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253: Quit the Pursuit for a Perfect Routine: Motion Over Perfection for ADHD Brains · JOY LOVING HOME - SAHM, Productivity, Home Organization, Declutter, ADHD Mom, ADHD SAHM, ADHD Brain

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  Today, on day four of our Building a Runway into the New Year series,
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  we are going to chat about the value of some mindless motion for our ADHD brains.
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  And it is literally the number one issue when I talk to listeners about what
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  is their biggest stumbling block to getting their homes in order.
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  And over and over again, I hear things like just getting myself to take action,
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  knowing where to start, not freezing, all of those types of things.
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  And we're going to dig into really how to get ourselves into action today.
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  A wise person once said, everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its
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  ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it's stupid.
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  Well, fish, quit trying to climb trees while getting advice from well-intentioned monkeys.
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  It's time to jump in the water and learn
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  how to swim with the current of your life I'm Joy a
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  professional organizer mom of four and fellow
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  fish brain if you're looking for a place to get understanding encouragement
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  and ideas for your home that actually fit how your brain thinks then I'm glad
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  you're here let's ditch the type A advice and embrace what makes our brains
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  and our homes unique together we could have a joy loving home.
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  If you've been here a while, you know that I talk about this in a lot of different
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  ways, and we can have it repeated constantly because we keep needing to hear
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  it. But if you're new here, and welcome.
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  This series started at episode 250, and it's us just getting ourselves going
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  in this new year in ways that help us not feel defeated so quickly so that we can keep moving.
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  And today, This main focus is this overcoming our inertia to really keep ourselves
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  in motion and keep going about our house.
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  And so the biggest gift I can give you, if this is your only takeaway from this
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  week and you never listen to me again,
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  the biggest gift I can give you is to let you know
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  that this endless pursuit for the perfect routine or cleaning strategy or way
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  that it's done that you seem to keep missing or not sticking to and then beating
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  yourself up and feeling failure and feeling defeated over and over and over again.
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  If I can ask you to do one thing, it is to give that up.
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  Quit the pursuit. Quit the, the.
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  Defeat that you feel because you aren't successful at that kind of thing, none of that is for you.
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  That part of the cleaning and organizing industry is for type A people by type
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  A people who are teaching other type A people ways to try that are suited towards them.
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  Those are all what I call the monkey brains if you listen to my intro.
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  For us fish people, our brains are not meant for routine.
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  They are not meant for consistency.
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  I'm sorry, they're not. They're not. We seek novelty. We seek urgency.
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  And giving up all of the effort you put into that and shifting it into just
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  getting yourself into motion is going to be the difference.
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  Think about the number of times you have started
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  to take action on your home and you freeze
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  because you think you're going to start it wrong or work on the wrong thing
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  or do it the wrong way or I've got to wait until I know just how to do it or
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  I get the right organizing tools or I buy the right cleaners or I find the right
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  image on Pinterest that's exactly what I want to copy,
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  or I search the person on Instagram that's going to tell me the exact steps,
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  and their house is going to look just like my house, and I need to find it exactly
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  right before I can take motion.
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  That type of perfectionism is what is killing you.
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  That inaction, that inability to get yourself moving, not overcoming your inertia
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  is what is messing it all up.
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  You need to give yourself, or if you need outside permission,
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  you have outside permission from me to say there isn't a perfect way to do this.
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  There isn't a perfect system out there. it's not that you haven't found the right person to follow.
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  You are allowed to do this any way you want to and doing anything is the better
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  than doing nothing option.
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  And I know you hear this whole progress over perfection and you're like,
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  yeah, but they think I'm actually progressing in a right direction.
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  We're just motion. All I'm seeking from you is mindless motion.
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  So right now, with me in your ears, as long as you're not driving,
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  or out on a walk somewhere, go ahead, stand up.
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  Stand up right now and walk towards anything that you gravitate towards.
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  If you're a listener of Danny Kate White over at a slob comes clean,
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  just pick up a trash can or a trash bag and start putting obvious trash in it.
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  If you're afraid you're going to throw away something important and that does
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  not resonate to you, walk over to the kitchen and if the dishwasher is clean, start emptying it.
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  If the dishwasher is dirty, but all the way full, put a pot in and push start.
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  If it's dirty, but it's not all the way full, grab any dish you see from anywhere
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  and keep filling it until it's full and then let's start it.
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  If the kitchen freaks you out because it's so far beyond knowing where to even
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  pick up the first dish and.
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  Honestly, you could just pick up a dish, hand wash it, hand dry it,
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  and put it away right now. You don't need to worry about any space being available.
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  If you could walk over to the washing machine and open the lid,
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  has it been sitting there for a while, go ahead and put a little bit of fresh
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  soap in it or vinegar or baking soda and restart it.
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  If it's empty, fill it with anything and push start.
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  If it's your bed and you
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  can attempt to make it or clear it off so
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  that it could be made or go make a kid's bed any number of mindless things that
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  you don't have to make a decision about any of those things go ahead and do
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  it if it's grab a box of Clorox wipes and wipe down a countertop or,
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  sink if the countertop is too full or move some stuff out of the sink and wipe
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  down a sink and wipe down a faucet.
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  Any amount of any little bit of motion takes that fish of you,
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  that fish brain of yours, and
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  it will help it to start swimming until you get pulled in by a current.
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  And the next thing you know, you're just moving around doing things.
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  And doing things is better than not doing anything.
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  That's the motion I need you to get into. And if today is a day that you're
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  just like, I tried, Joy, I really, I stood up and I tried and I just turned
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  in circles, then you're stuck in a whirlpool and it's okay.
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  Today might not be the day, but I want you to try again.
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  And if it's not trying again tomorrow, maybe it's trying again in an hour.
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  Maybe it's trying again in 15 minutes. So grab your phone and set yourself a
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  little alarm and try again when it goes off.
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  Or try to keep moving until it goes off if you've discovered you're up and you're actually moving.
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  It's this motion is what we're lacking.
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  It's not the seeking how to or where to or what to do. It's seek and get some motion going.
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  That's literally the goal.
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  There isn't any more complex anything I can put on this.
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  If it helps to play a favorite song, if it helps to put on an audiobook that
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  you can get lost into, if it helps to put on your favorite podcast, hello,
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  then get something in your ears and get into motion.
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  And if you are somebody with littles all around you,
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  and you can't put stuff in your ears, and you don't want to distract yourself in that way,
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  and all you can do is sit down with your kid on the floor and play whatever
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  you can reach on the floor near them that you can be putting into a bucket or
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  putting onto a shelf or have a dust rag with you and just say,
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  I'm just going to dust under the clutter around where I'm sitting with my baby.
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  Go for it. If it's clearing out a little corner and dusting off that dust,
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  you know, that corner, or if you can have the vacuum near your little one and
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  you just sort of vacuum empty spots as you can, any amount of motion is going
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  to make you feel better. I promise.
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  Motion is so powerful. It carries us into doing something.
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  Just that action is sometimes what we're missing. I want you to give it a go.
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  I'm keeping this one short. If you stayed in motion while I was talking,
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  I just passed a 10-minute point.
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  That's awesome. It's fantastic. If you need to hear it again,
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  because you weren't sure where you were supposed to be doing when the podcast
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  started, start it over and go for it again.
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  But I am telling you, there isn't a secret you haven't found.
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  Quit seeking the perfect system or routine and start just moving.
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  All right, until tomorrow, continue to choose choice.