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Past neglect does not equate to future results · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: What is that motivational secret that you need to hear to be able to move you from where you currently are to a better place?
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: The answer to that question is well within you.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: Now, of course, I'm not trying to be too metaphysical, but really we have to come to some kind of an agreement with ourselves if we're going to stay in our current space, if we're going to stay with our current level, or if we're going to change.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: And then if we really do want to change, which I believe a lot of us do, especially the fat ones out there that were incredibly fat like I was, and like I am still fighting on a daily basis, I believe those of you that are in that same regard really do want to change.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gleaning this from a lot of the comments I get on the different videos that I put up regarding a transition that I took, I undertook and I actually was able to accomplish.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Now that is continuing and it never really stops.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: One of the things that people often ask, and I see this in responses to my videos, is what was your motivation?
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: And it's kind of like being an entrepreneur or being in business, or if you have a self-motivated approach to your business, even if you're working for somebody else and you have that esprit de corps, you have that pride in what you do, transitioning that into your own life, I believe, is incredibly beneficial.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: The questions that need to be asked have to do with how are you able to free yourself from those shackles of repetitive and habitual mannerisms.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: Those things that you do currently to keep you in that same bad place.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: What are those things?
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: Those need to be identified and put out, written out, put on the shelf, examined and looked at.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: Some people say you need to go deep, you need to go back to your past, you need to dig into all that and start messing that stuff up.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if that was good for me, so I don't do that.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: I do know that my clarity came from realizing that, sure, went through bad things, caused a lot of bad things, I am nowhere a saint in this world, I understand that.
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_00: But realistically, before I was able to fix or start to repair things, getting out of those old habits, I really had to acknowledge that I'm no better, no worse, or anything else than anyone else, and I need to now take responsibility for the things that I do.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: Looking at it, it was this.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: I was eating too much too often of the wrong things, and it just continued.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: It was almost habitual autopilot eating.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: Who's at fault?
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: I can blame a lot of people.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: I can blame the people that I was around at the time.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: I could blame the industry, the food industry on making food so wonderfully tasting, selling more.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_00: I can blame a lot.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: I can blame the doctors in play who never wanted to look at it from a we're going to, you know, fix this issue, but what's the underlying cause?
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: I do not remember the last time, besides recently, when a doctor actually asked me what I was eating.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: What does my diet look like?
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: Because I have certain symptoms, they actually went back to what I'm feeding myself, and that was how they got answers to their questions.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: Instead of stating, okay, so you feel this way, you're this way, you're lethargic, you have these other issues, so we're going to prescribe this pill, and that way after three or four weeks, you're probably going to feel better.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: And if not, we'll change it and try something else.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_00: They actually said, What are you eating?
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_00: And looking in my own experience, I believe that food is that great healer, but also a lot of the food that's manufactured is incredibly addictive.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: I smoked cigarettes for a long time.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: I chewed tobacco for a long time.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_00: Getting away from those wasn't easy.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: They have these really solid, this solid grasp on you, at least from an addictive perspective.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: I know people, as you probably do, that can have one cigarette.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: They can have one drink, and good for them.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: Not that one drink or one cigarette is beneficial in any way, doesn't do anything good for you.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: Those studies have all been debunked as far as a little bit of alcohol helps.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's just what the alcohol contained in the particular type of variety that actually seems to help.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: But in that case, and it was regarding red wine, I think you remember that pitch.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: Now they find out that dark chocolate has even more of this wonderful thing in it.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: There are other ways to supplement yourself and make yourself better, but again, it's easy to have that kind of excuse provided because it makes it okay.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to drink a little bit of wine.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay because cigarettes, well, I don't know if they ever came out with anything good that they do, but if they would, if they did, I'm sure they would have said that besides the stress-relieving aspect of cigarettes and using that to increase longevity, there are other reasons.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: Chewing tobacco, the same.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_00: It all panned out just to be another addiction.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: As a smoker, most people start when they're young.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I started as an adult.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_00: I started when I was a Los Angeles police officer.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: Figure that one out.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: But I remember because I did start as an adult, I have a very clear memory of how that progressed.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: And it was it's like working out, right?
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's horrible in the comparison, but when you're working out, you're sore for a while, and then you're really not sore.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: You might hit a couple high points in your workout that you still become sore a little bit, but nothing like when you first start.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't started working out or experience that muscle pain, it's going to be around for a little bit until you, of course, work it out.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: Starting smoking was the same kind of a way.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: I coughed for two or three months, and then I was able to inhale the cigarette without coughing at all, and I look like a pro.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: Wow, good for me.
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_00: I was able to get from never smoking to being able to smoke without coughing, wonderful achievement.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: But looking back, that actually made so much difference, even in my fast-forward to 30 years in the future, fat self, where I was still fat all of my life, but there were certain times in there when I had periods of being less fat.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_00: Once I got there and I realized how my choices were impacting me, then I had to back up.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: So part of that process I talked about is having somebody regress you back, and well, you you're doing this because your mother didn't love you enough, or your dad jilted you, or you know, didn't respect you, or you didn't respect them, or you had too many brothers and sisters, they couldn't pay attention to you, you were the middle child.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I've heard it all.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I've heard a lot of it.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_00: Fact of the matter is these things, those items, if you're not doing it for anybody else and you shouldn't be, you have to make peace with them.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_00: And even if you can't do that, because I know that's a tall order, some people really need the help.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: Some people need the group, some people need to talk to other people, and that's fine.
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: Just when you do, don't get too involved in all of their drama.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: Because now all of a sudden you walk out of the meeting thinking, pha, I don't have it that bad.
• 7:42
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my God, you had this girl over here doing this, you know, trying to get alcohol.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: You had this guy over here doing this when he was drunk, beating on people.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: I was nothing like that.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: The problem that that's kind of what that proliferates.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: Now you've now taken focused off of you and put it on the other people, like they're much worse off than I am, thank God.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: Or even the people that are super fat, they don't have any medical issues yet.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: And in super rare circumstances, they might have their life ended before the medical issues present themselves.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_00: There would be a lot more cirrhosis of the liver if people didn't die of something else prior to that happening, if they're alcoholics.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: So that time in a particular place is what's going to bring disease and health-related issues.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: At least that was my experience and everything that I've read, and even personal experience.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: The trick was, once I was able to listen to myself and say, well, why am I going through these drive-throughs in eating?
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_00: And it really wasn't so much tracking back in my history and looking whether there was abundance or whether there was strife and heartache, and using food as an emotional comfort tool.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: I realized that even if I was using food as an emotional comfort tool, it wasn't helping me.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I realized that I would rather be depressed and thinner than fat and depressed.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: Just like it's much easier to be rich and depressed than it is poor and depressed, if that's a good comparison.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: Looking at these seven to ten words that I talk about, and I had somebody make a comment, great guy, and I really appreciate it.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: But when I say seven to ten words, I understand people are knowledgeable.
• 9:36
  SPEAKER_00: You're probably well read.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: If you're fighting this demon of addiction and food and obesity, those are big deals.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: You need food to survive.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: Cigarettes, I don't know if it was ever sold, like I said before, as something as a survival tool.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol, they tried, but it turned out to be there was no benefit whatsoever.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: There was one study, and that study seemed to be a little contorted and didn't actually offer what they said that it did.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: So now there is zero benefit.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: Food, on the other hand, well, there's a benefit.
• 10:11
  SPEAKER_00: However, we now have to switch my mindset to the type of food that has a benefit.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: Does the bag of Doritos have a benefit?
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: It feeds you, yes.
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_00: It provides calories, yes.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: But is calories really where our mind should be?
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: Or should it be on the contents of the food itself?
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: Should it be on the protein content?
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_00: Should it be on the fat content?
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: Should you care about the sugar or carbohydrate content in the food that you're eating?
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's that mindset adjustment that has to happen before we're able to actually slay the demon.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: And in slaying the demon, I do know that my demon isn't dead.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: He's in here.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: There are certain things that I see that I want to eat that I have to try to exhibit patience.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: Patience.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: Not wanting it right now.
• 11:08
  SPEAKER_00: They've done studies on kids, I don't know if you've seen these where they offer them some dessert and they say, listen, if you hold off in an hour and don't eat this cookie we're going to give you, we'll give you two more in an hour.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: And then if you don't eat it then, we're going to give you three more after that.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: You had a majority of the kids not being able to wait.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_00: They were they were funneling the cookie down as soon as they hit it on the table.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: But the ones that waited, they tracked them throughout life, apparently.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: And those decisions, because they were able to delay their pleasure, they actually were much more successful.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: So using that study in the way that I handle things, I might buy something bad for me.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: Chocolate, whatever my area of weakness is.
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: Usually it's a confectioner and a wrapper that I shouldn't be touching anyway.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: But I won't eat it right away.
• 12:02
  SPEAKER_00: I'll buy it.
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_00: And a good example might be store-made brownies or something, one of those sweet treats, probably not pizza, because you know, having that around for a while, but understanding that I stay away from that as much as I can too.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: But that's been that's been a lesson that's taken me time to figure out.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: But a confectionary, I won't eat it right away.
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'll hold off on eating it.
• 12:25
  SPEAKER_00: And what ends up happening is a few hours later, I don't even want it.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: So it's not even consumed.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: That's that practicing of the patience, and I often find fallback on that study, and it's almost as if I'm my own experimenter, an N1 experiment, where I am the subject of my own science.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: So watching that, it's very interesting because if I buy it with the intention of not eating it, it was so much different than just buying it.
• 12:55
  SPEAKER_00: Because when I bought it in the past, although I didn't label the intention, I just consumed it right away.
• 13:02
  SPEAKER_00: There wasn't even a thought.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: And if it was a box of these confectioneries, consume them all.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_00: And if it were two boxes, consume them all.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I understand you can eat a lot more sugary treats than treats that have a better balance, and I get that.
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_00: But there also comes a time when they talk about, you know, eating, you know, four or five filet mignon steaks can't compare with eating four or five Snickers bars.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but you get 20 or 30 Snickers bars in you, you're probably not going to want to eat too much more because you're just going to be overwhelmingly stuffed and feel horrible.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: Knowing that, I am patient with the food that I ingest.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: So bringing me back to these seven to ten or twelve words or hearing something that makes that mega shift in your brain where you start to say, What am I doing?
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I spending a majority of my day fighting something that I can fix just by wanting to and then making a decision?
• 14:01
  SPEAKER_00: The other critical component of that, once you've decided to switch and change, is when you screw it up, because eventually you may, not saying everybody does, but some people do.
• 14:15
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe if you've been habitually fat for a very long time, you have as well.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: If you screw it up, immediately stop yourself and get back on track.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: That's hugely important.
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_00: Immediately stop yourself and get back on track.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: You'll have time to journal, you'll have time to write out your thoughts, you'll have time to explore yourself.
• 14:39
  SPEAKER_00: But ladies and gentlemen, at the end of your life, whenever that is, those years are going to suck in most cases.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: You might be able to alleviate a little bit of that BS pain that you're going to get by changing what you're doing today.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: I often talk about me visiting myself in my past.
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_00: If I could go back to 2014, that's 10 years ago, and say, hey, Connor, you need to do these things, and this is how it's going to be.
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: This is a picture of you having done those things.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: There was proof in it.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I was able to see, if I were able to do that, what happened, I was able to do it alone.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_00: But that mental exercise of going back in my past, visiting my past self, and then showing them what could be, that is huge, and that's a very strong tool that you can use.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: How do you start?
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: If you're going to use fasting as I did to start to take off some body fat, they say it's hard.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: It's hard not to eat because food is necessary.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: Food is necessary, yes, but the right kind of food is really where you need to be.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: If you're drinking poison-enrich water, while water is necessary, it really doesn't help you, and in fact, it'll probably kill you quickly.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: If you're eating poison-enrich food, which is the food that happens to have been modified from its original state, I'm not sure how they get Doritos.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_00: So if you if you're looking at potato chips, the core component of a potato chip, potato, right?
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: What kind of potato?
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: Lots of different kinds of potatoes out there.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: If you ever go to Peru, they have more potatoes than you can imagine.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: If you go in a supermarket in Peru, they have so many different varieties of potatoes, and they're all wonderfully, they all taste different.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: Here in the United States, pretty much Idaho Russets, that's the potato.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: Taking that and moving into a chip or even another potato, there's a lot of processing to get it from out of the ground.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: And depending on how it was planted in the ground, what nutrients it's given, there's a lot that can be put into that particular food product.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: Once it's taken out and then converted into a potato chip, whatever that order looks like, that's that processing.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: So the original component of that, a potato chip.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: In corn chips, that's not a potato, it's corn.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: So the original form of that chip is corn.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's been modified in teenth times to make it all the way through to get to into that bag as your potato chip.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_00: Plus, on top of that, there's a lot of other stuff.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_00: Is it wonderful?
• 17:31
  SPEAKER_00: Of course.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: Who owns these big food conglomerates?
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: Look into that one, crawl down that path.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: Believe it or not, it's the tobacco industry that has a lot of ownership over a lot of these massive food conglomerates that do most of the retouching and repackaging of food from its original way that it is.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: People love to eat sweet, sugary, fat-laden food.
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, it tastes great.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: The question is, is should you be and is it causing you damage?
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_00: If it's causing you damage, the answer seems simple.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: Stop doing it.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_00: But then the other question is, why are you doing it?
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: That's something more to explore.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: I would suggest this.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_00: If it's going to take you a few years of intensive therapy to work out why you're doing something, knowing that it's bad now might be reason enough to stop now.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: You can then go do all your therapy and everything and talk to those people that are going to be your best advisors.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_00: But as far as quitting it, it would be no different than quitting smoking, I would think.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: If you're smoking cigarettes, and I still speak still see, still see people buying packages of cigarettes, and I'm thinking, oh, it's 2024.
• 18:50
  SPEAKER_00: People still actually smoke cigarettes.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_00: Now I'm starting to move my brain in that frame.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: Huh, it's 2024 and people are still eating fast food and packages of Doritos and everything else.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: I hope part of this, some of this, a bit of this, helped you move your ball forward into where you need to be.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_00: Don't lie to yourself.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_00: If you are a liar to yourself, stop it.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: Lie to everybody else, whatever that means, but do not lie to yourself.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_00: Realistically, you gotta be honest.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: Once you start to be honest with yourself, realizing that eating two pizzas in a day, a couple tubs of ice cream in a day, seven to eight to ten thousand calories in a day, and being 600 plus pounds probably isn't the best place to be.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_00: If in your mind you think you've gone too far to be able to come back from that, you might need more medical intervention.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: But I believe even at massive fatness, super obesity, if somebody were to cut back on their consumption and create where they're not consuming with their body as many calories as they are and start to drop that off, those changes over time, as they start to lessen up in their fatness, I believe those changes could reverse a lot of the damage that has been done to themselves over time, even six, seven, eight hundred pounds.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_00: If that's you, there's a lot of medical intervention.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_00: I know there's a lot of shows out there, but even in the shows, those people breaking away from those habits, those people breaking away from having people bring them food, because they're not leaving their house.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_00: Delivery people are bringing it.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: Family is bringing it.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_00: People use food as an instrument of love to other people, but they have it all wrong.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: That's not how you love somebody.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: You want to love somebody, take them out for a walk.
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to love somebody, spend some time in some mentally engaging activity.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: Eating unpro or processed food, eating overly prepared food that is not natural any longer doesn't help this billion-dollar body that you have.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_00: If you've seen anybody and those people that are born a particular way, at no fault of their own, and you take a moment and pause, and you've let yourself get to a certain point, and these people are struggling out of something that was granted to them at birth.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_00: I believe I'm embarrassed, and I've been embarrassed many times because I was taking something that God had given me different, and I had torn it down.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm thankful I've realized what I would what I did, and I'm thankful that I'm able and was able to move on to this point.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm very careful.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: Slips happen, but if they do, make sure that you love yourself enough to get back on it.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: And don't sacrifice unnecessarily the body that you've been given.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_00: You can fix a lot of it on Connor to be well.