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EP 263. From Self-Drag to Self-Devotion — How to Speak to the Woman You’re Becoming · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:04
  Let's
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  talk
• 0:04
  about
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  the
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  underlying
• 0:05
  reason.
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  You're
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  not
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  at
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  your
• 0:07
  next
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  level
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  yet.
• 0:08
  Some
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  of
• 0:08
  you
• 0:08
  think
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  you're
• 0:09
  being
• 0:09
  disciplined,
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  but
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  you're
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  actually
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  being
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  devoted
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  to
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  a
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  voice.
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  That
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  no
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  longer
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  fits
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  your
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  future.
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  You
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  call
• 0:16
  it
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  tough
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  love
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  accountability.
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  You
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  call
• 0:19
  it
• 0:19
  not
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  letting
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  myself
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  get
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  lazy,
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  but
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  what
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  if
• 0:22
  the
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  way
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  you
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  talk
• 0:23
  to
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  yourself
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  is
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  the
• 0:25
  very
• 0:25
  thing
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  keeping
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  you
• 0:27
  stuck
• 0:27
  in
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  survival,
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  orbiting
• 0:30
  a
• 0:30
  version
• 0:30
  of
• 0:30
  you
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  that
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  can't
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  access
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  her
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  next
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  level?
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  You
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  can't
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  build
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  a
• 0:35
  life
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  while
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  letting
• 0:36
  an
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  old
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  soundtrack.
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  Narrated
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  self
• 0:39
  drag
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  dressed
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  as
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  discipline.
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  Keeps
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  you
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  busy,
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  self-aware,
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  doing
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  the
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  work,
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  but
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  never
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  fully
• 0:46
  landing
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  in
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  who
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  you
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  are
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  becoming.
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  This
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  episode
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  is
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  for
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  the
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  woman
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  who
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  sees
• 0:52
  the
• 0:52
  pattern
• 0:53
  but
• 0:53
  hasn't
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  yet.
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  Updated
• 0:55
  the
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  voice
• 0:56
  that's
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  leading
• 0:56
  her
• 0:57
  who
• 0:57
  is
• 0:58
  ready
• 0:58
  to
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  release
• 1:00
  the
• 1:00
  language
• 1:01
  and
• 1:01
  rewrite
• 1:02
  the
• 1:02
  script
• 1:02
  for
• 1:03
  that
• 1:03
  negative
• 1:03
  self-talk
• 1:04
  that
• 1:04
  keeps
• 1:04
  her
• 1:05
  looping.
• 1:06
  We're
• 1:06
  talking
• 1:06
  about
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  how
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  to
• 1:08
  shift
• 1:08
  from
• 1:08
  self
• 1:09
  drag
• 1:09
  to
• 1:09
  self
• 1:10
  devotion,
• 1:11
  not
• 1:11
  with
• 1:11
  the
• 1:11
  fluffy
• 1:12
  affirmations,
• 1:13
  but
• 1:13
  with
• 1:13
  self-leadership,
• 1:15
  truth
• 1:16
  and
• 1:16
  authority.
• 1:17
  If
• 1:17
  you
• 1:17
  are
• 1:18
  ready
• 1:18
  to
• 1:18
  speak
• 1:18
  to
• 1:19
  yourself
• 1:19
  like
• 1:19
  the
• 1:19
  woman
• 1:20
  you're
• 1:20
  becoming
• 1:21
  and
• 1:21
  not
• 1:21
  the
• 1:21
  girl
• 1:21
  you
• 1:22
  used
• 1:22
  to
• 1:22
  be,
• 1:23
  keep
• 1:23
  listening
• 1:23
  friend.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey
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  Queen.
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  Welcome
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  back.
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  This
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  space
• 1:33
  is
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  for
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  women
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  who
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  are
• 1:34
  no
• 1:35
  longer
• 1:35
  interested
• 1:36
  in
• 1:37
  becoming
• 1:37
  better
• 1:38
  through
• 1:38
  punishment,
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  but
• 1:40
  through
• 1:40
  presence,
• 1:41
  power,
• 1:42
  and
• 1:42
  precision.
• 1:43
  If
• 1:43
  you've
• 1:44
  been
• 1:44
  confusing
• 1:45
  harshness
• 1:45
  with
• 1:45
  strength
• 1:46
  or
• 1:47
  self-criticism
• 1:48
  with
• 1:48
  growth,
• 1:49
  you
• 1:49
  are
• 1:49
  not
• 1:49
  wrong.
• 1:50
  You're
• 1:50
  just
• 1:51
  operating
• 1:51
  from
• 1:52
  old,
• 1:52
  outdated
• 1:53
  programming,
• 1:54
  and
• 1:54
  today
• 1:55
  we're
• 1:55
  updating
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  the
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  language
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  that
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  leads
• 1:57
  you.
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  So
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  let
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  me
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  ask
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  you
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  something
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  real
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  quick.
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  If
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  the
• 2:01
  voice
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  in
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  your
• 2:02
  head
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  talked
• 2:03
  to
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  your
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  daughter,
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  your
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  best
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  friend,
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  or
• 2:07
  the
• 2:07
  woman
• 2:07
  you're
• 2:07
  praying
• 2:08
  to
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  become
• 2:09
  the
• 2:09
  way
• 2:09
  it
• 2:10
  talks
• 2:10
  to
• 2:10
  you,
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  would
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  you
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  allow
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  it
• 2:12
  in
• 2:12
  the
• 2:12
  room?
• 2:14
  Yeah,
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  that
• 2:15
  pause
• 2:15
  you
• 2:15
  just
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  felt,
• 2:16
  that's
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  why
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  this
• 2:17
  episode
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  is
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  for
• 2:18
  you
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  because
• 2:19
  after
• 2:19
  the
• 2:19
  identity
• 2:20
  detox,
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  something
• 2:21
  wild
• 2:22
  happens.
• 2:23
  You
• 2:23
  stop
• 2:23
  being
• 2:24
  the
• 2:24
  old
• 2:24
  version
• 2:25
  of
• 2:25
  you.
• 2:25
  But
• 2:26
  that
• 2:26
  negative
• 2:27
  Nelly
• 2:27
  voice,
• 2:28
  she's
• 2:28
  still
• 2:28
  handling
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  commentary.
• 2:30
  Still
• 2:30
  narrating,
• 2:31
  still
• 2:32
  dragging,
• 2:33
  still
• 2:33
  trying
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  to
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  keep
• 2:34
  you
• 2:35
  humble
• 2:36
  with
• 2:36
  language
• 2:37
  that
• 2:37
  was
• 2:37
  never
• 2:37
  wholly
• 2:38
  just
• 2:39
  familiar.
• 2:40
  You've
• 2:40
  outgrown
• 2:41
  survival,
• 2:42
  but
• 2:42
  you
• 2:42
  haven't
• 2:43
  yet
• 2:43
  updated
• 2:43
  that
• 2:44
  voice
• 2:44
  that's
• 2:44
  leading
• 2:45
  you.
• 2:45
  It's
• 2:46
  the
• 2:46
  soundtrack.
• 2:47
  You
• 2:47
  are
• 2:48
  using
• 2:48
  to
• 2:49
  lead
• 2:49
  your
• 2:49
  life
• 2:50
  right
• 2:50
  now.
• 2:51
  Somebody
• 2:52
  out
• 2:52
  there
• 2:53
  is
• 2:53
  trying
• 2:53
  to
• 2:53
  build
• 2:54
  a
• 2:54
  luxury
• 2:55
  future
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  while
• 2:56
  letting
• 2:57
  a
• 2:57
  bootleg
• 2:57
  remix
• 2:58
  of
• 2:58
  survival
• 2:59
  trauma
• 2:59
  narrate
• 3:00
  their
• 3:00
  every
• 3:01
  move.
• 3:05
  That
• 3:05
  tough
• 3:06
  love
• 3:06
  voice
• 3:07
  that
• 3:08
  don't
• 3:08
  get
• 3:08
  too
• 3:08
  comfortable,
• 3:09
  energy
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  that
• 3:10
  inner
• 3:10
  monologue
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  that
• 3:11
  sounds
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  like
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  a
• 3:12
  drill
• 3:12
  sergeant
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  instead
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  of
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  a
• 3:13
  guide,
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  she's
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  showing
• 3:15
  up
• 3:16
  in
• 3:16
  so
• 3:16
  many
• 3:16
  places
• 3:17
  in
• 3:17
  your
• 3:17
  life
• 3:18
  in
• 3:18
  full
• 3:19
  doby
• 3:20
  surround
• 3:20
  sound,
• 3:21
  and
• 3:21
  she
• 3:22
  sounds
• 3:22
  a
• 3:22
  lot
• 3:22
  like
• 3:23
  the
• 3:23
  productivity
• 3:24
  self
• 3:25
  drag.
• 3:25
  This
• 3:26
  is
• 3:26
  the
• 3:26
  voice
• 3:26
  that
• 3:26
  turns
• 3:27
  rest
• 3:28
  into
• 3:29
  a
• 3:29
  moral
• 3:29
  failure.
• 3:30
  It
• 3:31
  says
• 3:31
  things
• 3:31
  like.
• 3:32
  Why
• 3:32
  can't
• 3:32
  you
• 3:32
  just
• 3:33
  get
• 3:33
  it
• 3:33
  together?
• 3:34
  You
• 3:34
  don't
• 3:34
  deserve
• 3:35
  a
• 3:35
  break
• 3:35
  yet.
• 3:36
  You're
• 3:36
  being
• 3:37
  lazy.
• 3:37
  Push
• 3:38
  harder
• 3:38
  because
• 3:38
  if
• 3:39
  you
• 3:39
  really
• 3:39
  wanted
• 3:39
  this,
• 3:40
  you'd
• 3:40
  do
• 3:40
  more.
• 3:41
  Translation
• 3:42
  your
• 3:43
  worth
• 3:43
  equals
• 3:44
  your
• 3:44
  output
• 3:45
  friend.
• 3:46
  That
• 3:46
  ain't
• 3:46
  it?
• 3:47
  Or
• 3:47
  maybe
• 3:47
  it's
• 3:47
  healing
• 3:48
  self
• 3:48
  drag.
• 3:49
  The
• 3:49
  one
• 3:49
  who
• 3:50
  shames
• 3:50
  herself
• 3:51
  for
• 3:51
  still
• 3:52
  being
• 3:52
  human.
• 3:53
  She
• 3:54
  says
• 3:54
  things
• 3:54
  like,
• 3:55
  I
• 3:55
  should
• 3:55
  be
• 3:55
  past
• 3:56
  this.
• 3:56
  By
• 3:56
  now
• 3:57
  I
• 3:57
  know
• 3:58
  better.
• 3:58
  So
• 3:58
  why
• 3:59
  am
• 3:59
  I
• 3:59
  still
• 4:00
  here?
• 4:01
  Or
• 4:01
  the
• 4:01
  classic,
• 4:02
  what's
• 4:02
  wrong
• 4:03
  with
• 4:03
  me?
• 4:03
  Translation
• 4:05
  growth
• 4:05
  should
• 4:05
  be
• 4:05
  linear
• 4:06
  or
• 4:06
  else
• 4:07
  you're
• 4:07
  failing.
• 4:08
  Or
• 4:08
  maybe
• 4:08
  it's
• 4:08
  identity,
• 4:09
  self
• 4:09
  drag.
• 4:10
  This
• 4:10
  keeps
• 4:11
  her
• 4:11
  tethered
• 4:12
  to
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  old
• 4:13
  version.
• 4:14
  She
• 4:14
  says
• 4:14
  things
• 4:15
  like,
• 4:15
  this
• 4:16
  is
• 4:16
  just
• 4:16
  how
• 4:16
  I
• 4:16
  am,
• 4:17
  or
• 4:17
  I
• 4:18
  always
• 4:18
  mess
• 4:18
  things
• 4:19
  up.
• 4:20
  Or
• 4:20
  the
• 4:20
  ultimate,
• 4:21
  who
• 4:22
  do
• 4:22
  I
• 4:22
  think
• 4:22
  I
• 4:22
  am?
• 4:23
  Translation
• 4:25
  past
• 4:25
  behavior
• 4:26
  gets
• 4:26
  the
• 4:27
  final
• 4:27
  word.
• 4:28
  And
• 4:28
  what's
• 4:28
  so
• 4:29
  prevalent
• 4:29
  today,
• 4:30
  the
• 4:30
  comparison.
• 4:31
  Self
• 4:32
  drag.
• 4:33
  This
• 4:33
  one
• 4:34
  quietly
• 4:34
  erodes
• 4:35
  confidence
• 4:36
  when
• 4:36
  she
• 4:37
  says
• 4:37
  things
• 4:37
  like,
• 4:38
  everyone
• 4:39
  else
• 4:39
  seems
• 4:39
  to
• 4:40
  have
• 4:40
  it
• 4:40
  all
• 4:40
  figured
• 4:40
  out,
• 4:41
  or,
• 4:42
  I'm
• 4:42
  so
• 4:42
  behind,
• 4:43
  I
• 4:43
  should
• 4:44
  be
• 4:44
  further
• 4:44
  by
• 4:45
  now.
• 4:45
  Or
• 4:46
  why
• 4:46
  is
• 4:46
  this
• 4:47
  easier
• 4:47
  for
• 4:48
  them?
• 4:48
  Translation,
• 4:50
  it'll
• 4:50
  never
• 4:50
  happen
• 4:51
  for
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  because
• 4:52
  your
• 4:52
  timeline
• 4:52
  is
• 4:52
  wrong.
• 4:53
  This
• 4:53
  one
• 4:54
  is
• 4:54
  the
• 4:54
  one
• 4:55
  that
• 4:55
  I
• 4:55
  had
• 4:55
  to
• 4:55
  work
• 4:56
  through
• 4:56
  the
• 4:56
  most.
• 4:57
  The
• 4:57
  emotional
• 4:58
  self
• 4:59
  drag.
• 5:00
  This
• 5:00
  is
• 5:00
  where
• 5:01
  self
• 5:01
  abandonment
• 5:02
  hides.
• 5:03
  It
• 5:03
  says
• 5:03
  things
• 5:04
  like.
• 5:05
  I'm
• 5:05
  being
• 5:05
  too
• 5:05
  sensitive.
• 5:06
  I
• 5:07
  shouldn't
• 5:07
  feel
• 5:07
  this
• 5:08
  way,
• 5:08
  or
• 5:09
  why
• 5:09
  can't
• 5:09
  I
• 5:10
  just
• 5:10
  let
• 5:11
  this
• 5:11
  go?
• 5:12
  Translation,
• 5:13
  your
• 5:13
  emotions
• 5:14
  are
• 5:15
  inconvenient
• 5:16
  and
• 5:16
  hey,
• 5:17
  while
• 5:17
  we're
• 5:17
  here,
• 5:18
  let's
• 5:18
  really
• 5:18
  call
• 5:19
  it
• 5:19
  out
• 5:19
  because
• 5:20
  some
• 5:20
  of
• 5:21
  this
• 5:21
  self-talk
• 5:22
  has
• 5:22
  nothing
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  do
• 5:23
  with
• 5:24
  tough
• 5:24
  love.
• 5:24
  It's
• 5:25
  just
• 5:25
  downright
• 5:25
  mean.
• 5:26
  It
• 5:26
  says
• 5:27
  hurtful
• 5:28
  things
• 5:28
  and
• 5:28
  calls
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  names
• 5:29
  like
• 5:30
  ugly,
• 5:30
  stupid,
• 5:31
  or
• 5:31
  worthless,
• 5:32
  and
• 5:32
  other
• 5:33
  harmful
• 5:33
  things
• 5:34
  that
• 5:34
  are
• 5:34
  just.
• 5:35
  Too
• 5:35
  painful
• 5:36
  to
• 5:36
  say
• 5:37
  out
• 5:38
  loud,
• 5:39
  friend,
• 5:39
  I
• 5:40
  say
• 5:40
  this
• 5:40
  with
• 5:40
  so
• 5:41
  much
• 5:41
  love,
• 5:42
  and
• 5:42
  as
• 5:42
  your
• 5:43
  coach,
• 5:43
  I
• 5:43
  must
• 5:44
  tell
• 5:44
  you,
• 5:45
  some
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  y'all
• 5:45
  don't
• 5:45
  need
• 5:46
  another
• 5:46
  breakthrough.
• 5:47
  You
• 5:47
  need
• 5:47
  to
• 5:48
  stop
• 5:48
  letting
• 5:49
  this
• 5:49
  voice
• 5:50
  talk
• 5:50
  because
• 5:51
  if
• 5:51
  anyone
• 5:52
  spoke
• 5:53
  to
• 5:53
  you
• 5:54
  the
• 5:54
  way
• 5:54
  that
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  speak
• 5:55
  to
• 5:55
  yourself,
• 5:55
  we
• 5:56
  call
• 5:56
  it
• 5:56
  toxic,
• 5:57
  but
• 5:58
  because
• 5:58
  it's
• 5:58
  you,
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  call
• 5:59
  it
• 5:59
  discipline.
• 6:01
  Friend,
• 6:01
  that
• 6:01
  is
• 6:02
  not
• 6:02
  motivation,
• 6:03
  that
• 6:03
  is
• 6:04
  self
• 6:04
  drag
• 6:04
  with
• 6:04
  a
• 6:04
  microphone.
• 6:05
  Self
• 6:06
  drag
• 6:06
  is
• 6:07
  like
• 6:07
  letting
• 6:07
  the
• 6:07
  villain
• 6:08
  narrate
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  hero's
• 6:10
  journey.
• 6:11
  Imagine
• 6:11
  watching
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  pursuit
• 6:12
  of
• 6:12
  happiness,
• 6:13
  but
• 6:13
  the
• 6:14
  whole
• 6:14
  time
• 6:14
  there's
• 6:15
  a
• 6:15
  voice
• 6:15
  saying,
• 6:15
  see,
• 6:16
  he's
• 6:16
  failing
• 6:17
  again.
• 6:17
  He's
• 6:17
  probably
• 6:18
  gonna
• 6:18
  mess
• 6:18
  this
• 6:18
  up
• 6:18
  too.
• 6:19
  You'd
• 6:19
  never
• 6:20
  call
• 6:20
  that
• 6:20
  character
• 6:21
  motivational.
• 6:22
  You'd
• 6:22
  call
• 6:22
  them
• 6:23
  out
• 6:23
  of
• 6:23
  place.
• 6:24
  Yet
• 6:24
  somehow
• 6:25
  you
• 6:25
  let
• 6:25
  that
• 6:26
  voice
• 6:26
  commentate
• 6:27
  your
• 6:27
  life
• 6:28
  like
• 6:28
  it's
• 6:28
  an
• 6:29
  authority.
• 6:30
  But
• 6:30
  today
• 6:30
  we're
• 6:31
  cutting
• 6:31
  the
• 6:31
  mic.
• 6:32
  Main
• 6:32
  character
• 6:33
  energy
• 6:33
  is
• 6:34
  deciding
• 6:35
  who
• 6:35
  gets
• 6:36
  the
• 6:36
  mic,
• 6:36
  because
• 6:37
  awareness
• 6:38
  isn't
• 6:38
  enough
• 6:39
  anymore.
• 6:39
  You
• 6:39
  need
• 6:40
  a
• 6:40
  new
• 6:40
  language,
• 6:41
  one
• 6:41
  that
• 6:42
  actually
• 6:42
  escorts
• 6:43
  you
• 6:43
  into
• 6:43
  your
• 6:44
  next.
• 6:44
  Level
• 6:45
  instead
• 6:45
  of
• 6:45
  keeping
• 6:46
  you
• 6:46
  circling
• 6:47
  the
• 6:47
  old
• 6:47
  one,
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  are
• 6:48
  not
• 6:49
  here
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  keep
• 6:50
  auditioning
• 6:50
  for
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  old
• 6:51
  role.
• 6:52
  You
• 6:52
  are
• 6:53
  here
• 6:53
  to
• 6:53
  step
• 6:53
  fully
• 6:55
  into
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  woman
• 6:56
  you
• 6:56
  are
• 6:57
  becoming.
• 7:00
  Friend.
• 7:01
  Transformation
• 7:02
  isn't
• 7:02
  a
• 7:02
  one-time
• 7:03
  moment.
• 7:03
  It's
• 7:04
  wrapped
• 7:04
  up
• 7:05
  even
• 7:05
  in
• 7:05
  the
• 7:05
  small,
• 7:06
  steady
• 7:06
  shifts
• 7:07
  that
• 7:07
  rewire
• 7:08
  your
• 7:08
  identity
• 7:09
  over
• 7:09
  time,
• 7:10
  if
• 7:10
  something
• 7:11
  in
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  is
• 7:12
  already
• 7:13
  cracking
• 7:13
  open,
• 7:14
  if
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  feel
• 7:15
  that,
• 7:15
  oh
• 7:16
  wow,
• 7:16
  this
• 7:16
  episode
• 7:17
  is
• 7:17
  speaking
• 7:18
  directly
• 7:18
  to
• 7:19
  me,
• 7:20
  then
• 7:20
  hit
• 7:20
  subscribe
• 7:21
  so
• 7:21
  we
• 7:22
  can
• 7:22
  keep
• 7:22
  doing
• 7:22
  this
• 7:23
  hard
• 7:23
  work.
• 7:23
  Together,
• 7:24
  your
• 7:25
  healing
• 7:25
  deserves
• 7:26
  consistency
• 7:27
  and
• 7:27
  subscribing
• 7:28
  is
• 7:29
  a
• 7:29
  vote
• 7:29
  for
• 7:29
  the
• 7:29
  woman
• 7:30
  you
• 7:30
  are
• 7:31
  becoming.
• 7:34
  Okay,
• 7:35
  now
• 7:35
  let's
• 7:35
  be
• 7:35
  bold,
• 7:36
  tough
• 7:37
  love
• 7:37
  is
• 7:37
  keeping
• 7:38
  you
• 7:38
  in
• 7:39
  the
• 7:39
  waiting
• 7:39
  room.
• 7:40
  Why?
• 7:41
  Because
• 7:41
  tough
• 7:42
  love
• 7:42
  isn't
• 7:42
  taking
• 7:42
  you
• 7:43
  higher.
• 7:43
  It's
• 7:44
  keeping
• 7:44
  you
• 7:44
  on
• 7:45
  loop.
• 7:46
  It's
• 7:46
  like
• 7:47
  trying
• 7:47
  to
• 7:47
  drive
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  into
• 7:49
  your
• 7:49
  future
• 7:49
  while
• 7:50
  blasting
• 7:50
  an
• 7:50
  old
• 7:50
  breakup
• 7:51
  song
• 7:52
  that
• 7:52
  keeps
• 7:52
  pulling
• 7:52
  you
• 7:53
  back
• 7:53
  emotionally
• 7:54
  like
• 7:55
  Ruben
• 7:55
  Stutter
• 7:56
  when
• 7:56
  he
• 7:56
  was
• 7:56
  sorry
• 7:57
  for
• 7:57
  2004.
• 8:01
  You
• 8:01
  are
• 8:01
  moving,
• 8:02
  but
• 8:02
  you're
• 8:02
  not
• 8:02
  arriving.
• 8:03
  That
• 8:03
  voice
• 8:04
  that
• 8:04
  says
• 8:04
  you
• 8:05
  should
• 8:05
  be
• 8:05
  further
• 8:06
  by
• 8:06
  now,
• 8:07
  don't
• 8:07
  get
• 8:07
  lazy
• 8:08
  or
• 8:08
  stay
• 8:09
  on
• 8:09
  yourself.
• 8:10
  That
• 8:11
  voice
• 8:11
  was
• 8:11
  useful
• 8:12
  when
• 8:13
  survival
• 8:14
  required
• 8:14
  hypervigilance,
• 8:15
  but
• 8:16
  at
• 8:16
  your
• 8:16
  next
• 8:16
  level,
• 8:17
  it
• 8:17
  keeps
• 8:18
  you
• 8:18
  alert,
• 8:19
  but
• 8:19
  not
• 8:19
  aligned
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  alert
• 8:22
  people
• 8:22
  don't
• 8:23
  expand.
• 8:24
  They
• 8:24
  brace.
• 8:25
  Your
• 8:25
  inner
• 8:25
  critic
• 8:26
  was
• 8:26
  a
• 8:26
  survival
• 8:27
  employee,
• 8:28
  not
• 8:28
  a
• 8:28
  lifetime
• 8:29
  partner.
• 8:29
  Okay?
• 8:31
  Here's
• 8:31
  the
• 8:31
  truth
• 8:32
  that
• 8:32
  nobody
• 8:33
  talks
• 8:33
  enough
• 8:33
  about.
• 8:34
  Your
• 8:34
  inner
• 8:35
  critic
• 8:35
  wasn't
• 8:36
  even
• 8:36
  born
• 8:36
  evil.
• 8:37
  She
• 8:37
  was
• 8:38
  hired.
• 8:38
  She
• 8:39
  showed
• 8:39
  up
• 8:39
  when
• 8:40
  you
• 8:40
  needed
• 8:40
  to
• 8:41
  stay
• 8:41
  small
• 8:42
  to
• 8:42
  stay
• 8:42
  safe
• 8:43
  When
• 8:43
  perfection
• 8:44
  felt
• 8:44
  like
• 8:45
  protection
• 8:46
  or
• 8:46
  self
• 8:47
  attack
• 8:48
  kept
• 8:48
  you
• 8:48
  in
• 8:49
  line,
• 8:49
  she
• 8:49
  was
• 8:49
  simply
• 8:50
  doing
• 8:50
  her
• 8:51
  job,
• 8:51
  but.
• 8:52
  Beloved,
• 8:54
  that
• 8:54
  season
• 8:55
  has
• 8:55
  ended.
• 8:56
  And
• 8:56
  what
• 8:56
  no
• 8:57
  one
• 8:57
  talks
• 8:57
  about
• 8:58
  is
• 8:58
  this.
• 8:59
  The
• 8:59
  critic
• 8:59
  doesn't
• 9:00
  leave
• 9:00
  on
• 9:00
  her
• 9:01
  own.
• 9:01
  She
• 9:02
  has
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  be
• 9:02
  released.
• 9:03
  You
• 9:04
  don't
• 9:04
  argue
• 9:04
  with
• 9:04
  her.
• 9:05
  You
• 9:05
  don't
• 9:05
  shame
• 9:06
  her.
• 9:06
  You
• 9:06
  thank
• 9:07
  her
• 9:07
  for
• 9:07
  her
• 9:08
  service,
• 9:09
  and
• 9:09
  then
• 9:09
  you
• 9:09
  escort
• 9:10
  her
• 9:10
  out
• 9:11
  because
• 9:11
  survival
• 9:12
  language
• 9:12
  cannot
• 9:13
  lead
• 9:13
  a
• 9:14
  sovereign
• 9:14
  life.
• 9:15
  Tough
• 9:16
  love
• 9:16
  is
• 9:16
  simply
• 9:17
  a
• 9:17
  survival
• 9:18
  strategy,
• 9:19
  not
• 9:19
  a
• 9:19
  leadership
• 9:20
  skill.
• 9:20
  Tough
• 9:21
  loved
• 9:21
  worked
• 9:21
  when
• 9:21
  your
• 9:22
  nervous
• 9:22
  system
• 9:23
  needed
• 9:23
  pressure
• 9:24
  to
• 9:24
  perform
• 9:25
  when
• 9:25
  fear
• 9:26
  kept
• 9:26
  you
• 9:27
  moving
• 9:27
  when
• 9:28
  rest
• 9:28
  felt
• 9:29
  unsafe,
• 9:30
  but
• 9:30
  at
• 9:30
  your
• 9:30
  next
• 9:31
  level,
• 9:32
  pressure
• 9:32
  without
• 9:33
  compassion.
• 9:34
  Becomes
• 9:35
  paralysis.
• 9:36
  That
• 9:37
  harsh
• 9:37
  inner
• 9:37
  voice
• 9:38
  doesn't
• 9:39
  propel
• 9:39
  you
• 9:39
  forward
• 9:40
  anymore.
• 9:41
  It
• 9:41
  keeps
• 9:41
  you
• 9:41
  circling
• 9:42
  That
• 9:42
  last
• 9:43
  version
• 9:43
  of
• 9:43
  you
• 9:44
  that
• 9:44
  knew
• 9:44
  how
• 9:45
  to
• 9:45
  respond
• 9:45
  to
• 9:46
  threat.
• 9:46
  Tough
• 9:47
  love
• 9:47
  isn't
• 9:48
  making
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  strong,
• 9:49
  it's
• 9:49
  keeping
• 9:50
  you
• 9:50
  loyal
• 9:51
  to
• 9:52
  survival.
• 9:53
  So
• 9:53
  you
• 9:53
  are
• 9:53
  not
• 9:53
  stuck
• 9:54
  because
• 9:54
  you
• 9:55
  lack
• 9:55
  discipline.
• 9:56
  You're
• 9:56
  stuck
• 9:56
  because
• 9:57
  your
• 9:57
  system
• 9:58
  is
• 9:58
  still
• 9:58
  listening
• 9:59
  to
• 9:59
  a
• 10:00
  voice.
• 10:00
  Trained
• 10:01
  in
• 10:01
  emergency,
• 10:02
  not
• 10:03
  expansion.
• 10:04
  Survival
• 10:05
  language
• 10:06
  cannot
• 10:06
  steward
• 10:07
  a
• 10:07
  sovereign
• 10:08
  life.
• 10:09
  And
• 10:09
  not
• 10:09
  only
• 10:10
  that,
• 10:10
  self
• 10:11
  drag
• 10:11
  keeps
• 10:12
  you
• 10:12
  loyal
• 10:12
  to
• 10:13
  the
• 10:13
  old
• 10:13
  orbit.
• 10:14
  That's
• 10:15
  the
• 10:15
  sneaky
• 10:15
  part.
• 10:16
  When
• 10:16
  you
• 10:16
  talk
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  yourself
• 10:17
  and
• 10:18
  say
• 10:18
  things
• 10:18
  like,
• 10:19
  I
• 10:19
  should
• 10:19
  be
• 10:19
  further
• 10:20
  by
• 10:20
  now.
• 10:20
  Why
• 10:21
  can't
• 10:21
  I
• 10:21
  just
• 10:21
  get
• 10:21
  it
• 10:22
  together?
• 10:22
  Or,
• 10:23
  I
• 10:23
  know
• 10:23
  better
• 10:23
  what's
• 10:24
  wrong
• 10:24
  with
• 10:24
  me?
• 10:25
  You
• 10:25
  are
• 10:25
  unconsciously.
• 10:27
  Tethering
• 10:27
  yourself
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  the
• 10:29
  identity
• 10:29
  that
• 10:30
  needed
• 10:30
  that
• 10:30
  voice
• 10:31
  to
• 10:31
  function.
• 10:32
  Self
• 10:33
  drag
• 10:33
  is
• 10:34
  a
• 10:34
  gravitational
• 10:35
  pull.
• 10:35
  It
• 10:36
  keeps
• 10:36
  you
• 10:36
  orbiting
• 10:37
  the
• 10:37
  old
• 10:37
  version
• 10:38
  of
• 10:38
  you
• 10:38
  because
• 10:39
  it's
• 10:39
  familiar,
• 10:40
  predictable,
• 10:41
  but
• 10:42
  elevation
• 10:43
  requires
• 10:44
  detachment.
• 10:45
  You
• 10:45
  don't
• 10:46
  rise
• 10:46
  by
• 10:46
  protecting
• 10:47
  your
• 10:47
  old
• 10:48
  self.
• 10:49
  You
• 10:49
  rise
• 10:49
  by
• 10:50
  changing
• 10:50
  who
• 10:51
  gets
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  speak
• 10:52
  inside
• 10:53
  you.
• 10:53
  Self
• 10:54
  drag
• 10:54
  is
• 10:54
  a
• 10:54
  trauma
• 10:55
  reflex,
• 10:56
  not
• 10:56
  a
• 10:56
  personality
• 10:57
  trait.
• 10:58
  Some
• 10:58
  of
• 10:58
  you
• 10:58
  think
• 10:59
  this
• 10:59
  is
• 10:59
  just
• 11:00
  how
• 11:00
  I
• 11:00
  talk.
• 11:01
  No
• 11:01
  ma'am.
• 11:02
  Mm-hmm.
• 11:03
  Self
• 11:03
  drag
• 11:04
  is
• 11:04
  what
• 11:04
  happens
• 11:05
  when
• 11:05
  your
• 11:05
  nervous
• 11:05
  system
• 11:06
  thinks
• 11:07
  threat
• 11:07
  equals
• 11:08
  motivation.
• 11:09
  But
• 11:09
  here's
• 11:10
  the
• 11:10
  plot
• 11:10
  twist.
• 11:11
  You
• 11:11
  can't
• 11:12
  self-abuse
• 11:13
  your
• 11:13
  way.
• 11:14
  Into
• 11:15
  your
• 11:15
  next
• 11:15
  level.
• 11:16
  Your
• 11:16
  body
• 11:16
  does
• 11:17
  not
• 11:17
  bloom
• 11:18
  under
• 11:18
  attack,
• 11:19
  it
• 11:20
  blooms
• 11:20
  under
• 11:21
  safety
• 11:22
  and
• 11:22
  direction.
• 11:23
  Your
• 11:24
  healed
• 11:24
  identity
• 11:26
  requires
• 11:26
  a
• 11:26
  voice
• 11:27
  that
• 11:28
  can
• 11:28
  hold
• 11:28
  discomfort
• 11:30
  without
• 11:30
  turning
• 11:31
  it
• 11:31
  into
• 11:32
  a
• 11:32
  character
• 11:32
  assassination
• 11:33
  That
• 11:34
  my
• 11:34
  friend
• 11:35
  is
• 11:35
  the
• 11:36
  upgrade.
• 11:39
  Ooh,
• 11:39
  friend
• 11:40
  popping
• 11:40
  in
• 11:40
  here
• 11:40
  real
• 11:40
  quick.
• 11:41
  Let
• 11:41
  me
• 11:41
  paint
• 11:41
  this
• 11:41
  picture
• 11:42
  for
• 11:42
  you.
• 11:42
  Imagine
• 11:43
  sitting
• 11:44
  down
• 11:44
  at
• 11:44
  the
• 11:44
  end
• 11:44
  of
• 11:44
  your
• 11:45
  day
• 11:45
  tea
• 11:46
  or
• 11:46
  your
• 11:46
  favorite
• 11:46
  drink
• 11:46
  in
• 11:47
  hand.
• 11:47
  Soft
• 11:48
  music
• 11:48
  on
• 11:49
  the
• 11:49
  world.
• 11:50
  Quiet
• 11:50
  and
• 11:51
  instead
• 11:51
  of
• 11:51
  spiraling
• 11:52
  or
• 11:52
  replaying
• 11:53
  old
• 11:53
  moments,
• 11:54
  you
• 11:54
  open
• 11:54
  a
• 11:55
  journal
• 11:55
  that
• 11:55
  guides
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  into
• 11:57
  the
• 11:57
  most
• 11:57
  elevated,
• 11:58
  grounded,
• 11:59
  powerful
• 11:59
  version
• 12:00
  of
• 12:01
  yourself.
• 12:02
  That's
• 12:02
  the
• 12:03
  Main
• 12:03
  Character
• 12:03
  Energy
• 12:04
  Journal
• 12:04
  Prompts.
• 12:05
  Specifically
• 12:06
  written
• 12:06
  for
• 12:06
  you.
• 12:07
  Every
• 12:08
  single
• 12:08
  prompt
• 12:09
  pulls
• 12:10
  you
• 12:10
  deeper
• 12:10
  into
• 12:11
  self-awareness,
• 12:12
  self-respect,
• 12:13
  self-trust,
• 12:14
  identity
• 12:15
  alignment,
• 12:16
  emotional
• 12:17
  clarity.
• 12:18
  These
• 12:18
  journal
• 12:18
  prompts
• 12:19
  help
• 12:19
  you
• 12:19
  hear
• 12:20
  your
• 12:20
  intuition
• 12:20
  louder.
• 12:21
  It
• 12:21
  helps
• 12:22
  you
• 12:22
  see
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  pattern.
• 12:23
  Clearly
• 12:24
  and
• 12:24
  helps
• 12:24
  you
• 12:24
  shift
• 12:25
  your
• 12:25
  energy
• 12:25
  intentionally.
• 12:27
  And
• 12:27
  on
• 12:27
  the
• 12:27
  other
• 12:28
  side,
• 12:28
  you
• 12:29
  become
• 12:29
  the
• 12:29
  woman
• 12:30
  who
• 12:30
  no
• 12:30
  longer
• 12:31
  questions
• 12:31
  her
• 12:31
  worth
• 12:32
  because
• 12:33
  she's
• 12:33
  been
• 12:33
  sitting
• 12:34
  with
• 12:34
  it
• 12:34
  daily,
• 12:35
  pouring
• 12:36
  into
• 12:36
  it,
• 12:36
  strengthening
• 12:37
  it,
• 12:38
  returning
• 12:39
  to
• 12:39
  it.
• 12:40
  Imagine
• 12:41
  flipping
• 12:41
  through
• 12:42
  these
• 12:42
  pages
• 12:42
  months
• 12:43
  from
• 12:43
  now
• 12:44
  and
• 12:44
  realizing.
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  became
• 12:45
  her.
• 12:46
  I
• 12:47
  became
• 12:47
  the
• 12:47
  woman
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  kept
• 12:49
  writing
• 12:49
  about.
• 12:50
  Ooh,
• 12:50
  friend,
• 12:51
  that's
• 12:52
  the
• 12:52
  magic
• 12:52
  waiting
• 12:53
  for
• 12:53
  you.
• 12:54
  So
• 12:54
  grab
• 12:55
  your
• 12:55
  journal
• 12:55
  prompts
• 12:56
  in
• 12:56
  the
• 12:56
  link
• 12:57
  below
• 12:57
  in
• 12:57
  the
• 12:57
  show
• 12:58
  notes,
• 12:58
  and
• 12:59
  let's
• 12:59
  put
• 12:59
  your
• 13:00
  evolution
• 13:01
  in
• 13:01
  ink.
• 13:04
  Self
• 13:05
  devotion
• 13:06
  changes
• 13:07
  the
• 13:07
  song
• 13:07
  you
• 13:08
  live
• 13:08
  by,
• 13:09
  because
• 13:09
  let's
• 13:10
  be
• 13:10
  honest,
• 13:11
  some
• 13:11
  of
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  are
• 13:11
  still
• 13:11
  living
• 13:12
  life
• 13:13
  to
• 13:13
  a
• 13:13
  struggle
• 13:14
  anthem,
• 13:15
  when
• 13:15
  your
• 13:16
  season
• 13:16
  requires
• 13:17
  a
• 13:17
  victory
• 13:18
  soundtrack,
• 13:19
  self
• 13:19
  devotion
• 13:20
  is
• 13:21
  choosing
• 13:21
  words
• 13:22
  that
• 13:22
  regulate
• 13:22
  your
• 13:23
  nervous
• 13:23
  system,
• 13:24
  reinforce
• 13:25
  trust
• 13:26
  with
• 13:26
  yourself.
• 13:27
  Call
• 13:27
  you
• 13:28
  up
• 13:29
  instead
• 13:30
  of
• 13:30
  calling
• 13:30
  you
• 13:30
  out
• 13:31
  and
• 13:31
  leaving
• 13:32
  you
• 13:32
  flatlined.
• 13:33
  Okay?
• 13:35
  You
• 13:35
  don't
• 13:35
  need
• 13:35
  hype.
• 13:36
  You
• 13:36
  need
• 13:37
  leadership.
• 13:38
  The
• 13:38
  voice
• 13:38
  you
• 13:39
  practice
• 13:40
  becomes
• 13:41
  the
• 13:41
  voice
• 13:41
  that
• 13:41
  leads.
• 13:43
  This
• 13:43
  is
• 13:43
  the
• 13:43
  part
• 13:44
  that
• 13:44
  so
• 13:44
  many
• 13:45
  people
• 13:45
  skip.
• 13:46
  You
• 13:46
  don't
• 13:46
  wait
• 13:47
  until
• 13:47
  you
• 13:47
  feel
• 13:48
  confident
• 13:48
  to
• 13:48
  speak
• 13:49
  differently.
• 13:50
  You
• 13:50
  speak
• 13:51
  differently
• 13:52
  until
• 13:52
  confidence.
• 13:53
  Catches
• 13:54
  up
• 13:55
  Your
• 13:55
  inner
• 13:56
  dialogue
• 13:56
  is
• 13:57
  a
• 13:57
  daily
• 13:58
  rehearsal,
• 13:59
  and
• 13:59
  right
• 13:59
  now
• 14:00
  some
• 14:00
  of
• 14:01
  you
• 14:01
  are
• 14:01
  still
• 14:01
  rehearsing
• 14:02
  for
• 14:02
  a
• 14:02
  role
• 14:03
  you've
• 14:03
  already
• 14:04
  been
• 14:04
  released
• 14:05
  from
• 14:06
  Main
• 14:06
  Character
• 14:07
  Energy
• 14:07
  is
• 14:07
  choosing
• 14:08
  language
• 14:09
  that
• 14:09
  matches
• 14:10
  your
• 14:10
  future
• 14:11
  posture,
• 14:11
  not
• 14:12
  your
• 14:12
  past
• 14:12
  wounds.
• 14:13
  Positive
• 14:14
  self-talk
• 14:14
  is
• 14:15
  not
• 14:15
  lying
• 14:15
  to
• 14:16
  yourself
• 14:16
  or
• 14:16
  skipping
• 14:17
  accountability
• 14:18
  because
• 14:19
  you
• 14:19
  can
• 14:19
  still
• 14:20
  speak
• 14:20
  to
• 14:20
  yourself
• 14:21
  with
• 14:21
  love.
• 14:22
  And
• 14:23
  hold
• 14:23
  yourself
• 14:24
  accountable.
• 14:24
  It's
• 14:25
  choosing
• 14:25
  language
• 14:26
  that
• 14:26
  tells
• 14:27
  the
• 14:27
  truth
• 14:28
  without
• 14:29
  threatening
• 14:29
  your
• 14:29
  nervous
• 14:30
  system.
• 14:31
  So
• 14:31
  next
• 14:31
  I
• 14:31
  wanna
• 14:31
  share
• 14:32
  with
• 14:32
  you
• 14:33
  the
• 14:33
  Inner
• 14:34
  Coach
• 14:34
  Language
• 14:35
  Framework,
• 14:36
  because
• 14:36
  this
• 14:37
  is
• 14:38
  the
• 14:38
  ultimate
• 14:39
  upgrade
• 14:39
  and
• 14:40
  shift.
• 14:40
  because
• 14:41
  listen,
• 14:41
  friend,
• 14:41
  I
• 14:41
  get
• 14:42
  it.
• 14:42
  Updating
• 14:43
  yourself
• 14:43
  talk
• 14:44
  is
• 14:45
  not
• 14:45
  easy,
• 14:46
  but
• 14:46
  it
• 14:47
  is
• 14:47
  doable.
• 14:48
  And
• 14:48
  that's
• 14:48
  what
• 14:48
  this
• 14:49
  framework
• 14:49
  is
• 14:49
  gonna
• 14:49
  help
• 14:50
  you
• 14:50
  do.
• 14:50
  So
• 14:50
  step
• 14:51
  one,
• 14:51
  clock
• 14:52
  it.
• 14:52
  It's
• 14:53
  the
• 14:53
  awareness.
• 14:54
  Notice
• 14:54
  the
• 14:55
  self
• 14:55
  drag.
• 14:56
  Name
• 14:56
  it
• 14:57
  without
• 14:57
  judgment.
• 14:58
  Heavy
• 14:59
  on
• 14:59
  the
• 14:59
  without
• 15:00
  judgment.
• 15:00
  Friend.
• 15:00
  Just.
• 15:02
  Acknowledge
• 15:03
  it.
• 15:04
  That's
• 15:05
  the
• 15:05
  survival
• 15:05
  voice.
• 15:06
  And
• 15:07
  then
• 15:07
  step
• 15:07
  two,
• 15:08
  filter
• 15:08
  it
• 15:08
  through
• 15:09
  self-love,
• 15:10
  because
• 15:10
  this
• 15:10
  is
• 15:11
  your
• 15:11
  new
• 15:11
  lens.
• 15:12
  Self-love
• 15:13
  is
• 15:13
  not
• 15:14
  softness,
• 15:15
  it's
• 15:15
  self-honoring
• 15:17
  truth.
• 15:18
  So
• 15:18
  ask
• 15:19
  yourself,
• 15:20
  if
• 15:20
  I
• 15:20
  loved
• 15:21
  myself,
• 15:22
  how
• 15:22
  would
• 15:22
  I
• 15:22
  talk
• 15:22
  to
• 15:23
  myself
• 15:23
  right
• 15:23
  now?
• 15:24
  Not
• 15:24
  what
• 15:25
  feels
• 15:25
  comfortable
• 15:26
  or
• 15:26
  avoids
• 15:27
  accountability,
• 15:28
  but
• 15:28
  what
• 15:29
  moves
• 15:29
  me
• 15:29
  forward
• 15:30
  without
• 15:32
  abandoning
• 15:32
  myself
• 15:34
  or
• 15:34
  tearing
• 15:34
  me
• 15:35
  down.
• 15:36
  Step
• 15:36
  three
• 15:37
  is
• 15:37
  coach
• 15:37
  it.
• 15:38
  This
• 15:38
  is
• 15:38
  your
• 15:38
  replacement
• 15:39
  language.
• 15:40
  Here's
• 15:40
  the
• 15:40
  swap
• 15:41
  instead
• 15:42
  of,
• 15:42
  I
• 15:42
  always
• 15:43
  mess
• 15:43
  this
• 15:43
  up.
• 15:44
  You're
• 15:44
  gonna
• 15:44
  say,
• 15:45
  this
• 15:45
  didn't
• 15:46
  align.
• 15:47
  Let's
• 15:47
  adjust.
• 15:48
  We're
• 15:48
  no
• 15:48
  longer
• 15:49
  saying,
• 15:49
  I'm
• 15:50
  so
• 15:50
  behind.
• 15:51
  Instead
• 15:52
  we're
• 15:52
  saying,
• 15:53
  I'm
• 15:54
  integrating.
• 15:55
  Growth
• 15:55
  takes
• 15:56
  presence
• 15:57
  and
• 15:57
  practice.
• 15:58
  We
• 15:59
  are
• 15:59
  releasing
• 16:00
  the
• 16:00
  why
• 16:00
  can't
• 16:01
  I
• 16:01
  get
• 16:01
  it
• 16:01
  together?
• 16:02
  No
• 16:03
  more
• 16:03
  friend.
• 16:03
  Instead
• 16:04
  we
• 16:04
  say,
• 16:05
  what
• 16:06
  support
• 16:06
  do
• 16:06
  I
• 16:06
  need
• 16:07
  to
• 16:07
  lead
• 16:08
  myself
• 16:08
  better
• 16:09
  here
• 16:09
  and
• 16:10
  now?
• 16:10
  This
• 16:10
  one,
• 16:11
  this
• 16:11
  one
• 16:11
  right
• 16:12
  here,
• 16:12
  changed
• 16:13
  how
• 16:13
  I
• 16:13
  talk
• 16:14
  to
• 16:14
  myself.
• 16:15
  So
• 16:15
  let's
• 16:15
  say
• 16:15
  you
• 16:16
  miss
• 16:16
  a
• 16:16
  workout
• 16:17
  because
• 16:17
  we
• 16:18
  all
• 16:18
  know
• 16:18
  health
• 16:18
  and
• 16:18
  fitness.
• 16:19
  It's
• 16:19
  super
• 16:20
  important
• 16:21
  and
• 16:21
  we
• 16:22
  set
• 16:22
  these
• 16:22
  goals
• 16:23
  that
• 16:23
  we
• 16:23
  want
• 16:24
  to
• 16:24
  be
• 16:24
  more
• 16:24
  healthy,
• 16:25
  and
• 16:25
  working
• 16:26
  out
• 16:26
  is
• 16:26
  usually
• 16:27
  a
• 16:27
  part
• 16:27
  of
• 16:27
  that
• 16:28
  equation.
• 16:28
  So
• 16:28
  you've
• 16:28
  already
• 16:29
  geared
• 16:29
  yourself
• 16:30
  up.
• 16:30
  You're
• 16:30
  already
• 16:30
  ready,
• 16:31
  like
• 16:31
  the
• 16:31
  workout
• 16:32
  is
• 16:32
  scheduled,
• 16:32
  it's
• 16:32
  on
• 16:33
  the
• 16:33
  calendar,
• 16:33
  you're
• 16:33
  ready
• 16:34
  to
• 16:34
  go.
• 16:34
  Clothes
• 16:35
  laid
• 16:35
  out
• 16:35
  shoes,
• 16:36
  boom,
• 16:36
  you're
• 16:36
  ready.
• 16:37
  And
• 16:37
  then
• 16:38
  you
• 16:39
  miss
• 16:39
  that
• 16:39
  workout
• 16:40
  and
• 16:40
  the
• 16:40
  old
• 16:41
  voice
• 16:41
  says,
• 16:42
  here
• 16:42
  we
• 16:42
  go
• 16:42
  again.
• 16:43
  You
• 16:43
  never
• 16:44
  stick
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  anything.
• 16:45
  Nope,
• 16:46
  nope,
• 16:46
  nope.
• 16:46
  Mm-hmm.
• 16:47
  Cancel
• 16:48
  that
• 16:48
  new
• 16:48
  inner
• 16:49
  coach
• 16:49
  says,
• 16:50
  okay,
• 16:51
  we
• 16:51
  missed
• 16:51
  today.
• 16:52
  Is
• 16:53
  there
• 16:53
  a
• 16:53
  way
• 16:53
  I
• 16:53
  can
• 16:54
  still
• 16:54
  move
• 16:55
  my
• 16:55
  body
• 16:55
  today?
• 16:56
  And
• 16:56
  what's
• 16:57
  the
• 16:57
  most
• 16:57
  loving
• 16:58
  way
• 16:59
  to
• 16:59
  reenter
• 17:00
  tomorrow?
• 17:01
  You
• 17:01
  see,
• 17:01
  friend,
• 17:02
  same
• 17:02
  accountability,
• 17:04
  different
• 17:04
  nervous
• 17:05
  system
• 17:05
  response.
• 17:06
  Positive
• 17:07
  self-talk
• 17:08
  doesn't
• 17:08
  remove
• 17:09
  responsibility.
• 17:10
  It
• 17:11
  removes
• 17:12
  the
• 17:12
  self
• 17:12
  abandonment
• 17:14
  that's
• 17:14
  Inner
• 17:14
  Coach
• 17:15
  Language.
• 17:16
  It's
• 17:16
  grounded,
• 17:17
  it's
• 17:18
  honest,
• 17:19
  it's
• 17:19
  self-respecting.
• 17:23
  Okay,
• 17:23
  listen.
• 17:23
  If
• 17:24
  you've
• 17:24
  been
• 17:24
  navigating
• 17:25
  life,
• 17:25
  feeling
• 17:26
  a
• 17:26
  little
• 17:26
  disconnected
• 17:27
  from
• 17:27
  who
• 17:28
  you
• 17:28
  know
• 17:28
  you
• 17:28
  are
• 17:28
  meant
• 17:29
  to
• 17:29
  be,
• 17:29
  the
• 17:30
  Main
• 17:30
  Character
• 17:30
  Confidence
• 17:31
  Checklist
• 17:32
  is
• 17:32
  your
• 17:33
  guide
• 17:33
  back
• 17:34
  to
• 17:34
  yourself.
• 17:34
  It
• 17:35
  brings
• 17:35
  you
• 17:35
  back
• 17:36
  to
• 17:36
  your
• 17:36
  standards,
• 17:37
  your
• 17:37
  values,
• 17:37
  your
• 17:38
  center,
• 17:39
  the
• 17:39
  parts
• 17:39
  of
• 17:39
  you
• 17:40
  that
• 17:40
  get
• 17:40
  lost.
• 17:41
  When
• 17:41
  life
• 17:42
  gets
• 17:42
  loud,
• 17:43
  download
• 17:44
  it
• 17:44
  for
• 17:44
  free
• 17:45
  and
• 17:45
  let
• 17:45
  this
• 17:45
  be
• 17:46
  the
• 17:46
  daily
• 17:46
  reminder
• 17:47
  that
• 17:47
  you
• 17:47
  are
• 17:47
  allowed
• 17:48
  to
• 17:48
  take
• 17:48
  up
• 17:48
  space
• 17:49
  to
• 17:49
  honor
• 17:49
  your
• 17:49
  worth
• 17:50
  and
• 17:50
  live
• 17:51
  like
• 17:51
  the
• 17:51
  Main
• 17:52
  Character
• 17:53
  you
• 17:53
  truly
• 17:53
  are.
• 17:56
  Now,
• 17:57
  this
• 17:57
  is
• 17:58
  where
• 17:58
  we
• 17:58
  make
• 17:58
  all
• 17:58
  of
• 17:58
  this
• 17:59
  real
• 17:59
  because
• 18:00
  knowing
• 18:00
  this
• 18:01
  isn't
• 18:01
  enough,
• 18:02
  nodding
• 18:02
  along
• 18:03
  isn't
• 18:03
  enough.
• 18:04
  Even
• 18:04
  catching
• 18:05
  the
• 18:05
  self
• 18:06
  drag,
• 18:06
  it's
• 18:07
  a
• 18:07
  first
• 18:07
  step,
• 18:08
  but
• 18:08
  it's
• 18:08
  not
• 18:08
  the
• 18:09
  final
• 18:09
  step.
• 18:10
  Awareness
• 18:10
  without
• 18:11
  application
• 18:12
  will
• 18:12
  still
• 18:13
  leave
• 18:13
  you
• 18:13
  circling
• 18:14
  the
• 18:14
  same
• 18:15
  level.
• 18:15
  Just
• 18:16
  more
• 18:16
  conscious
• 18:17
  this
• 18:18
  time,
• 18:18
  and
• 18:19
  I
• 18:19
  don't
• 18:19
  want
• 18:19
  you
• 18:20
  just
• 18:20
  hearing
• 18:21
  this
• 18:21
  episode.
• 18:21
  I
• 18:22
  want
• 18:22
  you
• 18:22
  using
• 18:23
  it
• 18:23
  the
• 18:23
  moment
• 18:24
  that
• 18:24
  negative
• 18:25
  voice
• 18:25
  creeps
• 18:25
  in,
• 18:26
  whether
• 18:26
  it's
• 18:26
  in
• 18:26
  the
• 18:27
  car,
• 18:27
  in
• 18:27
  the
• 18:27
  mirror,
• 18:28
  mid
• 18:28
  mistake
• 18:29
  or
• 18:29
  even
• 18:30
  mid
• 18:30
  trigger.
• 18:31
  So
• 18:31
  I'm
• 18:31
  gonna
• 18:31
  give
• 18:32
  you
• 18:32
  a
• 18:32
  simple,
• 18:32
  repeatable
• 18:33
  practice
• 18:34
  you
• 18:34
  can
• 18:34
  come
• 18:34
  back
• 18:34
  to
• 18:35
  every
• 18:35
  single
• 18:36
  time
• 18:36
  the
• 18:37
  self
• 18:37
  drag
• 18:37
  tries
• 18:38
  to
• 18:38
  grab
• 18:38
  the
• 18:38
  mic.
• 18:39
  Not
• 18:40
  something
• 18:40
  fluffy,
• 18:41
  not
• 18:41
  something
• 18:42
  you
• 18:42
  have
• 18:42
  to
• 18:42
  overthink,
• 18:43
  but
• 18:43
  something
• 18:43
  that
• 18:44
  lets
• 18:44
  you
• 18:44
  interrupt
• 18:45
  the
• 18:45
  old
• 18:45
  language
• 18:45
  and
• 18:46
  lead
• 18:46
  yourself
• 18:47
  in
• 18:47
  real
• 18:47
  time.
• 18:48
  It's
• 18:48
  our
• 18:48
  favorite,
• 18:49
  our
• 18:49
  self-love
• 18:50
  two
• 18:50
  step.
• 18:50
  This
• 18:51
  one
• 18:51
  is
• 18:51
  real
• 18:52
  time
• 18:52
  shift.
• 18:53
  Because
• 18:54
  self-love
• 18:54
  isn't
• 18:55
  just
• 18:55
  a
• 18:55
  feeling.
• 18:56
  It's
• 18:56
  a
• 18:56
  daily
• 18:57
  decision.
• 18:58
  You
• 18:58
  practice,
• 18:59
  and
• 18:59
  once
• 18:59
  you
• 18:59
  have
• 19:00
  this,
• 19:00
  you
• 19:00
  won't
• 19:01
  just
• 19:01
  notice
• 19:02
  the
• 19:02
  negative
• 19:02
  self-talk.
• 19:03
  You'll
• 19:03
  know
• 19:03
  exactly
• 19:04
  what
• 19:05
  to
• 19:05
  do
• 19:05
  next.
• 19:06
  So
• 19:07
  step
• 19:07
  one,
• 19:08
  interrupt
• 19:09
  the
• 19:09
  drag,
• 19:10
  say
• 19:10
  out
• 19:10
  loud
• 19:11
  or
• 19:11
  internally,
• 19:12
  we
• 19:13
  do
• 19:13
  not
• 19:14
  speak
• 19:14
  to
• 19:14
  ourselves
• 19:15
  like
• 19:15
  that
• 19:16
  anymore.
• 19:16
  That
• 19:17
  sentence
• 19:17
  alone,
• 19:18
  pure
• 19:19
  power.
• 19:20
  Step
• 19:20
  two,
• 19:21
  speak
• 19:22
  from
• 19:22
  devotion.
• 19:24
  Then
• 19:24
  you
• 19:24
  say
• 19:25
  to
• 19:25
  yourself,
• 19:26
  what's
• 19:26
  the
• 19:26
  most
• 19:27
  loving,
• 19:27
  honest
• 19:28
  direction
• 19:29
  right
• 19:29
  now?
• 19:30
  Let
• 19:30
  that
• 19:31
  be
• 19:31
  your
• 19:31
  new
• 19:31
  default
• 19:32
  practice
• 19:33
  makes
• 19:34
  it
• 19:34
  permanent.
• 19:35
  Self
• 19:35
  devotion
• 19:36
  is
• 19:36
  the
• 19:36
  voice
• 19:37
  that
• 19:37
  lets
• 19:37
  you
• 19:38
  land.
• 19:39
  It
• 19:39
  sounds
• 19:40
  like
• 19:40
  pause.
• 19:41
  We're
• 19:41
  safe.
• 19:42
  Now.
• 19:43
  Choose
• 19:44
  it
• 19:44
  sounds
• 19:45
  like.
• 19:45
  That
• 19:46
  didn't
• 19:46
  align,
• 19:47
  but
• 19:47
  it
• 19:47
  doesn't
• 19:48
  define
• 19:48
  you.
• 19:49
  It
• 19:49
  sounds
• 19:50
  like
• 19:50
  you
• 19:51
  don't
• 19:51
  need
• 19:51
  to
• 19:51
  rush,
• 19:52
  you
• 19:52
  need
• 19:53
  to
• 19:53
  reboot.
• 19:54
  This
• 19:55
  voice
• 19:55
  doesn't
• 19:56
  orbit
• 19:56
  the
• 19:56
  past.
• 19:57
  It
• 19:58
  anchors
• 19:58
  the
• 19:59
  future.
• 19:59
  And
• 20:00
  when
• 20:00
  you
• 20:00
  speak
• 20:00
  from
• 20:01
  this
• 20:01
  place,
• 20:02
  something
• 20:02
  shifts,
• 20:03
  you
• 20:03
  stop
• 20:04
  circling
• 20:05
  who
• 20:05
  you
• 20:05
  were
• 20:06
  and
• 20:06
  finally
• 20:07
  arrive
• 20:08
  as
• 20:08
  who
• 20:09
  you
• 20:09
  are
• 20:09
  becoming.
• 20:10
  That's
• 20:11
  Main
• 20:11
  Character,
• 20:11
  Energy,
• 20:12
  not
• 20:12
  performance,
• 20:13
  but
• 20:14
  presence.
• 20:15
  Now,
• 20:15
  let
• 20:16
  me
• 20:16
  pour
• 20:16
  into
• 20:16
  you
• 20:17
  real
• 20:17
  quick.
• 20:18
  Listen,
• 20:18
  you
• 20:19
  do
• 20:19
  not
• 20:19
  need
• 20:20
  to
• 20:20
  bully
• 20:20
  yourself.
• 20:21
  Into
• 20:22
  your
• 20:22
  destiny.
• 20:23
  If
• 20:23
  harshness
• 20:24
  actually
• 20:25
  worked,
• 20:26
  you'd
• 20:26
  already
• 20:26
  be
• 20:26
  there.
• 20:27
  I
• 20:27
  hope
• 20:28
  you
• 20:28
  know
• 20:29
  there
• 20:29
  is
• 20:29
  another
• 20:30
  way,
• 20:31
  a
• 20:31
  way
• 20:32
  to
• 20:32
  live
• 20:32
  your
• 20:32
  life
• 20:33
  and
• 20:33
  love
• 20:34
  your
• 20:34
  days
• 20:35
  to
• 20:35
  look
• 20:35
  in
• 20:35
  the
• 20:35
  mirror
• 20:36
  and
• 20:36
  be
• 20:37
  proud
• 20:37
  of
• 20:37
  the
• 20:38
  reflection
• 20:38
  you
• 20:39
  see
• 20:39
  looking
• 20:39
  back
• 20:40
  at
• 20:40
  you
• 20:41
  to
• 20:41
  have
• 20:41
  the
• 20:42
  life,
• 20:42
  love,
• 20:43
  relationships,
• 20:44
  and
• 20:45
  success
• 20:45
  you
• 20:46
  crave
• 20:47
  while
• 20:48
  having
• 20:48
  your
• 20:49
  wholeness.
• 20:50
  Intact.
• 20:51
  Loving
• 20:52
  yourself
• 20:52
  means
• 20:53
  refusing
• 20:54
  to
• 20:54
  abandon
• 20:55
  yourself
• 20:55
  while
• 20:55
  you
• 20:56
  grow.
• 20:56
  The
• 20:57
  question
• 20:57
  isn't,
• 20:58
  how
• 20:58
  do
• 20:58
  I
• 20:58
  push
• 20:59
  harder?
• 21:00
  It's
• 21:00
  how
• 21:00
  do
• 21:00
  I
• 21:01
  lead
• 21:01
  myself
• 21:02
  better?
• 21:03
  You
• 21:03
  are
• 21:03
  not
• 21:03
  behind
• 21:04
  because
• 21:04
  your
• 21:05
  inner
• 21:05
  voice
• 21:06
  still
• 21:06
  sounds
• 21:06
  like
• 21:07
  survival.
• 21:08
  You
• 21:08
  are
• 21:08
  becoming
• 21:09
  because
• 21:09
  you
• 21:10
  can
• 21:10
  hear
• 21:10
  it
• 21:11
  Now,
• 21:11
  awareness
• 21:12
  is
• 21:12
  evidence
• 21:13
  of
• 21:13
  evolution.
• 21:14
  Safety
• 21:15
  is
• 21:15
  the
• 21:15
  soil
• 21:16
  your
• 21:17
  next
• 21:17
  level
• 21:17
  grows
• 21:18
  in,
• 21:18
  and
• 21:18
  the
• 21:18
  woman
• 21:19
  you
• 21:19
  are
• 21:19
  becoming.
• 21:20
  She
• 21:20
  doesn't
• 21:20
  need
• 21:21
  to
• 21:21
  be
• 21:21
  yelled
• 21:21
  at
• 21:22
  to
• 21:22
  rise.
• 21:23
  She
• 21:23
  responds
• 21:24
  to
• 21:24
  clarity,
• 21:25
  compassion,
• 21:26
  and
• 21:27
  command.
• 21:28
  The
• 21:28
  woman
• 21:29
  you're
• 21:29
  becoming
• 21:29
  doesn't
• 21:30
  respond
• 21:30
  to
• 21:30
  shame.
• 21:31
  She
• 21:32
  responds
• 21:33
  to
• 21:33
  trust.
• 21:34
  So
• 21:35
  speak
• 21:35
  to
• 21:35
  yourself
• 21:36
  like
• 21:36
  she
• 21:36
  matters.
• 21:37
  Like
• 21:37
  she's
• 21:38
  trusted,
• 21:39
  like
• 21:39
  she's
• 21:39
  already
• 21:40
  on
• 21:40
  her
• 21:41
  way
• 21:41
  because
• 21:42
  she
• 21:43
  is.
• 21:43
  And
• 21:44
  the
• 21:44
  moment
• 21:44
  you
• 21:44
  stop
• 21:45
  dragging
• 21:45
  yourself
• 21:46
  forward
• 21:46
  is
• 21:47
  the
• 21:47
  moment
• 21:47
  you
• 21:48
  stop
• 21:48
  orbiting
• 21:49
  who
• 21:49
  you
• 21:49
  were
• 21:50
  and
• 21:50
  finally
• 21:51
  land
• 21:52
  in
• 21:52
  who
• 21:52
  you
• 21:52
  are
• 21:52
  meant
• 21:53
  to
• 21:53
  be.
• 21:54
  Change
• 21:55
  the
• 21:55
  voice,
• 21:56
  change
• 21:56
  the
• 21:56
  song
• 21:57
  because
• 21:58
  the
• 21:58
  season
• 21:58
  has
• 21:59
  changed.
• 22:00
  Change
• 22:00
  the
• 22:00
  language,
• 22:01
  change
• 22:02
  the
• 22:02
  leadership.
• 22:03
  Change
• 22:04
  your
• 22:04
  life.
• 22:05
  Speak
• 22:05
  to
• 22:05
  yourself
• 22:06
  like
• 22:07
  the
• 22:07
  woman
• 22:07
  you
• 22:07
  are
• 22:07
  becoming
• 22:08
  is
• 22:08
  listening.
• 22:10
  You
• 22:11
  are
• 22:11
  the
• 22:11
  main
• 22:12
  character
• 22:12
  of
• 22:12
  your
• 22:13
  life.
• 22:13
  The
• 22:13
  confident
• 22:14
  and
• 22:14
  empowered
• 22:15
  woman
• 22:16
  who
• 22:16
  is
• 22:16
  already
• 22:17
  complete,
• 22:18
  already
• 22:19
  living
• 22:20
  in
• 22:20
  her
• 22:20
  wholeness,
• 22:21
  who
• 22:22
  loves
• 22:22
  herself
• 22:23
  fully
• 22:24
  and
• 22:24
  talks
• 22:24
  to
• 22:24
  herself
• 22:25
  like
• 22:26
  it.
• 22:27
  Ooh,
• 22:27
  friend
• 22:28
  If
• 22:29
  this
• 22:29
  episode
• 22:30
  lit
• 22:30
  something
• 22:31
  in
• 22:31
  you,
• 22:32
  honor
• 22:33
  it,
• 22:33
  subscribe,
• 22:34
  so
• 22:34
  you
• 22:34
  can
• 22:34
  stay
• 22:35
  in
• 22:35
  this
• 22:35
  frequency,
• 22:36
  because
• 22:37
  this
• 22:37
  is
• 22:37
  not
• 22:37
  about
• 22:38
  fixing
• 22:38
  yourself.
• 22:38
  It's
• 22:39
  about
• 22:39
  leading
• 22:40
  yourself.
• 22:41
  And
• 22:41
  leave
• 22:42
  a
• 22:42
  five
• 22:42
  star
• 22:42
  review
• 22:43
  if
• 22:43
  you
• 22:43
  are
• 22:43
  ready
• 22:44
  to
• 22:44
  stop
• 22:44
  surviving
• 22:45
  your
• 22:45
  life
• 22:46
  and
• 22:46
  start
• 22:47
  speaking
• 22:48
  it
• 22:48
  into
• 22:49
  alignment.
• 22:50
  Until
• 22:50
  next
• 22:50
  time,
• 22:51
  queen.
• 22:51
  Choose
• 22:52
  devotion
• 22:53
  over
• 22:54
  drag
• 22:54
  and
• 22:55
  let
• 22:55
  your
• 22:55
  inner
• 22:55
  code
• 22:56
  boldly.
• 22:57
  Lead
• 22:58
  yourself.
• 22:59
  Well,
• 23:00
  I'm
• 23:00
  sending
• 23:00
  you
• 23:01
  great
• 23:01
  big
• 23:01
  virtual
• 23:02
  hugs.
• 23:03
  Love
• 23:03
  you
• 23:03
  friend.