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Episode 618: 3 Reasons Why MOVING ON Will Attract Your Ex · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  This week I want to talk about 3 reasons why moving on will
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  attract your ex. Now, moving on can mean that you
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  are no longer focused on getting your ex back, or it can mean
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  that you have moved on with someone else.
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  So how will this attract your ex?
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  Stay tuned and you'll find out. But first, I want to welcome
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  back my beautiful No contact army.
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  can read two free chapters before purchasing the book Okay.
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  So I've actually previously done a video on this topic titled Why
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  Moving on attracts an X and I'll put the link in the upper right
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  hand corner. However, I have more to say on
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  this topic, so here I am again, Okay.
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  So the first thing that I want to talk about is the fact that
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  you often hear people say that when they moved on, that's when
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  they've heard from their ex. How annoying.
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  So why is that? There's got to be a reason with
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  so many people experiencing that.
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  Well, it's the same reason why you can manifest a text from
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  your ex. For those of you that have
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  tried. We're all energetically
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  connected, and if you love someone, that frequency of love
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  connects you to them even more and you can feel what's
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  happening to them on an energetic level.
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  That's why mothers often can feel when something has gone
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  wrong or something's happening to their child.
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  So when you mentally and emotionally moved on, you are
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  now not as focused on your ex as you were before.
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  You've let go of resistance now. I'm sure you've heard the
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  expression, what you resist persists.
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  So what does that mean? It means that if you focus on
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  what you don't want, you will continue to get more of what you
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  don't want because you're resisting it.
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  Even though you're resisting it, you're focused on it.
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  It should actually, the quote should be what you focus on
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  persists. But of course what you resist
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  persists sounds better. So when you are no longer
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  focused on the fact that you were broken up with on the fact
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  that your ex is no longer in your life, you are releasing
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  that resistance. You're letting go on an energy
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  level and that's why that situation can now fall apart and
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  can crumble because you are no longer giving it life, You're no
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  longer giving it energy with your attention because what you
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  focus on expands. So if you're no longer focused
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  on the fact that you're not with your ex and you let go
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  energetically, that's what it means to let go.
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  They can somehow feel it. And that's why you often hear
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  from your ex when you mentally and emotionally let go.
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  But you can't fake it. You can't pretend that you've
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  you've let go. You can't lie to the universe.
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  You have to actually decide to just let go and go.
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  You know what? I I give up okay, fine.
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  I'm, I'm moving on whatever. And that's when you hear from
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  them. And also, you know, people say
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  I'll do anything to get my ex back or I did everything to get
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  my ex back. Really.
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  Well, are you willing to let go of constantly thinking about
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  them? Are you willing to shift your
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  focus to something else? Are you willing to let go of the
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  negativity you're putting into the situation by thinking that
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  you'll never get them back, and by being upset about it?
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  Well, probably not. So don't say that you'll do
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  anything to get your ex back, because you're not.
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  And yes, I know I'm asking the impossible as usual, but if you
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  can train yourself to do that, to just shift your focus to
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  something else, you will see miracles occur.
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  So that's the first reason, because you're letting go on an
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  energy level. Reason #2 why letting go will
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  attract your X is that it raises your value.
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  And people are often afraid to show that they've moved on or
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  pretend that they've moved on because they think their X is
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  also going to give up. And I've actually done a video
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  on that and I'll put the link in the right hand corner.
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  But as usual with matters of the heart, it is counterintuitive.
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  And the total opposite is true. They're not going to think, Oh
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  well, I've lost my chance of reconciling if I change my mind
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  because they moved on, so I want them back, no?
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  And people also think when they've been dumped that they
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  need to prove themselves to their ex in order to get them
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  back. However, unless you cheated or
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  took your extra granted, then you don't have to prove
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  anything. What's attractive is that you
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  show someone that if they're going to walk out of your life,
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  you're not chasing them, you're moving on with your life.
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  It raises your value because most people will chase an ex
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  when they've been dumped, and when you don't do that, you
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  actually look like you're moving on.
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  You automatically stand out for most people and your value goes
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  up. That's why it's so important to
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  do no contact. That's why I have my app,
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  Salancio, that I mentioned at the top of this video, because
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  they have no idea what is going on with you.
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  Have you moved on with your life?
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  Are you dating someone else who knows?
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  Well, you know, but they don't. And then finally #3.
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  And before I tell you the third one is, be sure to give this
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  video a like in or to help the YouTube algorithm recommend it
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  to other people, and then they too can find out how letting go
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  will attract the wrecks. And this is because rejection
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  causes obsession. Rejection raises interest, level
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  rejection gets our attention. We're wired for survival and it
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  feel feels like our survival is at stake when we've been
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  rejected. So even though initially your ex
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  rejected you or you had to reject them because they took
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  you for granted or they cheated, now by not chasing them, leave
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  them alone and appearing to move on or actually move on, now you
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  are rejecting them. So as I said, we are wired for
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  survival, and it feels like our survival is at stake when we've
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  been rejected. Now obviously that's not true,
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  but that is how the primitive brain looks at rejection.
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  If you're looking at this logically, it doesn't make
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  sense. But when it comes to matters of
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  the heart, logic goes out the window.
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  People make emotional decisions, not logical ones, because if
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  they made logical decisions, when it comes to matters of the
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  heart, this channel would not exist because no one would be
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  trying to get their ex back after they've been dumped.
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  Or if they've been cheated on or taking it for granted, they
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  would just say okay, this person isn't from me, I'm moving on.
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  Yet here we are and you're trying to get your ex back, so
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  it's not logical. So even though your ex initially
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  rejected you by not attempting to get them back and moving on
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  or appearing to move on, they will feel rejection because
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  everyone expects to be chased after a breakup.
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  And if you had to do the dumping because you were cheated on or
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  taken for granted, then your ex will definitely feel the
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  rejection and most likely react. You're showing that you don't
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  need them and can live without them and this is so attractive.
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  One of my clients, he cheated on his ex.
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  Yes, he was a bad boy and she broke up with him and later on
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  when he found out that she was dating someone else, he freaked
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  out and contacted her. So there you go.
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  There's proof that moving on, we'll get your ex back, and also
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  their ego will not let them rest until you chase them.
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  That's why people saying bread crumbs are like, hey, why aren't
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  you chasing me? You know they're trying to get
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  you to notice them and they'll feel like they've lost you and
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  that they can never get you back.
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  You've now taken away their choice to come back if they
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  change their mind. When you break up with someone
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  who didn't want the relationship to end, you can assume that you
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  can always get them back. And as I said, you assume
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  they're going to chase you since you're the dumper and they
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  didn't want you to leave. However, when you see the person
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  who you dumped is now moving on with your life, it's shocking
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  because you thought they would be pining away for you and this
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  is what may cause your ex to reach out.
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  So to recap the three reasons why moving on will cause your ex
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  to be attracted to you again, Number one, on an energy level,
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  you are letting go. You are not resisting #2.
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  You've raised your value and #3 rejection causes obsession.
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  Okay. So now I want to hear from you.
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  How long will you wait before you move on or before you make
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  it look like you have moved on? Please leave your comment below
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  and in the meantime, if you would like my help personally to
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  get your ex back, you can contact me at theartoflove.net
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  and we will send you the rates. The direct link is below.
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  If you found this video helpful, please like, subscribe and
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  share. If you're listening to this as a
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