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Confidence Isn’t a Feeling — It’s a Decision (And You’re Waiting Too Long) | EP 269 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Let
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  me
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  just
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  say
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  this.
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  Straight
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  up
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  a
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  no
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  chaser.
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  If
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  readiness
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  was
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  required,
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  nobody
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  powerful
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  would
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  exist.
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  You
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  were
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  not
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  almost
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  there.
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  You
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  were
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  all
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  ready
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  there.
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  You're
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  just
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  still
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  negotiating
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  with.
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  Fear,
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  like
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  it
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  gets
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  a
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  vote.
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  This
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  episode
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  is
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  for
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  the
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  woman
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  who
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  keeps
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  saying,
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  I
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  just
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  want
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  to
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  feel
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  more
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  confident
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  first.
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  I
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  don't
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  wanna
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  rush
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  it,
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  or
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  I'm
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  waiting
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  for
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  clarity.
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  No
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  friend.
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  You're
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  waiting
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  for
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  comfort
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  and
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  confident
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  Women,
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  they
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  don't
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  build
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  lives
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  around
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  comfort.
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  They
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  build
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  them
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  around
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  decision.
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  If
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  you
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  are
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  done
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  waiting
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  on
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  a
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  feeling
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  that
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  was
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  never
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  meant
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  to
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  lead
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  you,
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  your
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  permission
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  slip
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  to
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  act
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  first
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  and
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  catch
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  up
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  emotionally
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  later.
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  A
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  friend,
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  if
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  kind
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  of
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  conversation
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  you've
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  been
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  craving,
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  subscribe.
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  This
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  podcast
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  is
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  for
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  women
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  who
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  take
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  themselves
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  seriously,
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  not
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  rigidly,
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  but
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  intentionally.
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  And
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  the
• 1:04
  women
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  who
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  stay
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  here
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  are
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  the
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  ones
• 1:06
  who
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  actually
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  apply
• 1:08
  what
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  they
• 1:08
  hear.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey.
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  My
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  powerful
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  becoming
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  no
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  longer
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  playing,
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  small
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  woman
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  stepping
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  into
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  her
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  main
• 1:19
  character
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  mode.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  space
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  where
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  we
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  stop
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  romanticizing,
• 1:24
  hesitation,
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  and
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  start
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  honoring
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  our
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  authority.
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  I
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  need
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  you
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  to
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  hear
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  me
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  clearly
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  today,
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  not
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  softly,
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  and.
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  Spiritually
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  bypass
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  and
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  not
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  watered
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  down.
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  Confidence
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  is
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  not
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  coming
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  to
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  save
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  you.
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  You
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  build
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  it
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  by
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  moving
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  without
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  it,
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  and
• 1:42
  if
• 1:42
  that
• 1:42
  makes
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  your
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  chest
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  tighten
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  just
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  a
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  little
• 1:44
  bit,
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  good.
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  That's
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  growth
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  knocking.
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  So
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  grab
• 1:49
  your
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  coffee,
• 1:50
  sit
• 1:50
  up
• 1:50
  straighter,
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  because
• 1:51
  this
• 1:51
  episode
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  is
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  not
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  a
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  pep
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  talk,
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  it's
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  a
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  wake
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  up
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  call.
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  As
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  you
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  listen
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  today,
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  notice
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  where
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  you
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  are
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  understanding
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  the
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  pattern
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  or
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  realizing
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  you
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  are
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  ready
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  to
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  move
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  beyond
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  it.
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  If
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  that
• 2:04
  moment
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  hits,
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  I'll
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  tell
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  you
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  exactly
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  where
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  to
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  go
• 2:07
  when
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  we
• 2:08
  get
• 2:08
  there.
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  This
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  is
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  the
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  truth.
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  Nobody
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  wants
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  to
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  admit.
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  Confidence
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  is
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  not
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  emotional.
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  It's
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  behavioral.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  pull
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  out
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  our
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  favorite
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  line
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  from
• 2:19
  Ghost.
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  Remember
• 2:20
  when
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  Whoopi
• 2:21
  Goldberg
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  said,
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  Molly,
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  you
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  in
• 2:23
  danger
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  Girl.
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  I
• 2:26
  might
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  be
• 2:26
  dating
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  myself
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  with
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  this
• 2:27
  reference
• 2:28
  here,
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  but
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  it's
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  all
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  good
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  because
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  a
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  friend,
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  we
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  have
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  been
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  lied
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  to.
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  Confidence
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  has
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  been
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  marketed
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  as
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  a
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  feeling
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  when
• 2:36
  it's
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  actually
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  a
• 2:37
  pattern.
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  You
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  don't
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  wake
• 2:39
  up
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  confident,
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  you
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  wake
• 2:40
  up
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  and
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  choose.
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  Confidence
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  is
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  what
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  happens
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  when
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  your
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  nervous
• 2:44
  system
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  watches
• 2:45
  you
• 2:46
  speak,
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  even
• 2:47
  when
• 2:47
  your
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  voice
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  shakes.
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  Decide
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  without
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  consensus,
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  move
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  before
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  the
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  outcome
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  is
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  guaranteed.
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  Every
• 2:54
  time
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  you
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  act
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  without
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  certainty,
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  your
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  brain
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  takes
• 2:58
  notes
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  and
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  says,
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  Ooh,
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  okay.
• 3:00
  She
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  keeps
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  her
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  word,
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  Hey,
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  that's
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  not
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  confidence.
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  That's
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  self-trust.
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  And
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  that
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  self-trust
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  is
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  what
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  separates
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  women
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  who
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  just
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  dream
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  from
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  women
• 3:12
  who
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  do
• 3:13
  the
• 3:13
  dang
• 3:13
  on
• 3:13
  thing.
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  Waiting
• 3:14
  to
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  feel
• 3:15
  confident
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  is
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  like
• 3:16
  waiting
• 3:17
  to
• 3:17
  get
• 3:17
  into
• 3:17
  shape
• 3:18
  before
• 3:18
  going
• 3:18
  to
• 3:19
  the
• 3:19
  gym.
• 3:20
  Make
• 3:20
  it
• 3:20
  make
• 3:20
  sense.
• 3:23
  Now
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  let's
• 3:24
  talk
• 3:24
  about
• 3:25
  why
• 3:25
  waiting
• 3:26
  feels
• 3:26
  so
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  mature,
• 3:27
  so
• 3:28
  healed,
• 3:28
  so
• 3:29
  responsible,
• 3:30
  and
• 3:30
  why
• 3:31
  it's
• 3:31
  actually
• 3:32
  fear
• 3:32
  wearing
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  fancy
• 3:33
  blouse.
• 3:34
  Waiting
• 3:35
  to
• 3:35
  feel
• 3:35
  ready
• 3:36
  is
• 3:36
  the
• 3:36
  prettiest
• 3:37
  form
• 3:37
  of
• 3:37
  fear.
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  Fear
• 3:39
  doesn't
• 3:39
  always
• 3:39
  scream.
• 3:40
  Sometimes
• 3:41
  it
• 3:41
  whispers.
• 3:42
  Let
• 3:42
  me
• 3:43
  think
• 3:43
  about
• 3:43
  it
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  little
• 3:44
  longer.
• 3:45
  I'm
• 3:45
  just
• 3:45
  being
• 3:45
  patient.
• 3:46
  I'm
• 3:47
  trusting
• 3:47
  the
• 3:47
  timing
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  Friend.
• 3:49
  Who's
• 3:49
  timing
• 3:50
  yours
• 3:51
  or
• 3:51
  fears?
• 3:54
  Because
• 3:54
  clarity
• 3:55
  does
• 3:55
  not
• 3:55
  come
• 3:56
  from
• 3:56
  sitting
• 3:57
  still.
• 3:58
  It
• 3:58
  comes
• 3:58
  from
• 3:59
  movement.
• 4:00
  Readiness
• 4:00
  is
• 4:01
  not
• 4:01
  wisdom.
• 4:02
  It's
• 4:02
  often
• 4:03
  just
• 4:03
  fear
• 4:04
  that
• 4:04
  learned.
• 4:05
  Therapy
• 4:06
  language
• 4:06
  and
• 4:06
  society
• 4:07
  loves
• 4:08
  that
• 4:08
  version
• 4:09
  of
• 4:09
  fear,
• 4:09
  especially
• 4:10
  in
• 4:10
  women.
• 4:11
  The
• 4:11
  woman
• 4:11
  who
• 4:12
  waits,
• 4:12
  who
• 4:13
  explains
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  woman,
• 4:14
  who
• 4:14
  shrinks
• 4:15
  her
• 4:15
  certainty.
• 4:16
  So
• 4:16
  no
• 4:16
  one
• 4:16
  feels
• 4:17
  threatened,
• 4:18
  but
• 4:18
  confident
• 4:18
  women,
• 4:19
  they
• 4:19
  don't
• 4:20
  wait
• 4:20
  to
• 4:20
  be
• 4:20
  understood.
• 4:21
  They
• 4:22
  move
• 4:23
  and
• 4:24
  let
• 4:24
  the
• 4:24
  world
• 4:25
  catch
• 4:25
  up.
• 4:26
  So
• 4:26
  if
• 4:26
  waiting
• 4:27
  isn't
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  move,
• 4:29
  what
• 4:29
  is.
• 4:30
  Confident
• 4:31
  women
• 4:31
  act
• 4:31
  from
• 4:32
  decision
• 4:32
  not
• 4:33
  emotion.
• 4:34
  Confidence
• 4:34
  is
• 4:35
  an
• 4:35
  identity,
• 4:36
  not
• 4:36
  a
• 4:37
  vibe.
• 4:37
  Confident
• 4:38
  women
• 4:38
  don't
• 4:38
  ask,
• 4:39
  how
• 4:39
  do
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  feel
• 4:40
  today?
• 4:40
  They
• 4:41
  ask,
• 4:42
  what
• 4:42
  have
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  decided
• 4:43
  about
• 4:43
  who
• 4:44
  I
• 4:44
  am?
• 4:45
  They
• 4:45
  speak
• 4:46
  from
• 4:46
  certainty.
• 4:47
  Choose
• 4:47
  before
• 4:48
  clarity,
• 4:49
  move
• 4:49
  without
• 4:50
  permission,
• 4:51
  not
• 4:51
  chaos.
• 4:52
  Committed.
• 4:53
  They
• 4:54
  don't
• 4:54
  need
• 4:54
  the
• 4:55
  full
• 4:55
  plan.
• 4:56
  They
• 4:56
  trust
• 4:56
  themselves
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  handle
• 4:58
  whatever
• 4:58
  shows
• 4:59
  up
• 5:00
  after
• 5:00
  the
• 5:01
  decision
• 5:01
  and
• 5:02
  that
• 5:02
  trust.
• 5:03
  That's
• 5:03
  what
• 5:03
  creates
• 5:04
  confidence
• 5:04
  on
• 5:05
  the
• 5:05
  back
• 5:05
  end.
• 5:06
  Confident
• 5:06
  women
• 5:07
  stop
• 5:07
  explaining
• 5:08
  themselves.
• 5:09
  Full
• 5:09
  stop
• 5:10
  and
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  period,
• 5:11
  here's
• 5:12
  the
• 5:12
  level
• 5:12
  up
• 5:13
  nobody
• 5:13
  prepares
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  for.
• 5:14
  You
• 5:15
  realize
• 5:15
  explanation
• 5:16
  is
• 5:17
  just
• 5:17
  approval.
• 5:17
  Seeking
• 5:18
  an
• 5:18
  acute
• 5:18
  outfit.
• 5:19
  Confident
• 5:20
  women
• 5:20
  don't
• 5:21
  over
• 5:21
  justify
• 5:22
  their
• 5:23
  prices,
• 5:23
  their
• 5:24
  pivots,
• 5:24
  their
• 5:24
  boundaries,
• 5:25
  their
• 5:26
  no.
• 5:27
  Listen,
• 5:27
  I
• 5:28
  heard
• 5:28
  somebody
• 5:28
  say,
• 5:29
  if
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  didn't
• 5:30
  have
• 5:30
  to
• 5:30
  explain
• 5:30
  my
• 5:31
  yes,
• 5:31
  then
• 5:32
  why
• 5:32
  do
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  need
• 5:32
  to
• 5:33
  explain
• 5:33
  my
• 5:33
  no.
• 5:34
  Hmm.
• 5:35
  The
• 5:35
  thing
• 5:35
  about
• 5:35
  confident
• 5:36
  women
• 5:36
  is
• 5:37
  they
• 5:37
  don't
• 5:37
  need
• 5:37
  to
• 5:38
  be
• 5:38
  agreed
• 5:39
  with
• 5:39
  to
• 5:39
  be
• 5:39
  grounded.
• 5:40
  Silence
• 5:41
  after
• 5:42
  a
• 5:42
  decision
• 5:42
  isn't
• 5:43
  awkward,
• 5:44
  it's
• 5:44
  authoritative,
• 5:48
  If
• 5:48
  you
• 5:48
  are
• 5:49
  listening
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  this
• 5:49
  and
• 5:50
  thinking,
• 5:50
  I
• 5:50
  understand
• 5:51
  my
• 5:51
  patterns,
• 5:52
  but.
• 5:52
  Nothing
• 5:53
  is
• 5:53
  changing.
• 5:54
  Hear
• 5:54
  me
• 5:54
  clearly.
• 5:55
  Friend.
• 5:56
  You
• 5:56
  are
• 5:56
  not
• 5:56
  stuck
• 5:57
  because
• 5:57
  you
• 5:57
  need
• 5:58
  more
• 5:58
  insight.
• 5:59
  You
• 5:59
  are
• 5:59
  stuck
• 6:00
  because
• 6:00
  awareness
• 6:01
  isn't
• 6:01
  the
• 6:01
  next
• 6:02
  step
• 6:02
  anymore.
• 6:03
  Decision
• 6:04
  is
• 6:05
  that
• 6:05
  pause,
• 6:05
  you
• 6:06
  keep
• 6:06
  calling
• 6:06
  timing.
• 6:07
  It's
• 6:07
  the
• 6:08
  moment
• 6:08
  self-trust
• 6:09
  has
• 6:09
  to
• 6:10
  be
• 6:10
  practiced,
• 6:10
  not
• 6:11
  processed.
• 6:12
  That's
• 6:12
  why
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  Main
• 6:13
  Character
• 6:13
  Momentum
• 6:14
  Builder
• 6:14
  exists.
• 6:15
  Not
• 6:16
  to
• 6:16
  give
• 6:16
  you
• 6:16
  more
• 6:16
  information,
• 6:17
  but
• 6:17
  to
• 6:17
  help
• 6:18
  you
• 6:18
  move
• 6:18
  forward
• 6:18
  with
• 6:19
  clarity,
• 6:20
  consistency,
• 6:21
  and
• 6:21
  trust,
• 6:22
  without
• 6:23
  forcing
• 6:23
  yourself
• 6:24
  or
• 6:24
  waiting
• 6:24
  to
• 6:24
  feel
• 6:25
  ready.
• 6:26
  You'll
• 6:26
  find
• 6:27
  it
• 6:27
  linked
• 6:28
  in
• 6:28
  the
• 6:28
  show
• 6:28
  notes.
• 6:31
  All
• 6:31
  right,
• 6:31
  friend.
• 6:32
  Pause
• 6:32
  the
• 6:32
  noise
• 6:33
  for
• 6:33
  a
• 6:34
  second
• 6:34
  because
• 6:35
  everything
• 6:35
  we
• 6:36
  just
• 6:36
  talked
• 6:36
  about,
• 6:37
  it
• 6:37
  doesn't
• 6:38
  matter
• 6:38
  if
• 6:38
  it
• 6:38
  just
• 6:39
  stays
• 6:39
  theoretical.
• 6:40
  Confidence
• 6:41
  is
• 6:41
  not
• 6:41
  built
• 6:42
  by
• 6:42
  agreeing
• 6:43
  with
• 6:43
  me.
• 6:43
  It
• 6:44
  is
• 6:44
  built
• 6:44
  by
• 6:44
  moving.
• 6:45
  So
• 6:46
  this
• 6:46
  is
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  moment
• 6:47
  where
• 6:47
  we
• 6:47
  stop
• 6:47
  consuming
• 6:48
  and
• 6:48
  start
• 6:49
  initiating
• 6:50
  where
• 6:50
  you
• 6:50
  don't
• 6:51
  just
• 6:51
  nod
• 6:52
  along,
• 6:52
  you
• 6:53
  decide,
• 6:54
  welcome
• 6:54
  to
• 6:55
  your
• 6:55
  new
• 6:56
  ritual.
• 6:57
  This
• 6:57
  self-love
• 6:58
  two
• 6:58
  step
• 6:58
  is
• 6:58
  the
• 6:58
  confidence
• 6:59
  receipt.
• 7:00
  O
• 7:01
  friend,
• 7:02
  This
• 7:02
  is
• 7:02
  where
• 7:02
  you
• 7:03
  stop
• 7:03
  waiting
• 7:03
  to
• 7:04
  feel
• 7:04
  different
• 7:05
  and
• 7:05
  start.
• 7:06
  Acting
• 7:06
  like
• 7:07
  the
• 7:07
  woman
• 7:07
  you
• 7:08
  are
• 7:08
  becoming.
• 7:09
  Step
• 7:09
  one,
• 7:10
  claim
• 7:10
  the
• 7:11
  decision
• 7:12
  Name,
• 7:12
  the
• 7:12
  thing
• 7:13
  you've
• 7:13
  been
• 7:13
  postponing.
• 7:14
  Not
• 7:15
  the
• 7:15
  polished
• 7:15
  version,
• 7:16
  not
• 7:16
  the
• 7:17
  one
• 7:17
  day
• 7:17
  version.
• 7:18
  The
• 7:18
  real
• 7:18
  thing,
• 7:19
  you
• 7:19
  keep
• 7:19
  circling
• 7:20
  because
• 7:21
  it
• 7:21
  requires
• 7:21
  nerve.
• 7:22
  Say
• 7:23
  it
• 7:23
  plainly.
• 7:24
  No
• 7:24
  backstory,
• 7:25
  no
• 7:25
  disclaimers,
• 7:27
  because
• 7:27
  clarity
• 7:27
  begins
• 7:28
  the
• 7:28
  moment
• 7:28
  you
• 7:29
  stop
• 7:29
  lying
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  yourself.
• 7:30
  Step
• 7:31
  two,
• 7:32
  act
• 7:32
  without
• 7:33
  applause.
• 7:34
  This
• 7:35
  is
• 7:35
  where
• 7:35
  you
• 7:35
  make
• 7:35
  your
• 7:36
  move.
• 7:37
  Now.
• 7:37
  Take
• 7:37
  one
• 7:38
  small,
• 7:39
  bold
• 7:40
  action
• 7:40
  toward
• 7:41
  it
• 7:41
  within
• 7:42
  the
• 7:42
  next
• 7:42
  24
• 7:43
  hours.
• 7:44
  Not
• 7:44
  loud,
• 7:44
  not
• 7:45
  performative,
• 7:46
  not
• 7:46
  announced.
• 7:47
  Confident
• 7:48
  women
• 7:48
  don't
• 7:48
  move
• 7:49
  for
• 7:49
  applause,
• 7:50
  they
• 7:50
  move
• 7:51
  for
• 7:51
  alignment.
• 7:52
  This
• 7:53
  step
• 7:53
  is
• 7:53
  about
• 7:54
  showing
• 7:54
  yourself
• 7:55
  that
• 7:55
  you
• 7:55
  can
• 7:55
  be
• 7:55
  trusted
• 7:56
  and
• 7:56
  every
• 7:57
  time
• 7:57
  you
• 7:57
  do
• 7:57
  this,
• 7:58
  confidence
• 7:59
  clocks
• 8:00
  in,
• 8:01
  Here's
• 8:01
  your
• 8:01
  new
• 8:02
  mantra.
• 8:02
  You
• 8:03
  can
• 8:03
  write
• 8:03
  it
• 8:03
  down
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  say
• 8:04
  it
• 8:04
  out
• 8:04
  loud
• 8:05
  later.
• 8:06
  I
• 8:06
  don't
• 8:06
  need
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  feel
• 8:07
  ready
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  move.
• 8:09
  I
• 8:09
  trust
• 8:10
  myself
• 8:11
  to
• 8:11
  handle
• 8:12
  what
• 8:12
  comes
• 8:13
  next.
• 8:14
  Now
• 8:15
  lemme
• 8:15
  pour
• 8:15
  into
• 8:16
  you
• 8:16
  real
• 8:16
  quick.
• 8:17
  Hear
• 8:17
  me
• 8:18
  with
• 8:18
  your
• 8:18
  whole
• 8:19
  heart
• 8:19
  when
• 8:19
  I
• 8:19
  say
• 8:20
  this.
• 8:21
  You
• 8:21
  are
• 8:21
  not
• 8:22
  late,
• 8:23
  you
• 8:23
  are
• 8:23
  not
• 8:23
  confused,
• 8:24
  and
• 8:24
  you're
• 8:24
  not
• 8:25
  behind
• 8:25
  schedule
• 8:26
  in
• 8:27
  your
• 8:27
  own
• 8:27
  life.
• 8:28
  You
• 8:28
  are
• 8:29
  standing
• 8:29
  at
• 8:30
  the.
• 8:30
  Edge
• 8:31
  of
• 8:31
  a
• 8:31
  version
• 8:32
  of
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  that
• 8:33
  requires
• 8:33
  nerve.
• 8:34
  If
• 8:35
  ever
• 8:35
  there
• 8:35
  was
• 8:36
  a
• 8:36
  place
• 8:36
  for
• 8:36
  full
• 8:37
  audacity,
• 8:38
  this
• 8:39
  is
• 8:39
  it.
• 8:39
  And
• 8:40
  your
• 8:40
  hesitation
• 8:41
  isn't
• 8:41
  a
• 8:41
  flaw.
• 8:42
  It's
• 8:43
  a
• 8:43
  signal
• 8:43
  that
• 8:43
  something
• 8:44
  important
• 8:45
  is
• 8:45
  asking
• 8:45
  to
• 8:46
  be
• 8:46
  born
• 8:46
  through
• 8:47
  you.
• 8:48
  But
• 8:48
  let
• 8:49
  me
• 8:49
  free
• 8:49
  you
• 8:49
  from
• 8:49
  the
• 8:50
  lie.
• 8:50
  You've
• 8:51
  been
• 8:51
  carrying.
• 8:52
  You
• 8:52
  don't
• 8:53
  need
• 8:53
  confidence
• 8:54
  to
• 8:54
  move.
• 8:55
  You
• 8:55
  need
• 8:56
  courage,
• 8:57
  and
• 8:57
  courage
• 8:58
  doesn't
• 8:58
  come
• 8:59
  feeling
• 8:59
  ready.
• 9:00
  It
• 9:00
  comes
• 9:01
  from
• 9:01
  deciding
• 9:02
  that
• 9:02
  your
• 9:03
  life
• 9:03
  deserves
• 9:04
  momentum.
• 9:05
  Confidence
• 9:06
  is
• 9:06
  not
• 9:07
  the
• 9:07
  rescue
• 9:07
  boat,
• 9:08
  it's
• 9:08
  the
• 9:08
  shore
• 9:09
  you
• 9:09
  reach
• 9:10
  after
• 9:11
  you
• 9:11
  swim.
• 9:12
  Every
• 9:12
  time
• 9:12
  you
• 9:13
  wait
• 9:13
  to
• 9:13
  feel
• 9:13
  ready,
• 9:14
  you
• 9:14
  teach
• 9:15
  yourself
• 9:15
  that
• 9:15
  fear
• 9:16
  gets
• 9:17
  authority,
• 9:18
  but
• 9:18
  every
• 9:18
  time
• 9:18
  you
• 9:19
  move
• 9:19
  anyway,
• 9:20
  you
• 9:20
  remind
• 9:21
  your
• 9:21
  nervous
• 9:21
  system.
• 9:22
  I
• 9:23
  can
• 9:23
  be
• 9:23
  trusted
• 9:23
  with
• 9:24
  my
• 9:24
  own
• 9:24
  life
• 9:25
  and
• 9:26
  that
• 9:26
  trust.
• 9:27
  That's
• 9:27
  what
• 9:28
  changes
• 9:28
  how
• 9:29
  you.
• 9:29
  Speak
• 9:30
  how
• 9:30
  you
• 9:30
  choose,
• 9:31
  how
• 9:31
  you
• 9:31
  walk
• 9:31
  into
• 9:32
  rooms
• 9:33
  without
• 9:33
  shrinking.
• 9:34
  And
• 9:34
  let
• 9:35
  me
• 9:35
  get
• 9:35
  practical
• 9:35
  for
• 9:36
  just
• 9:36
  a
• 9:36
  second,
• 9:37
  because
• 9:37
  courage
• 9:38
  isn't
• 9:38
  some
• 9:38
  abstract
• 9:39
  thing
• 9:40
  that's
• 9:40
  just
• 9:40
  waiting
• 9:41
  out
• 9:41
  in
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  wings.
• 9:42
  It
• 9:43
  shows
• 9:43
  up
• 9:44
  in
• 9:44
  very
• 9:44
  specific
• 9:45
  places.
• 9:46
  Courage
• 9:47
  looks
• 9:47
  like
• 9:47
  this
• 9:47
  in
• 9:48
  your
• 9:48
  life.
• 9:49
  Choosing
• 9:49
  yourself
• 9:50
  even
• 9:50
  when
• 9:51
  no
• 9:51
  one
• 9:51
  claps
• 9:51
  yet,
• 9:52
  letting
• 9:52
  go
• 9:53
  of
• 9:53
  what's
• 9:53
  familiar
• 9:54
  because
• 9:55
  you've
• 9:55
  outgrown
• 9:55
  it.
• 9:56
  Starting
• 9:57
  the
• 9:57
  thing
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  keep
• 9:58
  saying
• 9:58
  you'll
• 9:59
  do
• 9:59
  after
• 10:00
  things
• 10:01
  calm
• 10:01
  down
• 10:01
  in
• 10:02
  love
• 10:02
  and
• 10:02
  relationships.
• 10:03
  It
• 10:03
  looks
• 10:04
  like
• 10:04
  saying
• 10:05
  what
• 10:05
  you
• 10:05
  actually
• 10:06
  need
• 10:06
  instead
• 10:07
  of
• 10:07
  what
• 10:07
  Just
• 10:08
  keeps
• 10:08
  the
• 10:08
  peace,
• 10:09
  leaving
• 10:09
  the
• 10:10
  dynamic
• 10:10
  that
• 10:10
  keeps
• 10:11
  asking
• 10:11
  you
• 10:11
  to
• 10:12
  shrink
• 10:12
  or
• 10:12
  disrespect
• 10:13
  yourself,
• 10:14
  letting
• 10:14
  someone
• 10:15
  really
• 10:16
  see
• 10:16
  you,
• 10:16
  I
• 10:17
  mean,
• 10:17
  really
• 10:18
  see
• 10:19
  you
• 10:20
  instead
• 10:20
  of
• 10:20
  performing
• 10:21
  to
• 10:21
  be
• 10:22
  chosen.
• 10:23
  In
• 10:23
  your
• 10:23
  career
• 10:24
  or
• 10:24
  calling,
• 10:25
  it
• 10:25
  looks
• 10:25
  like
• 10:26
  applying
• 10:26
  before
• 10:27
  you
• 10:27
  feel
• 10:27
  qualified,
• 10:28
  raising
• 10:29
  your
• 10:29
  hand
• 10:29
  before
• 10:30
  you
• 10:30
  feel
• 10:30
  certain
• 10:31
  charging
• 10:31
  for
• 10:32
  your
• 10:32
  worth
• 10:33
  without
• 10:33
  overexplaining
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  price
• 10:35
  in
• 10:35
  your
• 10:36
  boundaries.
• 10:36
  It
• 10:37
  looks
• 10:37
  like
• 10:37
  saying
• 10:38
  no
• 10:39
  without
• 10:39
  the
• 10:39
  paragraph
• 10:40
  not
• 10:40
  answering
• 10:41
  right
• 10:41
  away
• 10:42
  and
• 10:42
  not
• 10:43
  rescuing
• 10:44
  grown
• 10:44
  adults
• 10:45
  from
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  consequences
• 10:47
  of
• 10:47
  their
• 10:47
  own
• 10:47
  choices.
• 10:49
  Ooh,
• 10:49
  let
• 10:49
  me
• 10:49
  say
• 10:49
  that
• 10:50
  again.
• 10:51
  I
• 10:51
  know
• 10:51
  somebody
• 10:51
  need
• 10:51
  to
• 10:52
  get
• 10:52
  that
• 10:52
  deep
• 10:52
  down
• 10:53
  in
• 10:53
  they
• 10:53
  spirit,
• 10:55
  not
• 10:56
  rescuing
• 10:57
  grown
• 10:57
  adults
• 10:58
  from
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  consequences
• 10:59
  of
• 10:59
  their
• 11:00
  own
• 11:00
  choices.
• 11:02
  In
• 11:02
  your
• 11:02
  identity,
• 11:03
  it
• 11:03
  looks
• 11:04
  like
• 11:04
  allowing
• 11:05
  yourself
• 11:05
  to
• 11:05
  change
• 11:07
  Outgrowing
• 11:07
  old
• 11:08
  labels,
• 11:09
  letting
• 11:09
  the
• 11:10
  old
• 11:10
  version
• 11:10
  of
• 11:10
  you
• 11:11
  be
• 11:11
  disappointed
• 11:12
  that
• 11:12
  you're
• 11:12
  evolving.
• 11:13
  Courage
• 11:14
  isn't
• 11:14
  loud,
• 11:15
  it's
• 11:15
  not
• 11:15
  always
• 11:16
  dramatic.
• 11:17
  Sometimes
• 11:18
  courage
• 11:18
  is
• 11:18
  just
• 11:19
  doing
• 11:19
  the
• 11:19
  thing
• 11:20
  you
• 11:20
  keep
• 11:20
  talking
• 11:21
  yourself
• 11:21
  out
• 11:22
  of
• 11:22
  and
• 11:22
  doing
• 11:23
  it
• 11:23
  without
• 11:24
  an
• 11:24
  audience.
• 11:24
  That's
• 11:26
  where
• 11:26
  confidence
• 11:26
  is
• 11:26
  born.
• 11:27
  So
• 11:27
  if
• 11:27
  you've
• 11:28
  been
• 11:28
  waiting
• 11:28
  for
• 11:28
  a
• 11:28
  sign
• 11:29
  friend,
• 11:30
  this
• 11:30
  is.
• 11:31
  It
• 11:32
  move
• 11:32
  quietly,
• 11:33
  imperfectly,
• 11:35
  move
• 11:35
  scared
• 11:36
  if
• 11:36
  you
• 11:36
  have
• 11:36
  to.
• 11:37
  Just
• 11:37
  don't
• 11:38
  stay
• 11:38
  still
• 11:38
  because
• 11:39
  readiness
• 11:40
  is
• 11:40
  not
• 11:40
  a
• 11:40
  requirement,
• 11:41
  it's
• 11:42
  a
• 11:42
  reward,
• 11:42
  and
• 11:43
  it
• 11:43
  always
• 11:44
  comes
• 11:44
  after
• 11:45
  you
• 11:46
  choose
• 11:46
  yourself.
• 11:49
  Ooh,
• 11:50
  friend.
• 11:50
  If
• 11:50
  this
• 11:51
  episode
• 11:51
  felt
• 11:51
  like
• 11:52
  two
• 11:52
  chops
• 11:52
  to
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  throat
• 11:53
  in
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  best
• 11:54
  way,
• 11:56
  that's
• 11:57
  good.
• 11:57
  It
• 11:57
  means
• 11:57
  that
• 11:58
  something
• 11:58
  just
• 11:59
  shifted.
• 12:01
  Stay
• 12:02
  connected,
• 12:03
  subscribe
• 12:04
  so
• 12:04
  you
• 12:04
  don't
• 12:04
  miss
• 12:04
  the
• 12:04
  conversations
• 12:05
  that
• 12:06
  call
• 12:06
  you
• 12:06
  higher.
• 12:07
  And
• 12:07
  if
• 12:07
  this
• 12:08
  spoke
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  you,
• 12:09
  leave
• 12:09
  a
• 12:09
  five
• 12:10
  star
• 12:10
  review
• 12:10
  because
• 12:11
  women
• 12:11
  who
• 12:11
  grow
• 12:11
  out
• 12:12
  loud
• 12:12
  don't
• 12:13
  just
• 12:13
  heal
• 12:13
  themselves.
• 12:15
  They
• 12:15
  change
• 12:16
  the
• 12:16
  culture.
• 12:17
  Then
• 12:18
  share
• 12:18
  this
• 12:18
  in
• 12:19
  your
• 12:19
  sister
• 12:19
  friend
• 12:20
  group
• 12:20
  chat
• 12:20
  because
• 12:21
  there
• 12:21
  is
• 12:21
  always
• 12:22
  a
• 12:22
  woman
• 12:22
  waiting
• 12:23
  on
• 12:23
  a
• 12:23
  feeling
• 12:24
  instead
• 12:25
  of
• 12:25
  trusting
• 12:25
  herself,
• 12:26
  And
• 12:26
  you
• 12:26
  might
• 12:27
  be
• 12:27
  the
• 12:27
  reminder
• 12:28
  she
• 12:28
  needs.
• 12:29
  Until
• 12:30
  next
• 12:30
  time.
• 12:30
  You
• 12:31
  don't
• 12:31
  become
• 12:32
  confident
• 12:33
  and
• 12:33
  then
• 12:33
  act.
• 12:34
  You.
• 12:34
  Act
• 12:35
  and
• 12:35
  confidence
• 12:36
  follows.
• 12:37
  So
• 12:37
  cue
• 12:38
  the
• 12:38
  music,
• 12:38
  roll
• 12:39
  the
• 12:39
  credits,
• 12:39
  because
• 12:40
  this
• 12:41
  is
• 12:41
  your
• 12:41
  era.
• 12:42
  And
• 12:42
  don't
• 12:42
  forget
• 12:43
  around
• 12:43
  here,
• 12:44
  we
• 12:44
  don't
• 12:44
  shrink.
• 12:45
  We
• 12:45
  shine
• 12:46
  all
• 12:46
  because
• 12:47
  together
• 12:47
  we
• 12:48
  can
• 12:48
  encourage
• 12:49
  over
• 12:50
  everything.