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Ep 34 - Chastity, Cages & Control: Larah Sky Talks About the Psychology Behind Power Play · The Kink Consultant

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  It's the King Consultant podcast where we're turning up the heat
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  on all things kink and dating, relationships and pop culture.
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  So close the door, plug in your headphones, and let's get down
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  to it. Hello, and welcome to this
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  week's episode of The King Consultant.
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  And I'm here with Lara Sky, my first repeat guest on the
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  podcast. So welcome back, Lara.
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  Well, hello, glad to be here again.
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  We need to get in to what our original conversation was.
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  The last time you were on. We went in depth about chastity.
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  And I swear to God, you must have nearly killed me after
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  because after that episode I got so many questions about
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  chastity. I was like, go ask Lara.
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  Go ask Lara. And I'd be like, I'm not
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  answering you for free. That's totally fair.
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  Don't ask, next time I'll say go pay Lara.
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  You know what it is? I just get stressed because I
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  get so many messages and I always feel bad when I see a
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  genuine 1 because there are a few that are genuinely, hey,
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  like where do you want me to go or what do you want me to do?
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  And I know that they're not a time waster, but also there's so
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  many time wasters that I just can't well.
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  I also get fearful answering questions on social media.
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  So if you want to find Lara and if you are not watching the
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  recording of this, you can find lara@larasky.vip.co.
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  Dot uk.com I've got them all, you know, I was like got it, got
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  to just buy them. There was a bundle deal so.
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  Smart. So that's LARAHSKY.
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  From there, you can find all of Lara's sites.
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  You're on Only Fans. Only fans.
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  Loyal fans. Fans.
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  Lee is like clip sites. I stream on different sites.
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  I have clip stores. I just have everything.
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  Sometimes I think about putting some of my less filtered clips
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  on only fans. Not that it's for the same
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  reason, but I'm just like for being discovered and teaching
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  about kink. Not probably more loyal fans
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  than only fans, but like I am so sick of being censored by the
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  social media apps. Oh so many.
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  I find YouTube surprisingly very chill.
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  Are you doing well on YouTube? I've not uploaded in a while
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  because I've got a lot of other stuff on.
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  So I do my paid sites 1st and then I do extra time on socials.
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  But I do decently well. Like I'm monetized on most
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  videos. Sometimes I put one out and I'm
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  like, yeah, this is gonna get demonetized.
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  You know, the J4 Ji stayed up for a week and a half monetized
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  before it got aged restricted. And it wasn't age restricted by
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  me talking about jerking off. It wasn't edge and it was
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  because I was like next weeks K for a knife play and apparently
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  that's too far. And I said pervert a day at the
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  end and that was too far. Not the jerking off talk for 10
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  minutes. You are literally always ahead
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  of, like, what's allowed and what's not allowed.
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  And that's actually how we connected.
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  I reached out to you, and I talked about this last time
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  because I was like, help, They're being mean to me.
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  And you're like, fight it. Always fight it.
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  Yeah. And now you kind of like push
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  all the boundaries to figure out where the boundary is.
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  What is it's educational. So as long as it's educational
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  because we were talking about Gooding.
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  So I could literally do a YouTube video about Gooding and
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  I could be like, this is what Gooding is.
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  But as long as I'm not telling you too good for me, you know,
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  as long as I'm not like jerk off, if I'm just like edging is
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  this, you know, like this is what you masturbate.
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  Like if I did an educational video, I could probably get away
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  with that. And you can always 18 plus
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  restrict it. And then they just let anything
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  go. Then it can't be monetized right
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  on YouTube. Not really, but then you get
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  money from other people who watch it.
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  I'm not on YouTube at all, though I need to be.
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  I think the podcast goes up to YouTube, but it's not like I'm
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  not putting educational content up there, although I should.
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  I should just go long form, talk about what I want to talk about
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  and then host it because I'm, I am sick of being and sort of
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  it's only getting worse here in the States.
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  I don't know what it's like over in Europe here.
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  They're bringing out an online safety bill, so it's meant to
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  protect children, but that's debatable because it only really
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  effects people in the UK. So if your company's not in the
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  UK, you don't need to abide by it.
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  You know those like really strange sites that pop up and
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  they try and like scam you for credit card details and stuff.
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  If you're one of them, they're not going to care.
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  They're just going to be like whatever.
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  So the idea is everyone has to be verified.
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  I think it's in the US already. You have to verify maybe like
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  every hour or two hours if you're using a porn site, but
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  yeah. I don't know if it's every hour
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  or two hours, but certain states, it's not in every state
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  and the UK is going to do that as well.
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  Who's done? How often it's going to be, but
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  it will be like every time you access the site, you have to do
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  like a Face ID that's. Terrible.
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  I know. And it's like for my personal
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  site I'm pretty much OK because I've not really got much on it,
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  but I'm probably going to have to take like all photos off.
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  Anything that's got like a photo of like a cage I'll have to take
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  off and then put behind like members only area.
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  But then you've got to verify their 18 plus.
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  So I'll probably just move that totally to other platforms like
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  whatever. Wow, more fun.
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  I know, no more fun. Also a shit ton more work for
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  you. Yeah, like.
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  I'm not doing the age verification there.
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  OK. Did I go for corny chastity the
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  last time or did I just say I was going to talk about it and
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  not we kind of just. Touched on what chastity was
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  your eternal belief that all men should be caged, which men seem
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  to love. This message, I expected people
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  to be very annoyed and angry and up in arms, but everyone's like,
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  the general consensus is yes, all men should be caged.
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  Yeah. It's cosmos like fetish of the
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  year I saw. The.
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  Kindest out but I'm like finally all the hard work.
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  Yeah, I mean, you've just been put laying the groundwork
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  teaching all. The men, I feel like I need to
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  contact them and be like, excuse me?
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  I know you should actually contact them and be like hello,
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  I'm the source of all information on chastity.
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  Do you ever have women reach out to you to ask for advice or is
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  it always men? Sometimes, but very rarely.
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  Or they'll buy their partner like a custom video, but I
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  always assume that it's the guy buying it for himself unless
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  I've seen them. Yeah, that's fair.
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  You're assuming they're playing into this fantasy that their
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  wife is buying this for them to humiliate them or shame them or.
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  Always to shame them, but sometimes their fantasies are a
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  bit wild and I'm like, you're just embarrassed.
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  When did you discover you were kinky?
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  I went to a fetish party probably when I was like nearly
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  19 or just turned 19, like 1819. I had worked in a bar where
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  there were like weird things going on, but I'd never actually
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  been to an event. Were you gonna fed it bar?
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  No, people just ran into it kind of like kind of like nightlife
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  bar. And then there would be people
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  would come in and they would run it for a night and you'd be like
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  bartending, but they'd be kind of like going back and forward,
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  but into like the spare room. But you knew something was like
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  going on. Yes.
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  So yeah, like the first one I ever went to was definitely like
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  1819. There was just a lot going on
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  on. There was like spanking benches.
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  There were people walking around as like Cat, like, I don't know,
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  Caterpillar was the right name for it.
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  Like tied together, like roping people together to walk around
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  the room. It was.
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  Was this at the height of the human Caterpillar movie?
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  It might human. What was that movie?
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  Called Human Centipede Movie. We're like roping people
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  together and we're like, how tied up do you want to be?
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  We're gonna do like a big like. This is a human centipede
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  inspired kid. I am convinced of it, yeah.
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  And I remember there was like this Sissy while I was, I didn't
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  know the word Sissy at that point, but there was like this
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  Sissy all dressed up with like the wig and the hair and
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  everything, like smoking outside.
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  And they were like, don't worry, Hannah, I've got you.
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  That's actually quite so. Yeah, but I was always a sadist.
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  I was always like bratty. I always got attention.
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  Prior to this, so you're 141516 sadistic tendencies.
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  You're like psychoanalyzing me. No because a lot of the doms I
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  worked with at the dungeon same story like they would like, I
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  don't know, staple people and stuff for fun consensually.
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  But I think when I was kind of like getting to like late teens
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  and stuff, I kind of realized that I enjoyed fucking with men
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  because they would be so obsessed with me and I used to
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  enjoy making them annoyed. And it was the.
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  Power play. They used so.
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  Yeah. And then when I got into Dom
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  work, it was I really liked men crying like I used to, to get
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  off on their tears. So that's why I'm like, it's
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  more sadism than dominance, and dominance is a way to facilitate
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  the sadism. What?
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  Kind of things were you doing to get them to cry?
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  Oh to be fair, just like spanking and like electrocuting
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  their balls like. Yeah.
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  Oh, to be fair, it was like so boring.
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  I'd spank them and then I would electrocute their balls and then
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  they would cry. Yeah, No, that's actually a
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  quick. I'm a loser, you know, or
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  sometimes I would just be like, bye.
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  Oh, that one I I could see making people cry.
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  But yeah, the amount of guys I used to have just obsessed with
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  me, like trying to talk to me for hours and hours and hours
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  and I'd be in a nightclub and they'd be like following me
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  around. When did you realize you could
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  monetize this? Like bottle it and just sell it
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  to the masses. So you know how promoters do
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  things at like big cities? So you'll basically get like
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  free dinners, free dress, free club entry, free limousines,
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  like yes, holidays, you know, yes, basically everything's for
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  you. And all you have to do is be hot
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  and fun and good, show up and show up Don't even need to be
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  fun. You just need to show up.
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  All you have to do is show up and dance a little bit and you
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  get everything. So probably around then I
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  realized just how mental things were and like how much money
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  people drop on, you know, like table service and whatever.
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  So if you're like a multi millionaire, what's 100K?
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  You're like, it's a birthday. Yeah, it's like us spending like
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  maybe a couple thousand and being like, OK, like for
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  birthday, you know, like. But if you're a multi
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  millionaire, it's also kind of like buying a big lunch for
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  everyone and that's it. Yeah, it's like the money is non
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  comparable. OK.
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  No, that's that's a good comparison that I'd never really
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  thought of because in New York that happened all the time.
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  You would just be like text on a group.
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  Even I was on these chains of like, hey, do you want to show
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  up to this restaurant tonight? And I need 10 girls.
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  Up and you get dinner yeah, sometimes you're just out and
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  they're like hey, we'll comp your bill if you go and stand in
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  that corner and you're like. I could do that.
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  I can enjoy the music. And yeah, there are some
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  benefits to being a woman, and that is one of them.
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  Because men were not on these lists.
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  All right, Kingster, let's talk about pleasure.
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  star, pressing down, giving it exactly the kind of attention it
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  deserves. Yeah, that's it.
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  And you know what happens when you I do?
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  I get all hot and bothered knowing you're out there showing
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  your appreciation. Plus, every time you leave a
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  Now let's get back to the fun. I remember getting stopped at
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  the airport once and they were like how do you afford to like
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  travel so much? And I was like I'm pretty
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  probably the wrong answer. No.
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  I could have got detained but I was like, I just don't really
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  pay for anything while I'm here. Have you ever done the Dubai
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  travel circuit? Never.
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  No. I don't know how I feel.
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  I once got asked to go to like Saudi by like 1 of the
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  government advisor. It's a very strange story, but I
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  met them in London at a bar and they were just chilling.
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  And then we ended up like just meeting up with them for like,
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  lunch every day for like a couple weeks.
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  It needs to just, yeah, they used to just give us lunch every
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  day. We go to all these nice
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  restaurants. So it was actually really
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  lovely. It was.
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  Like sounds lovely. I'm like, take me there.
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  That's enough. Yeah, they were like, if you
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  want to ever come over, like we'll give you a hotel.
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  Like it wasn't even. I'm sure they would have
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  expected something, but it was just like, if you want to come
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  over, come over, we'll get your flight like.
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  See, it's the nebulous. Sort of like, Oh, just do this.
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  I can't handle that. Like, I need to understand what
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  the terms and conditions are of it because like, sometimes
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  there's free lunch, but is there free dinner in hotel room?
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  I don't know. But have you heard these stories
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  about the women in Dubai who, yeah, end up murdered?
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  So I've heard stuff about that and I think it's quite a hard
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  one because I remember back in the day there used to be texts
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  going around being like, there's parties going on.
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  If you go to them, it would be like parties with rich men, but
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  it'd be like they wanted naked waitresses and like people to
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  go. So if you were kind of on like
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  the party seemed to be like, well, if you want to make like
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  50K, go to Dubai, do like a topless whatever.
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  I never went, but I know people that went and they were like,
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  it's fine. But there was also something
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  about like there would be some kind of like raffle before you
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  even left a room so you'd know if a guy wanted to sleep with
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  you. It was like you would know
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  beforehand to say yes or no. It wouldn't just be put on you,
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  but it would be right. You would know you were getting
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  paid for going to the party and then you would decide kind of
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  beforehand. I wonder how much choice you
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  actually got. That's how I feel.
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  It's like if you show up and you're like, well, well,
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  actually, that's not my thing. Are you looked down upon or you
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  never invited to another? Party.
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  I would have known what it was about.
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  Do you know what I mean? Of course it was very clear from
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  like the messages what it was about.
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  Can you say no? I think you could turn down the
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  one-on-one meetings, but I don't think you could turn down like
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  you were there to go to the parties.
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  Yeah, no, that makes sense. OK, But like when I talk about
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  working in that dungeon in New York, I could say no to any
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  session and there was 0 consequence.
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  I wonder about things like this because like, yeah, be topless
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  for $50,000? Fuck yes.
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  It's about the pressure. If I was feeling it in the
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  moment, sure. But it's like am I going to be
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  feeling it in the moment? Am I going to be?
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  I don't do well with things I'm not attracted to.
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  If it felt like gross in any way, I couldn't do it.
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  You know what I remembered actually, there was this party,
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  I don't even know if they ever organized it, but they were
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  basically going to pay like a bunch of like porn stars or
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  something or escorts and they were going to do like a full
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  week in a mansion. But it was going to be like 3
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  years. So I can't remember exactly what
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  the girls were getting paid. It wasn't a lot like for a full
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  week, I think it was maybe like 10K or something which Oh my.
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  Gosh. Like there's a lot for a week
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  but not for like free. Use everything like.
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  Oh no, I don't even think that's a lot for a week, I think.
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  We were just going there to chill, you know, like.
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  OK, yeah, I get what you're saying.
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  I'm like but that we're talking only going to chill.
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  Yeah, this guy was like, Oh yeah, we're gonna have like sex
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  parties every night, like 3 years.
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  All the guys are gonna pay like this much to get in whatever,
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  but yeah. Yeah, it's that's an unfair
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  balance of. He was a yacht salesman, which I
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  don't know if that speaks in his character.
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  I know a lot of strange people though.
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  I know a lot of strange nightlife people, a lot of very
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  problematic people, I would guess.
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  And there's nothing wrong with anything we're describing.
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  It's sort of the nuance of certain people who take
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  advantage or are a little too coercing people into what
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  they're looking for. It's like, don't try too hard,
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  let people be enthusiastic about this or not, and then leave them
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  alone. I am.
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  This guy is what did I tell you about him?
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  Just unlocked this. It was this weird guy off Rio
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  and I was trying to meet were friends.
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  So I was like, right, fine, we'll go.
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  And we went to this like restaurant and I had a couple
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  drinks before he arrived. But then we had a couple
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  together and he was like, Oh yeah, like let me go and cover.
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  And I was staying for another drink and I expected to pay for
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  my own one after he didn't pay for like anything while I'd sat
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  with him. He paid for his own and left.
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  But I was like, imagine if I had walked out there thinking, you
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  know what, I've paid for everything Because normally guys
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  for me would have paid for the drink that I was drinking as
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  well. Like it wouldn't even have been
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  a question. It would have been like
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  everything would have been covered.
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  Well, he didn't that yes, I had. Paid for his own drinks.
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  Paid for his own drinks, but not the ones that we had ordered
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  together. Oh, I would be fighting for the
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  ones before he came and the one like I was drinking when he
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  left. But I think the ones when we
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  were together, he should have paid.
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  He actually was like, Oh yeah, I'm going to move into my
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  friend's house because it'll be free.
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  And I was like, you're like 35, mate.
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  I also love that you met this person on RYA.
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  I always meet strange people on RYA.
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  I love it, it's actually brilliant.
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  I've met strange people on RYA too.
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  It's the one dating app that I paid for because you can only
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  use it if you pay for it. I don't even have it on my phone
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  anymore. Like I'm still paid, but I was
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  just like, I can't do this anymore.
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  I keep it because every so often I decide to go on it and
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  actually like go on dates and stuff with people because it is
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  just hilarious. You can't just cancel it and
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  start again because you get kicked off.
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  Yes I know, I know but I have mine till December and I'm like
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  I'm good for now. I'm on like 10.
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  Are you on any others or is Raya?
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  Your one banned on Tinder, I'm banned on hinge.
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  I'm banned on everything. OK, what did you do to get
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  banned on hinge? Tinder strips, but Hinge?
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  Somebody reported me for being a catfish and to be fair I was
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  like whatever, I could probably get it back if IID verified, but
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  I was like it's not that. Deep OK that makes kind of more
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  sense but you're not a catfish. You could have yes you could
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  have ID verified. This is the thing though,
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  people, especially men will go after you and get vindictive.
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  I find that in social media I don't DM men anymore because I'm
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  like I can't reject you and have you go mass report my entire.
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  Content block. I get this.
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  I try and be chill. Now with the trolls, you never
• 16:51
  know who's gonna report something.
• 16:53
  That's why I just don't talk to any of them.
• 16:54
  But I understand our business models are different.
• 16:57
  When's the first time you put somebody in chastity?
• 16:59
  Do you remember? That's a good question.
• 17:01
  Maybe like 20, 16. OK, so nine years ago, yeah, you
• 17:09
  don't, you don't remember the person or anything, just the
• 17:11
  time frame. Yeah, cuz I had a few.
• 17:13
  Well, that was basically when I'd started doing more sessions
• 17:16
  and stuff, because before that it was more like just on the
• 17:18
  kink scene, doing things like personally.
• 17:21
  And now I'd started doing like sessions with people.
• 17:23
  Yeah, it would have been around. And I thought it was really
• 17:26
  weird. I'm sure we spoke about this
• 17:27
  before that to start with. I was like, oh, that's weird.
• 17:29
  Why would somebody want that? It's a fair question, right?
• 17:32
  Like I have those things too. I was just talking to someone
• 17:34
  earlier today about how when you're kinky, sometimes it's
• 17:37
  really hard to get out of your own head about what kink means
• 17:40
  to everybody else because you're like, oh, it can only be the
• 17:43
  thing that I think about. Even though we have empathy and
• 17:45
  we understand, and obviously we have both done stuff for other
• 17:48
  people. We're like, oh, tell me your
• 17:49
  fantasy. I can get down with that.
• 17:51
  Like, let's jump in. And then sometimes I discover
• 17:53
  new fantasies based on that, that I'm like, well, where did
• 17:56
  this come from? I think the chastity thing for
• 17:58
  me is I never understood more of like the longing behind it or
• 18:02
  the reason people wanted it. It was just kind of like, oh,
• 18:04
  can I put this cage on for half an hour?
• 18:06
  And it was kind of a funny thing, you know?
• 18:08
  It was never like anything behind it or people like, oh,
• 18:11
  lock me up. And then they would instantly
• 18:13
  take it off and I'm like, what was the point in that?
• 18:15
  OK, that's fair. Does anyone never send you their
• 18:17
  key? I've done in the past, but the
• 18:20
  Royal Mail is not predictable so I don't.
• 18:25
  The keys anymore. So I'm thinking about getting an
• 18:27
  office space that I can get them delivered to.
• 18:30
  I think that's probably a safer option than them being in my
• 18:32
  house. If I was like put them in a full
• 18:34
  size envelope with like a bit of card inside, you know, and it
• 18:38
  goes to like APO box. So I don't want to come into my
• 18:40
  house. Yeah, I won't have somewhere
• 18:42
  that I can go, that I can sort them, that I can know where
• 18:45
  everyone's is, have them in date or well filed.
• 18:48
  So there's a possibility that at some point I will do something.
• 18:51
  But yeah, the issue is that if they go missing, then they've
• 18:54
  gone missing. Hopefully they have a spare, but
• 18:57
  that defeats the purpose of the entire thing.
• 18:59
  Well, that's my thing with virtual chastity.
• 19:01
  I would rather just do it online because it's so much easier for
• 19:05
  cleaning. You know, we can put them in a
• 19:06
  timed lock box for 24 hours at a time.
• 19:09
  We can do all sorts of things. We can just trust you.
• 19:12
  I don't know why people are so against being trusted.
• 19:14
  Is it? Because of the lack of
• 19:16
  consequence. It could be, but then a lot of
• 19:18
  people delete their accounts and run away because they're scared
• 19:21
  that they've taken the cage off, you know?
• 19:23
  That drives me insane. It's like all or nothing and
• 19:27
  there's no in between. I recently had a slave ghost me
• 19:30
  and I was very upset about the entire situation cuz I'm like
• 19:33
  I'm so flexible had he just spoken to me and said hey I'm
• 19:38
  feeling XYZ type of way but don't fucking ghost me.
• 19:41
  I tell them I give them a chat at the start and they still do
• 19:44
  we. Started well, it started strong,
• 19:46
  but I guess it's for the best. Yeah, they'll probably come back
• 19:49
  if you'll have them. I'm not a second chance person
• 19:51
  because I don't want to go through it a second time.
• 19:54
  A ghosting. I'm not calm like that.
• 19:56
  You seem very calm and like OK. But also when you're online, you
• 20:00
  kind of need to remember it's different if you're in real
• 20:02
  life. But for me, I'm just so I'm not
• 20:05
  even a real person half the time.
• 20:06
  Some of them don't even think of me as having like a life outside
• 20:09
  of whatever. They're just like in real life.
• 20:11
  As soon as I open the computer. That's nice because you can walk
• 20:14
  away from it so easily then too. Well, I.
• 20:17
  Can't on my end because I've constantly got to be honest.
• 20:19
  But do you ever just take a day off where you're like, I don't
• 20:22
  exist to you anymore or you working?
• 20:24
  Angry. You come back and there's 500
• 20:27
  question marks. See, this is the type, the
• 20:29
  freedom or lack thereof, that I cannot handle.
• 20:32
  Just hearing that makes me think I need a day at the spa.
• 20:35
  I think as well, like so the social media content's not too
• 20:38
  bad, content creation not too bad.
• 20:39
  I haven't had or you know, like, yeah, fine, you can get admin
• 20:43
  assistants, but actually speaking to everyone and then me
• 20:46
  being like, you know, I do sleep.
• 20:47
  I don't sleep a lot, but I do sleep.
• 20:49
  I know you need some time. You know, like maybe I want to
• 20:52
  go on holiday and I'm flying and whatever.
• 20:54
  I still work on holiday. People tell me off for it but.
• 20:58
  But I also get it, if you're not, people will like lose their
• 21:02
  shit a little bit. But I think one of the issues is
• 21:04
  with like fan sites especially, you can run it as in you're just
• 21:08
  getting fans on there and just post some content, but they're
• 21:10
  there to talk to you. So you kind of need to talk to
• 21:13
  them. And it's not that I mind it, but
• 21:14
  I do always say sometimes I'm very grumpy and I'm like,
• 21:17
  depending who's spoken to me already that day.
• 21:20
  Remember that how you treat me might impact someone else's
• 21:23
  experience. Oh, I like that.
• 21:26
  Yeah, it could be social media, it could be on the fan side, but
• 21:30
  if you're being annoying and the next person just asks a silly
• 21:33
  question, they might get shouted at, you know?
• 21:36
  Yeah, I like the accountability of that.
• 21:37
  Like how you treat me could affect somebody else's
• 21:40
  experience. I want that like embroidered on
• 21:42
  a pillow or something. I think it actually kind of goes
• 21:45
  a bit deeper for them as well, rather than it just being about,
• 21:47
  oh, she's mad at me, it's somebody else's time that
• 21:50
  they're ruining. You being mad at them is
• 21:52
  probably a turn on. I try not to get mad at people.
• 21:54
  I don't always succeed for free, Yeah.
• 21:57
  I try to just be friendly and bubbly all the time so I press
• 22:00
  the block button a lot but I'm not on.
• 22:02
  I'm not like live streaming or anything like that.
• 22:04
  I'm just if I see a question coming to ask the comment, I'm
• 22:07
  like not this one. Okay?
• 22:09
  I have not accessed any of your clips.
• 22:12
  Are they fully nude or are you always clothed?
• 22:14
  Does it matter? Personally, so this is always a
• 22:18
  funny one because some people are really against nudity and
• 22:20
  fandom and I'm not. I'm all for it.
• 22:22
  I just personally don't do it because I don't think men
• 22:24
  deserve it. You know, it's bad answer.
• 22:26
  I love people getting naked. I love the gunning.
• 22:29
  I love like I love it, but also I don't do it because it's like
• 22:34
  I'm withholding something they want.
• 22:36
  And that puts them in their place.
• 22:37
  Yeah, but CFNM is such a big clothed female, nude male, Yeah,
• 22:41
  such a big thing as well. And if they're into chastity and
• 22:44
  they're a cock or they're a loser, you know, it's all kind
• 22:46
  of that whole. That's the moment.
• 22:49
  Yeah, like chastity as well. Like you're kind of denying
• 22:51
  yourself something. So I try and make it so they're
• 22:53
  more thinking about their actual desires rather than just seeing
• 22:56
  something. And one of the reasons that I
• 22:58
  don't always wear Latex and stuff is because I'm like, you
• 23:00
  should really be thinking about why you want to submit and not
• 23:03
  just submitting to Latex. I'm not just a fantasy, I'm the
• 23:06
  person. So why are you submitting to me?
• 23:08
  And if I'm in pajamas, you're submitting to me.
• 23:11
  You always push people to go a little bit deeper, which I think
• 23:14
  is not always the case with people who are trying to sell
• 23:18
  clips who are streaming you. I'd make a bit more money if I
• 23:21
  was just more like mainstream, but I think the people who get
• 23:24
  it get it. Yeah, because I'm into it in
• 23:26
  real life as well. It makes a difference.
• 23:29
  And there's also just doing it for money.
• 23:31
  Do you believe these people on TikTok and social media who are
• 23:34
  like, I'm a fandom, I make $3000 from randomers and they're
• 23:38
  trying to teach other people how to do it?
• 23:40
  I know how you. Mean and I don't like her every
• 23:43
  person like me, I send her videos to my and we laugh.
• 23:47
  So I'm not saying that she hasn't made money because you
• 23:50
  can make money, but you can easily make like 10K a day, you
• 23:53
  know, like not easily, but you know, if you put the time in the
• 23:56
  effort and you get to know the people, you get somebody who's
• 23:58
  rich. It's not saying that you can't,
• 24:00
  but to sell that to somebody and be like, you know, all you have
• 24:03
  to do is go online. Bullshit.
• 24:06
  Yeah. And she's like, I just bought a
• 24:08
  new house. Yeah.
• 24:09
  It was like, I've just bought a new house from selling my course
• 24:12
  about. No, but I was like exactly from
• 24:14
  selling your course. Which is just so predatory.
• 24:16
  It doesn't speak to the reality of how much work you need to put
• 24:20
  in and how much you actually have to care about the people
• 24:22
  you are working with or paying you.
• 24:26
  I don't. Know because it's like it
• 24:28
  normally comes with another fetish.
• 24:29
  So it's pretty rare to get a sub who just wants to send.
• 24:33
  And if they do just want to send, they want to send because
• 24:35
  it's you. They're not just they're giving
• 24:37
  out like money. There's a reason they're giving
• 24:39
  you money. You put it perfectly.
• 24:40
  It usually is with something else and it's work.
• 24:43
  It's work with a great paycheck, but it's still work.
• 24:47
  And I feel like it's sold as this, Like, oh, you can just get
• 24:50
  and find men. Like there's this whole barn of
• 24:53
  men willing to send you money for no reason.
• 24:55
  You're probably just going to get time wasters and especially
• 24:58
  like the newbies who come in and they're just begging in
• 25:01
  comments, you know, like there's these bait tweets.
• 25:03
  It's like I'm going to pay somebody today and you get like
• 25:05
  100 people replying being like me, me, me.
• 25:08
  They're not going to pay you because they can smell the
• 25:10
  desperation. So they were never going to pay
• 25:12
  you. Like that's so feet are never
• 25:14
  going to pay you, but. It's really funny though,
• 25:16
  because I'm like, this could be a whole reality show of these
• 25:19
  groups of people, like these groups of people thinking that
• 25:22
  they're going to get paid, these groups of people lying,
• 25:23
  pretending they're about to pay. But yeah, let's just send them
• 25:26
  all to an island. Oh, and they don't want to do
• 25:28
  it. No, I know because they probably
• 25:31
  haven't done the work you're describing of going a little bit
• 25:33
  deeper and scratching below the surface to think like, why is
• 25:36
  this something I want? It's not even that though.
• 25:38
  They'll be Doms who are like newer and they're kind of going
• 25:40
  OK, like, how do I build a following?
• 25:42
  And I'm like, you have to post consistently.
• 25:44
  And I'm like, oh, well, I didn't upload on my fan site for two
• 25:47
  weeks and I lost all my subscribers.
• 25:49
  And I'm like, what does consistency mean?
• 25:51
  Can we see why there might be a problem with this?
• 25:54
  I sound like such a bitch when I say stuff like that.
• 25:56
  Like the lazy bitchy thing you've said?
• 25:59
  No, none of that like. I need to say it to somebody
• 26:02
  though. They can take it the wrong way
• 26:04
  and they can be a bit like your tone or whatever, but it's not
• 26:07
  even that. It's just, I'm like I'm telling
• 26:08
  you, fat or don't, don't complain.
• 26:11
  I we all have to do. If you created a course on
• 26:14
  content creation and spoke to people like that, I would pay
• 26:17
  for that type of doming, that type of.
• 26:19
  Do you see why there might be a problem here like that?
• 26:22
  Is you? Think there might be an issue if
• 26:24
  you say that you're going to post and then you don't because
• 26:26
  I also speak to myself like that.
• 26:28
  Like I'll be sitting there and not wanting to film and I'm
• 26:30
  like, stop being such a wet blanket.
• 26:31
  That's normally the insult that gets me.
• 26:33
  Wet blanket's not used very often so I feel like.
• 26:36
  That Now see, that would not agitate me.
• 26:38
  I would probably just tell myself.
• 26:39
  I want to be like the other losers who don't post content.
• 26:42
  I would just, I would bully myself.
• 26:44
  So I'd be like you are not enough until you make content
• 26:47
  and then that would probably activate me or I'll be like.
• 26:50
  You're just being lazy right now.
• 26:52
  You are being so lazy. You're just sitting there and
• 26:55
  you could be making money and you're sitting there.
• 26:58
  Oh shit, I'll go do the thing. I'm like, I'm about to go do the
• 27:00
  thing now. I'm like, OK, you're right.
• 27:03
  I have unhelpful negative talk. I have unhelpful negative talk
• 27:08
  telling me to like, I don't, you know, go lose weight when really
• 27:11
  my negative talk needs to be like, go make a fucking video
• 27:14
  and make some money. Exactly.
• 27:16
  Suck it up. Yeah, suck it up, bitch.
• 27:19
  Honestly, the five videos that you posted on Instagram this
• 27:22
  year ain't gonna get you far on promo, are they?
• 27:25
  I love this. My idea would be 1 video and
• 27:28
  it's just me being mean to you and telling to suck the fuck up.
• 27:31
  You're like suck it up. Come on, do it.
• 27:33
  You're pathetic today. You're here.
• 27:35
  The algorithm brings me losers, and you are here.
• 27:38
  So what do you think you are? You are a loser.
• 27:40
  Do you want to be not a loser? Good.
• 27:42
  You're going to drink your water, you're going to have your
• 27:44
  meals, and you're going to go outside and you're going to stop
• 27:46
  being pathetic. And, well, you're welcome.
• 27:50
  This explains it, Lara. The algorithm didn't bring me
• 27:52
  there because I didn't need that messaging or it didn't know
• 27:54
  because I'm I'm putting up a good front of having it
• 27:56
  together. Now you just need a full length
• 27:59
  video like that. Well.
• 28:01
  Yeah, I do. And I was going to say with like
• 28:03
  it, this is like the clip I would pay for.
• 28:05
  I would like it geared towards me making content, writing
• 28:07
  emails and doing my job. OK, so shall I do like an admin
• 28:11
  one which is like get your computer open?
• 28:13
  Yes, where's your To Do List? Come on, where is it?
• 28:16
  It's here somewhere. Is it?
• 28:19
  Why is it not open? What's it going to do if it's
• 28:21
  closed? What's it going to do?
• 28:22
  I don't know. Oh my God, you're so scary.
• 28:25
  You're right. I'll keep it open on my desk.
• 28:28
  Oh my God, Who are you right now?
• 28:30
  I'll just be like, why? Why you did not?
• 28:32
  Why is it not done? You've had enough time.
• 28:35
  I have, I know. Oh my God, I have had enough
• 28:37
  time to. Do it today like.
• 28:39
  I don't know. Oh my God, this is fun.
• 28:41
  I mean not really but like I'm like do I need a Dom?
• 28:44
  Like, I mean, you just need like a mean, yeah, I mean me that you
• 28:48
  can just play like every time you have a task.
• 28:50
  A mistress. I'll just hold this clip and
• 28:53
  remind myself of it forever. Lara, you went from being
• 28:57
  someone for men who want chastity to now being the every
• 29:01
  person Dom for me on this podcast today.
• 29:03
  Yeah, I'll have play. Do you know how men sometimes
• 29:07
  speak to you? And they're like, so why is
• 29:08
  that? Why is it not done?
• 29:09
  Yes, like that. Kind of like an old boss, sort
• 29:13
  of like vibe. That's what I try and channel,
• 29:15
  you know, when you're in a meeting and like, well, why is
• 29:16
  that not being delivered on time?
• 29:18
  Yeah, that's actually a really good point.
• 29:19
  That's a good thing to channel, I think it.
• 29:21
  Depends who as well because I'm quite bad for doing this.
• 29:24
  I forget that I'm not talking to a sub because I do talk to so
• 29:27
  many Subs and I stream so often. So sometimes I'll be talking to
• 29:30
  a friend and I'll have the attitude and I'm like my voice
• 29:32
  is like this, but this is not let me restart.
• 29:35
  Do your friends get offended or do they know what you do and
• 29:38
  they're like, OK, put Lyra away? But I have had it before, yeah.
• 29:41
  There was somebody who was like, you need to watch your tone
• 29:44
  sometimes because sometimes you're really horrible.
• 29:45
  And I was like, no, I was meaning to be horrible.
• 29:47
  That one, if you couldn't tell, was me being horrible to you.
• 29:50
  This is what I needed. You're my first repeat guest and
• 29:53
  I think I couldn't have asked for a better one.
• 29:54
  See, because I'm the best. Well, I knew this in the
• 29:57
  beginning too. It's difficult being this good.
• 30:02
  I wouldn't know, but that's going to be on my phone.
• 30:03
  What would Lara do? I think part of it is having
• 30:06
  like a slightly obnoxious attitude and just I want.
• 30:09
  That I want to be slightly obnoxious.
• 30:12
  I have trouble embodying it. You just have.
• 30:14
  To think you're better than everyone else because then you
• 30:16
  will be because people pick up on the energy.
• 30:19
  Do you see this computing in my head?
• 30:20
  I'm like, OK, I'm going to try that for a week.
• 30:23
  If you're in a room full of people and you just think you're
• 30:24
  the best, 1 like you will be the best one.
• 30:27
  Now that's the next piece of content.
• 30:29
  I need something heartwarming like that.
• 30:30
  Like. So I just do life advice and
• 30:33
  give really nice tips. Yeah.
• 30:35
  And I know people. That would be very helpful, I
• 30:38
  think to a lot of people like we're opening up your market
• 30:41
  here. I do a lot of that though
• 30:42
  because I do like soft domination, so it's not all
• 30:44
  mean. It's sort of like encouragement
• 30:46
  and just telling people like sometimes you just need tool to
• 30:49
  do something. I know, but I don't feel like
• 30:51
  that's any of your content that you put out on social.
• 30:53
  Media, I think my long form stuff in my streams, it's very
• 30:57
  clear, yes. And then my short form is just
• 30:59
  to get attention. So like, I know that from
• 31:01
  talking to you though, that that is the type of person you are
• 31:04
  that you do have that soft on stuff.
• 31:06
  I'm of the TikTok generation. Now I just need 32nd clips of
• 31:10
  what I need to hear. And that's what's wrong with the
• 31:12
  world, actually. That's what I find that, like
• 31:14
  people who watch full YouTube videos and stuff tend to be like
• 31:17
  more into me as a person and they want to like explore stuff
• 31:21
  and people who are just like, that's a hot outfit.
• 31:24
  Do you have photos? And then they're gone.
• 31:25
  I'm like OK, cool. So you get more from the YouTube
• 31:28
  crowd. Yeah, our people who've watched
• 31:29
  streams, probably people who listen to podcasts and stuff
• 31:32
  will be get more into it. They spend more time listening
• 31:34
  to you. Yeah.
• 31:35
  Kind of have an idea who you are before they come to you.
• 31:38
  All right. On that note, I appreciate you
• 31:40
  coming on my podcast and gracing us all with your presence.
• 31:44
  Go check out Lara Sky of the many websites we've mentioned,
• 31:47
  larasky.viplarasky.com.org.co.uk, all of the above.
• 31:52
  Check her out. Might also be other ones that
• 31:54
  you've not found yet. I love you.
• 31:57
  Make me something for October now.
• 31:59
  We'll have you back on in September to prepare for October
• 32:02
  to get us all. All right, we have your next
• 32:04
  appearance date. Thanks, Lara.
• 32:08
  If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave
• 32:11
  a review and share it with anyone who might find it
• 32:13
  interesting. And if you have any questions or
• 32:15
  topics you'd like me to cover in future episodes, feel free to
• 32:18
  reach out e-mail info@thekingconsultant.com.
• 32:22
  Until next time, keep on kinking on.