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Episode 701: 8 Undeniable Signs You & Your Ex Are Meant To Be · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  You thought you were going to be together forever with your ex
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  and yet here you are broken up. However, you still feel like
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  you're meant to be. Maybe you feel that your ex is
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  your soulmate. Are there any signs that you and
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  your ex are meant to be? Why yes there are and I'm about
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  to give you 8 of them, so stay tuned.
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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  OK, let's get right into it. I'm sure you want to know.
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  So #1 is that your breakup was amicable and peaceful?
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  Yes, it is possible. I know, hard to believe there
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  wasn't a lot of damage done after the relationship.
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  So you haven't or they haven't burned the bridge forever.
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  Now keep in mind that sometimes if a breakup is amicable and
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  peaceful, it may be because one of the parties has a very low
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  interest level. So if they're not that
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  attracted, they're not going to have a negative reaction to the
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  breakup or make a big deal out of being dumped or being the
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  dumper. So you need to ask yourself, was
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  there enough attraction in the relationship or was the breakup
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  peaceful? Peaceful because your ex didn't
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  really care or maybe because you don't really care.
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  The second sign is that the reason for the breakup was
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  timing. Maybe they just got out of a
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  long term relationship or marriage, and often someone like
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  that wants to be free for a period of time.
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  They either want to be alone and not deal with any relationship
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  or they just want to date around even if they have a great
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  relationship with you. I know it sucks because you
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  didn't do anything wrong and the relationship was great and it's
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  only because of timing. And one of my clients is
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  actually going through this right now and I constantly have
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  to talk her down off the ledge to make sure she doesn't reach
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  out and disrespect herself. However, if your bond was
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  strong, have faith that once they've dated around, they will
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  realize that you were the best choice.
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  The third sign is that your families like each other.
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  You were all very close and it was like you were married, just
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  without the ring. And this is really helpful
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  because it's difficult to have a relationship if their family
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  doesn't like you or your family doesn't like them or both
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  families don't like each other. When you marry someone, you're
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  also marrying into their family. People forget that.
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  They think, well, I just love him and who cares about the
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  family? Well, they're going to be
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  around. And you know, that's why we have
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  terms like sister-in-law, brother-in-law, etcetera.
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  Their family becomes your family.
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  Your family becomes their family.
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  The marriage doesn't exist in a vacuum.
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  So if both families like each other, it's possible that their
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  family will encourage them to patch things up and get back
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  together with you. They'll be rooting for you.
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  Yay. The next sign is that there's
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  mutual respect, appreciation, and understanding.
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  You have good communication. You can have a calm, respectful
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  conversation. You're not afraid to discuss the
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  breakup and you may even laugh about it.
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  So for the most part, the relationship was peaceful.
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  So you may be asking, well, if the relationship was that good,
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  why is there a breakup? Good, great question.
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  The breakup may have been because of circumstances or
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  timing as I mentioned earlier. And these are the most
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  frustrating breakups because you didn't do anything wrong.
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  However, if the relationship was really good, as time goes by and
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  the circumstances or timing changes, there's a very good
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  chance you can get back together.
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  The next sign is just for women and this is that you had to
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  break up with your ex because he didn't want to get married.
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  Yes, I know sometimes it's vice versa, but trust me, we all
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  know. Usually it's the guy that's
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  reluctant to get married and the woman who has to quote UN quote
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  insist, which is actually rather ironic because data has shown
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  that actually men benefit more from marriage than women and men
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  who are married are happier and live longer.
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  But that's a whole other discussion.
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  So anyways, yes, many people who are actually now happily married
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  broke up before they got married and then obviously got back
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  together. Two of my very good girlfriends
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  had that happen and they're still married decades later.
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  And even my sister and she has a great marriage.
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  I've never seen them argue or fight and they're still very
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  polite with each other saying thank you and please.
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  And as I said, this often happens before the guy finally
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  wakes up and goes, Oh my God, what did I do?
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  I just lost the best person ever.
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  I I need to get them back. I'm being an idiot for not
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  wanting to commit. So if a woman respects herself,
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  she's not going to wait around pushing for a commitment.
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  She's going to have to leave and get on with her life and hope
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  that the guy realizes that she is the best person for him.
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  And then he'll come back and voila, you'll be getting
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  married. The next sign is you were the
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  best version of yourself with them and they were the best
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  version of themselves with you. It felt right when you were
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  together and you felt that you could take on the world.
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  Being together made each of your lives better.
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  You were excited about what the future held for you as a couple.
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  You both had never felt this way about another person.
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  Time would stop when you were together and you wouldn't even
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  realize that hours and hours had gone by.
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  You could be totally yourself without fear of being judged.
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  If this was your relationship, there's a very good chance that
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  you and your ex were meant to be.
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  Now, sometimes people break up for petty reasons or
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  misunderstandings. One of my clients, his wife
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  wanted a divorce and it was for a very petty reason which I
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  can't go into and she was going to move on with the divorce
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  until I came on the scene and did my thing with my client and
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  guess what? They're not getting divorced.
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  So sometimes it takes the person realizing that you know what,
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  this is stupid. Like why did I break up with
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  that person? It was for a dumb reason.
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  There was really no reason to break up.
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  It's just my ego. So if that's your situation and
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  the relationship was really good other than that issue, then
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  again, another sign you and your ex are meant to be.
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  And then the last one is that your ex had mental health issues
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  like depression and they were possibly on medication.
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  And people aren't themselves when they're depressed.
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  And often the medication that people take for depression can
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  alter their personality and make them more apathetic.
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  And this may have caused them to break up with you.
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  So if they go off the medication or they go off the medication
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  and their depression goes away another way, then there's a good
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  chance that they will realize the breakup was a mistake.
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  And actually, one of my clients went through this with with her
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  ex. And once he got off the
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  medication, he was himself again and they got back together.
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  So now I'm going to hear from you.
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  Do any of these 8 signs apply to your situation and which one or
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  which ones? And in the meantime, if you
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  would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
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  theartoflove.net/coaching and we will send you the rates.
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