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195. Unpack Overwhelm · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to your Enriched Self podcast. I am your host, Maileine Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach, and I
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  Speaker 1: want to be part of your journey as you become
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  Speaker 1: more of your enriched self. I know that if you
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  Speaker 1: are listening to this podcast, whether you are new here
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  Speaker 1: or you are a repeat listener, you want to be
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  Speaker 1: the best version of yourself in this world. And I
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  Speaker 1: will tell you that everything starts with your thoughts. Your
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  Speaker 1: thoughts inspire your worlds. If you're living a life right now,
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  Speaker 1: whether you love it, you like it, or anything in between,
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  Speaker 1: it's because of your thoughts. You walked your way, thought
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  Speaker 1: your way through it. And so that's what we talk
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  Speaker 1: about here on this podcast. We talk through those everyday
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  Speaker 1: things that are important as part of our journey, and
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  Speaker 1: it starts with that thought. And I want to make
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  Speaker 1: sure that we walk it out here on this podcast,
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  Speaker 1: and we talk it out now before we get into
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  Speaker 1: this week's episode. One of the things I like to
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  Speaker 1: do is to start the podcast by making a deposit
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  Speaker 1: into the Bank of you, and I do that by
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  Speaker 1: way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start
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  Speaker 1: your day and to command your mourning. And this week's
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  Speaker 1: affirmation is I am facing the future with confidence. I
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  Speaker 1: am facing the future with confidence. I am facing the
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  Speaker 1: future with confidence. Now, let's get ready for this week's
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  Speaker 1: episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Today, I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk about overwhelm. I think we've all been there,
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  Speaker 1: done that. We got the T shirt, and I had
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity today to meet with a client that reminded
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  Speaker 1: me of this particular topic. Many of us have limiting beliefs,
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  Speaker 1: and those limiting beliefs set us up for areas in
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  Speaker 1: our life that put us into a box. And those
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  Speaker 1: limiting beliefs come from places and people and spaces in
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  Speaker 1: our lives where these are good meaning people, your parents,
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  Speaker 1: your people in your community, teachers, clergy people, all of
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  Speaker 1: the people that make up your village, so to speak.
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  Speaker 1: Oftentimes they put you in a box, a mental box
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  Speaker 1: where what they want for you is based on what
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  Speaker 1: they believe that you can do. They haven't been able
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  Speaker 1: to see you do more than you have because you've
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  Speaker 1: always played within a certain space, and so it's difficult
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  Speaker 1: for them when you decide or you share that you
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  Speaker 1: want to do something different and unique, and they often say,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if that you are prepared or able
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  Speaker 1: to do something like that, And so then you create
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  Speaker 1: a space that you can only stay within and it
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  Speaker 1: limits you. And that's where limiting beliefs come from. So
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  Speaker 1: we play safe, we don't take any risks. And I
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  Speaker 1: say we because I've been there. I've been in a
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  Speaker 1: space in my life where I just was not taking
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  Speaker 1: any risks. I didn't want to do anything that I
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  Speaker 1: could not equate into an outcome. And what that means
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  Speaker 1: is I simply wanted to make sure that two plus
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  Speaker 1: two will always equal four and there was never going
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  Speaker 1: to be any deviation from that because if there was,
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  Speaker 1: and that would put me in a state of overwhelm
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  Speaker 1: or disbelief or many of the things that hold us
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  Speaker 1: back from being our best selves. And I want to
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  Speaker 1: enrich your life. My name is Miilee Noir. I am
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  Speaker 1: a emotional wellness and empowerment coach. And emotional wellness is
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  Speaker 1: very important to your journey whatever it is that you
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  Speaker 1: want to do in your life, because in order for
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  Speaker 1: you to enrich your life, you have to be enriched,
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  Speaker 1: and in order to do that, you have to have
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  Speaker 1: an emotional balance about yourself, and that's where the wellness
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  Speaker 1: comes in. You have to take care of you mind, body,
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  Speaker 1: and spirit, and so that emotional wellness incorporates all of that.
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  Speaker 1: And empowerment is that once you identify and you work
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  Speaker 1: on your wellness, you work on being your whole self.
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  Speaker 2: Your enriched self, then you can go be empowered about
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  Speaker 2: the things you do.
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  Speaker 1: Because if you go get empowered and you're not doing
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  Speaker 1: the work to be well and not just a physical
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  Speaker 1: wellness like I said, mind body, spirit wellness, you're going
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  Speaker 1: to constantly be going back and forth.
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  Speaker 2: I know this because I've been there.
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  Speaker 1: So emotional wellness and empowerment they go together. And so
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  Speaker 1: today I want to talk to you about oh because
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  Speaker 1: it fits into the scope of what I talk about
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  Speaker 1: on my podcast and what I talk about with clients.
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  Speaker 1: And it all starts with mindset. Your mind is the
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  Speaker 1: space where everything starts, your ideas, your dreams, your goals.
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  Speaker 1: It starts with first a thought, and that thought then
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  Speaker 1: manifests into words.
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  Speaker 2: Those words take come.
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  Speaker 1: Into the actions that you will take to go achieve
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  Speaker 1: the thing that you want to achieve.
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  Speaker 2: But it all starts with.
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  Speaker 1: That first thought, right, and so in order for you
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  Speaker 1: to live out in the direction that you want to go,
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  Speaker 1: you have to work on that first thought. And so
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  Speaker 1: that's what we do. That's what I do, that's what
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  Speaker 1: I like to talk about. And that's why today the
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  Speaker 1: word overwhelm is a critical word, because overwhelm means that
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  Speaker 1: you are overcome or overpowered by your emotions, and you're
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  Speaker 1: overpowered by all of the things, the tasks that you
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  Speaker 1: are responsible to do. And that's okay to feel that way,
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  Speaker 1: but I don't want you to stay in that space.
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  Speaker 2: So when you are overwhelmed, what it.
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  Speaker 1: Is is that you don't have understanding for why you
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  Speaker 1: are where you are, and so I want to help
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  Speaker 1: you unpack overwhelm today. The first thing I will say
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  Speaker 1: about being overwhelmed is that a lot of times we
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  Speaker 1: are multitasking. And I know multitasking for a long time
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  Speaker 1: was a coveted way to do life. I am multi fascinated.
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  Speaker 1: I'm the jack of all trades, but you're also the
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  Speaker 1: master of none. And I know that's a harsh thing
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  Speaker 1: to say, but a lot of people that stay in
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  Speaker 1: that space, they end up stay in that space. They
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  Speaker 1: are a jack of all trades, but they master none
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  Speaker 1: and the thing that.
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  Speaker 2: You must master is self.
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  Speaker 1: And so you're doing all these things, you're being all
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  Speaker 1: these people, you're showing up in all these spaces, but
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  Speaker 1: you're still incomplete because you don't master yourself first. And
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  Speaker 1: so then you become overwhelmed over time because you're overpowered
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  Speaker 1: by all these things that you believe that.
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  Speaker 2: You are supposed to be.
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  Speaker 1: So I want you to first focus on mastering yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Self mastery that means self awareness, self confidence, and a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times you're chasing all of those things because
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  Speaker 1: ultimately you need to master yourself, and I want you
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  Speaker 1: to focus on mastering yourself. The next thing about overwhelm
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  Speaker 1: that is overly critical is that you miss steps. When
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  Speaker 1: you're overwhelmed, it's hard to focus, and there are critical
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  Speaker 1: steps that you need to take on your journey for
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is that you are aspiring to do. There
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  Speaker 1: are things that you miss, and that makes sense because
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  Speaker 1: you can't be in all the directions that you tend
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  Speaker 1: to be, and so you miss critical first step, step,
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  Speaker 1: second steps, and just important things that need to take
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  Speaker 1: place so that you can get the lessons from them.
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  Speaker 1: And that's a miss when you are overwhelmed. You miss
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  Speaker 1: a lot of things. You miss out on your life
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  Speaker 1: and the life of the things that are important to you,
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  Speaker 1: maybe your family, your children, whatever, because you're overwhelmed. And
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  Speaker 1: I don't want you to live in a space where
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  Speaker 1: you're missing out on some of those very important minds,
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  Speaker 1: stone moments in your life and those around you. And
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  Speaker 1: the last thing I will say about overwhelm is that
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  Speaker 1: you can overcome overwhelm. It starts with the conversations that
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  Speaker 1: you are having with yourself, the self talk.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: One of the things that I learned as I was
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  Speaker 1: in conversation about this topic is that we give ourselves identities,
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  Speaker 1: and some of those identities are also identities that we
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  Speaker 1: get from people that love us, that tell us that
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  Speaker 1: we are you procrastinate, and we agree or they say
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  Speaker 1: you are not timely when you are I need to
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  Speaker 1: expect a certain thing from you at a certain time,
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  Speaker 1: and you're just not timely, and you start to accept
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  Speaker 1: that you're always late or you're never on time with
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  Speaker 1: getting certain things done, and those those identities then become
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  Speaker 1: our reality. They become who we are because we are
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  Speaker 1: coming into agreement with that, and then that becomes your
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  Speaker 1: state of overwhelm all over again. So you're in this
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  Speaker 1: perpetual cycle of overwhelm because now you've taken on an
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  Speaker 1: identity and that comes with time because you don't initially
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  Speaker 1: hear it and believe it.
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  Speaker 2: But after a series of hearing.
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  Speaker 1: It over and over and over again, you start to
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  Speaker 1: believe what people say you are. You start to believe
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  Speaker 1: what you say you are, which is even more important
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  Speaker 1: than what other people say. And these may not be
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  Speaker 1: words that you're speaking out loud. These may just be
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  Speaker 1: those thoughts, going back to those thoughts that you continue
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  Speaker 1: to cultivate in the garden of your mind, and before
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  Speaker 1: you know what, you start believing these identities that are
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  Speaker 1: not you. So overwhelm creates identities. Overwhelm may makes you
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  Speaker 1: multitask and become outside of self mastery because you're doing
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  Speaker 1: all the things, you're mastering all the things, but you
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  Speaker 1: haven't mastered self.
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  Speaker 2: And overwhelm puts you in a space of limitations.
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  Speaker 1: And so I wanted to share that because the conversation
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  Speaker 1: I had was so rich, and it's so important to
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  Speaker 1: share the importance of these topics because many of you
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  Speaker 1: have lived a life of limitations. There are things you
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  Speaker 1: want to accomplish into life. And it's difficult to accomplish
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  Speaker 1: that when your belief system has told you everything but
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  Speaker 1: the truth about yourself. And so as you start to
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  Speaker 1: dig and dive and get to the source, get to
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  Speaker 1: the root cause of why you believe what you believe
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  Speaker 1: about you, why you are in overwhelm, why you have doubt,
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  Speaker 1: why all these things. Once you start digging this up
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  Speaker 1: and you start to unearthed your true and your real identity,
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  Speaker 1: you will begin to understand overwhelm and you will come
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  Speaker 1: and be an overcomer of overwhelm.
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  Speaker 2: And I know you can. It's going to take some.
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  Speaker 1: Work, and that's okay, right, Anything that's worth your time
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  Speaker 1: is going to require a little work. Nothing wrong with
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  Speaker 1: getting your hands dirty, get into the root cause and
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  Speaker 1: getting to resolution.
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  Speaker 2: And I want to be a part of that. If
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  Speaker 2: you want to connect.
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  Speaker 1: With me, let me know. Just reach out and let
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  Speaker 1: me know that you want to connect. Just say I'm
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  Speaker 1: looking for enrichment, and there you have it. We'll make
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  Speaker 1: the connection and we'll go from there. But I am
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  Speaker 1: excited that we are starting these conversations. I want to
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  Speaker 1: continue to have these conversations with you, one on one,
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  Speaker 1: in group settings, in any type of setting possible. I
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  Speaker 1: want to have these conversations because it's so important to
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  Speaker 1: arrive as your best self, as your enriched self. And
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  Speaker 1: it starts with the one thing I said it a
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  Speaker 1: few weeks ago on my podcast. You are one win,
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  Speaker 1: one decision away from your win, and you are one
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  Speaker 1: decision away from being your best from winning. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna encourage you to take the first step and show
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  Speaker 1: up for yourself. No reason to be an overwhelm when
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