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Medical Mayhem and Online Mayhem · Shawna and LaLa: Life Beyond The Mic

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  Speaker 1: From the heart of the city, where the beat meets
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  Speaker 1: the rhythm of your day.
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  Speaker 2: It's Shawnam, what's up. You're listening to Shauna and Lalla.
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  Speaker 2: Check us out at Shaunaanlala dot com on all social
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  Speaker 2: media platforms at Shauna and Lala. You could follow me
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  Speaker 2: on Instagram at the real Shauna May.
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  Speaker 1: And check me out at Thela Underscore Laala one two five.
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  Speaker 2: What a crazy few weeks. It has been two weeks ago.
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  Speaker 2: I had a crazy allergic reaction, uh to gatolinium. I
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  Speaker 2: think it's it's how you pronounce it. It is a MRI
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  Speaker 2: contrast and I basically turned red like a tomato all
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  Speaker 2: through my like all over my body. And I was
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  Speaker 2: a little bit itchy. And this happened last time, but
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  Speaker 2: they told me that it was not a reaction last time,
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  Speaker 2: it's just a side effect. Well this time they made
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  Speaker 2: me go to urgent care and it was it was
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  Speaker 2: a mess.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they were a little bit I understay. They were
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  Speaker 1: trying to like cover their ass, but it was a
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  Speaker 1: little crazy for you know, just give her ben and
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  Speaker 1: drill and keep an eye on her. But that's what
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  Speaker 1: confused me. If you're so concerned about her give her
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  Speaker 1: better drill, don't let her sit there for an hour,
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  Speaker 1: you know, Like that made no sense to me. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. They they're either too far one way,
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  Speaker 1: whether they're worried and freaking out, or they're too nonchalant
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  Speaker 1: about something. There's like never a middle ground with it,
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  Speaker 1: you know.
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  Speaker 2: No, not at all. So I did go to the
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  Speaker 2: doctors for a follow up, and my doctor basically told me,
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  Speaker 2: don't ever get the IVY contrast again unless it's like
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  Speaker 2: a dire situation, and and then I need to be
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  Speaker 2: given steroids through IVY.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, steroids, And that's what they used to do for
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  Speaker 1: me for certain things, steroids and venadryl they'd give me
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  Speaker 1: in the IVY.
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  Speaker 2: But they gave me the pregnozone before.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's because you didn't take that
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  Speaker 1: last one maybe, but I don't know. Like, like I
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  Speaker 1: said me and Shauna, like I'm not a doctor, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't agree with her doctor because whenever I get an
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  Speaker 1: MRI would contrast I have, I don't have the reaction
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  Speaker 1: where it's all over my body, but my face and
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  Speaker 1: my forearms get very red and I actually felt lightheaded,
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  Speaker 1: dizzy in a fog after mine. I think I was
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  Speaker 1: texting Seauana like I can't drive like this, so you know,
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  Speaker 1: and they said it was a re it's a side
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  Speaker 1: effect like some people's bodies handle it like that, and
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  Speaker 1: I think that, you know, that's what happens with Shauna's
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  Speaker 1: just it happens to her more like over her body.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, these doctors, you just don't know. You don't
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  Speaker 1: know what to think, what to believe. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Just at the trust your gut and if you, like
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  Speaker 1: she said, if she's die or definitely use the contrast.
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  Speaker 1: But if it's not, if it's not like that needed,
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  Speaker 1: then don't put yourself through it, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it takes too long anyway to do
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  Speaker 2: like an MRI with contrast and without I was in
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  Speaker 2: the machine, I would say almost an hour, so I
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  Speaker 2: would rather just not get it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like it's been NonStop since that point
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  Speaker 1: of either being sick, your mom just had surgery on
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  Speaker 1: her spine. It just I'm just happy that spring is
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  Speaker 1: almost here. I'm hoping we're all better and we're not
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  Speaker 1: in the hospital, like like your mom just got out
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  Speaker 1: what yesterday or two days ago?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she got out two days ago. She had surgery
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  Speaker 2: last week on her spine. When we were talking to
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  Speaker 2: the nurses, I asked them, like what exactly she had
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  Speaker 2: surgery on, and like what they did, And the surgery
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  Speaker 2: was actually more in depth than they expected. So it
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  Speaker 2: was it's gonna be a hard recovery for her. She's struggling,
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  Speaker 2: but she's doing so much better than she was in
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  Speaker 2: the hospital. Yeah, you know, it was. It was a
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  Speaker 2: little scary. The first day after surgery. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god, Like, what is wrong with you?
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  Speaker 1: The spine is pretty serious to have surgery on. That's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and the medication she doesn't tolerate medicine very well.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't even tolerate tail and all. It makes her sick. So,
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  Speaker 2: you know, they were trying to figure out different methods
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  Speaker 2: on how to take care of the pain for her.
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  Speaker 2: But she's home, she's doing well. She's she's not supposed
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  Speaker 2: to do anything, you know, not supposed to live, not
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  Speaker 2: supposed to do anything. And the other day, yesterday, I like,
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  Speaker 2: walk into my kitchen and she's got a hammer. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: what are you doing? Oh my god. She's like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna put this back up. You know, it fell
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, just leave it for dad. You know,
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  Speaker 2: like she's just not used to but you know, she's
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  Speaker 2: used to doing everything, so it's taking a little bit
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  Speaker 2: getting used to for her.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, she should see it as a little
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  Speaker 1: vacation from the million tasks that she does daily. You know,
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  Speaker 1: that's what I'd be doing. Yeah, I'm the same way
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  Speaker 1: as her. I can't sit still even when I have surgery.
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  Speaker 1: But with the spine, you really have to be careful
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  Speaker 1: because you don't want to end up paralyzed. You don't
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  Speaker 1: want to end up back in the hospital or have
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  Speaker 1: another surgery. So this is something that she needs to
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  Speaker 1: take serious.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, definitely. So I keep seeing the posts on
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  Speaker 2: social media about the electric bills. The news is actually
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  Speaker 2: finally covering it. So do you have an update?
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  Speaker 1: No, good update. I mean, we scheduled a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: appointments for our geothermonal come in the New York State audit.
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  Speaker 1: Everything is booked out so far. Because I'm wondering if
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people are dealing with this, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it seems like they are. And then Shauna was showing
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  Speaker 1: me on my electric bill how I can kind of
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  Speaker 1: see when I'm using a lot of electric, like what
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  Speaker 1: time of the day. And what's crazy is that we
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  Speaker 1: are using more electric at night. It's skyrockets at night,
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  Speaker 1: like when we're all sleeping. So what is going on? Like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, my husband said, maybe the heat kicks in,
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  Speaker 1: but the heat is blowing pretty much all day the
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  Speaker 1: geothermal we keep it low. We keep it at night
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  Speaker 1: in sixty two degrees. So I mean maybe, but I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Something's not right because during the day when
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  Speaker 1: we're there and we have TVs on and we have
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  Speaker 1: my laptop plugged in or music playing, lights on, you're
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  Speaker 1: telling me that during the day it's lower than the
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  Speaker 1: middle of the night when everyone's dead asleep, Like come on,
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  Speaker 1: So something's not right. I don't know if people are
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  Speaker 1: getting scammed. I don't know it. I don't know it.
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  Speaker 2: Really.
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  Speaker 1: I'm hoping we get answers soon. They're coming I think
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  Speaker 1: next week, and I'm just hoping we get answers soon
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  Speaker 1: because the next bills was like six hundred something. It's
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  Speaker 1: saying so not it's not fun, and I don't know
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  Speaker 1: how people are doing it. There's a girl I know
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  Speaker 1: who is a single mom. She has four kids, and
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  Speaker 1: she's not very well off and her electric bill came
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  Speaker 1: in at five hundred dollars that I don't and she
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  Speaker 1: doesn't know what she's gonna do. So I feel for
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  Speaker 1: people out there that don't have an option or don't
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  Speaker 1: have that extra money to cover that, and it's it's
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  Speaker 1: pretty disgusting.
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  Speaker 2: I think it is too, you know, it's it should
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  Speaker 2: be legal for them to have all these charges, like
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  Speaker 2: and it's the delivery fee ye on yours on most people's.
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  Speaker 2: I just I think it's it should be a crime.
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  Speaker 1: And I know, I know it's that drastic for to
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  Speaker 1: go this high. That's a drastic increase for people. You
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  Speaker 1: can't expect them to be able to afford that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: slowly going up. It sucks, but it's still okay, we
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  Speaker 1: can we can manage this, we can handle this. This
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  Speaker 1: was a drastic change. Like I said, my electric bill
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  Speaker 1: used to be in the two hundreds maybe three hundred.
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  Speaker 1: To go to from three hundred all the way to
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  Speaker 1: six hundred to one thousand dollars a month, that's insane,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and someone needs to be held accountable for it,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm hoping they audit the crap out of all
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  Speaker 1: these lecture companies again and get people's money back because
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  Speaker 1: something's not right.
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  Speaker 2: No, but they did this a few years ago, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: two years ago maybe, and they did find that they
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  Speaker 2: owed consumers money. Whether they paid that money or not,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. Yeah, but you would think like that
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  Speaker 2: would be a lesson for them to be like, all right,
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  Speaker 2: we got caught or you know, this company got caught.
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  Speaker 2: We're not gonna do that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, Yeah, I don't know you would think.
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  Speaker 1: But hey, I mean, I don't know, Like like keep
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  Speaker 1: saying spring is coming, it's around the corner, and that's
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  Speaker 1: all positive things in my head. No more heat and
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  Speaker 1: for a while, we won't even have to use the
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  Speaker 1: geo thermal because it'll be cool enough and warm enough
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  Speaker 1: to have the windows open and not have to have
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  Speaker 1: anything running, you know. So and then when summer comes,
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  Speaker 1: we're back up to electric bills with ac ah. God.
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  Speaker 1: But I also, guys, I wanted to tell you of
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  Speaker 1: a crazy situation that just happened to my family. And
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  Speaker 1: it's kind of like a warning too, to be careful
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  Speaker 1: on both sides of what you post online, what you write,
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  Speaker 1: and how you say it, because it's pretty scary. I
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  Speaker 1: you know me, I have a big mouth. I like
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  Speaker 1: to get political online. I like to speak my mind
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  Speaker 1: and sometimes, you know, if it has caused me some issues,
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  Speaker 1: nothing severe, mainly someone being rude to me. But it's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: This one wasn't even that bad. There was a video
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  Speaker 1: you sold the halftime show shown a yes, so the
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  Speaker 1: halftime show for the super Bowl. A lot of people
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  Speaker 1: were not happy with it, and I understand. I could
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  Speaker 1: understand why, because you know, for me a halftime show,
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to be energetic. I wanted to be like
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  Speaker 1: amazing and over the top, you know, makes me want
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  Speaker 1: to get out of my seat and dance, and this
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  Speaker 1: one it didn't do that for me. And I like
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  Speaker 1: rap music.
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  Speaker 2: I am.
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  Speaker 1: I am not like an old person like, oh I
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  Speaker 1: don't like rap, No, I like it.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't even know who he was, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Shoona didn't even know and many people didn't. I knew
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  Speaker 1: who he was. I don't really hears a few of
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  Speaker 1: his songs, but the bottom line of it was like
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  Speaker 1: I didn't feel it was very fitting or you know,
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  Speaker 1: for the show, and a lot of people felt that way,
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  Speaker 1: and we couldn't understand a word he was saying, I know,
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  Speaker 1: even in my living room, we were all like squinting
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  Speaker 1: and trying to listen and say, what what is this
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  Speaker 1: person saying? You know, what is Kendrick saying. So a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people posted online about that. And there's this
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  Speaker 1: one family who her boomer parents. They're old. They were
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  Speaker 1: sitting on the couch and they were trying to understand
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  Speaker 1: the music. You could see them that they were their
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  Speaker 1: eyes were squinting, they were kind of putting their heads
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  Speaker 1: tilted to like listen more carefully. And she said and
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  Speaker 1: she made a caption like, oh, my boomer parents trying
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  Speaker 1: to understand what he's saying, you know, And she wasn't
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  Speaker 1: being mean. She laughed and posted it. The video went
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  Speaker 1: viral and people ripped them apart, like absolutely ripped them apart,
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  Speaker 1: her and her parents, oh boy, calling them racists, calling
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  Speaker 1: them trumpsters, calling them, you know, every racist name in
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  Speaker 1: the book, saying, oh, your parents, but had nothing to
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  Speaker 1: do with race. She just said, my boomer parents trying
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  Speaker 1: to understand what he's saying, and like they couldn't understand it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm thirty nine, I couldn't understand a lot of the words.
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  Speaker 1: It was very mumbled, so I felt for older people
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  Speaker 1: who definitely can't hear even if I'm two feet away
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  Speaker 1: from them, you know. But anyways, so people made it
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  Speaker 1: a race thing, like, oh, it's because they're racist, they're this,
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  Speaker 1: they're that, they're Trump supporters, being so mean to her
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  Speaker 1: and her parents, and she was getting so upset. She
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  Speaker 1: kept writing, why are you guys doing this? Why are
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  Speaker 1: you saying it's like this is racial? It's not. It
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  Speaker 1: could be anyone up there mumbling or whatever. They can't
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  Speaker 1: understand it. And then she was writing to people calling
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  Speaker 1: her racist or Trumpsters or republic or conservative or whatever,
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  Speaker 1: and she said, we are the biggest liberals that you've
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  Speaker 1: ever met. We are We're Democrat, we're liberal.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't support Trump. I don't like Trump. And
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  Speaker 1: I had to make a comment. I just said nothing bad.
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  Speaker 1: All I said was listen, hey, I get it. I
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  Speaker 1: get why you feel this way. I feel for you,
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  Speaker 1: and it sucks that they're judging you based off this
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  Speaker 1: video and making it a race issue when it's not.
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  Speaker 1: And this is why the country is so divided, because
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  Speaker 1: everyone wants to point their finger and call the other
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  Speaker 1: person a horrible name or a negative name and that's,
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  Speaker 1: you know, basically what I wrote. And people started ripping
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  Speaker 1: me apart for that, and I'm like, oh whatever, So
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  Speaker 1: i just shut my Instagram down for the night and
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  Speaker 1: I'm not dealing with this. I didn't write back to anyone.
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  Speaker 1: And a few days go by, I'm in my message
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  Speaker 1: request folder on Instagram and I see that on February tenth,
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  Speaker 1: and I got a message request from somebody, so I
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  Speaker 1: open it and it's the nastiest message ever. This person
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  Speaker 1: was calling me horrible names. They called me a white
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  Speaker 1: B word, a racist, white B word, made fun of
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  Speaker 1: me for being Italian, was very you know, I can't
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  Speaker 1: even say it on the radio. Some of the things, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: degrading me, putting me down, calling me a racist, calling
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  Speaker 1: me a you know, all these names. And then they
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  Speaker 1: brought my children into it because for the show, guys,
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  Speaker 1: I'm my profile's public. I you know, I'm a podcaster,
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  Speaker 1: I'm an influencer. My profile is public, I you know,
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  Speaker 1: I understand. And I have some pictures of my kids
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  Speaker 1: on there, and this person went through my profile found
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  Speaker 1: the pictures of my kids, so he knew I had
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  Speaker 1: two kids or she and they threatened to shoot my kids.
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  Speaker 1: And kill them, and I just didn't know what to
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  Speaker 1: think in that moment. At first, I wasn't taking it
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  Speaker 1: too serious. I'm like, Oh, it's just a troll. It's
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  Speaker 1: just an Internet troll. Just ignore it. And then the
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  Speaker 1: more I sat there, I was like, this is really serious.
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  Speaker 1: This person didn't just call me a racist. Fine, you
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  Speaker 1: want to call me a racist, you want to call
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  Speaker 1: me a white bee biachi, you want to make fun
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  Speaker 1: of me for being Italian, Okay, but you just threatened
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  Speaker 1: to shoot my two children in the head. That right,
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  Speaker 1: that's that's not that's serious. That's serious.
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  Speaker 2: Serious. They took it way too far. But you don't
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  Speaker 2: you don't know who they are.
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  Speaker 1: No, they had no profile picture, they had everything private,
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  Speaker 1: so they must have a troll account, which is that's
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  Speaker 1: what people do. But that's just that's just taking it
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  Speaker 1: too far. That's disgusting and that's disturbing. You were Italian
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  Speaker 1: in my profile, like my little bio and Instagram, I
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  Speaker 1: just have the Italian flag in the American flag. I'm
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  Speaker 1: an Italian American, you know, so I have the American
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  Speaker 1: flag and then the Italian flag. And obviously they have
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  Speaker 1: pictures of my kids in my profile. So yeah, he
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  Speaker 1: went through my profile and looked, and then that started
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  Speaker 1: getting me nervous, Like what else could he find on
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  Speaker 1: my profile? Do I have my husband's a police officer?
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  Speaker 1: Did I put a picture up of him with our
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  Speaker 1: last name on on his on his you know, in
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  Speaker 1: their their outfit, their uniforms. I was thinking like that,
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  Speaker 1: but I did blur it out in the past, and
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  Speaker 1: thankfully I had that blurred. But you know, there's just
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  Speaker 1: so much that we don't realize that we have online
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  Speaker 1: that if someone wanted to hurt us, or some bad
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: person wanted to do anything to us, they could find
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  Speaker 1: us easily, easily.
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  Speaker 2: It is so easy to find people. Yeah, these days online.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I don't understand how all these kids are
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  Speaker 2: going missing and you can't find them.
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  Speaker 1: I don't I don't know they there's I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I mean. The ending to the story is that I
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  Speaker 1: contacted the FBI. I actually went to chat GBT. I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't get in touch with my husband, I couldn't get
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  Speaker 1: in touch with my brother in law who's a cop.
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  Speaker 1: So I went on chat GBT and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: what do I do in this situation? And I sent
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  Speaker 1: Chat GBT what this person wrote me, and even chat
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  Speaker 1: GBT was like, holy cow, you know that is serious.
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  Speaker 1: That is a threat, and you need to contact the FBI.
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  Speaker 1: And they gave me a link and I submitted everything
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  Speaker 1: to the FBI, and then then my brother in law
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  Speaker 1: and my husband called me back, and then I had
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  Speaker 1: to make a police report with the local police department.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, the police have been patrolling my house every
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  Speaker 1: single day during every shift, and the FBI called me.
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  Speaker 1: The FBI, they were really great. Like I thought, maybe
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  Speaker 1: I was overreacting that. I always get that feeling. Is
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  Speaker 1: this something that warrants me to bring law enforcement in?
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  Speaker 1: But apparently it is. They said that if anyone ever
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  Speaker 1: threatens with use of a weapon to harm or kill somebody,
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  Speaker 1: that's a serious threat and they want to know about it,
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  Speaker 1: and they will go after the person and they could
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  Speaker 1: be arrested, sentenced. It's like a big deal. The FBI
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  Speaker 1: is going to subpoena Instagram if they haven't already, to
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  Speaker 1: track this person's IP address and then go to this
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: person's house and you know, do their investigation and hopefully
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: arrest this person. So I've you know, they're keeping me
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: in the loop right now. They're just waiting for Instagram
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: to come come back to them, get back to them,
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: and it's scary. Guys, like, we have to take it serious.
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: I wasn't at first because I'm like, that's just a troll.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: It's just someone trolling me. But that's a big deal.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: You cannot threaten to kill or harm anybody, especially with
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: a weapon. And it's not funny if you're you know,
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: the young kids seem to do that a lot. It's
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: not funny. It's a serious crime. It's a serious offense,
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: and it's not a good thing. You're not making a point,
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: and it's not funny. And on the opposite side of
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: that is I you know, like I said, the FBI
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: and the police were so great with help me with
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: that situation. I know it was severe. But then we
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: deal with the school districts and I don't know what's
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: going on in the school districts lately, but they're so
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: lax on contacting parents for serious matters.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: You see our local mom friend erin what she's going
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: through with her son a local school district here, the
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: boy was sexually abused, Oh yes, yes, sexually abused by
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: another student. He went to the teacher told the teacher
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: that this kid sexually assaulted him or abused him whatever
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: during class. They sent him to the principal of the
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: nurse and then they sent him home on the b
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: sent him home on the bus hours later. No phone
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: call to the mother, no contact with the mother, didn't
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: let him call his mother. This poor kid got sexually
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: assaulted and then had to sit through the rest of
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: the day without his mother or father, and then go
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: home on the bus like everything was normal, with no
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: phone call home to the parents.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: And how did she find out? He told me.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: He came home and told her. He told her, yeah,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: and he was He was crying, he was upset. And
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: then when she called the school, they said, oh, well,
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: you know, we were trying to investigate it. No, no, no, no,
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: So she she has gone.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: She went to the news.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: She went to the news for it. She is livid,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: as I would be too. My child had to suffer
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: without his mom or dad after being sexually assaulted. You
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: sent him, made him sit through classes and go home
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: on the on the frickin' bus. Uh uh, Nope, But
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: this is what the schools are doing now and I
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: don't understand it. So my son didn't go through as
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: serious the situation as that, but he was in class
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: and this girl, Now these kids are between the age
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: of ten to twelve. This girl who's between the age
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: ten and twelve, came up to him and his friend
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: and said, do you want to see photos in my
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: hidden photo album? Now, if you have an iPhone, we
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: have a hidden photo album where if you want to
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: put something that you don't want anyone to see or
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: it's usually it's used for naked photos or porn, you know,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: bad stuff, you put them in this hidden folder and
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: only you can open it with your face, not even
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: a pass code, it has to be your face. So
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: this little girl goes up to these boys in her
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: class and says, do you want to see pictures in
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: my hidden folder? They don't know what that means, but
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: they still said no, you know, I don't know, not really,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: and they went back to drawing, and she's like, well,
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: you're gonna see it anyway, and she opened up the
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: folder and she showed them a video of her basically
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: masturbating in a way if you would have to say
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: it is humping. She was humping her pillow on her
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: bed and getting off to that and they went and
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: told the teacher, and then they went to the principal,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: and the principal sat them down, took their statement, and
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: my son said that the principle seemed very concerned. But
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: then when they interviewed her, she denied it.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I was gonna say she probably had a different story.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: She denied it. And then they brought the boys back
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: in and they asked them was she fully clothed or
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: was she naked? And they said she was clothed. So
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: because she was fully clothed humping a pillow and getting
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: off on a pillow masturbating, basically, because she was fully clothed,
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: it doesn't warrant a phone call home, and it's not
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: anything that she can get in trouble for.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: It's a sexual act.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: Right right, So I didn't get I didn't get a
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: phone call home. Now if my son didn't tell me,
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: and he actually he didn't tell me the boy the
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: other boy's mother who I'm friendly with, she is the
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: one who texts me first to alert me that it
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: was going on. My son was a little too embarrassed
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: to tell me what he saw because he didn't really
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: fully understand it. So when I brought up to him,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: he told me. But let's say that.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: Do you think if the other girl, if the mother
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: didn't tell you, what if he came home and been like, hey, ma,
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: guess well.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: No, I don't think he would have. He's very shy
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: like that. I don't think he would have told me.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: I don't think so. So I would have never knew
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: what my son saw, and.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: So who knows what he did see or has seen
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: in the past.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: I know so this girl. Then I messaged the girl
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: after it was watched on a five days that I
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: didn't get a phone call from the principal or but
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: with the weekend, I mean it was the weekend in between.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: But I messaged the girl or talked to girl. I said,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: what's going on? She said that she called to bitch
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: or they called her about something else, and she said,
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: why haven't anyone called me about what my son saw
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: on that girl's phone? And they said, because she was
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: fully clothed, it's not it's not like it's not an
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: issue and no one's getting in trouble and we closed
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: the investigation. So that was their response.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would have been at that school.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they don't care. It's just called I could still
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: call I just like people said, like she said, you
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: don't get anywhere with them, like they don't I don't
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: know what's going on, Like why don't they care anymore?
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Why is it that do they not want bad news?
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: Did they want not want you know, like that negative
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: stuff going out? But we're gonna find out one way
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: or the other, and it's gonna look worse on them,
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: Well that's what I'm thinking is you know, you might
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: as well tell these parents and take care of the
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: situation in house, rather than these parents going to the
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: news stations.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm, or going into the mom's groups and just
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: spreading it everywhere. And just like our friend erin, she's
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: on the news, she's on every group and she just
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: blasting them, which they deserve to be blasted. But they
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: could have avoided that with the simple call home to
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: the mom. Yeah, so I'm thinking they were trying to
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: cover their butts too before calling her, like calling their
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: lawyers what we have to do. But I feel like
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: they should know this stuff already. This is a serious thing.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: If your child is sexually assaulted or abused, like the
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: parents need to be called right then and there, and
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: that child needs to be sent home, speak with the therapists,
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: make sure they're okay, you know, like not sent back
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: to class and sent home on the bus. Nope.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I wonder, know where are these teachers when
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: this stuff is going on?
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: They don't they don't see it. And I'm not blaming
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: them because in Geo's school, another situation that happened was
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: these two kids were not assaulting each other, but they
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: were touching each other and on, you know, in a
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: sexual way under the desks, because the desks are next
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: to each other, and the teacher, you know, we used
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: to pass notes. Teacher can't see everything.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: So let me tell about the time I passed the notes.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: Mister well caught me. Oh jesus, he picked my desk
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: up and slammed it down.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: Could you imagine if a teacher did that today. They're
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: not allowed to do that anymore.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: No.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you probably like, oh I did.
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: He made me read it in front of the class.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: Then I will never I didn't even finish writing it.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: I wrote what are you doing? And I meant to
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: write like this weekend, and he's like, what is she doing?
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: She's paying attention to me, what are you doing?
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: I will never forget it, and that's what kids need nowadays,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: I think, because like you said, you'll never forget that,
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: but probably I don't. Did you ever pass notes after that?
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: No?
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, there you go. I think we need to bring
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: back that with teachers.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: But but how I mean, I get you know, you
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: have thirty kids, maybe even more to look after, and
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: you know your back is probably to the talkboard or something,
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: if they even have chalkboards anymore. But I don't know.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: I just think classes, where's the cameras? They should have
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: cameras in every classroom, in the hallways.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: They have a lot in the hallways. I don't know
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: about classrooms. But even still in the classroom, unless someone
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: was watching the camera as like all day long, like
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: in the class they wouldn't catch it. It'd be something they'd
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: catch afterwards, like oh, let's rewind it back, you know
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So, and that's even that's fine, yeah.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: You know, because incidents can happen anytime of the day,
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: you know, and teachers should be held responsible if they're
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: acting out or you know, these kids the parents should
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: see be able to see footage and say, look, no,
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: your kid was acting like an idiot. MM.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: Hmm, yeah, no, I agree with that, like parents needed
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: to see what their kids are doing instead of always
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: protecting their children. And it protects teachers too from being
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: accused of something. It's and because nowadays with all these
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: kids with cell phones according their teachers and recording things
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: that go on in the classroom, teachers need to cover
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: their butts too to show, hey, well that happened because
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: this happened, and I only said that or yelled because
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: this happened. And so I think it's a good idea.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: It definitely it's a cover your butt kind of thing
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: to have as a teacher, oh yeah, and as a parent,
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: it's good for us. But it also comes down to
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: parents too, like parents need to parent their children. That
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: little girl, why is that little girl? How does that
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: little girl know to save dirty photos in her hidden
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: phone album?
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: I don't even know my phone have a right album.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: How old are we in our our late thirties. I know,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: I know we're older in tech, but we had iPhones
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: since we were what twenty in our twenties, Like we
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: understand iPhones. So how does a ten, eleven or twelve
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: year old girl know to take dirty videos of herself? Provocative? Stuff,
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: sexual sexually explicit stuff and put it in her hidden
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: photo album and then show boys something's going on at home.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: And I am just livid about it because as parents,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: we need to do better, and we need to be
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: in our children's phones constantly, in their tablets, checking every night.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Every night, my son, when he goes to bed, I
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: take his tablet and I look through the messages. If
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: I can't get to it that night, the next morning,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: I'm looking through his messages and he knows not to
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: delete anything. I have parental controls on there. He could
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: not delete things, and I tell him, if I ever
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: catch you deleting something, then this tablet is gone, it's gone.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: So but we need to be in there. We need
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: to be checking. I was in his tablet and I
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: saw in one conversation, kid was talking about suicide and
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: then the you know, the conversation was, oh, don't kill yourself,
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah. And then another conversation they were
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: this one kid was being bullied and the other kids
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: were bullying him so bad. His dad just died and
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: they were picking on him. And then I saw another
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: conversation where, you know, my son and this other person
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: were kind of bullying this girl. And as parents, if
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: we were able to get into these tablets and phones
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: and look at this stuff, we would be aware of
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: a what's going on in our kid's life? Are they
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: being a bully? Are they being bullied? Are they suicidal?
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: Are they are are they being mean to somebody? Or
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: and we be aware of what's going on and we
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: could stop it right there. That little girl, I'm sure
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: she has provocative conversations in her phone and probably as
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: pictures elsewhere that are aren't right, So her parents should
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: be checking her stuff. So I blame the parents. I
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: blame the parents for a lot of this. So if
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: you're hearing this message, this is your reminder, set it
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: on your phone every night or every day at a
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: certain time. Take their tablets, take their phone, look through it.
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: Look at what they're searching on Google, look at their
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: photo albums, look at their text messages, look at their
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: Facebook messages. If you're paying for that phone, then you
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: have every freaking right to go through until they're eighteen.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: That's just my opinion. You're paying for it and they're
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: under eighteen, especially, you have every right to go through.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: You might be protecting your own child's life, or you
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: might be saving another child's life by going through their
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: phones and tablets. It's super important. Set that reminder and
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: do it please. We have to protect our kids.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: Now. With the kid that wanted to commit suicide, did
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: you report it?
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah? I didn't report it to the school, but I
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: reached out. Luckily, I knew who this kid's aunt was,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: so I had reached out to the kid's aunt and said, hey, listen,
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: I don't want my son to be involved in this.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: I didn't want anyone to come at my son like
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: you're a snancher, you or this or that. But I'm
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: letting you know what I read. And I sent her
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: like a little screenshot said he's talking about suicide. He
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: didn't say he's going to do it, but he's talking
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: about it. And he's also being bullied by these other kids.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: And I saw it in there in another message that
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: the kids were drinking. These kids are ten to eleven
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: years old. They were getting drunk at someone's house. That's
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: what the message said. So I sent that to the
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: parent too, like, hey, do you know when they go
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: to this person's house, they're drinking and they're getting drunk
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: at eleven years old. Something's not right here and the
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: real Yeah, we need to be in our kids. Shit,
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: we need to you're not invading their privacy. We have
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: to protect them. In this day and age. It's not
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: like the old days. It's different. We have to protect
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: our children and protect other children. And the first step
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: there is right in these little phones and tablets. It's
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: easy one, two, three, And.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: That's GEO say about all this, Geo, you.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: Know, I asked him about it after I read it,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: and he said, yeah, the kids are mean, He's like,
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: and I saw it in the message. Someone had screenshot
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: the suicidal thing and sent it to GEO, so he
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: wasn't in that conversation, but they sent him a screenshot
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: of the conversation and GEO said, you need to tell
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: his mom. So my son right away knew what to do,
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: and I was very proud because we have never talked
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: about that. We have never said, hey, if someone's suicidal,
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: you need to you know, like yeah, But on his own,
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: he said to the to the person who sent it
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: to him, you need to tell his mom, and she said,
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: I'm too scared to tell his mom. And he's like, well,
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: you really need to. If he does something and the girl,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: I don't think he's gonna do anything. So I said
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: to you, I said, I'm very proud of you for that,
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: and you did the right thing. But if she kept
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: saying no, then you know you should have came to
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: mommy and then Mommy would have handled it. So that's
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: what I told him. And yeah, as kids are gonna say,
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: stop going through my stuff. He says it all the time,
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: and I just come back to him who pays for it. It's
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: not yours. This is a privilege and Mommy will go
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: through everything. So do not delete anything. If I find
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: out you delete it, it's gone. And I'm going to
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: check it every day and night. Be on your best behavior,
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: treat people right, and don't say or do anything that
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: could get you in trouble.
• 31:43
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• 31:46
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• 31:49
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