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Marriage Battle Wounds: Why Hiding Hurts · Doing Marriage Well

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  5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Doing Marriage Well for March 3rd, 2026.
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  Marriage Battle Wounds. Why Hiding Hurts.
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  Today's playlist pick is This Is Me from The Greatest Showman.
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  Again, there is a link in the show notes. A few relevant verses.
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  I've learned to be ashamed of all my scars. Run away, they say.
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  I am brave. I am bruised. I am not scared to be seen. I make no apologies.
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  This is me. I want to rewrite that to, this is us, as in you and your spouse.
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  The couple in the image I use for this podcast has obvious wounds.
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  Metaphorically, they are wounds received from working out their marriage.
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  Every marriage has challenging times.
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  Ideally, we face those together, but sometimes we face off with each other.
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  Both kinds of battle result in wounds.
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  Most folks hide their marriage wounds. Some couples engage in a carefully crafted
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  lie they both tell to hide the truth.
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  This conspiracy hurts both the couple and others.
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  If you hide that you're in the midst of a marriage battle, you can't receive support and prayers.
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  Even if you can get through it without those things, it will be more difficult without them.
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  And some marriages end because they fail to get the help they need before it's
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  too late to matter. Hiding your struggles also hurts others because they don't
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  see the truth that it's not just them.
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  Hiding your struggles also hurts others because they don't see the truth that it's not just them.
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  They hide behind their lies, thinking they have struggles others don't have.
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  That leads to isolation, fear, and discouragement.
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  I'm not suggesting you advertise every argument to the world.
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  When you're in the midst of a struggle, you need to be wise and only share it
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  with trusted, mature individuals who can offer real help and or powerful prayers.
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  But don't hide everything all the time.
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  Be transparent with those close to you Be quick to offer your past struggles
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  as examples to others Be quick to offer your past struggles as examples to give
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  others comfort or wisdom We all struggle with our marriage at times We need
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  to be honest about that Even more importantly,
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  we need to share how we have made it through the struggles And that often our
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  marriage comes out the other side stronger and happier So say as Lori and I do, we are brave,
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  we are bruised We are not scared to be seen We make no apologies This is us
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  This is Paul And it's easier to do marriage well With examples to follow 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7.