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It’s Your Life Now: Taking Ownership of Your Life & Marriage · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for June 1st, 2026 It's Your Life Now,
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  Taking Ownership of Your Life and Marriage This week's topic is,
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  It's Your Life Now Lori and I keep seeing folks who
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  are not living their life They are copying someone else's life or are trying
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  to live the opposite of how someone else lives Others are living the life someone
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  else wants them to live Or they are living in rebellion to the life someone
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  else wants them to live Even more
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  common is living the life one has fallen into as if there is no choice,
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  When you're young, it's not your life Your parents had a great deal of control
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  and you had few rights and little say But when you become an adult,
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  it becomes your life That means if you don't like the life you have,
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  that's your fault I know that sounds harsh But what that means is you have the
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  power to fix it If it were someone else's fault, you'd be helpless,
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  I know that doesn't sit well There are all these things that are out of your control.
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  There are so many things you would like to be different, but you can't change them.
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  While there's some truth in that, it's also a big honking lie.
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  The reality is, we have the power to make different choices in most areas of
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  our lives. You could abandon your family, move across the country, and start over.
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  That's not a right choice, but it makes the point. For the most part,
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  we don't make changes because change is difficult and possibly costly.
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  Beyond that, the uncomfortable, unhappy life we know seems safer than moving
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  towards a better life that we could have.
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  It's like disliking what's on TV, but the remote is out of reach and you're
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  tired, so you'll watch it anyway.
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  Doing that day after day of the life you don't like is a miserable way to live.
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  Given this blog is about doing marriage well, I want to apply It's Your Life Now to your marriage.
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  But most of what I will cover applies to both your life and your marriage.
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  Before I get down to specifics, I want you to think about your life and your marriage.
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  What do you dislike? What have you been telling yourself prevents you from changing that?
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  What is really preventing you from making changes? What stands in your way? What do you fear?
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  Then ask yourself how you will feel if things you dislike are the same in 5 or 10 years.
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  Will you just keep living a life you don't like? Or will you get up,
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  get the remote, and make some changes?
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  This is Paul, and good marriage looks different for every person.