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The Party Era vs Real Life + A Story That Will Change You · Shawna and LaLa: Life Beyond The Mic

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  Speaker 1: From the heart of the city, where the beat meets
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  Speaker 1: the rhythm of your day. It's Shawna m what's up.
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  Speaker 3: And check me out at Bella Underscore La La one
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  Speaker 3: two five. Spring has finally sprung, kind of doesn't quite
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  Speaker 3: feel like it yet, but there's hope. There's light at
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  Speaker 3: the end of the tunnel.
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  Speaker 2: There is next week. I saw one of the days
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  Speaker 2: it was going to be like in the sixties or seventies. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and then right back down to like fifties and forties.
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  Speaker 1: I know.
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  Speaker 3: That's the worst part is you're like, yes, yes, yes,
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  Speaker 3: and then boom the next day you wake up and
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  Speaker 3: you're freezing. You can't It's like you have to get
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  Speaker 3: through March, you have to get through April May eh
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  Speaker 3: iffy too. But there's light, there's sun. It's lighter at night.
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  Speaker 3: I love that that I'm not driving home in the
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  Speaker 3: evening in the dark, because that's really depressing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is horrible.
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  Speaker 3: You feel like it's time for bed, and it's only
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  Speaker 3: five o'clock so right now. With the sun, I think
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  Speaker 3: it sets around seven or six thirty or seven, so
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  Speaker 3: that's a little that's nice. It really it helps with
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  Speaker 3: the seasonal depression.
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  Speaker 2: It really does.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 2: It's crazy how it really is a real thing.
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  Speaker 3: Mm hmmm. And they suffer from it horribly, horribly. That's
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  Speaker 3: the only reason I think I would, well not the
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  Speaker 3: only reason. One of the reasons I want to move
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  Speaker 3: down south is because even if it does get a
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  Speaker 3: little darker fast, you have the heat, you have the
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  Speaker 3: sun during the day. It's me it's giving you indorphins,
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  Speaker 3: it's boosting your vitamin D. You feel good, and New
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  Speaker 3: York is just not cutting it.
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  Speaker 2: No, definitely not so. Besides it being the first day
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  Speaker 2: of Spring, was also World Down Syndrome Day, and to
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  Speaker 2: celebrate World Down Syndrome Day, were we are a little late,
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  Speaker 2: but we are interviewing Chad and Jasmine fairies. And if
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  Speaker 2: you don't know who they are, the Jasmine is just she's.
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  Speaker 3: A doll, Oh my god, and whatever, yo.
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  Speaker 2: She just cracks me up. And Chad is her older brother,
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  Speaker 2: and Jasmine she just wants to be like an actress
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  Speaker 2: and she just wants to be married to all the celebrities.
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  Speaker 3: Matthew McConaughey is her favorite. And if seananan't say, Jasmine
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  Speaker 3: was born with Down syndrome. So it's it's amazing to
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  Speaker 3: watch how much she has achieved and how happy she is.
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  Speaker 3: And she's such a confident girl that we knew we
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  Speaker 3: wanted her on the show.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and she has this show out and it's called
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  Speaker 2: a Double Life, but it's also called Iron Family, and
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  Speaker 2: it has won awards and it is just the cutest
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  Speaker 2: show documentary really.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it is a documentary with a show some entertainment
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  Speaker 3: in there, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, And we were we watched it a few
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  Speaker 2: times and were preparing for the interview, and every time
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  Speaker 2: we watched it, we were just cracking out.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. I told her it was like a roller coaster.
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  Speaker 3: We went from laughing and then we were just like
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  Speaker 3: amazed at some of the things that she would come
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  Speaker 3: out with, like, oh my god, the show they put on.
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  Speaker 3: Then it got emotional seeing how strong the family bond was.
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  Speaker 3: How I loved how their family all steps up to
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  Speaker 3: make the show happen her for her. Yeah, that's hard,
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  Speaker 3: I mean I think about my family. My family wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: do that. My family wouldn't be like, no, I'm not
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  Speaker 3: dedicating this much time to put on like a show
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  Speaker 3: with you. So she has a really good family, and
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  Speaker 3: that's what she was telling me is why she also
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  Speaker 3: called it iron family, because what does iron represent. It's strong,
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  Speaker 3: it's metal, you know, it's and that's what her family is.
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  Speaker 3: It's a strong bond. So she she was great, her
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  Speaker 3: brother's awesome, and the family was just the cutest.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. And when they come to New York, I said,
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  Speaker 2: we have to meet them, Yeah, because they're just so cute.
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  Speaker 3: We're gonna meet. We're gonna make it happen so we
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  Speaker 3: can meet Jasmine and her brother.
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  Speaker 2: And she, hey, maybe Matthew McConaughey will be at the
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  Speaker 2: World down Syndrome Walk that, yeah, is going to be
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  Speaker 2: in New York. You know, I mean, the entertainment business
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  Speaker 2: really is so small that somebody's got to know him,
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  Speaker 2: you know, like somebody in the entertainment industry that has
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  Speaker 2: helped with the movie, or somebody I don't know or
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  Speaker 2: seen it or heard of it. Yeah, yeah, has got
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  Speaker 2: to have like a contact with him or something.
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  Speaker 3: That would be great. To get Matthew and Jasmine just
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  Speaker 3: to meet that would that's a goal. You know, maybe
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  Speaker 3: we should make it a goal, but I know it's
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  Speaker 3: her goal, so that would be so great.
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  Speaker 2: On the show today we have Chad and Jasmine from
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  Speaker 2: the Iron Family. And if you haven't seen the movie yet,
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  Speaker 2: it is so cute.
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  Speaker 3: I love Me and Sona watched it together and we
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  Speaker 3: were either laughing, we were shocked, we were you know,
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  Speaker 3: some parts we got emotional. It was it was it
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  Speaker 3: was a rollercoaster of emotions.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, that's the idea.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Jasmine, can you tell us a little bit
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  Speaker 2: about yourself and your own words and about the movie.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, my name is Don Fay and I am thirty
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  Speaker 4: eight gone on thirty nine. I live in I'm a
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  Speaker 4: Mixigan with my mom and my aunt and and also
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  Speaker 4: of course this was uh the Papa way to do
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  Speaker 4: id family because I'm from Michigan and and it kind
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  Speaker 4: of takes you back to uh you know what they
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  Speaker 4: the same goes. It's always a place back home that
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  Speaker 4: you now feel to it. So that's why I came
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  Speaker 4: up with I Family.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was gonna say it's literally an old Iron community, right,
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  Speaker 1: and so that's like Iron, but literally the town south
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  Speaker 1: you know, Iron River is all you know, this this
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  Speaker 1: old mining community, and.
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  Speaker 2: So it reminded of where we live.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's beautiful times, like the old like country town.
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  Speaker 3: And Okay, I like the Iron is strong. So it's
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  Speaker 3: like a strong family bond, you know.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was. Yeah. And besides actually, of course, because
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  Speaker 4: this is kind of weird to say this, but to me,
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  Speaker 4: I think Iron is like you said, it's like a whole.
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  Speaker 4: But it's more than just that, you know, we also
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  Speaker 4: become have a strong family and and and it goes
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  Speaker 4: to that generation of wonderful women that we had, uh
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  Speaker 4: you know growing up. You know, my mom, my grandma,
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  Speaker 4: my aunt, everybody. We were all going up around women
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  Speaker 4: all the time, you know, Yes, And I think that's
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  Speaker 4: what it is. It's you know, that's them, my mom
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  Speaker 4: and my aunt and my grandma. They are the Iron family.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the bonds right, Yes, a strong family.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I'm the odd male out.
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  Speaker 4: That's true.
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  Speaker 3: He is who said it, but he well, we'll get
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  Speaker 3: to it later. But he's like the glue too. He
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  Speaker 3: holds everyone on his shoulders. And that's what I was
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  Speaker 3: witnessing anyway. So He's really important in that in that family.
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  Speaker 4: Some aspects of it, yeah, yes. But speaking of historical
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  Speaker 4: we live in the mining uh office?
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  Speaker 3: What really?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Yes, used to come and pick up.
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  Speaker 3: Is it all haunted?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 4: Not haunted? No way, no way, no god no no
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  Speaker 4: no we we uh uh did like a little I
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  Speaker 4: don't but we did a little peace offering and little
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  Speaker 4: safety there. But I think all good, good good. I
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  Speaker 4: don't want that.
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  Speaker 2: No. So where did you get your love for storytelling
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  Speaker 2: and writing the place?
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  Speaker 4: Well, honestly, it just came natural to me. Actually, I
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  Speaker 4: just like I said in the film, I didn't have
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  Speaker 4: a dream of it, And it was kind of like
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  Speaker 4: like a movie in my head when I was dreaming.
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  Speaker 4: And and then when I woke up, I like, that
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  Speaker 4: is it. I want to put this out on paper
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  Speaker 4: and make it into reality. And and it's also and
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  Speaker 4: also with that, I'll thought, I'll put my my real
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  Speaker 4: life experience. And I created this because I you know,
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  Speaker 4: I loved two shows that I loved. I was every
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  Speaker 4: time called Modern Family, and I also loved Hannah Matana
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  Speaker 4: very much, you know, back in the day. And I
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  Speaker 4: thought and I also loved Lifetime too because we were
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  Speaker 4: watch all the time. But anyway, the process of that,
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  Speaker 4: I'll thought, oh my god, I got the title Iron Family,
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  Speaker 4: and it was great. I did the script and I
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  Speaker 4: commute with my stepfather, me and me and touch stepfather
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  Speaker 4: who of course us who was my script writer, and
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  Speaker 4: I contected him and we made the script happen. And
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  Speaker 4: now who's hit to his stay?
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  Speaker 1: Well, the script Jasmine was called The Double Life, right,
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  Speaker 1: and then when we did the documentary, we came up
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  Speaker 1: with that name Iron Family, right.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we did actually, yes, yeah, so I call it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: the play is called Double Life. Yeah, that's why I
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  Speaker 4: got rationing film, and that's why let's go into my
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  Speaker 4: storytelling with my real life. But in the film, I
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  Speaker 4: did hid some some suggestions and then I came up
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  Speaker 4: with Iron Family for the documentary and along with two
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  Speaker 4: directors that are going took care about and part of
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  Speaker 4: the family with Patrick and Anne Lungs Dress who directed
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  Speaker 4: this film. And I'm really glad that they captured that
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  Speaker 4: of the docum minty itself. So and then my brother
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  Speaker 4: of course is the co producer who also helps me
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  Speaker 4: with that too, and my and our stepfather Greg. When
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  Speaker 4: I meant to that he is that's a good writer.
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  Speaker 4: So all that came together really well.
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  Speaker 2: Oh wow, So there's a lot of parts to putting
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  Speaker 2: this together.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and all the parts like everybody that
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  Speaker 1: ended up becoming part of it, like Pat and Ann
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  Speaker 1: who were the directors. You know, they didn't come up
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  Speaker 1: to Michigan to like direct Gimnery. I had just ran
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  Speaker 1: into Pat one day and I knew that there was
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  Speaker 1: a story that I wanted to record. And I was
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  Speaker 1: living in Savannah at the time, and I knew that
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  Speaker 1: Pat at the very least knew how to use a
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  Speaker 1: camera because he had done some short films and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And I said, you know, what would it take to
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  Speaker 1: get you to come to the Upper Peninsula and just
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  Speaker 1: you know the process of my Jazz, my my sister Jasmine,
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  Speaker 1: putting together this this film, I mean sorry, putting together
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  Speaker 1: this document and putting together this play.
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  Speaker 4: My gosh.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, and you know, we we work something out
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  Speaker 1: and he's like, okay, And so he didn't know what
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  Speaker 1: he was getting with the story. Might be I did,
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  Speaker 1: but I just knew that there was lots of magic there.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, they became everybody who worked on this project,
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  Speaker 1: whether it was like the drone operator, whether it was
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  Speaker 1: you know, the people who were helping us with sound,
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  Speaker 1: you know, they literally all kind of became part of
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  Speaker 1: this iron fan and endeavor.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: We we didn't get a lot of outside help. We
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  Speaker 1: didn't do a kickstarter or anything. We just honestly put
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  Speaker 1: up our our own money, you know, to kind of
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  Speaker 1: make it happen quick. We didn't want to you know,
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  Speaker 1: wait for for for stuff, and and so a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people really donated a lot of their expert to
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  Speaker 1: help making it happen. So it was a truly independent documentary.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's amazing. That's yeah, that's a lot. I can't
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  Speaker 3: even imagine everything that went into it. The money then
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  Speaker 3: went into at the time, and then they did a
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  Speaker 3: great job with the storylines and following yea, each person,
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  Speaker 3: you know, and sometimes I have questions when I was
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  Speaker 3: watching it, but then they answered them in the end
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  Speaker 3: by oh, okay, this person is that and this is that.
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  Speaker 3: So you all did such a great job on.
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  Speaker 4: It, Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, editing was was was a task for sure,
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  Speaker 1: and it went through lots of different forms, you know,
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  Speaker 1: trying to find that that story. I mean, I think
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  Speaker 1: it really ended up being not only about family, but
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  Speaker 1: about you know, heartbreak and then like resilience and you
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  Speaker 1: know with relationships. Yeah, what do you think, Jazzy, I think.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it is about love, how resilient. But also it's
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  Speaker 4: more like resentments too as well. I noticed that because
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  Speaker 4: in the documentary I did have some I don't want
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  Speaker 4: to name names, but some people have some resentments in
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  Speaker 4: that film. So I think for me, for starters, it
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  Speaker 4: has from the resentments of you know, of our past,
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  Speaker 4: you know, not overcome the good, but the goodness comes
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  Speaker 4: in it and makes it like like like like iron
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  Speaker 4: is good for the soul, yes, and ad minute it
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  Speaker 4: like like like there's a big blady bun's kind of
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  Speaker 4: family we have. We do, I have a whole batty
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  Speaker 4: but family that we have. But it came it came
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  Speaker 4: to me as most part of my life too, so
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  Speaker 4: it was very perfect to call it the double life
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  Speaker 4: and Iron family as well.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we didn't know, you know, obviously from the documentary
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  Speaker 1: as as going through you know, her own kind of
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  Speaker 1: emotional stuff, you know, and revolving around you know, somebody
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  Speaker 1: that she's interested in, and and and so on and
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  Speaker 1: and and we didn't really know that that was going
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  Speaker 1: to be part of the story at all, but it
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  Speaker 1: just seemed to work because it kind of reflected, you know,
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  Speaker 1: maybe some of the challenges that were happening in her
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  Speaker 1: actual play that she would write about started in her
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  Speaker 1: life as well.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think it was I think it was
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  Speaker 3: a good idea to put it in there because it
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  Speaker 3: did it showed the reality of what she was dealing with,
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  Speaker 3: the emotion she was dealing with, and how like you said,
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  Speaker 3: it kind of intertwined into her into the play.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think.
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  Speaker 3: It was good they put it in. I enjoyed it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. And one of the things that really like
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  Speaker 1: sealed the deal was like that perfect metaphor that we
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  Speaker 1: had that we couldn't be better when we had a
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  Speaker 1: heart on the back of the float that we had created.
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  Speaker 1: And then my mom sort of got frustrated with me
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  Speaker 1: because I had like laughed, and then she drove away
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  Speaker 1: with the float and then the heart broken half. And
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  Speaker 1: then and then my aunt, my aunt just happened to
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  Speaker 1: see half of this heart and she's like, that's the heart,
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  Speaker 1: you know, that I made, And so she picked up
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  Speaker 1: this broken piece of heart and then she called my
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  Speaker 1: mom's and she's like, did you lose half of that heart?
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like yes, it's like, well I have it
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  Speaker 1: at the house, you know. And I was like that
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  Speaker 1: is amazing, you know, like we we have to use that.
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  Speaker 3: For her to find it and not someone else.
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  Speaker 1: So then we used it as a prop in the play. Right,
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  Speaker 1: So there's that scene where we put the heart back
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  Speaker 1: together and then Dasmind says this line and then we
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  Speaker 1: pulled the string and then the heart breaks.
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  Speaker 4: Had drama.
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  Speaker 3: It was there was a lot of drama in that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I actually said, like in my head,
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  Speaker 4: I was like.
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  Speaker 1: Drama.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, literally, we it was that's what makes a good movie.
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  Speaker 3: It does people watching like.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my god, what's next?
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  Speaker 2: What they do?
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  Speaker 3: That's how we were. We were like this watching it
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  Speaker 3: on the computer. What Spot so like, well we kind
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  Speaker 3: of know. But what inspires the stories that you create?
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  Speaker 3: It's always something that's happened to you or is it
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  Speaker 3: sometimes just total fantasy or well it's not.
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  Speaker 4: Really total fantasy, but I do love uh well, I
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  Speaker 4: always dreamed to go to Hollywood and have, you know,
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  Speaker 4: be friends with these celebrities and bonds and and everything,
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  Speaker 4: because because I understand what they're going through. Too, because
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  Speaker 4: you know they always because you know, they always have
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  Speaker 4: like you know, a bad acne, and you know, I
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  Speaker 4: have little teaks of you know, stuff you know about them.
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  Speaker 4: And I was like, I was like, really, I didn't
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  Speaker 4: by celebrities have that, you know, because they always have,
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  Speaker 4: you know, by you know, by faith and and actink.
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  Speaker 4: But besides that, I could relate to that. And then
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  Speaker 4: with that, I did put that a little bit in
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  Speaker 4: my story of a double life. And and also mixing
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  Speaker 4: with my experience, you know, because I always you know,
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  Speaker 4: it seemed normal. I you know, love that, you know,
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  Speaker 4: the entertainment world. I you know, I always have like
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  Speaker 4: I always want to you know, I have like a
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  Speaker 4: lot of crushes on celebrity male uh, people that I
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  Speaker 4: that I had grown up with watching TV with and
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  Speaker 4: inspired that. I guess that part of that that was
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  Speaker 4: a fantasy because you know I had that connection to that.
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  Speaker 4: But with reality, you know, sometimes you know, it's to
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  Speaker 4: have fun with it, you know. And and and as
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  Speaker 4: I did for this my play called the Double Life,
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  Speaker 4: so I put my you know, I always got to parties,
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  Speaker 4: have fun, you know, my friends and my family. But
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  Speaker 4: it was more than that. So it kind of made
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  Speaker 4: me crave the leaf that I sort of had started
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  Speaker 4: to begin with.
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  Speaker 1: Did you say that you can relate to celebrities because
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: they have to deal with the same things we have
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: to deal with, like acne and like is that what
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: you said?
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: Yes? Could they do? Could they have?
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: They do have back qualities and sometimes they you know,
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: they're not perfect. They they can relate, you know, you
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: know they have like like bombs and pimples and everything
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: like that. Yeah, but they do it because they have
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: like you know, we're all one and the same.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: They just hide it there.
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: They use a lot of yes, yes, and sometimes they
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: but it's because they yes, they instead of doing all
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: that that they kind of have comfort of plastic surgery,
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: which I don't recommend. Not my part, but.
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: Stay beautiful.
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but if I do, if I do have some surgery,
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: it's gonna be on my arm. But that's it. Nothing else.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: Stay true, stay true to yourself. You're a beautiful girl,
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: and you don't want to mess what God made.
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: No except for this fact, right listen.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: We're women. I get it. I get it.
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's that's pretty bad.
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: Ye, Like my mom has it too, So.
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: It's it's part of being a woman. We get the
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: fat and the wrongs.
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: Right, yes, but we can help you know, I control it.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, that's true.
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: Yes, yeah.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: So what do you want the world to better understand
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: about people with Down syndrome? Because I know Down Syndrome
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: Awareness Day is actually this week. I believe it's Friday, Saturday, Saturday. Yeah,
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: so what do you want people to understand about Down syndrome?
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: I think Chad.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: Want to answer that one.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: That's all you okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. Well for me,
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: for me, yeah, I'm sorry, I'm kind of getting little
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: more all about that. But well, Down syndrome people have.
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: There's two sets of Dune syndrome. One is a mentally
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: challenge downe syndrome that they can't take care of themselves.
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: They have somebody to take care of them and and
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: and everything like that, and they can't be what the college,
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: yeah independently, yes, and they can't go to certain a
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: crowd and something like that. But but for me, I
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: I I don't want to have two for soonal treatment
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: on this, but I for me as done syndrome, I
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: kind of have more advanced yeah you know my traits yeah, yeah,
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: abilities yeah, abilities that I can be independent. I can't
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: do this, and I do. I'll go to the grocery store,
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: I go to concerts, movie theaters, be very social, be
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: more active and in my community and and other cities
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: and and everything. And but also the part of it
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: is that that certain people can have babies, but but
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: it's kind of hard for them. But I can't. But
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: it's kind of hard and it's kind a little a
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: little sour subject, but I know I can't. It's hard
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: for me to have a child because we have two
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: heartbeats as one and you can't take it as much.
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: So but that kind of makes me sad on you know,
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: on that respectrum on that and and everything. But I
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: do have babies around me all the time when I
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: was growing up and on my family and half my
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: cousins have babies and I lived as through that. And
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: also of course I have two guy daughters that I
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: love so much and also only own too, so.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: Well, they don't probably well let me let me can
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: I fill in that blank, Jazzy, because that's kind of
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: an interesting thing that happened. Because there's a part in
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: the documentary when I'm also lamenting the fact that I've
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: been aging seven in the documentary I'm a little old.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Well I'm still forty seven five years later. It's amazing
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: how that happens. Yeah, and so I'm lamenting the fact that, like,
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: you know, my relationship didn't work out and I'm probably
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: not going to have kids and I'd really like to
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: have a little daughter and stuff like that. And the
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: summer shot that I met this wonderful woman, Maria Lena
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: and like, I'm a dad, I have a little boy,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: and yeah, so I had a little boy. He's three
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: and a half now. And you know, it's sort of
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: worked out wonderfully for Jasmine too, because then then Pat
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: who was the director, a month later after Leone was born,
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: they had a daughter, and now they have another daughter,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: and so Jasmine is surrounded, you know by babies these
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: past five years, which has been really I think special
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: for all of us, you know, So she's been able
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: to embrace kind of that kind of mothering instinct I've been,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: you know, being a dad and stuff, and so so
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: that was pretty special, right, and I feel like that
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: might not have happened had the documentary not have happened,
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: you know, so it kind of facilitated all that stuff.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: So that was pretty neat.
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because when I was watching it and I heard
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: you saying those things like I'm a mom, I have
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: two kids, and it's amazing as you know how but
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: I was like, I I wish for you. I was like,
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: I hope he gets that. I hope he gets that,
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: because it's the biggest blessing ever.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I wanted a girl for the longest time,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: and now I can't imagine having anything other than a boy.
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: Right. Yeah, Well I have kids, but I'm like you, Jasmine,
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: I like to spoil them and then give them back
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: to the parents.
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: Yea, yeah, yeah, but honestly the way that I you know,
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: because like he said, you know, I have that motherly
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: and I think I got that by my mom on
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: that part, because you know, I know it's my mom,
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: But mostly she helped me realize the understanding of a child.
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: You know, the child's precious and you have to take
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: care of it. Twenty four seven. Watch it and and
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: you know, be there, be there for that, for that
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: little bundle of joy and everything. And I totally and
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: I have that instinct really well. And and and also
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: took me back to my fantasy as well and not
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: as well, because in my fantasy, I pretend like these
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: celebrities on my on my kids kind of like Kady
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: Cassidy Cyrus. You know, I bet those are my kids,
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: but but I know in reality they're not. But I
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: when I have that, so I can you know, practice
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: and and have somebody In reality, I won't have somebody
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: with kids, so I can be like a step mother
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: to those, uh, to a kid that they well either
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: way in the way, so an anti whatever or a
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: step mother.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: In the background.
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, so I got that.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: No, No, I don't care. Yeah, this is about family,
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: and family is in the documentary, and family's there. That's
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: what you guys are about.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: So do you know how many times my mom inter Yeah,
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: I'll be doing an interview with someone and shoulders but
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: in in the middle of it and I'm like, seriously.
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's how I feel right now too.
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: But you know she loves you, that's why, and she's.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know I think I have from her. Actually yeah.
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah. You learn mothering from your mother, and it's either
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: you learn things you want to be exactly like, or
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: you want to you know, like, my mom was really strict,
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: so I'm like, I'm gonna be a little less strict
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: with my kids, so you pick and choose the best
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: parts of them, right, Yeah.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: Well, I think because my mom's not that's strict because
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: I know that. See it's very flexible and loving and
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: you know, and and and very agreeable and and stuff
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: like that. And I I know, you know, I'm you know,
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: you know, the baby and everything. And I get some
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: some of my half. I don't want to succot it,
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: but I do have some. I'm come a little a
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: nubble baby. Sometimes I get away with things, but not
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: all the time. But but you know, but she says
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: to me like we are a package. Steal me and her.
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: You know, that's our band, yes, and and and everything.
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: But but but but with my brother, it's totally different
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: because he's the boy. You know, he was the first
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: one and everything, and he was I'm not I'm but
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: we don't play favorites anything. But but when it comes
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: to that line, you know, he was getting all the attention,
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: all the all these praise and stuff until he kind
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: of like say, I'm rebellion at that time. I mean
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: he was a teenager.
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: But then you call him out.
• 30:08
  Speaker 4: Also, that's on that a little part, but it came
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: some good came out of it with me and everything.
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: And I think that that's what I said about a
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: legitism kind of thing.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, mom, mom's been a mother like with you know,
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: with with with the child in the house since she
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: was eighteen years old and now she's seventy two. It's
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: a long time to you know, be mothering so directly, you.
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: Know, I know, I know that's yeah.
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: Well my mom was pretty full when she had me.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I was almost out of the house already. Yeah,
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: I was fifteen when Jasmine was born.
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: He hasn't had a break yet.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, yeah, she does. She just got back from Jamaica. Yea,
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: so she gets their breaks.
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and I get my bags too. Yeah yeah yeah
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: sometimes up in Illinois that's my other hometown and Savannah,
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: but I always prefer Puuria because you know, that's my hometown.
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: That's why I know everybody that my cousins are there.
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: They have kids who are my cousins and they have
• 31:33
  Speaker 4: babies too, so you know, I can relate to that.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, the next question I'm gonna ask is, Chad,
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: how would you describe Jasmine as a person who's never
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: met her.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: Oh boy, well, guys are really no, No, it's all good.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: She has an amazing imagination, right, And I kind of
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: like the way that she like, you know, like if
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: you don't know Jasmine and you sit down with her
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: it's on stories, it'll just blow you away, you know,
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: because it'll be like, Okay, well, I know she lives
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: in Iron River. Did she really have a relationship with
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: Matthew McConaughey, did she? You know? So Jasmine said something
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: one time that really helped me kind of understand her,
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: and then I tell this to other people, and I
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: think it helps him understand her. And she was kind
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: of talking about some stuff and it was somewhat fantasy,
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: somewhat reality, and I was like, well, Jasmine, you understand
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: that that's not real. Right. I think maybe it was
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: like sometimes she'll tell people about her dads who are
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: Elvis and Michael, and so I said, you know, Jasmine,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: you realize that that's not real. And she said, well,
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: she said it is in my world. And so that
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I can get that. I understand that,
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: you know, like in her world. And that's what's so
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: wonderful is like there's something she navigates the world. That's
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: really you know, exciting to me. And I'm a poet
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: and a writer and stuff, and so you know, to me,
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: that just seems like, well, that's a great outlook on life.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: And so you know, yeah, I would say Jasmine's dreamer.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: She's imaginative, she's very empathetic, you know, pretty uh yeah,
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: she can be pretty stubborn, right.
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, but I kind of I don't want to say,
• 33:47
  Speaker 4: I know I'm stubborn, but also I may a more
• 33:51
  Speaker 4: passionate and and and capassionate because I took on my
• 33:57
  Speaker 4: mom's sensitivity. Well, because because you know, because you know,
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: like you said, you know, I'm a woman, and I
• 34:06
  Speaker 4: do have my own feelings and my uh the way
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: that I can navigate the world, that's how I feel,
• 34:13
  Speaker 4: and didn't sometimes sometimes I doesn't get that sometimes, but
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: I have to remind him he needs to step back,
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: let me do what I have to do, and then
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: I connect to his level.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: Sure. Do you remember there's a point in the documentary
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: we were doing a podcast and somebody asked you kind
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: of a similar question about you know, how would you
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: describe me and what word you used?
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: Oh?
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, castrophic, oh, that was one. That was the way
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: that I tried to control the situation was catastrophic. But
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: you also set up yeah ball buster.
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah that's yeah, that's the other one. But that was
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: in the catastrophic ball buster. Yes that is really true
• 34:57
  Speaker 4: because that that's how he is in real life. Yes,
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: he needs to he needs to step down a little
• 35:04
  Speaker 4: bit from that.
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: But listen, he is an amazing, amazing brother. And watching
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: that documentary, we saw truly how much the weight of
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: the family is on his back and how much he
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: loved you, how much he loved your mom and took
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: care of you, so he could you know, you got
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: to take the ball busting, right, That's it's a.
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: Really but not really as much. No, But yes, I
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: don't know that was was the love is and I thing.
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: I totally get that, I do. But he's not my parent.
• 35:38
  Speaker 4: He's my brother.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: Yes, I know, I'm an older sibling, so I get
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: I get it. I'm right along with Chad and like
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: my siblings, tell me you're too much of a mom,
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: stop leave us alone.
• 35:50
  Speaker 4: But what that kind of He's another thing for you
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: here is that sometimes when he's not around, I like
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: the older, the older simple thing I really like I'm
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: the oldest. I am mother, highest power and myself. So
• 36:10
  Speaker 4: it's kind of very cool to pretend that I am
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: the oldest because I am kind of like the oldest
• 36:17
  Speaker 4: in some ways. I am some some of the oldest
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: a half of my cousins. Yeah, and that's like, yay,
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: probably I got up. I mean, the same category of
• 36:27
  Speaker 4: the oldest. So it's perfect for me to do.
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: It's a hard thing to deal with, I get it.
• 36:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah. I always told my mom this that if my
• 36:39
  Speaker 4: brother wasn't I always tell my mom this, I was
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: my highest sister instead of brother. My God, I no more,
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: but you know, but that's how I felt. But I did. God,
• 36:50
  Speaker 4: I did have a brother, yes and everything. And if
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: I didn't have a brother, he'd be kind of a
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: little brother, you know. I feel like, do this do
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: that for me, you know, not to give image of him, but.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: Like you have a big sister and a little brother.
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: H yeah, that's why you like you know. My So
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: another thing that's happened since Iron Family came out, which
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: is just covered that I have a sister who is
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: ten days older than me.
• 37:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and I love her.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: So my dad was really busy that particulate back and yeah, yeah, Jack,
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: it was you know, I was on ancestry and she,
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: you know, mom had passed away, and then her mom
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: had never wanted her to try to figure out who
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: her father was, and so she respected that. And then
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: once her mom passed away, she put her DNA out
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: there and there was a little ping with somebody else,
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: not not me, but somebody else. And then they one
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: thing led to another and they looked at the timeline
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: and they figured out like that uncle Dad, who also
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: didn't know I existed until I found him when I
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: was twenty seven and and so, and he never knew
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: that he had a daughter also because by the time
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: she found us he had he had passed. But but
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: she gets along so you know, and she works with
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: the disability community and like they're amazing together. So it's
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: like Jasmine does have a big sister.
• 38:41
  Speaker 4: Now, yeah, well, could we have the same thing. Could
• 38:49
  Speaker 4: we relate to each other at the same point as well?
• 38:53
  Speaker 4: We know how we always get like you know, our
• 38:56
  Speaker 4: no that's tight here. I don't want to say this,
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: but beak it up as ladies. Yeah, so so we
• 39:03
  Speaker 4: do that, and so so we'll always be very emotional.
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: We place certain things where we are our ladies. But
• 39:12
  Speaker 4: she gets that, you know, even besides the path of
• 39:16
  Speaker 4: even though she is a social worker to to mainting
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: talent people are not one of them and not aspects,
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: you know, she treats me like another person. Yeah, but
• 39:32
  Speaker 4: also doing after the documentary, we I had a father myself.
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: He name was Lannie, and he was black. He is
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: married to this white woman named Stacy. They have two
• 39:49
  Speaker 4: little uh daughters. And I just found out that I
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: have more, two little sisters named weake In and and
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: they live in Milwaukee a couple partly like I had
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: my father, my stepfather, Greg, and we tried to reach
• 40:13
  Speaker 4: out to them a couple of times, like four and
• 40:14
  Speaker 4: five times, and that didn't pan out. I wanted to
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: get to know my real father a couple of times,
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: and I reached out until I was too late, until seventeen,
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: and he had passed and he didn't know that he
• 40:30
  Speaker 4: had another daughter. I had had a daughter with Down syndrome,
• 40:35
  Speaker 4: and that kind of fixed him out. And besides he
• 40:37
  Speaker 4: was very young and and everything because my mom met
• 40:40
  Speaker 4: him and you know, I thirty four and and and
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: they said that I had done syndrome and he kind
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: of faked out and everything and side put the noise.
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: But in a way he did list some gifts on
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: the porch. But I think that's why I have trouble.
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: I h since I don't know this, but since I
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: was like little, I always had trouble with men in
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: my life and having relationship in everything that I had,
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: and I think that's well because of it all because
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: of him. That's why I haven't been attached to any
• 41:28
  Speaker 4: other men in my life. The only I picked a
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: figure in my life was my stepdad Dale, who had
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: recently had passed, and then I had Grade as well,
• 41:39
  Speaker 4: and they were two great stepdads that I known for years,
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: but well, great still around.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: He's still there and he's in the documentary.
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah I know that. Yeah, But like in my way
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: with my stepdad Dale, he was always there for me.
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: He as he did great things for me and loved
• 41:59
  Speaker 4: my for me everything, and I'm so glad to have that.
• 42:03
  Speaker 4: And then then I asked, after a couple of years,
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: I called Greg and I said, I want I know,
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: and I told him this straightforward. I said, will you
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: please be my dad? My dad? And he was so
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: honored about that he was so happy that I finally
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: that I finally heat this kind of I don't know
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: what he did, but he accepted it, and so he
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: took a major part of the wall of being my
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: dad and he helped me along with that. And then
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: I think that's connected between me and Chainy because of
• 42:46
  Speaker 4: Greg and and everything. So that helped me a lot.
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: And that did help me a lot with me with
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: my relationships with men. But I had some trust issues
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: with all the men in my life who took him.
• 43:01
  Speaker 4: You know, some people took advantage of me somehow, but
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: but most apparently it helped me grow as a person,
• 43:09
  Speaker 4: and I'm really thankful for that. A Greg taught me
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: as will.
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so it wasn't you know. Greg is the one.
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: Greg deserves a lot of credit because he's the one
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: who contacted me and said, you know, I've been helping
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: Jasmine write these scripts and I think that we should,
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: you know, try performing some of them. And that's what,
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: you know, that's what led to us doing the first
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: you know, double life in the Garage and Greg was
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: the narrator, and he was the narrator for all of them.
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: He was yeah, yeah, yes, yes, yes, Okay.
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I'm about that. When I said all that
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: stuff kind of made me emotional about that part.
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: Don't worry about it.
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: So is there going to be another sequel to Iron Family?
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: Are you working on anything else?
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: Yes? Actually I am. I mean process of the name
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: of the sequel. It's called the Best of Both Worlds.
• 44:11
  Speaker 4: You know, there's a title of it. But I don't
• 44:14
  Speaker 4: have fully script yet, so I had to finish the
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: Double Life before that's have to close, and then then
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: it'll go to that little sequel of the Double Life.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: So it'd be this is the first time I'm hearing
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: about this.
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: No, yeah, but but but I am trying to process
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: do another play of it, kind of like kind of
• 44:40
  Speaker 4: like kind of like I do remember the Toilight Zone. Well,
• 44:45
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna do that too, kind of collect that, you know,
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: put the best of both worlds inside of the Double Life,
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: like moving with in a movie.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: Well, we do have plans to, you know, do another
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: performance of the Double Life so she can, like, like
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: I said, said, you know, that's almost going to be
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: wrapped up. Yep, We're going to have another Life, probably
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: this summer, another episode and or season. It'll be season
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: seven or season eight.
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: We still answered seven by continued to go to season eight.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: Okay, gotcha. And that's when you know Jasmine I can't
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: remember left it off in the documentary, but basically, you know,
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: Jasmine is pregnant and and she she has a baby,
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: which is actually we didn't do that. That's the play
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: that we did. We had a showing an Iron River
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: and we showed the Iron Family as a spell the treat.
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: We did a short one act Jasmine has her baby
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: on stage and the baby.
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: That she has, so yeah, yeah, she has.
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: The baby at her baby shower. Yeah, because she.
• 46:05
  Speaker 4: And it was Leon, Yeah yeah, Leon and all of
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: my goddaughter yeah.
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah and so uh and then we realized that
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: it was not Matthews. It's Mark Wahlberg's right, but Matthew boy, yeah,
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: because you had an affair with Mark Wahlberg.
• 46:23
  Speaker 4: I think Mark was in the he was the bless
• 46:27
  Speaker 4: of the Past, he was yeah yeah.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: So so as far as Iron Family goes, basically what
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: we want with the documentary right now is we want
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: people to just see it and you know, be you know,
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: moved by it and stuff like that. Picked world. What
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: I would love to see, are you guys familiar with that.
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: There's a new film out called Song Sung Blue with
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: Kate Hudson and Hugh Jackman, and it's about these two
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: people that are there. He's a Neil Diamond impersonator and
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: they're you know, impersonators and they're from Milwauk and so
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: but anyways, that that film has become real popular and
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: Kate Hudson was nominated for an Oscar. But behind the scenes,
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: that film was based on a documentary called Song Sung Blue,
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: and that documentary won the same award Slam Dance Audience
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: Award as Iron Family in fifteen years Yeah, and fifteen
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: years later, this director, Craig Brewerton, you know, had seen
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: it and always wanted to turn it into a feature
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: film and later and so you know, I would you know,
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: I think Iron Family would work really well as a
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: as a as a film, you know, with with with
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: actors and stuff, and Jasmine would be the only person
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: to play herself and then everybody else would be the celebrities,
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: which would be pretty funny. Like maybe you could actually
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: get Matthew McConaughey to play sad Fairies, right, which would
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: be why of yeah, play you know, a real Matthew
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: the play. So and my mom would be Meryl Streep, yeah, yes, yes,
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: would be like Kate Hudson. Yeah, she'd have to make
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: her hair dark so yeah.
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think my will mom could be like
• 48:32
  Speaker 4: my Motherla Monica.
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so yeah, wet least I could see that happening.
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: And that's great if you could find and have new
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: The more people see it, the more it spreads out there.
• 48:44
  Speaker 3: You know, you never know, you never.
• 48:46
  Speaker 4: Reach out to you never, yeah, you know in the
• 48:50
  Speaker 4: film actually, but in the film in I'm Family, I
• 48:54
  Speaker 4: said that my cousin Faith Allen said, who went to
• 48:57
  Speaker 4: play you in the movie? And I said, Kimble because
• 49:01
  Speaker 4: I'm a big screen fan, horror fan buff and nept
• 49:05
  Speaker 4: Campbe will be perfect to playing me.
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
• 49:08
  Speaker 4: You know, because you're not kind of resemble with her
• 49:10
  Speaker 4: a little bit with with my hair, and.
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: You wouldn't want to be you wouldn't want to be
• 49:14
  Speaker 3: in your own movie.
• 49:15
  Speaker 4: Or no, I do, but you know if you have, yeah,
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: like on a TV. So I'll play myself. But I
• 49:22
  Speaker 4: went in the movie neph Campbell, Yeah, I don't. I
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: have to have to get her represented and and see
• 49:30
  Speaker 4: how she you know, really have to be up here
• 49:33
  Speaker 4: to immolate me somehow.
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: The goal that you can reach you know, you've already
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: gotten this far, so you just can Yeah.
• 49:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but we did read another celebrities that we have
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: reached out too. We did, h we did. We're trying
• 49:50
  Speaker 4: to reach out to Matthew and and not. It's going
• 49:54
  Speaker 4: pretty well, but now we are. Now it's time to
• 49:58
  Speaker 4: uh trying to reach out to John to Volta because
• 50:02
  Speaker 4: you know he's put the put Up Design family because
• 50:06
  Speaker 4: my director Pat, my friend Pat who is a director
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: who played John to Walter, So it'd be a kind
• 50:13
  Speaker 4: of good idea to it's out to him as well,
• 50:17
  Speaker 4: and it'd be kind of cool to do that. And
• 50:20
  Speaker 4: you know other certain celebrities that I want to have
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: I can reach out to, So be kind of fun
• 50:26
  Speaker 4: to do that, but it'd be kind of hard, but
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: we have to do it.
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: Working on it. Yeah they might, Yeah, well they might.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Tricia Arquette was really into the film. Pat had worked
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: with her and she said some really great things about
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: the film, and she you know, put a challenge out
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: there to Matthew McConaughey saying, Matthew, you got to watch
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: this film. You know, this is like a love letter
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: to you and uh, I bet you know we're We're
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: still waiting on a comment from from Matthew at some point, so.
• 50:58
  Speaker 4: Maybe we'll see Yeah, maybe too just technology, Yeah.
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: That would be amazing.
• 51:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, because I think she could probably be in
• 51:08
  Speaker 4: the Silm too, You never know, because I.
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: Love it, yeah knowing, Yeah, he seems.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: I think she do a better. She she do better
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: as mom than Meryl Streep, I think.
• 51:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, where can.
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: Our listeners check out Iron Family if they wanted to
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: watch it?
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's now available on all major streaming platforms,
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: so Amazon, Apple, TV Plus, YouTube and Google Plus, so
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: it can be rented or purchased on any of those platforms.
• 51:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm famous film dot com and uh and like
• 51:51
  Speaker 4: you said, you know there's links on my podcast Clued
• 51:55
  Speaker 4: some famite has incorporated. We did fourteenth seasons of that
• 52:00
  Speaker 4: that's also right now. And we did a little bit
• 52:03
  Speaker 4: of episodes that I got together with certain local celebrities
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: in Savannah, Georgia, which I challenged them to a pop
• 52:12
  Speaker 4: culture game. So so that's all and not too as well.
• 52:16
  Speaker 4: So and there's more to come on those webisodes as well.
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: Just everything you need to know about Iron Family follow
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: us at www dot ironfamilyfilm dot com.
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: Thank you guys so much. It's been amazing talking to
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: you both.
• 52:30
  Speaker 4: Yes, and I am so excited to talk to you
• 52:35
  Speaker 4: in person and everything. I listened to your podcast and
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: it's very fun, very cool. I love you guys. Voices
• 52:43
  Speaker 4: is so fun. I love it.
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: Thank you hopefully one day, Jasmine.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I think I'm gonna fall asleep to you
• 52:51
  Speaker 4: when I take Thank you guys, Thank you, thank you bye.
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: So over the weekend, you had this big, huge party
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: that you were invited to in New York City.
• 53:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Mikenoli, Yes, and I know how stressed you were
• 53:10
  Speaker 3: about it. Yeah. I mean I don't enjoy driving to
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: the city, you know, but my husband he took me,
• 53:21
  Speaker 3: and I was stressed out because in the city, it's
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: not Lake where you have a parking lot or somewhere
• 53:25
  Speaker 3: you can quickly unload your stuff without stressing out. You know,
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: you have to park in busy streets, you're getting honked at,
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: you can get a ticket if you leave your car.
• 53:33
  Speaker 3: So I had a lot of stressors with it, but
• 53:37
  Speaker 3: it turned out great. So it was this an influencer
• 53:41
  Speaker 3: was throwing a party and it was for Their theme
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: was the Jersey Shore, which that was amazing. I know,
• 53:47
  Speaker 3: I know, but I'm like, this is gonna be hilarious.
• 53:51
  Speaker 3: So they had a Jersey Shore with theme party. I
• 53:53
  Speaker 3: think they were all way younger than me, these influencers
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: and all the people that were there. I really think
• 53:59
  Speaker 3: they were all younger than me. I'm forty, so I'm
• 54:01
  Speaker 3: thinking they were like late twenty maybe early thirty. So
• 54:05
  Speaker 3: I probably know about Jersey Shore is just iconic. You know,
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: a lot of people. I mean, there's probably older people there,
• 54:13
  Speaker 3: but I don't know. I'll have to ask them how
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: old they are. I'm just assuming they were younger. And
• 54:17
  Speaker 3: they were crazy. It was like they wanted canoli everywhere.
• 54:21
  Speaker 3: You know, they were having me scored it in their mouth.
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: They were having me Oh, it was It was crazy.
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: Is it the craziest party I've ever want to know?
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: But it was crazy. For my business, it was the
• 54:31
  Speaker 3: craziest party I've ever catered. Right, So the funny part
• 54:34
  Speaker 3: of the story is I'm you know, they're they're kind
• 54:37
  Speaker 3: of dancing. Not everyone's dancing, but they're dancing and they're partying.
• 54:41
  Speaker 3: And after the event's over the next day, I'm talking
• 54:43
  Speaker 3: to them, and the girl goes, I'm sorry, if we
• 54:46
  Speaker 3: scared you, you know, you being at a party kind
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: of like that. We were probably we probably scared you.
• 54:51
  Speaker 3: And I was just laughing. I'm like, how do I
• 54:53
  Speaker 3: write back to this, like, honey, I am a millennial.
• 54:58
  Speaker 3: I was in probably the big club age. The years
• 55:02
  Speaker 3: of the club were when I was a teenager that
• 55:05
  Speaker 3: there's no partying that was crazier. We partied in fields
• 55:10
  Speaker 3: before the clubs, or if we didn't go to the clubs,
• 55:11
  Speaker 3: were in fields, pitch, black fields, in mud with kegs, bonfires,
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: just dying in a cornfield, you know. Our parents didn't
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: know where we were, and we had that. And then
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: once we would go out. We were going to the
• 55:28
  Speaker 3: club's Thursday, Friday, Saturday every week and we would be
• 55:31
  Speaker 3: out from ten pm to three in the morning, and
• 55:34
  Speaker 3: then going to the diner till five six in the
• 55:36
  Speaker 3: morning and then going to work. That was my life.
• 55:40
  Speaker 3: I saw some crazy, crazy crap. So I wanted to
• 55:43
  Speaker 3: say all this to her when she was like, sorry
• 55:45
  Speaker 3: that if we scared you, you know, we were kind of crazy.
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: I didn't get into it, though, but I was laughing
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: to myself. I said to my husband, like they if
• 55:52
  Speaker 3: they only knew what crazy was, if they only knew
• 55:55
  Speaker 3: what a wild party was, what I've been through in
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: my younger years. Younger generation, they're a little softer than
• 56:02
  Speaker 3: we were. You know, they like their breweries and they like,
• 56:06
  Speaker 3: they're not big into dancing. They like their comfort, so
• 56:11
  Speaker 3: they have no idea what I've been through.
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: So I just got the heels in like plain winters, yes.
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: Yes, stilettos, platform shoes, dresses, dresses. We didn't wear jackets
• 56:22
  Speaker 3: in the winter. Were like, I don't want to have
• 56:24
  Speaker 3: a jacket in the club. There's nowhere to put it,
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: So let's freeze our butts off and walk in these
• 56:28
  Speaker 3: heels in icy conditions to go party all night. And
• 56:31
  Speaker 3: then that was the other joke. They said, like the
• 56:33
  Speaker 3: newer generation they don't wear heels out. They were sneakers.
• 56:36
  Speaker 3: They were like, yeah, they were sneakers and little kitten
• 56:39
  Speaker 3: heels and you know for the females. So we got
• 56:42
  Speaker 3: dressed up to the nine to go out dancing. Like
• 56:46
  Speaker 3: so it's just a different generation now, and it was
• 56:48
  Speaker 3: just funny, like obviously, well I said back to her,
• 56:51
  Speaker 3: was like I said, I was fine, listen, I'm forty
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: I lived the club era, which was crazy, Like that's
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: all I wrote, and she, you know, she didn't really
• 56:59
  Speaker 3: say much back, but she probably was like, what is that?
• 57:02
  Speaker 3: They don't know? They don't know clubbing and party until
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: you went back into the i'd say the late nineties,
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: which I was too young for that, but I know
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: my cousins were the parties that were crazy, and the
• 57:12
  Speaker 3: clubs were crazy. I was the early two thousands, and
• 57:15
  Speaker 3: the partying, like especially the field parties, and I'm like,
• 57:18
  Speaker 3: thinking back, I'm like, how dangerous was that we were
• 57:22
  Speaker 3: sitting sitting in these muddy fields making these huge bonfires
• 57:28
  Speaker 3: with freaking lighter fluid you could explode. I don't know,
• 57:32
  Speaker 3: it was insane. So thought I thought it was a
• 57:34
  Speaker 3: funny story to share, just the difference in generations and
• 57:37
  Speaker 3: what they perceive is crazy and what's not. And so
• 57:41
  Speaker 3: I think are my.
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: Year that I graduated was kind of like the last
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: Well no, maybe not, because my cousin used to party
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: in fields.
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they're saying about I'd say about twenty fifteen, things stopped,
• 57:58
  Speaker 3: like it really down, especially with the club fifteen. That's
• 58:02
  Speaker 3: when I saw a slow down in the club. I
• 58:04
  Speaker 3: don't know about the field parties, but with the Clobe,
• 58:06
  Speaker 3: because I was in that industry, I started to see
• 58:10
  Speaker 3: the breweries started popping up about twenty sixteen, and then
• 58:14
  Speaker 3: the clubs started to close down, like one by one,
• 58:16
  Speaker 3: the clubs were closing down in our area. So and
• 58:20
  Speaker 3: even in New York City when I was there, there
• 58:22
  Speaker 3: was a club downstairs. After I came from that party
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: to leave, there was a club downstairs. No one was dancing.
• 58:28
  Speaker 3: I'm like what. The people are just standing around. Some
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: were kind of moving their body. But if I'm I
• 58:37
  Speaker 3: was flabbergasted. I'm like, you, no one's dancing. What the hell?
• 58:41
  Speaker 3: Like we used to be on the floor were I
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: was dancing on speakers. I was dancing on a bar.
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say, you were like on the
• 58:48
  Speaker 2: bar top I was.
• 58:49
  Speaker 3: It was crazy back then. We were spraying foam and paint.
• 58:53
  Speaker 3: You know, we had paint parties and foam parties and
• 58:56
  Speaker 3: it was wild. And then you just see these people
• 58:58
  Speaker 3: just kind of standing groups talking that there's amazing music playing,
• 59:03
  Speaker 3: like they had reggaetone playing and people are just kind
• 59:05
  Speaker 3: of like shaking their shoulders, talking and drinking. I'm like
• 59:08
  Speaker 3: this is boring. This is absolutely boring. This generation does
• 59:11
  Speaker 3: not know how to party.
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: Oh boy. I wasn't a big partier, you know. I
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: wasn't really allowed out, but I was. I went out
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: with some certain friends, and yeah, it was a little hectic.
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: It was yeah, empty bottle.
• 59:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh my god, empty botte that that was my home.
• 59:34
  Speaker 3: That was my home Thursday, Friday and Saturday and Torches.
• 59:39
  Speaker 3: I didn't go to Torches too much because that was
• 59:40
  Speaker 3: kind of far. I went a couple times, but that
• 59:43
  Speaker 3: was a far drive because I'm like, oh, you know,
• 59:45
  Speaker 3: I mean I didn't drink, so it was okay. Yeah,
• 59:48
  Speaker 3: but I was saying a lot of people didn't go
• 59:50
  Speaker 3: out that way because they drink and they didn't want
• 59:52
  Speaker 3: to have to drive home or get a taxi. So
• 59:56
  Speaker 3: but for me, even though I didn't drink, I was like,
• 59:57
  Speaker 3: that's far. I'm going to be exhausted driving home at three,
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 3: four or five in the morning, you know. But yeah,
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 3: it's these kids. They don't know. We went to work.
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 3: Like I remember sitting at that diner after the club
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 3: till five six in the morning, going home, showering and
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 3: not even sleeping sometimes and then going in to work
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 3: for my nine o'clock shift or my eight thirty shift,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 3: and we did that every week, every week. It's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if you saw the post in one
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  Speaker 2: of the mom's groups that we are in. This mother,
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  Speaker 2: she's asking for advice. Her eleven year old daughter is
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  Speaker 2: beating her up because her mom usually makes her bed
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  Speaker 2: in the morning, and the mom didn't have time to
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  Speaker 2: make the bed. So when the daughter came home from school,
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  Speaker 2: she saw her bed was not made and started to
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  Speaker 2: attack her and beat her up and scream at her,
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  Speaker 2: curse at her, and she said, She's like, ladies, what
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  Speaker 2: do I do? What do you do? Let me tell
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  Speaker 2: you something, lady. If that was me, and I will
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  Speaker 2: say that I had some anger issues when I was younger,
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  Speaker 2: but I think I pushed my mom once into the
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  Speaker 2: kitchen sink, and I will never I learned my lesson.
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  Speaker 2: Let's just put it that way. Me and my mom,
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  Speaker 2: we fight, we argue, y'ell. But to put your hands
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  Speaker 2: on your mother, oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: Oh no, it doesn't No, that wouldn't fly. No. And
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  Speaker 3: I'm we're not talking about abusing your kids. But it's funny.
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  Speaker 3: I had a conversation with this girl the other day
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  Speaker 3: who's into gentle parenting. I'm gonna just say this, her
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  Speaker 3: kids are really bad. And I've noticed that with a
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  Speaker 3: lot of not all, but a lot of parents have
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  Speaker 3: gentle parent their kids have huge behavioral issues, huge.
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  Speaker 2: Because they're not disciplined.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm like, how don't you see it's not working. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: your kid's gonna be afraid of you, but there has
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  Speaker 3: to be a balance there that your kids. Everyone dreads
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  Speaker 3: being around your kids because they don't know how to behave.
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  Speaker 3: And she was saying how that in her when she
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  Speaker 3: was a child, her family was kind of abusive. That's
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  Speaker 3: why she doesn't hit her kids, because she believes hitting
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  Speaker 3: your kids teaches them to hit and then proceeded in
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  Speaker 3: the end of the conversation to tell me that she's
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  Speaker 3: having trouble with her kids, that they hit each other
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  Speaker 3: really bad, and they hit her all the time, slap
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  Speaker 3: her across the face, hit her, and that she has
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  Speaker 3: to remove herselfs because she's getting like it's bringing back
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  Speaker 3: feelings from when she was younger and she wants to
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  Speaker 3: flip on them. And I'm like, I didn't say anything,
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  Speaker 3: because you know.
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  Speaker 2: You didn't say anything.
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  Speaker 3: She's parents, they don't understand. It's only going to cause
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  Speaker 3: a fight. But I kind of wanted to say it's
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  Speaker 3: not working. You're not hitting them because you don't want
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  Speaker 3: them to learn that that's okay. But yet your kids
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  Speaker 3: are hitting you because they don't respect you. They don't
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  Speaker 3: respect you, they don't respect any rules. They're just why
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  Speaker 3: are they beating If you haven't hit them and they're hitting,
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  Speaker 3: that means that, you know what I'm trying to say,
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  Speaker 3: like they try and correlate. Well, then you Someone told
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  Speaker 3: me that I don't hit my kids, but there was
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  Speaker 3: a couple of times when my son was younger that
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  Speaker 3: I had to smack his hand or his butt, like
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  Speaker 3: with you know, a diaipra or clothes on. He was
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  Speaker 3: a toddler. He was doing something dangerous and he wasn't listening,
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  Speaker 3: so that it was a spank on the butt, you know,
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  Speaker 3: And I was told, don't do that. You're going to
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  Speaker 3: teach him to hit. You're teaching him that when you're
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  Speaker 3: angry is to hit. My child has never hit me,
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  Speaker 3: never hit me. My daughter I've never I think maybe
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  Speaker 3: one time on her butt. She has never hit me.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, I see these parents with gentle parenting. Their
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  Speaker 3: kids hit them all the time, So what is it?
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  Speaker 3: You know, I don't I don't agree with gentle parenting.
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  Speaker 2: I don't agree with it either, you know I've never
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  Speaker 2: agreed with it. No, you need to be strict. You're
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  Speaker 2: the parent. Your child does not rule the house.
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  Speaker 3: No, it'll rule your No, you have to put boundaries down.
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  Speaker 3: And I agree that we our parents were harder on us,
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  Speaker 3: and we should. We shouldn't be exactly how we were raised.
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  Speaker 3: You know that generation did hit a lot, and they
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 3: were they didn't want to hear how you felt. But
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  Speaker 3: then find a middle ground there. Like with me and
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  Speaker 3: my children, I learned that I should talk to them
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  Speaker 3: when they're upset, when they're frustrated, and not just scream
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  Speaker 3: like our parents did and say, hey, what's wrong, what's
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  Speaker 3: bothering you? Let's figure this out. I do that, but
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  Speaker 3: only to a certain extent. I'm not going to allow
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  Speaker 3: a tantrum goal and pass a certain You know, my
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  Speaker 3: sister gentle parents, and she's like, they have emotions too,
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  Speaker 3: and they're allowed to release. That's fine, they can, but
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  Speaker 3: to a certain point. Okay, enough's enough. Don't you know
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  Speaker 3: you cannot act like this? This is not right. You know,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I you know, me and my sister
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  Speaker 3: go through this all the time because we're total opposites
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  Speaker 3: on discipline. And hopefully she's not listening to this. But
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  Speaker 3: my nephew doesn't have the best behavior. He doesn't have
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  Speaker 3: good behavior, and my kids always have, you know, And
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  Speaker 3: she'll tell she'll tell you that straight up. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: probably doesn't want me saying it on air, but there's
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  Speaker 3: I think there's a correlation between gentle parenting and kids
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  Speaker 3: acting like little nut chops. I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, because gentle parents, oh what's wrong, you know, like.
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  Speaker 3: When they're having a crazy tantrum? Right, because I don't
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  Speaker 3: care to I like to ask my kids what's wrong?
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  Speaker 3: Talk to me what's frustrating you?
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  Speaker 2: But but I mean with this one, I'm saying, like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, because you didn't make the girls bed. She's eleven.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and did you see the comments under it? There
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  Speaker 3: was other parents saying, oh, yeah, my twelve year old
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 3: acs like that too. My my thirteen year old treats
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 3: me like that, my ten year old? What is going on?
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  Speaker 2: The hormones, that's what people were hormones. No, it's they
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 2: have no respect there's no respect. The entitlement is ridiculous.
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 2: And the one lady was like, oh, I blame the
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 2: school because there's no discipline in the school, and everybody
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 2: jumped down her throat, which I was very happy about. No,
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 2: because they're like, you know, you can't blame the school.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 3: Starts at home.
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  Speaker 2: What you're supposed to do at your own house.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that the answer would be give me your phone now,
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  Speaker 3: not making your bed? You know what, maybe now you're
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  Speaker 3: not gonna your bed's gonna be on the floor like
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  Speaker 3: my mom would have put an air mattress in there
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  Speaker 3: and removed my door. You know you don't have the
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 3: Oh that is child abuse. Reoving the door.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, removing the door is like child abuse. Now, because
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: kids need their privacy.
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  Speaker 3: They can that's a privilege. Well, privacy, yes, you should
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 3: all have your privacy. But if you're gonna beat your
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 3: mother be over little things like this and not have respect,
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 3: then you don't have the privilege of having a room
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  Speaker 3: at your door shut. You don't have the privilege of
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  Speaker 3: having a phone. You don't have the privilege of mommy
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  Speaker 3: making your bed every day. You know what, Now you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna make your bed every day? These are the things
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  Speaker 3: they need to do, and if they're hitting, the hitting
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 3: is huge in my but you don't put your hands
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  Speaker 3: on anybody. So everything is going away. Her TV would
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  Speaker 3: be gone, the phone would be gone for a year,
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  Speaker 3: at least a year. No TV, no computer, no so
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  Speaker 3: no going out. That's not okay until she can learn
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  Speaker 3: and then put her in therapy. Obviously I think she
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  Speaker 3: needs therapy. But I'm scared that this wasn't like a
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  Speaker 3: small instance. It seems like a lot of people are
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  Speaker 3: dealing with this and that's kind of scary to me
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  Speaker 3: because this is our future generation, generation that's going to
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 3: be serving us, and generation that's going to be running
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 3: companies and running the world. Like I don't think. I
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 3: don't think gentle parenting is working, and we have to
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  Speaker 3: not go back to the abusive side of parenting. We
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 3: have to find a middle ground where we are strict,
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  Speaker 3: we teach respect, and we are stern with them. We
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  Speaker 3: can't be their friends, we can't.
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