• 4:03
  asking
• 4:03
  anyone
• 4:04
  to
• 4:04
  change.
• 4:05
  You
• 4:05
  are
• 4:05
  just
• 4:06
  choosing
• 4:06
  where
• 4:07
  you
• 4:07
  place
• 4:08
  yourself.
• 4:09
  Standards
• 4:09
  don't
• 4:10
  control
• 4:10
  people.
• 4:11
  They
• 4:11
  clarify
• 4:12
  compatibility.
• 4:14
  And
• 4:14
  there
• 4:14
  is
• 4:14
  the
• 4:15
  argument
• 4:15
  that
• 4:15
  your
• 4:16
  standards
• 4:16
  are
• 4:16
  too
• 4:16
  high.
• 4:17
  Truth
• 4:18
  be
• 4:18
  told,
• 4:18
  the
• 4:18
  two
• 4:19
  high
• 4:19
  standards
• 4:20
  myth
• 4:20
  is
• 4:20
  rooted
• 4:21
  in
• 4:21
  misalignment,
• 4:23
  not
• 4:23
  reality.
• 4:24
  When
• 4:24
  people
• 4:24
  say
• 4:25
  your
• 4:25
  standards
• 4:26
  are
• 4:26
  too
• 4:26
  high,
• 4:27
  what
• 4:27
  that
• 4:27
  usually
• 4:28
  means
• 4:28
  is
• 4:29
  those
• 4:30
  standards
• 4:30
  would
• 4:31
  require
• 4:31
  me
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  grow,
• 4:33
  and
• 4:33
  some
• 4:33
  people
• 4:34
  are
• 4:34
  not
• 4:34
  interested
• 4:35
  in
• 4:35
  growing
• 4:36
  at
• 4:36
  the
• 4:36
  moment,
• 4:37
  and
• 4:37
  that's
• 4:37
  not
• 4:38
  your
• 4:38
  responsibility
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  manage.
• 4:40
  Your
• 4:40
  standards
• 4:41
  aren't
• 4:41
  about
• 4:42
  ensuring
• 4:43
  someone
• 4:43
  else
• 4:44
  meets
• 4:44
  them.
• 4:45
  They
• 4:45
  are
• 4:45
  about
• 4:45
  ensuring
• 4:47
  you
• 4:47
  don't
• 4:47
  betray
• 4:48
  yourself.
• 4:49
  That
• 4:50
  is
• 4:50
  the
• 4:50
  shift.
• 4:51
  Standards
• 4:51
  are
• 4:52
  not
• 4:52
  about
• 4:52
  outcomes.
• 4:53
  They're
• 4:53
  about
• 4:54
  orientation.
• 4:55
  They
• 4:55
  orient
• 4:56
  your
• 4:56
  decisions
• 4:58
  toward
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  life
• 4:59
  that
• 4:59
  you
• 4:59
  actually
• 5:00
  want
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  live.
• 5:01
  This
• 5:02
  is
• 5:02
  where
• 5:02
  I
• 5:02
  see
• 5:02
  so
• 5:03
  many
• 5:03
  women
• 5:03
  get
• 5:04
  stuck.
• 5:04
  They
• 5:04
  think
• 5:05
  boundaries
• 5:06
  mean
• 5:06
  rejection,
• 5:07
  conflict
• 5:08
  cutting
• 5:08
  people
• 5:09
  off,
• 5:10
  but
• 5:10
  boundaries
• 5:10
  are
• 5:11
  simply
• 5:11
  the
• 5:11
  containers
• 5:12
  that
• 5:12
  protect
• 5:13
  your
• 5:13
  desires.
• 5:14
  If
• 5:15
  desire
• 5:16
  is
• 5:16
  the
• 5:16
  direction,
• 5:17
  boundaries
• 5:18
  are
• 5:18
  the
• 5:18
  guardrails.
• 5:20
  They
• 5:20
  say,
• 5:21
  I
• 5:21
  won't
• 5:21
  stay
• 5:22
  where
• 5:22
  my
• 5:22
  needs
• 5:23
  are
• 5:23
  minimized.
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  won't
• 5:25
  keep
• 5:25
  explaining
• 5:26
  what
• 5:26
  I
• 5:26
  already
• 5:27
  know
• 5:27
  is
• 5:27
  true
• 5:28
  for
• 5:28
  me.
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  won't
• 5:29
  override
• 5:30
  my
• 5:30
  nervous
• 5:31
  system
• 5:31
  to
• 5:32
  keep
• 5:32
  the
• 5:32
  peace.
• 5:33
  Boundaries
• 5:34
  aren't
• 5:34
  pushing
• 5:34
  people
• 5:35
  away.
• 5:36
  They
• 5:36
  are
• 5:36
  about
• 5:37
  keeping
• 5:37
  yourself
• 5:38
  intact.
• 5:39
  Here's
• 5:40
  the
• 5:40
  main
• 5:41
  character
• 5:41
  truth.
• 5:42
  You
• 5:43
  don't
• 5:43
  need
• 5:43
  to
• 5:43
  convince
• 5:44
  anyone
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  your
• 5:45
  desires.
• 5:47
  You
• 5:47
  need
• 5:47
  to
• 5:47
  choose
• 5:48
  environments
• 5:48
  that
• 5:49
  honor
• 5:49
  them.
• 5:50
  Negotiation
• 5:51
  energy
• 5:51
  sounds
• 5:52
  like
• 5:52
  maybe
• 5:53
  I'm
• 5:53
  asking
• 5:53
  too
• 5:53
  much.
• 5:54
  I
• 5:54
  can
• 5:54
  be
• 5:54
  flexible
• 5:56
  again,
• 5:57
  or
• 5:57
  it's
• 5:57
  not
• 5:58
  that
• 5:58
  big
• 5:58
  of
• 5:59
  a
• 5:59
  deal.
• 5:59
  Alignment
• 6:00
  energy
• 6:01
  sounds
• 6:01
  like
• 6:02
  this
• 6:02
  matters
• 6:02
  to
• 6:03
  me.
• 6:03
  I
• 6:04
  trust
• 6:04
  myself.
• 6:05
  I
• 6:05
  don't
• 6:06
  need
• 6:06
  permission
• 6:07
  to
• 6:07
  want
• 6:07
  what
• 6:08
  I
• 6:08
  want.
• 6:08
  The
• 6:09
  moment
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  stop
• 6:10
  negotiating
• 6:11
  your
• 6:11
  desires,
• 6:12
  your
• 6:12
  life
• 6:13
  gets
• 6:13
  quieter,
• 6:14
  but
• 6:15
  clearer
• 6:16
  and
• 6:16
  clarity
• 6:17
  is
• 6:17
  power.
• 6:19
  alignment
• 6:19
  removes
• 6:20
  the
• 6:20
  fear
• 6:21
  that
• 6:22
  no
• 6:22
  one
• 6:22
  will
• 6:22
  meet
• 6:23
  this.
• 6:23
  when
• 6:24
  standards
• 6:24
  come
• 6:25
  from
• 6:25
  desire,
• 6:26
  not
• 6:26
  fear,
• 6:27
  you
• 6:28
  stop
• 6:28
  scanning
• 6:28
  the
• 6:29
  room
• 6:29
  anxiously
• 6:30
  you
• 6:30
  are
• 6:31
  not
• 6:31
  asking,
• 6:31
  will
• 6:32
  anyone
• 6:32
  ever
• 6:33
  meet
• 6:33
  this?
• 6:34
  You
• 6:34
  are
• 6:34
  grounded
• 6:35
  in
• 6:36
  I
• 6:36
  trust
• 6:36
  what
• 6:37
  aligns.
• 6:38
  Will
• 6:38
  recognize
• 6:39
  me.
• 6:40
  Alignment
• 6:40
  energy,
• 6:41
  it's
• 6:41
  calm,
• 6:42
  it
• 6:42
  doesn't
• 6:43
  hustle,
• 6:43
  it
• 6:44
  doesn't
• 6:44
  beg.
• 6:45
  It
• 6:45
  simply
• 6:45
  chooses
• 6:46
  accordingly.
• 6:47
  And
• 6:48
  when
• 6:48
  we
• 6:48
  talk
• 6:48
  about
• 6:48
  standards,
• 6:49
  I
• 6:49
  know
• 6:50
  that
• 6:50
  this
• 6:50
  topic
• 6:51
  sounds
• 6:51
  very
• 6:52
  relationship-oriented,
• 6:54
  but
• 6:54
  it
• 6:55
  actually
• 6:55
  applies
• 6:56
  to
• 6:56
  any
• 6:57
  area
• 6:57
  in
• 6:58
  your
• 6:58
  life,
• 6:58
  you
• 6:59
  may
• 6:59
  even
• 6:59
  see
• 7:00
  this
• 7:00
  at
• 7:00
  work
• 7:01
  in
• 7:01
  your
• 7:01
  career
• 7:02
  or
• 7:02
  just
• 7:02
  environments
• 7:03
  that
• 7:03
  you're
• 7:03
  in.
• 7:04
  You
• 7:04
  can
• 7:05
  technically
• 7:05
  walk
• 7:06
  in
• 7:06
  shoes
• 7:06
  that
• 7:07
  are
• 7:07
  too
• 7:07
  small,
• 7:08
  but
• 7:08
  over
• 7:09
  time,
• 7:09
  they
• 7:10
  damage
• 7:10
  your
• 7:10
  feet
• 7:11
  and
• 7:12
  you
• 7:12
  start
• 7:12
  blaming
• 7:13
  yourself
• 7:13
  for
• 7:14
  limping.
• 7:15
  High
• 7:15
  standards
• 7:16
  at
• 7:16
  work
• 7:17
  aren't
• 7:17
  about
• 7:17
  being
• 7:18
  hard
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  manage.
• 7:19
  They
• 7:20
  are
• 7:20
  about
• 7:20
  knowing
• 7:21
  how
• 7:22
  you
• 7:22
  work
• 7:22
  best.
• 7:23
  What
• 7:23
  drains
• 7:24
  you,
• 7:24
  what
• 7:25
  kind
• 7:25
  of
• 7:25
  leadership
• 7:26
  you
• 7:26
  thrive
• 7:27
  under
• 7:27
  A
• 7:28
  desire,
• 7:28
  like
• 7:28
  flexibility,
• 7:30
  respect,
• 7:31
  or
• 7:31
  creative
• 7:32
  autonomy
• 7:33
  isn't
• 7:33
  entitlement.
• 7:34
  It's
• 7:34
  information
• 7:35
  about
• 7:36
  how
• 7:36
  you
• 7:36
  produce
• 7:37
  your
• 7:37
  best
• 7:38
  work.
• 7:39
  Lowering
• 7:39
  your
• 7:39
  standards
• 7:40
  won't
• 7:40
  make
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  more
• 7:42
  adaptable.
• 7:43
  It
• 7:43
  just
• 7:43
  makes
• 7:44
  you
• 7:45
  exhausted.
• 7:47
  hey,
• 7:48
  friend,
• 7:48
  if
• 7:48
  you've
• 7:49
  done
• 7:49
  the
• 7:49
  inner
• 7:49
  work,
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  journaling,
• 7:51
  reflecting,
• 7:52
  understanding
• 7:52
  yourself,
• 7:53
  but
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  still
• 7:54
  feel
• 7:54
  like
• 7:54
  something
• 7:55
  isn't
• 7:55
  clicking,
• 7:56
  listen
• 7:56
  closely.
• 7:57
  Awareness
• 7:58
  isn't
• 7:58
  the
• 7:58
  problem
• 7:58
  anymore.
• 7:59
  What's
• 8:00
  missing?
• 8:00
  Is
• 8:01
  movement
• 8:01
  and
• 8:02
  I
• 8:02
  got
• 8:02
  you.
• 8:03
  The
• 8:03
  Main
• 8:03
  Character
• 8:04
  Momentum
• 8:04
  Builder
• 8:05
  is
• 8:05
  where
• 8:05
  self-trust
• 8:06
  turns
• 8:06
  into
• 8:07
  action.
• 8:07
  Not
• 8:08
  hustle,
• 8:08
  not
• 8:09
  pressure.
• 8:09
  Just
• 8:10
  steady,
• 8:10
  aligned,
• 8:11
  forward
• 8:12
  motion.
• 8:13
  If
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  are
• 8:14
  ready
• 8:14
  to
• 8:14
  stop
• 8:15
  collecting
• 8:15
  insight
• 8:16
  and
• 8:16
  start
• 8:16
  living
• 8:17
  differently,
• 8:18
  this
• 8:18
  is
• 8:18
  where
• 8:18
  momentum
• 8:19
  begins.
• 8:20
  You'll
• 8:20
  find
• 8:20
  it
• 8:21
  linked
• 8:21
  in
• 8:21
  the
• 8:21
  show
• 8:22
  notes.
• 8:25
  Okay,
• 8:25
  now
• 8:26
  let's
• 8:26
  make
• 8:26
  this
• 8:27
  real,
• 8:27
  not
• 8:28
  theoretical.
• 8:29
  There's
• 8:29
  a
• 8:30
  wisdom
• 8:30
  inside
• 8:31
  you
• 8:31
  that
• 8:31
  already
• 8:32
  knows
• 8:33
  what
• 8:33
  aligns,
• 8:34
  not
• 8:35
  because
• 8:35
  you
• 8:35
  figured
• 8:36
  it
• 8:36
  out,
• 8:36
  but
• 8:36
  because
• 8:36
  you
• 8:37
  felt
• 8:37
  it.
• 8:38
  So
• 8:38
  let's
• 8:39
  pause
• 8:39
  long
• 8:40
  enough
• 8:40
  to
• 8:40
  hear
• 8:40
  it.
• 8:41
  This
• 8:41
  self-love
• 8:42
  two
• 8:42
  step
• 8:43
  is
• 8:43
  the
• 8:43
  desire,
• 8:44
  alignment,
• 8:45
  reset.
• 8:46
  Step
• 8:46
  one,
• 8:47
  name
• 8:47
  the
• 8:47
  desire
• 8:48
  without
• 8:49
  editing
• 8:49
  it.
• 8:50
  Here's
• 8:50
  your
• 8:51
  invitation.
• 8:51
  Take
• 8:52
  one
• 8:52
  desire
• 8:53
  that
• 8:53
  you've
• 8:53
  been
• 8:54
  downplaying,
• 8:55
  justifying,
• 8:56
  or
• 8:56
  minimize
• 8:57
  it
• 8:57
  and
• 8:57
  name
• 8:58
  it
• 8:58
  honestly
• 8:59
  not
• 8:59
  to
• 8:59
  explain
• 9:00
  it,
• 9:00
  not
• 9:00
  to
• 9:01
  make
• 9:01
  it
• 9:01
  sound
• 9:01
  reasonable
• 9:02
  and
• 9:02
  certainly
• 9:03
  not
• 9:04
  to
• 9:04
  water
• 9:04
  it
• 9:05
  down.
• 9:05
  So
• 9:05
  it
• 9:06
  feels
• 9:06
  safer.
• 9:06
  Just
• 9:07
  name
• 9:07
  it.
• 9:08
  Because
• 9:08
  clarity
• 9:09
  begins
• 9:10
  when
• 9:10
  you
• 9:10
  stop
• 9:10
  arguing
• 9:11
  with
• 9:11
  yourself
• 9:12
  and
• 9:12
  Jesus.
• 9:16
  And
• 9:16
  this
• 9:17
  step
• 9:17
  isn't
• 9:17
  about
• 9:18
  action
• 9:18
  yet.
• 9:19
  It's
• 9:19
  just
• 9:20
  self
• 9:20
  permission.
• 9:21
  Step
• 9:22
  two.
• 9:22
  Align
• 9:23
  your
• 9:23
  next
• 9:24
  choice
• 9:25
  with
• 9:25
  that
• 9:25
  desire.
• 9:26
  Ask
• 9:26
  yourself,
• 9:27
  what
• 9:27
  is
• 9:28
  one
• 9:28
  choice
• 9:29
  I
• 9:29
  can
• 9:29
  make
• 9:29
  this
• 9:30
  week
• 9:30
  that
• 9:31
  honors
• 9:31
  this
• 9:32
  desire?
• 9:33
  Not
• 9:33
  a
• 9:33
  life
• 9:34
  overhaul.
• 9:35
  Doesn't
• 9:35
  have
• 9:35
  to
• 9:35
  be
• 9:36
  a
• 9:36
  dramatic
• 9:36
  boundary
• 9:37
  speech,
• 9:37
  just
• 9:38
  alignment
• 9:39
  in
• 9:39
  motion.
• 9:40
  this
• 9:41
  might
• 9:41
  look
• 9:41
  like
• 9:41
  choosing
• 9:42
  rest
• 9:43
  instead
• 9:43
  of
• 9:43
  pushing
• 9:44
  it,
• 9:44
  saying
• 9:44
  no
• 9:45
  without
• 9:45
  over
• 9:46
  explaining,
• 9:46
  creating
• 9:47
  space
• 9:48
  instead
• 9:49
  of
• 9:49
  forcing
• 9:49
  connection
• 9:50
  or
• 9:51
  redirecting
• 9:51
  your
• 9:51
  energy
• 9:52
  towards
• 9:53
  what
• 9:53
  feels
• 9:53
  right.
• 9:54
  Alignment
• 9:55
  doesn't
• 9:55
  require
• 9:56
  intensity.
• 9:57
  It
• 9:57
  requires
• 9:58
  consistency.
• 10:00
  Now
• 10:00
  lemme
• 10:00
  pour
• 10:01
  into
• 10:01
  you
• 10:01
  real
• 10:01
  quick.
• 10:02
  Because
• 10:02
  standards
• 10:03
  keep
• 10:04
  you
• 10:04
  aligned
• 10:05
  with
• 10:05
  the
• 10:05
  version
• 10:06
  of
• 10:06
  you
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  are
• 10:07
  rising
• 10:07
  into.
• 10:08
  It's
• 10:09
  how
• 10:09
  you
• 10:09
  honor
• 10:10
  the
• 10:10
  life
• 10:10
  you
• 10:10
  are
• 10:11
  creating.
• 10:12
  High
• 10:12
  standards
• 10:13
  don't
• 10:13
  limit
• 10:14
  your
• 10:14
  chances.
• 10:15
  They
• 10:15
  protect
• 10:16
  your
• 10:16
  time,
• 10:17
  your
• 10:17
  energy,
• 10:17
  your
• 10:18
  peace.
• 10:19
  And
• 10:19
  your
• 10:20
  future
• 10:20
  self.
• 10:21
  They
• 10:21
  say,
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  trust
• 10:22
  my
• 10:23
  desires.
• 10:24
  I
• 10:24
  value
• 10:24
  alignment
• 10:25
  over
• 10:26
  access.
• 10:27
  I
• 10:27
  choose.
• 10:28
  Resonance
• 10:29
  over
• 10:30
  reassurance,
• 10:31
  and
• 10:31
  that
• 10:32
  is
• 10:32
  not
• 10:32
  high
• 10:33
  maintenance.
• 10:34
  That's
• 10:34
  main
• 10:34
  character
• 10:35
  energy,
• 10:36
  okay?
• 10:37
  You
• 10:37
  don't
• 10:37
  need
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  become
• 10:38
  less
• 10:39
  to
• 10:39
  be
• 10:39
  loved.
• 10:40
  You
• 10:40
  don't
• 10:41
  need
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  edit
• 10:42
  your
• 10:42
  desires
• 10:43
  to
• 10:43
  be
• 10:43
  chosen,
• 10:44
  and
• 10:44
  you
• 10:44
  don't
• 10:45
  need
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  justify
• 10:46
  what
• 10:46
  brings
• 10:47
  you
• 10:47
  peace,
• 10:48
  safety,
• 10:49
  joy,
• 10:49
  or
• 10:49
  expansion.
• 10:51
  The
• 10:51
  right
• 10:51
  people
• 10:52
  won't
• 10:52
  feel
• 10:53
  threatened
• 10:53
  by
• 10:53
  your
• 10:54
  desires.
• 10:55
  They'll
• 10:55
  feel
• 10:56
  aligned
• 10:57
  with
• 10:57
  them,
• 10:58
  and
• 10:58
  this
• 10:58
  is
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  season
• 10:59
  where
• 10:59
  you
• 11:00
  say,
• 11:00
  I
• 11:01
  don't
• 11:01
  lower
• 11:01
  my
• 11:01
  standards
• 11:02
  to
• 11:02
  keep
• 11:03
  connection.
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  raise
• 11:05
  my
• 11:05
  alignment
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  match
• 11:07
  my
• 11:07
  values.
• 11:08
  This
• 11:08
  isn't
• 11:09
  just
• 11:09
  about
• 11:09
  relationships.
• 11:11
  This
• 11:11
  is
• 11:11
  how
• 11:12
  you
• 11:12
  build
• 11:12
  a
• 11:12
  life
• 11:13
  that
• 11:13
  feels
• 11:14
  like
• 11:14
  home
• 11:14
  to
• 11:15
  you.
• 11:15
  Standards
• 11:16
  aren't
• 11:16
  just
• 11:16
  rules
• 11:17
  for
• 11:17
  other
• 11:17
  people.
• 11:18
  They
• 11:18
  are
• 11:19
  reflections
• 11:20
  of
• 11:20
  what
• 11:20
  allow
• 11:21
  you
• 11:22
  to
• 11:22
  thrive
• 11:22
  leads
• 11:23
  your
• 11:23
  present
• 11:24
  decisions.
• 11:25
  Your
• 11:25
  standards
• 11:26
  reflect
• 11:27
  what
• 11:27
  you
• 11:27
  respect
• 11:28
  within
• 11:29
  yourself
• 11:29
  and
• 11:30
  your
• 11:30
  life,
• 11:30
  your
• 11:30
  values,
• 11:31
  your
• 11:31
  vision.
• 11:32
  And
• 11:33
  your
• 11:33
  self
• 11:33
  respect
• 11:34
  alignment
• 11:35
  feels
• 11:35
  calm
• 11:36
  and
• 11:36
  peaceful.
• 11:37
  If
• 11:37
  it
• 11:38
  feels
• 11:38
  forced,
• 11:39
  that's
• 11:39
  your
• 11:39
  sign.
• 11:40
  It's
• 11:40
  not
• 11:41
  aligned
• 11:42
  straight
• 11:43
  up.
• 11:44
  High
• 11:44
  standards
• 11:45
  aren't
• 11:45
  high
• 11:46
  maintenance.
• 11:46
  They
• 11:47
  are
• 11:47
  high
• 11:47
  alignment.
• 11:49
  They
• 11:49
  are
• 11:49
  an
• 11:49
  act
• 11:50
  of
• 11:50
  devotion
• 11:51
  to
• 11:51
  the
• 11:51
  life
• 11:51
  you
• 11:51
  want
• 11:52
  to
• 11:52
  live.
• 11:53
  You
• 11:53
  can
• 11:53
  trust
• 11:54
  your
• 11:54
  desires
• 11:55
  enough
• 11:56
  to
• 11:56
  build
• 11:56
  your
• 11:57
  life
• 11:57
  around
• 11:57
  them.
• 11:58
  Desires
• 11:59
  are
• 11:59
  divine
• 12:00
  clues,
• 12:00
  gently
• 12:02
  guiding
• 12:02
  you
• 12:02
  back
• 12:02
  home
• 12:03
  to
• 12:03
  yourself
• 12:04
  and
• 12:04
  reminding
• 12:05
  you
• 12:05
  of
• 12:06
  who
• 12:06
  you
• 12:06
  are
• 12:06
  meant
• 12:07
  to
• 12:07
  be.
• 12:10
  Mm.
• 12:10
  Now
• 12:11
  if
• 12:11
  this
• 12:11
  episode
• 12:12
  resonated,
• 12:13
  don't
• 12:13
  rush
• 12:14
  past
• 12:14
  it.
• 12:15
  Let
• 12:15
  it
• 12:15
  recalibrate
• 12:16
  how
• 12:16
  you
• 12:16
  talk
• 12:17
  to
• 12:17
  yourself
• 12:18
  this
• 12:18
  week.
• 12:18
  Subscribe
• 12:19
  so
• 12:19
  we
• 12:20
  keep
• 12:20
  building
• 12:20
  this
• 12:21
  version
• 12:21
  of
• 12:21
  you.
• 12:21
  The
• 12:22
  one
• 12:22
  who
• 12:22
  trusts
• 12:23
  herself,
• 12:24
  honors
• 12:24
  her
• 12:24
  desires
• 12:25
  and
• 12:25
  moves
• 12:26
  with
• 12:26
  quiet
• 12:26
  certainty.
• 12:27
  There
• 12:27
  is
• 12:28
  a
• 12:28
  version
• 12:28
  of
• 12:28
  you
• 12:28
  who
• 12:29
  already
• 12:29
  trust
• 12:30
  her
• 12:31
  desires.
• 12:32
  She's
• 12:32
  not
• 12:32
  rushing,
• 12:33
  she's
• 12:33
  not
• 12:33
  negotiating,
• 12:35
  she's
• 12:35
  not
• 12:35
  afraid.
• 12:37
  She
• 12:37
  knows
• 12:38
  what
• 12:39
  aligns
• 12:39
  with
• 12:39
  her.
• 12:40
  Not
• 12:40
  because
• 12:41
  she
• 12:41
  chased
• 12:41
  it,
• 12:42
  but
• 12:42
  because
• 12:43
  she
• 12:43
  stayed
• 12:44
  true.
• 12:45
  So
• 12:45
  walk
• 12:46
  with
• 12:46
  that
• 12:46
  knowing
• 12:47
  this
• 12:47
  week
• 12:47
  and
• 12:48
  let
• 12:48
  peace
• 12:49
  be
• 12:49
  your
• 12:49
  confirmation.
• 12:50
  And
• 12:50
  I'll
• 12:51
  be
• 12:51
  right
• 12:51
  here
• 12:51
  reminding
• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  of
• 12:52
  that
• 12:53
  every
• 12:53
  single
• 12:54
  step
• 12:54
  of
• 12:54
  the
• 12:54
  way.
• 12:55
  I
• 12:55
  love
• 12:55
  you
• 12:55
  friend.