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The Real Reason Women Fake It with Jenny Braxton · Libido Lounge

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Like, once that word pussy came to me, it it it was like it took this work that I was already
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doing that felt like this very, like, beautiful, like, divine feminine work, like,
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reclaiming all this stuff.
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And then the word pussy, like, ground all that power and reclamation, like, into my body.
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Jenny Braxton is a somatic sexuality and relationship intimacy coach, founder of the
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School of Pussy Centered Living, and the host of the Pussy Centered Living podcast.
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Known on the internet streets as the pussy queen, Jenny helps women reclaim their
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pleasure, power, and deep feminine wisdom by reconnecting their bodies and erotic nature.
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Her journey began after motherhood when painful sex and low desire led her to rediscover push
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pussy not just as anatomy but as a source of healing, power and truth.
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Now, through a trauma informed and tantra based methodology, Jenny guides women and couples to
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awaken their pleasure, reclaim their sexuality, and create the intimate passionate
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relationships they crave.
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Like the word pussy is just like, it's powerful and it's seductive and it's just like that this
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is the word.
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Living pussy centered is like living in tune with the deepest part of yourself and also with
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pleasure as like our North Star.
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Pleasure is the embodiment of pussy.
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It's actually one of the most like nourishing, sustainable, like, powerful ways to just be who
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we are and to do what we do in the world.
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A 2023 Harvard study found that out of everything it looked for as far as the root
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Hey, everybody.
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Welcome to another episode on the Libido Lounge.
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I'm your host, board certified sexologist, doctor Diane, and we have an amazing guest
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today.
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We're gonna dispel some myths, we're gonna really break down something that a lot of
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people are kinda scared of, which is the word pussy.
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So we're gonna break this down today and we're gonna talk about why this word is not what we
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say it is, meaning why this doesn't mean, hey, you're weak, or all these other different,
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like, ways that that this word is framed.
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And we're really going to start to hopefully change your your mind and your so the way you
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look at this word to actually realize that there's a there's a huge problem in many ways
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with the word way we're using our terms of feminine anatomy.
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Vagina, for example, doesn't really cover everything that the female has.
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Right?
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It's just one part of her genitalia.
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And so when we use a word like pussy, it encompasses so much more and we're really
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looking to reclaim this word, we're really looking to allow ourselves to sink deeper into
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the beauty of this word, and we're really looking to form as women new relationships with
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this part of our body that oftentimes we have so much disconnect in.
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So all of that and more with our guest, Jenny, today.
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And remember, we're doing this in two parts like always.
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But for now, welcome to the lounge, Jenny.
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It's so great to have you.
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Aw.
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Thank you so much for having me.
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I am full of pleasure to be here.
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Ditto.
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Same here.
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And let's jump right in.
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You know, I think, you know, some people that have listened to this may know Mama Gina's work
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and her book on pussy at reclamation, but I think for a lot of people, this whole concept
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of like, oh my goodness, what are we saying?
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What are we saying online?
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What are we saying on this podcast?
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Turn it down.
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It's like, it can be a big deal to hear the word pussy out loud.
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So tell us about your, you know, your relationship with how did you begin this work?
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How did you actually start to reframe this word?
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And and why do you think this is so important for both women as for as well as for couples?
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Yeah.
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Absolutely.
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Well, I think the best way to answer the question particularly of, like, why do I use
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this word?
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Why do I think it's so important?
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Is to tell a little bit, yeah, of my own journey, which is that I, I got called into
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bringing into this work.
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I wasn't a sex and relationship intimacy coach when I began.
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I actually started as a empowered birth coach, supporting women and having empowered birth.
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Not like a doula, but like doing the, you know, psychological, emotional healing to prepare for
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it.
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And that kind of, like, started me off into the world of pleasure because I started to bring
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pleasure into my work as a way of supporting women and birth.
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And so, yeah, I mean, we could we could use the whole segment just to talk about the story of,
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like, how I got here, so I'm giving you the real short version.
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But it was actually a program that I was in to be an ecstatic birth practitioner, so really
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helping women have birth where pleasure is at the forefront.
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And it was in that program where I was actually introduced to Mama Gina, and to her book,
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Pussy, A Reclamation.
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And so before that point, I mean, obviously, I was already in my own journey.
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I had been doing my own kind of like sexual healing work, and I was really reclaiming
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pleasure or something for myself through the way I was learning to bring that into birth.
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And I had done a lot of healing around kind of my my pelvic bowl, and my feminine nature and
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being and like all of this stuff.
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But then when I heard Mama Gina speak and I read her book, I was just like I was like, it's
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pussy.
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Like, like pussy.
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And so when people ask me like, why do you use that word?
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The the most truest answer I can give you is, like, that's what she wants to be called.
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Like, once that word pussy came to me, it it it was like it took this work that I was already
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doing that felt like this very, like, beautiful, like, divine feminine work, like,
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claiming all this stuff, and then the word pussy, like, ground all that power and
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reclamation, like, into my body.
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So that it wasn't only just the, like, beautiful side of the feminine, it also
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encompasses the fullness of the feminine.
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Right?
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Like, the grit and the raw and like the full spectrum, and it just I I felt differently in
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my body.
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I just honestly, it just turned me on, and so it was it was like, once pussy came in, there
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was no going back.
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And so it took me down the road of, you know, shifting my practice from focusing on birth to
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focusing on sexuality in general, and really in reclaiming this word because as you said, not
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only do we not have great references for our anatomy, like, yeah, vagina is incomplete, you
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know, people aren't generally saying vulva, and to be honest, those words, I can honor them and
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respect them, but they don't actually turn me on.
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Like, the word pussy is just like, it's powerful and it's seductive, and it's just like
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that this is the word.
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Yeah.
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I love it.
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And we're gonna link everybody.
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We're gonna link Mama Gina's book in the show notes for you so you guys can check that out if
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you haven't.
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One of my favorite, like, parts of that book, I've read it a few times because it's just it's
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just genius, I think.
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One of my favorite parts is when she talks about GPS and like the GPS, she it's an acronym
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she renames for Great Pussy in the Sky.
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Right?
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And it's like, it's really like exactly what you're saying.
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It's so much more than just this this part of our body.
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It's like the orientation to our intuition, to our knowing, to this is right way, this is
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wrong way, like our our guide, our compass, all of these things.
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Yeah.
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So I'm curious because I think to me, some of the negative connotation with this word is in
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some ways, like, linked to I think societal and cultural negative connotations just to, like,
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female sexuality.
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Yeah.
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Right?
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So how do you, in your work, does it, like, come up sometimes where you use this word and
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is, like and you have people react in some sort of way?
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Does that tell you something about, hey, how you can guide them to heal, to open up and
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expand more to pleasure?
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Like, where do you actually use or do you use this word for informing you in your work?
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Yeah.
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I I love that question.
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That's a great question.
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So really the thing that's coming up for me is, like, I'm not here to convince anyone of the
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word pussy.
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Like, I have met plenty of people who are like, oh, oh, no.
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Oh, no.
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And in fact, when I really started using the word pussy and, you know, started shifting my
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business at the time, I had this, like, a pretty big Facebook group.
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It was called Sacred Birth Conscious Mama, like,
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so beautiful.
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And I changed the name of the group to Pussy Centered Living, and people freaked out.
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Uh-huh.
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Not everybody, but good there was a good number of people who freaked out.
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And so, you know, if if someone is just like, no, no, with that word, I'm not here to
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convince them.
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But if they're like, oh, even though I'm feeling some trigger here, even though this is
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bringing something up inside of me, like, I wanna know more, like, something's drawing me
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in, you know, that's where I come in.
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And wherever we have places where we feel triggered or we feel shame or we're just like,
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oh, that word pussy, like, oh, Right?
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That is always a sign that there is a portal into our power there available for us.
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And so that's really how I approach, you know, anything that this word or our sexuality might
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bring up inside of us.
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It's like, okay.
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If you're feeling this and you want to move through this, like, this is a portal into so
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much healing, so much expansion, so much power and pleasure.
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And I'm not gonna force anybody to use that word.
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In fact, I mean, I have students who are in my world, who've been in my world for a while.
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They love this work.
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They love the reclamation of it, but pussy actually isn't their favorite word.
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Like, they have other words they rather use, and that is totally fine.
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It's just for me, that's the word I use, and if you're gonna be in my world, you are gonna hear
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it a lot.
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Yeah.
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It's fair.
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Yeah.
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It's fair.
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So so then when it you know, the this conversation, right, your work on pussy
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centered living.
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Mhmm.
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Like, what do you like, what does that really mean from you?
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Like, for or from your terminology, like, to live from your pussy, what does that mean?
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And and with that, like, do people and obviously, we're talking about women here.
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Like, where do women have problems when they are, say, you know, trying to live from their
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pussy or they don't even realize they're not living from their pussy.
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Like, what does that, like, look like, I guess is my question from a standpoint of, yeah, I'm
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disconnected from this area.
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I'm not living from this area.
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How might that show up in day to day life?
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Yeah.
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Such such great questions.
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So so as you mentioned a moment ago, like, when we're using the word pussy, it's it's
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encompassing so much anatomy on our body.
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It you know, she is a connection source to this really deepest core part of ourself, like our
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truth, our intuition, this wisdom.
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She's not just a part on our physical body.
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Like, she's an energetic portal.
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Right?
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She's actually a part of our psyche.
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And so we could almost say that, like, living pussy centered is, like, living in tune with
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the deepest part of yourself and also with pleasure as, like, our North Star.
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Right?
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Pleasure, I say that pleasure is the embodiment of pussy and the language of pussy.
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I mean, it's expression of pussy centered living, and it's not, you know, something that
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is frivolous or a luxury or that should be a reward.
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It's actually one of the most, like, nourishing, sustainable, like, powerful ways to
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just be who we are and to do what we do in the world.
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And so, you know, pussy centered living is like living from that source.
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It's not it's not putting our our power or our knowing, you know, outside of us.
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It's really centering this within our own selves.
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And I also use the word pussy kind of as a synonym for for feminine energy.
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Right?
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And so when I say pussy, it's it's the source, it's our pleasure, it's our sexuality, it's
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this physical anatomy, you know, it's our ability to be in tune with our emotions and to
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process them in healthy ways and to be able to what I call, emotional alchemy, where we can
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meet whatever we're feeling, whatever experience we're having in emotions, and we can
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actually shift that into feeling pleasure or feeling better or feeling how we want to be.
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Those are all kind of the realms of of pussy and and pussy centered living.
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And so it's also, you know, it's it's about putting this, like, inner wisdom, this pleasure
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that is our compass first.
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Right?
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Tuning into that first, like centering ourselves around that and then showing up from
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there, moving through the world from there.
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And that is not, you know, one of the biggest limiting beliefs that people come up against
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around, you know, claiming pleasure or pussy centered living is this piece of like, well, if
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I if I put my pleasure first and I prioritize that, like, aren't I gonna become this just
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selfish person?
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Like, I should be you know, we are conditioned to put others first, to be givers first and
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foremost, which, I mean, obviously, it's beautiful to give and to take care of others.
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But when we when we center that first and we prioritize that, we we burn out.
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It's unsustainable.
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We get grouchy and irritated and bitter.
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We have really big challenges going through menopause.
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Like, it's a it's a huge it it causes it has a lot of repercussions.
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And so along those lines, the other part of your question was how can we become aware that
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we even are disconnected?
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I mean, if you if it's hard for you to say the word pussy or vagina or vulva without like a
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little bit of a cringe, like there's a sign right there.
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And and said and all of this said with so much love, and also everything I'm saying I have
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experienced and also lived through.
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You know, one of the it's like so simple, but kind of life changing things that I experienced
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once I started paying attention, like listening to my pussy living from this place as I
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realized how much I was running around, like having to pee, having to go to the bathroom.
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But I was so, like, disconnected.
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I, you know, I'd be like, oh, well, no.
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I have to finish all of these dishes before I can stop and go to the bathroom.
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Right?
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So we are literally disconnected from our body.
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We override pain and discomfort.
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It's often about prioritizing our our doing.
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Right?
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Our productivity, like, oh, I'm too, you know, busy to tune in to how I feel or to what might
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be feeling good.
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And so, you know, main main symptoms really are feeling feeling stressed, feeling like we don't
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have a lot of I wouldn't don't know if control is the right word, but like ability to feel the
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way that we wanna feel.
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Right?
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If we if we feel like, ugh, I wake up and I'm feeling kind of sad or blah or meh or angry or
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depressed and I have no way of shifting out of that, that's actually a disconnection from
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pussy right there, and how we feel in our pleasure.
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You know, having having blocks or resistances around our sexuality, not being deeply
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connected to our pleasure and being able to share that with somebody else.
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Right?
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These are all sign symptoms of disconnection.
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And once again, like, this is not our fault.
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I mean, it's I always like to give the context of like, hey, remember, we've been living in a
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misogynistic patriarchy for five thousand years, like, and these are the repercussions.
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And so it's not our fault, and also we no one can reclaim this for ourselves, no one can
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reconnect except for our own selves.
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And and that's the beautiful thing about it, we can decide to do it.
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Yeah.
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I really like looking at stuff like this as it's not our fault, but it is our
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responsibility.
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Right.
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1800%.
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I say that all the time.
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Like, we are the ones that are in charge of actually fixing this.
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No matter how we got here, the fact is that we are here now and, you know, we can talk about
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all the reasons why, and they can be interesting and helpful sometimes to learn.
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But really, in order to fix it and move on, we have to take responsibility for getting
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ourselves into a new a new state.
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Have you ever do you know doctor Nayan Weiss?
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Have you ever met her before?
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No.
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I haven't.
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I'm gonna I'm gonna put you two in touch if you want.
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She's a great researcher and studies a lot on female organ organ orgasms, not organisms,
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female orgasm.
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She she I learned the term from her, healthy hedonism.
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And I just absolutely love this term so much.
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I've I've repeated it many times in my work giving her credit because I think it's it just
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says so much to this concept we're talking about here around, okay, pleasure, like
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hedonism, was always thought of like this bad thing.
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Like, there's so much negative connotation to to the pursuit of pleasure, which is what
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hedonism is.
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But essentially, this is one of the most fundamental ways that we can heal our body, our
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relationships, our mind, our souls, our spirit, on and on.
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And like you said, it's like putting ourselves first in these scenarios is something that used
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to be thought of as bad, and I think there's just more and more movement now to realizing
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it's like, you know, the the obvious thing that people say sometimes.
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It's like, oh, the airplane, put your mask on first before you're, you know, your child, but
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that that, of course, applies to all of life.
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Like, when we are whole, we're coming from wholeness and, you know, on the road to
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wholeness, should say, because nobody's ever a 100% there.
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You know, we're able to give so, so, so much more.
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100%.
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You know, to make this actionable, right, because I always like making things actionable
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for people as much as possible.
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So, you know, people are listening to your description, which was wonderful on, okay, this
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disconnection from pussy, there's disconnection from your female anatomy or whatever word feels
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or words feel good to use there, and realizing that, wow, yeah, I don't feel pleasure or I
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don't follow my intuition or I'm like, I'm constantly stressed out and not listening to
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the signs, like, I need to urinate, like you said.
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What are do you find, like, with your work, there's, like, a step by step order?
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I, you know, I definitely know firsthand from, you know, from my work that everybody is
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slightly different, of course.
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But when it comes to action, like, sort of actionable steps do you offer for people around
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this is a first step of actually really getting back in tune with this part of your body, not
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just from a sexual pleasure perspective, but from just a general life pleasure and intuition
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and attunement to one's own, you know, mind, body, soul, spirit.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I love this.
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And this is so important.
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Right?
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Like, we have to be able to take action because that's how we actually, like, put all this,
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like, healing and reclamation into practice.
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Yes.
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And so I'm I am a mama of three.
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They're not that little anymore.
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I've got 16 year old, 14 year old, and and nine year old, but, you know, I'm I'm a busy mama,
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and so I really like things to be, you know, simple yet effective, and also things I can be
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doing as I'm moving through my life.
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Like, it's it's rare that I do, you know, like some hour long pleasure practice, unless I'm
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making love to my husband.
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Right?
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But like, I like things to be really accessible to us.
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And that's one of those things that I love about connecting back to pussy and connecting
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to our pleasure is it does not have to be like an extra thing on your to do list.
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You don't have to go take like time out of your life to focus on it.
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Although that obviously is very helpful as well, and there's definitely a time and place
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for that.
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Right?
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But we can start connecting literally in a moment.
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And one of the first ways I like to do it is more through an energetic type of connection
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where you're literally just maybe you're closing your eyes or softening your gaze, and
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you are just taking a breath, imagining that you're drawing that breath all the way down
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into your pussy.
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And if you feel comfortable, you could even, like, put your hands, like, cup your hands over
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your pussy, even just over your clothes if it's helpful to kind of, you know, bring your breath
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down to that area and just breathe.
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Just feel.
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Like, just take a moment to be present in that part of you, even just literally for one
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breath.
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Obviously, if we can do more than that, great.
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But even just one breath done consistently over time can make a huge difference.
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And so that can be just like an a a starting point, and then starting to really notice how
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we feel.
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Like, as I started to do that, that's when I was like, wow.
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I have to pee, like, all of the time, and I'm making myself hold it instead of just taking
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care of my needs.
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And so we just start to notice, and one of the things that we may notice is like, wow.
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I don't really feel anything.
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Like, gosh, there's not a lot here, and maybe it does feel just kind of numb or disconnected
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or just like, I don't, like, I don't know if I'm doing it right.
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I can't feel anything.
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And and that's fine.
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Like, that just is a symptom of the disconnection.
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And what happens when we are disconnected is there's literally a disconnect in the neural
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pathways between our brain and our body, and so we just we might not have a lot of sensation
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there because we just get to really strengthen those pathways, and we can do that by just
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breathing into our pussy and being willing to feel what's there.
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And if it is numbness, if it is a sense of kind of disconnection, like, being curious about
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that.
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And so really, I think the first first piece that we get to do is just to, like, forgive
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ourselves for not listening to our bodies in the past, for having numbness, for feeling
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shame, or whatever might come up is, like, it's it's okay.
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You know, there's a reason that we're here, and like you like, we're both saying, it's it is
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our responsibility to reclaim this, but we don't have to, you know, make this something
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that we're like, oh, have done a bad job on or failed.
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Like, no.
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No.
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And we can shift this.
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So so that's the first way I love to start, right, with just using that breath.
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I also really like to do what I call pussy sensing meditations with people, where you're
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now starting to not just breathe into just like hurt in general, but start to notice like, can
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I even bring my awareness to different parts of pussy?
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Like, can I breathe into my clit?
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Can I breathe into my labia?
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Like, can I start to bring more awareness to this area?
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And once again, those are things that we can do very simply.
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And it's, you know, our our pussy is I I love to say, right, she's a a source of our power,
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but it's like, okay.
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Well, what does that really mean?
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It can mean many different things, but part of that is she she is an energetic source.
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She is a powerful source of energy, and when we are disconnected from her, we do not have
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access to that energy.
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But when we start to connect, even if it's just as simply as breathing into her and feeling
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her, we start to awaken that energy source, and then of course we can go, you know, much deeper
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into healing and reclamation.
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Right?
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This is a starting practice.
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There are many, many more things we can do, but the more we do it, the more we liberate that
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energy.
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And I mean, just as a real simple, real life example, you know, three kids, we also live out
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in the country, so I do a lot of driving of my children around to other activities.
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And that used to be such a stressful experience for me, you know, I'm just like, oh, these kids
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in the car and they're fighting or crying or like whatever is happening, and I would, we
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would get to the place and I'd just be kind of like irritated, and I started doing this very
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thing we're talking about where as as I'm driving, all I'm doing is just like breathing
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with presence, like in and out of my pussy, and I get, we get, I like, I feel amazing, And
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like, maybe the kids are still crying and fighting, but I'm like, And actually, what
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happens is people, because we are all, you know, energetically connected, when I do that,
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it's amazing.
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I can have kids who are like screaming and crying in the car.
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I like breathe into my pussy and focus on that, and then the next thing I know, I'm like, wow,
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everybody's like really quiet and happy and content back there, and I'm feeling alive and
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full of energy.
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And so that's that's a beautiful way we can start.
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I do also love to start with, like, hands on practices of connecting and connecting with our
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pleasure.
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That could be, like, a a self pleasure practice, aka masturbation, but I don't love
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the word masturbation, so I call it self pleasure.
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Right?
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Where we're not where there's no goal, we're not trying to give ourselves an orgasm, we're
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just there for the point of connecting and finding our pleasure and awakening to
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sensation.
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Obviously, that does require we can't always do that right in the moment.
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Like, that does require a little bit of of time set aside, but it's worth it.
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But then one last thing that is, you know, such a something that we can really focus on that's
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so accessible is attuning to our pleasure and pleasure as an activation of our senses.
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Right?
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So pleasure is an experience in our body and it comes through our senses.
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And so and once again, as I said, like, pleasure is the language and the embodiment and
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the expression of pussy, so when we're activating our pleasure, we are connecting to
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that part of us as well.
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And we could do that as in like, you know, I'm I'm sitting here teaching and talking and I
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have this like smooth rock on my desk that I love to just like touch and stroke and there's
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so much pleasure in that touch.
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Right?
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Or we can look out the window at some beautiful nature or a flower or a painting that we have
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and receive pleasure from that experience.
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I have this scented candle at my desk that I just love, and I breathe in the the smell of
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it, and I'm just like, oh, smells so good.
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And I I let myself really receive that pleasure.
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So we always have ways to activate and access our pleasure in any moment, and it really is an
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attunement to it and a and a choice to feel into it.
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So those those are some simple kind of beginning practical steps that I would suggest.
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Yeah.
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So helpful.
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Thank you for all of that.
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And just to emphasize a couple of things you said, like, I do think, like just emphasizing
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for people this emotions and it's almost like flags, right?
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So if you're like tuning into this and you're like, oh, I feel weird, or I'm doing it wrong,
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or I don't have sensation, or I am disembodied, and just your advice on don't make it wrong.
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Like like, actually just notice this and just say, hey, that's that's where I am and it's not
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good or bad, it just is, really can take that charge away and these things are really just
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they're just they're just flags.
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They're just information to let us know, hey, this is what's happening.
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And then we have the, you know, the opportunity to move into a different state, to move into a
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different space, and to allow something else to happen.
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And and I hope some of our listeners are taking this so much to heart that as you're list
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they're listening to you, you know, you've given like some really good practical advice
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that people that are listening could be doing in this moment.
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Right?
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Like feeling the pleasure of your, you know, your pelvic floor resting deeply in your chair,
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right, as you are listening to this.
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Right?
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If you're on a walk and listening, like, listening to or watching the leaves blow in the
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wind and taking pleasure in the beauty of that, like, all of these opportunities all day long
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so that as you're listening, you could, like, really put this into practice real, real, real,
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real, immediate, and real time.
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So I wanna make sure that everybody is aware that in part two, we're gonna be talking about
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the relationship of pussy, of being embodied with things like low libido, or where this how
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this impacts desire for your partner, where this comes into more the partnership.
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So definitely get this from part two, but I do wanna make sure before we pop over to part two
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that people know about some of your great offerings.
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I know you have your own podcast.
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You have a free meditation for our listeners on I imagine it's on how to access your pussy and
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get into that energy more.
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Is that what that meditation's about?
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Yes.
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In a nutshell, yes.
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Perfect.
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Well, we will link that in the show notes for sure.
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And then what else did you wanna make sure that our listeners knew about as far as how to get
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ahold of you?
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Yeah.
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Definitely.
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Well, I'm on on social media, so you can come hang out with me on Facebook or Instagram.
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And then I did also get finished I just finished teaching a workshop, which is gonna be
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an evergreen program called How to Want Sex Again.
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And it is it's like a a gentle step into pussy centered living from this lens of, an
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experience that so many of us have, especially when we are in longer term relationship, and
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maybe there was a lot of, you know, desire at some point in the relationship, but it has
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fizzled over time.
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And so it's really about reclaiming our desire, our turn on from a a pussy centered lens.
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So that's, that's available.
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I'll share the link with it there.
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And, I would love to connect with people.
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Amazing.
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Well, thank you everybody for listening to another episode of The Lounge.
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Please go take advantage of all these great resources from Jenny.
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Check out our episode in part two by going to the link below, and we'll see you all real,
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real soon.
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Thank you, Jenny, for being here.
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Thank you.
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