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230. She Watches My Stories But Never Replies · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Appolochie production.
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  Speaker 2: I need your advice.
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  Speaker 1: Are you okay? What happened?
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  Speaker 2: Promise it won't be too much.
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  Speaker 1: Bring it in.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to our Bestie segment. This is the place for you.
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  Speaker 1: Hello everybody, Welcome back to our Bestie episode where you
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  Speaker 1: send in your anonymous submissions or in your sticky situations
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  Speaker 1: or something that you just want Bessie advice. Maybe you've
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  Speaker 1: got something that you can't bring into your close circle
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  Speaker 1: because there's shame or you don't want people talking about it.
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  Speaker 1: We are your girls now. Most of the submissions that
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  Speaker 1: come through are around sex, relationships and friendships, a law
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  Speaker 1: around friendships, and that's what today's is. So the title
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  Speaker 1: is she watches my stories yet never replies? Is this
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  Speaker 1: friendship dead? Before we get into it, we're talking about
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  Speaker 1: this morning. Why do women do that?
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  Speaker 2: We were we watched the video on this this evening.
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  Speaker 1: If your friend has uploaded real or a set of
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  Speaker 1: stories or a TikTok engage, just comment. It takes two seconds,
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  Speaker 1: two seconds, and it shows that you're supporting, It shows
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  Speaker 1: that you're watching. It helps her engagement. Why the fuck
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  Speaker 1: would you not do that? Yeah, it's wild, It's friggin' wild.
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  Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. It really doesn't take much. No, it
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  Speaker 2: doesn't take much.
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  Speaker 3: And like support goes a long way when we think
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  Speaker 3: of like businesses in person, way back when when it
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  Speaker 3: was all just brick and mortar, it was word of
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  Speaker 3: mouth before we had social media. But now we have
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  Speaker 3: social media, so it's like, why don't we support and
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  Speaker 3: help when we can? We can actually help push you know,
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  Speaker 3: it all takes two seconds.
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  Speaker 1: You bet you on any of our stuff, you're going
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  Speaker 1: to see cupping.
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  Speaker 3: In marj you go girl every single post and so
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  Speaker 3: its should be just for context?
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  Speaker 2: Are you supposed to three times a day?
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  Speaker 3: Ashy was the first one to comment on every single
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  Speaker 3: one of them, Like ash.
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  Speaker 1: So, I just think it's free. It takes two seconds.
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  Speaker 1: It means the world to your friends. Like comments and
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  Speaker 1: engagement from my friends and family means so much to
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  Speaker 1: me compared to strangers. It's like, oh, like, I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: it just means a lot.
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  Speaker 3: And when you do see like oh they were thinking
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  Speaker 3: of me, or they made the effort, and it's not
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  Speaker 3: even just the art of them posting, it's like, oh, wow,
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  Speaker 3: they cared about me enough to comment and support me
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  Speaker 3: in this.
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  Speaker 1: If you think that your comment doesn't matter, it does,
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  Speaker 1: because I've definitely noticed when you don't do it. Anyways,
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  Speaker 1: what have we got today?
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  Speaker 2: All right, take it away.
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  Speaker 3: I was good friends with this girl for many years.
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  Speaker 3: I moved states and we lost a bit of contact,
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  Speaker 3: but still chattered here and there. She has been through
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  Speaker 3: a lot lately, and we've both had big life changes.
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  Speaker 3: For example, I had a baby. My issue is that
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  Speaker 3: she takes some times months to reply to my messages,
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  Speaker 3: or sometimes doesn't even reply at all. However, she will
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  Speaker 3: open them and then post stories and reshare stories she
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  Speaker 3: is tagged in, but just won't reply to me. She
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  Speaker 3: has also never really congratulated me on the birth of
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  Speaker 3: my baby. I messaged her and said something along the
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  Speaker 3: lines of, hey, it's been ages, how are you? And
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  Speaker 3: she didn't reply. My question is do I just leave
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  Speaker 3: it or do I remove her and move on. She
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  Speaker 3: was a great friend, but she's not showing friendship qualities
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  Speaker 3: these days. I absolutely don't feel the need to send
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  Speaker 3: her an essay. Those days are behind me and I
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  Speaker 3: shouldn't have to tell someone how to be a good friend.
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  Speaker 1: I feel mixed about this, more so recently in the
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  Speaker 1: last year or two, I think I used to have
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  Speaker 1: quite high expectations on my friends and how they show
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  Speaker 1: up and how they give, and I think it's quite
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  Speaker 1: damaging to a friendship. So I feel in two minds.
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  Speaker 1: Half of me is like, you don't know what she's
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  Speaker 1: going through. You don't know where her capacity is at.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know if maybe she's out growing the friendship.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know if she's battling something that you know
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  Speaker 1: nothing about, and she just like is just dealing with
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  Speaker 1: what she can right now. Then the other half for
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  Speaker 1: me is like, it doesn't take much to reply, or
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  Speaker 1: if you're feeling something, have a conversation, have their respect
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  Speaker 1: to have a conversation, to say this chapter is closing
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  Speaker 1: or something. So I feel in two minds because I've
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  Speaker 1: had friends that have gone through something or are going
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  Speaker 1: through something and they've literally communicated and said, I do
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  Speaker 1: not have the capacity for anyone right now. I am
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  Speaker 1: just full survival. I'm so sorry I haven't got back
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  Speaker 1: to me, we haven't caught up. Bear with me, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, cool. But then like when someone's a
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  Speaker 1: prior and you love them like we do, it's just
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  Speaker 1: like I don't feel like it's hard to send a
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  Speaker 1: text no, or pick out the phone or not at all.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel too much.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, this one's tricky, But honestly, the first thing that
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  Speaker 3: comes to my mind is just like, tell her how
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  Speaker 3: you feel.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, just tell her how you feel.
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  Speaker 1: Doesn't have to be an essay, but you can send
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  Speaker 1: a voice message.
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  Speaker 3: No, even the Oh, I don't want to send her
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  Speaker 3: an essay, those days are behind me. It's like communication
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  Speaker 3: is not though. No, communication not behind me. The days
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  Speaker 3: of communication are not behind you. And how you feel,
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  Speaker 3: honoring how you feel. And I think the biggest thing,
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  Speaker 3: at least for me when it comes to things like this,
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  Speaker 3: what I've done in the past is I've told myself
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  Speaker 3: I just want to show up in the way that
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  Speaker 3: I am proud of in this moment, and then it doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: Matter how they respond.
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  Speaker 3: So I guess the question for you that I would
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  Speaker 3: have for you is how would you want to respond
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  Speaker 3: in this dynamic with her that you can walk away,
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  Speaker 3: go to bed at night and be like, I'm so
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  Speaker 3: proud of the way that I handled that situation, because
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  Speaker 3: at the end of the day, the only thing that
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  Speaker 3: matters is how you behaved, not how she behaved. And yes,
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  Speaker 3: it can be disappointing and overwhelming and hurtful and sad
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  Speaker 3: and all of those things.
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  Speaker 2: But also, you.
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  Speaker 3: Can only do your part and your side of the dance.
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  Speaker 3: You can't control what other people do. So what do
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  Speaker 3: you want to do? What do you want to say?
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  Speaker 3: If you could express in a really beautiful way without
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  Speaker 3: pointing the finger, what's come up for you and how
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  Speaker 3: you're feeling. And it was the last thing that you
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  Speaker 3: ever said to her, what would you say?
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  Speaker 1: I've been in a similar situation, and for so long
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  Speaker 1: I kept trying to make the friendship work, and I
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  Speaker 1: kept reaching out, I kept trying to catch up, and
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  Speaker 1: it just wasn't working. I think it got to a
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  Speaker 1: point where I then communicated how I felt and the
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  Speaker 1: friendship drined it away. Yeah, I was like, Okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: obviously we've grown a part or she doesn't want this
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  Speaker 1: friendship anymore. And it also got to a point where
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not going to be in a
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  Speaker 1: friendship where I'm the only one putting effort in. Of course, well,
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be with Steve if that was the case.
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  Speaker 1: This is a team thing. This is a two of us.
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  Speaker 1: It is, we've both got to clean up our own lanes.
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  Speaker 1: We've both got to put effort in and nurture this
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  Speaker 1: friendship otherwise it's going to dwindle a part once again
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  Speaker 1: if someone's going through a sea, and I feel like
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  Speaker 1: that's a responsibility to tell you and let you know.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, with this one particular friendship, I remember feeling
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  Speaker 1: so butt her because I just felt like I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: a priority and made up stories that she didn't care.
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  Speaker 1: And maybe she didn't I still don't know, but it
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  Speaker 1: did get to a point where I was like, actually, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to be the only person putting evidentto
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  Speaker 1: this friendship. I'm going to let this go. I to
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  Speaker 1: invisibly cut that cord and we we're not friends anymore.
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  Speaker 1: It's so sad, and it's so heartbreaking because you always
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  Speaker 1: kind of agrieve what the friendship was, yeh, you agrieve
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  Speaker 1: what you used to have, and you a grieve that
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  Speaker 1: you thought it'd be forever thing. I think girlfriends, you
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  Speaker 1: don't ever think it's going to end.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so true.
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  Speaker 1: It's like me and you, Trevor, like you know, it's so.
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  Speaker 3: Heartbreaking when that doesn't it is so scary. I actually
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  Speaker 3: love your suggestion. I love my suggestion too, and I
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  Speaker 3: feel like there could be a beautiful blend of both.
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  Speaker 3: If you want to communicate, if this person is important
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  Speaker 3: enough to you, yes, where you genuinely are like yeah,
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  Speaker 3: if this is how you discern do you respect them,
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  Speaker 3: love them, care about them enough, or you're like just
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  Speaker 3: want them in your life? Does this deserve a conversation?
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  Speaker 3: Does this deserve one last mess? Or is this just
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  Speaker 3: one of those things where it's like, you know what,
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  Speaker 3: Like they're not that important to me, then they haven't
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  Speaker 3: been that big of an impact in my life, not
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  Speaker 3: as connected, we're not as connected lives. This isn't as safe.
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  Speaker 3: Then it's like, okay, can I just let this fizzle out?
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  Speaker 3: So even if you did send a message and you
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  Speaker 3: shared a little bit about how you felt, but you
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  Speaker 3: also don't want to call in more of this friendship,
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  Speaker 3: you can say like, I'm not going to be making
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  Speaker 3: an effort anymore, like I wish you all the best,
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  Speaker 3: I love you, I care about you. I hope you're
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  Speaker 3: doing it open, but obviously I'm just going to leave
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  Speaker 3: it here. And I think that could be a really
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  Speaker 3: beautiful way to express what you're feeling, but also close
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  Speaker 3: it and close the door a little bit and then
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  Speaker 3: allow yourself to like open up to new people who
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  Speaker 3: will come into your life and love you for all
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  Speaker 3: of you and never make you guess or question if
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  Speaker 3: they love you. I don't ever want to feel like
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  Speaker 3: that in a friendship for again, No, because when there's
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  Speaker 3: no doubt, trust me, you know about it, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And when you have those friendships you're talking about this yesterday,
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  Speaker 1: it just highlights it's like this or nothing. I do
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  Speaker 1: think something's here for her though, because for her not
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  Speaker 1: to congratulate you on your baby, I'm sorry, but that's
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  Speaker 1: pretty powerful.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's pretty sad you've had a.
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  Speaker 1: Baby, Like it's one of the biggest, most beautiful, magical
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  Speaker 1: blessings that will ever happen in your lifetime. They can't
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  Speaker 1: congratulate you. It's like when I went through brain surgery,
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  Speaker 1: did that show me who was there and who was not?
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  Speaker 1: The people that didn't even message to say good luck
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  Speaker 1: with your surgery? Do you need anything? And then the
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  Speaker 1: ones that came out of the woodworks were like, can
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  Speaker 1: I take your kids? What is Steve need? What can
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  Speaker 1: I bring you. I was like, wow, yeah, it was incredible,
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  Speaker 1: like night and day. It was night and day, and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I fully, fully know now that when
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  Speaker 1: I'm at my absolute rock bottom, if I was on
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  Speaker 1: my deathbed, I know who's going to show up for me,
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  Speaker 1: my kids. Yeah, And it was so much easier to
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  Speaker 1: cut cords on people that I wasn't quite sure if
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  Speaker 1: we were still like close. Yeah, it was an easy
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  Speaker 1: yes or no.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, this makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: Literally, That's how my brain surgery was like one of
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  Speaker 1: the best things that ever happened to me because it
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  Speaker 1: showed everything so clearly. Yeah, in my friendships, in my
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  Speaker 1: life and my relationship, what I wanted to do, what
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  Speaker 1: wasn't working for me, what made me happy I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to go. It's so cool to see it so clearly.
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  Speaker 1: So I do think something's here for her and I
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  Speaker 1: can go you on your baby, and also congratulations beautiful. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: So I hope this helps. I think it's worth having
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  Speaker 1: a conversation and bringing up and also sometimes just like
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  Speaker 1: a voice notes a really nice way to do it too,
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  Speaker 1: because I think then the person on the other end
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  Speaker 1: they have time to process what you've said. You've got
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  Speaker 1: to honor how you feel. You can practice it. If
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  Speaker 1: you do, a voice says you, fuck, I want to
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  Speaker 1: do that differently. You know, you can stop and start
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  Speaker 1: it again. You can express it, get it out there,
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  Speaker 1: give them time to process. If they don't answer, there's
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  Speaker 1: your answer. Yeah, but you've honored yourself absolutely.
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  Speaker 3: And like what you said about the voice message, it's
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  Speaker 3: so much easier when you hear somebody's voice. It's overtake
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  Speaker 3: instead of reading it in the way that your brain
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  Speaker 3: is interpreting it, which is whatever story you want to
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  Speaker 3: convince yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You'll find it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you hear their voice and you're like, oh, but
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  Speaker 3: I love this person. Yeah, or like what you said.
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  Speaker 3: If they don't respond, then just be okay with whatever
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  Speaker 3: may happen. Be okay with whether they respond or potential
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  Speaker 3: if she doesn't respond it and.
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  Speaker 1: There's a certain way. I feel like you're really beautiful
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  Speaker 1: at wording it. But if I was, I would word
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  Speaker 1: it in a way something along the lines. We do
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  Speaker 1: this a lot. I could be assuming and I'm probably
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  Speaker 1: in my head hello anxious attachment, But I really miss
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  Speaker 1: you and I haven't heard you from you in ages.
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  Speaker 1: Are you all good? Are we all good? What's happening,
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  Speaker 1: like I want to know what's happening in your life.
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  Speaker 1: I love you, because then there's no blame, there's no criticism,
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  Speaker 1: there's no assuming. You're kind of saying hey, like, and
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  Speaker 1: I find that is way more well received rather than
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  Speaker 1: going and be like, you know, you didn't congratulate me
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  Speaker 1: about my baby. You haven't reached out, you never reply,
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  Speaker 1: You take months.
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  Speaker 2: Da da da.
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  Speaker 1: There are walls instantly up. They're getting to be on the defensive,
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  Speaker 1: and you're going to push them away more. You've lost them.
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  Speaker 1: You've lost lost them, go one vulnerably, go on playfully.
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  Speaker 1: You still get to say I miss you, like I
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  Speaker 1: want to know what's going on in your life, and
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  Speaker 1: then you can see how they respond and how they react,
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  Speaker 1: and then you're going to get.
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  Speaker 3: Your answers by you just said that so beautifully. I
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  Speaker 3: think that's such a cool way to go about it.
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  Speaker 3: And then what if something has happened for her and
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  Speaker 3: she's like, oh, you know what, this is what's been happening.
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  Speaker 1: Emo, Actually you're safe for them to unload now, that's.
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  Speaker 3: Right, And then maybe there's a reason why she didn't
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  Speaker 3: congratulate you, or it could be like once there's a
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  Speaker 3: couple of conversations back and forth to be like, you know.
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  Speaker 2: What, actually, you know what upset.
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  Speaker 3: I was really sad that you didn't send me, but
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  Speaker 3: like you've got to get there first, and we should
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  Speaker 3: never assume, like, just for an example, I'm not saying
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  Speaker 3: this has happened, but you're pregnant, You've had your beautiful baby.
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  Speaker 1: You're in this beautiful, blissful bubble. She's just miscarried. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she's had a stillborn. She's struggling to get pregnant. She's
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  Speaker 1: in her own hardship right now, so anything to do
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  Speaker 1: with any other babies she can't even fathom. It's too triggering,
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  Speaker 1: too upsetting, and she's just blocking it all out because
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  Speaker 1: that's her way to cope. There's no judgment on that.
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  Speaker 1: We just don't know what someone else might be battling
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  Speaker 1: and going through. So that's why you just never want
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  Speaker 1: to assume the worst in someone. And imagine if that
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  Speaker 1: was the case and then she was like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I just I was really struggling. You
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  Speaker 1: would instantly have more compassion. You'd be like, fuck, damn it,
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  Speaker 1: you know I should have reached out more, or like
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  Speaker 1: not expected that of her. Yeah, it's just a different
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  Speaker 1: perspective to look at.
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  Speaker 2: So much more compassion.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, then you're not blaming or feeling like she did
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  Speaker 3: something on purpose. It's like, oh, wow, she's actually going
• 12:01
  Speaker 3: through her own thing, and I can resonate with going
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  Speaker 3: through a hardship.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, we were trying assume the best in people these days.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, and we've been really trying to work on
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  Speaker 1: this last six months focused. Yeah, and not assume the
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  Speaker 1: worst in our relationships, friendships, family, everyone.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, assuming that the other person always has the best intentions.
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  Speaker 1: It's a nice way to live emotionally. I wish I
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  Speaker 1: learned that a long time ago. Yeah, yeah, definitely, rather
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  Speaker 1: than taking everything so personally.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, guilty, broken on it, admit.
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  Speaker 1: So we hope that helps. Sending you so much love,
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  Speaker 1: Know that you deserve to be reached out to, and
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  Speaker 1: people to make effort with you, love on you, congratulate
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  Speaker 1: you and your baby, you really do.
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  Speaker 3: And also as well, it's also okay if this person
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  Speaker 3: isn't meant to come with you on the journey. Yeah, Like,
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  Speaker 3: I know, it's really easy to get caught up in
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  Speaker 3: attaching to certain people. Yeah, but like if this one
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  Speaker 3: isn't meant for you, and it's clear that it's not
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  Speaker 3: a match for what it is you want. It's like,
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  Speaker 3: oh my gosh, what life is going to show you
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  Speaker 3: in terms of who's going to come into your life
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  Speaker 3: and love on you so hard?
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  Speaker 2: Is going to surprise you and blow you out of
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  Speaker 2: the water.
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  Speaker 1: And even if someone's quote unquote hurt you. And I
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  Speaker 1: can relate to this too because I've had friendship breakdown
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  Speaker 1: in the public eye. Not fun, but I often get
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  Speaker 1: asked like, oh, do you regret helping her? Do you
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  Speaker 1: regret doing that project with her? Do you regret showing
• 13:12
  Speaker 1: her in your social media? I'm like, absolutely not. In
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: that time, I gave from a place of love, and
• 13:17
  Speaker 1: I gave because I loved them. I would never take
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: that back. And just because our chapter and story close,
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: I don't regret showing up in a way that I
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: did the best I could with what I knew. Would
• 13:26
  Speaker 1: I do somethings differently, probably, but I know that it
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: all came from a good place and that journey was
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: a part of my journey to lead me exactly where
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: I am right now. So there's no regrets, you know, and.
• 13:35
  Speaker 3: You still loved them the way that you did while
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: they were in your life.
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: Exactly beautiful and still wish the best of them. And
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: you can do the same with your friend as well,
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: even if your paths go separate ways. And sometimes they
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: go away and then they come back. It's true. I
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: spoke about this before, but like I tend to make
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: sing Yeah, they go out of like I've had friends
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: that gone a big party ragoues and I'm just like
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: not in that season, and then they came back and
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: had kids and we're all like hanging out again, Like cool. Yeah,
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: it's like exactly like what's meantphe you? We'll come back
• 14:01
  Speaker 1: to you definitely will.
• 14:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, different seasons, And that's exactly right.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: I've heard this lands. We'll see you girls next Monday.
• 14:06
  Speaker 2: Alrighty bye guys.
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm