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Inner Child Hypnosis to Break Perfectionism and to Feel Worthy · The Hypnotist

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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here, and you're about to listen to an inner
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  child hypnosis session all about worthiness.
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  And it was actually created for a client that grew up in a
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  household where nothing was ever good enough.
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  And if they wanted love, affection or approval, they had
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  to earn it. And that meant for them being
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  academically smart. But it had a twist, and that is
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  that although love was conditional in their childhood,
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  their mother was also very jealous.
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  So if they got too good, then their mother would feel
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  insecure, and that would also lead to problems.
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  So it's this damned if you do, damned if you don't.
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  Or, to use a metaphor between a rock and a hard place, that
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  whatever you do seems to end badly.
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  And the natural reaction to that in adulthood can be
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  procrastination or a feeling of unless you can be perfect in
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  that thing, why bother? So if you can relate to that
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  idea of crippling procrastination or this
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  perfectionism trap that you don't even want to try unless
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  you're pretty sure that you're going to be excellent at that
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  thing, I think you might get some value from this session.
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  Now, where the inner child element comes in, as I said to
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  this client before the session started, what did you, when did
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  you hear, you know, kind of, let's say approval from your
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  mother or encouragement about your passions?
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  And she just never did. So that's why she, in this
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  session, gets to take the position of a mother figure to
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  her younger self and actually be attentive without needing to
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  earn it, to give approval, without it being conditional to
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  be interested in the desires and ambitions and dreams of the
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  younger version of herself. And it's in a child.
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  Work. Because what tends to happen is
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  most of the problems or issues in adulthood are formed in
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  childhood. So when you use disassociated
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  regression and this form of inner child work, then it can
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  actually be very powerful. Because if you can resolve the
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  issues in childhood that can RIP all through space and time all
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  the way up to the present and actually make them feel that
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  they are worthy and they are good enough.
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  So if you can relate to any of these themes or issues, you may
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  get some real value from this session.
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  Please be aware it was created for a specific client.
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  Some of the issues and suggestions may have been
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  perfect for the client and not quite right for you.
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  So disregard anything that isn't quite right.
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  And if you do like the idea of having a bespoke session
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  entirely customized and calibrated to you, then check
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  out my website whichisadamcox.co.uk or in fact
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  the description, the show notes of this episode and there'll be
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  lots of links and resources 1990s that will show you how you
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  can work with me. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  wonderful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, give permission to release all of
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  that pressure, expectation, all of that tension that comes from
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  having to do so much more breathing and relaxation,
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  exhaling tension. Each breath allows you to go
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  deeper and and deeper, relaxed. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel
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  the deeper you breathe. Each breath takes you to a
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  deeper level of relaxation. And I want you to imagine what
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  it would be like to release any tension around the jaw, the
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  neck, the shoulders, fill your arms limp, loose and heavy that
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  your eyelids were getting so. Heavy that if.
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  You were to focus on the back of your eyeballs.
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  Even if you try to open your eyes, they would just feel
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  heavier and heavier and then release that sensation, feeling
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  the relaxation drop down your face, down into your chest.
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  That's it. And I want you to think back to
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  a childhood home. I want you to think of a place
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  that you were living when you were perhaps 345 years old.
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  And I want you to think. Think of where you used to sleep
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  when you were just a child like that.
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  I wonder if you can use the power of your imagination to
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  float back to that place. Imagine floating back at your
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  current age, all the way back like an invisible observer, and
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  you can jump forwards and backwards in time.
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  You might imagine yourself as three years old, and then five,
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  and then 10, and then back to seven.
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  But I want you to observe what had to happen for you as a child
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  to be worthy. Was that younger version of you
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  able to feel worthy by being enthusiastic about something
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  they were interested in? What was that younger version of
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  you required to earn it? I want you to observe what you
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  were criticized for and what what you were given approval
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  for, because those things like criticism and approval would be
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  the very things that made certain beliefs form in that
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  young mind of yours. And I want you to see a very
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  capable, intelligent young child, but a very capable,
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  intelligent young child. Very quickly we'll learn that
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  there is a way to play a game, to study hard, to be smart just
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  enough to get the approval. But avoid doing certain things
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  to make your mother jealous. And the more you observe this
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  childhood from your current eyes looking backwards, the more it
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  makes sense. The more it makes sense.
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  That this. Version of you had a very
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  difficult game to win. This version of you was told to
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  be perfect, but when you were perfect, you upsetted the person
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  whose approval you wanted the. Most I want.
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  You to imagine if you were playing a game and no matter
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  what you did in that game, no matter how much you practiced or
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  learned the rules, you could never win that game.
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  Don't you think it would reach a point where you would simply
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  stop playing that game? I want you to imagine there is a
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  different game to play, a game based on your rules.
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  I want you to imagine seeing yourself perhaps 3-4 years old,
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  but a time when you would have been alone in a bedroom.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing that younger version of you as
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  you currently are at your age right now, and that younger
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  version of you might be surprised or confused.
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  Who is this person in their room?
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  But I want you to tell them you are them from the future.
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  And of course, they might be suspicious or skeptical to tell
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  them a secret that only they know.
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  And when you've proven to that younger version of you, maybe
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  3-4, five years old, that you are them from the future, let me
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  know by nodding your. Head.
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  That's it. And I want you to tell them how
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  capable, how smart, how curious they are.
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  I want you to tell them that they are loved, that they are
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  important, that they are interesting and just allow this
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  child to change their age depending on the words that you
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  say, sometimes older, sometimes younger.
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  And if you tell them that they are so interesting and they try
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  and deflect, sit down with them and tell them why they are so.
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  Interesting. I want.
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  You to ask them about their. Interests.
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  Ask them. What they want to be when
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  they're older. And whatever they say, be
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  delighted to hear. It wow, that's.
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  Amazing. Tell me what you know.
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  Why would you like that? For a child to feel interesting,
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  they need someone to be interested.
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  And I want you to be not just interested, I want you to be
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  fascinated, Hanging on every word they have to say and they
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  tell you not just what they've done, but the things they like.
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  Tell them how proud you are, not of their achievements, but of
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  their character. You don't care the grade that
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  they got. You care that they are
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  dedicated. They love to learn.
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  They're resilient. Praise them on their qualities,
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  not their accomplishments. Make this child feel loved, not
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  based on what they've done, but based on who they are.
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  That's it. And you already know you're not
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  just healing this child, you are healing yourself from within.
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  Because every time you give this child approval, love and
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  validation without them needing to earn it, they are building
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  the belief that they are worthy. Not based on what they do, but
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  based on who they are. The same standard you have for
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  your friends, you're now holding to yourself, perhaps for the
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  first time, and feel that change ripple from the past all the way
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  to the present. I don't want.
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  You to ask this child if there's anyone that gets jealous or
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  feels bad if they are too good at something and just hear what
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  they say. And just tell.
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  Them every. Individual has gifts, talents
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  and capabilities that if you shine brightly, it doesn't dim
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  the light of anyone else. In fact, are you shining
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  brightly? You will inspire others to shine
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  even brighter. That if someone gets upset
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  because you're too good, that is an issue for them, not an issue
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  for you. Because if you hold yourself
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  back just because someone else may feel insecure, you are
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  rewarding and enabling their insecurities.
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  The world doesn't hold back because of how you may feel.
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  The most talented people in the world are talented irrespective
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  of what you do, and the same is true the other way.
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  Around and then. Speak to this child and say what
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  has to happen for you to want to try something something new and
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  allow the child to change the age where they feel that it has
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  to be done perfectly or why bother?
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  And you can get curious and ask why it has to be done perfectly.
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  You may be surprised by the answer, but I want you to tell
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  that child that perfection is an illusion.
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  Excellence can be strived for. Progress is powerful.
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  Perfection is a mirage. When you pursue perfection, the
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  moment you get close, perfection gets further away.
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  Perfection is simply frustration, pretending to be
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  high standards because this child is smart.
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  Just wait for that moment where they get it.
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  Perfection is not honorable, not desirable.
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  Perfection is a curse that paralyses progress and passion,
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  enthusiasm and interest. That's how people get good.
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  The best in the world that anything had an enthusiasm for
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  that thing, but they were never perfect.
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  They did it with a free spirit, a light heart.
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  They put joy and dedication into that thing, and over time they
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  got better and better. And to the outside world, it
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  looked perfect, but never was. I want you to see a child that
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  now feels worthy without needing to earn.
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  It is. Comfortable being excellent,
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  even if others are jealous or insecure about that.
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  And I want you to see a child free of the shackles of
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  perfectionism instead. A desire to enjoy, learning,
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  growing, experiencing. Not to earn approval, not to be
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  good enough, but simply because that's what living.
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  Is and I. Want you to imagine what it
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  would be like to hug that child and feel all of those changes in
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  the child ripple through space and time all the way up to your
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  present. Because this child is you.
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  And I want you to imagine. Imagine going forwards in time
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  now, seeing yourself in your present and seeing that that
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  version of you does not need to earn approval, be worthy of a
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  compliment. I want you to see a version of
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  you that stops holding back, just in case other people feel
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  bad. I want that version of you in
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  your present and your future, to seek out things that it's
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  impossible to be perfect at. Seeking out things that just
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  give you joy, that kindle passion, interest, curiosity,
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  and see how you handle things over the next few days and
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  weeks. Don't be surprised if you
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  rehearse not to meet a standard, but just because it makes you
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  feel good. Don't be surprised if you see
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  yourself doing the things you've been putting off because now
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  they're not contaminated with all the emotional baggage of the
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  past. And every time you do the kind
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  of things that you were avoiding, it's like giving a
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  lift, a gift to that little girl that needed to know that she was
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  worthy. And as you hold that dawn, just
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  imagine that smiling child within you and feel lighter,
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  more capable. That you're willing to hold
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  yourself to the same standard that you've been holding others.
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  That their worthiness is not based on what they do, it's
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  based on who they are. And if your unconscious agrees,
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  let me know by nodding your. Head.
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  That's it. And just wait a moment and feel
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  the shift within. Might be a sensation, your
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  chest, your gut might be a lightness, a change.
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  Sometimes there's a physical sensation that comes with
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  recalibration, and any echoes of the past of those old belief
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  systems are now opportunities to remind them your worthiness is
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  not based on what you accomplish, Other people's
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  jealousy is not your problem, and perfectionism is a trap.
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  Progress. Progress is what makes you feel
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  good. It's time to leave the future
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  and leave the past and return to the here and now, taking all of
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  these changes with you. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 More alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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