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101. A Way Forward · Your Enriched Self

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  Always up for a good challenge. I remember a few years ago it was
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  an internet social media phenomenon where everyone was doing the ice Bucket Challenge, and
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  yes, I was one of the people that joined the ice Bucket Challenge.
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  I don't remember posting my ice Bucket challenge, but I certainly participated in the
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  challenge. Nonetheless, a short few months after that, there was a pushup
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  challenge and I can't remember what the cause was. I think it was for
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  soldiers, and I participated in the twenty day push of challenge or whatever it
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  was, and so on and so forth. And this month I found myself
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  in yet another challenge on top of my daily wellness journey, to walk for
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  thirty minutes a day for the full month of July, every single day.
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  And so I'm always up for these challenges because I think it helps to get
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  me oven and I'm a big believer in the importance of movement. I ran
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  into this quote and I thought it was so fitting. Motivation gets you moving,
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  determination keeps you going. And just like all of those challenges that I
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  participated in, even the one now, it was a motivation from someone out
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  there in the world that said, hey, let's do this, or you
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  should try this, or this is for a good cause, or whatever it
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  was that motivated me to move, to get out of my own way and
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  to do something. But motivation is not going to carry you through your process.
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  You need determination. You need something that's going to keep you going.
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  And it was interesting because when I saw the quote, I thought, well,
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  you know, when we think about determination, did we ever really spend
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  some time defining the words that we use, understanding what's behind the word or
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  underneath the word? And so I went ahead and did that digging. For
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  us, determination means will power, and I think we get that. But
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  the other meaning of determination is single mindedness. I love that definition because it's
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  a focal point. It's a single thing to focus on to get to the
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  destination. The other definition that I found that was under the hood for determination
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  is firmness of purpose. And that's going to be a pretty important piece of
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  the conversation we're going to have this week, because I want whatever you do
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  to have a firmness of purpose because if you know what your purpose is,
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  it's going to be relatively and I wouldn't say easy, but a lot less
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  friction when you have determ termination, Hello, my friends from all across the
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  globe, and welcome to the Your in rich Self Podcast. I am your
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  host, my day no Air. I am a mindset coach and your mindset
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  advocate, and here in this community, that Your in rich Self community,
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  we talk about mindset fusion topics. The objective of what we do each and
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  every week is to create, restore, and maintain healthy mindsets. And it
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  starts with your thought process. And so that's why I created this space,
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  this safe space, because I know the world, the world we live in,
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  and even the world you've created for yourself. There's a lot to navigate
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  and I want to give you the space for you to get the clarity you
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  need to build healthy mindsets. Every decision, every activity, every move you
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  are going to make starts first in the mind and so we want to talk
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  through these topics each and every week. Now, I want to welcome you.
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  If this is your first time listening to the podcast, Welcome, Welcome,
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  Welcome. I'm grateful that you are here, and I encourage you to
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  subscribe because you're going to find a lot of value here. And if you
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  are a returning listener, that means you've been listening to a hundred episodes before
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  you got here. So we are at episode one oh one. Thank you,
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  thank you, Thank you for your support, thank you for your feedback,
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  Thank you for sharing this podcast with your friends and family. I cannot
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  do it without you, and I am forever grateful that are helping create this
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  legacy called the Your in rit Cell podcast. Before we start off this week's
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  episode, I promised you guys that I would start taking you on my morning
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  walks a time ago, and this week's episode was one of those episodes where
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  I was just kind of in the flow and wanted to share. So get
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  ready for that. But before we jump into this week's episode, if you
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  know, you know, But what I do each week is I make a
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  deposit in the bank of you, and I do so by way of affirmations.
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  Affirmations are a great way to start your day and to command your morning.
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  And this week's affirmation is my strength is greater than any struggle. My
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  strength is greater than any struggle. My strength is greater than any struggle.
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  Now let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast.
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  You know, last week we talked about can you stand the rain right?
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  And the premise, and the purpose behind that conversation was to get us into
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  this mindset of sticking to it, you know, having sticktuitedness or having them
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  the spirit of completion and continuing in the event in the experience of hardships and
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  drawbacks and all the things that would typically keep you from accomplishing or achieving what
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  it is that you set out to achieve that you want to achieve. You
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  know, last week was one hundred episode, and I was really celebratory of
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  that, but I felt like I kind of cheated you guys, is out
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  of understanding my journey in getting to that hundred episode. I remember being sickness
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  process, and I understand that we need to take time for ourselves. I
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  talk about self care on this platform as often as I can, because that
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  is really the heartbeat of who you are. You've got to take care of
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  yourself to be able to serve and do the things that you need to do
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  in your life. But I also understand the importance and the significance of what
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  I am doing right now, the seeds that I'm sewing here on this platform
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  about these topics. I understand that people are looking forward to these episodes.
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  I started to put that responsibility on myself, and if I'm being honest with
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  you guys, I'm one of these amicable less share the responsibility type of person.
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  I tend to shy away from owning the full responsibility of the thing.
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  And last year, from my event Show Up Now Summit, I recognize that
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  I was always in the background of everything. This was the first time when
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  I did the Sun Summit, it was the first time I had put myself
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  out there to be the host, to be the keynote speaker, to fund
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  this event, to set up and engage the venue, and do all of
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  the things. I typically am the person that leans back, that falls back,
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  and I put myself in an uncomfortable position. Getting to the hundred episode,
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  getting to and getting through all of those moments required me to put myself
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  in uncomfortable positions, required me to push past the pain and push past being
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  sick and deliver required me, when I was on vacation, to make plans
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  to have episodes batched so that I can take my vacation in peace but still
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  deliver. I put that on myself, and I'm here to tell you whatever
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  it is that you got to do that you want to do, no one's
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  going to push you the way you're going to push yourself. You know,
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  I had a coach, I had mentors, I had people around me friends.
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  I'm in different group circles with women who are also stepping into their purpose
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  and living out their purpose out loud and starting to participate in events and host
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  their own events and all of the things. So I'm in the right places.
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  But even when you're in the right places, you can feel convicted to
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  stay comfortable. And I say that because that has been my story. I've
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  been put in the right places. I really feel like God has given me
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  so much exposure to people and to environments that would essentially get me where He
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  needed me to be at this point in my life, right, But I
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  resisted those things. I resisted those things. The help came, and because
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  it didn't come in the format with the type of person and the type of
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  situation that I envisioned, because it didn't come wrapped in a way that gave
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  me the inclination to know that this is the thing that God sent to me,
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  I rejected it. And I know that there are things that were sent
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  to you for you, because you are unique. It can only be for
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  you. But somehow you rejected it, and that is because it didn't look
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  like what you thought it would be. It didn't feel comfortable to be around
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  that thing, to be in that networking environment, because you didn't feel comfortable
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  because it took you out of your You know what we call ourselves introverts and
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  extroverts. We need to stop labeling ourselves as things that eventually can keep us
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  from being the greater thing that we are called to be. And I had
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  to recognize that that was my story, and I know it might not be
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  your exact story, but there are parts of this that I know will resonate
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  with you. Because you want to get to your hundred thing, You want
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  to get consistent at a thing, but there is something holding you back,
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  and it may indeed be a limiting belief. It may indeed be a mindset
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  shift that needs to happen to propel you, to move you, to direct
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  you in the place, in the space, to the destiny that you were
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  intended to be at. I need you to stand up for yourself, to
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  show up for yourself, to believe in yourself. I'm telling you showing up
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  even when it's uncomfortable, as half the battle, and that is what I
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  had to do to get to a hundred episodes. I recall that one of
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  the first things when I was on this journey to being a podcaster and to
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  be podcasting, my mentor gave me some things to think about, and she
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  said, do you want to do this weekly? How frequently do you want
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  to deliver an episode? Are you doing this quarterly? I know that there
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  are people that do ten episodes and then they go on a two or three
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  week break and then they come back. And she started asking me, how
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  do you want to do this? I know myself, and part of the
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  journey of doing something with longevity or doing something with consistency is being real with
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  who you are and who you are going to be in that process. And
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  I know me and what I know about me, and I'm going to challenge
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  you to dig deep and do that work to know yourself, know thyself.
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  And what I know about myself is that if I give myself a break,
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  if I give myself an out, which is how I look at it,
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  there is a possibility that over time, with the lag time I call it
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  lag time, people call it taken a break for a couple of weeks.
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  But I knew that if I gave myself that lag time, I can fall
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  back into the comfort and the habits that I am used to. I can
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  fall back. You see the keyword there is falling back. I know that
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  if I choose to fall back, because it is a choice, that it's
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  going to be hard for me to spring myself back forward in the position,
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  the rightful position that I need to be. And So I was grateful for
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  that conversation with my mentor because it helped me early on realize how I wanted
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  to show up on this platform, who I wanted to be. And this
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  podcast, in every sense of me, has challenged me. It challenged me
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  physically because, like I said, there were days that I was physically sick.
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  Now, one thing about this podcast, I love being here. I
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  love showing up for you. And this is also me showing up for myself
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  because as I've brought so many different topics to this platform, it has brought
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  me so much joy, It has brought me so much understanding, it has
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  brought me new perspective. So I'm learning, and I am a lifelong learner.
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  I'm one of these people that will take training classes that will put myself
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  in a challenge whether it's a physical challenge or mental challenge. I am that
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  person because I understand the value of putting myself in the role of a student.
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  So many of us want to teach, but there's so much to learn,
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  There's so much we need to learn, so we can be the best
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  teachers, right, I mean, think about your best teachers, Think about
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  the best performer you've seen, the best whatever they are, learners first,
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  so they can be the best at whatever it is they are. So in
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  order for me to be the best, to do the best, and to
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  get better progressively, it requires me to go out there and learn more.
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  So I'm a lifelong learner and so that was important for me, and so
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  I love being able to do this podcast for you, but also for me
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  to learn and gain new perspective and everything else. It was also important in
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  that conversation with my mentor for me to understand who I needed to be or
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  who I would become along the way. And that's the journey to anything you're
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  going to do over time is the becoming. Remember I said I was the
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  girl that fell back. I was a person that put myself in a background
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  of situations and I knew that about myself, and so that conversation had me
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  to do some internal deprogramming, because that's what we need to do. We
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  need to understand who we are and start to remove those programs, just like
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  your iPhone. Just the other day, I had a message from the software
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  Update center on my phone in the settings that said my phone needed a software
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  update. And that's what you need to do. When you're on your journey
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  to consistency. There are going to be and there were times where I had
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  to d program or upload a new program that says, we need to start
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  doing it this way. Now, we need to abandon this way. Now,
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  this format is not going to work for who we're becoming. And this
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  was me having that self talk, having that self awareness. It all stemmed
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  from that conversation with the mentor. It helped me to recognize how I needed
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  to show up for myself so I can show up for you, so I
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  can show up in this place on this platform. And so the journey to
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  one hundred. You know what I talk about, can you stand the rain?
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  Is You're gonna have to stand through everything. Standing means that throughout all
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  of the challenges, because I know whatever you are doing right now, there
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  is a challenge ahead of you. There is a barrier that you are going
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  to run into. There is a mountain that you didn't expect it was going
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  to be on this journey, and I'm going to encourage you to stand through
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  it. Don't cower down, don't fade into the background. Stand up to
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  this thing. You have it in you. I didn't recognize at the time
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  what I had in me until I pushed myself out of my zone of comfort,
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  out of the place where I could play it safe. I didn't have
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  to get on the field and play ball. I can just be a spectator.
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  And there is a moment right now where you have to get out of
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  being the spectator and you need to be the player. You need to be
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  the player in the game called life. And this is your game, this
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  is your life, this is your journey, your destination. You got to
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  stand up standing the rain is to not just stand up, but be able
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  to go through the multiple seasons. Right, you have to go through the
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  multiple seasons. You have to be ready for the winter season, the spring
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  season, the summer season, in the fall season, all of those seasons,
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  if you look at it from a nature perspective, requires us to dress
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  differently. Some of us have to take care of our vehicles in a different
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  We need to win to rise the car or the home or whatever. Those
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  seasons require us as people to take action, whether it's packing away all of
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  your winter gear and getting ready for spring and summer and having those layered things
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  and all the things that we need to do to prepare well. Guess what,
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  your life goes through seasonal changes too, and there are going to be
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  times that you have to wear new armor. There's going to be times that
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  you have to go into your soft era where you don't need to armor up
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  so much because it could get heavy. So they're going to be times where
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  you have to go into hibernation, right like in winter time, there are
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  times where you just have to stay in the house because guess what, it's
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  now one outside or weather it's not great. There are times on this journey
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  that you will have to go quiet, go into stealth mode. That's okay,
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  recognize the seasons of your life. And so the journey to one hundred
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  episodes, I just wanted to talk about how raw and how re it was
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  for me to get from that very first start, which I will say was
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  difficult. I remember the first episode being one of the most challenging. I
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  had stayed up all night. I became the podcaster, the editor, the
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  writer for the podcast, everything. I was responsible for the whole shebang.
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  And I remember that night I stayed up and I was trying to do some
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  technical things that I had never done before. But I was determined to learn
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  this because I knew that I wasn't in a position early on to hire out
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  someone to do it for me. And guess what happened each week that I
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  participated and did all of those things. I got better. And you guys
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  are gonna laugh at this. It would take me days at the beginning,
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  and then it started taking me almost a whole day, and then the time
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  to shift in a direction where I was spending less and less time and I
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  was getting better. I was getting better at being relaxed eventually, and over
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  time and with practice and showing up week after week, I got better.
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  And now it takes me a few hours, if that much, between recording
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  and editing, you know, a few hours. And I started off doing
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  this over a number of days. So whatever it is that you're doing right
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  now, don't look at your current status. Your current status is temporal.
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  You're not always going to be there. It's just like school and everything that
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  we've done in the learning capacity. Eventually you get better at the thing.
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  With practice, with study, with homework, with all the activities that you're
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  going to participate in, you get better. Trust me, keep going,
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  keep taking a step, keep moving forward, trust the journey or on.
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  Stop looking around at everything else that's happening, stop stopping to restart again,
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  keep going, Stop trying to make it perfect. That was one of the
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  things that also propelled me into this hundred episode was the need for perfection started
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  to fade. It faded away because for me, completion was better than perfection.
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  I started to abandon perfection more and more and more, and it was
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  more important for me to be here, to show up, to be consistent
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  than to be perfect Patty. I don't want to be perfect Patty because I
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  tell you what, perfect Patty has the worst breakdowns. Have you ever met
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  a perfect Patty? Don't let one thing go out of place, don't let
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  one here come out of one strand of here come out of place. Perfect
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  Patty is going to lose it. And my piece is something that I will
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  fight for till the day I die, and perfection ruins and destroys peace,
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  and therefore it cannot live where my piece lives. And because I chose not
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  to bring it into this house, this house of one hundred episodes or whatever
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  it is that you're building, that you will continue to build. I saw
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  my way through, I saw my destination, and I wrapped at one hundred
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  episodes. You're going to be celebrating, You're going to be celebrating you or
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  whatever. For me, it was my hundred episode, and there's so much
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  more that I will be celebrating this year, and I look forward to hearing
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  all of your stories of celebration as well. I hope you enjoyed this week's
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  episode of the Urine rius Self podcast. The only way I'm gonna know this
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  family. Share this episode because I know there's someone in your life that not
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  only needs to be motivated to get moving, but they need a determination to
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  keep going. So go ahead and share that. You can also share this
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  c h ed self, So check me out there. I also want you
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  to check out the show notes. There's a lot of good information in there,
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  obviously the affirmation of the week, along with all the details around this
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  week's topic. Again, things you can share with your friends or family or
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  someone that would need this information. I also have a link in the show
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  notes for my Show Up Everyday notebook and Show Up Everyday Journal. It's a
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  great place to pen down your thoughts and get refocused on what you want to
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  accomplish in the day, the week, the month, etc. I believe
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  that's all the announcements for this week. Something is brewing and something is coming,
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  so stay tuned for an upcoming update. Just stay tuned. I got
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  something coming up for you, okay. And now what I want you to
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  do is take what you got from this episode and do what you must in
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  the next one hundred and sixty eight hours to become more of your enriched self
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  until we meet again.