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Understanding Adolescent Drug Use Through A Psychological Lens · Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour

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  SPEAKER_00: Kim Lee, and this is another podcast in the series Hello, this is Kim Lee, child and adolescent psychotherapist, and this is another podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: This time we're going to take a look at something which I think it's fair to say most parents will find to be a recurring and worrying consideration.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is to do with adolescence and drug taking and how the behaviors can be understood as self-medicating, but also gateway pathways and when to worry.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I think the effects upon parents are understandably that they feel fear, panic, anger, shame, and the fear that something has gone badly wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we look closely, adolescent drug use is really about recklessness or thrill seeking alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: More often it's about relief.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's about relief from feelings that feel too big, too painful, too confusing, or too overwhelming to manage alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to talk about adolescence and drug taking through a psychological lens, looking at the self-medicating behavior, gateway drugs, mixing substances, and how dependency develops and when intervention becomes necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now self-medicating is essentially no different of taking paracetamol if you have a headache, and is perfectly reasonable.
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  SPEAKER_00: But most people who have what we might call unsoothable pain can develop addictions, and that didn't begin by wanting to lose control.
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  SPEAKER_00: It began by wanting to feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is as true for adolescents as it is for adults.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, in a way, self-medication refers to the use of substances to dull emotional pain, reduce anxiety or shame or intrusive thoughts, numb sadness or anger, feel confident or connected, or escape into an internal world that feels somehow more soothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for adolescents whose emotional regulation systems are still developing, substances can feel like a shortcut to stability.
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  SPEAKER_00: The book The Adolescent Psyche reminds us that adolescence is a period of fragile internal containment.
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  SPEAKER_00: When internal resources are overwhelmed, young people naturally seek something external to help them cope.
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  SPEAKER_00: And substances can temporarily do that job.
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  SPEAKER_00: But of course, this is a high risk period for self-medication because adolescents experience intensified emotion, heightened sensitivity to rejection, rapid neurological change, identity confusion, and a pressure to belong, and a fear of failure or inadequacy.
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  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, the brain systems responsible for impulse control and foresight are still developing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this means that substances do not just feel good, they feel necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: When a drug reliably reduces distress, the adolescent brain learns this is how I cope.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can make myself feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is the beginning of self-medicating behaviour.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gateway drugs often thought of as being something which are like doorways into greater use.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it is true that some adolescents will develop a greater relationship with drug use because drugs are accessible, they're socially acceptable within those peer groups.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're often perceived as low risk.
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  SPEAKER_00: And common gateway substances include alcohol, nicotine, cannabis, and sometimes misuse prescribed medications.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what they have in common is not so much their chemistry, but their function.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol will create numbing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're drinking with a group of peers, a sense of belonging and connectedness and emotional relief.
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  SPEAKER_00: And alcohol is often an adolescent's first experience of emotional relief through a substance because it can reduce anxiety, dampen self-confidence, increase the ability to interact with others, it can numb emotional pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for an adolescent who feels socially anxious, rejected, or unsure of themselves, alcohol can feel transformative.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this teaches the nervous system the notion that I am easier to be when I'm not fully myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol therefore becomes both a gateway drug and a self-medicating tool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nicotine and vaping is something which everybody is very rightly concerned about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nicotine is a powerful regulator of the nervous system because it can briefly calm anxiety, it can improve concentration and reduce agitation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for adolescents who feel constantly on edge, nicotine can feel like control.
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  SPEAKER_00: And dependency often develops quietly, not because the adolescent wants to be intoxicated, but because they want to feel steady.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which takes us on to cannabis, which is used largely for emotional avoidance and numbing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cannabis is often used to switch off thoughts, soften feelings, reduce distress, escape emotional overwhelming.
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  SPEAKER_00: For some, it can be used to help them sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cannabis can become a way of not feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over time, this can interfere with development of internal emotional regulation, reinforcing reliance on external substances to manage distress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a smaller group perhaps, but one that is nonetheless as important is prescribed medication, where there is often a sort of misleading sense of safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: So prescribed medications are sometimes used by adolescents to self-medicate with anxiety, sleep problems, pain, or emotional distress.
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  SPEAKER_00: And because these substances come from a medical context, they can feel safer even when misused or mixed with alcohol.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this can blur boundaries and increase risk, particularly when the adolescent is seeking relief rather than intoxication.
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  SPEAKER_00: The other thing that we have to be concerned about is when substances are mixed.
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  SPEAKER_00: When one substance is no longer enough, adolescents may begin to mix substances.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is rarely about excess, it's usually about trying to gain stronger and faster and longer relief.
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  SPEAKER_00: But mixing substances significantly increases risk.
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  SPEAKER_00: But psychologically it reflects a sense of escalating distress, not moral failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: And dependency develops when a substance becomes the primary coping strategy and the regulator of emotions or the solution to distress.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over time, tolerance develops, the brain adapts, emotional regulation weakens without the substance, and stopping feels unbearable.
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  SPEAKER_00: At this point, the adolescent is no longer choosing the substance, they are relying on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, here's a question: which adolescents are most vulnerable?
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  SPEAKER_00: Those with anxiety or depression, ADHD or emotional dysregulation, trauma or loss, those who've experienced attachment disruptions and identity confusion, those who experience chronic shame or self-criticisms.
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  SPEAKER_00: Substances become a way of managing pain that feels otherwise unspeakable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, when should parents intervene?
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to intervene when you see that there is regular or escalating use, that there is mixing substances, that the person is using alone, using to cope with emotions, withdrawal, when you see secrecy or defensiveness, or a decline in functioning or mood, or the inability to reduce or stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the most important question remains: what behavior or what pain is this behavior trying to soothe?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, what helps adolescents move away from substances is shame deepens self-medication.
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  SPEAKER_00: So therefore, understanding reduces it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Adolescents need emotional safety, they need curiosity rather than interrogation.
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  SPEAKER_00: They need boundaries that protect rather than punish, and support to build internal coping skills.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, therapy helps adolescents develop emotional regulation, emotional awareness, and making some kind of usable meaning of what's happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: But a sense that their pain can be tolerated by someone else, which in turn makes it possible for them to learn to hold the pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Substance use in adolescents is really without wanting to peer.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's usually about wanting the pain to stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we view adolescent drug use through the lens of self-medication, our responses shift from fear to understanding and from punishment to containment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's within that containment that young people can begin to find safer, more sustainable ways to cope.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think there are some other important elements to consider here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're listening to this and it's raised concerns about your own adolescence or helped you recognize patterns of self-medicating behavior, you don't have to hold those worries alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of my therapeutic work with adolescents and parents focuses on understanding what sits beneath the substance use, the emotional distress and the risk taking, and on helping young people develop safer ways of regulating their internal world.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alongside individual, I offer structured parenting courses and webinars that supports parents to make sense of adolescent development and emotional regulation and behaviour.
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  SPEAKER_00: Further information about this and my upcoming courses can be found on my website.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're very welcome to explore these.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I also want to just say that there are a range of services that can be accessed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I will refer patients to these services depending upon the extent of the use, depending upon frequency and the way in which the young person and the family is being affected.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's quite unusual for parents to be able to resolve this themselves, and there is no shame in asking for help.
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  SPEAKER_00: Very often GP will sign post, and I'm of the view that an organization called Turning Point is particularly good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where young people are concerned, they do have facilities, but I'm not entirely clear about how those are provided.
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  SPEAKER_00: But Turning Point is extremely good.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there are other organizations such as Aquarius, certainly that's in Oxfordshire.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I think the most important thing, the f the first step, is to recognise okay, there's a problem.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: Not so much how it came about, but more a question of what do we need to do to enable our child to step away from what they're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope this has been helpful and there will be more to follow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening.