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158. The Twisties · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself,
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  Speaker 1: you are invincible. That's a quote that Tina Lifford, who
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  Speaker 1: is an American actress, had stated some time ago. But
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  Speaker 1: the other part of that quote is you must do
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  Speaker 1: the work necessary to fall in love with yourself, because
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  Speaker 1: it's not just about knowing yourself and accepting yourself. It's
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  Speaker 1: also about loving what you are and who you are.
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  Speaker 1: And so I want to do a check in to
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  Speaker 1: make sure that you are doing what you need to
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  Speaker 1: do right now for yourself. Do you know, let me
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  Speaker 1: say it this way, do you know what you need
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  Speaker 1: right now in this season? How are you loving on
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  Speaker 1: yourself today? How did you love yourself today? Do you
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  Speaker 1: know that it is your responsibility to take care of you.
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  Speaker 1: It's not your friends, it's not your parents, it's not
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  Speaker 1: your neighbors, is not your partner, is not your husband,
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  Speaker 1: your wife. You are responsible for taking care of you.
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  Speaker 1: And so the next question is how do you do that?
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  Speaker 1: How do you take care of you today? And I
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  Speaker 1: think a lot of people need to hear that and
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  Speaker 1: receive that and know what they need to take care
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  Speaker 1: of themselves because what happens is especially for folks. For
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  Speaker 1: those of you who are care takers, you know everybody's ticks,
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  Speaker 1: their upticks and their downticks. You know their favorites, you
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  Speaker 1: know the things they don't like. You know their needs,
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  Speaker 1: you know their wants, you know their dreams. But do
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  Speaker 1: you know that for you? And if you know that
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  Speaker 1: for you, how do you get into it? For example,
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  Speaker 1: everybody likes to relax. Everybody likes to take a beat,
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  Speaker 1: take a break. What does relaxation look like for you?
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  Speaker 1: Because I don't know about you, but sometimes for me,
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  Speaker 1: I stumble into relaxation. I don't choose to relax. My
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  Speaker 1: body is telling me it's time to take a beat.
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  Speaker 1: I stumble into this mode where now I'm relaxing. So
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  Speaker 1: I want to know, is there a certain schedule you
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  Speaker 1: have at the end of the day, at the start
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  Speaker 1: of the day, at the heart of the day, on
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  Speaker 1: the weekends, when are you choosing keyword, key phrase? When
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  Speaker 1: are you choosing to relax? And have you planned how
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  Speaker 1: you will do it? Not just what you will do
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  Speaker 1: what does it look like to you? But when you
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  Speaker 1: will do it and how how do you plan to
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  Speaker 1: do it? You See, the thing about all of these
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  Speaker 1: questions that I'm asking you, is I want you to
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  Speaker 1: be more intentional about these thoughts and executing on these
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  Speaker 1: thoughts so that you can live it out. So many
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  Speaker 1: of you go into burnout, so many of you go
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  Speaker 1: into the path of frustration. But can you continue to
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  Speaker 1: afford to live that way? Because sometimes we fight for
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  Speaker 1: our limitations. So having these conversations, even me stating these questions,
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  Speaker 1: asking these questions, challenging you with these questions, you might
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  Speaker 1: want to tussle with me. You might want to fight
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  Speaker 1: for your limitations. Why you're not able to relax and
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  Speaker 1: you don't know my life and you don't know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm going through. You are responsible for taking care of you.
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  Speaker 1: I repeat, you are responsible for taking care of you.
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  Speaker 1: And unfortunately, many times, by the time we think about
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  Speaker 1: taking care of self, it's too late. We hear about
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  Speaker 1: that all the time. Statistically that the person care taking
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  Speaker 1: for their loved one, their husband, their wife all these years,
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  Speaker 1: the first one to go in that grouping is the
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  Speaker 1: person that's been taking care of the other. Why because
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  Speaker 1: in their mind, in their heart, because they love that person.
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  Speaker 1: I cannot afford to take my eyes off him or her.
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  Speaker 1: I have to stay on I have to keep going
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  Speaker 1: and that keep going mentality. It sounds good, it sounds rich,
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  Speaker 1: but when you're doing it for someone else and you
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  Speaker 1: never take focus, you never shine the light on what
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  Speaker 1: it is that you need, eventually that light goes out.
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  Speaker 1: I'm challenging you today, go back and listen through these questions.
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  Speaker 1: I know they probably triggered some things in you, because
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  Speaker 1: the truth is, what you've been doing, thinking and being
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  Speaker 1: up until this point may not have been serving you. Hello,
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  Speaker 1: my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to
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  Speaker 1: the Your Itself Podcast. I am your host, MII Lee Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk it out with you because I know,
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  Speaker 1: Enriched Self podcast. If you know me, you know I'm
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  Speaker 1: a huge fan of the Olympics, primarily the Summer Olympics.
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  Speaker 1: I love all the sports, the swimming, the track and field,
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  Speaker 1: the gymnastics, the list goes on. I love to see
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  Speaker 1: the athleticism on the world stage. I love to see
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  Speaker 1: all of these athletes that have come out of all
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  Speaker 1: walks of America and the world for that matter, on
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  Speaker 1: this world stage showing their best, putting their best foot
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  Speaker 1: forward in every possible way. I remember a couple years
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  Speaker 1: ago at the Tokyo Olympics in twenty twenty, Simone Biles
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  Speaker 1: made a controversial decision and we hadn't really seen anything
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  Speaker 1: like that in really any sport, whether it was Olympic
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  Speaker 1: level sport or national or what have you. She made
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  Speaker 1: a controversial decision to leave or withdraw herself from the
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  Speaker 1: remainder of the events for most of the events. This
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  Speaker 1: was happening on the Olympic stage, the world wide stage,
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  Speaker 1: so it was huge to watch and we've never seen
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  Speaker 1: it at the Olympic for sure, watch an individual withdraw
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  Speaker 1: and leave and her purpose or her reason was, as
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  Speaker 1: she cited it, as mental health concerns. I remember speaking
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  Speaker 1: about this topic on one of my podcast episodes, or at
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  Speaker 1: least referencing it when I talked about mental health, because
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  Speaker 1: I thought it was so admirable. Personally, I thought it
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  Speaker 1: was admirable. I know a lot of people felt like
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  Speaker 1: she had let down America. I know from listening to
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  Speaker 1: her on a recent podcast that she felt like she
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  Speaker 1: had betrayed America and America would then betray her. But
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  Speaker 1: she was also wrestling with the thoughts of how other
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  Speaker 1: people would see her after this, so she was wrestling
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  Speaker 1: with all those sobs, but she was also wrestling with
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  Speaker 1: mental health. In this interview, she talks about having the twisties,
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  Speaker 1: and the twisties are a pretty normal term in the
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  Speaker 1: world of gymnastics, but it's a phenomenon and it's kind
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  Speaker 1: of scary when you hear what it is. Where the
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  Speaker 1: athlete essentially loses their sense of where their body is.
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  Speaker 1: And this is typically happening while they're performing and if
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  Speaker 1: you know, they're doing a lot of twists and turns
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  Speaker 1: and all kinds of things. Losing that sense is crucial
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  Speaker 1: in gymnastics of all the sports, right, because you are
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  Speaker 1: constantly moving, and when you are, you are your body
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  Speaker 1: is suspended. I mean you are moving, airborne, moving, and
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  Speaker 1: that sudden loss of connection between like your mind and
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  Speaker 1: body is like your mind and body lose. This is
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  Speaker 1: the connection or the conversation between the two that could
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  Speaker 1: lead to an injury. I mean, look at the way
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  Speaker 1: this woman and all the gymnasts for that matter, perform,
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  Speaker 1: and the levels again at that world stage, at the
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  Speaker 1: Olympic stage, the levels they're performing, and picture them losing
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  Speaker 1: the sense of where they are in the moment, right,
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  Speaker 1: we're watching them on TV, but they've lost sense of
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  Speaker 1: where they are, where their body is, what's actually going on.
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  Speaker 1: It could lead to injury or even paralysis. That's a
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  Speaker 1: scary thought. That's where Simon Bios was she was dealing
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  Speaker 1: with the twisties. When I started reading about it, it
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  Speaker 1: sounded very familiar to some of the things that we
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  Speaker 1: deal with now. And I want to make sure that
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  Speaker 1: you are managing your twisties. Now. Your twisties aren't going
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  Speaker 1: to look like a gymnast, but there are things that
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  Speaker 1: are twisting you around and keeping you from being focused
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  Speaker 1: on where you need to be. And so the first
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  Speaker 1: common factor of what triggers the twisties is stress. I
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  Speaker 1: believe everyone has a level of stress that they deal with.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure you are dealing with a level of stress.
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  Speaker 1: I'm dealing with a level of stress that puts a
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  Speaker 1: lot of pressure on you whatever it is you're dealing with,
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  Speaker 1: And depending on how long you've been dealing with you've
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  Speaker 1: been carrying that pressure for a period of time, and
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  Speaker 1: over time you can burst. And what happens to these
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  Speaker 1: gymnasts is it bursts into these twisties. And when you're stressed,
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  Speaker 1: no matter if you're a gymnast or whatever you do
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  Speaker 1: for a living or in your life, that disconnection from
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  Speaker 1: what's happening can really be a challenge for you. That's
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  Speaker 1: one of the common factors. The next one is and
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  Speaker 1: this is something we all deal with. I've talked about
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  Speaker 1: imposter syndrome before, and this one falls into the belly
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  Speaker 1: of imposter syndrome. It's perfection. And sometimes athletes and we
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  Speaker 1: as people, we set these unattainable goals for ourselves because
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  Speaker 1: we are on this quest to be perfect, and that
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  Speaker 1: perfection grows into a mental obstacle, maybe not immediately. You know,
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  Speaker 1: some people like to brag on the fact that they
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  Speaker 1: are a perfectionist. I'm a perfectionist. I've said this before
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  Speaker 1: and I'll say it again. Perfectionism will slow you down.
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  Speaker 1: It will prevent you from doing, participating and being. Why
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  Speaker 1: do I know this because I dealt with for perfectionism
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  Speaker 1: and every once in a while it creeps back up.
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  Speaker 1: But I have to remind myself, do you want to
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  Speaker 1: be complete or do you want to be perfect and incomplete?
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  Speaker 1: That is how I do it, because if I wait
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  Speaker 1: for everything to be perfect, every here to be in place,
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  Speaker 1: if you wait for everything to be perfect, you may
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  Speaker 1: not be able to move. You will be immobilized waiting
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  Speaker 1: for that day, waiting for that time, waiting for that
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  Speaker 1: opportunity for perfection to exist, and it slows you down.
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  Speaker 1: So that's the other common factor. The next one is
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  Speaker 1: and listen, I've done this. I can recall a very
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  Speaker 1: particular instant in my life when I did this, and
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  Speaker 1: I remember how it made me feel. And that is
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  Speaker 1: fixating on a mistake. You have to imagine at the
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  Speaker 1: Olympic level, at the national level, and in the everyday
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  Speaker 1: life when we make a mistake, especially right now we
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  Speaker 1: are in this social media world. Everything can be broadcasted.
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  Speaker 1: You can be filmed at any moment, all of the thing.
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  Speaker 1: If your video gets uploaded, you think your life is over.
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  Speaker 1: You think that mistake is shown to the world. You
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  Speaker 1: think that mistake is who you are. Mistakes don't define us.
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  Speaker 1: They don't define us. A mistake is a moment. It's
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  Speaker 1: not a definition. It's not the definition of you. It
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  Speaker 1: is a moment that you had. And so fixating on
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  Speaker 1: a mistake, what happens is you start to cascade into
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  Speaker 1: larger issues and it just starts to snowball. You start
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  Speaker 1: to hold on to that thought, and then you build
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  Speaker 1: that thought into another thought, and you build that thought
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  Speaker 1: into another thought, and before you know what, you have
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  Speaker 1: a snowball of mistakes from that one mistake. You create
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  Speaker 1: this big snowball around one mistake by fixating on it,
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  Speaker 1: by talking about it, by giving it life. Every time
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  Speaker 1: you see someone you have a conversation, you have to
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  Speaker 1: remind them about the mistake. You have to remind yourself
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  Speaker 1: about the mistake when you look yourself in the mare,
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe I did that. I can't believe I
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  Speaker 1: did that. Well, guess what you did that? That was
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  Speaker 1: in a moment. That's with the information you had. That's
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  Speaker 1: because you didn't get enough practice in. That's because you
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  Speaker 1: got enough practice in, but you were fatigued. There are
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  Speaker 1: many reasons why we make mistakes, but the key is
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  Speaker 1: to get the lesson from the mistake. And that's the
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  Speaker 1: hard thing to do when you are in this twisty
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  Speaker 1: space that Simone found herself in and that many of
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  Speaker 1: us find ourselves in. And the last thing is doubt.
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  Speaker 1: Doubt is one of those things like you can be
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  Speaker 1: the most confident person ever about anything, right, all you need.
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  Speaker 1: The thing about doubt is you don't need a lot
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  Speaker 1: of it. It's one of those things where you just
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  Speaker 1: need a pinch of it and it echoes throughout your
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  Speaker 1: whole story. All your mind needs. Unfortunately, we've been wired
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  Speaker 1: this way, and you can unwire that by making it intentional.
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  Speaker 1: You can unwire by being intentional about your thoughts and
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  Speaker 1: being and setting boundaries around your thoughts, setting boundaries about
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  Speaker 1: who you share your thoughts with. Right So, there's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of ways that you can do that. But I
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  Speaker 1: recall when I was getting ready to do the half
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  Speaker 1: marathon that I did last year, but I didn't share
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  Speaker 1: with a lot of people that I was going to
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  Speaker 1: do this half. And the reason why is because I
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  Speaker 1: had not physically prepared the way I probably should have
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  Speaker 1: in a runner environment. If you tell somebody that runs
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  Speaker 1: every day that's been preparing that you haven't, they're going
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  Speaker 1: to be concerned about you, and rightfully so. Because I
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  Speaker 1: have admitted that I would never run a half or
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  Speaker 1: something that requires that level of strenuous activity without proper
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  Speaker 1: physical preparation. I did this, believe it or not, to
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  Speaker 1: test my mental callous. I wanted to see just how
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  Speaker 1: strong I could be mentally because the race was all mental.
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  Speaker 1: The race for me. That race for me was a
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  Speaker 1: complete mental race because I had no physical attribute to workout, plan,
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  Speaker 1: training to go back to and say, Okay, this is
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  Speaker 1: what I do when this happens. I had none of that,
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  Speaker 1: so I had to use my mental callous to get
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  Speaker 1: me through that race. In the Bible, they talk about
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  Speaker 1: faith the size of a mustard seed. That's all you need.
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  Speaker 1: Doubt the size of a mustard seed. That little bit
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  Speaker 1: of doubt can maneuver and take over the supreme confidence.
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  Speaker 1: And some of you have a little bit of doubt
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  Speaker 1: based on something you hear, something, you see, something someone said,
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  Speaker 1: and that's all you need to maneuver your supreme confidence
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  Speaker 1: that you've built up. You've done the things, you save
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  Speaker 1: the money, you put the plan together, you executed, you
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  Speaker 1: created a team, you who did the work. You showed up,
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  Speaker 1: you showed up early, you stayed late, You did all
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  Speaker 1: the things, and one ounce of doubt can erase it all.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why so many people they guard themselves. They
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  Speaker 1: set up a boundary when they're getting ready to do
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  Speaker 1: something major. That means they're heads down. That means they're
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  Speaker 1: not talking to everybody, and if they are talking to people,
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  Speaker 1: they're only certain people they talk to about certain things.
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  Speaker 1: That is intentional, and you have to do that. You
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  Speaker 1: have to do the work necessary to prevent the doubt.
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  Speaker 1: And that may require a boundary or two that may
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  Speaker 1: require you being away from the limelight for a while,
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  Speaker 1: heads down for a while, dialed into sell for a while,
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  Speaker 1: spending more time with God for a while. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what it's going to mean for you, but you
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  Speaker 1: need to know what that is so that you can
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  Speaker 1: prevent that doubt from undermining your ability to perform. So
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  Speaker 1: those are the common factors of twistis and I know
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  Speaker 1: that many of you are dealing with these twisties. Here's
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  Speaker 1: the good news. There's ways out of this, and I'll
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  Speaker 1: just give you two ways. Number one, you got to
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  Speaker 1: get back to the basics. We complicate our lives so much,
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  Speaker 1: oftentimes by doing much more than we need to, going
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  Speaker 1: to all the things, being in all the places. You
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  Speaker 1: don't need to be everywhere. You don't need to be
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  Speaker 1: doing all the things. For example, I had to unlearn
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  Speaker 1: that a mistake isn't fatal. I can recover from a
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  Speaker 1: mistake I can learn from a mistake. I can help
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  Speaker 1: somebody else because of my mistake. But I had to
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  Speaker 1: see mistakes in that way. First. When you made a
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  Speaker 1: mistake or you fail at something, you're not thinking, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I can help someone. No one ever taught me that, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: that's a good thing. Now you can use that to
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  Speaker 1: help somebody from or you can use that to prevent
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  Speaker 1: someone from making the same mistake. You don't think that
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  Speaker 1: way when you're dealing with this failure. You don't think
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  Speaker 1: that way. When you made a mistake. You just think
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  Speaker 1: that you ruined everything and there's no coming back from
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  Speaker 1: that ruin. And I had to unlearn that that a
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  Speaker 1: mistake is me. In the process of learning, I had
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  Speaker 1: to learn that a mistake is a chance for me
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  Speaker 1: to try one thing and it's like, okay, that didn't work.
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  Speaker 1: Let me go back to the test too and try
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  Speaker 1: this thing. Okay, that didn't work. It's just a series
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  Speaker 1: of tries. I had to relearn that, and there are
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  Speaker 1: things you have to relearn, but you got to go
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  Speaker 1: back to the basics. And some of that relearning is
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  Speaker 1: also unraveling what people have told you, including your parents.
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  Speaker 1: There are things that are we love our parents, but
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  Speaker 1: they had limits on their lives, and unfortunately they pass
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  Speaker 1: some of those limits to us, and we do the
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  Speaker 1: same to our friends. That's what they call projection. Because
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  Speaker 1: I've never seen it done. I don't think it can
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  Speaker 1: be done. Really, you're living your life that way with
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  Speaker 1: limits all around you. How do you expect to go forward,
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  Speaker 1: build momentum, chase your dreams if you have limits on everything,
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  Speaker 1: if you believe everything you hear and you haven't taken
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  Speaker 1: a moment to test it, to research it, to investigate it,
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  Speaker 1: especially when it comes to your life. Maybe not for
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  Speaker 1: somebody else, but certainly for yourself. So yes, getting back
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  Speaker 1: to the basics is the number one and the number
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  Speaker 1: two thing that is important to get rid of the twisties. Relax.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to find, as an ass at the top
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  Speaker 1: of the podcast, what do you need to relax? Don't
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  Speaker 1: let it come to happenstance. Don't let it be a
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  Speaker 1: circumstance where you now have to find time to relax.
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  Speaker 1: As a doctor said, you are the person responsible for
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  Speaker 1: taking care of you. You are the doctor to you.
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  Speaker 1: You have your own PhD about you. You know you,
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  Speaker 1: you grew up with you, you know the seven year
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  Speaker 1: old version of you, you know, the seventeen year old
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  Speaker 1: version of you. You know the version of you now.
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  Speaker 1: And all those versions are different, and all those versions
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  Speaker 1: needed something different. And the only person that knows that
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  Speaker 1: intimately without going through a record and pulling your file
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  Speaker 1: is you. You know that because you live that. You
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  Speaker 1: are that. So it's time to find time to make
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  Speaker 1: time to relax. That relaxation intentionally will allow you to
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  Speaker 1: begin to breathe again, to trust to yourself again, and
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  Speaker 1: leave room to do the most important thing you can
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  Speaker 1: do for you, which is to fall in love with
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