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Setting Boundaries: The Key to Respect · Peace in a Pod

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Hello and welcome, Soul Tribe, my family.
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Thank you so much for tuning in to Peace and the Pod.
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I'm Loretta. And for those that are returning
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listeners, thank you so much for returning and joining us today.
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And for any new listeners, welcome and thank you for being
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here. Hey, hey Soul Tribe, welcome to
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Peace and the Pod. So you all know I like to do
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some deep, deep, deep thinking and then I share my thoughts.
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So I was doing some thinking about all the people we meet in
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our life, just the ones that come and go, the ones that stay,
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just all the people and all the different personalities that
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these people have. And it had me thinking about how
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some people you meet and know they treat you really well.
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And then you have others that just crap all over you.
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They talk to you crazy or they feel like they can talk to you
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any kind of way and make you the butt of a joke, whatever.
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And then it, it's, it's, I don't know, it just had me thinking
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about the people we allow in our circle and the way that we allow
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people to treat us. And I feel like people would
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treat you have or they feel like they can and, and want to.
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If you don't set boundaries, if you're just letting them say
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whatever and you don't really correct them or stop them,
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they're going to see that as you know, you don't mind, you don't
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care, and they're going to continue the behavior.
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And if you stop them, set some boundaries and stop them in
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their tracks, they'll understand that you are not tolerating
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that. That kind of mistreatment, that
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kind of disrespect or behavior, it's, it's just not going to
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happen. So I think if we start setting
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some firm boundaries with people and teaching people how we want
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to be treated, we can get the treatment that we desire and
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deserve. And this could be applied to
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friendships, relationships, whatever.
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Simply setting boundaries early will teach people how you want
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to be treated. Because the moment you start
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allowing them to mistreat you, they're going to continue that
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behavior because they've already gotten away with it and you
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haven't stopped them. And the moment you keep allowing
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that is the moment they're going to just continue.
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They're going to see it as, OK, this is someone I can treat a
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certain way and talk to a certain way, and they're going
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to keep being around. So as long as you keep returning
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and allowing that behavior, they're going to keep that
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behavior going. And I think when we set these
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boundaries and, and, and just say, Hey, don't speak to me like
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that or, you know, you're not going to treat me that way and
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you remove yourself from that energy and let them know that
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you're not going to tolerate it, They'll understand you're not
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one to be mistreated and disrespected.
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But we have to establish those boundaries first.
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And some people, you know, they, they don't want to speak up on
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things or, or say something to someone because they're afraid
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of that person's reaction. But keep in mind, that person
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already doesn't care about how you feel because they're already
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treating you less than. So don't be concerned about how
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they're going to react. Stand up for yourself and set
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those boundaries. You have to protect your energy.
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Don't allow people to come around and, and, and talk to you
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all kinds of crazy and giving them the benefit of the doubt.
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Sometimes, yeah, they might be having a bad day, but that's
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when you say, hey, there's something going on with you,
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'cause you're talking to me a little crazy, or maybe not like
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that, but I'm just straightforward.
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I you can finesse it a little bit.
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But all I'm saying is when people mistreat you or
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disrespect you in any kind of way and you allow that behavior
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to pass, then they're going to continue that behavior because
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it's already seeming to be acceptable.
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And you know, if you wait months down the line to try to stop
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them, the patterns already created, that's how they treat
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you. That's all they know at this
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point. And it's like, Oh, now you
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changing up on me and, and being a different person cuz you OK
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with it, you know, a few months ago.
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So it's like they'll try to make you feel some kind of way or you
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might be dealing with someone who actually is like, oh, I'm
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sorry, I didn't, you know, I did not realize that that's how I,
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you know, I was treating you or that's how it came off.
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But if you don't address it, it's going to continue.
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That's all I'm saying. So if you don't set the
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boundaries, some firm boundaries, you will be treated
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the way that that person feels that they can get away with.
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And you have to teach people, you have to teach people how to
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treat you. And you do that by setting the
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boundaries early. The moment you hear something or
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you get the disrespect or, or or bad behavior, that's when you
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need to speak up on something. And this could be in in your
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professional setting. This could be with your
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friendships, your love life, any situation.
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You need to set boundaries in to make sure that that that is
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established early and you get treated the way that you
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deserve. Sometimes it might not go over
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as well as you think it will. Some people are not receptive
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and you may lose a friend you may lose or a partner.
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You have to speak up for yourself though.
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You can't allow someone to mistreat you because you fear
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their reaction or even fear that has been going on for so long
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that it's too late to speak up on it.
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No, it's not. It's never too late.
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You have the right and deserve to be treated with dignity and
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respect, and you need to speak up when someone does not respect
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you or treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.
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And if people are feeling some kind of way, if you speak up on
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it, then those people are not meant to be in your circle.
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They are not meant to go with you as you progress in this
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life. And maybe, just maybe that
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particular individual was part of helping you bring out
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something inside of you that you have suppressed or hidden.
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And it's time to bring it to the surface because that's a part of
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your talent, your gifts. And in order for you to be the
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full version of you, you need to let that that part up and out.
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So sometimes we do experience people to challenge us to, to
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bring out the parts of us that we know are in there.
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We just don't want to bring it up because of whatever the
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circumstances or consequences we think are coming.
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So we fear a reaction from the other person rather than
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understanding that you shouldn't be treated or or spoken to that
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way. So all I'm saying is treat
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people how you want to be treated by setting boundaries
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early and if it's already to a point where the mistreatment and
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the disrespect is already happening, speak up OK?
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You are a strong individual and you deserve respect.
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No one should be mistreating you and disrespecting you.
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You are a strong individual and there is power in your voice.
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The power is already within you. You just need to speak up and
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let it out. Thanks again for tuning in to
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