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Actions Speak Louder (3/7): Carry Yourself Like the Victory Is Already Yours. #WinItAllWednesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:05
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know about you, but I'm sure glad it's Wednesday.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: And not just any Wednesday, my friends, it's Win It All Wednesday here on the Sweet Spot, where we've been doing a tremendous series on the power of body language.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: And today on Win It All Wednesday, we're gonna say this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Winning starts with how you carry yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's our theme for day three here on the sweet spot.
• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, I'm a board certified psychiatrist and I work with high performance, but more than that, I love, I just absolutely love helping folks just achieve the life that they are looking for for themselves.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: They want to be at their best.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: When people want to be at their best, we should try to help them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know you do that on a daily basis, I do it as well, and that's why we're together here on the sweet spot.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: So look, beautiful souls, we are looking at body language.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: On Monday, we looked at how owning the room happens before you speak.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about your posture, your presence, and your eye contact.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Go back and review Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yesterday we flipped the script.
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  SPEAKER_00: We said, let your body lead your mind with power, and not just with power, but using power poses and purposeful hand gestures.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember the whole idea of the open palm and pointing the finger for clarity?
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  SPEAKER_00: Great.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do we talk about these things?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because our bodies are broadcast systems.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're aware of it or not, you're always transmitting something through your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the question is, my friends, what story are you telling with your body?
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we zoom in because sometimes it's not the big moves, it's the small leaks.
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  SPEAKER_00: And trained investigators and trained interviewers, they look for these small leaks.
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  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: People who aren't even trained look for these small leaks.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we have to be aware of when our body is saying something that our words are not confirming.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why it's important to pay attention and have awareness about our body language.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's start with the mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: A clenched jaw, tight lips.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are signs of stress in most individuals, and they can be quite contagious.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they can often happen with us not even being aware that we've tightened our jaw.
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  SPEAKER_00: Try this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Soften your jaw today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Try this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Become aware of your tongue and where it's positioned in your mouth and rest your tongue for a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give a slight smile, not a forced one, a slight smile.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is called a Duchenne smile, the kind that reaches your eyes and sort of releases this uh oxytocin, which is the trust hormone in the body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you smile and your eyes are kind of squinting just a little, you know that kind of smile.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can feel the goodness of that smile.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the kind of smile you want to give yourself here.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then let's look at your walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you walking?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you darting from place to place?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you shuffling along?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or do you move with rhythm and calm?
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  SPEAKER_00: Rhythmic walking.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you using that kind of swagger, that rhythmic walk that activates the brain's motor timing systems?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like a metronome for your confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: That your the way you walk sends a message back to your brain that tells you your confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, we talked about this.
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  SPEAKER_00: That your body can literally tell your brain how to feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: You smile in the mirror, you tell yourself I love you in the morning when you look in the mirror, you unclench your jaw, don't let your lips be so tight, don't let your shoulders be so tight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breathe.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your smooth gait, your smooth walk, your controlled steps.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how winners walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even before the scoreboard says anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the ancient wisdom backs me up on this.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: You know I love ancient wisdom.
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_00: I'm giving you a break on neuroscience, but we're never gonna stop with the ancient wisdom because there's a lot in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything I'm talking about is found in this one verb here, verse in Proverbs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let your eyes look straight ahead.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fix your gaze directly before you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give careful thought to the paths for your feet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Proverbs 425.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll say it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let your eyes look straight ahead.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fix your gaze directly before you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give careful thought to the paths for your feet.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not just spiritual, that's body language, that's somatic.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your focus shows up in your stride, in your walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your walk can either reflect your purpose or reveal your panic.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a way to walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: So powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the idea here on Winded Oil Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: That you want to notice your micro movements, soften your mouth, smooth your walk, square your shoulders, take a breath, relax, let your rhythm match your confidence because winners don't just show up, they show up like it's already done.
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  SPEAKER_00: You ever watch Michael Jordan, you ever watch uh Kobe Bryant or Steph Curry or any one of these superstars.
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  SPEAKER_00: Any one of them, when you see them walk and you see them carry themselves, they're acting like it's already done.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's your challenge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Figure out how you're going to let go, relax, and be the winner.
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  SPEAKER_00: You already are by letting your body language communicate that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright now, this is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening to Win It All Wednesday here on the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow, it's Trust Yourself Thursday, and we're flipping the lens inward tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Learning how to read your own body cues and reset from the inside out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you then, right here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, know that you're already a winner.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are already a winner, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let your body act like it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm out of the way.